Secrets From Psychology To Get More From Life - Dr Orion Taraban

[@ChrisWillx]

Hello you savages. Hello you savages. Get my free Reading List of 100 life-changing books here - chriswillx.com/books/ Here’s the timestamps: 00:00 The Importance of Setting End Times 04:04 Creating a Negative Outcome to Motivate You 12:33 Mbappe’s Pursuit of the Simple Life 19:33 How to Find What You Actually Want 23:01 The Power of Being Intentional 25:31 Achieving Success in the Wrong Thing 30:51 Why You Shouldn’t Idolise Your Heroes 33:40 The Person You Become While You Pursue a Goal 38:23 Taking Back Control of Your Life 40:24 Should People Spend Their 20s Grinding? 48:16 Ascending Out of Inceldom 1:00:01 Effectiveness & Challenges of Therapy for Men 1:10:44 Where to Find Orion

[@budbas]

9:00 To make 3000 words for get out of room, or get 50p each day out of own salary, remembering me when I was still in college. A week before the exam, I asked my friend to keep my hard drive in his house. At that time I just couldn't control myself to play computer games (It's not short ended fps games, but long games like civ2, takes days to complete). As there is nothing in my room that I can play with, my mind is wandering around, and starting to open the book and learning.

[@m0rgentraum]

Hello Chris. Hello Chris.

[@sebastienricher8671]

Repeating yourself?

[@turtlemcmuffin8471]

Orion’s channel/advice has been life changing for me. So glad to see him on a large platform! Well deserved 🥳

[@marguskiis7711]

Some of his videos are full of misogyny and Red Pill ideas. Are you despising women now?

[@XxMaximus2PrimuSxX]

This is the first time I've heard of this gentleman, so thanks to @ChrisWillx for having him on. Just briefly checked out his channel and I can already tell it's brimming with the good stuff. Quite glad to have watched this MW episode in particular and definitely intrigued by what seems to be a real "diamond in the rough" channel.

[@UnpluggedSauce]

@@XxMaximus2PrimuSxXYou should like it. Dr. Taraban provides good intersexual dynamic and personal psychology on a more scientific level. He states facts and statistics as well. He provides insight also from the years of practice and behavior that he has witnessed. Including some of his own.

[@daiszaib]

@@XxMaximus2PrimuSxXyea Dr. Taraban is on the money with almost all he posts

[@bernstock]

Agreed. His channel is a great watch. Nothing but clear-headed and fair speaking. Recommended! Thanks Chris for having him on

[@KROM93.]

"Now is the moment you've been waiting for your entire life" is such a powerful final message. Brilliant.

[@kylesapphire2537]

But 120 hour work weeks, that’s full bs.

[@busybecomingmyself]

Dr Taraban is an intelligent and eloquent speaker and bridges many of the disparate voices in the male self improvement space without compromising his principles or impartiality.

[@jjhassy]

thanks

[@jjhassy]

@@TuffLuv1984what makes u think he's psycho

[@jameskamotho7513]

​@@TuffLuv1984Says someone called tough love, which is what he does...

[@TheOrignalTRockz]

He’s someone who makes money as long as he manages to keep you in your bubble of misery, letting you hear what you want to, for he makes money as long as you click, subscribe, like and share. Got it? Listen to Gregor Mate. Or a man who’s happily married with grandchildren. Until you find something that positively resonates with your heart. That’s what will lead to happiness. Hate never does.

[@TheOrignalTRockz]

@@jjhassyhe obviously is. Anyone with some experience instantly recognizes it

[@RockJohnson2000]

Dr taraban is the only therapist that has real world good advice. Much respect

[@Wong-Jack-Man]

Min 34 - same here lost everything after bankruptcy, home everything but made everything back in a short time. The experience was priceless because it forced me to tap into unreserved potential and drive you probably never would’ve otherwise.

[@justinengland9814]

The problem with many people is they have been lied to their whole lives... Many people are told what is 'success' looks like and not what it actually is...Being 'work', 'education', 'family' etc. Being happy and healthy is all you can wish for in this life.

[@YinYangSeperation]

These are the prerequisites for everything else to be meaningful

[@whocarescrapsa]

So many young guys want to focus on their passion. I remind them how many men have golf as a passion and they are terrible at it. For a career you need to pick something that you can do better or faster than others. Your passion and what you are really good at night not be the same thing.

[@JSiracusan]

I heard it put that it's a triad of: skill, enjoyment and money... it's rare you get all 3 with a good portion and even then to get all 3 for the long term is a different story. You could be great at golf for 40 years but it's really a rare guy that can keep going well past that. Football the range even smaller... but other jobs it's still the same, I enjoyed my current job for a good 10 years, then it lost it's luster, but I still have responsibilities to attend to, kids, house, so I still have to do the job and slowly work toward something new... so it's dynamic. We want the perfect thing, but overtime it changes. Chris is great at this podcasting thing, but do we think in 15 years he'll be doing the same thing? I highly doubt it.

