Saving Your Father From the Belly of the Whale

In dark and uncertain times, people are looking for guidance now more than ever, even if we are often limited to screens and the internet. Online father figures have garnered dedicated followers and large audiences, but with great influence comes great responsibility. Ranging from Commentary KZbinrs to Comedians, the father figures and
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[@GlinkBetweenWorlds]

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[@irishcream9004]

What happened?

[@davidgjam7600]

Give terrible parasocial advice, sell merch. Just another day in the life I guess...

[@Day10202]

@@davidgjam7600 Actually, it's less social advice and more social commentary. Glink's level of editing, research, and a genuine concern for objectivity is very high quality. Besides, nobody is forcing you to buy it lol.

[@wetokebitcoins1769]

Can you add a premium T from the tspring site too? I've purchased a lot of shirts from youtubers and the ones I get that are "classic" tend to wash the graphic off literally on the first wash while the premium t shirts from them DO NOT wash off.

[@showoe3126]

my father figure was largely absent from my life for the past 8 years or so and only now I have much time to spend with him. I have looked up to many KZbinrs as father figures to some degree. but now, I don't have to as much.

[@DoomBowser64]

Uncle Iroh is my father figure.

[@drcraby356]

Leaves from the vine...

[@CHURCHISAWESUM]

"Do you really think I could be a good masseur?"

[@192mait]

Leaves from the vine Falling so slow Like fragile tiny shells Drifting in the foam Little soldier boy Come marching home Brave soldier boy Comes marching home

[@huckmart2017]

Honestly though. I look up to him so much..hes the kind of person i want to be when im older.

[@joeye.365]

He is directly responsible for my appreciation jasmine tea 🍵

[@BasilWald]

I think how quickly technology and other factors have changed society so quickly is a big cause of people finding their IRL father figures more lacking. A lot of IRL father figures have no idea about the problems kids are facing (online harassment, student loans etc.) and the world their kids live in general. In the old days (like, before WW2) it was much easier to give advice to your kids because the world you lived in was basically the same. Personally, I think being aware of the world kids live in is part of a parent's responsibility, but I'm aware that's not easy. Then again, being a parent is never easy.

[@___blaggard999___8]

@Gzus Kreist i think you're a pussy based on the lol

[@fukyous]

Very true. I see a lot of people dismiss their kids interests as "the new fad" or some weird internet stuff. It's important to them! How is your kid supposed to look up to you if you can't look up to them by enjoying what they enjoy? And as you say, if you don't even try to understand them by understanding their world, then how are you supposed to help them? They might not even want to confide with you.

[@shidcat9322]

Maybe instead of younger people waiting for their dad to approach them maybe you should instead

[@SirSmithThe1st]

Gzus Kreist takes one to know one

[@alexalford7874]

@Gzus Kreist I think you're just trying to feel better about yourself. Seriously, in what way did your comment help ? Who were they insulting ? No one, so why did you feel the need to insult them ? Is this supposed to toughen them up ? Is it supposed to get them to say "Yeah, you know what, that's dumb, I shouldn't care." as if it's that easy ?

[@holycarp1593]

As a male kindergarten teacher (not in the US), I really appreciate this message! Having a good father figure is important in every stage of life!

[@elusivemayfly7534]

You are doing important work! Thank you!

[@FPSDIESEL]

dude I have been watching your docs for awhile really nice to see these things discussed publicly. I never really had a father, he was a drunkard and now he's making up for lost time but the abuse means I am not willing to just let some man into my life like that. I found a lot of help in the stoics. People who lived in a time without all of the crap we have now but it still resonates. I really have seen a lot of creators willfully not stand for their ideals. It's always been good to see how open you are with yours.

[@saveriannathan1415]

Dang bro, keep fightin' !

[@oliverlimaverde6629]

Seneca sticks, man

[@Gabu115]

That’s the exact boat I’m in, hopefully one day we can forgive our dads and make peace :)

[@willissudweeks1050]

You aren't actually exhibiting a stoic attitude towards your father at all. You have the right to feel how you feel but a stoic approach would be more "Eh there are fathers and drunks in this world, I have a father who was a drunk when I was a kid. Makes sense."

[@Gabu115]

@@willissudweeks1050 you don’t know my situation at all, And being stoic takes time and lots of work, it’s not something that you can just go “ oh I had a shitty dad, I’m all better now” you have to take time to work through it. I’ve made peace with the things that have happened in my life, I’m just not at a point where I feel I can let my father back into my life without disrupting it

[@GlinkBetweenWorlds]

Re=uploaded to fix audio issues

[@johndowson1852]

Is there an audio clip missing at 4:20?

[@picxrdo]

Thanks you are the best KZbin channel

[@MasterEth]

thx for clarity

[@surrealentertainment]

Pure kino. Love the ac feature in the end. 10/10. And thanks for putting my vid in too haha

[@xcobmi]

Didn't expect to see you here 👁️

[@showoe3126]

what are you doing here?

[@GlinkBetweenWorlds]

Your videos have been on point lately, on the pulse of internet culture forsure

[@TheKinoCorner]

I agree with the kino assessment

[@kardoxfabricanus7590]

@@GlinkBetweenWorlds You should rename your channel to Glink-182 Also you should do a top tier online father figure list video that would be fun wouldn't it? :D

[@NARKBALL]

I feel like there's something to be said about the generational gap between the parents of zoomers and zoomers. Technology and culture has changed to an unrecognizable degree since the 70's, as has the job market. I grew up with my parents and the people around me pushing for academic and collegiate success. I went to a very rigorous high school and I almost failed out. I was depressed, anxious, physically sick and tired of my life. It took the advice of online father figures like Peterson and Goggins in particular for me to wake up and accept responsibility for finding my own path. I can see now that I'm nowhere near where I need to be, but at least I've been granted perspective and I've taken big steps towards rectifying the serious health issues that have plagued me for a long time. Responsibility is everything. Sometimes all people need is someone to tell them that their life matters, and they're throwing it away.

