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[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

For anyone that is confused by my take on the baby story: I want to be crystal clear that I am PRO CHOICE. Please do not misconstrue something I said in relation to the story's circumstances and make it into something that it is not and that I do not stand for. Please give a little grace 🙏🏻

[@xxoldmagicxx]

I knew you were just trying to give it a silver lining after hearing something so….bizarre and awful. The people complaining are so weird, I don’t want kids but I got what you meant so people are just being obtuse on purpose.

[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

thanks for this!! I love the word obtuse, I am using that moving forward LOL 🙏🏻

[@Comicbrooke]

Alejandra, you are always so thoughtful and articulate on these episodes, always giving people the benefit of the doubt and trying to understand where someone might be coming from before passing judgment on a stranger. I’m so sorry that you even have to defend yourself for a well-meaning innocuous comment, and I hope that folks will give you the same grace that you give to the people in these stories. As a fellow pro-choicer myself, I didn’t see anything wrong with your comment in the first place, but even if I had, I know that if I shared my opinion you’d listen and be open to feedback. Your openness and humility always shine through in these episodes, and I hope you don’t question your own integrity and motives, because you shouldn’t. Much love 💜

[@sophiarose8018]

Thank you for clarifying this. ❤ I knew what you meant, but I think because of the cultural climate right now, people might need that clarification and reassurance.

[@samanthag6613]

Having heard you for over a year, that thought didn't cross my mind. Thx for clarifying anyway!

[@kimmiintechnicolor2694]

Not sure how this slipped through the cracks of the second story but he said his girlfriend was having a hard time lately losing her grandmother. She was sad and looking for this to cheer her up and he STILL acted like it was nothing but a burden to go to a concert for her in the city. Unreal.

[@maddybeste280]

Yeah, almost like it was an afterthought for him, something he just threw in at the end because he remembered it. She probably hasn’t felt like she’s been able to open up to him and talk about it because if she did, he would probably talk more about how he was doing this specifically to cheer her up because of her grandmother dying. Also, when he said, “ I suggested we go back to my place to finish out the night, and she refused. This also pissed me off” I exploded in anger. I don’t know if I’m understanding this wrong but it sounds like he was 100% expecting to hook up with her even after treating her like trash. It’s one thing to deliberately ignore all the emails but then he got on his high horse and acted like it didn’t matter and she shouldn’t care! Of course she’s not gonna want to spend time with him after that

[@madamemelone4947]

Yes. He didn’t truly wanted to gift that to her. It seems like he saw this gift and her joy as a waste of money and time. Who doesn’t get joy of the excitement of their s/o about something you gift them? That clearly shows how he doesn’t care about her feelings at all

[@madamemelone4947]

@@maddybeste280 yes! He doesn’t care about her. He thought only about himself and that he needs to be rewarded because he did something for her. Like they both said in the video - it’s not a gift if you don’t get something in return

[@amandareed4689]

This dude reminds me of my narcissistic ex 🤡

[@test-kf2zv]

Yeah, that poor woman.

[@kaylalee3577]

The pride I felt when Morgan used “the straw that broke the camels back” correctly. I feel like a proud mama. 😂

[@nicolereadstarot]

Do people use it wrong? Lol

[@violetmaritime]

@@nicolereadstarot no it’s just an inside two hot takes joke that morgan will hear any phrase and completely fuck it up 😅 so it’s rare that she uses it correctly

[@kaylalee3577]

@@nicolereadstarot Morgan just typically has a hard time with sayings lol it’s her brand

[@DeterminedToImprove]

@@kaylalee3577like when she says "get your eggs in row"

[@in_99]

Y’all I think Alejandra was just trying to stay positive for the first story… I don’t think she was trying to guilt people into loving babies or something

[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

Thank you so much for this ❤I was just trying to be positive about something that has already happened.

[@candiedolives5340]

That might be the problem...there isn't a positive to every situation, especially when we don't know everything. Sometimes it's ok to just say "that's a really shitty situation & I hope they succeed in spite of it" instead of guessing. This topic in particular is hot, combined with the fact that this exact situation could be used to force a female to carry a pregnancy & all the pro-lifers would say "but it's a blessing out of a tragedy".

[@in_99]

@@candiedolives5340 I don’t think she was trying to blame the victim or say it wasn’t a difficult situation, but I don’t think there’s any value for people to just look at another’s situation and say wow that sucks and your life sucks now. Sucks to be you. I think she put herself into these peoples shoes and was expressing what she would try to feel if it was her. I don’t think she’s trying to spread toxic positivity or anything. I know the word blessing makes people mad because of the anti choice movement but she’s said multiple times that that’s not what she meant. I think she’s trying to look on the bright side for this person’s sake, not belittle them. Especially because unwanted kids can always tell when they aren’t wanted, and that’s a trauma that never goes away.

[@ne0nballs]

@@candiedolives5340 I agree, why do we have to find the postive or stay positive through anything? Sometimes acknowledging that the situation is just pure SHIT, helps. To me it rings as if that young mother's pain is being downplayed bc well were here now! Theres an adorable baby! Lets make the best of it! I know that wasn't Alejandra's intention or thoughts but that's how it sounds and it feels a little tasteless.

[@lilytrav505]

Damn y’all all it sounded like to me is miss Alejandra trying not to shit talk a baby. In case the parents are watching, AND if she hadn’t said that, people would be mad that all they did was talk about a baby that ruined lives. Come on now.

[@jadeclarke17]

UPDATE: My husband would chose his girl best friend over me anyday. Hello everyone! Thank you all for the kind words and advice I really do appreciate it. Although some of you didn't understand the point of my post and started questioning why I married him in the first place. Why I didn't set boundaries and questioned my self respect. I have all the answers you wanted aswell the update many of you have been asking for. I would first like to say that not everyones life is easy and not everyone can get just up and leave whenever. Gaslighting, manipulation and emotional attachments also exist. Sure some of you wouldn't stand for it and the disrespect but I did. I made a mistake and im owning up to it I really don't understand what's the point of bashing me like you know the situation. I did come here to rant and I didn't expect this to blow up like it did. But anyways id firstly like to state that I grew up in the foster care system my life wasn't the best. When I met my "husband" I was overwhelmed and overjoyed at the fact that someone wanted me and liked me. When things started to progress with us I ignored all his mistakes because I thought he would be the only person who would of excepted me. I know that's its not an excuse but I honestly didn't have a backbone and my self respect intact either. I was a pushover. It's also the fact that I wasn't in a great place financially and I was just so done with it. Some of you asked why I didn't set boundaries with him and sasha it's because they are inseparable and I was afraid he would leave me for her. I didn't want to be alone again. I wanted to be happy you know. Some of you people think that I did it because I was desperate. Genuinely speaking I was so very desperate because I didn't want to lose him. I took it all because I was afraid to live my childhood all over again. I didn't plan coming here and giving my life story but here I am. Now the most important part that everyone has been waiting for. My "husband" called me as soon as he got back. I ignored his calls since I had to leave for work. I'm pretty sure he called 100 times demanding to know where I was. After work I went straight to his home. I walked in and behold sasha sitting on the kitchen counter chatting to my husband smiling and laughing. At that moment I wanted to scream and cry I hated it. My husband saw me and Came up to me asking me where the hell I was. I told him we needed to talk and took him upstairs. He asked what was up. The audacity he had. I've genuinely had enough so I told him I wanted a divorce because he went on a roadtrip with another women on our anniversary. I cried and screamed till I couldnt anymore and all he did was fucking stand there looking at me. I was so frustrated I asked him if he had anything to say and all he said was that I shouldnt of yelled like that because sasha was here and she would be offended if I thought that I couldn't trust her. My last fucking straw. I left and the next time I see him it's with divorce papers. Im not going to cry any longer because I deserve better. I'm currently looking for divorce lawyers and will be starting the process as soon as I can. The audacity of that man after all I've done for him. It's clear that he chose sasha because even though she wasn't in the same room as us he thought of her and her feelings. I broke down infront of him and he fucking thought of her. Again thank you all for the kind messages I appreciate it so very much. I will keep you all updated!!

