Say This! Exact Words & Phrases for High Conflict Relationships & Dating

[@AdrienneEverheart]

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[@lunamorena390]

I think your proposal of deep, useful and well studied content comes from a GREAT PLACE in your beautiful heart. I'll insist again, is the "form" that in my opinion stands on your own way, your " exaggerated way to speak" is not natural, being feminine is NOT being "childish", you are a beautiful mature woman, maybe lowering your high pitched voice, etc. will allow your great programs to get even further! Radical & Respectful: LM

[@SummerShine]

watching as a high conflict person. and people do change. all the time.

[@EverlastingHeartKeepsakes]

Bill Edy is fabulous. I have one of his books on this topic because of my coparenting situation.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

That’s amazing. Thank you for sharing.

[@Miss_hells_bells]

This was such a helpful topic and video for my situation. I often feel people give great relationship advice put often the advice is difficult to apply when dealing with my very HCP. It also helps me feel like I'm not crazy that they escalate so quickly, that it is part of their personality and I'm being pretty gracious and kind with my behavior and they can still take it to a 10. Hearing tools on how to handle these types of situations is very helpful and I will look deeper into this gentleman's work, as well.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

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[@jenniferRainwater]

I'm happy to hear that you are able to deal with your HCP. What most ppl don't realize, is that HCP's need love, too, LoL. Also, some HCP's are extraordinary human beings, that happen to have a personality disorder, that's not really their fault because it was the way they were raised as children. It was the only way that they could cope, in life (* according to the experts and all the books I've read,,,) It is my strong belief that it takes a very strong person to be in a relationship with an HCP or a narcissist. ( So all the experts say) It takes a strong person to be able to be in a relationship with a narcissist, without getting destroyed in the process. So-- there's hope! If I can stay married to a narcissist for over 37 years,, then you can survive your HCP! LoL! Just be careful and don't get hurt 🙌 ( or destroyed) What saved me was all the books that I've read on narcissistic personality disorder. I'm sure the same techniques can be applied to HCP's. Not trying to give advice, just a little encouragement and support for a fellow ' relationship - warrior '! LoL. Be strong and be safe!

[@heatherblack7593]

This was FASCINATING. Thank you so much for interviewing this guest and I’m definitely going to have to check out his book now!! 💜

[@AdrienneEverheart]

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[@TreasureForeverOfficial]

This was so helpful… I was tempted to call my breadcrumbing guy in the middle of it and use the techniques… But I think I’ll just watch the video a few more times and then that way next time we reconnect I’ll be better prepared

[@AdrienneEverheart]

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[@Simply.Delphien]

Honestly I’m not in a romantic relationship with HCP, yet there are family members within that circle that are HCP and this is very important information I needed to hear, thank you!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

You are SO welcome!

[@raerivera5676]

This is soo good! Thank you!❤

[@AdrienneEverheart]

I'm glad it helped!

[@jenniferRainwater]

I've managed to stay married to a true narcissist for over 37 years by using these communication techniques outlined in this video! ( And, countless other books about narcissism) so few ppl in this world can understand them, leave alone stay the course and actually love them, that puts our value, in their eyes through the roof! I don't think that I could ever escape him now ( I've left him 3 times!) He always finds a way to get me back! The love - bombing etc is off the charts! In his case, ( not all) he's actually a good man, in all other ways in his life, puts me in a pedestal, treats me like a Queen, very charming etc. It's the strangest thing being love- bonded to someone who has a personality disorder like this,, he gets so sorry when he loses his temper. I really do believe that they really can't help themselves because this is how they learned as a child that a relationship should be. After getting to know his Mom - I see exactly where he learned this! His mom thinks that a toxic, abusive relationship is normal. ( He's not nearly as bad as his mom, and in fact, has rejected her and won't even speak to her because of this. He actually stood up for me, to her when it came down to it. In fact, the entire family is on to her narcissistic behavior now and she's pretty much in the dog house. Actually, all of her sons (4) have disowned her for years at a time because of her toxic behavior. I feel sorry for my husband for having to grow up with a Mom like her. According to all the experts, a narcissist is unable to see their own behavior as a problem, and are unable to change their behavior. Mine has been able to do both. Of course, he'll always revert to his basic narcissistic tendencies if push comes to shove. But, in the end,, he knows that he's not supposed to treat me the way that he does at times, and will tell me how sorry he is. (He's become very good at begging me back!) Thanks to all the good information out there on how to deal with Narcs, I've been able to change myself, and the way that I can communicate more effectively with my narc ( with minimal triggering) I truly believe that we not only have to be a strong person to come out of a relationship like this, without destroying ourselves in the process. We also have to be willing to do the inner work on our self- in order to grow and see things about ourselves that we need to change. Not everyone can survive a true narcissist. Mine happens to be an extraordinary man,, he would do anything for me- even see himself as others see him- deeply flawed and 'not normal '. ( He calls himself the 'bad man'!) Not so bad, tho. He never even gets a traffic ticket, pays 100% of his debts, always helps out his family, no matter what. In fact, is a good man in every way, and calls himself a bad man because of his personality disorder in his interpersonal relationship with me, and me alone. According to the experts, a true narcissist doesn't have this self-awareness and especially can not change. So, it begs the question- is he actually just an HCP? With strong narcissistic tendencies? This video has made me rethink a few things. I'm glad that I didn't divorce him, after all. The older he gets, the more mellow and in many ways, these have been the best years of our marriage. We're in our early, 60's now. Life is a strange journey. You're never too old to learn something new! 💞🙌