[@Lumina_Solaris]

Honestly, I would not replace my dad for the world. I am so fucking lucky to have a dad who cares so deeply and who is thoroughly invested in understanding my problems and genuinely offering guidance and advice and life experience. My mom: also fucking amazing. If I have anything that I need to talk about or need emotional support, my mom is my first go-to. Honestly, we might be a bit codependent. My parents and my two brothers are my everything. Yes, we have problems, but everyone does. What we do have is so strong, it can't be understated. I am so fortunate.

[@Comik3099]

That's amazing, and the fact that you can see that for what it is, is also nothing to make small of. Never lose that sight for your relationships, or the that sight for anything else in your life. 🤘

[@anon2427]

Bless you and your family

[@AnthroGuitarist]

Ok normoid we don't have functional families though soooo next

[@bmo14lax]

See that's the thing about what has been deemed " work culture" here. People define you by your job, its really sad because theres no way those people are ever going to be happy. Good for you on sticking with your family. Seriously, our culture doesn't embrace it enough.

[@Jmartphilly]

My two month old son woke up at 5am for a feeding. Watching this on my phone while feeding him is pretty surreal.

[@Ian-bt8dz]

Stop feeding him, prove the video right

[@DaddyOfTheSugarVariety]

Never idolize or look up to celebs, they will let you down. I would look for a father figure in someone I know personally, in real life.

[@SIGSEGV1337]

There are alot of people who don't really know people IRL, let alone people who would make for good father figures

[@pestyobsrvr4278]

Bruh not everyone can go to someone in real life, I don't agree with this idolization either but I get it.

[@seracris8357]

I think you forget that there are many young men who basically never meet people outside of work or school because they hide at home.

[@SIGSEGV1337]

@@seracris8357 Or aren't let out

[@caorusso4926]

This, a celebs don't even care if you're dying, but if they die, you will pass a entire day crying and then find someone to be your idols.

[@bigdro5227]

My father was a failure who made life hell for me and my younger siblings, I spent so much time just angry before I could accept reality for what it was and move on. Now I tell myself "All I can do about is be a better father then him". And so I will be

[@MaskedMadmann]

than*, if your father was around maybe he'd have taught you how to spell.

[@BiggestBlunder]

This really gets me thinking a lot. My father is overweight, lazy, and thinks that if he’s loud he controls the house. He’s the opposite of everything I want to be, KZbin has been the biggest escape for me and has basically raised me my entire life. I honestly think one of the biggest reasons for this is the boomer dad stereotype. I feel like the next generation may have parents that can connect more with their kids as they grew up in a similar technological age.

[@Colddirector]

I honestly doubt that. I’m approaching the age most people become parents and I already feel like I don’t understand the younger generation all that well. Social media was still very much in its infancy when I was in high school, avoiding online harassment was as easy as just not making yourself a target, either by being anonymous or just not having an account. Im not sure that’s really an option for younger kids these days, since anonymity has largely gone down the tubes and social media is less of a new trend and more a standard.

[@Frkyyyy]

@@Colddirector Im pretty sure he was thinking of kids who are 15-16 now , not people like you who i assume are 30years old. I dont mean hate , im just telling you that the original comment was meant to kids who are gonna become parents , not people who are parents.

[@Colddirector]

frky Not 30 yet, but close enough to really evaluate where my life is heading. Regardless, society’s developing so rapidly by the time you guys are of age, youth culture will probably be unrecognizable to you as well.

[@pepinyostep3592]

Fuck you are everywhere i cant escape you

[@StrazdasLT]

@@Colddirector Yes. I end up searching for information for my GYM on facebook. The last place where new information for it should be given that they have their own website they never update. The pervasiveness of social media has done a terrible job on our psyche.

[@ameanasaur]

Anyone who saw leafy as an older brother has far deeper issues than their relationship with their father.

[@wisemage0]

I would give him points for playing into the "he was like a father to me" meme if he was doing it ironically.

[@sfdgdrgdvxff]

I don't know what that implies, I don't even have a brother but i'm fearful

[@ameanasaur]

@@sfdgdrgdvxff I'm not implying anything. If you look up to leafy as an older brother, you probably don't have a problem with your dad as much as you have a problem with anyone that doesn't agree with your opinions.

[@mrmaniac3]

Good thing I see leafy as a meme

[@brunovazquez1]

I don’t think he ever implied Leafy as a “father figure”. He’d meant to talk of him as an annoying older brother. His point was freedom of speech (Jordan Peterson has talked about this topic as well) and how so many just shut others.

[@user-zc5hv3pd4p]

I feel that the media has popularized and even romanticized the dysfunctional family.

[@LancesArmorStriking]

Hollywood portrays and normalizes something in pursuit of money, ignoring the societal costs. What else is new lol

[@TheUnnamedAssailant]

@@LancesArmorStriking to be honest I’m not even sure that’s true, a strong nuclear family is one of the backbones of civilization. If your wish to destroy and dominate a society, the best way is to destroy and corrupt the foundations of its youth hence removing the father. Nevermind that by destroying the family you can tax single moms and their baby daddies too.

[@LancesArmorStriking]

@@TheUnnamedAssailant That's not quite true. Plenty of civilizations before ours were more egalitarian (in the sense that men did not dominate the family, nor did the singular idea of a 'family' exist). I do agree with the idea that divide and conquer is a useful strategy, but the 'mother + father + children' model is very new. In the past, it was the whole tribe that raised all the children at the same time. Father figures are very important, but they don't need to be the biological father. In fact, insisting on that leaves boys with abusive parents stuck with no easy way out.

[@TheUnnamedAssailant]

@@LancesArmorStriking if your talking about the hunter gather civilizations or tribal villages then yeah I agree. Those tribal groups while varied with family members and occasional strangers are relatively small, but more intimate then the neighborhood or cul de sacs we live in now. In those areas you can trust the people within those tribes because you interact with them so much, by contrast, would you really say you’d trust any and all the neighbors in your building or block? While agree that the child feeling forced to stay in a home with a potentially abusive parent could lead to terrible repercussions for the child, you could just easily say the same if not more so for adults that have no blood ties to the child and have even less reason to be empathetic to the child’s worry or concerns.