[@deenarosenthal5200]

you’re so strong!!!

[@forestgrump4723]

Woooooow the disrespect! This woman deserves so much better. I don’t know if this is copied from Reddit or if this commenter is op, but if you are I hope for so much better for you girl! Take this loser to the cleaners for all he’s worth. I hope Sasha feels like crap knowing she ruined his relationship… but she probably doesn’t.

[@bronwyn117]

I am so sorry for everything you’ve been through. Many of us could NEVER understand being a foster child, and what that does to your well being. I know getting a divorce will be hard, but he’s already shown his true colors. Just tell yourself that is better to find out now instead of 10 years from now. Try to be strong and know you are worth being loved and happy. Good luck. ❤️

[@taliaabutin]

We all want love so it’s understandable when you feel as if you’ve found “the one” I’m sorry you’ve had to endure this heartbreak. I hope you take this lesson as growth and don’t let it stop you from finding the true “one” who deserves you! You’re loved! Don’t let this boy make you doubt yourself that you’re lovable!

[@zenamatthews9380]

She's doing the best she can with what she has. I didn't have bad things to say about her.

[@camilaestacio3245]

When Morgan said “second hand feelings” I thought GIRL that’s empathy 😂

[@antibigot2127]

Fr I was like uhmmmm…. Do you mean empathy…. Said that out loud to myself 😭💀

[@adeleg4759]

But is it empathy when you feel something in someone stand and not with them ? When i feel second hand embarassement, that person is not embarassed, i am

[@ambereyedbabygirl]

​@@adeleg4759 solid point

[@missmadness973]

What about secon hand embarrassment? That’s different

[@TheLateBloomerOfMystreet]

@@adeleg4759I thought that was sympathy

[@Alice-ii6gl]

The way the plantation bride spoke about her friend “not being able to behave” at the wedding and cause a public scene is a prime example of how Black women in particular are more likely to be labeled as overly aggressive and even dangerous for showing any type of emotion or speaking up for themselves. A classic micro aggression.

[@dandotvid]

To be fair, the friend *did* cause a scene when she was told where the wedding was going to be. Does that necessarily translate to not being able to behave at a wedding? No, but I think that was just a petty remark by OP to sting. Had the friend not made a scene or try to get her to change venue, OP probably would have been fine to reconsider inviting her.

[@rusomafuve5342]

@@dandotvid but can we trust the OP to believe that the friend did really "blow up" or was she stating her feelings in an angry but acceptable way?

[@kelseyhaskin2503]

Not being able to behave, jumped out to me as well. It sounds like she is talking about a child or a puppy. Not a woman, that made my heart break for her friend. I am planning a wedding now, I could never imagine having my wedding at a place that makes one of my my friends uncomfortable. I want my wedding to be enjoyable and fun for all!

[@tokioobsessee20]

see the way that i took it was, this friend has probably caused scenes before, maybe not about something like this but maybe she's a super dramatic person. like hypothetically let's say they were having steak for dinner and the friend doesn't like red meat. the way i took it was the friend would be the type to loudly complain about the steak.

[@kjcovers98]

THIS!! My thoughts exactly as soon as I heard that part of the story 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@stuppla]

Shoutout to Justin for a stellar job on the ad reads!

[@Jesusblowsme666]

He's the true GOAT of this channel! Everyone needs a Justin in their lives!

[@They_Are_Human]

It’s his feet reflections in the computer for me 😂❤

[@lillyleblanc5485]

bro I laughed out loud at "just to make sure everyone knows - I think slavery is disgusting"

[@rpstgag]

Same! “Methinks the lady doth protest too much!”

[@johnsleftthumb1755]

fr the fact that she even felt the need to make that a disclaimer shows that she is well aware shes an asshole

[@justarandompanda7568]

"I'm not racist, I have a black friend."

[@drulorenowich4884]

"I asked my family and they said I handled it well" hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[@JackTheJackedUpJag]

Update from the husband and sister story: Sorry for not replying to comments and not updating, things have been hectic. I didn't think I needed to explicitly say this but by naked I meant they were butt naked and fucking in the kitchen. I admit mentioning that I paid for the kitchen was odd and kinda funny. But anyone that knows me knows that the kitchen is my pride and joy, so yes, when I saw my sister and husband fucking in MY kitchen it stuck with me. And yes, they did see me. When I got to the hotel I cried for a few hours and then I just wanted to tell someone, anyone. The two people I would talk to when something happened in my life were the two I needed to talk about and it was 11 something in the evening so I wasn't going to disrupt my friend's evenings and burden them. So instead I came to Reddit thinking not many would see it. The response I received was overwhelming. I want to say thank you to everyone that sent me kind words and advice. Thank you so much for all the virtual hugs. I only commented once, that is because I had so much to think about and do. I appreciate all the love and support. There was so much amazing advice given in the comments, although a lot of it was American based I still appreciate it. But one thing I did see a lot was to unblock them and keep the texts and calls as evidence so I did do that. After posting and another good cry I knew that I had to get my shit together, I didn't have my sister or any family to help so I had to do it myself. I started researching what my next steps were. In the morning, my friend called me saying my sister contacted her wondering if I had been in contact with her. I told her what happened and she very kindly offered her spare room and her day off work to help me sort stuff out. I called in sick at my job and my friend helped get things done. I got in contact with my friend who works at a bank and she helped me start sorting my financials. My friend also found me a lawyer to consult with. After my phone consultation with the lawyer, I was so overwhelmed. I now know why so many women don't divorce their cheating husbands. It’s such a lengthy, expensive, and emotionally draining process. I, fortunately, make a stable income and can support myself and we, fortunately, don't have kids. I have to remember that things aren't going to happen in one day. It will all take time. As for the house, unfortunately, his parents bought it for us and to be honest after what I saw I don't want it. I will try to get reimbursed for my beloved kitchen, otherwise, it can burn for all I care. This has been super draining but I knew I had to talk to them. I already knew there was no coming back for my husband and when I checked his messages they said exactly what I thought they would say. I’m sorry. It's not what it looks like. We didn't mean for it to happen. Please come home. I love you. blah blah blah. Just absolute bullshit. A small part of me thought maybe I could find it in me to forgive my sister as we only have each other. But after I opened her messages all hope was lost. She used the same excuses we heard our father use when he cheated on our mother and beat us. She said the same things our mother would say when she would excuse our dad's behaviour and also beat us. I spoke to her this morning and asked her to tell me straight up who, what, where, when, and why. She told me back in July when I went on a girl's trip she was at our house and joked to my husband that I would cheat on him on the girl's trip because thats what always happens. He said nah, and they joked about it but she said he could get even with me and they ended up doing it once. One time lead to two to three then to whenever they could do it. There was never any evidence or signs or anything that I was going to or even thinking of cheating. I told her we were done and there is nothing she could do to bring us back together. I later received a call from an unknown number. It was my mother who I haven't spoken to in 7 years. Turns out my sister has been in contact with her and told her what had happened and my POS mother, the same woman who beat me for breathing wrong, had the audacity to say this is what I get for taking her daughters away from her. It hurts so much. I know things are going to get messier and this is going to be a long few years. I've now lost all my blood relations. I need to get all my shit and find a new place. I want to show them that I CAN and I WILL thrive without them. Again thank you all from the bottom of my heart for all the love and advice. And to all the people in the comments that could relate to me -I'm so sorry ❤️

[@carmellollellogram]

Woooowww... the update I both needed and did not want. Poor OP, though I can tell she will be alright if not a little lonely and hurt for quite some time

[@abbyl4621]

The sister is a real piece of work. Repairing the relationship was about 6 stops back. I'm glad that OP has genuinely caring friends as a support system and wasn't completely alone

[@soccersinger101]

Poor OP. I hope she can recover

[@Conformist138]

As awful as it all is, I applaud her friends for rallying around her, and I'm glad to know OP has them in her corner. She might not have blood relatives she can count on, but she isn't without family.

