Scared of fighting? Prepare to die

One of the most frequently asked questions I get: how do I get over all the nerves and fear that come with fighting.
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[@blightknight437]

“To win any battle, you must fight as if you are already dead.” Miyamoto Musashi

[@YangSword9x]

Fight like you knew fight was over you were hit/killed...& youre here to re-live it again to find a way out/to win.

[@kems636]

@@YangSword9x are you sure about that?

[@tikkidaddy]

Bingo

[@chrismcdaniel475]

@Wills Pram you use the best technique Sun Tzu would say.

[@chrismcdaniel475]

@@YangSword9x amen

[@SwuaveWEB]

You guys ever watch Mike Tyson early in his boxing career? I watched this documentary "Mike Tyson the untold story.". He is literally balling his eyes out, pacing around, scared. He was so afraid to go get in the ring. Hugging his brother/friend being comforted. According to the conversation I was listening to, this is after he had already done like "20 fights". That guy was such an interesting character, still is.

[@s1r155]

SwuaveWEB that’s interesting, I guess he was able to harness his fear and turn it to anger

[@TheRealChrisLopez]

S1 R1 He never looked angry before his fights, he'd play the character but it didn't seem entirely natural, real as though that meanness was there manifesting itself but not his natural inclination, if you look at his eyes he looks terrified, not of the opponent but more of the situation, everything else, life I suppose, the fame, attention, when I look at his eyes he looks like he feels like an alien in his own world and the fight and the training, his coaches, punching bags, whatever it is allowed him to tune out the world and have a tunnel vision focus on the object in front of him rather than feeling the world converging on him, it changed after everything fell apart, he seems way more at ease not being looked at as inhuman and feared now just more appreciated.

[@ADAPTATION7]

Yes, it's hard to understand that in his younger days, Mike Tyson was affraid even though he always came on top. I guess it was stress.

[@mikesimmons3876]

Mike was only afraid of letting Cus and other down. The man did crack cocaine and steroids before fights and you’re saying he wasn’t really angry? Are you fucking stupid?

[@maurice2014]

@@mikesimmons3876 hey that's not nice 😯

[@ahmednafis]

fighter and a philosopher. u sir have earned my respect.

[@raymondy6499]

Many of the best are.

[@randymuaythai492]

agree. his understanding about fighting n life is equal. respect sabeum nim

[@evanturner1016]

@@randymuaythai492 o

[@veejayroth]

A gentleman and a scholar.

[@candiedapple1860]

"By definition only the coward is capable of the highest heroism." -David Gemmell

[@quantumhornet211]

Auspicious Legend a heroic act is only heroic if the person doing it is scared but does it anyway, and cowards feel the most fear, so only they can be capable of the highest heroism by dojng a heroic act and being the most scared

[@chrismcdaniel475]

Now this is a great topic.

[@michaelswet4532]

I watched a young man, a child get in the ring against an adult for his first sparring match. He started crying, but he kept fighting through the tears, you could tell he was scared, but he moved forward. I think it's possibly one of the greatest feats of bravery I have seen. It was an amazing thing.

[@bobofrmbroward5377]

light spar?

[@FalseProphetFallacy]

@@bobofrmbroward5377Most likely. I’m pretty sure the child would get flatlined otherwise. Unless by “child” OP means “~16 year old” or something.

[@leyla4737]

@@FalseProphetFallacy 47 years old, kid brother Billy

[@OptimisedHealth]

My advice is that you get in the ring yourself

[@Pinkman115]

Carpe diem

[@jason.wilberger2969]

Mr. Miyagi: "Cannot, must not! It's ok lose to opponent! Must not lose to fear!" :)

[@HardHardMaster]

Jason. Wilberger Miyagi quote...! thumbs up!

[@dianelidell5768]

That first movie wS part of why I got into martiL arts over 30 years ago and am still practicing 🤼‍♂️🥋🥊 😉. The quality of martial arts wasn't the greatest, but it was Mr. Miyagi and the chemistry of the characters that got me (most Mr. Miyagi though). Everything that he said was spit on 👍.

[@Quodge]

A coward dies a thousand times before his death, but the valiant taste of death but once. It seems to me most strange that men should fear, seeing that death, a necessary end, will come when it will come.” - William Shakespere.

[@gigicestone4902]

Quodge i find that quote senseless and stupid, coward and brave will both die only once, sure there's very rare cases of people who have been dead briefly before being brought back, but that's too rare to consider.

[@notmyname3681]

Easy to say when you're sitting at home banging out the plays... Not always so easy when faced with potential death. Stick old Bill in the trenches of WW1 and he might write a different story. A coward is not one who fears or even imagines their own death, but one who lets his fear overwhelm and control him. The truly brave are those who face their fear and overcome.

[@s1r155]

The quote’s not meant to be taken literally, death in this instance refers to the feeling of dying inside when we give in to feelings of fear and act in cowardly ways

[@gbritto98]

Idk why but I felt like I really needed to read that tonight. It really spoke to me

[@knightveg]

I like 2pac If I Die Tonite A coward dies a thousand deaths A soldier dies but oncethen 2pac 2 die 4You know what my momma used to tell me If ya can't find something to live for... ...then you BEST, find something ta die for

[@GeneTrujillo]

This is what my PTSD suffering martial artist Vietnam vet taught me. He learned it from Republic of Korean marines stationed nearby who he went out of his way to train with. In order to be able to face mortal combat like that, you have to accept your own death beforehand then seek only to bring about as much destruction upon the enemy as you possibly can while you can still will your body to operate. If you do that, if/when you do receive a death blow, instead of crying and being upset and falling down and dying like a normal person does, it doesn't really phase you, you just keep going. That is the essence of being a warrior. I guess when my dad finished battle and he was alive, he was surprised each time.

[@rockeysingh8841]

Another gem of great wisdom, thanks Gene.

