Saying Goodbye, Group and Social media friendships, Lazy friendships and MORE. Pt 2.

Saying Goodbye, Group and Social media friendships, Lazy friendships and MORE. Pt 2.
Part 2 is upon us and it is hotter. Please celebrate our guest, Bunmi George in the comments for blessing us from her deep well of wisdom!
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[@gbolajesuamusa]

The way this video got me crying, cause I have realised the last time I actually experienced the word “friendship,” was as a child. These days I just have lot of acquaintances I call friends and that’s not because I don’t want to be friends with them, but just scared of letting people into my inner space and giving them chances to hurt me 🥺.

[@ebenezersianga8433]

you and me both.. I cried because these two touched a sensitive area that I have been trying to ignore

[@ZeeSese]

Jbums has mastered the friendship act

[@omothefavoured]

Mastery !👌

[@nonyudeze]

Wow!!! Part 1 of this video made we rethink about my lost friendships and at some point I made a mental note to reach them or try to reconnect but after watching this part 2, I now know that the friendships were lacking the most important virtues (for me as well) which were the GOD FACTOR, Vulnerability, Intentionality, maturity and interest🙅🏽‍♀️ So at this rate, I have decided to pray to God to connect me with my destined friends 🙏 while thanking Him for the very few ones I have. Thanks for this Friendship master class🙏

[@adedoyingrace8505]

Wowwwww You made the best decision ma'am

[@ogomsseries]

Mehnnnn listening to Jbums speak,friendship go dey very sweet with her❣️❣️❣️❣️going all out and being intentional in being there for your friend. I enjoyed this discussion👌👌👌

[@SisiYemmieTV]

7:38 hmmmm

[@oduntanfatimoh7063]

jbums needs to release a book on friendship pleaeeaaase😋🙇‍♀️🥰🥰🥰

[@ekelindaadaku]

Words!!!

[@TheAdedolapo.]

I totally agree

[@oluwatobiosoko1033]

I agree o

[@estherobademi]

Ikrrr

[@lifewithtosin4492]

No doubt

[@acoupleofteas]

What convicted me the most, **friendships have to be watered, it's not a we'll pick up from wherever type of thing!! Lord I repent, and will make effort to be more intentional. Really loved this, some of my other takeaways, **If someone wants to learn from you they aren't necessarily your friend, they are a mentee! **I'm generally a giver, my love language is gifts and so I find that in a lot of friendships I'm constantly giving, great reminder that it's ok for friends to shoe you love in different ways too. Solid discussion ladies📌📌📌

[@Relaright]

This video has blessed me sooo much. To think on Sunday, i just had a nudge in my spirit to reach out to someone that we were very good friends from school and just few weeks to my wedding, we had a fallout. I had questions as to what happened exactly . sha sha sha watching this video, i've requested for her number from a mutual friend and we'll be having a call this evening. Thank you JBums for sharing so much with us.

[@Narnah_EG]

Hope you were able to reconnect?

[@MojireAjayi]

One thing I’ve learned is meeting your friends where they are. Understanding friendship visions is also important. Try to understand each others vision. Because when how I take you is not how you take me or vice versa, that needs to be straightened out to avoid hurt.

[@MojireAjayi]

Understanding love languages, personalities, background etc. honestly friendship isn’t for the faint hearted if you’re really in it. Intentionally building the relationship everyday is key. It truly mirrors an aspect of our relationship with God.

[@pearly-greaty]

I honestly need a friend at this point in my life. I've been praying about this and I sincerely can't wait for my answered prayers. 🙏

[@ogechaakor3202]

Everything she said applies even in marriage. The point where she said ,when intentionality is over the friendship is over.In a marriage where intentionality is absent ,that marriage is either dead or dying and it's only a matter of time when someone will bail out.Wow🙌

[@ToluSeyiDaniel]

I love where Bunmi talked about acceptance and knowing when it’s over. Also, when she talked about knowing your place in people’s lives and choosing to accept your position either as an acquaintance or just a colleague. I also feel like at a certain age especially from the thirties and up you just start to appreciate friendships that are easy, don’t feel forced and no pressure to perform or be a certain way to keep them. Very insightful video

[@Torybylade]

For me friends can be classified. There are coffee friends, party friends, soul friends etc. There are even home friends as well 🤣🤣🤣🤣 knowing how to classify friendship is quite important anyways.

