Willpower is for Losers

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[NAVIGATION]
0:00 - Video games: "I won't play" vs. "I can't play"
0:48 - The Marshmallow experiment
1:38 - Is Willpower a Limited Resource?
3:55 - Resisting Temptations takes Effort
5:00 - The Secret behind being "Good" at Self Control
6:55 - How to Break Bad Habits
8:30 - How Successful Kids didn't eat the Marshmallow
9:30 - The Peace of removing Choices
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Books:
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"Atomic Habits" by James Clear - amzn.to/3hrrjQF
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[@alank4558]

In one of your videos on fasting, you talk about the hormone ghrelin. It secretes and makes you hungry at the times you typically eat if what you said is right. For example you typically eat breakfast at 7am, so each day ghrelin will be released at that time even if you woke up and snacked at 2am. When you fast and reset that routine or in other words the times when Ghrelin is released, then you don't find yourself hungry. That's why many people dont feel hungry after multiple days of fasting. What I'm getting at is, willpower is the first step towards something then you let your body do the rest. Hormones and all the physiological process you can't voluntarily control of course. In the example, you willpower your way towards fasting and not eating despite ghrelin making you feel hungry. Then you past that point where ghrelin doesn't know when you eat anymore and isn't secreted as much. Just some thoughts after watching your videos, and it may not apply to all willpower situations, not sure haha. What if you use willpower at the right moment, then let your body do the rest?

[@WhatIveLearned]

Yea! I agree with this. To be honest I don’t think Ego Depletion is as simple as Baumeister makes it sound - the reason you get “on a roll” (at least with diet and exercise) is for reasons like this - changes in Physiology literally make things easier. Like you said, willpower is necessary for the first couple steps then it is much easier over time.

[@shempone]

Also the depletion doesn’t show it self with the main goal. If you exercise will power on any one area and you are successful, it can be likely you will burst something elsewhere.

[@syk5166]

What I've Learned Thanks for pinning this, very interesting 🤔

[@ssholum]

I agree that building a new routine makes following through almost automatic, but for your fasting example: In the times before maximum telework, I'd wake up at 4:00, drink some black coffee, get ready for work, and leave by 5:00 without packing any lunch. I always took a large bottle of water with me and some salt. Between being busy at work, not having a lunch with me, and also having the water and salt available, the factors that might lead me to eat lunch (including at the cafeteria or leaving the office for lunch) were all but non-existent. At the start, had any other stimulus had polled my brain with "are you hungry?", I would have been really hungry, but there were no environmental stimuli to prompt thinking about food, so even with the physiological hunger, there was no psychological hunger to go with it. Then, as you said, the adjustment of ghrelin kicked in and I actually wasn't hungry at lunch time.

[@alank4558]

@@WhatIveLearned I think it relates to our habits and addictions too. I believe anything can be an addiction. People just resort to detrimental behavior. For example, some people get stressed about difficult tasks or even just negative thoughts. They can't willpower through doing said task and cortisol/adrenaline is released. They want to counter this with a quick dopamine high, so they do things like eat an unhealthy but delicious snack, play video games, our watch television. They're not eliminating the cortisol or stress effect, but suppressing that feeling. It just becomes a pattern. This continuous pattern of cortisol and adrenaline being accumulated can lead to weight gain and weak immune system. This can also explain why people procrastinate. They want the reward of completing a task but why do that when opening a back of chips can almost match the dopamine high of getting 100% on a test you study for instead. Many would choose the immediate high. Willpower is just weakened by so many factors, hormones and neurotransmitters pretty much. We do too much as a society, and never give our minds time to do nothing. Like a dopamine fast. I listen to music so much and drink coffee a lot. Took a break from my phone for a week, and no music. Heard music again and somehow it sound so much better. Such a miraculous and complex body, there's so many ideas I have haha. Let's just say we're not steam engines that rely on one source to move.

[@Xanderqwerty123]

Man defends his expensive Tupperware purchase for 12 minutes and 37 seconds...

[@mmaakk32]

as any anthropologist of the 21st century western male will tell you, that's about right

[@physically3027]

Cringe. I have one too and it's incredibly useful.

[@sterling_x9]

@@physically3027 top tier comment

[@rookymusic6310]

😂😂😂そう言う通り

[@pantsenfuego9986]

Out of sight, out of mind.

[@juddotto3660]

I quit smoking by telling myself "I'm not a smoker" repeatedly, everytime I got the craving until it went away

[@Peanuts76]

Did it work? Im trying to quit smoking as well

[@juddotto3660]

Yesir

[@HolkHugan]

Im not a coomer, im not a coomer

[@qwertyCandy]

That's Commitment, one of 6 key principles of influence as defined by Robert Cialdini. Once we decide for something and make it part of our personal identity, we're far less likely to go against that decision. So in this case once you truly saw yourself as a non-smoker and it became a part of who you are, it became easier to make it a reality. Kind of a positive self-fulfilling prophecy...

[@elliotwonderland36]

@@HolkHugan lmao

[@angelfebus1732]

“Willpower is like a muscle. You can tire it out.” I completely agree with (and evidence supports) this analogy. It logically follows that willpower is like a muscle. It can be trained to make it stronger.

[@Lupinta]

Exactly my thoughts too

[@chirst5874]

I can't believe this has so few likes

[@bananamonkeygaming14]

Why make it stronger when you don't have to use it

[@obama6996]

@@bananamonkeygaming14 And why not make it stronger or do you need more willpower to do it.

[@mihapro4097]

Luffy: omae va mou... BUTOBAS

[@milefiori7694]

Atomic Habit says it clearly: "You don't control yourself; you control your environment in which later will control how you behave." Really brilliant.

[@jensenraylight8011]

here the tips that guaranteed will work, i introduce you the ultimate concept of "being poor and broke". video game? food? alcohol? you won't struggle resisting that if you had no money to afford that in the first place

[@leonro]

@@jensenraylight8011 Can't afford video games? Piracy. Can't afford alcohol? Sneak into a party. Can't afford food? Well, you'll probably die unless you can afford *some* food, and junk food is much cheaper than even just getting the ingredients for proper meals.