[@thepants1450]

Ah Sensei Silver, I know him well

[@rickybushy]

Thanks for sharing, excellent info.

[@Empyrean340]

Would the last name of this vet happen to be West?

[@lxstcxentury8581]

Powerful thanks!

[@vincentvalentine5900]

"The best fighter is never angry.” -Lao Tzu

[@TheWelchProductions]

Anger can be good sometimes. Uncontrolled anger is not, though.

[@BaconSlayer69]

@@TheWelchProductionsanger is a good motivator

[@zephyrr108]

I don't think Lao Tse ever said that 😂

[@vincentvalentine5900]

@@zephyrr108 you are absolutely right! 😂

[@owen-yl1uq]

Very ironic coming from a man so angry he was executed for it

[@garethholman1050]

I'm more afraid of disability than death when entering into a fight, brain damage, crippled etc... living after and trying to pick up the pieces as well as the burden I'd be to my loved ones. I really enjoy your earnest talks and genuine goodness of character. Thank you for your insights and perspective. You've lived a heck of a life eh?

[@achowdhury47]

This is my thought exactly.

[@gospinN]

exactly and also for me not death but fear of pain

[@CheapyFlee]

@@gospinN pain goes away doesnt it

[@Untitlednobody]

Yes but if you accept death and fight with the fire of courage, you will not get hurt. But if you hesitate and choose not to accept, you will get hurt. That’s the irony of fear… it will only make what you are afraid of happening, more likely.

[@arcanearcher13]

Fear is natural, overcoming it is the real definition of bravery. Be brave and accept that if you put yourself at risk you may get harmed.

[@spencerpetersen4092]

When I was younger I almost drowned, and I remember a point before someone else at the pool noticed and saved me when I just accepted that I wasn't going to survive. It was a strangely peaceful moment. I've never forgotten it.

[@johnnygebert9891]

I had the same experience at about six or seven maybe years old. I accepted it as well, and that stayed with me some thirty years later

[@iixqcz]

I kinda felt that 😭

[@indriadrayton1132]

I almost drowned in a dumb wave pool at Virginia Beach. No one saw me as I struggled to the wall of the pool. While underwater, I could see the lifeguard had his back to me as I clawed at the wall trying to reach this handle as my head couldn't break the surface because of the waves. I reached that handle and pulled myself up, gasping. I look, and see 2 teen girls on a little rubber raft, with a 3rd one trying to pull the raft and her friends to safety. They yelled for help. The girl in the water went under, and I thought I heard gurgling. They were in the exact same spot I had just left. All I remember was I was there, told those girls, HOLD ON, and pulled. I heard alot of splashing. Then I heard, Miss, it's ok, you can stop now! I look up and saw toddlers around me. I pulled the raft with the teens till I reached the kiddie section of the pool. Got out, saw my friends on lounge chairs getting crocked and sat there saying, I almost died today, just staring blankly. I thank You, God, that I am here today to share about what You have done!

[@rockeysingh8841]

Well done for sharing this Spencer. Once one accepts and lets go then a strange peacefulness takes over.

[@bird5887]

@@indriadrayton1132 u made me cry with joy with that comment. I wish you well

[@ginahicks9752]

A deep thinker, a fighter, and a most respectable human being. Thank you for your wisdom ramble ;)

[@Goryus]

I used to compete in tournaments (unrelated to fighting), and I always found the best way to get over fear was to enter a lot of competitions. You lose at first but as you build confidence and realize you didn't die the last time, you become more comfortable.

[@chaucerparks5941]

I totally agree with you..✌💨🏃

[@marialumena]

You are so right

[@xyon9090]

*First thought of death came to me as early as 6 years old* and it is horrifying. As time passes by quickly at the age of 8, I'm afraid that time will pass by even more quickly and I would meet my end without even doing any significant thing in my life. My dad was the one that taught me about death at such an early age. Telling me that one day, HE will be gone, everyone that I love will be gone when the time comes and I would cry with utmost sadness. But I am happy that he did tell me at such an early time. I came to grow up and appreciate life more. *_It is not about having more time, it is about how you make the most of it._*

[@JP-wd1ok]

Dean Natuno this is why the younger generation is more saddened. We don't believe in a god anymore is ignorance bliss?

[@DatBoi-nt1mt]

Jesus is the path to eternal life

[@Aracne80]

@@JP-wd1ok God has really nothing to do with the belief in eternity. Forget about God and accept that this is a human experience "you" have for the moment. Nothing more. I mean, its fantastic, but its no more than that. Its like a game where you're in a matrix, doing all these roles to guide yourself thru life. Will you come back? Will you go to some "heaven"? Who knows? Who cares ... Life is important. Not Death.

[@bobbyhill4118]

Dextruider That’s right. Everyone should remember that one day they have to die, so this means that everyone should make the most of every day, and nobody should take life too seriously.

[@paulpolito2001]

Your father is/was wise to know this, and courageous to impart it. Peace, brother.

[@dav22we84]

My fear of death is that I cannot be there for the ones I love.

[@ScorpionMMA]

“Fear is not real, fear is not real, fear can only exist in our thoughts of the future, it is a product of our imagination causing us to fear things that are not present and may not ever exist. Danger is very real but fear is a choice” Will Smith

[@alix-mb1xm]

shouldve added to that "unless its your wife, then fear is very real, very real "

[@syedahmed8650]

@@alix-mb1xm get my wife’s name out of your f***** mouth 😂

[@murdogmusic2007]

Man.... THIS is a constant for me. Being a former US Marine a motorcycle enthusiast and a Taekwondo 2nd degree black belt, getting hurt (or worse) is constantly on my mind. But, if I let fear control me, I cease to live anyway.