[@carmellollellogram]

@@abbyl4621 it hurts to lose the only person you thought of as family only to find out she was also in contact with the toxic mom. I guess the dingleberry doesn't roll far from the turd

[@hereislilly3097]

Story 4 about the wedding TRIGGERED me, I'm not an African American (black girl from South Africa) so I can't really speak much about plantations just the fact that they'll always have such an ugly historical stain attached to them. So it's very weird as to why someone would want to have a wedding there but okay. Two what OP said to Adriana about her not being able to "behave" at the wedding is a huge microaggression that infuriated me because I have dealt with many white women like her who scold you for having a normal human reaction. Like what was Adriana supposed to do her friend who she's known since they were babies isn't inviting her to the wedding over something so frivolous like a venue. OP is definitely the asshole, Adriana needs to find a new best friend because OP is not the one

[@stephanieflower9802]

I'm white and my 5 friends (seriously 5!) Are white too. I wouldn't want to get married there full stop.

[@rosemarygutierrez6747]

Not only is OP TA in wedding story but also racist

[@sotiredlol]

i relate to the concert story SO much. your partner doesn't need to be excited and pumped about a band they don't care about, they should just enjoy the night. or just give her tickets to go with a friend or something. you don't go out with your gf and act like a baby the entire time. real asshole energy

[@sotiredlol]

and dont spend money on your gf if you're gonna hold it against her

[@katrinascarlet5637]

My husband takes me to the botanical garden every once in a while. He could not care less about plants but knows I love it. He walks with me and I talk about the flowers and how absurd the names are (like the confederate "rose" not being a rose, it's a hibiscus). I couldn't care less about guns but I listen when he happily explains the details of how one functions and how absurd it is that you legally can't have this grip on that gun or it's a felony. He just looks so darn excited talking about it. Would it have really killed OP in that story to just enjoy her happiness for one night? I agree he should've just given her the tickets if he was going to be a bummer. Also "every couple days"??? He was SOOO busy with work he couldn't spare a couple minutes to read an email about it for a whole week?

[@delanapaige]

Literally this. My fiancé went with me to see The Goo Goo Dolls this year and even though he is a Korn and Rob Zombie kind of guy, he enjoyed the night and enjoyed seeing me enjoy the night. It’s not that hard 😤

[@Elfxci]

This man bought tickets expecting a lot in return huh? This isn’t really about her isn’t it? What a terrible partner

[@bakkhai]

Fr, even if you're not excited about the concert, shouldn't you be at least a little happy for your partners excitement?

[@nicolemerced425]

I feel like Alejandra is constantly misunderstood lol

[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

hahaha I think so too sometimes- help how I do change this!!

[@misst494]

@@Alejandra-hz6ct I was surprised to see so many negative comments. I knew exactly what you meant. I always love your takes especially how you try to see the positive in everything. ❤❤❤

[@katrinascarlet5637]

I just assumed she was in the mindset of "baby is here now, it sucks how it got here but let's try to make the best out of it"

[@iloveme4life]

I don't think you can avoid it. 😔People will always misunderstand people on the internet, it's frustrating when you clearly know your message and thought you put it clearly and somehow ppl still get it so wrong. I love your takes and your energy on the pod so I hope you stay 100% yourself and stay honest even if it may be taken wrong or adversely by some listeners.

[@amygreen8734]

Because Morgan rarely gives her enough time to explain her thoughts or opinions. As with all of the other co-hosts. Alejandra is constantly being interrupted, talked over and disregarded by Morgan.

[@MythicalPrim]

For the second story, the way the girlfriend just went quiet after the boyfriend shut her suggestion of going out down could also point to the fact that it’s happened so many times before that she sees no point in reacting in a big way. Not necessarily that she’s scared for her safety to react, just like she’s given up on reacting because she knows it won’t change his behavior. Like if your girl stops caring about mistakes you make that she used to make a fuss over, she hasn’t chilled out, she’s already broken up with you in her mind.

[@JW-vd4il]

I agree. How many other nights out has he effed up? I hope this was the final straw for her. I know they mentioned it but I still gotta say the most gross thing to me was him talking about how much money he spent, like gf should be grateful for that. DUDE! SHE DID NOT GET TO EXPERIENCE the extra money you spent!..Because YOU effed that up!!! There should be "beyond A-hole" categories. 😂 What a dumbass. And that's the NICEST thing I can say after the YTA.

[@ambereyedbabygirl]

💯💯💯

[@veri.contrary]

the plantation story is SO fucking wild. as a black person i don’t understand the obsession with these horrific places, i see them all the time as i also live in the south. why would you want your wedding day, arguably supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life, associated with hundreds of years of murder, bondage, assault, etc.??? OP is an asshole to the highest degree esp for the ‘behavior’ comment. i would tell her + the family and friends who were all sooo okay with this idea, to go to hell and never speak to them again.

[@kyleighwhite1409]

This! I had my step mom say she wanted to get married in one because “it was beautiful” it was turned into a historical museum focused on the horrific slave stories there. I told her how inappropriate it was and she got mad at ME. I told her to ask her friends that are people of color and see what they say. She did, and then got put in her place.

[@JenniferSteil28]

I feel the same way about getting married in a church/temple. Thousands of years of oppression and corruption associated with organized religion makes me sick. The fact that anyone would want to celebrate something as important and joyous as a wedding in these gilded and ornate shrines to some of the most hateful and murderous parasites to known history is beyond me.

[@blackningakat]

As a white person I don’t understand y all plantations haven’t been torn down and destroyed…

[@garbagebird5994]

Yeah I can't understand why you would want your wedding day to be haunted by tortured souls and devastating history. Seems like asking for karmic revenge.

[@doomsdayrabbit4398]

Remember, this is part of the country filled with people who are all up in arms if you say something bad about the MIC despite wanting to continue to "honor history" by honoring, with statues, naming, etc., men who killed American soldiers and civilians. They don't seem to get why having any sort of memorial to Confederate leaders isn't exactly like having a statue of Osama bin Laden at Ground Zero in New York.

[@stonecoldbaee]

Story #5 updated! UPDATE: My husband would chose his girl best friend over me anyday. Hello everyone! Thank you all for the kind words and advice I really do appreciate it. Although some of you didn't understand the point of my post and started questioning why I married him in the first place. Why I didn't set boundaries and questioned my self respect. I have all the answers you wanted aswell the update many of you have been asking for. I would first like to say that not everyones life is easy and not everyone can get just up and leave whenever. Gaslighting, manipulation and emotional attachments also exist. Sure some of you wouldn't stand for it and the disrespect but I did. I made a mistake and im owning up to it I really don't understand what's the point of bashing me like you know the situation. I did come here to rant and I didn't expect this to blow up like it did. But anyways id firstly like to state that I grew up in the foster care system my life wasn't the best. When I met my "husband" I was overwhelmed and overjoyed at the fact that someone wanted me and liked me. When things started to progress with us I ignored all his mistakes because I thought he would be the only person who would of excepted me. I know that's its not an excuse but I honestly didn't have a backbone and my self respect intact either. I was a pushover. It's also the fact that I wasn't in a great place financially and I was just so done with it. Some of you asked why I didn't set boundaries with him and sasha it's because they are inseparable and I was afraid he would leave me for her. I didn't want to be alone again. I wanted to be happy you know. Some of you people think that I did it because I was desperate. Genuinely speaking I was so very desperate because I didn't want to lose him. I took it all because I was afraid to live my childhood all over again. I didn't plan coming here and giving my life story but here I am. Now the most important part that everyone has been waiting for. My "husband" called me as soon as he got back. I ignored his calls since I had to leave for work. I'm pretty sure he called 100 times demanding to know where I was. After work I went straight to his home. I walked in and behold sasha sitting on the kitchen counter chatting to my husband smiling and laughing. At that moment I wanted to scream and cry I hated it. My husband saw me and Came up to me asking me where the hell I was. I told him we needed to talk and took him upstairs. He asked what was up. The audacity he had. I've genuinely had enough so I told him I wanted a divorce because he went on a roadtrip with another women on our anniversary. I cried and screamed till I couldnt anymore and all he did was fucking stand there looking at me. I was so frustrated I asked him if he had anything to say and all he said was that I shouldnt of yelled like that because sasha was here and she would be offended if I thought that I couldn't trust her. My last fucking straw. I left and the next time I see him it's with divorce papers. Im not going to cry any longer because I deserve better. I'm currently looking for divorce lawyers and will be starting the process as soon as I can. The audacity of that man after all I've done for him. It's clear that he chose sasha because even though she wasn't in the same room as us he thought of her and her feelings. I broke down infront of him and he fucking thought of her. Again thank you all for the kind messages I appreciate it so very much. I will keep you all updated!!