[@whocarescrapsa]

@@JSiracusan It is true. As Orion pointed out, creating a buffer allows for thoughtful planning of your next steps. I used to dedicate my entire Saturdays to mowing my own lawn and spending hours on VAT returns. However, I've learned the value of focusing on my strengths and delegating tasks to professionals. Now, a team of experts efficiently tends to my garden in just 15 minutes, surpassing my own efforts. Similarly, my accountant swiftly handles my returns in 5 minutes, even if billed for a full hour, ultimately saving me valuable time. Streamlining these two processes frees up days of my time in a month to plan my next move.

[@seekerofthemutablebalance5228]

And what if you aren't the best at any one thing?

[@MrMadalien]

Eh... If your passion is to improve your life, then it follows that you will do that which you are best at. I became a digital artist in a commercial context, have been doing it successfully for 11 years since I was 16 years old. I saw a path, I knew I would enjoy it, I knew it would be financially rewarding (although extremely risky). So I did it. I also enjoy farming, I would love to do that, if everything falls apart.

[@rockrecordreport7136]

@@seekerofthemutablebalance5228 It is not required that you be the best at anything. Just be very good at it, and try having it be something you enjoy as well. It was said in this interview that "mastery" was a time consuming effort that means not doing about anything else but what the mastery is about.

[@terraflow__bryanburdo4547]

33:10 The "hack" here is to enjoy the process at least as much as the outcome. Even if you fall short you are still enriched. I have been a runner for 52 years and have slowed but enjoy it more than ever.

[@budbas]

True. Before talking about performance, we have to enjoy it first. So many people measure us by their rulers, while what we all really need is to enjoy our first step.

[@jackdeniston59]

How?

[@budbas]

I guess by just be there continuously and do your best.

[@proprgent]

​@@jackdeniston59it might help to allow any emotions that arise to run their course

[@hollygrace6814]

Im a long distant runner, up to 50km, and runner is the perfect sport for life itself. so many lessons ive learned from running

[@JacquelineEstrada-d3m]

Orion definitely breaks it down so you can grasp what he is explaining, and it's not sugar coated..... Hats off

[@lucretiasulimay1968]

I got breast cancer (stress cancer) when I was running my restaurant.people would say, don't worry about your business,(oh you mean the business that's helping me pay my health insurance) !!!! That was 15years ago , I am now 65 sold my building/restaurant been to 13 countries in the last 3 years 🎉🎉 living my Bliss . great conversation guys thank you have a beautiful day ❤️

[@Dianna.279]

Good for you that you are doing great! Bless you!

[@debbiebartolo]

Very thought provoking interview. I love all the different angles presented! I’m a 64 yr old female. Who knew someone like me enjoys these topics. Glad you’re in Austin Chris. I’m in New Braunfels just south of you. Great part of Texas. I try to listen to all you programs. I learn so much.

[@miamihurricaner5911]

This is an awesome conversation. Quite deep but great. I think one of Orions comments relates to this entire conversation, that his 20 something self would say get lost if he heard these things from his 40 something self. For most 20 somethings this whole conversation will go right over their heads but at 48, I think this is great wisdom….Wish I knew all this in my 20s.

[@IfSemper]

Orion should be a reoccurring guest!

[@MrMcWitt]

Agreed, he’s fantastic

[@Khan-rz8qi]

I have great respect for Dr. Orion, he’s THE BEST male psychologist in the game right now, no contest.🤝💯

[@massielhidalgo9456]

If all of the videos on the internet were like this I would listen to them all. This touched on all the things that have been bothering and I could find content that felt valuable until this. I had given up hope. I thought I wouldn't find valuable content for what I am going through...

[@yeshez6561]

As a former LMFT, I must say that of all the people giving advice/direction/etc. who I've looked into, YOU are the best in my opinion!

[@epi_sto_letes]

@49:47 Thanks, Chris. As an Irishman born in NYC, I appreciate your politely and briefly admonishing your guest of the difference between Ireland and UK.

[@fudogwhisperer3590]

A lot of times when I don’t want to go to the gym, I tell myself I’ll just do a light training day, when I know I probable won’t once I get going.

[@David-x7w9r]

What a treat! I subscribe to both Dr Taraban and Chris. I enjoy seeing the two of you together.

[@LittleMew133]

I told my friend that "when someone obviously doubt me or say I cannot do something, I enjoy proving them wrong". And she answered "... well, that's not good" XD She is incredibly agreeable and kinda a pushover, and I have my beliefs.