[@tomsektul31]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 thats dumb cope

[@pedroba76]

What If I live with other people, in my grandma's house, because I'm still not old enough to change this environment?

[@khoitran8467]

@@tomsektul31it’s science.

[@MDW001]

Me: - Blocks websites - Turns off phone - Doesn't have the willpower left to do task

[@NortheastGamer]

Believe it or not, I'd still call that progress. If you look up spoon theory, you depleted your spoons by blocking the sites and turning off your phone and may need some time to recover. The important thing is giving yourself permission to recover from things, no matter how small you'd like to believe they are. Start small, keep going, and I'll see you on the other side! :)

[@storyteller5215]

But you didn't block youtube apparently

[@McDnyss]

Try doing the task first thing in the morning. According to these studies, you should have most willpower right after you wake up, before you open social media or tire yourself out in any other way.

[@alexbaribeault]

LMFAO

[@Eye_Radiate_Light]

Start with half the task first. Smoke 10 bowls then finish remaining task by end of the day.

[@strmrbtw2499]

Plot twist: the tupperware is 60$ so that you can resist breaking it

[@sheriff332]

Genius

[@allftw2677]

@@Messi-hl9cw wdym

[@ts4gv]

👏 👏 👏

[@sheriff332]

@@Messi-hl9cw absolutely not

[@sheriff332]

@@ts4gv with the combined power of black pfp we will defeat messi

[@eanschaan9392]

Honestly, the idea of removing the temptation altogether is pretty effective. When I moved out of my parents' house, I decided I didn't want to eat as many sweets. So, now having control over my own pantry, I just simply don't buy sweets. Sure, I see them in the store, but I just keep walking.

[@maskedmenreiki]

Have you ever heard of Odyssean Self-Control? This is a similar concept. It's less about failing to train against the urge, and more about capitalizing on a moment of willpower so that a future moment of weakness isn't an issue in the first place. This in turn promotes habit, and habit is a damn strong trainer.

[@eanschaan9392]

@@maskedmenreiki I have never heard of it in name, but that is pretty much exactly what I do.

[@eanschaan9392]

@@mas-udal-hassan9277 Of all the religions that exist, that is, in fact, one of them.

[@oiimmegadonuts.4362]

What if someone gives you sweets?

[@kykypy3hu4389]

And how do you resist the urge to buy sweets?

[@demonschnauzer1555]

I feel like the girl who ate the inside of the marshmallow but not the outside is on another level and none of these rules probably apply to her.

[@XZ-III]

No she still ate marshmallow

[@AnAntidisestablishmentarianist]

That little girl grew up to be Sam Bankman-Fried.

[@cactusguy4363]

"Researchers thought torturing kids would be fun." That's how all breakthroughs are made.

[@IsraelCountryCube]

I Love to Play, imagine, pretend, aaaannndddd! Kaaazzooo!!!

[@Shutupb1tch420]

Same

[@CristianDominguezReloaded]

Sacrifice

[@nerdnairbnordnirbu9044]

How come I havent made any breakthroughs? I have countless kids in my basement.

[@campkira]

and they wonder why they don't trust you...

[@dingusdangus1790]

"she ate the inside of the marshmallow." I'm not even joking that's potential genius material there.

[@rbk9915]

criminal genius

[@projectmalus]

It's like that fungus that redesigned the Tokyo subway system. Put her alone with a marshmallow mobius strip, she could unlock other dimensions to get at the candy.

[@Saiban0]

In jail for eating her cats insides to get another.

[@R.O.T.C._SEEM]

Not really. If she was genius then she would have just waited. What she did wasn't smart

[@kimwarburton8490]

@@R.O.T.C._SEEM it was genius, creative brilliance. Shame you cannot see that was a classic example of thinking outside of the box. I believe it might even have been logically sound too, depending on how she was instructed

[@ravenhart4387]

"Will power is for losers" Shounen protagonists: Why must you hurt me this way

[@IAm-zo1bo]

All shonen is sht except jojo and hxh

[@ravenhart4387]

@@IAm-zo1bo Those are the words of someone who hasn't watched one piece

[@IAm-zo1bo]

@@ravenhart4387 yes i read it

[@ravenhart4387]

@@IAm-zo1bo Fair enough, can't be bothered to argue for something so trivial, Jojo and hxh are great shows though.

[@IAm-zo1bo]

@@ravenhart4387 it's so obvious that you're a twitter user

[@ChristophelusPulps]

Last I heard, a lot of these willpower-based and ego depletion studies have not been effectively replicated and have been recently been called into question, and should thus be taken with a grain of salt.

[@alphabeta3528]

​@@notBeggingMattandLissy2PlayRE4yeah.

[@averyintelligence]

I do not have enough willpower to look for sources

[@CyberHermit92]

As Sun Tzu once said: "If a battle cannot be won, do not fight it."

[@italation3718]

As the mighty Zote said too

[@__umbra]

@@Messi-hl9cw so what do you say?

[@allftw2677]

@@Messi-hl9cw calm down , he's just saying at times you have to go with the flow , not all the time so chill

[@osamahensem4490]

@@Messi-hl9cw okay messi wannabe

[@TooDeepForSleep]

YEEE LET'S ALL BE 1000 POUNDS AND AT CONSTANT RISK OF HEART FAILURE!!! WOOOHOOO

[@Adrian-zl4ou]

"Choose your battles wisely, if you fight all of it you'll be too tired to win in the important ones"

[@sladejosephwilson2300]

This is best comment

[@varun4975]

👌👌

[@skillustrates]

The battle is the Lord’s.

[@chingchenghanjisuperidol9933]

Is that from art of war?

[@willotter4503]

Most ‘fights’ aren’t tiring so why not fight them?