[@rickv9180]

We can thank the left for slowly destroying the fundamental unit of society

[@brodysmith4488]

I never knew how much I needed to hear Jordan Peterson talk over Finish the Fight - Halo 3. Chills.

[@gabelang5941]

It really hit different

[@gamgee3393]

I fell asleep to this video (for no other reason than I was really tired) but I heard the iconic piano key and am now literally wide awake 😂

[@Slimathy]

Something I find myself thinking about a lot more as time goes on is how much I deeply desire to become someone that can be a role model to others. Growing up lacking any meaningful guidance from any of the authority figures I had in my life made clear to me the importance of having someone who can teach you how to be a strong individual. That experience makes me want to do everything I can to become someone that others can look to when they need help. It bothers me deeply to think of all the different people out there going through those exact same struggles and I want to be able to be there for them In the same way that Jordan Peterson was for millions of us

[@irreadings]

I have the exactly same goal

[@mickeyleebluebird1746]

I'm a woman & feel exactly the same way! I'm on my phone but will def make a comment asap from my desktop about this video. It's very good!

[@lukethekuya]

Same.

[@55MrRockets55]

I've been thinking about this topic a lot recently. Thank you for uploading this

[@theuday99]

Offcorse you are you have a Scott pikgrim pfp

[@kz270392]

"Even if you are not going to have a child. Prepare yourself to be a father". Always teach the best on your sons and daughters. It's what the universe is waiting for.

[@WMan37]

The concept of making a "father figure" out of someone who doesn't even know me seems a bit parasocial to me so I don't really do it. However, I definitely would name a few people who I'd nominate for that position were it to be a more comfortable prospect, like Louis Rossman for his off the cuff but poignant rants and ruminations about life as well as general life advice, jschlatt's theweeklyslap for the reframing of complex life problems into an easily digestible set of suggestions for how to deal with them, and Jerma985 for his seemingly pure and good-natured desire to make people happy by entertaining them somehow, even if it's at the expense of his own ego. These are people who don't know me, will never meet me, etc. so I wouldn't call them "father figures" but they certainly give me the comfort of one. I always just saw it in my head as people who are good at a craft or have an experienced perspective with things whom I respect as you would any human being that was good at something, not straight up family members. When you frame it this way though I guess they do give me the comfort of one I suppose. Humanity was not ready for the internet, man.

[@YashBudhiraja]

yeah, Louis Rossman is someone who everyone would benefit to listen to

[@MpSniperM1911]

Louis is basically a older person than you that has been through some shit and now he wants to share . my opinion about one of the aspects for this stuff: *someone* is/was/still pushing the idea of "death to patriarchy" too hard, people influenced by this no longer listen to the parents or even elder people, in brazil, specially in the 70's and 80's existed a "youth praise" by the youth itself that one of their main ideas in summary is "don't trust anyone with more than 30 years old" so yeah, try to educate a kid which knows in your pass you didn't liked the father figures. btw i listened to J.P. and read half of his book 12 rules for life and kind of nothing changed because you know, i'm still in Neverland apparently (according to his way of expressing himself), at least i know how to start changing stuff around here

[@tugger]

louis rossman is an awesome person

[@Ehh.....]

I just stumbled upon his videos about the (ALLEGEDLY) scam company CompTIA. Now im hearing tons of people in reverence about the guy lately. Looks like I got a lot to binge watch.

[@StrazdasLT]

@@MpSniperM1911 So, brazil will be the first to implement Logan's Run domes?

[@peepeepoopoo1042]

This mans tryna have a heart felt conversation with his family members that he considers father figures and his uncle is making Gordon Ramsey look like a joke on that grill

[@vasilistheocharis164]

The archetype of the father in our brain always needs someone for it. When the ones around you lack the ability to fill the archetype you will find them somewhere else.

[@M4XD4B0ZZ]

Pretty much accurate

[@TwinAquarius484]

I like this way of thinking about it

[@alaricblack9788]

It depends really. Sometimes you don't like where you're heading, or you don't know. So you forge your own path. You explore a different destination, or you wander aimlessly. But it's better, always better - to get some directions if you don't know where you're going, or if you don't know how to get to where ever it is you want to be. Helps when the person providing directions doesn't BS you too, haha.

[@likira111]

As a female with two mothers I'm really fucking confused as fuck as to how I'm supposed to feel about the whole "issues caused by lack of dad" thing people talk about on the internet.

[@alaricblack9788]

@@likira111 You feel how you feel. Supposition is me telling you how you ought to feel. That's not what's happened here - that's the simple answer. How do you feel? That's the real question here amigo, at least, for you. People don't talk about this stuff in person, but the it's very well studied in scientific literature of psychology. Perhaps that's a more extensive body of knowledge to research? All I can really discuss is my personal experiences. The lack of a father can mean you're free to idealise your own concepts of masculinity- which is often either naive and unachievable, destructive and arrogant - or completely lost to escapist media. Two examples are: becoming a heroic soldier, or becoming a notorious thug. Both are considerably more likely as life paths for men without fathers. In a sense we either fear our inner monsters to the point of paralysis, let them run riot - or best case scenario - become a monster bound by our better nature, 'til need arise. Purpose is important. Maybe you relate, maybe you don't. Maybe this is helpful, maybe not. It all depends on you and your unique circumstances.

[@RadLegos]

Bro you did such a good job with this video.

[@nomadic4130]

Really like how you took the effort to speak to father figures in your own life and opened up to us like that, going that extra mile beyond editing vids fond online makes this a much stronger video! Good stuff man!

