School Feminizes Boys and Traumatizes Girls

Psychoanalyst Erica Komisar explains the biggest flaws in mainstream education and how they affect young boys and girls differently. During early childhood, preschools overemphasize pursuits that don’t match the cognitive developmental stage of students, while ignoring the social and physical instincts which are best cultivated through unstructured, imaginative play. Schools attempt to feminize boys through unrealistic behavioral expectations, leading to misdiagnosis and over-medication. On the other hand, rewarding perfectionism plays into girls’ instinctive threat-sensitivity, often boiling over in adolescence with disastrous consequences. All in all, schools drastically misunderstand what kids need and when they need it.
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[@DadSavesAmerica]

Hello friends, you should definitely check out the full conversation I had with Erica, where you can hear the broader context of the conversation and get some of the other powerful insights she has to share. Check it out here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKfGZYNsnc6Kbpo I've had my son in several different school models (Catholic, Waldorf, Montessori, Acton, Catholic again). At each and every turn I paid close attention to how the school dealt with reality vs ideology. Reality is that boys and girls, on average, have meaningfully different needs and behaviors. That's not enough to make an individual judgement, but it's a useful starting point. My son's best teachers understood what he needed as a boy AND as an individual. The same is true for girls. When he was presented with messaging at one school telling him that his nature as a boy was "problematic", we pulled him from that school within months. No child should be told that their immutable characteristics are a problem that needs solving. The debate around "masculinity" and "femininity" has been hijacked by ideology needlessly. This doesn't need to be that hard or that charged. Erica and I differ on many fronts, but we both share a deep love for every kid and desire to see them excel and discover their own potential. Glad to see an interesting conversation taking shape here. Thanks for watching.

[@warriorshedge6772]

Meh i wouldn't say they are told to be perfect, I'd say opposite, wouldn't have so many fat ones then and with a push to view them and ok obesity on them.. Im not good at explaining it but "legion of man" youtube channel explains the issues quite well.

[@warriorshedge6772]

Although what she said makes sense, i was thinking about the dating aspect, however i left out too much to talk about in a single comment

[@cprove5751]

Are you home schooling yet?

[@DadSavesAmerica]

@@cprove5751 My son graduates high school in two months! We never home schooled, but we've been blessed by lots of options in our area so we've been super-involved in protecting him from zombie nonsense.

[@tofunmiolowu]

I currently work as a Montessori preschool teacher in Illinois, and aside from the draconian 'education' model implemented in many daycares, the FOOD served to our children gives me constant distress. My school is a rare exception in that we have banned sweets save for special events like birthdays and serve truly wholesome meals. Children are exposed to many toxins in the processed carbohydrates fed to them in many centers. At most daycares it is too much sugar, not enough fat and protein. There is NOTHING nutritious in MOST of the snacks parents serve their kids. STOP the pretzels. STOP the cookies. STOP the cereal. They need organic whole milk, plain yogurt with fruit, cheese, nuts (within reason), MEAT, and clean carbohydrates.

[@alexandru5369]

"Don't let education get in the way of learning"- Mark Twain

[@NONEYAZ]

In America For Decades Now, The Educational School Systems, Are No Longer About Education! They Are About Indoctrination Of Submission, Conform, Drugs And Control(s)! Pa-Pow, Amen! 😎 🙉🙈🙊 🇺🇸

[@deckzone3000]

He sure has a lot of bad quotes.

[@SRKStar]

Clearly Mark of Twain WASNT enlightened by the Femboy Bussy as I have! I’m so glad I grew up in a gen where they made the males more feminine!!! WHAT WOULD I DO IF I COULDNT HAVE THE TASTE OF A SUCCULENT BUSSY ON MY TONGUE!

[@alexandru5369]

@@deckzone3000 Um yeah no you missed this quote entirely he basically said schooling, even back then, was too conform. now it's too indoctrinate.

[@sahahaah427]

@@deckzone3000says a person with a control complex

[@anastaziajade4604]

Families send their 3 month old to “daycare” 6am until 6pm, it’s been so normalized that parents don’t even question it.

[@TheresaReichley]

This was one that floored me during COVID. People were getting “burned out” because they had to spend more time with their kids. It was “exhausting”. I mean how, as a society did we create a situation where a parent raising their kids for a single year is too much for them? And what does it do to a kid to hear this?

[@stevenscott2136]

If you don't like being around kids, why even have them? Of course, the answer to that was obvious even when I was a teen -- the majority of my classmates KNEW they were accidents. Hint for boys -- you're supposed to get HER drunk, not yourself! You need to be able to get that Trojan wrapper open!

[@anastaziajade4604]

@@TheresaReichley exactly.. pawn your kids off for someone else to raise. So damn sad. I’m a stay at home mom with a special needs child that I homeschool and 2 other children. It’s the most important job in the world, molding your children. Family is everything.

[@FarahA27]

I know! Imagine a child hearing their parents complaining about that. The child would probably be thinking, “My parents don’t love me!?”

[@nerychristian]

It truly is disgusting. Why do women even bother having children if they are not going ro raise them. It's frightening how women have lost their ability to nurture and be good mothers. They've all bought into feminism. They'd rather be a alave to a corporation, then to spend time with their precious children.

[@bexter1442]

High school senior here. The description she gave of what happens to little girls in school is exactly what has happened to me. Its really so broken. Public schools have a lot of issues

[@freeirishmexicanamericangi9199]

In most places sending your children to public school is like sending them to the county jail

[@coinbuyer-8605]

I'm inclined to agree with your sentiment that public school is like jail. If schools are public, and we fund them with our tax dollars, and the child belongs to the parent, how are parents not allowed to sit in on any given day to track their child's progress and experiences throughout preschool, elementary school, middle school, and high school? I can think of quite a few counterpoints to my argument such as parent is a distraction to the learning process, room to accommodate said parent as they follow their child around throughout the day, helicopter parenting gone overboard, etc. but I think the upside to doing this, if implemented properly, is worth it. Better community building, better understanding of what your child goes through at school, creates strong parent/child bond. After all, we have bring your child to work day, don't we? Or do they not do that anymore? I suppose the closest schools ever got to that would be a career day where some of the children's parents came in and discussed their jobs. Or do they not do career day anymore? I understand institutionalization has its advantages, but I would argue our society, at least in America, has become too institutionalized. This was one of the very few blessings of the COVID pandemic - parents got to see what their child was being taught if they sat in and saw the remote sessions. Indeed, having that awareness, some parents made the switch to homeschooling shortly thereafter.

[@Duncanate]

Forcing a 6 year old to sit through Common Core should be a crime.😔

[@prairiedweller8917]

Whether boy or girl

[@Baneslayer]

It is a crime. It's just being pushed by corrupt criminal, malignant forces that have taken over our government systems.

[@MooseBme]

!SERIOUSLY! AN ACTUAL PUNISHABLE CRIME!

[@Novusod]

Forcing any human being to sit through common core at any age is a crime against humanity.

[@truthbetold2146]

6???? It’s very different than a preschooler…. They are light years apart 😂 …. Now “ to sit” yeah no… active learning, yes!

[@brucehoffmann2126]

There was a school in Texas that increased the number of breaks through out the day. They found that the boys’ behavior improved significantly.

[@theguybehindyou4762]

How did the school react to this discovery?

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

@@theguybehindyou4762 Probably getting rid of breaks entirely...anything to stunt boys from turning into real men that might stand up for something that's worth standing up for.

[@Thane36425]

In the 70s and 80s we had a lot of breaks. Recess was about half an hour and we lunch included break time. Said breaks were outdoors, weather permitting, so we could run around and play on the playground equipment.

[@GabrielsEpicLifeofGoals]

​@@Thane36425Nowadays, lunch periods for me (2020-2022) in highschool were 40 minutes, while classes were 50-60 :(

[@Thane36425]

@@GabrielsEpicLifeofGoals I don't remember exactly, but in my high school around 1990, class periods were about 45 minutes with a short break between. This included a free period, a 30 minute morning break, and a lunch period also of 45 minutes. Elementary school was kind of the same minus the free period. We did have a recess in the morning and lunch was 45 minute or an hour as it included a recess time. Thennthere was an afternoon break if the teacher allowed and 10 of 15 minutes to burn off some steam. We also had a PE class in elementary school which was about an hour to account for time to get to the gym and change then change back and get to class. No showers then because little kids really didn't need it. Honestly I'd have been fine with making PE the last class of the day so kids could shower at home and also not be worn out for later classes as sometimes happened.

[@ceebee5848]

My brother and I (female) both were diagnosed with ADHD. He was diagnosed at age 6, I was in grad school, age 27. He had the typical hyperactive “boy” traits (ie: normal boy) and was medicated and had special school programs to help him learn and he excelled socially and academically. I had absolutely nothing, and was just told to “do better”, and was punished for not meeting requirements. Can’t tell you how many recesses I wasn’t allowed to play because I was inside having to redo work. Turns out my brother doesn’t even have ADHD and is off all medication, and I found out at age 27 that I actually have autism. Spent my whole childhood thinking I was stup!d just because I was a quiet little girl, and little girls are meant to be quiet, so no one ever thought to have me tested for anything. Looking back, I wasn’t quiet, I was almost mute, and socially backwards, and every adult told me to “do better”. Be perfect. Yep.