[@copperheartd3711]

This is why online school doesn't work for a lot of people, because most temptation are at home and if you're always around them then you're always thinking about them.With public school those things aren't around and you're able to focus because of that.

[@theadchefer]

that’s a lot of generalization… terrible take

[@lawddddddt0t186]

There's also your surroundings you know u can't control the school surroundings and keep it clean and it doesn't bother u much but for ur house u gotta do something abt it and it just weighs on ur mind and eventually u fall into the cycle of procastination

[@damian9303]

@@theadcheferIt’s simplified, but it plays on the points already discussed in the video. If you’re in public school, they’re gonna take away your phone for the entire day if you take it out at anytime besides lunch or study hall unless they want you to do a Kahoot so the teachings become more thrilling and enjoyable alongside the rest of the class

[@thewewguy8t88]

In theory yes.but well let's just say there were many moments in school it was still possible for me to distract myself.

[@61936]

I’m zoning out either way

[@JasmineTea127]

I'd argue that after waiting three hours to eat, being able to eat the cookies gave that group of people a brain boost to persist with the puzzle. Meanwhile, the radish people were still low-bloodsugar which makes it harder to think and function, thus giving up faster.

[@mauritsrietveld732]

The mitochondria is the administrative assistant of the cell..

[@Benisued]

its obviously roadhouse of the cell

[@Web720]

@@Benisued Roadhouse

[@Nekr0]

@@williams322 plantpower

[@Osama-Bon-Jovi-01]

Foreman

[@spaulding304]

Emitter of Free Radicals.

[@TheWeazell]

So the moral of the story is: Out of sight - out of mind

[@gz6148]

People with ADHD would like to disagree

[@heaven.3031]

@@gz6148 in fact they were about to but then they started thinking about different stuff. And forgot about it.

[@gracenpaschke3047]

But what abt pandora's box? That may help, but at some point it really is up to you

[@SieMiezekatze]

Ojos q no ven corazon q no siente

[@ztac_dex]

got 8 kg heavier in 3 months because I stocked food (noodles, biscuits, etc) instead of buying cooked meal outside

[@Agent_Chieftain]

Couldn't it be argued that the ability to plan, and willingly give up temptations from the start, is also a kind of willpower?

[@egg8404]

It shows self awareness but i wouldn't call it willpower.

[@cicerogsuphoesdown7723]

@@egg8404 you don’t think giving up temptations requires willpower?

[@sovietunion7643]

for some people just not attempting suicide takes willpower beyond what most would know. don't be suprised when they fall behind on everything and can never focus. all their energy is spent just staying afloat.

[@temporaneo617]

Yeah but I think it's a temporary thing. Once you've planned your day all you have to do is follow that plan, and while at first it requires willpower to follow that plan, eventually your daily plan becomes habitual

[@coultersheppard2052]

It is willful. It is keenness and tactfulness of will, not raw willpower.

[@badamthoossh]

Interesting perspective. But the study also continued, when the kids who waited did not receive the extra marshmello, the next they didn't respond similarly to the same offer, they ate the marshmello given to them. The expectancy of reward is a factor for motivation, or what you said, willpower. The distraction created by kids was merely a means.

[@whiteeye3453]

Motivation and willpower are not the same but they go with pair

[@beaconing7689]

​@@whiteeye3453 i think motivation is like a wind, come and go. but Will power is embedded within itself, its like a characteristic of a person.

[@beaumartin366]

@@beaconing7689 motivation is created from your enviornment in a sense.

[@peeblekitty5780]

I mean... yeah, no wonder. That's exactly what willpower is: doing something unpleasant so as to get a reward. We just use it for more complicated things as we grow up--instead of waiting on one marshmallow to earn a second, we put up with work to earn money, or exercise to earn better health. If we didn't get paid for our hours of work, or if exercise didn't lead to better health, do you think anyone would bother with them?

[@TheKingTywinLannister]

KZbin addiction is even worse... if I quit I can’t learn all great knowledge but it takes too much of my productivity

[@iamillasfuck]

Knowledge is nothing without action

[@jannikh]

I started to add every video in my watch later when browsing the homepage. Most of the time I scroll through there, add tons of videos and leave KZbin because I'll have more time later and just wanted to see what's new. And I no longer have the fear of never finding those great videos again that I see on the homepage. you could even have two playlists, one for knowledge and a random one, to make it easier to actively watch content like this. It's not a perfect solution, but now I only watch KZbin when I actively take the time for it. My watch later is growing rapidly, but I'm not worried about that. Also, I linked my usual homescreen shortcut to my watch later playlist, so I don't get sucked into new content when I just open the app out of boredom. I hope this helps you finding your own technique to deal with KZbins design :)

[@pladselsker8340]

I personnaly can't recall anything major from the last video I watched. Nothing stayed into my brain. KZbin does not help one to learn by itself, but is simply a distraction... unless you pause the video for a moment and actively think about the subject

[@mrksgb8607]

Start meditating

[@chulcat]

Fr fr

[@timxiix3864]

Plot twist: the radish people gave up on the puzzle faster because they realized that it was an impossible one.

[@YuriG03042]

they all did give up for that reason. none did because they were too dumb for it

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

well if it is not rewarding and not obligatory for some other goal -who cares, right?

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

I mean, with the puzzle there was not much reward in sight? Unless they were avid puzzle players, the effort is not worth much

[@edwardrocca]

I think that Pyrowave meant that eating the cookies didnt necessarily make them perform better. If realising the puzzle was impossible was the achievement to reach then the radish eaters performed better.

[@massages_for_world_peace8909]

Lol. Radish diet = enlightenment! I was thinking maybe the sugary cookies gave them a sudden energy surge so they kept puzzling up until their cookie-induced-sugar crash..

[@AdADglgmutShevanel]

When I taught myself web development, I told my girlfriend not to let me play video games, except for maybe once a week. I went from playing 2-3 hours a day, to 2-3 hours a week. I did this for a whole year. And once I was successful and got a job, I found that I didn't want to play video games nearly as much. This gave me more time to do other things that are much more fulfilling.