[@239_baby6]

Wills Pram I noticed you said you have a grandson which means you’ve gotta be a little old and I’m 15 so we have different mindsets but in my life there’s certain situations where I need to fight or or I’ll look down on myself and I won’t respect myself and I’ll always beat myself down for not standing up and fighting whoever it is I needed to fight it’s happened before I stood down got scared and looked down on myself for about 2 years and it wrecked my self asteem and only now am I starting to try to lift myself up so I disagree strongly with what you said

[@gbormann71]

@@239_baby6 It's a pity you feel you can only crank up your self esteem by fighting. If it's your environment, it's time to get out of there. If it's not your environment, you're just a danger to others.

[@Handlethatone]

@@gbormann71 he didnt say it was the only thing that would crank his self esteem. Maybe an aspect in his life he wants to improve on such as exceeding in martial arts whether it's for fitness or career. Stop assuming.

[@BaconSlayer69]

Why do people put up their history upfront like that online who the F talks like that in real life 😂

[@lukelucas6789]

I know this is a 5 year old vid, but I also know you'll read this one day. This is so good and I've never heard anyone talk about that moment regarding imminent death. You explain it and help me feel like I'm not alone. I've never understood how people tall about dying, and I believe it's because they've not experienced that moment. It changes you... it is so reassuring to hear someone say what I feel. God bless you brother, good stuff as usual.

[@kakan147]

I really enjoyed listening to you. I've just taken up boxing again after several years and I really needed to listen to this. No one in the boxing gym ever has this talk, which I believe people should. I love the sport and want to keep moving forward, facing my fear in a healthy manner.

[@marcello256256]

I’m a boxer…I haven’t fought yet out of fear of fighting. Even sparring makes me anxious..

[@kakan147]

@@marcello256256 Practice makes perfect. Get a good sparring partner who understands what you're trying to accomplish and that listens to you. You need to move forward but in your own pace. Good luck

[@chicassoproductions8527]

I definitely agree that accepting death is imminent is crucial to enjoying life, however, no one really dies. Everyone will live forever in one state or another. Your spirit will move on to the next phase.

[@PraiseTheLord847]

Man I'm 25 and today I pussied out when going to walk to see my daughter, I seen a guy I might have conflict with and I turned around and went home to get another way over. I'm glad I've found this video I'll remember these things. Cry if I need to, it's ok to feel fear but do it anyway and that's courage, and we're all going to die someday. I can really relate the idea is worse than the real thing and I remember this as I've fought before in worse shapes than I'm at now and against harder opponents than this other guy (not in the ring just in life) thanks man I'm not going to hate myself for today, I'm going to work on change

[@gbormann71]

Your daughter needs you for the long run. Wise decision.

[@indriadrayton1132]

C L You did the right thing. God actually says, "if possible, as much as you are able, be at peace with all men." Romans 12:18

[@davegreene8588]

@@indriadrayton1132 . That's also in Desiderata.

[@inf2399]

Your daughter needs you for the long run so what you did maybe was a good desicion. But I am feeling exactly what you felt. Difference is if I feel like there is about to be a fight I go there bc I want to prove to my self that I am not afraid. Because I have been afraid. I have been in fights were I have ran or freezed and I hate my self for that. I don't think i'm afraid of fighting no more but I do not know that's why I wan to get in a fight..

[@jw1001]

Learn how to fight. Take some boxing classes and practice at home. If you feel fear dont run stand and fight the fears hope this helps

[@Iron-Bridge]

For a fairly young guy, you seem to possess a lot of wisdom that I don't see in a lot of older people. This was some good sharing here. Subscribed.

[@RamseyDewey]

Well, I appreciate your kind words. I’ll be 40 in a month. I’m not sure how young that is these days. A lot of people I know never got to spend that much time on Earth.

[@Iron-Bridge]

You're just a bit older than I am in calendar years. Well, you don't look like the average old looking beaten down man modern society associates with hitting 40 and older. You obviously know how to take care of your health. I've been away from the martial arts (trained in traditional Korean martial arts) and self defense for over a decade and a half. Your insight in several of your videos have been very helpful in my current quest to get back into re associating with martial arts again. Thanks and wishing you continued wisdom and peace, brother.

[@16Mbvillain]

I am not a fighter. Somehow this video popped up on my KZbin landing page. You are an enthralling orator. I could not stop watching and listening to you until the end. I think about death often. It puts life into perspective. I have nothing but respect for you because you are clearly operating from a point of authenticity.

[@Mateus.Scavardoni]

"Knowing that we are all going to die some day should make us fearless."

[@ZombieCSSTutorials]

Severely underrated vlog. Very wise.

[@Tito_Viera]

Ramsey you make me drink tea like a caricature of an englishman. Because every vídeo is like a conversation with a friend and a warm drink. Now, jokes besides, is an honor that hear your intimates thoughts. Thank you for sharing. And cheers from Chile!!

[@lukeedwards-sparsholtt1587]

Wot OwO

[@mamnoonraza1429]

Fear knocked on the door. Faith answered. There was no one there.

[@riceeater79]

For me, knowing that my training and skill really worked cured my fear of fighting. Not "thinking" or "believing" my skill worked but KNOWING for a fact my technique and ability was real is what cured my fear.

[@dl5014]

I'm 30 and trained almost all my life. No matter how many fights ive been in in my youth I never had confidence or was able to fully use skill in a fight. Ive gotten seriously hurt a few times in my youth & bullied and it built up trauma. I could never understand or forgive myself for letting weaker untrained men best me when they would try to attack me. Its truly a mental game that I couldnt seen to figure out. Bad people with over confidence who usually never felt real pain before end up winning in fights because they dont have much fear or hesitate. I often asked what the point of training is entirely.

[@maricanesic1319]

We need people to comment this i have the exact same thing on my mind

[@kazeewest412]

i’ve been in a constant anxiety and fear of pain and death. But your words have changed me. Expect and prepare to die. Coop with the fear and death. Thank you sir. I am greatly in dept. Now I can move on. Let the emotions out. Relax and evaluate the situation your in. Flow like water. Don’t tense up, relax your self as if your in a puddle of clouds.