[@Lechuza_Chicana]

I feel this . . . I'm 32 , still struggling to get it .

[@jeremytoney9367]

It sounds like you had a lot of the same issues that I had even though I’m a guy I was essentially treated like your brother was. I didn’t have sisters around, so I can understand why girls were having the issues because there were girls in the same programs that I was in and essentially the rules were reversed so I understand where you’re coming from and I canresonate with that and with what you say

[@TheOnlyWay-zy5by]

As a retired kindergarten teacher my heart was broken over this. I’ve watched the educational system change over 40 years of teaching. I’ve recognized and observed this in our little boys for years.

[@Knight0fbl00d]

Lol.

[@BS-dq1kz]

@@Knight0fbl00dWhat a weirdo you must be.

[@sigsauer7929]

I've raised three boys, and 1 girl, this is exactly what happened to my boys. Each of my boys was identified in 2nd grade with learning disabilities due to poor manual writing as an excuse. If I didn't fight the schools on this they would have been steamrolled into the ADHD/Autism system. They all went on to be A students, and to be successful in life. Also as a heads up, keep your kids out of High school drama, they are now the main area to indoctrinate your kids into the trans and woke ideology.

[@gnweiss]

The school or the mindless Feminist controllers

[@nicholasdupont2468]

Same exact thing happened to me and my son. I told them no. He's an A and B student now. I also took him to a therapist during COVID and they did not diagnose ADHD (we went for a year).

[@Brave-tamer]

People can have ADHD and still get good grades???

[@Wayne55125]

Drama has always been bad. I’m over 70 and the kids in high school drama were not all strange, but most were very weird. The drama teachers were always kooks and that carried over into college.

[@Brave-tamer]

Also just to all people whom it may concern,you scientifically cannot turn someone trans, there's isn't a "woke cult for turning people trans"

[@sarahhale-pearson533]

Yes! I have two boys and two girls. The boys are constantly being berated as bad, just because they can’t sit still, etc. I see them being pathologized just for being active boys.

[@efl8981]

then why the F are you keeping them in government indoctrination camps??? Do you hate them?

[@cameronbell415]

Don't you mean misbehaving female boys... or at least it seems that's how the education system sees them....

[@phoenixjames9762]

Same situation here 1 older boy 2 girls in the middle 1 toddler boy. The oldest is finally about to go to an all boys school next year after two years of his current school pushing for a ADD evaluation

[@TPB129.]

Now add the wokeness and feminism that socially economically culturally legally personally and politically oppresses them because of their white race, and male gender, and for 100 years, we all have been weaponized against ourselves and each other for the benefit of this evil communist regime. Anyone still sending their kids to school is guilty by association, if they know that's why they're doing it.

[@dallassegno]

We used to call ADD youthfulness

[@danielcarlson800]

And there's STILL people out there who wonder why my daughter homeschools my grandson?

[@laurendaryani4893]

They do? How? MORE people should be homeschooling their children if they're gonna keep on whining about public school all day. Bootstraps, right? Putting your money where your mouth is should be a good thing according to anyone.

[@JosephLachh]

The liberals are actually fighting against homeschooling right now. They want homeschooling to be illegal.

[@sperryyoungerjr.3985]

At my current age, I don't plan on having kids, but at some point in the future if I do, I'll be homeschooling them.

[@danielcarlson800]

​@@sperryyoungerjr.3985 I became a Dad @18, and a Grandpa @38. It's rough, but it happens.

[@danielcarlson800]

@@laurendaryani4893 They're jealous.

[@leogrande204]

Recess was always the best part of school. Kids are not meant to sit still for hours.

[@johnnybgoode1950]

So what about the fact that there are few to no male role models in school for the boys?

[@paulmartin2348]

MOST of the "males" in high school (class of 1989) when I was there were not fit to be role models. I do not even want to imagine what it is like now.

[@Roadghost1969]

@@paulmartin2348I was class of 1987, and I will say I had a few "good ones" but they probably retired after I graduated.The ones I remember were WWII Vets both flew on bombers. Great stories from both of them and they had control over the class. A couple of the younger ones at the time were Vietnam Vets also goods stories even some of the other teachers that were Hippies were cool. Nothing like we see now.

[@reubenmorris487]

Men don't wanna be in completely shitty places. School (K-12) sucks.

[@user-ff8rs7gk6r]

We drove male teachers away many years ago. My father was a HS English teacher. Many times he told me that having a conservative opinion on anything put a target on his back.

[@insanecheapo195]

@@paulmartin2348 there are still some decent ones around, then theres the school news teacher who was actually a g pronstar, it varies.

[@StimParavane]

The feminism of education means that there are a lot of teachers who cannot handle male energy.

[@jmachatch6696]

I know one lady that takes care of babies during the day. This goes back 30 years. She would not take any boys. Her first grandchild…wait for it…IS A BOY! 😂

[@bandolierboy1908]

Yep. When I was in school (I'm 22) the female teachers couldn't handle the energy of the boys and punished them harshly, and treated the girls better. On the other hand, the male teachers could handle the boys just fine and the girls were automatically well behaved. Makes you think Edit: Yes boys are loud, energetic, can't sit still. That's the ever-growing drive in them that one day will keep the oh so precious economic machine running for a society that actively demonizes their nature. Then when those boys who were suppressed and emasculated through the school system *FINALLY* make it out into the real world, those same boys have a very hard time, they are penalized, mocked, looked down upon, and shamed for not participating, providing, and using their drive, energy, inability to sit still (their nature) to benefit society. Then people wonder why a lot of men don't want to work, why men don't have many aspirations or much ambition, why they sit and play video games all day, why they don't go out and fight in w@rs, etc. Since birth, at least in the US, boys have had their nature stripped from them by the school system, yet are expected to use their nature for the benefit of everyone else when they finally hit the age of 18.

[@ChronixLucid]

You mean students who are aggressive and disruptive during class? That kind of “male energy”? Or do you mean something else? There are certain things that should not be tolerated for the sake of other students

[@bandolierboy1908]

@@ChronixLucid Boys need their own way of schooling, not one where they have to conform to what works for girls

[@ChronixLucid]

@@bandolierboy1908 but my question is… why can’t we refine the schooling system to better represent the needs of both boys *and* girls? This solution isn’t one that requires having two separate schools you know. Though boys and girls do have their differences, they are alike in many ways when it comes to learning.

[@brandycelis3080]

Father must teach son to be a man and mother must teach daughter to grow up as a women. Stop switching these wicked behaviors to corrupt both genders.

[@Westguitar683]

She couldn’t have said it better. As a 19 year-old autistic male who just graduated high school in May, this message really resonated with me. When I was in elementary school, the administration literally put PRESSURE on my parents to put me on ADHD medication. My parents told me that my kindergarten teacher used to come to them and say “your son is out of control.” I was a 5-year old autistic boy at the time, I couldn’t help it! And so the school system peer pressured my parents into putting me on medication. And this happened pretty much the entire time I was in school. However, my parents pushed back every step of the way. I haven’t had a single ADHD medication in my life, and yet I graduated high school with a unweighted 3.5 GPA, and all without any type of AP credits. The school system has gotten so blatantly corrupt that I just want nothing to do with it. When I got into high school, the school would literally push college on every single student and pressure us to take special courses. They deliberately removed all of the trade courses from my school and pushed college on every single student. Of course, I pushed back against that too, and I graduated without any college credits. As of right now, I’m looking into either the military or trade school, I’m leaning towards trade school. I’m basically doing whatever will allow me to give the middle finger to the education system. So yeah, I guess you can say I’ve had some beef with the education system over the years.

[@devonrichardson6150]

Literally the same exact same happened to me but I had to fight my own battles . Please do trade military is hard on your health

[@peterbarker420X]

Military isn't bad, but timing is questionable. He is right about the health factors also

[@bagelbytes-d]

So I have to know what's up with current train tech?

[@tripleS1906]

I graduated in 2015 and my high school was doing that to. And then bragging graduating night saying 95% of my graduating class had applied to college. I even had a guy friend who was thinking of being a plumber like his uncle and the teachers said it didn't matter he had to apply to at least one college even though what he was looking at career wise didn't need a college degree.

[@max_e_maxxy_]

​@@tripleS1906it's like they don't even understand that there are consequences to not having trade workers and having everybody go through University training. Not everybody can or should be a university graduate. And if 95% of them are ,then in the long run you'll have to have a University degree to be a plumber too. It's odd.

[@ghostdagger3588]

As a young boy I remember being so happy running and playing then once school started, being forced to sit down, shut up and listen made me so sad and miserable. I’m good now as an adult but F*ck the school system.