[@blondieYorkie]

Thanks for providing the update! I'm glad op has found family to compensate for her blood family that have screwed her over!

[@paigenelson7351]

I’m glad the update is op realizing they deserve better and taking the steps to get out of that marriage and move forward.

[@haileyjoan]

The hate I have for this man and fucking Sasha 😤

[@94Imme]

There's actually also an update from the husband's perspective if I remember correctly..

[@alina.r.]

@@94Imme do you have the link or the subteddit + title?

[@cassidyharris9765]

Plantation girl: she didn’t want to spare the friends feelings. She wanted to spare her own. She didn’t want someone to say out loud all the things she knows to be true about her decision.

[@pissylyss]

DING DING DING

[@jessicaoverfelt2480]

Loved how she was just defending her position the whole time after she asked the internet for their opnion.

[@strawwberryz]

exactly, she didn’t want to have to be held accountable for choosing such a disgusting place for a wedding. My best friend is my world and if i chose somewhere that made her uncomfortable i would change it immediately… but also i would never ever ever set foot into anywhere with such a horrific history.

[@lasalsssa]

I know narcissism is thrown around a lot, but the bf in story 2 gives me major grandiose narc vibes. They will do one nice thing to you and expect everything else be about them or think it’s enough to excuse their shitty actions. He probably thought buying the tickets was enough, so there was no need to keep the gf updated or even respect what she wanted. He stopped caring about her needs regarding the night right after buying those tickets because in his mind that was more than enough. So much so that he even brings up her grandmother’s passing as an excuse for his shitty behavior.

[@pinguufuuuu]

not only that but he made several mistakes like missing the emails that HE was supposed to keep track of and took his anger out on her for his own incompetency. he's a loser and i hope she left him. i feel like he doesn't even really like her if he knows how she is and doesn't try to reassure her. i get that persistency can be annoying, but if that's how the person is, it really cannot be helped.

[@Beansidhe413]

The wedding one fucks me up holy shit. Like the delusion is UNREAL. "Lot's of people of every race are coming to my wedding. Just so long as they behave and that their opinions about history and their own human rights don't interfere with MY wedding."

[@juanmedina254]

I wouldn't want people protesting at my wedding either If you're not there to support her don't go

[@payten514]

​@@juanmedina254 You are definitely the kind of guy that would get married on a plantation and tell black people to get over it.

[@juanmedina254]

@@payten514 yeah cuz my friends aren't a little cry babies like yours are quit trying to be a white savior and speak for people

[@silverflamess]

@@juanmedina254 she wasn't gonna protest at her wedding when was that implied 😭

[@rosemarygutierrez6747]

@@juanmedina254 don’t get married at such a disgusting place and you won’t have to worry about that

[@malv8208]

Plantation girl should have just said it with her whole chest that she was fine with dancing on Black graves 🥴 she didn’t want her friend to hold her accountable for her terrible decisions.

[@Gabestrker]

Your victim mentality is crazy

[@emerson1998]

Omg this FIRST STORY: the poor GIRL whose body was a victim to these siblings revenge plot, she was the (assumed) TEEN girl pregnant by no fault of her own

[@TeamRonify]

Yeah idk how they glossed over how a poor young girl had to go through an incredibly dangerous medical phenomenon for absolutely no reason or fault of her own

[@marahbaker8615]

I'm going to be honest, I'm a grown woman in my 30s and if this happened to me, it would be difficult for me to get an abortion bc I live in a state where I'd have to travel to another state to get one which would be costly and would make me miss work which would cost me more money. I'd give it up for adoption immediately bc my husband and I have no interest in ever having children, we dont like kids, but still that's almost a year of my life that's spent dealing with something I never wanted. My body would be permanently altered, I'd have to deal with judgemental coworkers and family members who would never understand why I gave up the baby. I also so have severe ADHD and require medication to function so that's almost almost a year I'd be stuck not being able to function normally. It would mess me up both mentally and physically soooo much it would take so much therapy to get myself back to a good place mentally and physically. For me this would not be a miracle. This would ruin my life. It's bad enough for it yo be an accident but to find out it was caused by someone purposely sabotaging my husband and I.... I would be beyond furious. I would feel so physically violated.

[@JW-vd4il]

WHO thinks condoms only are enough??? In my reproductive years it was Double Barrier all the way. Yes what OP did was wrong and deranged. But let me insert this PSA that NOONE should EVER be using only one method! I HATED the pill but still more options... Always condoms PLUS the pill or a diaghram or anti-smermicide inserts, etc. Wise Up, peeps! On a lighter note, the worst thing I ever did to my brother was throw a glass bottle near him. I'm feeling a lot better about THAT. 😂

[@isacarral2736]

@@JW-vd4ilok but really do you know any SIXTEEN yo who double barriers?

[@ambereyedbabygirl]

​@@JW-vd4il agreed. I say this on these 2 hot takes regularly, but condoms still have a fail rate when used properly, same with the pill For condoms its micro tears that cant be seen by the eye, no hole that water can run thru, but sperms are microscopic and can slip thru, or when the latex stretches out there are super small holes. Also missing one or two pills is enough, as well as "pull out" people get pregnant without the man finishing ALL THE TIME. Anyone can just google why this happens.

[@unnienoona9888]

I really appreciate Alejandra’s take on how the bf in Story #2 may not have been abusive. It can be easy to assume when we see a snapshot of someone’s life and see only one side. It was a small aside, but it made me step back and be more open when we have so little info

[@C0C0N0T]

Alejandra almost always likes to see what the other persons thought process might have been, and I really appreciate that! Episodes with Alejandra or Lauren are my absolute favorite, so I always get frustrated when I feel they get misunderstood or their words twisted. Coming after a known devils advocate, where theyre advocating, feels like youre unnecessarily taking things personally

[@LunaC_literaturecoach]

About the "tolerated" concert date: my bf has always been a HUGE comic books / Marvel DC fan, I had barely ever seen a couple MCU movies. Well, when I went with him to San Diego Comic-Con, the sheer joy and excitement he was displaying was everything I needed to feel excited myself! We went again this year and I even queued 12 hours for him to be able to get the coveted Hall H bracelet, and my adrenaline was OFF THE ROOF. So much so, I bought the badge for next year. I feel like that's the whole point of being in a partnership, honestly - feeling your SO's passion and making it yours, when possible, or just being happy for them.

[@Pyroazmodaeus]

Story 2: she was more mindful of his feelings and protecting them than she was about her own feelings during her birthday gift experience... Even though she was so hurt she just got quiet so he wouldn't feel unappreciated. She deserves so much better.