[@ChimiChuri-k2o]

How has life been going ?

[@genosukesama3717]

Appreciate your raw honesty in this age of plastic people. People are hungry for honesty and truth. Thank you for relating your personal story I believe it helps people.

[@portpiraya5758]

You are a wise person, i really like your videos! Refreshing to find new good content creators!

[@adamduffield7782]

Thanks for sharing Ramsey. People forget about the psychological effects and stresses that professional fighters go through. But your right. Coming to terms with your own mortality is something we must all go through at some point in our lives, whether it's your own life on the line, or watching someone close to you slip away. It's never easy regardless of how old you are.

[@mattheugaudin4976]

As a roofer i get asked that all the time, i seem calm but im always thinking how it can happen and doing my best to avoid it. I hear about roofers dying all the time.. I chose this career because i let my better choices pass me by but i cant let that happen again. Great videos man!!

[@abhinaya5687]

My fear is embarrassment I have to face after getting beaten up. This is the result of my anxiety when a girl slapped me in public in name of fun 😭😭. And I was freezed and this thing made my life hell for last four years. I can't get out of my home without any fear. It ultimately made me suffer from anxiety disorders and depression. Wish I had fought back that day

[@christinamarie9213]

I truly enjoy watching and liking all of your vids Ramsey (not done yet!) but this has to be one of my favorites!! Those stories and experiences you lived through were incredible to hear about! So thankful you are here to share them with us! My Life mantras are, "Love what you do, and do what you love, and let God take care of the rest" and "Life is a gift, use it wisely" 💝 Thank you brother for your heart, wisdom, teaching and spirit! 🙏💜

[@RamseyDewey]

Thank you!

[@jackhartsough3]

I spent a month in the hospital and had 8 surgeries and I remember saying to my family that I didn't want to die. When the reaper is knocking on your door it's a strange feeling brother. Thanks for your videos they are great and you seem like a genuine good person. Peace and love all

[@Fizzy332]

How are you doing?

[@jackhartsough3]

@@Fizzy332 doing pretty good. How are things on ur side

[@jdmeaney413]

I was jumped by 3 men 2 years ago. I tried to de-escalate a situation, in that moment while I was being attacked I still believed it could be done. My mind did not understand that these thugs wanted to hurt me. I was too understanding in a moment of danger. We went to the ground and I started to fight back, one of the eye gouged me and I was almost blind for life. I had surgeries as a result. I will never be the same again after this experience. These men will mess with the wrong guy one day and they will be killed. As a peaceful person, I will never allow myself to be a target to anyone, ever again.

[@rikunevalainen8154]

I thought everything about this issue was said in original "Blade Runner" when android gives the "tears in the rain" speech. But this is amazing, thank you !

[@lemankurtz8950]

Yep.......makes you like the damned replicants more than the people........"they just wanted to LIVE!!!"😢😢😞

[@LitGaming999]

"Time to die".

[@MrMatt-cm6do]

Final scene of ‘Blade Runner’ 1982. The prime villain says: I seen things, incredible things, the star fires in the skies of Orion... what is it they say in your Bible? there’s a time to live, a time to love a time to die, it’s my time to die. And then all suffering can be washed away, like teardrops being lost in rain.’ I didn’t get the dialog completely correct but that was the basic gist. It was the great actor Rutger Hauer who delivered that monologue at the end of the original version of the movie ‘Blade Runner’ from 1981 or maybe 1982. Truly impressive film, even the soundtrack by itself is still analyzed today in music synthesizer videos referenced as the gold-standard for using a synthesizer in making a good movie Soundtrack. Ridley Scott directed it. It may have been his first high-budget-feature-film. I remember shortly before he worked on it, he was still doing elegant fashion television commercials in Paris.

[@CaneFu]

I never fought in the ring but had to fight while working various bouncer jobs and later as a police officer. Honestly, I had never been in a fight before I got into that line of work and I was absolutely dreading the approaching situation when I might get in my first fight. Finally, it happened one night, an obnoxious drunk I told to leave the club said in so many words "not happening" and came right at me. As it turned out, I didn't have time to be scared as I was too busy punching the guy as well as getting punched by him. After that I never worried about fighting again because I realized whatever happened I would have the appropriate response, whether it be throwing punches, or just bleeding, or falling down after getting pummeled.

[@rrt1592]

You should get your own podcast. The way you explain things could be helpful to everyday regular people. Just a suggestion.

[@pilot.wav_theory]

He has a podcast

[@JohnnzyBoy_Son]

@@pilot.wav_theory what the podcast?

[@pilot.wav_theory]

@@JohnnzyBoy_Son theres a playlist on Ramsey's channel called Ramsey Dewey podcast or something, he did an episode with red chucks and an episode with Xhang Wei Li's trainer, an episode with youtube weightlifting coach Zack Telander, good stuff check it out

[@JohnnzyBoy_Son]

@@pilot.wav_theory much appreciate bud 👍🏽👍🏽

[@TaylorBalkom]

This may have been the most impactful thing I've ever heard. Thank you.

[@Hytecher101]

I appreciate that you took the time to share this with us. Kudos.

[@luka2298]

I think this was my very first Ramsey Dewey video i have ever watched. Watching you ever since even though i'm far from a professional martial artist...beautiful channel, so much intelligent and meaningful content! Real treasure.

[@nicolahoerler]

great coach, great philosophy, good explenations and a humane persona I really have to say im impressed.(generally speaking)

[@huntercrow5289]

Mormon Mr. Clean is a far better philosopher than many of the "thinkers" of our time. Has a healthy view on faith, is honest about his struggles, and is asking the big questions. I think I have to sub now.

[@RamseyDewey]

Hahahaha! Mormon Mr. Clean... mwahahaha...