[@arbiter8246]

You can say fuck on KZbin.

[@jus4000kicks]

@@arbiter8246 🙄

[@reubenmorris487]

Yeah...took a while to get the K-12 school out of the system. College was so much better. It was most definitely more difficult but far more manageable than grade school, the endless amount of worksheets, and bullshit homework.

[@isianijoshua3320]

Fuck the system!

[@mrarevalo3663]

Yet you can read and write. So it must of done something right.

[@trinity6180]

Very smart woman. What she is describing I have observed as a now retired educator. What is being done is unhealthy for children.

[@paulmartin2348]

@Daathiel WRONG. You are describing Socialism to the core and that will destroy humanity.

[@nerychristian]

You forget that it is possible for people to have a good agenda

[@carlcast1286]

​@@paulmartin2348 hahaha wtf u don't have the slightest idea of what u just said. Hahaha describing? That's not socialism nor communism or whatever u think it is. He just explained an neutral idea that is truth. He just mistakenly mention capitalism but I'm reality is just human nature, not an ISM or anything.

[@GregtheGrey6969]

It's demonic...evil to the common core.

[@patrickday4206]

I've watched female teachers over punish male energy then praise the same behavior in girls because they think they need to fix an unbalance from their generation 40 years ago it leads to becoming the same bad teachers they are trying to correct for. It's the pendulum swing. People need to wake up and pay attention to the children in front of them instead of their own baggage

[@KIVIDiana]

So if a little girl has trouble sitting quietly she has some hormonal issue? It's a honest question here. When I was little ve were made to still and listen in a circle and most boys and half girls had a very hard time sitting still. It wasn't a problem with only boys. I'm pretty sure non of those girls had any hormonal problems either (at least the ones I still know). I get that it's worse for little boys because of hormones but I remember that half of the girls struggled really hard.

[@janelliot5643]

This is a very biased idea, that only boys have a bad time in public schools

[@rosietyler]

I work in daycare and the more i look into this conversation, the more i feel guilty. But im also glad to hear this side so i can bring these ideas into my classroom.

[@consciouspreconception334]

This is why I am glad my boys went to German Kindergarten. They had lots of free play, time outside, and no school learning until they started first grade.

[@Kwildcat13]

So school was truly babysitting for parents then

[@Christopher-iv9yy]

Then why is every German I know a screaming Leftist?

[@JackHaveman52]

@@Kwildcat13 You could look at it that way. However, it was also a time for children to learn how to get along with each other, a time of socialisation. That's something that all people have to learn as they grow into adulthood. Let's take a time before school. What did the 4 and 5 year old kids do back then? They played with one another. Dad had dad things to do, hunt for food, protect the group or tribe and mom had to care for the smaller ones, the babies and prepare good homes and environments for the family. While their parents were taking care of the things necessary for a good community, the kids were learning to live with another, how to cooperate while playing, in practice to when they grew up and they'd have to cooperate in order to live. That's what our education system should be doing when they're at the kindergarten stage of life. Not forcing them to sit quietly and direct every socialising moment of the kid's lives. It should be a time of exploration for the kids, their first step to adulthood.

[@willmercury]

​@@Kwildcat13 That is a cynical, dismissive, bad faith response. Preschool children need unrestrained free play, time for creative exploration and discovery-- outdoors whenever possible-- and interaction with their peers. It's not babysitting for the parents, it's healthy development. Don't reproduce.

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

​@@JackHaveman52 learning to get along and play well together would be especially important for "only children" who are not used to sharing attention and/or resources. As well as for youngest children who are used to rough play with older siblings and need to learn to tone it down for their peers. 🙄 (looking at our youngest here...) But children as young as four or five growing up on farms used to help with the workload already, and still do on homesteads. And it's not to their disadvantages. Feeding the chickens, collecting eggs, pulling weeds... Simple, easy tasks like that. In the bad old days, children as young as 7 or 8 might have been expected to work as boot boys, stable help or kitchen maids. 😞🤷

[@TheProfessorExplains]

One of the best decisions my parents made was making me go to an all boys high school. Masculinity wasn’t repressed there, it was embraced. We were literally taught to be men. All of our teachers were men, sports were very important and very competitive, and we were allowed to deal with conflict however we saw fit. There was a dead end street across from our school. If two guys had a problem, after school they went there and settled it in a one on one fight. A funny thing happened with these fights…it built friendships and respect. Win or lose, just showing up earned you the respect of your peers. And not only your peers, but it was very common for two guys who fought to become friends. One of my closest friends for over 30 years now is a guy I beat the living crap out of. He earned my respect by fighting me like a man, and I earned his by putting him in his place for being disrespectful. For millennia, men have been protectors of society. We go to war, we fight to defend our loved ones, and we keep the bad actors in line. Had we not done that, our species would have gone extinct before it ever really developed. The myth of toxic masculinity is just another attempt by an increasingly feminine world to neuter men. The problem is that if we don’t learn how to be men at an early age, we become the type of men that ARE toxic. By solving conflicts through fighting, we learned how to solve conflicts without fighting. We learned how to stand up for ourselves and what we believe in. And we learned what was worth fighting for and what wasn’t. I’m now a psychology professor. I settle my conflicts with words. But when a guy slapped my fiancé’s ass at a restaurant, I dropped him like a stone. Because that is what men are supposed to do. When you don’t teach men how to be men, you can’t be surprised when they struggle, and you can’t be surprised when they become the type of men that women fear. A man’s job is to protect women, not hurt them. But when men don’t learn who they are supposed to be, that repressed masculinity manifests itself in toxic behavior. So by calling all masculinity toxic and trying to suppress it, society is actually just creating more of the toxic men that it is trying to eradicate.

[@dawnelder9046]

I have been saying for years that boys and girls need separate schools. For a lot of reasons.

[@sigsauer7929]

Well said, and I agree completely.

[@Brave-tamer]

Toxic masculinity is mostly referring to stuff like "men don't cry" and stuff like Andrew Tate's misogynist views, it's not actually talking about what is masculine,it mostly means toxic masculinity as in "toxic standards assumed to be masculine but are actually just being a dipshit"

[@Brave-tamer]

Also this logic implies that sports and resorting to fights are masculine and thus,that it is wrong if a woman does them,which kinda feels weird,sports are important for health,and even as a woman I had to get in fights and I still won them

[@TheProfessorExplains]

It’s not wrong at all. What I was trying to say was that we were given the ability to learn how to channel aggression in a positive way, instead of repressing it. Repressing it leads to men who struggle psychologically and are prone to explosive episodes against other men and women. As for women playing sports and fighting, I think it’s healthy for them as well. I think it helps a woman, just as it helps a man, to develop a way of learning to resolve conflict and properly deal with anger and aggression. I have almost exclusively dated female athletes or former female athletes, not only because we have a lot in common but because I find them to be the most well-adjusted women. They are direct and confident and will confront you if they have a problem, as opposed to other women who often talk behind people’s backs and engage in passive aggressive behavior. My ex-fiancé was a star soccer player and if I did something that bothered her, she would let me know quickly. This way we could address it, resolve it, and move forward. That’s a lot healthier way to live than being passive aggressive and silently resenting someone. If I had to guess, I would say that you are the person in your group of friends who they all say “always speaks her mind and tells you the truth whether you like it or not.” Am I right??

[@alienliegh9245]

The school system has changed drastically since we were in school and not for the better. Their so focused on learning things that the vast majority wouldn't need after school and have forgotten that ppl need social skills that are learned in kindergarten that have just been tossed aside. Learning is important but there are things that are just as important

[@DonaldSaks]

It’s getting to a point that sending your kids to school, ruins them! Home schooling is better!

[@stillraven9415]

Schools were bad 50 years ago. Now I can not imagine how Childers survive. Many don't.

[@sadev101]

50 yers back they were better then now. you didnt learn to be a victim. you learned you had to do school. do it well. and crying wont grant you all your wishes

[@Spencerianism]

And then they wonder why there's school shootings.

[@davidm1149]

@@sadev101 Decades ago, the teachers were from homes where the parents had more "hands on", tactile interaction at a young age, and were likely around their mother or outside in nature. I remember the people were different when I was a child, they are colder, more mechanical, interact with the world more through groups which are more prone to programming and conditioning by media. The only argument that could be made for the conditions today is that the children are being conditioned toward a life of being a "thoughtbot" or cyborg for an inhuman, industrial complex which depletes the planet and requires artificial preservation through inorganic sustenance.

[@DanSme1]

Parents are insane for leaving them there.

[@DurzoBlunts]

Only seen adolescent self harm rates sky rocket

[@prairiedweller8917]

At one time boys were allowed to "blow off steam". Using up that excess energy was more conducive to learning.

[@mikebarnes8818]

When my boys got fidgety during homework and not getting anything done, I told them to run laps around the house. They came back tired and relaxed.