[@omothefavoured]

Knowing limits is wisdom !

[@estherajagbe9764]

I was listening to Jbums and I didn't know when I started praying for wisdom. Listening to her talk alone, you can get that speaks from a wealth of wisdom. God bless you ma as you have been a blessing to me.

[@tomi8955]

A little tip mama . Kindly cut this video into shorts and upload to KZbin , might reach more people with this great message

[@Koko._]

solid conversations here with a lot of nuggets to take away. Over time I have gotten to appreciate the importance of good and healthy female friendships and being a good friend as well. Well done Tolulope and JBums

[@BridalBeauty.]

I feel like jumping out of the chair I’m sitting on right now, I’m just screaming anyhow. No way Jbums was not in my bible study on friendship this morning. I’m literally in shock because everything Holy Spirit downloaded me with this morning she is saying it and I can give scriptural backing for every point she raised. Jbums you are biblically sound! You don’t just make noise. Thank you for this. Thank you. Thank youuuu Solutions mama. The part 1 and part 2. No words, just thank you and God bless you. You’ve confirmed a lot on my heart

[@olajumokebiz9698]

Jbum needs a KZbin channel!!!! She is so passionate

[@zoeya239]

Can't agree less, her vibes ehnnn no be here

[@lydianastores7665]

She has

[@olajumokebiz9698]

@@lydianastores7665 please link it here

[@back2life8]

The humility in this lady is amazing! I pray God makes me humble like this 🙌🏾 Because this wall be built up tight and to gradually break the walls can be daunting! Thanks for this video.

[@Katekhama]

Part one was great.

[@temitope_ilori]

This was the conversation we didn’t know we needed. Thank you Tolulope and Jbums❤️❤️❤️

[@Deyemi_]

I'm blessed with one bestie since uni days and we've had our difficult times, but we are never giving up on each other. She's my ride and win. I've met several females after her but none can take her place. I'll fight for what we have, until I really feel She's done with us.

[@ZeeSese]

After watching these videos biggest takeaway we need each other, building and growing friendships is essential

[@oluwadinma]

You see that Vulnerability point 👌 Don't come acting all perfect in our friendship while making it seem my life is a mess.

[@bangibabs]

Amen👌🏾💯

[@ekentahorsfall329]

And my bestfriend is on this chat and she does lazy friendship sometimes 😂but I know her heart and love her intentionally. Thanks for this wonderful video. It speaks so much on everything on my heart and what I think about friendship. For me I think if God is the root of your friendship, it can withstand every weather same with marriage! I love every bit of this video

[@tuatonsarahgbassa8716]

❤

[@jocelynhadassah]

That was so refreshing and enlightening. Please give us another episode on love language in female friendships. Jbums you are the SI unity for female friendships and I love you sis.

[@chinwea5145]

Thanks Tolu and Bunmi for this 2 part learning series. I felt judged(the gbas gbos ehn, Jesu!) 😄😄 , corrected and inspired at the same time. God bless you both and continue to keep you

[@boluwatifeigbasan231]

As in ehen, I was like my chwest

[@zoeya239]

O gbam gonnnnn. Me I've always said friendship is serious hard work and I dey take am personal no be small, that's why I would rather have few I will give my all to than friends for all. Capacity odi veri imporant like JBums said Na why I dey define my relationship from the word go.... Mama SoTov, this your dress ehnnnnnn, the thing just dey do me eye wini wini since fa 😀. Is so matured, charismatic and all shades of giving beuriii 🤩

[@joyamarachukwu9384]

Thank you Solutions for calling on Jbums on this space to bless us with her wisdom. Whoa, this is loaded and I've saved it already, and I feel it can also be applied in male friendships too. I was just asking in my heart can you please ask her about handling friendships and relationship, that is, with your spouse, introducing friendship to the family and introducing your friendship to your family, and having your own sister as your bestie, like everything in between. So so expecting a third session, love you both❤️😘