[@huntercrow5289]

@@RamseyDewey I hope you know I don't mean any disrespect by it lol. I see Mr. Clean as the unattainable male standard of beauty. Thanks for your videos! Your words helped me to start training and I couldn't be more thankful. 🙏

[@markbrown7968]

"Life is gonna kill you anyway. Might as well do the things you want to do." I love this comment. Just wish I'd have heard it 30 years ago.

[@the_bassiah]

Wise words. This is why you are one of my favorite martial arts youtubers, you come down to earth and talk some of this deep real stuff, that needs to be talked about. Props to you man

[@Trillvil1]

Guys we have to realize. That feeling when your heart is racing, you start to sweat, your legs feel weak, and you can only focus on that danger. That’s actually a good feeling. That’s the same feeling a lion gets when he sees another male lion. You just have to stop looking at it as fear or nervousness. That’s just your body pumping your muscles with adrenaline ready to fight. We just think about it too much

[@dl5014]

The problem is adrenaline isnt really good for fighting or defense at all if you can't control it fully. Because Adrenaline burns you out fairly quick against a more calm or even trained fighter. If you can get your trained skills to become 2nd nature then adrenaline can be usefull if you put training time in.

[@zensenpai6669]

I like to think of it as a powerful electric current charging up your entire body.

[@MrGuerrilla]

​@@dl5014 systema will definitely help with that

[@michaelhampton5828]

You help me to realize training is not just sparing, doing drills, or working tecknequies, but also theres listens in training when a teacher speaks food for thought. I pay attention to everything words of wisdom, a teacher just doesnt speak because they like the way there voice sounds. We i listen im getting training a lesson. Thankyou sir.

[@DaclaudLee]

Even a fight against an unskilled opponent can be scary. You never know what the other person is capable of when they are losing. You don't know whether or not they will reach for a weapon or maybe they are just so psychopathic and brutal that they will just show you no mercy when you they bring you to the ground with an unexpected surprise attack. It is also scary for you if you if you are more skilled, because you don't want to accidentally kill the other person either just because that person refuses to give up (that is probably the worst thing that could happen because you might get prison time for excessive force, murder or manslaughter).

[@ycandrewsen8851]

I like you, Mr. Dewey. It's been a pleasure watching all your videos that youtube keeps suggesting.

[@jesuslopes5982]

I just discovered your videos you have a very interesting insite on things love your content. Aint you sound genuine.

[@mongopoe5099]

He does!

[@JanSonnemann]

I'm sure, that I'm older than you (55), and I know this acception of death from racing motorbikes on public roads (with some accidents of course), streetsfights etc. But you (as a sort of young man) bring it to the point, so calm and friendly! You're a wise man for sure. Big respect man!

[@davidmichael6913]

You felt it. You knew exactly how close to death you were in the situation and it's uncomfortable. I've almost died 2 times. Lived with heart problems and angina since 18 years old. Im still going. Taking supplements and doing BJJ. I'm very grateful to have beaten death but I know one day will come like a thief in the night and that will be it for me. I love your talks Master Ramsey, you are very wise.

[@circa1993]

Bro you are a hero 👍

[@fathertime6916]

This is one of the best videos I've ever seen on KZbin. I respect Ramsey Dewy more every time I watch one of these. This is some of the best advice a person can give to anyone. It applies to everything in life, not just fighting. When you make peace with your own death, it leads to understanding what is important and being more able to do what needs to be done. It humbles you. It makes you consider yourself and how you want to be remembered and what you can give back that is good to your family and community and friends, etc, like he said. I haven't met very many people who think on that level and to me, faith has everything to do with reaching those conclusions. I've known others whose thinking went the other direction and they never seem to find what they are looking for or end up with enough of what they need. I don't have much too add to what he said, he's definitely spent a lot of time thinking about life and covered all the bases. Color me impressed.

[@gbormann71]

Faith is but one route to that wisdom.

[@MBFModernHomesteading]

Have had my colon taken out, guts split open, another surgery to construct a new colon (jpouch) and a third to hook me back up, I hear ya and really enjoyed this talk. Thanks for sharing.

[@charles1606]

This man is an extremely wise individual, and has a great degree of poise, centeredness, mataurity, and right-minded! Refreshing to encounter, even on KZbin.

[@HolmesMartialArts]

As I get older the thing that worries me more than death is what type of legacy I will leave behind. It has affected the way I teach, and the way I prioritize things in my life. Family first.

[@RamseyDewey]

Interesting. I made a video about subject last year. It’s called something like “how do I want to be remembered?”

[@hop6965]

One of the most beautiful videos I have ever seen. I'm not a fighter but this has been relevant for me. Thank you!

[@frankirfourfingers]

I know nothing about cage fighting,but he is a really likeable guy,I wish him all the luck in the world

[@anibalalves8184]

I am a person that as always been scared of fighting, and recently got into boxing. I am always terrified whenever I step into the ring. You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Awsome and inspirational video 💪.

[@aaronramsden1657]

paradoxically, I've found that accepting fear and just letting it happen, turns out to ease my mind a little, instead of the fear PLUS the tension of resisting it. its ok to be afraid, and with time you'll learn to embrace the fear

[@Blodia1990]

I legit teared up listening to your comment on death. I realized fear of death stopped me from so much. No more, I will die someday and never exist again. I am at peace with that.

[@ultralordd7625]

Miyamoto Musashi basically said "Consider yourself a dead body, when you eliminate the worry about death, you can carry your out your duty with no restrictions, my brush with death came in 2009 in Iraq, the vehicle I was patrolling in was hit with a massive ied, thank goodness it hit the engine block and only the driver suffered injuries to his foot and leg, after the situation, I looked at the engine block and assessed the damage it had taken, if that triggerman had waited a second more before triggering the device, I woudn't be here to talk about it. This gives you a new perspective of looking at life, I love playing the Call of Duty games just like a lot of people, but I just follow the storyline, I don't compete online with others because the way they play goes against the realities of modern warfare, you will not spawn back to a spawnpoint when you get killed, you'll just be dead.