[@LizRealGirlBeauty]

But that takes time away from the classroom. If they just force them all to pop pills to calm down, they can stay in the classroom. I wish I could say I'm joking but I do think this is their rationale for why they've limited physical activity and increased demand for kids to be on drugs.

[@user-fw8rm1yv3i]

@@LizRealGirlBeauty Who are you talking about when you say "they"? I hope you are talking about parents because THEY are the ones who buy their nine year old a cell phone and let them stare at it instead of play outside. And schools DO NOT make ANY recommendations about medication for any students. They are not permitted to-they also do not "label" children with disorders or diagnose any conditions. They have to be careful even suggesting that parents have medical or pyschological assessments of their children and these are done outside of school by medical and mental health professionals. You obviously have no idea what you are talking about and have probably never spent any time trying to teach either typical children or those with special needs. Parents are the ones making decisions about how their kids spend their time or whether or not they take medication, not schools.

[@C.Church]

They often blew that scalding steam on girls and boys they felt beneath them. And adults looked the other way. I would say it would be fine if they were properly channeled to do it properly but we all know enough pockets of Neanderthals want to go back to trouncing in girls&boys they feel inferior... as their manly right. Why do so many men think manliness has the right to step on smaller people?

[@C.Church]

Unfortunately they developed the unjust belief it was their right to blow hot steam at "lessers" then claimed victimhood when stopped. The tantrums were so colossal, that people became too afraid to speak up. Remind you of anything? They/thems maybe?

[@Heyurgirlistotallyrandom]

As someone who is now in college, I am glad I am no longer in high school. High school was the worst stage of my life. I developed so much anxiety over stupid grades and exam stress. In college, since it’s not exam based, rather project based, it's definitely a way of learning that keeps me creative and able to solve problems and be practical and independant from more breaks compared to what they teach you in school. Teachers tell u to shut up, they tell u that grades matter more than ur personality, they force u to look for career options.

[@ss6830]

Wow, I love this. This is EXACTLY why I visit the library, church and the park, so I can supervise on and (somewhat) off, slowly letting him explore the world while I am still there. I love being a sahm, thank you for posting, and educating! ❤

[@marycrawford9428]

When I was small, kindergarten was optional. Most kids just started at grade one.

[@rdkirk3834]

It wasn't available at all where I was a child in the 50s.

[@katiejon17]

It still is optional (at least in many states). So many parents are completely checked-out in their parental roles. That’s why this nightmare is happening.

[@dolphincliffs8864]

Most are not parents and their children are like pets ,a status symbol. Worse yet,they try to be friends when a firm hand and a sense of duty should be felt and agreed upon by true parents and above all ,Actual Love.

[@italia689]

Now, in NYC, it is pre-k that is the optional thing. Kindergarten is the new grade 1

[@italia689]

@@katiejon17 In NYC, where I live, Kindergarten is the new grade 1.

[@gwgux]

I'm not a parent, but even I can tell that the amount of damage being done to kids in school is staggering.

[@alienliegh9245]

Cause it's vastly different than when we attended school they made so many changes to the school system and not for the better

[@lovetolaugh1453]

When I was growing up, punishment for us (boy or girl). was not being able to go outside. What she’s talking about was a way of life for me, my siblings and friends. A major issue affecting our children is clueless people are teaching and creating policies and laws on how to take care of our kids. Loving and affirming parents are key in ensuring our children develop and maintain a strong sense of themselves. It takes work, but it can be done and it’s worth it.

[@evage99]

I'm so grateful that some professionals are willing to stand their ground on this issue, it hurts my heart. I wanted to homeschool when our eldest was born in 2013, despite feeling a bit terrified that I'd fail horribly at it. My husband also didn't think I could do it, and was against homeschooling in general (out of ignorance). The more I looked into it and learned about it, the more adamant I was that I didn't want to send our son away to be raised by strangers, while my heart broke every day missing him. I absolutely do not understand mamas who gladly shoo their precious babies off to pre-K for the first time so they can go make money. I didn't care about money, I wanted to love on my boy and let him be a kid! He was ornery and rambunctious as soon as he could walk, school would've broken him. Thankfully, my husband relented, and our oldest turned 5. That fall, he didn't go to kindergarten. And most of my family piled on in protest. "Why aren't you taking him to school?? He'll be stupid! He'll be socially stunted! People will call him 'weird' his whole life! Is that what you want??" These people had considered me to be very smart while I was in school, so to hear them suddenly turn around and tell me what an idiot I was was shocking. I offered various articles and videos for education - my relatives didn't actually know anything about homeschooling, like my husband and I hadn't, and after minimal reading he'd decided that public school sounded pretty rough - I asked simple questions like "Look at the history of public schooling, which is very short; why do you think I HAVE to use it?" but none of it helped. I was a crazy, selfish mom who was hiding behind my baby so I could stay home and be lazy. It still amazes me that I haven't talked to people I love for over a decade now because of this. My husband had my back, finally, and soothed my broken confidence repeatedly until most of those people finally backed off (which took a couple years!). Our oldest is 10, his little brother is 7, and they're bright, happy boys who spend most of their days running and climbing and roughhousing, playing board games or inventing new ones, playing 'house' with their stuffed animals, setting up plastic animal armies around the house to wage war on each other...the list is very long. I never regretted keeping them from our declining public school system, but especially after Covid we felt like we'd dodged a whopper of a bullet. Now, my sister's also a homeschooling mom (she was a teacher!!) and since the "plandemic" the method seems to have gained some traction and become a bit more normalized. My dad eventually decided that his polite-and-helpful grandsons were pretty cool to hang out with, even if they couldn't quite read "at grade level" which he now understands to be arbitrary. My mom and her mom still comment now and then that it's too bad our boys "can't go to college and get a real education" later, because they've chosen ignorance over a bit of reading and still think that homeschooled kids have to work fast-food jobs as adults. But I'll gladly deal with a million more underhanded insults before sending our beautiful children off to be forced into a desk chair for 7+ hours a day, to be lectured and browbeaten by people who likely don't care much about them.

[@friedawells6860]

I'm Gen Z, the second half of the video talking about perfectionist girls is literally me. I had so many breakdowns in highschool and university over fear of getting a bad grade. I don't even know where this intense fear came from because my parents were not that concerned about my grades, it least not compared to some of my peers whose parents were absolute freaks about their kids getting perfect grades.

[@DadSavesAmerica]

Thank you for sharing! Did you feel comparison to others was part of this anxiety?

[@p5rsona]

It's what the mindless grading system does

[@friedawells6860]

@@DadSavesAmericaThank you for asking. Comparison was a part of it. However, I think it was mainly low self-esteem and having an external locus of control. It's basically really bad imposter syndrome. This fear of failing was truly existential for me, like my whole life was going to be taken away if I was not able to live up perfectly to the standards set by other people, be it academic or otherwise. The thing is, I got very good grades and won scholarships too, but I rarely felt a sense of accomplishment, only increased pressure to maintain expectations. I was living in fear of getting a bad grade, and I did not feel like I actually had control over what grades I got. I would not acknowledge the work that I did studying. I only felt like I got lucky that they tested me on what I knew, but I felt like such a total imposter, like one day they were gonna find out that I was a bad person who actually didn't know anything because that was how I saw myself. It honestly makes me tear up to think about how much negativity I have towards myself. The one thing in my life that has really helped me is God, and that I am His daughter and that He sees me with eyes of love and mercy. Now rest in assurance that my soul will judged according to the love and mercy that I show to others, and not by productivity or performance metrics. "Lord, my alloted portion and my cup, you have made my destiny secure (...)I bless the Lord who gives me counsel; in the night also my heart instructs me." -Psalm 16:5,7. I am only able to look at these issues that I have directly and even articulate them because of time spent with God in prayer. I converted to Catholicism last year and the priest that I regularly go to for confession has helped me a lot. When I have confessed perfectionism, self-reliance, self-hatred, he just gave me very kind advice and some very simple prayers to pray. Once he told me to pray Psalm 16, and another time he told me to just repeat "God, you love me." He said, "This is not even really a prayer to God, you just need to bathe yourself in the truth." It really helped. "And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" -John 8:32

[@clownworldtimes6434]

Thank you for sharing. I have a daughter who is elementary school. I did not have sisters growing up. Your perspective is valuable to me.

[@KCJohn316]

@@friedawells6860 God has freed me from addiction (20 yrs) and perfectionism/performance orientation also. When my life looked perfect on the outside was when I was the sickest.

[@joemadden4160]

When I was 8, I drew pictures of Superman, pirate ships, rockets, airplanes. I got hurt running around. Stitches. Missing fingernails. Cuts. Bruises. Now we have playdates for kids? In the summer, when I was 10, I would get on my bike and ride and wouldn't come home for hours. Exploration of nature, by yourself or with friends, was important. Now the child, up until the age of 10, is in a car seat? 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@soydansogukcesme470]

also teachers will not allow it anyway.. what if you fall and hurt yourself the insurens company wont pay or sue the school.. ect... it is so damm complicated nowadays.. for most(not all) teacher its easier/laziness if the kids are quite and dont have fun.. otherwise the teacher needs to match the energie lvl of the kids to calm they down or to teach them stuff.. and like i said.. they are rather lazy themself is more comfortable for them

Times change bro. But, I thank everyday to life, that we lived great times.