[@LadyDami]

JBumssss' dentition and smileeee😍

[@joyuko2152]

Wow! How can one person be filled with so much wisdom. Learnt a lot here for someone who doesn't even know how to make friends

[@miracleoluwasanmi]

With JBums' tips... friendship is really a higher calling🙊! Hmmmmm... 🤭

[@noaomime]

Wowsers, this is the video I didn't know I needed 🙏🏾🙏🏾 thank you ladies for this blessed conversation... Going back to watch part 1🚶🏾‍♀️🚶🏾‍♀️

[@fisayoogundoro]

This is a very rich conversation. Can we discuss love language in friendship and friendship with the opposite sex. Thank you Jbums and Tolu.

[@NenyeEzeuka]

Sistas,you guys really blessed us with wisdom.... Please do more of navigation on different topics together

[@oluwatomisinhephzibah743]

This video really blessed me, a lot. Thanks Tolu for asking the right questions, they are for me. Thanks JBums for answering with so much wisdom. This is a video I will watch over and over again Thank you 🙏🏼

[@adenijiayomide5328]

Once again wisdom dispensed😮‍💨🔥🔥 Thank you mamas❤️❤️

[@FunmiOdedoyin]

Fantastic 2 videos. Thanks Jbums and Tolusolutions. Such a great topic that we need more conversations on. Lady T, plsss do the video on how friendships affect your marital relationship… plssss!

[@faithfulakanbi7136]

I enjoyed every bit of this video. One key point; understand where people stand in your life and relate with them accordingly.

[@FopsyTheGreat]

Friend vs mentee! Very different boundaries. So good 👏🏾

[@momentswithvicky]

Very interesting conversation, still an advocate of intentional female friendships. Being the type of friend u want to ur friends 👏🏻

[@onianwajuanita4158]

Who else liked before watching??? I love female friendship ♥️I absolutely enjoyed part 1 , I can tell that part 2 is loaded

[@SEUNNY2306]

Thanks so much, Tolulope Solutions for inviting Jbums to talk about friendship. I have really learnt a lot from this vlog. May God continually bless you and cause His face to shine upon you.

[@ritadosumu7327]

I've been anticipating this. The first part was really insightful. Thank you solutions for being an inspiration. God bless you!

[@Torybylade]

There is nothing like asking God to give you the spirit of discernment when it comes to friendship. Only God sees the end from the beginning. Inu ti Jin ju

[@rutholusegun9328]

Gosh, what I have learned about friendship by watching both parts of this video, I have never heard anywhere. Wow 🔥🔥🔥

[@TheMsadelaide]

Jbums Jbums!! Ahh wisdom overload! Intentionality! God bless you ladies.

[@favourndakara]

I agree with what jbums said regarding that 'we pick up where we left off, friendship, after 5 years blah blah' ...I don't think its possible to be close friends with someone you're not constantly communicating with! Thank you for mentioning it. This was really a packed episode😂❤️❤️❤️

[@amakasophia8]

Am in awe of you two, am in a situation now and am very happy I saw this video, it has changed my mindset about this particular friend and I feel liberated. It's actually ok not to be friends since it will always bring issues. God bless you two😘🙏

[@ijatuyiopeyemi4204]

I always have a lot to put down in my journal each time I'm on this page. Thanks a lot for this.

[@ThebeautifulRuth]

Thank you for this total breakdown 🙌. You are so blessed solutions and your guest. I wish all Ladies can navigate to female FRIENDSHIP

[@bangibabs]