[@abdobouchareb6791]

One of the wisest people I've ever listen to, really. Respect sir.

[@djs12007]

This doesn't actually sound like much "sage advice" to someone who's never been in a fight before. Nobody is scared of really dying in a fight. The fear in a fight is that someone intends to commit painful bodily harm to you and the fear comes from the helpless sense that you cannot stop that person no matter how hard you try. It's the sense that you have no power to take care of yourself, the humiliation of being called a "wimp" or a "Pu$$y" in public. As a little kid I ran away from bullies, (I didn't have a Dad to teach me how to defend myself), but when I was a Soldier, I faced down bullets being fired at me in Iraq. I wasn't really afraid of dying, I was afraid I would fail to protect my battle buddies. Frankly Mr. Dewey, you got way too "existential" here. The key to confidence in a fight is training, good hard practical training and training to as many scenarios that can be anticipated and continuing to practice and train for every situation. The more proficient your training and fighting skills are, the more confident you feel you can handle the situation, Something our men in Law Enforcement don't have.

[@Tridensolos]

You wouldnt understand how much you helped me. May God bless you man. Thanks alot you have been through alot and i wish the best for you.

[@johnc.6645]

Very interesting perspective. From my viewpoint everyone has moments.....bravery, cowardice, love and hate. True courage is to overcome our natural fear to accomplish a goal. If a person claims they fear nothing, try drowning. I did in lake Michigan. Flaying around underwater in a panic until my body went limp. Anyway thanks Dewey for a deeply profound talk.

[@Bj5m17h]

I started judo around the same time I started driving, and always reminded myself on the way to class that I was just as likely to break my arm or neck in a car wreck, as in class. Not especially reassuring but you do what you do.

[@joshuatraffanstedt2695]

I had a lot of trouble coming to terms with mortality. Especially as an atheist. With the thought of someday dying and no longer existing, I understand and respect people's religious or spiritual beliefs. It helps them with the fact. It's a lot harder as an atheist lol. Of course, being faithful probably takes an insane amount of dedication, because outside of religious texts there isn't much evidence for anything but now. Also, there's so many different religions. These days I just tell myself death is natural. By dying, I'll be buried and the organisms I fed on throughout my life cycle will now feed on me.. Returning to the food chain. Life is the same cycle it's always been. I almost died twice of an overdose at 19 and 22. I woke up the same way. My family was there and worried and praying I wouldnt die. Life's a blessing, whether it's just a random event or if we're created. Life, afterall, is a death sentence. There are children all over the world dying of starvation and lack of clean drinking water while others live to 110 in $10,000,000 houses. At the end of the day, our destiny is the same, no matter. Great topic, sir!

[@alanbolton7803]

Most probably (like me) come from a Christian background. It's full of contradictions ( no offence). Am currently looking into Judaism and Islam. We're very complicated creatures! Chance doesn't create that!

[@andremedeiros4275]

@@alanbolton7803 every religion is full of contradictions... Christianism and Judaism are pretty much the same, Islam is a bloodier version of the ones above

[@alanbolton7803]

@@andremedeiros4275 my comment was 2 months ago. Been looking into both Judaism and Islam ever since. I can say Islam is very pragmatic. Am still learning. Cut that media BS. What ever the Muslims and Jews did combined, doesn't put a dent in the atrocities the Christians committed!

[@andremedeiros4275]

@@alanbolton7803 they're all bloody

[@alanbolton7803]

@@andremedeiros4275 not really man. I've been really searching hard. This accurately built universe has a creator, and this creator didn't just simply put us here and forgot all about us. A basic machine has a catalog, we too have one! Let's see which one is it.

[@jamiefoster1998]

You are such a good man. I really hope you are as gentle in your interactions with people on a daily basis as you appear. You really seem like someone who only shows his ferocity when the fight is on.

[@zavodilo283]

Thank you, it was what I needed to hear

[@darkwraithknyack126]

Zavodilo same here.

[@Adamrahman07]

The best and calming video I have ever seen

[@excellero9766]

I recommend that you read the story of Miyamoto Musashi by Eiji Yoshikawa or the graphic novel version Vagabond, which taught me a lot about strength and fear in fighting, one favourite quote of it is when Musashi was asked what is strength he replied "its to have a mind that doesn't sway, while continuing to grow and change".

[@borisp9163]

Thank you for your sincerity 🙏🏼 I cannot fully grasp fact that I will die, I am going through days, often thinking about death, but its like I cannot fully comprehend it, I think to fully look at it is as death itself, because if you accept it existencialy, than you are no more driven by ego, real death is death of ego, ego denies death, ignores it, escaping it, death of ego is death of separated identity, end of motivations from outside… I have two experiences in life, one when I was a kid, it had to be in age before 6, because I havent go to school yet, I was home with my grandma and playing, and suddenly out of nowhere I realised I will die, that I cannot escape, I will die once and its truth, I went to my parents room and cried alone, than my grandma came there asked what happend, I told her and she comforted me with nice words, “its too far, dont think about it, you have soo much time” and kind of tried to redirect my attention… but I will never forget the intensity of that insight that one day my existence will come to end… people are drunk by believes from outside, some of them even convinced them selves that they know, but its just defensive mechanism of mind, either you know or you dont, believe is just sedatives… second time I was meditating and intensity of presence kept groving, like density, all programs in my head that runs started to fade away, all attention went to presence, hard to explain, best way how can I describe it is as frequency, if you hear tone from low frequency slowly rising until its start to be so dense, so intense, but you dont perceive that as sound, you perceiving it just by your consciousness, frequency and intensity of presence, like fps of film speeding up unless there are no more frames but one uninterupted flow… and it could continue, it reached lvl when I stoped it intentionaly, and it was closest thing to death I experienced, I was afraid because it was leading to unknown, Idk what would follow, I was like holding of my old motivations, my ego, I couldnt continue because it meant to drop everything what brings me some kind of satisfaction but suffering at the same time, depending if its as you want it or not, duality… since then I was not able to reach such deep meditation…

[@cosmyccowboy]

June 1975 at the age of 18 i had a intestinal blockage , they opened me up cut it out , put me back together and sent me home after a few days. A couple of days later I started cramping real bad and throwing up this nasty stuff. I ended up back in the hospital with a staff infection and a colostomy. My temperature got so high they packed me down in a bed of ice about 6 months later they put me back together and so far so good! I feel your pain Ramsey

[@RamseyDewey]

Ouch... man, no one really appreciates their guts till they stop working!