[@mirandabates9790]

Story 5: It's giving Princess Di and Camilla👀 Also, the mother in law was TOTALLY giving the wife a hint. She knew full well the wife didn't know and wanted to help her out, cause she knows her son is trash! Props to her

[@catherineadkins4024]

The entire story i was thinking " why am I the only one that doesn't think they're just friends?" There's obviously something going on between them. The mom knows and was telling her without actually telling her.

[@idontknowmyfruits2194]

The plantation wedding story’s OP was like “I think we should have happy times at places where Black people were brutalized to levels beyond our full comprehension but not Black people though”

[@EvadoCouto]

Lmao exactly 🥴

[@dandotvid]

The Catholic Church has repeatedly enabled priests to abuse boys yet people still go to churches where it happened. Heck, people have weddings at those places very consistently.

[@BisexualBeauty]

So what should they do just destroy the land and let it go to hell wasted space? Do you know how many bad things happen many places...no one will step on the land and go oh yea i remember when we were whipped ect cuz they are all dead. Also black people whip their own kids maybe start with that.

[@maddiev4862]

@@CreatureCargaux I definitely agree that these homes should be turned over to the families of the slaves. It would be insanely difficult to figure out but would be so meaningful. In my personal opinion though I hate to see them taken down. Maybe because I love the historical significance- for good and bad historical things and places- I just love history and antiques and things. I also HATE seeing beautiful land be completely destroyed and turned into condos. I work in construction in the south and it’s devastating to me. Most the plantations I live near are covered with arrowheads too so native Americans lived there as well. I know it’s a difficult subject with vastly differing opinions so it’s interesting to see everyone’s opinions. Most historical sites were built by slaves of some sort from every civilization and I appreciate the value when they are preserved.

[@brec1589]

​​​@@CreatureCargaux It really is a strange concept I cannot wrap my head around. I was born and raised in Louisiana, but I was in my early 20s the first time I saw slave quarters up close. Of course, I knew they existed, I knew why they existed, and I knew of the horrid things that happened, but something about being up close and personal was...I can't even explain. It was the weirdest feeling, but I felt as of I was having flashbacks of what went on there even though I clearly was not a part of that era. Being able to walk that land and feel nothing just shows how privileged op is.

[@flamingosnake]

For anyone curious: the naked kitchen story, they weren’t just naked, she walked in on them full blown boinking

[@bonk895]

is that the only update? i don't have reddit but omg :(( hopefully she's doing better

[@kaitlynmorgan4613]

@@bonk895apparently she saw the comments about evidence and followed it, looked up next steps with financials n such, consulted with lawyers, etc etc. she also said that the texts from her ex husband were exactly as she thought it was, like "its not what you think/i love you/we didnt mean for this to happen/please come home." as for her sister, she used the exact same excuses their cheating and abusive dad did whenever he'd hit them as well as the excuses their mom would use to defend him. then op later got a call from an unknown number which was her *mother,* who also abused her kids, that she hasnt spoken to in 7 years, saying she deserved it for taking her daughters away from her

[@Proud2beEstelle]

Plantation story: “I don’t want to hurt my friend by being racist so I don’t invite her to my wedding and still be racist because this will for sure won’t hurt her feelings.” 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@samanthaskenandore7191]

Omg her talking about how Justin was such a great boyfriend and then it cutting to a commercial he was doing for her was too cute! 😄

[@ashleylanthorn3732]

Okay maybe I’m just PMSing but that made me tear up

[@naiyaalysia5152]

@@ashleylanthorn3732 me too lol and I’m pmsing 😂😂

[@mai6553]

As a totally pro choice woman I understand how a baby can be born into extremely unfortunate and difficult circumstances or even be unwanted and still be a blessing inherently with their life. It may not feel like a blessing for the parents at the time or their pocketbook but how are you gonna look at a little baby already earth-side and say they’re not a miracle? These things are not synonymous! Stop coming for Alejandra! 😅

[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

thanks for this take!! I appreciate you ❤

[@shelby_button]

Exactly. It’s not that it’s a “blessing for mom and dad” it’s that it’s a “blessing of a future”. (Also coming from a pro choice woman who has gone through an ectopic pregnancy and can 100% see both sides)

[@ghostsontrains7629]

you may think that but that baby was a result of assault and honestly it sounds like they still dont want it based on how she said shes ruining everyone in the houses lives by the baby being born

[@BbiBbii]

I’m late but I hope I can explain it a little. Personally I don’t see that baby as a miracle either, based on my own familial experience & what OP admitted. Poking holes in condoms like that can land you in court for a reason 😅 That same situation happened to family and it absolutely RUINED them, and as a result the kid is also very messed up mentally. Having a baby when you don’t want one/aren’t ready for one can HEAVILY change the way the parents interact with it. OP but both parents and that baby in the worst situation. Trying to find good in a situation is good but there are some situations where that’s just not possible, and I feel like that story is one of them. Babies are miracles to those who want them/are ready for them, to everyone else? They’re just babies. Nothing more, nothing less. If that makes sense 😅

[@Merehalasa]

I feel like I almost always agree with Alejandra. Like I always understand what she’s trying to say/where she’s coming from!

[@Genesis-xh5uf]

For the cheating story if you are an emotionally driven person not everyone can just see something like that and confront it. Op was raised in an abusive household, so we don’t know if she could of asked the questions she needed to in that moment and get real answers. For some walking away is the right choice, being able to think straight and be calm. She already sounded sure that she wasn’t going to listen to any of their bs. She already knew what happened and by stepping back she could step back into the situation with a game plan instead of stepping in it with all emotion. Which the other party could use against her and still gaslight her anyways. They could use her initial reaction against her in the end too, painting her as the crazy one if she didn’t step back. Everyone is different and weather they confront or not in the moment is up to them and neither is the wrong choice.

[@lorenafleidl8901]

Agree! I think it has to do with people's personalities too. I'm not confrontational at all, and I think that if that happened to me, I would walk away too and deal with it later with a cool head.

[@brec1589]

I agree. She caught them mid stroke. There was no need to ask questions in that moment. Personally, watching them attempt to come up with a lie would pass me off further, because now you're insulting my intelligence. The next time he saw me would be in court.

[@hollyleafty]

Agree! Thanks for saying this I was screaming it at Alejandra 😂

[@LindzChannel]

(regarding the concert tickets) A huge thing for me is when someone refuses to hand over the reigns to accessing important info, you're putting full trust in them to correctly and responsibly relay that info. Missing the meet and greet could be a genuine mistake but to find out your partner deleted emails on purpose means you 100% cannot trust them with anything that might not center around THEM and what THEY want. You can be sure that the things you want will never come above or equal to what they want.

[@roseburke9693]

Yes I’ve been missing Alejandra! We need an episode with Lauren and Alejandra again!

[@smithjesska]

Second hand stress is demonstrated perfectly by watching love is blind 😂

[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

I just started watching that!!!! agreed

[@rokdiamrokdiam7160]

@@Alejandra-hz6ct omg you’re in for a treat, it’s so messy lol

[@rokdiamrokdiam7160]

Haha especially this season, got me stressed out but in a good way lol

[@77devon]

Oh my goddd Cole, Zanab, Matt and Barqueef stress me out so much

[@dandotvid]

The concert story: Does OP ever go to concerts? Generally speaking, meet & greets happen before doors even open. This isn't like it's a surprise.

[@Tessuminaka]

I didn't know that...

[@dandotvid]

@@Tessuminaka yeah. Unless it's like, one of the openers. Sometimes you'll get them between sets for a little bit. But the big ones, before the show. After the show they just want to get the heck out of there.