I do not agree a 100% with lazy friendship part I think it is more about different personalities. I have good friends who we do not speak even for a month and indeed have each other’s backs. We share intimate situations and counsel and comfort each other. I have tried the whole constant communication thing with friends and it backfired, I constantly felt overwhelmed and burned out and my close friends also shared the same sentiments 😂😂 I guess we love our space😂😂😂 . Yes there are people that may be lazy and lack intentionality, however if such a person is like that with everyone and does not demand what they do not give then I would not see that person as being lazy but would understand that, that person may not be a perfect fit for someone who has a desire for constant communication. Also If they are lazy with selected people and intentional with others then that would be a cause for concern. That is why it is important to be compatible in friendships and understanding if you are in a mutual friendship. For some people they love their space and that is not being lazy. Those friends who we are not always talking in my experience we have been close. Sometimes I think we over think friendship and have a very generalised mindset on this. Acquaintance in my opinion is a person/people you do not draw in and are not ever intimate (vulnerable) with. Communication with an acquaintance is very superficial and does not go deeper. Some people cannot do groups and enjoy a few close friends or just one friend. What is important in friendship is sharing interests, mutual love and respect, vulnerability, respecting each other’s boundaries and most importantly understanding that your friends are individuals and have their own lives. Most importantly it is important to feel safe around your friends, to feel comfortable to be yourself and comfortable to open up to them with no shame or betrayal. Friendship is very complex and very delicate. Thanks ladies for the video🥰💝.

[@Diddys_Space]

Jbums is dishing wisdom back to back. I am happy to hear this....cos I have been questioning my friendship with my bestie....but its good to communicate and understand the heart of this person. Cheers to awesome friendships. ❤

[@candidajumpah8020]

Great insight. And for me I believe knowing on what level you are placed as a friend or on what level you place a person as a friend or anything else can contribute to the growth of the relationship.

[@wyndie__22]

Jbums, we need a book on friendship pleaseeee😪❤️❤️ It’s the depth for me!!🥰🔥

[@abisoladawodu680]

You people should come and gimme friends.. see how I'm tearing up as you're explaining friendship.

[@anitamenkiti9720]

Myself can I be your friend

[@Jaylove777]

Love it!! Love languages are key!! You have to know your close friend’s love language. Friendship takes effort and intentionality. You can’t expect friendship to just happen without doing anything!

[@iam_Jaia]

Hmmmm, part 1 &2 filled with deep wisdom... I have never been lucky with female friendships but my heart yearns for one so much, I know it will happen one day Thank you Mama Solutions and JBUMS🙌

[@omothefavoured]

Thanks ladies .Very profound and aptly delivered ! ❤️❤️Very importantly ,we need to become that good we want to attract to ourselves "intentionally thinking responsibly to give value at all times while intuitively placing everybody that comes our way where they actually fit ".**if you see a friend that wants to outshine you at all cost ..my 2cents advice ...Run ,Run ,Run !👋🏃

[@Barnabas_Akinrinola]

Omoooooo, Jesus Bunmi!!🤭🙌🏾 Thank you both so much for this depth of wisdom, insight and experience. May God continue to bless all of us with useful and godly friendships.😊❤️

[@Pinspiratio_n]

Oh my goodness this conversation is it!!! So many gems!!!

[@uchesamuel961]

You ladies are wonderful, I was richly blessed with this, thank you.

[@janekefas8482]

I can relate with everything she's said so far . Mature and perfect understanding of friendship you've got.

[@sinachinwachukwu190]

Watching this part 2 I can’t wait the part 1 was already loaded…Thank you Solutions mama for bringing JBums…

[@hellaiiputa8917]

I love the pair, and every question to bumi seems to be so big, but then comes with an even bigger answer 🤣, thank you for bringing her for us madam solutions we love you 😘

[@efuawealth746]

Thank you. God bless you two

[@omonovha]

This video be making me a better friend... Thank you Solutions and Jbums❤

[@theelilibeth]

Thank you so much for sharing Jbums. This really helped me navigate a friendship I had an issue with and gave me peace.

[@omokehindeyadewunmi5273]

Jbums is me,I'm jbums....I'm that friend that love to be there for my friends! The truth is to be the type of friend you want,the universe will give back what you give out!!!

[@Thisisbisola]

This was so good! Tolu, you asked the right questions and Jbums answered gracefully. Well done and more grace to you too❤️❤️❤️

[@gloriakelechi]

A female friend of mine that I loved so much hurt me deeply while we were in the university. When I gave my life entirely to Christ, I was led by the Holy spirit to forgive her. She never came to ask me for forgiveness, but I was instructed to forgive her for the sake Of Jesus Christ. After the that experience, I became slow at making friends. However God has His way of planting good friends around His children.