[@DgardsGaming]

Superman? screw that, Batman is better. XD

[@Tanyalinares33]

It's so sad 😢 When I was a kid, we were also able to ride our bikes until the sun went down, or walk with our friends up town, etc. I wasn't quite as safe when my oldest kids (in mid 20s now) were young. I was able to let them play outside together in the fenced yard around age 5-6..with me checking in every so often. I could also hear them playing through the window. They were able to walk with friends to town and ride bikes until around 6-8:00 at age 12. Now, sadly my youngest kiddos have to be watched like a hawk. It's so heartbreaking that they can't enjoy life like kids should. I don't trust anyone. There are too many crazies out these days. I mean, they still get to do those things, but I have to be with them 24/7.

[@joemadden4160]

@@DgardsGaming Agree👍🏼

[@FinnAstraeus]

I was conditioned and didn’t realize it. Now I see it and am trying to honorably unwind it the last few years. I’m off of anti-depressants, I’m getting good sleep, I’m happy and not sad or depressed, I found confidence I never had, my ambition is growing, I’m laughing more, and I’m raising my boys to be men to mitigate or avoid the conditioning. I was weak and sensitive. No longer though, but now I see the weak and sensitive males all over society and am grateful I was able to eventually catch on to my conditioning and its impact on my world view and life. There is a better way! But u gotta be willing to be self critical to see it! God bless the good!

[@precise3291]

I was a Preschool teacher and also an assistant, I absolutely hated the demands put on us and the illogical expectations of young children, I found myself discouraged and oppositional. I didn't like to follow many rules and I ended up wanting out. I miss the children I've encountered over the years but I had to leave for my own sanity.

[@Baneslayer]

Homeschool is the way forward. Parents need to build STRONG relationships with their kids. Be there for them. Be their rock. Be their support. Love them. Care for them. Be there for them.

[@theguybehindyou4762]

Farming/Gardening is a good way to teach life skills and responsibility to children, while the internet can really speed up the learning process and make daily schooling periods much shorter.

[@rrickarr]

And when those homeschooled kids need to come back to school they are totally socially bereft and they cannot operate in a social setting!!!!!!

[@theguybehindyou4762]

@@rrickarrHomeschooled children have mentors that understand them and don't treat them like inmates, the way most school teachers do.

[@theswineking4036]

Breaking news: Local clueless guy has clearly never heard of extracurricular activities

[@connielilly1199]

These ideas have been known in the homeschooling circles for many, many years. We were villainized for allowing our boys to wiggle, jump, explore, etc. Finally someone “mainstream”is catching up , and I wish academia would listen.

[@user-il7do2xl9c]

When I was 9 my boobs started growing and my butt got bigger, I was very embarrassed of it and tried to wear loose clothes so nobody see my shapes. If I had some nutty doctor telling about to change my body and being a boy I would go for it, but instead I had a smart common sense mom and doctor that been telling me this changes are ok because I’m a girl 🧒💃. I love being who I really am and not trying to be who I’m not.

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

...Okay, that is great, but this video has nothing to do with transmania?

[@TBrosProject]

Someone should have told you that you’re kookoo

[@That_OneGuy46]

I pretty much never payed attention in class throughout all of primary school, but then again in high school I still don't.

[@stillwatersfarm8499]

I don’t like the term “feminizing” to explain this. This situation is not what girls need either. Maybe they tolerate it better, but that’s not because it is natural for them or what they need. Women struggle disproportionately with weight gain that plagues them their whole lives. Might that be in part because we reward them for sedentary habits? In early elementary I wanted to play, and my best friends were boys. My desire to move was effectively beat out of me by third grade.

[@user-ff8rs7gk6r]

They don't care about obesity rates, because it helps them fight the "male gaze". They WANT all the women to be fat. Because they are out to "get even" with men.

[@teresam5199]

💯

[@Watchman70]

I like what she said. "It wouldn't be the first time I said something inflammatory". We have to stop being afraid of opposition and of offending others with what we KNOW is right. Fear of social shaming, backlash and being labeled has turned us into a nation of cowards. WE allowed this to happen. WE gave them this power over us. Although they like to portray themselves as the collective voice of the majority, they're most certainly not. Let's take back our lives from these so called professionals and if we have to suffer in the process, it will be well worth it. Look what we're fighting for! 👀

[@craigpennington1251]

Absolutely so.

[@VisionaryVicente]

Certainly so!

[@flowerflour5257]

Naaah, you got, like, the first 5% right. Ya gave nobody any power, 'cause the thing is that overthrowings happen, and maybe y'all made these mindsets come to be in some way, but you never allowed it anybody than the opposition allowed you to exist. You are not superior nor inferior, so act like it: you are not a soldier killing children, you're a starved man clawing your way through another starved man's throat for the crumbs of bread that constitute your own ideology.

[@SapiaNt0mata]

now that they've creeped into these positions good luck plucking them away. not even Trump managed to do this. things became worse when he was president.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

The words of strong men will fall on the deaf ears of the weak. Cowardice is right, where is the courage to overcome that fear and stand up for what's right? I wish I could've been born in good times created by strong men, not in the bad times created by pathetic weak ones.

[@delcarmen1377]

I’ve been homeschooling my son since the pandemic. They failed him from 2nd grade because he didn’t turn in a packet even though he didn’t have not 1 F on his last report card to justify them holding him back. I later found out that he was getting made to sit alone on a corner for his classes because he talked so much. The teacher even sent me a form several times to encourage me to test and medicate him for adhd smh. I called the school board and one of the ladies there said what they did was unacceptable. She tried to help but nothing could be done since everything was shut down at the time. That’s what opened my eyes and I had enough with the school system. I realized that they were trying to force me to accept whatever they threw at me. I Don’t have that problem anymore and my son is completely normal and not hyper like they were trying to make it look. He was just a little boy with some extra energy that they did not want to deal with!

[@johncase1353]

For alot of parents preschool has always been a free daycare. I remember back in the early 90s when I went we had a group that stayed over longer because their parent or parents were still at work and would lay down for a nap then play for the rest of the day until they got picked up. So a single parent or both parents working full time is nothing new.

[@matthorrocks6517]

They used to lock me in a closet at school. True story. We called it the box.

[@klaramorris8911]

Whoa

[@candylicious3024]

That’s Abuse!!! Reminds me of the movie Matilda when the principal would lock little girls in the closet and called it “ The Chokie” You should of told your Mom because that treatment is Unacceptable!!

[@crazyzombie9720]

⁠@@candylicious3024 I remember that movie. The principal was insane 😆 locking them in that closet and forcing that boy to eat an entire chocolate cake.

[@matthorrocks6517]

Well there was no cake but man those ladies were mean. Telling me I would never see my family. That men in white suits were going to take me away. Horrible for a 5th graders mind. People are twisted. Listen to children's plights they all need us to help them in a good way. I survived though.

[@uboa8060]

​@@matthorrocks6517ew, what the actual hell... That's some straight sadist stuff right there. I hope that things got better after that grade level.

[@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115]

There's nothing more dangerous to kids than the educational system.

[@reubenmorris487]

Bad parents rank up there with the "education" system...

[@BarghestOne]

Especially when its driven by neo stealth marxists

[@normanicole4714]

Not even close to the danger of ignorance.

[@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115]

@@normanicole4714 Ask to random people to name ten books then. You will see sheer ignorance.

[@normanicole4714]

@@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115 people will know less books without education. Education is a national prority and if its doing bad we fix it not decide teaching kids is bad. If don't you know anything about anything you are easy to manipulate.

[@jimmysblacksmithing462]

Interesting how she knows all the technical aspects of it all! It’s wonderful. As a father and grandfather, and the youngest and smallest of four boys growing up, A little experience she may say, and how things work. As an adult have always advocated for boys and girls to be encouraged to play using their minds and hands, learning arts and craft, as well as basic gardening and hammers and tools age appropriately, of course. And with guidance for their safety. As well as teaching them a little of reading, writing, and math. and about nature and science and things like that each day. Basic interaction and unlimited love for them as well! And they sure turn out solid emotionally. Despite this difficult society we live in. Thank you for this. Look forward to more. Just found your channel today and subscribed. Keep up the great work. Stay well. Have a beautiful day.👍🙏

[@scottthunder5459]

It’s called: PLAY SPORTS

[@trailerwager8850]

Bikes and skateboards. Things you do not lean on others to enjoy

[@jojojordan5557]

I've been saying this for years! When I saw how schools are in US I said that can only bring damage to kids, especially to boys.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

That's the point! Damaged people are so much easier to control than healthy ones. Until we get the wicked people at the top out of there, this will only continue to get worse.