[@ghostsoffuturespast]

13:34 These were not "compelled speech laws" that he protested for fucking years, it was trans people being added to the list of protected classes to stop things like workplace harassment or bullying and making it illegal to allow something like employability or the decision to let someone rent or purchase a property to be swayed by whether someone is trans or not in Canada. These laws had been in place for decades all across the first world for racial and sexual minorities. No one has been jailed or arrested for not respecting someone's pronouns. It was an utterly idiotic thing to be against on Peterson's part and seemed to just be motivated by mostly transphobia.

[@ghostsoffuturespast]

@Annoying Fan thank you

[@TwistedScarlett60]

This was the strangest Halo Infinite advert I've ever seen

[@SacredLiquid]

Starting with best daddo bulletproof Kanye? This is gonna be good.

[@troubleinbound]

I think you mean Kanye Vest

[@SacredLiquid]

@@troubleinbound damn. I should just delete my comment lmaoo

[@stevejones69420]

@@troubleinbound you win

[@JimmyTheGiant]

fully become obsessed with your videos, this shit gave me goosebumps

[@DavidNwokoye]

Same. We need more content like this on KZbin

[@GnarStark]

I recently started bingeing your vids by the way too. Ur my parkour history daddy

[@GhostGum]

It’s criminal that this video doesn’t have more views it’s probably one of if not your best

[@Logan-yy8kb]

Appreciated the Kanye imagery throughout

[@MadMaximo]

family business instrumental as background music as well

[@jerrell1169]

My father abused me for years, on and off. He invaded the good moments of my childhood and forever ingrained the pain I felt because of him into the happy memories I felt. Due to that I turned to both my older sister and my older brother, they're about 10-13 years older than me but for a long time they were in the same boat as me. You see, my siblings watched their father die right in front of them. Their father drowned in their pool when they were both young enough for it to effect them for life but old enough for them to process what happened. We all grew up without a father figure, my brother used religion as an escape and used Jesus as a father figure meanwhile my sister turned to dating and sex to drown her sorrows. My mother turned to drugs as an escape. All of these things I consider vices, obviously sex and drugs but using a moral authority to ease your own mind comes with detriments as well. I've learned that using vice to escape from your emotions never ends well but neither does taking one person's word as absolute and living your life by that message, it may comfort or motivate you in the short term but at least in my eyes you stifle your ability to learn from the world on your own terms as that can only come from a place of self motivation. I can fully understand the lack of self motivation and drive to simply live that many people, and especially men, feel today. If you do not have things in life you are passionate about and wish to live simply because you are apathetic to life or simply are too afraid to die life appears meaningless and purposeless. But in the end I see that as the most liberating thing, when nothing in life gives you purpose you have free reign to search for and find whatever will give you purpose. All in all I wouldn't let someone tell you how to find the purpose and motivation in your life nor what that purpose should be, however this is not a burden as you may see it, you are the master of your own destiny and the only one who can truly control your thoughts and actions. Of course this sounds hypocritical, if you wish to find purpose through another so be it as I cannot control you nor can I control your thoughts but I hope you can at least understand my perspective and how trying to search for a father figure only harmed my outlook on life. That is not to say that you shouldn't look to these people for guidance, many of these people have excellent things to say and to add but in my eyes they will not endow your life with purpose nor meaning.

[@M4XD4B0ZZ]

Thanks for sharing brother. Blessings

[@TheFullmetalb0x]

sounds like you have a stoic mindset.

[@Just_Is.]

Not invalidating what you've said however My understanding about this subject is that people that older and diferent than those similar one may have life experience that could help one. It's desired that these people want to be good influence (even in their mistakes) and that oneself is a good learner. a balance of one and others Mostly because i'm skeptical at people's ability to create good meaning on their own without a good observation of others. Of witch to me seems to be the case in your experience

[@troyk7100]

@SlavPlaysGames All based on perspective, brother. Religion in any capacity is meaningless depending on your perception and perspective on life. Best wishes!

[@kiroooooooous7492]

Jerrell amen!

[@notspider-man5765]

It honestly feels like a crime that this doesn’t have a million views. Keep it up, man.

[@gorillamunch6899]

“It showed Idubbz was SIMPly”- good one if intentional

[@chloevictoria3382]

This was so beautifully edited, written, and in general wonderfully created. Such an important topic and you did it so much justice here.

[@edwardleas1619]

My online father figure is internet historian

[@nameredacted1448]

The best father figure

[@iksskan9147]

Related, but mine is shadow man

[@bashirsheikh7322]

mine is alex jones

[@holloworacle3140]

Yes

[@deadeyedblack2350]

Mine is critikal even thought were like 5 years apart

[@que7761]

I’ve grown up in spite, wanting to not be like my father. This idea of wanting to be like your father always confused me, you explained this idea through a lens which resonates with nearly all young adults in the modern age. Keep it up

[@gabrielhansen4295]

Thank you so much Gink. After i watched this video, i went to my girlfriend and bauled my eyes out.

[@dolphinboi-playmonsterranc9668]

I haven't had a dad in about 12 years now. I had the chance to call my dad, but I threw it away without a single regret. Dude's got nothing to do with my life anymore. I'm a man. He could die and I wouldn't shed a tear.

[@FBI-dr4bk]

He may have been ur father, but he wasn't ur daddy

[@greasybumpkin1661]

That's OK man, we don't choose who births us, some get luckier than others. But you can be a good dad and find other father figures in your own life. Your dad was given a gift and rejected it, he also didn't call you.

[@technoruffles7747]

You are exactly what's wrong with society.

[@greasybumpkin1661]

@@technoruffles7747 why?

[@alesso8114]

I myself have been abused for my whole childhood the moment I was born. However ive pretty much cut off all contact from my family as ive been focusing on other things marrying the girl I love moving out of my country so I can get a decent well paying job and a bunch of other stuff. And I fully agree with you not contacting your father is for the best as mine kept begging and trying to manipulate me for money so he could waste it away like he did my childhood. I wish you the best of luck friend.