[@ghostsontrains7629]

most people dont know this, i go to concerts regularly snd i didnt even know that

[@crissy3129]

Right! That's what I was thinking. At least in my state/area. VIP go in early, whether it's m&g or not. That's a known thing if you've ever gone to any sort concert or function before around here. "Doors open" is general admission if they're sending emails after purchase it's for a reason, it's like he purchased her tickets as a chore not as a nice thing to do. And then to throw a tantrum when she offered to rescue the night by going to a different bar!? Omg I got so mad for her!

[@WaifuVoorhees]

It sounds like they don't regularly go to concerts considering the OP was going on about "cities being dangerous" and basically refusing to spend any time in one. I also did not know it was typical for a meet and greet to be held before the performance.

[@alaskaroller2192]

Fantastic episode as usual. Just wanted to say, NotYourMammasHistory has an awesome video on plantation weddings, talking with a friend who previously had one and regrets it. Highly recommend the whole channel and especially that video ❤️

[@TwoHotTakes]

Ooo shall definitely have to check this out! Thanks for sharing :)

[@hisokastitch718]

Yes i’ve watched it and it’s is very informative

[@MusicizmahQueenSBed4]

I also watched that video! I may watch it again.

[@frankiemillcarek6976]

The video was with her friend Abby Cox and it was great. Love NYMH!

[@annagodlewski7585]

For story six I would have said “sorry free products and discounts are only for close family and friends 🙃”

[@FallenAnaki]

This boy really said her standards are too high and she's selfless and non-confrontational in the same sentence.

[@drewrueda3748]

like make it make sense 😭

[@izstrella]

I believe "secondhand feelings" are just called "empathy", but that works too!

[@Tues48]

Empathy or sympathy. Feelings can be either or

[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

you are NOT wrong LOLLLL

[@krystaladair2586]

For the first story.......how absolutely awful of a human can you be to do something like that even when you are mad??? Even if you claim to be "so mad" that you do something so evil, but then you claim you "forgot about it until someone ended up pregnant" Bullsh*t!!!!! You could have said something later that day, the next day.......you had almost a year to fess up! Or to buy a new pack, switch them out and never have to say anything.

[@marahbaker8615]

I commented this already but I'm a grown woman in my 30s who's married and neither one of us like or want kids. Something like this would ruin my life for so long. I take medicine for ADHD so it would almost a year of not being able to take my medicine while my body is being altered by something growing inside of me that I never wanted. I would have to miss work to travel to another state for an abortion which would be costly, and that's if I could get an abortion in today's political climate. And to find out this is because someone did this to us bc they were throwing a temper tantrum? The level of anger would be immeasurable.

[@augustlunaonline]

52:14 love the take that “you need to take the L and move on.” Sometimes you need to realize your dreams are not meant to be and find something else. And this is not a dream of a career choice or something like that, it’s a wedding venue!!!!

[@robynsmith7314]

For story five, I think it’s possible that in the future when the husband and Sasha get together they were going to tell people that they were probably together this entire time since high school and act like OP didn’t even exist.

[@eggloafer69]

I would’ve be surprised at all

[@isacarral2736]

They kinda were! Like, OP existed for some time, but never got in the middle of their relationship

[@TwoHotTakes]

Out of my mind congested/sick today awhhh but cant wait to hear your holiday drink recommendations :)

[@hisokastitch718]

mint tequila

[@bethanypryor9474]

Apple cider and fire ball 👏👏👏

[@sharlaihendrickson]

Come back to Minnesota to do a live show. I’d love to see y’all. Just moved down to the cities area. Love y’all show

[@RinSicairos]

Also out of my mind congested sick today 😩.

[@TwoHotTakes]

@@hisokastitch718 Ooo I love this idea. mojito but with tequila?

[@FrauStormm]

I spent four years with a guy who almost always refused to go downtown Minneapolis with me (unless he was going to a sports game), and almost never wanted to go to any concerts with me or out with my friends, but I constantly went out with him and his friends no matter where he wanted to go. You end up feeling like a burden and it doesn’t get better. I hope she dumps him tbh.

[@justted8554]

Story 1- boyfriend should’ve bought two tickets for her and one of her friends that is equally as excited about it.

[@misshathaway3576]

take a shot anytime Morgan says ‘the straw that broke the camel’s back’ 😂😭

[@TwoHotTakes]

hahaha give me a replacement saying :) team effort

[@hisokastitch718]

it’s just the perfect phrase

[@vanzis14]

Tip of the iceberg, breaking point. The straw that broke the camel’s back is totally fine. You’re also on camera and trying to think about saying your thoughts in the best way so this really isn’t anything that you should be concerned about! We love you Morgan I think she’s just being silly 😂

[@misshathaway3576]

@@vanzis14 those are great synonyms actually! Totally and I’m not judging Morgan at all, I think it’s quite funny. Whenever I hear the saying now outside of the show I think of her! 😂❤️

[@vanzis14]

@@misshathaway3576 yay me too!! ❤️

[@ememare]

responding the the wedding story…. genuinely am crying while listening to it. its insane bc i have been in the exact same situation where someone i thought was a close close friends (white) was truly racist and treated me completely wrong, but bc i was around 13 years old i never gave it a second thought. it just brought back memories of how as a black woman, we get so overlooked and our history is watered down to where people even think it’s remotely okay to have WEDDINGS on land that hold so so so much negativity. it hurts, and truly reminds me that racism will never ever go away.

[@thesmartgene]

Regarding having a wedding on a plantation --- I feel awkward even buying cotton branches as decoration because it feels so cringey knowing America's past. I couldn't imagine having a wedding on a plantation.

[@TianaTonehole]

I can't express how enjoyable this podcast is (:

[@lorenmichelle3525]

Can we have Justin do the ads when he's not in the episode? Something about it is low key hilarious.

[@TwoHotTakes]

I could get behind this lol

[@dalilamarquez4333]

Was listening on the podcast but when I got the KZbin notification I immediately headed over here to watch Morgan and Alejandra’s facial expressions 😂 love you guys ❤️

[@kelseyquick5320]

Highlight of my week seeing your post notifications pop up Morgan! 😍 Can’t wait for this episode, I’ve missed Alejandra 🫶🏼

[@hisokastitch718]

yay!

[@foodfornot]

Second story hits home. When I was 19 my former group of friends invited me out to the county fair but made me get my own ride home. Carly Rae Jepsen was playing and we had the opportunity to see her without any additional charge past admission to the fair... my family drove up to pick me up right as her opener finished and she walked out on stage. We lived far away from the fairgrounds and I didn't want to make my mom wait for me. I was already salty about having to get my own ride, and this just. Ruined me. The friendship had been on the decline for a while by then, so I stopped being friends with those people that day.

[@sophiarose8018]

OK so, as a white ally Who works with BIPOC gender and reproductive justice groups, and who listens to those leaders in our community, I want to take a note concerning the language of the bride in the plantation wedding story. I am glad that y’all both picked up on the fact that she said she happen to have a friend who was black. That kind of language usually lends to the attitude of “my friend’s blackness is an accessory to me and not a culture or identity aspect“. It’s definitely tokenizing and that was a major yikes for me right away. Also, if she picked a venue that was a plantation knowing that it would upset her friend, she doesn’t have a friend who’s a person of color. She knows someone who is a person of color. Because a friend wouldn’t pick a venue that is a reminder of the oppression that their friend’s culture has gone through. A friend wouldn’t gaslight someone who has a very reasonable reaction to the fact that they picked a place that has that kind of history. I am quite frankly glad that her activist friend reacted the way she did. This bride deserves to get yelled at and shamed in public. The way that the bride treated her supposed friend was super callous and really unsympathetic. There is also a very uncomfortable aspect to the fact that a black femme would be there as a bridesmaid to a white bride in a PLANTATION HOUSE. Especially if you keep in mind a braid maid has historically been someone who helps the bride on their wedding day. OP sounds like a bridezilla and I kind of hope her wedding is a disaster. I would be more understanding if she had been more empathetic to how her friend feels, and if she hadn’t made the comment “I don’t know if you can keep composure at my wedding”. That also reeks of internalized racism where it comes to black women being seen as “over the top” and “aggressive” to some white people when black femmes show big and strong emotions. Sorry if I kind of popped off here, but I just had a conversation with a fellow BIPOC activist pal of mine, where we were crapping on plantation weddings and how many of them look boring and suck, outside of the racism aspect lol. TLDR: bridezilla OP has internalized stuff she needs to work through and is the arse hole