[@AdrienneEverheart]

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[@Munchkinbaby777]

This is a godsend. And whenever I say I feel at my limit with him telling me off he just said-you seen me at work thats me telling someone off (he shouts at his staff). I just mentioned that he wouldn't ever do that to me because I wouldn't stay in the same room if he ever spoke to me like that. Honestly, him talking me down 'Youre wrong I'm right' thing and you apologise to me.

[@AdrienneEverheart]

I’m so sorry this is happening. Sending you hugs. Go deeper with “500 Ways,” ebook and 2 day video classes. bit.ly/500waysbook

[@nazneenkassar1247]

Looking beautiful!

[@SummerShine]

id be willing to bet that all of the HCP are highly highly traumatized from chronic abuse as children. or were children of those people, or children of people with PTSD.

[@jenniferRainwater]

@@SummerShine I agree. Just look at the parents, ( or primary care giver) to see where they get their behavior from. My husband's mother is a classic narcissist. Children learn from someone how to be in a relationship. They grow up thinking it's normal to be this way in a relationship. It's transgenerational, they say, and I can believe it after getting to know my husband's mother! She's so toxic, and cannot see herself this way. At least my husband has some self awareness and can also see that his Mom is not normal. Both he and his brothers can see that their Mom is toxic, and all of them has disowned her at one point in her life. ( Not now tho, because she is old and sick and needs help) (See my comment here in 7/27 for the whole story) I feel sorry for my husband to have grown up with a Mom as toxic as his. It's a miracle that he didn't turn out nearly as bad as her and that none of his brothers became narcissists, themselves! Most families don't even get to the point to even identify the narc in their family and break the generational 'curse'. Be blessed! 🙏

[@ethicalbunny]

As a very high conflict person I would agree with him 😅

[@rosiechic5590]

I'm wondering if disappearing and ignoring someone when there is a conflict instead of figuring out a solution to make things better fall in this topic ?

[@AdrienneEverheart]

I think it depends on the topic. I personally believe in tackling the hard stuff first unless you suspect the person is using conflict to create drama, get attention or control your emotions. “What do you think is right to do?” Is a good script to use.

[@Braveh3artGirl]

It creates disconnection and hurt, resentment etc. because nothing is resolved and you’re emotionally neglected. My partner does this to me all the time and i am potentially done. Healthy relationships = communication, healthy communication ❤

[@Angie247Beers]

Wow! This is HARD! When you're in love/committed/married to someone who is high conflict/passive aggressive/etc that can have their fuse flip on a dime to only discuss with them "What CAN WE do now... or moving forward" and serve them options and consequences instead of talking about "When such & such happens, I feel..." We, as feminine women want to be adored and cherished and not treat our men as if they are our children. I'm only halfway through this video so far, but I can tell you as a woman in a high conflict marriage that talking about our feelings ALL OF THE TIME is unbearable to men that can't handle being vulnerable. They, these high conflict/avoidant/passive aggressive types of personalities need to SEE that we, as the dynamite beautiful loving caring WOOO-man have our own juicy full delicious life and that we'll be just fine with or without his energy in it. Just my reflections after being through all Adrienne's amazing programs, getting engaged and married last May. Our anniversary is on the 21st and things would look a lot different in my life without all your amazing work Adrienne❤ ❤❤❤❤

[@MelissaRebecca123]

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[@marys9925]

Why why why put so such energy into someone so broken , deal with what has gotten YOU into such a relationship , the issues obviously start with you