[@ramontavaresdacruz2256]

The interview with your father figures was such a wholesome thing to watch haha. As someone who grew up having my retired grampa as my father figure alongside my mom, nowdays I can see in which way my personality and who I am is a direct result of everything that happened and everything that didn't happened

[@Omnigreen]

I really like your content, it have all: culture, entertainment, history, games, sociology, internet, nowadays issues, youtube stories and mainly - heart, great work!

[@PragmaticOptimist]

I'm just beginning to realize just how lucky I am for existing in a time where youtube is a thing and the internet too. I am finding myself through positive figures of inspiration, like Peterson, Goggins, Alan Watts, Russell Brand. Previous generations couldn't even have that opportunity, they were limited to what their immediate family environment provided, that may not have been so beneficial to their development. And for that I feel very grateful! Edit: I forgot to mention Wim Hof, he is a huge father figure for me! Also, yay! I got hearted ^_^ ❤️

[@petercarioscia9189]

...Russel brand?

[@PragmaticOptimist]

@Luke Griffiths Well the things he says are on par with Edgard Tolle's philosophy and Allan Watts' eastern philosophy, so I like hearing him. I also admire the way he talks, he's very articulate. I see how his previous lifestyle might be seen as egotistical and he even had said so, but he is a human in development and I've come to love his youtube existence. A cult leader is someone who manipulates people, drives them to act evil acts towards themselves or others, I don't see how Brand is like that. If you could clarify that statement?

[@RellyDraw]

@@petercarioscia9189 @The Left can't Meme well, mb russel is not the best daddy idol, but his way to put word together is iconic. Also, his exsitence itself proves that even if u full of problems -- its only beginning. This man is a work of art!

[@sanctuaryinc22]

Peterson is a loser drug addict. Great choice

[@DunkeyIsBlack]

You're pathetic

[@cloudperson890]

Damn, seeing doc Greg was a pretty surreal moment.

[@__-iv9dk]

Seek guidance harder than last time!

[@Shvabicu]

Eat clen, tren hard.

[@doxed64]

20:14 The choice of the Halo Soundtrack right here with Joe Rogan sharing his opinion is so nuanced that it really shows how well you understand this topic. Halo was the greatest selling franchise of any video game EVER, but is perfectly contrasted with "The Father Figure" (Rogan) telling us how he has a problem with video games in general. This moment of your video is so spot on, that it's hard to argue with him. Also, thank you for sharing that trip you went on. That was really eye opening as to what that looks like.

[@funnywarnerbox300]

I'm glad you emphasize the importance of the father in society and the human psyche in these family-nihilistic times. Very important!

[@wowjack8944]

Father: schizophrenia, Mother: Anxiety, Brother: Depression. All of them irrational. How do people expect me to grow up and not try to escape into videogames, books etc. Jordan Peterson and Sam Harris have definitly been my fatherfiguers.

[@TheInevitableMan]

Hang in there, dude. Try to save them if you can, but don't ruin yourself doing it. If necessary detach yourself from them, straighten out your own life, and build something meaningful with someone you love. Become your own father figure, so that at some point they may look up to you and start setting things straight.

[@doxed64]

They expect you to "grow up", because they believe "that's just what men do".. and to an extent, they are right! We, men, are able to fight through the most disgusting, toilsome, and degrading things this world has to offer. Think D-Day, The Great Depression, Sparta, etc. The difference from those times and now, is the return of investment. You WOULD be rewarded if you laid your life down for your country/community. There is not much of an incentive to do these things now; especially for young men... but that doesn't mean we get to stop being men. We shouldn't, and can't, let ourselves stop "fighting forward". Jordan Peterson talks about adopting responsibility for our actions, and how that shapes our mentality of the world... he is right. I was also born into a family with rampant mental illness, divorce, poverty... but these things can be your greatest assets. It is imperative that you reshape the way you view these things, so that they do not become excuses to stop trying... That they become reasons to keep pushing. And once you have conquered that mountain, young men will look up at you, and you can tell them with confidence to "Keeping moving!" and they wont question you. You only asked them to do something you have already done... so why cant they? I believe in you, lil homie.. Never give up.

[@vivvy_0]

X Y why always fight, how about live

[@desp1172]

Father: Alcoholic, negligent, depressed and aggressive. Mother: Passive-Aggressive, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, almost incomplete education. Older sister: drops out of higher education, leaves home with high debts and health and mental problems, treats her daughter strictly and very observant. Older brother: Alcoholic, Borderline disorder, Semi-Negligent (yes he help economically his son but does not accompany him), possible depression, (Despite his problems he has managed to be independent and support economically with his businesses and others but maintains a lifestyle unhealthy and affecting his child and the rest of the family) Another older sister: Health problems, generalized anxiety, dependent personality disorder (She has the least problems of my older brothers) Responsible and hardworking mother and kind to her daughter. Me: Mild autism, dysthymia with severe depressive episodes, anxiety, untreated attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder, congenital health problems, and I am still alive despite everything and I am studying my master's degree in Psychotherapy through a scholarship that I won with my effort. I am my own father, I did not have good examples BUT at least I know that I learned from the bad ones and now I know what not to do and what to try to avoid. people like Jordan peterson and so on I take their opinions and points in an interesting way, however I am unable to come to idolatry, I will take what I deem necessary from them. After all, we are all imperfectly perfect Human beings in everything we do. God bless you all or good luck in your path.

[@dAeveFellows]

that is scary cuz Peter Jordanson is all three of those combined and smoking crack.

[@goldfishzzz]

As someone who's been dealing with a lot of suicidal thoughts and major depressive episodes, being reminded of Jordan Peterson and the times he helped me in highschool made me realize I can still look to his old lectures for guidance. Recently I've heard he's been sick for a long time during quarantine and I hope he's doing much better now. Still, it's sad to think this kind stranger on the internet has felt more like a genuine father figure than my own biological father has. But alas, I thank Dr. Jordan B. Peterson with all that he's helped me with for the past 3 years, I wish my virtual father the best. ❤

[@bizarreworld2510]

Best of luck on your recovery man

[@enostheforthewin6191]

Wish you the best

[@sanctuaryinc22]

He's a fraud who gives really bad advice. No wonder our country is so fucked up.

