SAYAS JAPANESE PODCASR Ep.3 | Why Is It Difficult To Make Friends In Japan? (Subs in JP / EN)

[@ennizodev9682]

私にとって、賛成って言ったか、反対って言ったらもあるよ。それぞれの人によってほんとに性格が別々に持っています、結論は簡単に友達を探したし、とにかく難しいもある。

[@Gambatte_123]

すごく面白くて、分かりやすいエピソードでそよね❤ ありがとう!

[@sayasjapaneselesson]

ありがとうございます！

[@kisuke5491]

個人的には、神道や仏教を学べば、幼い頃からその考えのもとに育ってきた日本人の本質が理解できると思っています。 もちろん「空気を読む」と「建前」を理解するために日本語も勉強する必要があります。🤓 サヤさんのポッドキャストはいつも私にたくさんの新しい言葉を教えてくれます。🥵✍🏼 お疲れ様です。🍎

[@sayasjapaneselesson]

そうですね！神道や仏教の教えは日本人自身気づいていないことが多いけど、実は日本人の根本的な価値観に強く影響していると思います。

[@zoeykeller9083]

Hello Saya. This year i tried learning Spanish and Japanese. How do you learn spanish from Japanese since you are living in Spain now? Learning Japanese was hard for me once i reach Katakana. Hirigana was still manageable for me. Spanish was easier for me since it's in alphabets and i was studying French previously..

[@kibounohikari-y3z]

違うくて、なんて言ったら笑われる。

[@LaraGucciTV]

Speak the language and don't live in Tokyo, it's that easy.

[@sayasjapaneselesson]

Yess I wish 'speak the language' happens out of nowhere haha

[@shizuokaBLUES]

Making friends in Japan is extremely hard. Some of my fellow expats have never had a Japanese friend I have not had much luck myself. My two friends were my age, and spoke great English and we had similar interests. They moved away over ten years ago and I haven’t made a Japanese friend since. I’ve had girlfriends but just two friends in 30 years here. Essentially Japanese can’t deal with foreigners unless those foreigners are absolutely bilingual and bicultural OR the Japanese themselves are bilingual and bicultural. The mindset here is essentially “Japan vs. The rest of the world (gaikoku)” I’m not saying it’s impossible BUT it’s basically rare.

[@Kerokerokeroppipipi]

I agree. Japanese are told all the time on the media or from teachers, parents about how Japanese are different from everyone and kind of "unique." It creates a huge barrier when making friends, even if its just ignorant blanket statements about "gaikokujin" or never fully getting close to you. Or the assumptions? My country 's manners are different from Japan, but we still have manners. We dont live in chaos. There are times where my Japanese friends treat me like a stupid child who doesnt know anything, even though my mother is Japanese and i have family here. There's often an underlying assumption of superiority. It doesn't sit well with me. Or I've had good friends for over a decade who just ghost and disappear out of the blue. It never feels like ride or die, both feet in. It's like always keeping their cards close to their chest, like an extreme privacy. Everything becomes so complicated and you're worried about being judged for everything (clothes, manners etc). I stress about opening the door the wrong way etc. To be honest, I've kind of given up on making close friends here. If it happens- great - but it's not something I actively want to seek anymore.

[@shizuokaBLUES]

@ wow is this ever the truth !! Your message here really speaks to me.

[@nasei8370]

​@@Kerokerokeroppipipi I'm Japanese, and I don't think it's true that Japanese people are constantly told by the media, teachers, and parents about how different and "unique" Japanese people are. In fact, I think many people have the cultural relativist idea that every country and culture is unique. There are many programs that deal with the lifestyle and culture of foreign countries, and when I was a student, I came across the idea that ``different countries have different ways of thinking.'' I think that's why Japanese people want to maintain a sense of Japanese manners in Japan. This is not a denial of the manners in your culture. and I don't believe in superiority, but rather than having our priorities, including manners and privacy, affected or rejected, we are inclined to distance ourselves in order not to interfere each other's way of life.

[@zak8953]

I'm learning Japanese in a pretty unconventional way. No translation, no subtitles, just trying to listen and watch with zero knowledge of Japanese. Would it be possible for you to incorporate more miming/acting out what you're saying, while still keeping the speech normal and natural? It would also be nice to be able to not see the Japanese subtitles (I'm not using them). Not trying to be demanding, I'm just saying what would help me out. Love the videos and thank you for making them!

[@Ramentop88]

You're not going to be able to learn Japanese that way 😂😂😂

[@100ksanders]

You're asking Saya to "incorporate more miming/acting out what you're saying." In other words, you're asking her to behave in an unnatural way because you're too lazy to put effort into learning Japanese in a "conventional" way. By the way, if seeing the Japanese subtitles is too much stress you can cover that part of your screen with a piece of paper. Saya is doing an excellent job.

[@methandtopology]

Too hard, slowly accepting it won't happen

[@sayasjapaneselesson]

I'll introduce 10 different ways of making friends in Japan in next episode!