[@rockeysingh8841]

This is one of the most realistic awareness talks, ever. Brother, you are truly deeply self-aware, honest, and pure in your soul as you are in your heart. You embody all the age-old centuries of knowledge and awareness of life and the inevitability of death. Your description and expression of self-awareness and the ultimate acceptance of death. is the ultimate banisher of all fear. I cannot say any more thanks for this talk- your gift- and this really natural process, which removes all the fear of death, and once that happens then everything else is a bonus. Thank you, Brother, God bless you.

[@calvinmurry1096]

Speaking of stories, here's one from my life. I was in prison once. In prison you sometime have duels. That's when two guys agree to strap up and meet one on one on the prison yard or behind chow hall someplace. You set a time to meet. We are talking knives or clubs or whatever you want to bring. I would go to my cell and prepare my shank ( knife), fashion my body armor out of anything handy. I often used magazines under my prison jacket. In the beginning you don't think of anything but your family. Your friends. and what the other may be armed with. Then the what ifs come in. What if he has a machete. What if he is skilled. What if he strikes a vital spot. Then you start thinking about your strategy. And then the what ifs start again. You two might not meet until late that evening. And then you notice time is slipping fast. When you get close to the set time, that's when you start thinking of ways to back out. That's when you really start thinking of death. Of dying. Weirdly, you start imagining the many ways you can die. And when it's time to meet, and you are walking to the agreed upon spot. You see the guy and you study him as you approach. And the closer you get, the angrier you get, that this guy want to take your life. That he wants to hurt you. It's at that point you realize there's no turning back. And that's when your mind goes blank. Now it's all about killing this guy. For wanting to kill you. That's when all fear of death takes over and no thought of family, nothing. You are picturing where you are going to place your knife in his body, and you actually start walking faster towards him and he starts walking faster towards you and you don't see all the other guys standing around watching. You just want to get it over with and get the first and final cut. You don't think of getting cut or dying. You just want to get to him for trying to kill you and take you from family and friends and this Earth. And when the two of you clash. You don't think at all. You are instinct and adrenaline and rage. I have been in close to a dozen of these encounters. My body looks like Swiss cheese. But I survived them all. But here is what you never ever forget from these duels: the eyes. You never forget the look in that guys eyes. As he tries to kill you. His eyes are empty and they look through you, not at you. And you see no emotion. And of course your eyes look the same to him. Afterwards. If you survive, that when you ponder death, all alone ( you don't want anyone around you), and respect it. And those eyes... thinking and pondering how determined that guy was to kill you. I am an old man now. And I still see the eyes of death. Respect it. You will never be the same after a duel.

[@RamseyDewey]

That is intense, man.

[@HardHardMaster]

calvin murry you say you've been in a dozen prison knife fights and you survived? very hard to believe. proof or it didn't happen.

[@itsnotaboutthemoneyitsabou6759]

@@HardHardMaster seems like an oddly specific lie 👀😂

[@RonniiV]

calvin murry what country did you go to prison? If in the US, were you in State or Federal, what year?

[@vogithebare]

@@itsnotaboutthemoneyitsabou6759 you can usually tell a lie by the extra specific details

[@AurelienCarnoy]

One of the best talks on life and death.

[@ronc7743]

I actually listened to the whole 28 minutes…..

[@christophermora4690]

Hey brother thank you for keeping it 100 . You are a true bad ass ! For your honesty and just being yourself .

[@johnreese1337]

And I thought my apendicitis experience was shitty. Went into the ER with severe abdominal pain, turns out my apendix had began to rupture and stuff was leaking out. Was rushed into the OR. They did laporoscopic surgery (cut 3 small holes on the left of my abdomen, belly button and above my pubic area. After 3 days of 39/40° C fever and intense pain, i went into the OR again This time they cut my abdomen straight down the middle from my belly button down to my pubic area. Woke up from the anesthetic and the pain was unbelievable. They had to give me a small fist sized pouch of some pain medicine that was put into my IV. I was later told that thing cost 2000€. Oh but it helped tremendously. After that, i was wheeled back into my room and the scar was so sensitive that the slightest contraction of my abdomen felt like a full force punch. I remember having to cough and latrr sneeze. You can imagine how much that hurt. Thankfully, the nurses had a wonderful trick that allowed me to cough and sneeze without ANY pain. They would brace my abdomen from both sides with their forearms and that somehow allowed me to cough and sneeze absolutely pain free. I taught my brother how to do it for when i got released from the hospital. Now i have a huge scar that looks kinda cool and i can't deadlift, squat or do ab workouts without having IMMACULATE form and not putting a lot of weight on the bar. If i want to add more weight, i gotta wear a belt. The belt helps a lot but if I push myself too much it still hurts. So i have to be extra careful, even years later. Stay safe, now go out there and train!

[@ottomanpapyrus9365]

fever? sounds like a viral infection.

[@MyVinster]

Thanks for all your videos, you have a good outlook on life. Not to mention a great Martial Arts. I am a combat veteran and you are 110% right about fear!

[@muhyul0314]

Thanks for your witness. Man, such a philosopher of fighting (and life!) from real world experience. I really appreciate it. I differ on what is the worst that can happen. Breaking your neck and living the next 10-30 years as a quadriplegic seems worse. What doesn’t kill you doesn’t necessarily make you stronger. Somethings could make you wish you had moved on to the afterlife.