[@goldfishzzz]

@@sanctuaryinc22 How is he a fraud? He's a licensed Clinical Psychologist, professor, has a PHD, and a best selling author. His job is to educate and help people which he has for many, especially for me. EDIT: I checked your channel and you have a GoFundMe set up for your Primary Progressive MS, I genuinely hope you get the treatment you need and wish you luck, however I don't understand your reasoning or purpose for attacking people who look up to Jordan Peterson.

[@goldfishzzz]

@@bizarreworld2510 @Enos For The Win Thanks guys I appreciate it :)

[@Courier_Seven]

My father died when I was 7, in 2004, then I immediately fell down into the internet and developed depression, anxiety and my family did eventually split ways as my siblings all grew up and went away but it was left on a sour note usually. Now I'm a happy father of 3 and it's been the toughest, yet most enjoyable experience of my life.. as for fictional father figures, Whitebeard in one piece is one of the best anime fathers hands down and definitely something respectable to take inspiration from.

[@cumshottv6841]

I also look up to whitebeard lol. I hope to one day become a father like him

[@ThatLauraPerson]

This video is outstanding. Love seeing your father figures and hearing them speak. You seem like you’ve got a great support system. (And loves that you included the Kanye clips ❤️)

[@3liteCasual]

Great video man, this is one of my favorites you've ever put out. Very well done.

[@turdburglar1612]

I swear we have very similar youtube algorithms, or thoughts on subjects. Know you were a man of culture from your FLCL avatars back in the day. Keep it up with this great social commentary and unique cultural perspectives.

[@SilverShadow721]

Hey GLink, I really enjoyed this video. I can tell you put a lot of effort and passion into this topic. Also, I didn’t expect to tear up a bit when you were discussing fatherhood with your dad and uncle, and asking about your grandpa. Thank you for making this, and I look forward to whatever you have in store next.

[@griffinhauben4081]

I love all the videos of yours that I've watched, but this one I loved the most. Absolutely beautiful work, thank you

[@falconstarr2146]

Every video I've watched of yours has had a genuine impact on the way I think and view the world. As someone with no real father figure, this video hit especially hard. But I think it's good.

[@The_Corn_God]

You've been blessed with some amazing eyes to see deeper than most people can. And a will to speak out about them. Keep going, theres more to see.

[@alecfink126]

nice user pic KSG ♥️

[@van_trini13]

Sick video! One of those guys thinking about this for a long time as well. My Dad never lived up to my expectations, expectations based on ideas he never saw himself. But ultimately I learned to not hate him for that. The fact that I saw a better way, meant that I had a responsibility to do better myself. It's difficult for even me to learn those lessons, let alone him, who never grew up in a time like ours of near limitless access to information. Now I see that Dads pass on their lessons, but also their mistakes so we can continue their role of making the world better.

[@cornhub8823]

this was very moving and inspiring. thank you for sharing this brotha 🙌🏼

[@aidanm131]

The bit with your family was so wholesome, loved the video.

[@Idealnt]

I literally watched End of Evangelion again last night, nice reference!

[@SIGSEGV1337]

THis makes me want to rewatch it

[@shapirodeadking5012]

did it destroy you again?

[@Idealnt]

Shapiro Dead King yes I’m now a pile of orange sludge

[@joshy-noha]

You're one of my older brother type of figure! amazing insights into various topics, looking for self improvement and maturity but still in touch with the modern teenager and men, not ruling out things like enjoying media and videogames. Truly an inspiration as you said.

[@noahsmith9810]

Glink I really like the new work you've been doing to help people at large with videos like this one and your only fans video keep up the great work!

[@tysonasaurus6392]

JP definitely introduced me to a completely new way of looking at things and aspiring to more. I haven't been watching much of his stuff lately but he's definitely helped me be a better person

[@montywoodside]

Haven’t even watched the video but I just want to say that the title of the video alone hits close to home. Lately, I’ve been realizing that most people I nowadays look up to as role models or "father figures" I discovered online

[@vivi-fe5rj]

I really loved this video, and sometimes come back to watch it. As always, your use of retro music fits the tone perfectly, and your presentation is always improving. I thought your whole take on this was very thought-provoking, and it opened me up to new interpretations of people and ideas I'd already appreciated for a long time (Joe and Peterson). Although my father was always present, and a strong influence in my life, he (and I) often stumble when talking about meaning and purpose so unapologetically as Peterson does. I truly look up to such figures, both as a source of inspiration, and as a guiding factor in an uncertain point in my life. Thanks, Glink, and Godspeed.

[@nobutakaX]

This was a great video, Glink. I really enjoyed it. I almost shed a tear because of how inspirational it was. (Now looking at the comments glad to see others felt the impact your video had as well.) Keep up the good work bro!

[@devineyre5545]

Amazing video, it really resonated with me. I wish there was more outlets to support young men. I feel like we have no community and it's hard to find useful responsibility to take-on. This video made me want to call my dad.

[@jay70335]

This was really good Glink, you've had a pretty good run of online essays lately. I wonder if these big brother/ online father figure relationships can be classified as a form of parasocial relationship. This has encouraged me to be more self motivated and less working off insight / inspiration of figures like a jordan/ hasan/ or a rogan.

[@jakob6437]

Well done! Your content has improved immensely, and thank you so much for allowing us to listen in on what someone else's father had to say it was really helpful.

[@dunkelwelpling]

Wow, that was really what i needed right now. Thank you Glink, when i thought your work couldn't be topped, you came out with this masterpiece.

[@Israel2.3.2]

I view Glink as a friend who keeps tabs on Gaming and Twitch subcultures for me since I don't Game or use Twitch. On the father figure issue. Read Great Books. It expands your viewpoint and keeps you from pigeonholing yourself. "Stand on the shoulders of Giants."