[@Boringcountrylife]

I know of a little lady who was born in the early 1800's that had a lot to say on the education of children including that they shouldn't be set in front of books and expected to do memorizing before the age of 10. Their brains needed to grow in other ways first. I followed that advice starting with my 2nd child and it made a huge difference.

[@KalonOrdona2]

I was reading paragraphs at 3 (homeschool). No need to do memorization or achievement-stress (we didn't), but please do get communication fluency into your children as early as possible. It unlocks everything else.

[@Boringcountrylife]

@@KalonOrdona2 No lack of learning or communication here. Just no forced book learning until their brains were ready. Some had invest and abilities before others. That's the great part about teaching your own kids. They can learn at their pace instead of having to keep up with or being held back by the pace of their peers.

[@oooh19]

yea but some kids might like books. and isn't it good for parents/grandparents to read to their small children?

[@Boringcountrylife]

@@oooh19 Every kid should be read to everyday. It's the forced memorization that actually damages the brain. Children are little computers that are constantly learning. From what I've heard from modern scientific studies... the years up until age 10-11 are the only years when the right side of the brain develops. The left side isn't ready for left brain activity until 10-12 at the soonest. If you force left brain activity when the left side of the brain isn't active then the right side of the brain will stop it's proper development and adjust to take over the left brain activities you are forcing it to do. Thus the right side never fully develops. Then there follows a rainbow of developmental issues from the lack of a fully functioning right side of the brain. It's easily seen in society today. If you want to know more through a lecture format I recommend Joshua White (A Thinking Generation) or Scott Ritsma (Belt of Truth).

[@jadapinkett1656]

Congratulations on making your child stupid on the advice of someone born over a century ago. I'm also assuming you meant *1900s.

[@elizabethcooper9815]

One of our problems is parents not knowing that about little boys and testosterone. We are always taught, boys will be boys. Educating parents about the development stages of our children probably would help many parents and their children.

[@aouna9412]

This guy gives me “I hear you, let’s make more degrees so people can stay in schools longer” vibes

[@yearight1205]

The part of history no one dares ever mention is how when feminism came on the scene, they changed the way school was designed to cater towards how girls learn. This was done to in the hopes that it would give women the chance to catch up and get into those high level positions. This is why girls do better in school than boys do. Think about it. For thousands of years we know there were schools in which men taught boys. We have for almost all of human history invested in teaching the boys, NOT the girls. End result? We have countless writings from all across the WORLD going over how to teach boys. Yet they play stupid and act as though this event never took place, and so we all just get to watch young boys struggle. Nightmare people at the head of all this.

[@teresam5199]

Lies

[@jennprescott2757]

Isn’t that literally Warren Gray’s whole thing? They referenced him at the start of this clip

[@ramirez158]

​@@teresam5199The truth hurts doesn't it.

[@falseandugu6429]

You are consummately incorrect. Try again.

[@ashleea.8566]

I have three kids, 2 girls and 1 boy and my son was recently diagnosed with conduct disorder because of his extreme behavior at school. I feel like somehow the school system did this to him. I finally took all of my kids out and decided to homeschool because my girls were coming home crying almost everyday and my son was completely losing his mind. It's made SUCH a huge difference. The school system is trash and my kids weren't even getting a quality education.

[@katydid2877]

“You learn through freeplay”. So, at recess kids should be making up games, running around, climbing on the equipment, etc. Except schools are now hiring staff for organized games at recess, cause can’t have the kids just playing on their own. They have “School recess plans and policies”. Gotta control that stuff, right? Can’t have them thinking for themselves and solving their own problems that come up. Yea …

[@mikemccormick8115]

And parents have stood by and allowed this regression. Home school.

[@C.Church]

Many bought into the lie that boys weren't given special self confidence boosting treatment before, but that that they were "naturally better". Many of the fathers themselves believed that lie and spread it themselves in mockery to their female peers who pointed it out in that era. And you're surprised they stood by? They believed in their own natural superiority. Why are you shocked?

[@user-ff8rs7gk6r]

Some of them facilitated it.

[@C.Church]

I got a notification on this post bc I replied to it. :( I said parents and their "not MY little angel!" ways are the downfall in most areas of modern controversy and quality decay. Also, fathers who bought into the classic "No, boys arent given special attention and confidence building. They're NATURALLY better" lie. That dishonest philosophy that put boys unfairly ahead of girls is the foundation for most ills today.

[@C.Church]

Parents and their "not MY little angel!" ways are the downfall in most areas of modern controversy and quality decay. But what is an origin? Fathers who bought into the classic "No, boysarent given special attention and confidence building. They're NATURALLY betterthangurlz!" lie. That dishonest philosophy that put themselves unfairly ahead ofgirls is the foundation for most ills today.

[@C.Church]

YT doesn't like the truth that parents and old time special rights for boys caused all this.

[@neilifill4819]

They’re not in circle time all the time.

[@christophertolman7023]

I have 4 boys and this has been a constant concern. I try to get them to be as physical as possible during non-school hours to make up for it. We go outside in the evening and play basketball, soccer, go for bike rides, etc. Lately my 6 year old has been particularly energetic, jumping across the room like a monkey off of furniture and on to furniture, etc. Yesterday, I sent them out back where he wrestled with his brother on the trampoline for a while.

[@thogevoll]

I saw this 23 years ago and we pulled our three sons out of school and home schooled them. They're 28/29 today and much better for it. We did let them go back to public high school. By then they could better manage on their own. All three made the varsity football team.

[@be9988]

Both of my sons went to a forest preschool that is also a small farm: first for 3 hours, 3 mornings per week 2 years before kindergarten, and then 5 mornings per week the year before kindergarten. They were expected to build towers and knock them down, play make believe, play outside in the dirt, climb trees and explore nature together. They also did lots of arts and crafts and played outside every day unless there was extreme weather. It has served them well developmentally and I wish all children had this opportunity.

[@vewyscawymonsta]

I was listening to this as as an ad, and while this woman was describing what school does with boys, i just kept thinking "and then when the boys cant just sit there quietly all day, they get told they have ADD and are medicated" and she immediately followed up with that exact comment. As an adult, i do everything in my power to avoid medication because this is exactly what happened to me as a kid.

[@11Garrett11]

Thank you!!! School was SOOOOO crazy-making!!!!!

[@wandasewell4501]

We need to ask why is this happening? Maybe to depopulate and Transhumanism? Why is my question?

[@DadSavesAmerica]

You’re not wrong IMHO.

[@otherbelairdynasty9486]

It's not a conspiracy. It's a side effect of modern feminism's push to prove the sexes are equal because they are the same. The truth is, we are different and still equal. We don't need to be the same to be equal. This is the biggest mistake of modern feminism and it's causing lots of issues throughout our society.

[@lesseirgpapers9245]

Try 56 V6x by 6months....

[@zakatista5246]

Because women have assumed all the positions of power, are managing their environment to suit themselves.

[@wordup897]

The "elites" are waging war on all fronts. Food, drugs, economic, societal, spiritual. Everyone is a target.

[@kadd4415]

Working at a daycare, I was given a class of 32-36 boys. I encouraged a lot of outdoor activity. They would run around for maybe an hour and came back ready to learn.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

It's like with our "knowledge" we still don't grasp the very simple concept of physical energy preventing mental focus. The same happens in adults. You get stressed, you get annoyed, you get frustrated, can't think straight, go exercise and blow off that energy and your focus will come back. It's actually reta that kids (ESPECIALLY boys) are forced to sit and learn on a daily basis for 6-8 hours at a time. It's like we're trying to fail at rded teaching purposely to make the kids feel like it's their fault and they're an idiot. There's also plenty of research showing many people do not learn well just sitting and reading / listening to someone talk. Plenty of people are hands on learners that are stunted early on in life by a forced education strategy that is archaic and less than ideal.

[@MistaGSpecialEducation]

I remember being 6 or 8 and play fighting with the boys. So glad I didn’t have to sit through the existential crisis inside classes instead of running outside.

[@Princessalishia]

Very relevant topic to the modern society.Thankyou for bringing this up.Nowadays it’s all about achieving things early as possible.No wonder our society is going downhill because of this tremendous pressure to achieve things in such a young age.I am so fed up this idea.Because this is dragging us to an unwanted competition.If someone is going in a slower phase society labels him/her as a looser.😢😢😢

[@fubartotale3389]

I noticed this as a boy in school at a young age. All my teachers were women, mostly older, snd their dislike of boys was palpable. We had a field trip that included a visit to our boy teachers house, and the only boys allowed in were the sissy boys. Once I was last out the steel door to the playground at recess, and as I tried to grab the door before it closed it caught my hand and latched. My teacher was gobbing with her friend and she looked over at me and said "someone will be by to open the door soon" She was standing ten feet from me.