[@similoluwaadekoye]

I'm in awe of the wisdom you both radiate. Thank you Jbums and mama solution🥰❤

[@busayoadeyemo455]

Beautiful discussion. I do not have core friends like that because I always thought I didn't have energy for it but now I know I didn't even understand what friendship was supposed to be. Thanks for sharing the insight. I hope I can do better

[@ruthmubwangolo1302]

Wow wow wow . I had to stop the video and go text a friend 🥰 . Be blessed ladies

[@wisdomazeta5896]

Thank you so much T-solutions and Jbums for this Friendship Wisdom🤩

[@tijesuawotoye]

Jbums is so full of wisdom! Thank youuuu for pouring into us. Love you mamasss

[@chidinmaobj]

Intentionalityyyyyyyyy! Quality friendships require work and watching this video, I’m truly thankful for the ones God has given me the privilege to do life with.

[@pelumijegede4696]

I didnt want it to enddddd

[@owenikponmwosa7315]

I see a part three coming up!! Loved this out pour of wisdom form you excellent women 🤭♥️.

[@odogbilitreasure4828]

Mama solutions u told me part 2 will be hotter and it definitely is 🔥🔥 absolutely love JBUMS❤️Team solutions appreciates u ma thank u for sharing from your wealth of wisdom.

[@oreoluwaosaghiwere6412]

Thank you Soo much jbumsss,you really have so much grace for friendships 💯💯

[@janeal6510]

Thank you so much Jbums. Thank you. Thank you. I have been corrected, taught and instructed from these sessions. Thank you MamaSolutions for always sharing.

[@priscaisimoya]

Thank you so much for sharing, I really enjoyed the videos.

[@tsky86]

LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS!!!! so many gems were dropped. Friendships is so sweet when it is fruitful. Thanks JBums & Tolulope Solutions

[@doreenonekalit9888]

Great insight on friendships and sisterhood invaluable conversation. This was a very needed information.

[@JoyConnoiseur]

I have been following Jbums for years and after watching this video, I unconsciously went to recheck to make sure that I was following her 'well'😂😂😂

[@ewuolaoluwatoyin6392]

I must really say u didn’t do any mistakes meeting jbums🥰 no regrets here👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I love every bit of this talk🥰 thank you @tolulopesolutions for blessing us with this words of knowledge

[@tenigma__]

Jbums means Jesus' Bunmi. I'm so proudddd and so touched 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@delightfulland5715]

I love this topic. Thank you for sharing from your well of knowledge. The Hand of the Lord is on you both. Much love💕 . Cheers 🥂

[@amakakumolu-johnson]

God bless you Jbums and Mama Solutions for this topic. I'm going to watch it over and over again until I get it right.

[@oluwatunmisealadesawe3435]

@tolulope solutions, your questions were so on point!

[@selmaingashipola8944]

I have friends that I literally tell them/share things happening in my life but they don't share what's happening in their lives with me, at first I always thought that perhaps they don't like talking about it, I would always find out way late. So I've just stopped sharing my life experiences/journey with them.

[@graceijiola1238]

I feel this friendship talk is for every relationship. Down to the intentionality part, I've learned a lot. Thank you solutions, thank you jbums

[@iteoluwakiisiakinwole4103]

These GEMS💎 God bless you solutions! God bless you Jbums

[@chilo428]

Jbums shes is such a breath of fresh air, thank you for bringing her on, you both inspire me.

[@ebereelizabeth2879]

So much wisdom here. Thank you both for sharing these timely truths.

[@staceyfonteh956]

Thank you so much for sharing. Learnt a lot.

[@TheAdedolapo.]

I'm so glad you had this conversation and I learnt so much. Fresh oil and anointing in Jesus name 🙏

[@chisomresolve3947]

Solutions you guys did a very good job on friendship..more wisdom

[@zeemadaki]

Mama Soso thank you for bringing her