[@noahyannis2465]

Congrats :)

[@sovietunion7643]

you were only playing 2-3 hours a day? someone has his priorities straight -posted by a man who has spent every living day of his life on youtube since covid

[@iamafan7919]

Yes! When you break out of a comfortable, less rewarding thing and start doing more rewarding things it really changes how you think. For me it was similar. I spent almost every moment online, but eventually I picked up some hobbies such as biking and I feel so much happier and freer. I spend so much less time online now and the significantly less time I spend gives me about the same reward as all those days I spent before. Diversifying your life really makes everything more rewarding and gives you a bigger picture of the world.

[@davis2284]

Could have resulted in you now having a latent dislike for your girlfriend too. Just kidding.

[@kirillxsobolev]

Hello man, welcome to grownups club who just gave up their young hobbies 🎉

[@Kharmazov]

One way I pretty much quit drinking soda was to gradually switch to pure mineral water. Basically the best way is to modify your habits over time to eventually reach the desired goal.

[@ericshun2552]

I'm an impulse buyer, I disabled the automatic payment option on my online stores recently. Uber Eats, Amazon, Steam, Google play store ETC. So everytime I would buy something online I had to type in my full credit card information every time I wanted to buy something and that saved me a ton of cash now, because I only buy things that are worth the trouble now.

[@Solus147]

That's funny because I memorized all of my CC information and I just type it out like I would type out my email and password.

[@humphreysufczynski847]

that's a light hearted example of 1st world problems 😊

[@raznaxd]

Stefan147 haha same

[@ahnrho]

Mhm.

[@Puppy_Puppington]

You should try opiates lol I’m sure your brain isn’t that set on instant gratification / cravings. You could totally handle them.

[@Pingoping]

This is the reason why online school doesn’t work. You constantly have the option to play videogames or watch netflix instead of listening to your teacher and making homework.

[@bulldozer8950]

I already play games in some classes. It just means I can more effectively play games in classes I don’t want to listen in.

[@chicken4222]

Agreed.............. I really gotta stop. *someone help*

[@sliph4169]

Even if resisting a desire weakens your ability to concentrate, online school would still be a viable option for many. Personally, never had any issues with it. If playing video games or watching Netflix is something that is constantly on your mind while learning, perhaps creating a space somewhere purely for study would help you immerse yourself in your work.

[@clinel]

@@sliph4169 That’s Basically Proving The Point Though Because You’re Making An Environment Where You Can’t Do Anything Else But Study/Learn.

[@marechaltukhachevsky2909]

@@sliph4169 That's the thing that worked best for me, stopped trying to study in my bedroom, a dedicated environment makes all the difference. That just reinforces the point of the video since such an environment reduces eye contact with distractions, thus straining less of our willpower to resist those things.

[@jedediahbrooks9594]

I just rewatched this video after a year of working a full-time office job in my living room and it’s given me a whole new perspective on working from home. I always knew in the back of my head that I seemed to be less productive working from home but couldn’t put my finger on it. I seem to get less done even on days where I don’t waste my time not doing work. Just having my kitchen and bedroom and TV within a ten second walk means I’m spending more time actively fighting the urge to get up to do something else.

[@fnamelname9077]

I've always had the opposite experience, and I always assumed that people at work who said this were lying. They just didn't have any real friends, and they wanted to have fake work friends in the office. I hated being at work so much, sometimes I would just go sit in my car and wonder if people would notice. WFH is the only reason I"m not homeless or in jail lmao

[@Sara3346]

@@fnamelname9077 Different strokes.

[@marquiseh5128]

Don't waste effort trying to resist temptation, find a distraction to not even think about it.

[@hibernian87]

"A single marshmallow is an easy task for adult". About that...

[@venvontilt3498]

I always hated marshmallows

[@Vexas345]

Marshmallows are just okay. I'd probably eat the marshmallow just because the reward of a second marshmallow isn't worth it lol

[@joelcoll4034]

@@Vexas345 That's actually a way to manipulate you. You shouldn't eat the marshmallow because it's not healthy however when you conpare it to eating 2 marshmallows it seems like eating 1 is the healthy option

[@christian5256]

Asmore I love your profle picture!

[@joemann7971]

@@joelcoll4034 It just needs to be something with temptation over a long enough period of time. Example, here's $5000, but if you don't spend any of it for 6 months, I'll give you another $5000. I'm sure that one is a lot more difficult than the marshmallow, especially since the reward is much greater, but so is the temptation.

[@technom4tter]

Brain: I'm thirsty Me: No *goes to the desert*

[@adaymadaday7283]

WILLPOWEER POWEEEEERR

[@sagarnalawade1036]

That's how your brain punishes u for not providing water😂

[@channingscott009]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@LoLo-yp1ez]

It worked for Jesus

[@Pi7on]

I laughed at this more than I should have

[@Navak_]

6:38 Man I've observed this pattern so many times in my life that it's undeniable, but whenever I say something like this to friends or coworkers they say something irritating like "oh you will learn to multitask" "you will learn to context switch." Literally no, I won't, and neither will you. It impairs our ability to focus. It's especially true for my software engineering work. Each IQ point I'm missing due to being distracted has an exponential effect on how long it takes to complete the task. If I can hammer away at it with perfect ambience, well-rested, 10am peak caffeine and most importantly ZERO distractions or other responsibilities, I can accomplish in an hour what would otherwise take hours to days.

[@xeogalaxy5634]

love that you're researched, always appreciate content creators really making sure that what they are saying is true. Keep it up!

[@lj8507]

"Researchers thought torturing kids would be fun"

[@AB-ee5tb]

As they always have 😂

[@jcangel92]

Researchers, Hollywood, the Royals, Hankx....

[@YehudiNimol]

The school system and its consequences have been a disaster for the human race

[@Mustafa-xd6jz]

I mean... yeah

[@GummyRiches]

I couldn't stop laughing. Those kids were super cute.