[@goatsandroses4258]

On top of the male/female divide, you add in children with autism who might be academically advanced but emotionally fragile and in constant sensory pain; other autistic children with varying IQ levels; children with trauma, children with learning disabilities, etc. What is SO sad and SO terrifying is that the very people (medical, educational, and psychological) who supposedly KNOW BEST what young children and neurodiverse children REQUIRE are sometimes a core part of the problem of too-early-too-fast-too-cookie-cutter education.

[@mykold4391]

I’m experiencing this now as a teacher of “ special Behavioral kids “ . I have a kindergartener he reads at a 4th grade level and extremely advanced but he gets really excited which is normal for 6 year olds but he’s labelled bad and is grouped with children who fight and tussle. He’s autistic and I feel for him so much. I always have to advocate for him because the public school system is just so messed up

[@Zebra66]

They tried to do that to my son at 6. The school psychologist suggested drugs but I refused. I was horrified that schools even have psychologists. My life experience says... don't let the medical industry anywhere near your kids. Those ADHD drugs are recipe for lifelong depression and anxiety.

[@Novusod]

A psychologist is just a pill pusher. They don't belong in schools.

[@prouddegenerates9056]

Found my mother dead at 10, went to the psychologist and hardly spoke to her, yet I was essentially put on HDHD meds and antidepressants instantly. Refused to take them later and became an A student with a killer SAT score, also gained this general mistrust of every woman in the mental health industry. God forbid a child have emotions after finding their mother a cold husk. Got trapped by the lifeless glare in a loved one’s eyes, then was raised by the government. Crazy how everyone acts surprised, when one of us snaps and attacks the public.

[@theguybehindyou4762]

@@prouddegenerates9056They're not surprised, they're just worried about how they're going to sweep this under the rug to keep the grift going. In a corrupt system, everyone is only in it for their own gain.

[@lao-grotten1101]

What do you have against psychologists and medications?

[@Zebra66]

@lao-grotten1101 They are irresponsible faith healers fabricating medical conditions and prescribing dangerous drugs to people who don't need them without any understanding of the long-term damage they cause. Real doctors don't diagnose with questionnaires or delete medical conditions from the textbook because leftists find them offensive.

[@avb19d6]

KZbin actually crushing it with a recommendation?! We just had a baby girl, she’s an absolute Angel. We are aiming for a boy next and this is such a needed message.

[@sophieje6039]

just hearing that part about girls being perfectionistic and having an overstimulated amygdala almost reduced me to tears...

[@rolandgreystoke5601]

Little boys who have trouble focusing should take boxing lessons. They are VERY focusing.

[@stanzavik]

Would love some data to support this

[@sadev101]

@@stanzavik ive not got data for you . but any sport has you focussing on that sport and the teacher is there to keep you focussed. in boxing. wrestling even running skating etc this is the case

[@cosmicshy637]

​@@stanzavikwow. 😂 look it up.

[@Kwildcat13]

It’s not boxing it’s exercise in general

[@rolandgreystoke5601]

@@stanzavik All I got is how it helped me.

[@michaelbarrette2754]

I’m a middle school teacher and I have my class setup to get up and move around. I like projects and both boys and girls like it because they get bored sitting down. They build something or create something and then I have them write about it. It is awesome.

[@ianphillips1365]

If you want to see any of this change, mandatory attendance laws must be abolished. It's the problem with services provided by way of a government monopoly, even if the service stinks or we don't need it anymore (we actually never needed it), it's now entrenched, compulsory and coercive. And it's enforced by an army of millions of bureaucrats, unions and employees whose mortgages are paid only if the system stays the way it is. New and market disrupting ideas cannot be allowed to the extant that they could actually threaten the lifestyles and livelihoods of the people who are now dependent upon the government school system.

[@LampWaters]

Covid hit and i wasn't about to have kids stand in line 6ft apart and tell my youngest son who was 4 to not hug his friends and play, i wasn't going to send my preschooler to prison training. Homeschooling best decision ever

[@TBrosProject]

You hope.

[@arnoldpalmer-fv7pf]

You didn’t want Covid to ruin your kids socialization, so your solution was to homeschool them??

[@LizRealGirlBeauty]

We held our son, who is autistic, from going to school for two extra years. No pre-k. Started kindergarten when he was 6, turned 7 that November. I'm glad we did. Being older and more developed made it so that he was better equipped to deal with the stress of the classroom. He was able to focus more and participate more. But at the time we got a lot of crap from some family for doing this. They pushed for him to go to the full- day pre-k that our district has at age 3 (which is really city funded daycare). A relative even tried to convince me to put my son on ADHD drugs to "get him to behave in the classroom now instead of waiting." We said no, he's a little boy, he doesn't need speed (she then said "oh come on, it's from a doctor's prescription and a pharmacy, it's not speed" like writing a prescription changes the compounds). Before anyone responds with "you should have homeschooled," my kid is severely autistic and needs special ed. If that hadn't been the case, I would have homeschooled him.

[@ReineDeLaSeine14]

I’m sure you got the whole line of “Your son needs to learn how to socialize”. Autistic people socialize differently and we should challenge some of the pointless norms we have. I’m glad your son is doing well.

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

I'd respect advocates more if they would just admit pre-K and the Head Start program WERE just state daycare. They would get less backlash and probably some SUPPORT if they were just more honest.

[@oeliamoya9796]

She is so right. What's sad is if a father was doing the talking they'd label him a misogynist or worse. People are so scared to speak out because sheeple are scared of change so they attack with labels and cancel culture. Such a toxic time we live in 😢

[@music_chic0229]

As a preschool teacher, does anyone have advice for how to fix this in the classroom? There are expectations on the teacher that must be carried out, but is there a way to keep kids active enough to rule out the problems described? Does anyone know of resources I can look into?

[@kristadavis2825]

I’m so bless that me 3 boys get to be homeschooled. We were also just blessed from moving out of an RV into a fixer upper house on 31.4 acres of woods and ponds to explore and fish. My oldest would 100% be diagnosed as ADHD (my background is in child development and psychology, so I know the diagnosis criteria). He gets to learn at his own pace with lots of breaks and no medication, other than removing /limiting foods that contribute to his behavior. We got started around 9:30 this morning (time change and baby not sleeping is making us sleep in) and it to took maybe two hours of active work for my two school age boys, and that was with an hour of LEGOs, some chores, and lunch mixed in.

[@kathleenkirchoff9223]

I stayed home with my first two kids but financial crisis returned me to teaching when son was two. He was adhd and I regretted him being in daycare. What I saw in 25 years of public school teaching confirms everything in this video. All day every day preK is more damaging especially when we started in covid with masks. The feral behavior problems and emotionally crippled kids are rampant.

[@joshuahernandez-bm1zp]

She’s a “psychoanalyst” because she’s not qualified to call herself a psychologist

[@hisinvisibleness-fn8qj]

Doesn't matter if she's speaking truth What narrative are you pushing?

[@joshuahernandez-bm1zp]

@@hisinvisibleness-fn8qj I’m just stating the fact that psychoanalyst is a meaningless title, sorry if that offends you

[@WalterWhite84762]

It’s better than toxic masculinity

[@user-bz9kd3cm3e]

I worked with two year olds at preschool not long after coming to the US from Japan. I would work with them for 20 minutes, and go outside to play before another 20 minute of learning inside..and so on. One day I was called by a director and was told that I spent too much time outside playing instead of them learning inside. "Parents want their children to learn".. is what I was told. These were two year olds. They expected two year olds to sit and learn most of their day. For children, playing outdoor is a learning time as well, I thought. But I learned that day how Japan and US do things differently when it came to treating children.

[@LizRealGirlBeauty]

Dr Komisar has written about this, how they cloak daycare under the guise of "early learning," to make parents feel better about leaving their kids there. If it's just care, then they feel guilty farming it out. But when it's "educational," then they're doing something "good" for the child by getting them access to early education. Then they're being "noble" by sacrificing their time with their kids in exchange for them having access to the chance to be an "early learner." And she says how kids that young don't actually learn anything, so it's just a cover, and a way for daycare to charge more.

[@Chimpangel]

I don't think students have extracurricular school activities in Asian countries. They are taught to sit and be quiet at an early age. The focus is mostly on education. The suicide rates of South Korea n students is very high. Too much pressure in getting good grafes.

[@Chimpangel]

Grades.

[@longiusaescius2537]

@Chimpangel Japan isn't Korea

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

@@longiusaescius2537 True, but in this case all Asian countries are similar. China, Japan, Korea, they all have huge focuses on education and all have higher than normal suicide rates, especially for teenagers. We're working on catching up to them though! The surge in woke ideology is upping our numbers in that regard!