[@WhoBlah21]

My father was less of a father and more of 18 year long babysitter who worked everyday and left me alone at home and other events/activities, he didn't abuse nor traumatized me but he was definitely not a role model to look up to. One thing I would give him was that he unintentionally taught me the human experience and individualism by constantly letting me down when I was younger to the point when I reached middle school I stopped caring about his or my mom's approval. I never fell into the "Online Father Figure" thing because I never yearned for a father or role model, everything I learned from life was from pure observation and trial and error experiences. But video was interesting.

[@TheMarc1k1]

Another beautifully written and wonderful video man, good lordy. More people need to see this and the message of the video generally.

[@gannonandrews1225]

I think about this topic a lot and its great to see it articulated so well. Great vid.

[@ATastyEnd]

I never had a connection with my dad and I never wanted to be like him. I think growing up without that fatherly connection and wisdom left a hole in me and I found it through online father figures. Folks like David Goggins and Jocko willink really spoke to me. They were disciplined yet compassionate and it felt like they were teaching lessons that I had missed growing up.

[@Diane_8]

I literally shed a tear when he went to interview his family

[@ayceeonethirty6141]

Loved this. Ironically, ever since your 2007 video, you've kinda been one of these figures in my own life. Though I think we're close in age, different mindsets in ways, so it's a little different but alot of your content reflects my own inner convos through life.

[@illguala]

I started crying around 22 mins. Thank you so much Glink, you really don’t understand how much this video will help

[@wolfpack4128]

"Explain everything". I have to say this short simple sentence is incredibly profound. As a father I can say the thing I've done that has helped raise well adjusted kids is to explain everything. While you shouldn't try to poison your child with the negatives of the world you must explain them when you come to them. Racism, differences in boys and girls, all these things. Make them understand they are complex and require great thought.

[@112JDizzle]

my own dad passed away at a pretty young age. i was probably 7 or 8. its been well over a decade now. and I really haven't looked to anyone or anything else as a "replacement" father figure, and i wouldn't ever want to either. all i ever want is to do my one father proud one day. this was a really interesting insight however. You always have such an interesting and level headed approach to these videos, and they really do open up my thoughts on topics i never would have thought about otherwise. Keep up the great work.

[@RestingJudge]

My father died last year, he was masculine, but never hesitated to show affection, he was strict but always willing to let us figure ourselves out. There's no one that could even compare to my Dad, so I find this idol father stuff weird. It's why I could never get on board with Jordon Peterson his followers give me Jonestown vibes.

[@112JDizzle]

@@RestingJudge yeah, i definitely feel that. though there's nothing wrong with looking up to people. i dont think a father is something that really cn be replaced in any capacity

[@yungebola5524]

Such an amazing video, delivered to me at a time I needed it most. Thank you Glink.

[@ezrawills8907]

This video is beautiful. As someone who’s grown up largely without my father, I know the importance of having a good one and I know what not having one can do to someone. I’m glad to see someone talking about this openly in this way

[@unersame8253]

Finding meaning is one of the modern man's hardest struggles, certainly what we need is a guidance. A father is more than a guide, but at least there are people who want to help us.

[@nunothedude]

Having two abusive parents i always looked up to videogame charaters, Solid Snake and the Boss were som of the charaters i looked up to when i was younger

[@otarpetriashvili8371]

Editing in this video is phenomenal. It has been a long time since I have experienced video. Almost game me tears of joy and hope at the end.

[@Joseph-Tapper]

Thanks for making me think with every one of your videos. Seriously, keep it up dude.

[@aquaticpears3183]

You're absolutely spot on. With myself, I'd felt depressed and purposeless from age 13 to 27. Only a couple of years ago I realised why and it was because I hadn't been truthful and I was suffering as a result. I'm not afraid to say what I believe now. The traditional male and father figure as so brilliantly shown with your family is seen as awful, a thing of the past and part of the patriarchy. I realised that was all a lie - I feel that to be my true way of being and if people don't like that, so be it. As a result I've met an amazing woman where a future can develop, and in the right way, and it was only possible to meet that person because I first admitted that I was wrong to myself, then I aimed to do good, and it's been amazing ever since 👍. The part where your dad said that his dad "did the best that he could" is I think the key to it all. It doesn't mean he was perfect, or didn't have any things he did wrong - he did the best that he could do. That acceptance and forgiveness allows the man to move on and be able to carve out that new world for himself from nothing, invite a good woman into that world, and eventually bring children into it. How can you be depressed with that.

[@timbarzallo6322]

This video came out on my dad's birthday. Feels like a sign. I need to thank him.

[@JMDurden]

It may not be your biggest video, but I tend to come back to it a lot. It might just be my favorite.

[@sharksmate]

I'm a father of 2 and I feel like I really needed to hear this message. Sometimes the uncertainty of life can be so debilitating that you feel helpless in going in any direction that is a positive one. I know I've felt like this many times, especially in the last year. There's a quote that I heard which I really like: "pick up the biggest rock you can find, and carry it. " I'm still struggling to figure out which rock I should be carrying, but building on accomplishment I think is the goal, so that you feel more confident picking up even bigger rocks (if that makes sense). Thanks for making this video, it was really insightful and I wish it received much more attention from the people that need it.

[@GameLikeYouMeanIt]

This video is such a breath of fresh air. Fathers have possibly the most important job in the world. In my opinion anyway. So much power for good or bad is in father's hands

[@SleepyCity0001]

I'm a woman, so I dont know how having an absent father may affect me differently but online role models really saved me tbh. I didnt have a great mother, was very absent and too young to be wise and a parental figure, and I never met my father. I started finding a lot of interviews of women and men that I admired and had traits I admired and I would try to emulate them, and listen to them talk when it was particularly bad. I feel like it helped me have more control over what I was shaped into. Coincidentally, I found i watch all the father figure type people you listed very often. Also, I'd like to hear more about how having an absent father affects women other than people joking about women having daddy issues when they sleep around. I notice a lot of these videos about father figures are centered around solely how it affects men

[@loreaver3882]

True those are the generalizations. That women without fathers are promiscuous. That men without fathers are weak and have low moral character.