[@DiesIrae28]

This is quite literally the definition of "Work smarter, not harder."

[@Dottman56]

Literally

[@caleb1031]

Unless you're smart to the point of dissembling the container.

[@feminico2613]

Even better, work smarter and harder

[@Nanami_X_Higurama]

@@feminico2613 this is damn true , 🙌

[@Nerruc]

Greg Doucette in shambles

[@perioni]

This is inarguably the best, most practical & most helpful video i've watched on youtube. or anywhere for that matter

[@nickhamptonmusic]

Awesome video! Informative. Thanks for all the info. It is kind of a testament to minimalism, digital and physical. If don't want to be distracted by all these things, don't have them. Also, The bicycle was traveling across the screen from left to right. The dotted line is the front tire because it has more abrupt turns and the plain line's turns were "lagging" behind. At least, that's what I deduce.

[@DarshanBhambhani]

Having an experience of being obesed and loosing 20kg, trust me, not having snacks available at all is way better than having some stored and thinking “I’m gonna have one each week”

[@rigierish3807]

The challenge here is not resisting to eat snacks near to you but to buy them the next time you go into a store. That's why it's better to use another distraction to overlay the first one.

[@caseyhall2320]

Yyyyyyup.

[@bluebeka2458]

Or near you. Like in your room. Because that's a very dangerous game. To have snacks in your room.

[@bluebeka2458]

@@rigierish3807 Oh i loved to just eat snacks all day few months ago, but now i barely bring myself to eat normaly, but even to take a snack. So yeah... But starving is not a solution, especialy to lose weight. Since you gain the weight back after you start to eat normaly.

[@PentaPW]

@@bluebeka2458 exactly. if there's snacks in my room, they don't last a day, even though they were meant to last a week.

[@elvis4868]

I would probably stare at the ceiling rather than do my project with an inpending deadline

[@amandaconstanza]

lock the ceiling

[@toni2309]

Same. Turning off distractions isn't doing anything for me. I'll just start daydreaming forever. I'm part of the ADHD tribe though, so it's kinda expected.

[@tuesdaymae]

Same here, I can be distracted by my own thoughts..like I can have an all-nighter just thinking.

[@joao20able]

I'm doing that right now

[@deusexmaximum8930]

Delete your ceiling

[@sleepwellmychild]

I'm really happy for you bro. You've been one of my favorite creators, along with Jakey, for a long time. And ironically I was gonna say to look to him for making entertaining ads. Keep it up homie.

[@netanelmad]

If willpower is like a muscle, in the long run wouldn't it be better to strengthen it instead of avoiding the fights?

[@garrettrinquest1605]

If it is like a muscle, you also need to give it the periods of rest that it needs to heal.

[@Bibyte]

I don't think he meant the analogy as a whole, just the "fatigue part"

[@FirstNameLastName-wv2iz]

if it fatigues, what are the factors for it's original capacity? if such a thing exists, can't you logically increase it?

[@dinoknight1075]

I think of it like this: You store up the willpower overtime, but it reaches a limit at one point. Using it all the time just uses up the willpower rather than storing it up. I think of it like energy, theoretically you could increase your capacity, but it's followed with a lot more exhaustion than just not spending it

[@caralho5237]

@@garrettrinquest1605 Its not like you have a choice in that matter. Once you want to sleep you're gonna sleep

[@FoxGameCZ]

That girl who ate inside of marshmallow is genius.

[@NONO-hz4vo]

That girl is now a politician.

[@jchinckley]

Someone needs to show her some Jordan Peterson videos so she can realize that deception is a dead-end street and your (her) house is _not_ on it. It is a place you do not want to be. It will come back to bite you at the worst possible moment.

[@escargogurt]

@@jchinckley no one needs to watch Jordan Peterson videos.

[@Uthrain]

@@jchinckley why? Lol

[@kiiyll]

@@Uthrain Watch Three Arrows's video on him. If that isn't convincing enough, watch Hasan Piker debate Peterson fans.

[@strawberrycake3474]

Parents: *Removes all distractions so I can do my homework* Me: No, I don't think I will

[@emile6351]

Same, when I was little, my parent used to put me on a desk with nothing else than a pencil and my book, and yet I was distracted by how the ink went from the ink chamber to the paper

[@hasanalqodri4518]

@@emile6351 i think you mean pen

[@johnjordan3552]

I am not saying that everyone should focus on academics but if you wanted to study but didn't have the environment for it. Pretty sure, you'd focus on studies a lot more

[@jebronekitty]

There's no reward for doing homework

[@johnjordan3552]

@@jebronekitty If doing homework genuinely but genuinely doesn't help you, then just ask for a copy of it from your friends and study your own way. Or make it look like you have given a lot of effort to it but don't. As long as you can solve SAT -and after you pass the exam, especially the real life problems related to your field, it doesn't matter how you study and learn. If it's effective of course. That said, as long as the teacher doesn't give homework just to make you busy, it's useful for revising what had been taught in the lectures

[@ChronoSquare]

I have now shared this with my group therapist and it has been emailed out for all in the group. Hehehe, what a great video.

[@Alice_Walker]

My favourite takeaway from James Clear's EXCELLENT book atomic habits is that we don't rise to the level of our goals, we fall to the level of our systems.

[@jose.gonzalez.2007]

6:50 The dude in the stock footage really said the mitochondria is the Administrative Assistant of the Cell.

[@clemenshopfer8548]

lmao didn't notice haha

[@shiningeditedmoon]

Ahahaha

[@vextronx]

Truly he is way wiser than all of us.

[@BryanLankston]

This is the comment I was looking for.

[@fivetuff]

I got this answer right purely from the internet jokes about mitochondira being the powerhouse of the cell

[@melvincassii3359]

No mention of Ulysses? He wanted to hear the sirens, but knew that he'd be tempted to jump into the ocean to swim to them. So he had his sailors tie him to the mast beforehand, and he couldn't jump into water. Past Ulysses knew Future Ulysses was going to do something dumb, so he cut off his options.