[@akumacode]

It was great to hear William Costello's idea of the ascension and hope. Then hearing Orion Taraban's personal experience with hope at a cancer center. By far my favorite segment

[@dannypratt.]

I really love that Orion leaves empty space to fully understand a question and analyse it before giving a response or answer. Great Episode!

[@cnrspiller3549]

Fear of conversational silence is almost universal. Overcoming that fear improves your communication immensely.

[@Richard-Freeman]

Major life change happens on 3-5 year time frames depending on the amount of dysfunction or trauma you need to work on. When you've lived life a certain way for a long time, it takes a long time to find a positive way to live and then make that the default over your old ways. I read somewhere that it takes 6 to 9 months to engrain a new habit. Even when you make a new positive habit, the brain wiring for the old habits are still there and you'll still struggle at times to not go back.

[@timothyrday1390]

That's a great observation. Quitting alcohol for good was about 3-4 year battle once I seriously committed to it. It was then another year or so that the benefits of getting used to not drinking started showing up in my life. It's certainly a journey, just like falling into addictions or bad habits is, but in the opposite direction.

[@Richard-Freeman]

@@timothyrday1390 Good for you man. That's a huge decision and major accomplishment. December 3rd was my 1 year with no alcohol. I needed rehab to quit, it got to the point where if I didn't drink, I didn't sleep. I needed that structured reset where all I had to worry about was living without alcohol.

[@timothyrday1390]

@@Richard-Freeman Thanks, although I don't like to make it a point of pride. The reality is that you have new battles with depression and unlearning previous bad habits and thought patterns. Being completely sober is no "cure-all" for your problems but you at least can start to consciously learn from your mistakes and consciously make improvements.

[@Richard-Freeman]

@@timothyrday1390 You took away an excuse to beat yourself up and justify why you don't deserve any better. Comfort in the misery you know is an incredibly difficult ditch to climb out of. We don't fear success, we fear screwing up and "proving" we're a failure.

[@waakdfms2576]

My favorite takeaway was the term "reverse narcissism" -- I've noticed this with different people throughout my life but didn't have a name for it....that fits perfectly. Great conversation...thank you and kudos to you both.

[@herzl67]

Great talk! Got me a major insight why Judaism opposes solitary monk life. Instead men (and women) are encouraged to marry and have children at an early age. Life with the real mess of snorty nose kids is the temple to pray in. Thus, the ambition of men is harnessed to something other than to only themselves or an object (e.g invention). The word that came up a lot in this conversation is "I", not we. I can be such a lonely word. The searching "I" seems to become anchored with children and family that need as much care as "I".

[@MysteriousBluePlanet]

Hey Chris Very Big Thanks for having him as your podcast guest . It was really life changing ❤

[@soniadeebee6391]

AMAZING. Don't stop Chris, this episode will change lives ❤

[@edwinvanderknaap3445]

Orian explained narcissism better than all the other so called specialists on the internet!

[@albertlevins9191]

"I'd rather be wallowing in the mud. So get put pf here." So much of mindset is about framing. This becomes a life lesson for me.

[@hornetscarab]

Glad to see two of the most influential people in my life talking to each other. An excellent episode!

[@burpeesquad]

This deserves a Monday episode. Orion Taraban is 🐐🐐

[@moralhazard1]

Nice! I stumbled on Dr. Orion's channel randomly and really liked how frank he was lol

[@lisaariottiart]

Great Talk - love hearing Orion on philosophy rather than women.

[@SpaceCadet48-j9t]

Orion is one intelligent human being.

[@CYellowan]

43:50 The privilege of being so ahead of the curve, you can now at last disconnect and coast ahead on what you have already learned. Mentioning this because i am almost there myself.

[@bryandraughn9830]

Happiness is just a little temporary reward that feels good for a few minutes. That's what it is. Having a safe place and food might not give you a constant feeling of happiness but it can be appreciated to a very high degree. It just takes a long time to learn how to appreciate it. As long as im not facing some terrible situation i am plenty satisfied. Whenever I think about the things that I don't have, i know that they would only deliver those temporary feelings anyways. It does take a long time though. I was convinced for a while that i wanted more but I don't really need it. A home and a meal is perfectly fine.

[@user-xs5dp4gw8e]

One's internal and external worlds can be vastly different :}

[@hikingpeaks4377]

Orion discussion about programming really resonated with me. I did everything what my parents/society wanted me to do, and even far exceeded everyone's expectations (to my big surprise) and ended up miserable and unfulfilled. I scrapped it all, took a huge pay cut, forged my own path, and now created something that's sustainable and well paid to boot! Great life work balance too and a fantastic state to live in. Telling ya, programming is real. Not that I regret any of it, but at least now I have an explanation of what went wrong.