[@aubreeduran1379]

This is so spot on! Go off 💅🏼

[@juanmedina254]

Obviously you're wrong because she assumes she was going to be a bridesmaid so they're clearly friends

[@payten514]

​@@juanmedina254 You seem pretty insistent on defending all the racism going on here. No wonder Texas is part of your username

[@juanmedina254]

@@payten514 yea cuz I'm from the south and people from California are judgmental. My black brother In law and my sister got married at a plantation house

[@payten514]

@@juanmedina254 Doesn't mean it's not racist. But good one playing the exact same "I have black friends" card like OP did. Definitely doesn't make you seem racist at all.

[@Baby_lindseyy]

The first story pisses me off because why didn’t he just give her the tickets and tell her to take a friend that would have wanted to go with her

[@renoodle5554]

oh thank god for this episode, I need to hear other people's problems to stop thinking about my own right now lmfao

[@camilahernandez3747]

So I had a boyfriend once who would do things for me then throw then in my face when we would have an argument and honestly that single handedly made me be reserved to receive favor ever since that. I feel for her. Seems like a lot of people date people who they don’t really like :/

[@hapimusicyt]

Omg yes my ex used to do that to me too. He'd insist on sending me home, then use that as "evidence" of me never appreciating anything he does. When I fight back that he didn't need to send me home if he didn't insist on having dates at his place, it's still my fault for not wanting to spend more time with him. Looking back I really wonder how I tolerated 5y of that geez

[@JH-kw8zy]

Exactly. He wasn't giving her a gift, he was "earning points." Something narcissists do.

[@Dayxpxp]

This happened to me to. I don't like when people "gift" me anything because it always seems to come up on a fight and makes me feel shitty for something I didn't even ask for

[@dontwrryboutitsw4310]

I feel so bad for the young girl who's now a teen mom because of the sibling's revenge. The sibilings' stupidity has totally changed both their lives and could potentially mess up their future as it now involves raising a child.

[@dontwrryboutitsw4310]

How is poking holes in someone's condoms even a revenge tactic you sat down and thought you'd feel good about doing

[@purplebunn]

Second Story: Maybe I'm an emotional person but if I had missed the meet and greet I would've started crying there, even if I was in the position of the bf instead of the gf.

[@ffiontill5924]

I am LOVING these recent podcast episodes. The legal advice one was also great but I’ve loved every episode. Can’t wait for some holiday ones and all the family drama and advice for the stressful sometimes lonely holiday season. Also would loooove a wholesome episode soon? Like the one with the episode with the recycled heirloom ring and the accidental mistaken drowning that was actually just training episode. I loved that one and think of it often. Also love the new thumbnails!

[@kimshoemaker4615]

The concert story then Justin doing the ad reads to help out? Justin is a KING

[@Jess_Smith0903]

I just think it’s sooo sweet when Justin does the sponsorship adds haha!! You two are so adorable together!!!

[@taylorhardy3454]

For the husband and the wife anniversary I wouldn’t tell my husband either, cause it would HURT MUCH MORE reminding my husband it’s our anniversary and him still continue to hang out with the friend. Definitely divorce worthy, the fact he didn’t even tell her, he knew what he was doing…

[@kaylynnthompson1772]

Is no one gonna mention that in the second story that the guy wrote that he suggested that they “finish the night at my place” like dude you ruined the night for her and now you wanna suggest that they go back to his place

[@karlagonzalvez4703]

Yessss and he admitted being mad after she declined so it's like sirrrr you RUINED this special night for her and have the AUDACITY to feel entitled to getting some??? Gtfoh

[@gracethompson6926]

Yes! And the mention of what the night cost him, close to that comment about him being pissed off she didn’t go back to his, made me sense entitlement to sex for sure

[@Atomicqueen9]

Not all babies are "A blessing" Not everyone wants kids or should have them.

[@robynsmith7314]

Yeah kids are not blessings, especially when they are still kids themselves

[@RubyRedRiots]

glad to see this comment already, i was definitely getting anti-choice vibes from alejandra's comment

[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

You guys what?! If you’ve listened to me talk before, I’ve said multiple times that I myself don’t even know if I want kids. I’m absolutely pro whatever you want!

[@heezypeasy8611]

@Alejandra Some ppl misconstrue what was said. I personally am pro choice but mostly just want everyone doing what they wanna do!

[@alysonnataliavasquezsolano8066]

Mm... Saying all babies are blessings does not imply that everyone should want them or have them so... Check your logic next time

[@Fisheatpho]

The story with the bf gifting the gf the concert/meet and greet but being upset and the whole topic of something not being a gift if you expect something is just like my sister. She's older than me and when I was in high school she decided to be nice and buy my prom dress for me because my parents didn't and I was so grateful for that, but when I didn't jump into her arms and say thank you happily because that's just not how I am and I wasn't close to her at that point and I simply just said a regular thank you, she started getting upset and talking to everyone but me about me being ungrateful. I am older now and to this day she says to give her money back for the dress she bought me. I basically told her to no because I'm a college student, I was a kid with no job/money, and I originally thought it was a gift, but now she's changed her mind. She does that with every nice thing she does and is super passive-aggressive and it may be petty of me, but I dont think I'm ever giving her money back even when I have the means because of how she is. Go sue me for the $100 if you really need it.

[@RealBradMiller]

Yup, there are too many people that act just like that. Just learn to never ask or take anything from them, ever! They will hold it over your head with no issue. 🙄🤷👍🙂

[@pastaloath9261]

I get this on so many levels. My sister is the same. She never does anything for me and NOT end up holding it over my head one way or another. She’s way older than me so as a kid I always did what she wanted cause I thought she knew better. When I got old enough to understand her tactics of manipulating me into feeling indebted to her I began refusing anything she ever offers to do. A simple ride to drop me off somewhere? I don’t need it, thanks. I have somewhere to go and really need a piece of clothing that she has? Too bad, I’m gonna have to compromise. She wants to buy me a gift? I refuse. The fact that family can do this to u to have control over u is insane it me.

[@baileejaydee]

IMO people who purposefully and consciously pursue individuals in monogamous relationships have really bad self esteem. You’re settling for someone who isn’t 100% invested in you, they suck because they’re a cheater, you’ll never come first and people hardly ever leave their partners. And then on the rare chance that they do, you’ll always feel anxious because if they’ll do it with you there’s a strong likelihood they’ll do it to you 🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s just sad.

[@rhythmictiger]

@20:00 my jaw DROPPED! Her gma just died YTA. I've been in similar situation and it is never okay to essentially ruin someone's bday. There are total strangers who wouldn't do that to you so why take it from your PARTNER!?

[@nataliejaramillo3832]

Devils advocate for the 1st story; and I’m definitely in no way saying OP isn’t in the wrong. But with what Alejandra’s point, it’s so difficult to prove that it was the condoms that OP poked holes in were used during conception. Especially since they stated it happened a year after they initially did it. It could’ve been a coincidence and it could’ve easily also been a broken condom or another situation that wasn’t directly caused by OP. But I can’t believe she felt so much anger to even do that to begin with 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@pressleynaylor7642]

Justin did such a great job with the adds! It was so sweet to see him do something so thoughtful for Morgan and execute it well.