[@prabhleenreen3594]

niceeeee

[@uberlephrad8218]

The greek definition of a hero is defined by strenght and feats, but man was this a big brain moment.

[@Liam-ug9en]

It was Odysseus who did that

[@amitsethi728]

i think you mean odysseus

[@migukmoonpark4312]

Ulysses is just the Roman name for Oddysseus.

[@ES-wz6db]

A masterpiece. I’m so proud of you.

[@whodis4097]

I don't think the kids who waited on the marshmallow dealt with it by distracting themselves as you said. I think they just saw waiting for the second marshmallow as a non-challenge, and then defaulted to doing various behaviors to instead fight boredom.

[@mydogtheodore2853]

Doctor: "Are you interested in trying to quit smoking?" Me: " No, I'm saving my willpower for resisting the urge to compulsively snort cocaine all day everyday." Doctor: "Ok that's fair."

[@GTSN38]

I used coke everyday for years, then 1 day I just quit. It's not addictive

[@ayyyyooo7191]

@@GTSN38 Ayyy That's the thing, you did what you wanted to do, now you do what you wanna do. No excuses.

[@Kylemathews1]

@@GTSN38 meth is though

[@a.d.ggon.2081]

Do you have the money to do so?

[@jacks5369]

@@GTSN38 don't lie to us you ran out of money that's why you stop LOL

[@nathanferrell8270]

This is why I ate much healthier once I moved out. If I have sugary snacks and treats in my house, I'll eat them. But if I buy my own food, I never let myself buy treats or unhealthy foods.

[@dshewaspretty]

Same For me it also works because i know no one but me can eat my food No freaking siblings who suddenly steal ur snacks, so i feel like i can eat it at any time I even lost some weight because of it

[@ignoredatsht9392]

@@dshewaspretty same

[@FreeIndeed9]

i resonate with this. ive lived in community and on my own. when i lived in a community we would all go in on snacks and eat out more. as compared to when i lived by myself i was a lot more strict when it came to diet.

[@sahithip1164]

This is what I want to dooo

[@avozsaj]

I still crave snacks even if I don't buy them, resisting them sometimes gets easier if I manage to abstain a couple of days, other times it just gets worse. If I'm at home it gets worse worse out of sheer boredom, while if I'm actively doing something that keeps my attention occupied, like being at work, it's a lot easier.

[@e.l.2734]

Nice video. There's always the factor of each subject's willingness to participate in the study based off of the uncertainty of rewards and tolerability of phases undergone so far at any given moment, but it'd make complete sense for willpower to work like a muscle.

[@BharathRamMS]

Great video. Short and to the point.

[@erikaloyo4987]

Moral of the story: If you want to do something difficult later don't eat radishes :)

[@nabeel9187]

Just eat the radishes thinking it's a weirdly tasting chocolate.

[@LifeLongRunner]

Or watch KZbin (AKA the cookie). 👍

[@deafkite638]

I'm weird and enjoy eating radishes actually

[@kye3k1]

Don't eat anything! The control did the best.

[@expeng]

Yes... no, wait!

[@craiginzana]

“A single marshmallow is easy for us to resist as adults” ... speak for yourself man.

[@AnUnnamed3vil]

Goddamn it. Where is THE LAUGH REACT?

[@nisman.lo.desvivieron]

@@AnUnnamed3vil Here hahahah

[@buk1733]

Lol

[@angelikazavadska6117]

Trouble is I don't want 2 marshmallows but by that logic, I am a loser..

[@bryanenzu8579]

For a second I thought you were holding a marshmallow in your profile picture and that your username was “cravingzana” no joking

[@dellta491]

Thank you for the great content. Glad I discovered this channel. Subscribed just now!

[@zachdscott]

Thank you, great video!

[@MrB10N1CLE]

Friend: "How do you lose so much weight?" Me: "Simple, I'm too broke to afford any food other than the bare minimum"

[@TheCoolDudeYT]

Lol same

[@jtamiing559]

Small servings ftw

[@namecannotbeblank7651]

Exactly 😂

[@untitled-8538]

i don't have conntrol over grocery shopping for my household but ive been thinking for TIMEE that when i'm older im just NOT gonna buy food to get skinnyyy

[@Emma_madison]

Where do you live because if it in America even the bare minimum food can get you fat. Cough cough $1 cheeseburgers and so on

[@ProtoMario]

The Army uses this technique in basic by exhausting the person's willpower.

[@littlefela6889]

Ayy proto

[@CogitoBcn]

Explain me more... :)-\-_

[@davidzapataaguilar437]

@@CogitoBcn so you dont make decisions by yourself, and become passive.

[@CogitoBcn]

@@davidzapataaguilar437 ah... I was thinking more in applications to interrogations, but you may be also right.

[@Lucia-io3dn]

@@davidzapataaguilar437 i thought it was a test to see if they are capable and probably succesful individuals (like the kids from the marshmallow)

[@Honey__Bunny]

Bro you just saved me in the most critical time of my life. I could detain from college or shine like a star❤

[@luvmyrugratsable]

This is the definition of work smarter not harder

[@swinuyasha]

The short version of this video, "distract yourself from your temptations rather than resist them.

[@AB-ee5tb]

Out of sight out of mind

[@by9diz8]

No it's easier, it's: "get rid of your temptations".

[@btchiaintkidding7837]

@@by9diz8 dodge the attack, dont block . It is easier to just stand ur ground and block it, but u will get tired out eventually, better to dodge it and save up ur stamina cuz there r more than just one enemy.

[@kleinstein30]

Be distacted from your distractions

[@by9diz8]

@@btchiaintkidding7837 Words of wisdom

[@pyrojkl]

This goes back to another channel i discovered "healthy gamer" a psychologist. A lot of his videos unwrap problematic behavior and assumptions around video games. This reminded me that I am attempting to eat and drink healthier but the easiest way for me to do so is to not have junk foods around the house.