[@dancook5057]

My favorite video so far. I've been asked how to stay calm or "why does it look easy/fun for you?" My response is always that once you truly accept death as inevitable fear becomes much less of a factor and as for me personally my religious beliefs in the ring against another warrior there is no place I would rather die.

[@HO1ySh33t]

"Each night, when I go to sleep, I die. And the next morning, when I wake up, I am reborn." Mahatma Gandhi

[@SheebaKali]

I am so happy that you survived the surgeries and live to bless so many of us with your wisdom, knowledge & deeply honest personality 🌟

[@alca4340]

courage is being afraid and rising to the occaision.....

[@harrynutzack8139]

Thank you for waking me up sir. Not just on the sport of fighting but in life in general.

[@mickeybrown9052]

Whoa. What did I just listen to? Amazing.

[@corbinballard8525]

I used to be scared to to step into a ring. I had to go threw the process he is talking about right now. It wasn't easy but upped my ability to relax amazingly well. Glad another fighter is also talking about it.

[@teddybiggerstaff3276]

Im being 100% honest I watched this video on my phone like 45 mins before my 3rd fight and to be real with you it helped a tremendous amount more than what I was expecting it to. The trick is to think that even in the ring you may well be terrified of your opponent but all you need to do is remember who and what your fighting for, for me it was probably my family (mostly for my dad to be honest) and even for myself, But all i did in the end was make a big fuss out of nothing because i went in that ring, fought and won. but i also imagined i would end up dead no matter how hard i tried to avoid it , it would eventually happen. so get the fuck in there and kick his ass as my friend put it.

[@RamseyDewey]

Outstanding! This man gets it! Congratulations on the win, by the way.

[@brianbain6329]

how does this video not have a million views, its gold.

[@Dan0101010101010]

Man I wish this guy was my coach

[@zerofiveworld7988]

I think this is a great video not only for fighters but for anyone. Great points, very humane. Thank you Ramsey!

[@ThePrettyUglys]

I have been in martial arts for nearly 30 years blackbelts in Kenpo. Tang Soo Do and BJJ. I was also a professional MMA fighter of course I wrestled and boxed ect.. The thing is this I never had fear street fighting BEFORE I started martial arts. What happened? My younger brother has the same fearlessness. Although I went for formal training and surprised myself and others with wins. My brother six years younger is the one who has been shot, stabbed, in and out of jail ect.. While I was the one always wanting to talk my way out of a fight. I was surfing couple summers ago and chased out of water by a couple sharks. I am not close to any family really. So there was a family reunion at my uncles very big house on a hill giant pool ect.. For some reason I felt empowered. Like I could take on the world. It stayed for about a week. I was surfing same place and lifeguard was yelling for everyone to get out of water theres sharks! I paddled toward the sharks! and sat on my short board right in middle of great white dorsal fins. Nothing happened. I wish I would've had that same feeling in fight camps or in my MMA matches. I own and run a mma gym in Ca. I look young for my age and get like twenty year olds wanting to confront me pretty often. I fought at 155 lb I don't want to street fight where your ear or eye gets maimed ect.. overthinking , doubts..

[@quantumblurrr]

Rex Pena Holy shit

[@varanid9]

ummm..............

[@gigicestone4902]

And that's okay, no matter how strong or brave you are, nobody should WANT to get into a street fight, that wouldn't be bravery, just stupidity.

[@HardHardMaster]

I'd say swimming or paddling up to confront great white sharks is not fearless or courageous, it is just stupid. that's a fight you are 100% sure to pay for with your life. fear is not necessarily a bad thing. the absence of fear absolutely is.

[@HardHardMaster]

Yer Ma who is diving with great whites without a cage? nobody in their right mind that's who. don't pretend it's ok to do suicidal things like that. I know of some guy who used to live with wolves. I know of some guy who hangs around wild lions. there's a few people who are lucky to get away alive from doing things that stupid. I also know of a guy who thought he could hang out with grizzly bears and was, quite predictably, turned into grizzly bear poop together with his girlfriend. just because a few people are outrageously lucky it doesn't take away any of the danger of these natural killers, of which great whites are among the most dangerous. I've heard this denial argument over and over again from dozens of delusional scuba divers. I even have family like that. just because you feel comfortable in the sea because you've always dived in shallow water and nothing of the many possible dangers killed you yet it does not mean your sense of security is not false. it is. it's ridiculously insane to try to justify playing with your life by purposely seeking out lethal predators. these apex predators are not pets or cattle. you go into their territory and you are nothing but chewing gum to them. one drop of blood and they go into feeding rage. downplay 'test bites' again and it's confirmed you've never even seen a small size shark tooth up close, let alone a man size shark mouth or a shark attack victim. those people who survived were only bitten casually by small non great white sharks that were just having a little nibble for fun. just to see if that awkwardly flappy 'fish' is edible. that fun little nibble from an average 'common' shark usually costs the diver/swimmer/surfer/paddleboarder a limb, if not their life. now imagine one of the most aggressive, unpredictable and largest breed of sharks having a particularly bad mood and running into something as slow, helpless, soft and stupid as yourself. you'll be 100 % dead indeed.

[@DreamSubliminalss]

I’m watching this while feeling anxiety/ scared and I want to overcome that because my worst problem is fear of anything especially fighting and being able to relax and move fluidity is such a skill I will learn one day!

[@RamseyDewey]

And so you shall!

[@GuitarNTheCar]

Could you do something on the ego, and not letting what others think effect us.

[@qualivia]

True WingChun nc

[@egecabaroglu493]

@True WingChun no you have to se the real things

[@gbormann71]

*affect us

[@parker7785]

great advice and leadership and choice of t shirt and hairstylist!!!! keep up the great work and insight!!!! avoid the messaging in almost all karate judo and southwark movies and people with black belts and rented kimonos!!!!!!