[@Humblebluegalaxy]

Growing up I developed gender identity dysphoria and I believe that it was because I was in extreme emotional distress from having to complete with boys with everything in school growing up (I am female). Naturally, I am an empathetic and agreeable person who is very feminine. I worked incredibly hard in school because I did not want to do wrong by everyone. I had a narcissistic school teacher in the sixth grade who would give students detention for missing a single homework assignment. She was super strict and believed in preparing elementary school students for the work force. This is when my dysphoria started. My father also pushed his technical interests on me and did not support me in embracing any of my interests. I had a lot of emotional issues later in life and became a workaholic for a long time. I never felt content in my femininity and never learned my value as a woman or started a family. I think our population is declining as a result of the pressures put on girls to overachieve in school and the workforce. Girls in school are taught never to depend on anyone or else you are a loser. This mentality makes it difficult for women to want to have babies.

[@snorriivan6365]

We are slaves, both women and men, to our industrial overlords...

[@sammig.8286]

I also had gender disphoria. Was largely because I wanted to be perfect and women weren't perfect (men aren't either, but I almost thought they were) women are too emotional. Men are logical. That's the message I learned, and so I wanted to be smart and logical like a man, not emotional and illogical like a woman. Also pink is just way too overdone, and I don't like "girly" stuff.

[@rezlogan4787]

Good insight. Pregnancy is a vulnerable time when women need a strong man who is also good to them. These days most men are neither strong nor good. Women respond by trying to be masculine to be their own protector, but this recreates the same problem of not feeling protected anymore.

[@WillieFungo]

​@@sammig.8286This stuff is all in your head. No one pressures girls to compete with boys. Many of you just have an inbuilt inferiority complex that you incorrectly label as social pressure. Unfortunately boys end up paying the price for girls imaginary marginalization.

[@phoebes2036]

It’s important to have balance though and also important for women to be self-sufficient. Women are still having babies and many are choosing to stay at home as long as it is financially feasible. There is still more pressure for women to have babies than to have a career for the rest of her life. But the worst thing that anyone can do, man or woman, is to solely rely on others in life. Many women end up stuck in abusive relationships with men because they have become so dependent on them financially and with kids it’s even harder to escape. And what happens if your husband dies and you have no college degree and haven’t had any work experience or very little? Luckily when my dad died he made sure to set my mom up well with a nest egg she could use for the remainder of her life- but what if he didn’t do that? A 60 year old woman who had been out of the work force for 30 years having to start over? I don’t think school pressure is the reason women are less likely to have babies these days and stay at home. It’s largely due to inflation/economy and a low quality dating market. Hookup culture where men have less incentive to want to court women is a big issue as well as unlimited and instant access to porn. Social media and the internet have seriously harmed the younger generations who lack adequate social skills too.

[@ryanm1586]

I hated circle time. I was never able to sit still and always used to get in trouble for not sitting still. Completely made me hate school and learning.

[@Lilybelle-vr3ho]

Im so, so glad i was homeschooled. People say homeschoolers have no social lives or skills. Bro, i have it better than you.

[@luckygandolff]

I am a teacher and everything this lady is saying hits home. Schools are not built for boys. Much of my practice involves creating spaces where kids can be loud, creative, and have opportunities to take risk, but that is not met without criticism. The part about girls being perfectionists and filled with anxiety is sadly true. By the time they hit fourth grade, there's a lot of trauma to undo 😔

[@user-ff8rs7gk6r]

They need to be separated in school.

[@norapodlasky8278]

Modern schools aren't built for anyone. But yes we need more male role models for boys or even seperate schools at least at a young age.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

The only accurate way to describe the current school system is it's built to create dysfunctional, damaged, miserable, and ignorant people. Boys are punished for anything masculine, losing touch with themselves along the way. Girls are taught to be masculine, career driven, egotistical, and also lose touch with themselves along the way. The teaching criteria is trash (common core), the teaching methods are archaic (sitting in a lecture room is far from the most ideal way to teach, and many don't learn well in that setting at all), the food is as bad as a prisons, not enough exercise, the ideological indoctrination sees children grow up confused and detached from themselves and reality, instead identifying as some pretend person. It's a disgusting cesspool of a system hijacked by Marxists to ruin our children, ultimately to have them ruin our country down the line and destroy any morals along the way.

[@rrickarr]

lucky: So what are you doing to help the boys in your classes?

[@Irishmando15510]

@@user-ff8rs7gk6rno

[@user-ce9yo1sx6c]

This isnt just school. I work at a daycare. Starting at 12 months old kids are being conditioned to sit still and conform when they haven't gotten to move their bodies past walking a little bit around the one room. We aren't just creating learning problems, we're creating obesity, They literally get yelled at for more than a walk while inside ALL DAY LONG. There are plenty of days they don't go outside at all. (Which is illegal.) I have a whole rant on this. And I work at a well-rated daycare. If you have a choice, keep them home or find a PLAY-BASED curriculum. These poor kids act like caged monkeys half the time and all the system cares about is whether you checked the right boxes. Daycare teachers are stress quitting because they can't manage kids behavior and they aren't allowed to let them run off the steam outside for a variety of regulatory and system rules.

[@VoiceOvaGuy]

Why people continue to obey clearly illegal, unconstitutional, and straight abusive laws is beyond me. Nobody can think for themselves anymore. Laws are created to fix a problem, if the law instead turns into the problem, nothing good will EVER come from obeying said law. In fact, it's our duty as Americans to NOT FOLLOW UNCONSTITUTIONAL LAWS. Actually pathetic how acquiesced almost everyone is, giving up on the spot even they know it's wrong, and sometimes plain evil. This is child abuse from a VERY young age, I just hope everyone participating in it is ready to answer for their actions and choices when the time comes.

[@itsfrankieg5816]

This is awful!!!

[@geepook7902]

That’s some shit , they tried to put that on my son in preschool that he had HDD because he didn’t like to take naps or sit down. He wanted to play. They tried to say something was wrong with him. He has a problem. He’s now going to the fourth grade and he’s the best reader, and one of the smartest kids in the class. Do not listen to these people, they are full of it. Lady is absolutely right.

[@user-kp1oe4xy4h]

The problem with kids is society.

[@Deploracle]

I'm old enough to remember when this was common sense.

[@jenniferturner9012]

I'm so sorry for my son. I had no idea that what I wanted him to learn with was actually right. Now I'm in a tangled legal mess where it's still being pushed. I don't know how to stop it and go the right direction for him. I feel so bad. I had no real idea because everyone around me pushed me to keep him quiet complacent and even medicated to keep him that way. He does have developmental disabilities, but I think a majority of it could be cured with real play as a boy more than he's had. These neighbors that think children should be a certain volume are ridiculous. So sad. 😢 ❤

[@thekingsdaughter4233]

I was always asking myself how we could have made it through our boys' childhood in an apartment building. 😞 We were blessed to live in a house. I tried to get them used to "indoor voices" and to be considerate - but they would always bounce, jump, scream and shout as they played. AND forget about not throwing footballs indoors. Modern living situations are not compatible with healthy, active little boys, I guess... 😞

[@jennaflint977]

If it’s neighbors definitely MOVE …. Do everything you can to move to a better place for your little boy 🙏💖

[@craigpennington1251]

Be a parent to your kid and not somebody doing your job.

[@dennispellock2359]

Lay the law down to complaining neighbors and tell them tough shit.

[@VisionaryVicente]

What are these "developmental disabilities" he has? That may be the first lie?

[@camcamlady8068]

I’ve always felt this way. My boy is full of testosterone and I think it’s a good thing not something to suppress. Glad someone said it publicly!

[@RoadWarrior-lo9vt]

She should have said, "It wouldn't be the first time I stated facts that were inflammatory."

[@gregb6469]

It is problems like those discussed in this video that have led so many families to choose to home-school their kids.

[@personnesenki4521]

Homeschool or private school. It is the only way forward.

[@ericp0012]

We need more countries and territories to legalize homeschooling.

[@theguybehindyou4762]

The internet makes homeschooling so much easier.

[@apertioopening3425]

Nice video! 👍🏻 This was definitely a bit a problem when I was growing up, but I saw that it got much worse for my little brother. I don't know the way forward... How do we fix this?

[@monicalee9659]

*Montessori preschool was great for my daughters. They started at 3 yrs old, school was 3 hrs per day at the age of three. I volunteered at the preschool. This was so awesome for my daughter's and they succeeded great through all their years of school.* *The other preschools are daycare's, not good. I agree with this women.*

[@perspectiveiseverything1694]

As someone who has been practicing childhood (&human) dev't for almost 40 years, it is SO frustrating that parents & professionals have completely ignored healthy dev't of children in favor of seeking status ($$ & things), trusting strangers, falling for bad cultural & social norms, following baseless curriculums, & dangerous ideologies. I've been sounding off all these years & mostly get pathetic excuses, or for the unengaged parents, a shrug. No wonder so many (now) adults, as well as kids, are lost.

[@sarahhale-pearson533]

This is so true! What are we doing to our kids?!

[@user-ff8rs7gk6r]

Simple. We prioritized our girls over our boys. We've been doing it for decades, I'm not sure how it's so surprising to anyone here?

[@rrickarr]

And what are you as a parent doing to fix this or compensate when your kids are at home with you?