[@doodelli]

I can tell a lot of heart and soul went into this video, I really do empathize with op, but I can’t help but feel alienated. I lost my father in my early teens. My brothers and I have had to cope in different ways, I try to be there for them as much as a sibling can. This sort of experience has been a contributing factor in my wanting to foster and/or adopt in the future. It’s like Ratatouille: Not everyone can be a great role model, but a great role model can come from anywhere. When people like Peterson talk about fatherlessness and the importance of male role models, there’s usually this implication that women are insufficient in this role, this essentialist notion that women can’t posess ”male” wisdom and vice versa. Thing is, ”fatherlessness” can apply to vastly different demographics with their own socioeconomic struggles: Single-parent households, children in foster care, those with same-sex parents etc. They’re not actually that comparable. For instance, most studies show children with two same-sex parents fare about as well as those growing up with a mother and father. So how much is actually about gender and how much is about stable households and role models over all? P.S. I don’t subscribe to Peterson’s rhetoric anymore because he’s aspoused some borderline fascist ideas when attempting to deduce the causes and solutions to societal problems. He creates this us vs them mentality where *certain types of people* (”the foreign” and ”the feminine”) are sources of chaos, unlike the ”masculine” forces of law and order. It’s very disturbing when you dig deeper.

[@atdesk9394]

@@doodelli I agree with this comment so much. I was raised by a single mother and although I guess lacked some typical "masculine" traits during adolescence traits that a father could've provided, I still managed to grow up with confidence and high emotional intelligence because of her (she also acts very stereotypically masculine occasionally too). I feel most people see things in gendered terms when being human is waaaaaay more nuanced.

[@metaljugger]

@@doodelli That is basically a complete refutation of everything this video was trying to say on the basis of, "But why can't women be dads and mothers and siblings and friends to their children, all at the same time?" Some types of people are better equipped to teach some lessons over others. This 'Anything you can do I can do better' bullshit woman always do when 2 men start talking to each over about literally anything is the very reason a generation of mothers have failed their sons, you insist too much of yourself. Let men learn what manhood is from other men you control freak, you lack critical perspective. When you do you raise unproductive, drifting men who value their emotional intelligence over purposeful direction in life. Mothers are vastly important, stop trying to muscle fathers out of the equation.

[@tylercottringer8793]

Your videos are purposeful. Every single one. A feat not easy to accomplish. Thank you for reminding me to grow and be strong as our fathers did before us. Hopefully with spirits like ours, we can be the good men needed in these bad times.

[@primal44]

This is such a fantastic video I had to rewatch and I’ll probably watch again

[@braydenread4495]

As someone who has grown up without a father and was more or less raised by the internet and is out of uni without a male authority figure this video really and genuinely cut to the core of me. I know it's vain but with inclusions of men that I look up to, references to Halo and my favourite artist, Kanye West, it almost feels like this was made for me. It's my 21st birthday today and I sobbed watching this. I don't know the last time I cried but this video made me cry so fucking hard. I felt vulnerable. I felt cold. I don't know what I'm meant to do in this life. I don't know where to find guidance.

[@ezzwah]

You're not the only one buddy, my life is like going down a road to the unknown. Stay strong

[@eric6rock]

For real 😔

[@LancesArmorStriking]

The most practical advice I could give you is this: find a craftsman. Someone who works with their hands, whose work takes time and effort to create. Ask that person if you can take an apprenticeship under him. Those long hours spent learning from him and speaking to him, while not a perfect analogue to having a father (how would I know lol, mine wasn't super involved in my upbringing), it is an opportunity to learn from a male figure consistently in your life. Ideally, have it be someone who's connected to your family, or circle of friends. But anyone will do, as long as those circumstances are met. ^I should know, that's where I got a lot of my morals from. I love my bio dad, but he wasn't around enough to teach me how to be a man.

[@ednoisedem]

@@LancesArmorStriking This is solid advice from my pov as well. The comfort of virtual reality is tempting but if you follow the path of craftsmanship you will see value in real objects coming from your hands. And maybe more. Best of luck, lad!

[@electronicraisin5956]

My dad disowned me for refusing to write a letter to the government specifying that I dont want the child support that accumulated over 12 years. Careful what you wish for

[@prw56]

What wish are you referring to? The vid was about "father figures" not the guy who caused you to exist. I mean they can be one and the same, hope they are for anyone reading this, but it sounds like in your case they weren't, or were and then he ceased to be a father figure.

[@viscountrainbows6452]

Yeah that's no father, that's a sperm donor.

[@nicematerial]

Hey thanks for the video, man. This has a lot of heart and a lot of clarity.

[@otooandoh9556]

Genuinely one of your best videos yet! Thank you so much for making this!

[@fafikommander1903]

The Halo theme still gives me so much goosebumps. Yes. I want to become a hero in real life and I encourage you all to become a hero yourself. We can do it! We might not become MasterChief in strengh, but we can become MasterChief in mentality and spirit! Slay the dragon.

[@sourceeee]

JP helped me for a moment but then I grew up out of that phase. Those were dark, dark times.

[@libertadhil]

Dont be ashamed, be grateful for that he had a part in you finding your prosperity.

[@joelmilten]

I really like this Glink. I like the fact that you’re having this conversation. It’s cool that you included your family in the video. We all need to find a way to fill this gap in our lives. Some of us need to try to be father figures for those who don’t have them as well. It may not be big. It may just be you being present. My dad passed away 9 years ago and my two youngest brothers were still grade school and Junior high age. I moved back home a while back and my presence has been an encouraging influence on them. I was able to help my one brother get a job and get going in life when he wasn’t doing anything after high school. Now he has goals and he’s pushing himself and is well respected by his managers at his job.

[@AwesomeTingle]

Really appreciate your stuff Glink, your videos are insightful in a way very few others are.