[@britishpilgrim4412]

Among a sea of utterly terrible content this has been a breath of fresh air. It’s so refreshing to watch something well researched and well presented instead of the barrage of vids from people who seem to be trying to pass of their opinion as fact or are such charisma vacuums that I had to turn the video off. Thank you for making this, I’ve subbed and I hope to catch more of your content.

[@viralnorn9173]

Every time I try to come up for excuses to not do a workout, I remind myself that after working out I have never felt regret for having done so.

[@Fridelain]

Except when you get injured

[@viralnorn9173]

@@Fridelain true! Done that!

[@ibgsm]

And any time I face a temptation, I remind myself the regret that comes afterwards.

[@JohnWhite-ms5wr]

Hmmmm, I may try this.

[@anafu-sankanashi8933]

I've also cut that with realisations that whenever I break from by diet or over eat I have never not regretted it.

[@spicyricecaker7514]

"Your willpower is limited, but your creativity isn't"

[@erikaloyo4987]

Love it :)

[@kaleb8320]

thanks i needed to hear this

[@keloisin7487]

This makes sense in every possible way...very, very logic, and I believe in this now. Thanks.

[@spaltmass]

you say willpower is like a muscle, it can get tired. but wouldnt that implicate it can be trained to some degree, too?

[@coralovesnature]

I think willpower is more like a form of energy than it is like a muscle. For example, when one is tired, one must sleep to replenish that energy store. When one is hungry, one must eat to replenish that energy store. When one is out of willpower, one either gives in to the will or simply waits for time to pass to restore their willpower. Perhaps there is a better method for restoring the willpower energy reserve that could be learned.

[@hi-gf5yl]

Cora D. It’s unknown whether willpower is finite though. The study with the cookies and radishes is rather flawed bc it doesn’t account for factors like the calories in the food. Willpower is important because there are still situations when you cannot restrict your options and have to rely on willpower.

[@The777brown]

It's like a stamina meter

[@J_Kwan]

I think that with enough positive reinforcement, willpower can be bolstered to perform more reliably.

[@ivorydungeon909]

Willpower may be subject to jelqing

[@elgordobondiola]

Sometimes I enter a state of indecision where I just sit and scratch my head while not doing assignments or falling to temptation, and end up doing nothing the whole time

[@sauravmahto9809]

Bro exactly what I am doing right now Nothing!

[@Fomites]

Me too.

[@wulfooo]

Don't underestimate the power of relaxation and meditation. It builds up and fuels the actions that follow. If doing "nothing" is seen as negative, undesirable, unproductive, something to avoid, then yes you will probably drain some unnecessary energy thus losing some proportion of its initial benefits ;) I've also encountered many situations like you described. I think cannabis was definitely a factor but it is the mindset that controls all

[@POPDATA]

IS THERE A NAME FOR THIS OMG

[@ArtichokeAnarchy]

@@POPDATA im pretty sure its just called being indecisive

[@therealjakub]

I love that you are using research papers and even contradicting one, just to show a new one with different findings, very academical

[@wesleyogilvie8105]

No one falls off a cliff by staying as far from the edge, they fall by seeing how close they can get to the edge.

[@colinmadison6005]

6:50 “Mitochondria is the ______ of the cell” A: Administrative Assistant of the Cell B: Road House of the Cell C: Foreman of the Cell D: Powerhouse of the Cell *Chooses A*

[@BossuJmek2k18]

@@thedinosaurspecialist8053 Is that you Sherlock? This deductive genius just...wow

[@porkbellycutlets427]

Yeah I think its D. The Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell of the cell

[@Jake.The.Snake.]

This is hilarious 🤣 i didn't even see it the first time

[@chadilac9299]

@@thedinosaurspecialist8053 one cell can have multiple mitocondria.

[@JustSomeRandomBurger]

E

[@kipper1668]

The clip of his throwing away the bowl of oreos made me experience every negative emotion at once

[@kaiosouza1]

@Sasi Arsivi still food

[@arcisvar4863]

@@kaiosouza1 not really, a crapton of sugar and chemicals, barely qualify as food

[@kaiosouza1]

@@arcisvar4863 still better than starving

[@arcisvar4863]

@@kaiosouza1 yeahh anything is better than starving....what's your point? Stores don't give out oreos out to the hungry every time someone eats one or anything, no starving person is ever getting oreos.

[@kaiosouza1]

@@arcisvar4863 still hard to watch it being thrown out

[@plabmadeeasy]

I am binge-watching your channel. Thanks for the videos! :)

[@TNinja0]

My self control against being tempted by snacks is a bit of a weird one. I don't eat my snacks because I was afraid I'd run out of snacks, and have to wait a month for a new supply when I have to order new ones from Japan. Now I just have piles of unopened snacks form years ago.

[@augustocelon6892]

Me: *want to sleep* Also me: *lock my bed in a gigantic plastic box*

[@jauxro]

Yeah. That's a tough one. If I try to avoid sleep but I really want to give in, I'll end up passed out on the floor or in a chair.

[@GogiRegion]

If your room has a lock, put the key in one of those boxes and do something outside your room while you wait.

[@kasschoong3979]

i can sleep on any flat surface so i guess I'm doomed

[@lindseyw860]

@@kasschoong3979 yeah me too.

[@lindseyw860]

@@kasschoong3979 and at any time no less. I can almost sleep on command.

[@ThiagoVieira91]

Work on my environment, not myself. Got it!

[@GNMbg]

you control the environment when you control yourself

[@icecold1805]

Ok, that's a very elegant way to put it, ngl.

[@jreganalyst9260]

Is there a difference between your environment and yourself?

[@FarhanTanvirr]

@@jreganalyst9260 No, because we are part of the environment.