[@lina200282]

First story is so wrong. Not every baby is a blessing or a miracle. He's SIXTEEN! What she did was awful and he shouldn't have been forced to become a parent so young. And think of the girl. The bullying they'll both get at school. And as much as I love Alejandra, if someone told me at 16 that this pregnancy is just a blessing or that "everything happens for a reason", I would be so fucking angry.

[@starfish2129]

Notice how the girl is never mentioned, just the baby. Remembering how I was as a teenager to now an adult makes my heart break. Teens are already mean to each other but with a kid on top of it???

[@lina200282]

@Starfish exactly! Kids are so cruel

[@hisokastitch718]

I LIVE FOR HAVING ALEJANDRA IN THE EPISODES

[@colleenvargas6320]

The plantation girl what she should have done is told her friend about the wedding venue invited her or had her as a bridesmaid and then done something to honor the past. Like leave flowers, have a donation box for black rights activism. Honor the past instead ignoring it. Or straight up pick somewhere else once you found out the history.

[@doomsdayrabbit4398]

Come now, it's clearly the part of the country that thinks "honor the past" means "glorify traitors who killed Americans".

[@kittykat6710]

My favorite aunt and uncle got married either six days or 12 days after meeting each other and they’ve been together for 25 or 30 years and they are the happiest people I’ve ever met

[@legwards]

Hot take on the baby story : ultimately, the baby was a result of OP's actions. It should be OPs baby now

[@Amanda_616]

Haha perfect hot take ❤

[@francygonzalez7285]

Is a person not a dress, two wrong don't make a right

[@legwards]

I was joking , Francy, I do understand how people work

[@anakdory12]

37:26 "cause what else would you do? Kill em?" MORGAN AJAJAJAJAJS

[@katybcat8286]

I was planning on pulling an all nighter to finish some stuff and then this godsent video drops! Thank the heavens! 😭

[@TwoHotTakes]

I hope you get a little power nap in there somewhere

[@hisokastitch718]

Yes! These videos are the best for all nighters 😅 I pull a little to many aswell

[@kathleengoldsbury95]

Im from Germany and i cracked out loud at the idea of a wedding at a concentration camp. lol hats insane. Thank you for that comparison that put it into a very very clear perspective for me. That place would be haunted with human devastation.

[@bethanypryor9474]

A 2 hour video just in time for the 2 hours left in my shift!

[@Plooky1969]

Cheating husband and sister story: Dave Ramsey quote, once divorce is imminent, it turns from a personal relationship to a business transaction. That is how you look at everything from there moving forward. I ❤ that quote. It can help you reframe your emotions. What an A-hole for both of them.

[@TheAnutaa]

omg the tiny pumpkin cheesecake from whole foods were my entire life during my semester abroad in new york! you just completely threw me back with this one, thank you

[@juliashaul2660]

Hot take: Not every baby is a blessing. Not every sexual act is to have children and it’s 2022 we shouldn’t ONLY have sex as a way to reproduce we have sex to enjoy our partners.

[@Alejandra-hz6ct]

I agree! I don’t even know if I want kids myself. Thanks for saying this

[@alysonnataliavasquezsolano8066]

Not every sexual act is to have children. People shouldn't have sex only to reproduce. But girl, check your logic. That has nothing to do with whether or not "every baby is a blessing". Think of baby as a living, breathing, already born being. As per the Reddit post that inspired Alejandra's comment. Saying that baby is a blessing implies nothing about whether it should have been born or not because, surprise, it already happened. It doesn't imply that the sisters actions where in any way better, nor do they say that at any point. It implies nothing about how or if the parents should raise him, much less when the mother is not given the choice (Roe vs Wade). It just gives the baby value. I’ve never been readier to defend Alejandra. Loved her takes!

[@CamCadie]

@@alysonnataliavasquezsolano8066 my god, say it louder and on the main comments section so everyone can hear and seeee my girl! People really only listen/read to argue and not to comprehend. 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻

[@lorinmaureen4445]

After reading the comment section, apparently the Hot Take is that every thing happens for a reason and babies are a blessing.

[@thesmartgene]

Regarding the story about the relatives sending an invoice to the bride: I agree with Alejandra. I don't understand friends / relatives who expect FREE services from small business owners. As a friend / relative, you should be supporting your loved one's small business. It's hard enough out there as a small business owner, never minding all your friends and relatives expecting free handouts.

[@hannah4800]

With the cake story at the end, it kinda sounds like she just invited her to get a free cake. I would have charged her too.

[@christyweber3181]

Story 5 with the girl best friend- that mom KNEW what she was doing. 1st anniversary and hes with is old high-school ex? Oh yeah those feelings never left and momma KNOWS

[@twixerty6399]

Freaking love that Alejandra is back in more episodes she’s literally my fave host 😊😊

[@AllisonLitt]

I *hate* mixing business with family. I used to be heavily into photography and it got to the point where family members would invite me to events expecting that I'd bring my camera. They'd never ask but when I would show up without my camera they'd say things like "Why didn't you bring your camera?" Just started not bringing it anymore ever and would walk away when asked about anything regarding my camera or photography.

[@hannahcantrell430]

What this episode dives into is the amount of empathy an OP can garner from their story! Cool subject

[@taylordaniel2760]

Thank you Alejandra for trying to see all the positive and good in terrible situations. Your fans know you have a good heart and mean well. Your optimism is one of my favorite parts of the podcast ❤ Lots of love to you & Morgan!

[@sunflowersentimientos]

Re: the concert story- This is EXACTLY why we all need to still have pals and homies and friends even when we’re with someone!! The BFs behavior was so rude and selfish. AND, this girl fully deserves to go to an event she was happy about with someone who was also excited like a friend.

[@starfish2129]

The first story is so messed up, but at the same time I feel like the way Alejandra approached this subject is also a bit messed up. You cannot assume that child is inherently a blessing. Let's stop normalizing that everyone wants one so they are a blessing by default. She might be right for their case, although unplanned, I sure hope they're happy, but at the same time generalizing it is not the right way to go.

[@grimdeath1443]

I agree. Not everyone "welcomes" having a baby

[@Atomicqueen9]

This!!! I immediately have to comment not all babies are a blessing. A lot of people shouldn't or don't want kid's.

[@Conformist138]

Especially since OP says the baby lives with them, but said nothing about the girl who got pregnant. Also annoyed at Alejandra said "everything happens for a reason." No, no it doesn't.

[@starfish2129]

@@Conformist138 Exactly! If everything happens for a reason then let's say crimes happen for a reason as well. It's really messed up.

[@starfish2129]

@@Atomicqueen9 Since the brother might have still been a minor or freshly out of highschool with nothing to offer to the child it feels like a curse

[@Letstacoboutit03]

I love justin on ads 😭 "BACK AGAIN"

[@drewrueda3748]

i would love to see Smokey glow on the pod!!

[@camillastuart6638]

December 27th is my birthday I love that we both get to share a special day at the same time❤

[@rhythmictiger]

Story 5: big Charles /Camila/Diana vibes. Why even marry her if he and Sasha never truly ended? Ed: Also sounds like they picked her bc she's vulnerable/sweet.

[@abigailsandoval2632]

For story 5 : so yeah definitely horrible especially after reading the update. He was never going to choose you first even after any type of counseling. My husband literally reminded me of our anniversaries and so have I but there was never a time where we FORGOT. One year marriage is still like fresh and you FORGOT ? Nope shana knew what she was doing and does not care about OP. That’s why she till had the balls to be at the house after the weekend they spent together. Her behavior is honestly terrible and ngl I hope that husband and her never work out bc fuck that.

[@michelaadriana9342]

The condom story. If it ever comes out the family will never talk to her again.

[@micahwilliams1332]

Yeah, I noticed that NO ONE is giving advice to tell her brother. I believe we are all in silent agreement that she needs to keep her mouth shut and be the best aunt/sister EVER!