[@cornloin9732]

No just exercise

[@johntumahab323]

Paraphrasing a bit... "To lose weight, you need something called 'will power'. You, of course, don't have any will power. If you did, you'd be doing ab crunches right now instead of reading this. Yet there you sit, lump like, while the fat cells in your thighs mate furiously and give birth to huge litters." - Dave Barry.

[@atmojoe]

This is thoughtful. I will try to beat my temptation without will-power or strategy, or even with erasing it. I will try to embrace it.

[@remy8587]

I’ve noticed also the opposite effect: the more you give in to temptations, the more likely you’ll give in to the next one. Did anyone notice that as well?

[@maunokoivisto2808]

Its not the opposite.

[@YangyChaddyDad]

Just the longer you are consious in general the more likely you are to give in.

[@Kryynism]

That's typically my deal. Once I open the box of indulgences, all the cravings come along

[@ellyvatedaf]

That seems more like developing a habit. Cue the temptation and then you keep giving in because thats how you've responded to it for the majority of the time, and the reward is usually instantaneous so it becomes way more likely for that habit to stick.

[@jamesgee6875]

The law of diminishing intent

[@peterszabo-toth2063]

6:52 It bugs me so hard, that the dude didn't know that "the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell"....

[@skystar3649]

I was about to say..

[@Wakeman8791]

Road Houseeee

[@vladgina]

LMAO

[@NomoSapienss]

Check your eukaryote privilege.

[@nurylmaz4607]

@@NomoSapienss AHAHAHAHHH

[@randolfaquino9998]

excellent.. key word is Strategize! thank you!

[@reap1857]

Fantastic explanation put in a very concise way. Loved it!

[@McCaroni_Sup]

"I locked my controller in a timed lock" "Click out of one, nothing on two, three is binding....."

[@MatEnAlks]

Based

[@kirosun]

Back to the beginning...

[@MrSphandor]

Love that guys channel

[@lilium9361]

Didn't expect a LPL reference here lol

[@ennou1236]

Ops my hand slipped, guess it opened on its own

[@ThirdEyeTyrone]

“Lead us not into temptation” not “allow me to resist temptation”

[@Nurunurunurunurunurunurunuru]

You really helped me with this! 🔥

[@Prod.Nov4_defunctchannel]

What I extracted from this video is why resist temptations when you should avoid putting yourself in situations where you are going to be tempted by something.

[@haljordan777]

So I should avoid the temptation of the snack vending machine in my workplace's breakroom by staying home?

[@Plasmafox]

The fewer temptations you subject yourself to, the more you will be able to resist the ones you can't control

[@averyintelligence]

If you don't want to fight a bear then stay away from bears. Makes sense

[@emberhermin52]

Fun fact: a child's ability to pass the marshmallow test depends on whether or not they believe they'll get the second marshmallow. They may not trust the adults to keep their promise or they may not believe food is so freely available that they can just choose not to eat it when they have it. Kids who ate that first marshmallow are afraid of losing their chance.

[@jeffreyjefferson536]

I wouldn't call it a "(fun) fact", but it's a cool theory! I've never thought about the experiment this way, but it really makes sense. My guess: self-confidence, basic trust in others and whatever we call willpower are somehow related. If a kid (or an adult for that matter) can't defer a certain need (for example eating a marshmallow) there must be reasons for that behavior. So yeah, makes sense to look for those reasons. Great comment, really made me think again - thanks :)

[@tubbyszabo6586]

What if the kid had no taste for marshmallows (hated marshmallows), but thought they would be forced fed? Therefore they eat the one marshmallow prevent being forced into gulping down two. Sound smart to me😎

[@whatevsbyatch]

Study also has its limitations. In real time we are not locked away with the addictive substance. Kinda like the mice that chose cocaine, but only because they were isolated. Basically, if we have a strong and positive emotional connection to others, we are empowered to make better choices.

[@lebenmachtkunstlifepowersa9813]

no there was still a difference when they showed them the second Marshmallow

[@MetaReplication]

Damn... That adds a whole new layer

[@blackfrost9011]

The girl who ate the inside of the marshmallow should get a third marshmallow for her creativity.

[@rattled4806]

I don't believe your sentence makes sense buddy

[@existing3628]

Maybe his English isnt the best...

[@danielc1078]

Or maybe punished for her attempt at deception? Lol

[@shubhakarkada8737]

@@danielc1078 that was smart for a kid

[@KaitlinGaspar]

laws are made up by dumb dumb idiots

[@relaxingsounds9868]

This channel is gold

[@chrismoiser6477]

Willpower is the means by which potential is realised, without it nothing is possible

[@MrPixifan]

When you make a whole video to justify your purchase to your girlfriend

[@nouraalq.6062]

lmaoooo

[@rMeghann]

Lol, but it was perfect

[@jeffreydecoster4461]

"What, 70 bucks?!" - "Don't worry, honey, I'll make it all back with the video I'll make about it"

[@healthyconsistency4748]

So this is why when I left my phone in the car while in the library studying with just books and note pads I was able to focus for way longer for med school tests

[@josealzaibar5274]

People are missing the point: willpower is what gets you to setup physical and external blockers so that you remain consistent.

[@eudziro]

Bro, this is really nice content

[@modi5041]

“your iq score could go down as much as 10 points when you have an unread email” me: has 2400 unread emails guess i havw a really low iq edit: i now have 3400 unread emails and counting

[@KallusGarnet]

All my mail is read and it hasn't helped me.

[@MsTatakai]

@@KallusGarnet i don't even read the emails XD

[@alhassani626]

I only read personal mails.

[@RealWunderBanana]

Ya I have 6,010 unread emails...

[@revnation1]

small brain

[@wesnohathas1993]

It's easy to underestimate the mental energy that goes into making any conscious decision, and overthinking just makes it worse.

[@Radiato-ui6js]

"Willpower is like a muscle. You can tire it out". Yea and what do you do if your muscle is fatigued? You rest. And you do that as well with willpower.

[@szpsubzero11]

This video has shown up in my feed 6 times after wathing it once