[@selinasmith2068]

Second time watching, I could hear you both talk on these types of topics every day! Brilliant and engaging! Thank you for letting us in on the conversations!

[@CJB333]

45:35 my thoughts exactly. It's the first thing i noticed and can no longer stand after i improved my mental state and being open to as well as seeking positivity

[@Rishiverma608]

Never cease to learn something new when listening to Orion. Thanks for your service sir 🙏🏽

[@wread1982]

You both are well spoken and have excellent communication skills 💪🏽🙌🏽

[@bernardoabz]

Thank you both for making this conversation happen.

[@jacobnelson5275]

Great conversation. Very stimulating. Felt inspired, humbled, introspective, motivated, and more. Helped me feel less ignorant of myself and more forgiving of others. Thanks Gentlemen.

[@Nyumc99]

“ you can’t think yourself out of depression” .! Not my quote yet useful and relevant in someway to this discussion I hope. These two lads are both giving value to the world . Personal integrity Is where it’s at in my view. Great podcast as usual Chris . 🫡🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[@metamorphix1827]

I heard a quote that I believe is from Einstein which says something to the effect of, “we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking that created them.”

[@paweciasnocha4075]

This is the best guide on how to start self-development. I've listened to it 3 times and I am analysing new stuff I catch

[@mony_ch]

2 legends - that’s going to be a great episode

[@jessemiller3108]

Was sad when it was over. Good stuff gentlemen

[@jefflep1]

Orian is probably my favorite human ever!

[@Cr8vkel]

This is definitely a conversation for dudes, generally, women to follow these same thinking patterns and desires.

[@annacichocka7734]

56:07 inverted narcissism is a nightmare. I knew that it was a form of narcissism, thanks for validating 👏

[@mdhazeldine]

Been watching Orion for a year now. Such a great channel. Get him back on again! He has a lot of good stuff to say about dating and relationships too.

[@adriandreamwalker1027]

Orion has developed a wide and sturdy vision to comprehend what I've been most bafled for in modern times. His message is compatible with what I've found in my esoteric studies, the redpill findings of Rollo Tomassi, and the freedom philosophies one can find in Stefan Molyneux or in Austrian Echonomics. Truth gets more and more like each different path to it, on the top of the mountain. One of the ways to check for it is to learn wide so you can hear the resonance. What I most price of the things Orion has taught me is the permission to give respect to my needs. We have been brainwashed into believing our needs of sex and warmth are of a brutish nature and that we men should strive to love women for what they love in us. That's just impossible, and wherever you believe it works, it's because that man is repressing himself and depriving himself and the world of his unique light. Don't do that. There's too much darkness around to be dimming yourself and depriving the world of heroes, unforgettable lovers, and legendary fathers. Thank you!

[@cameronbeal2637]

Chris is one of my favorite KZbinrs of all time

[@the_eerie_faerie_tales]

Fascinating discussion fellas, thank you!

[@Mr.SushiFriedRice]

THANK YOU FOR HAVING HIM ON THE SHOW!!

[@Uzkadi89]

Such a great guest and overall amazing conversation. The only "sad thing" is that it lasted only an hour.

[@jesse3105]

What a well balanced conversation from two guys heavily in my feed these past years. I hope you guys do another round soon and set more time aside for it! Cheers boys.

[@BarryHawk]

I love they way they trip over the truth at 18 mins.

[@Anon.User.602]

Two of my favorite people in their own field-well done! Perhaps there would be more synergy if you guys met in person.

[@florencekirsch]

Paul Fussell hilariously noted that the very rich and very poor are the “out of sights” in society. The book called Class from the 1980’s

[@nelsonduenas6214]

Grwat comversation, inspiring, illuminating!

[@martinjames6148]

Unbelievable chat, thank you. I am headed for a lot of Orion's you tube content!

[@geovanimalta1273]

chris has a really awesome channel. I truly enjoy his videos. Thank you chris. keep them coming.

[@mrcyanceyable]

Loved this conversation

[@mattskinner846]

Love Orion. Awesome pairing

[@thejoelrooganexplosion2400]

Much respect to Orion

[@SisterBuisness99]

Amazing and thorough video! Lots of great ideas presented. I hope to see this video shared and go viral because of how many great ideas/thoughts are presented. Well done!

[@davidandersen9177]

Gotta do things when you’re are young - Energy and don’t know what can go wrong… Young and dumb is a time of brilliance

[@NOSTahlgia]

Sure, do things when you're young, but be smart about it and don't do things for the sake of it, particularly when it comes to drugs and alcohol. When you're naive, young and dumb is when you pick up some of your worst habits that you pay for when you get only a little bit older.

[@terraflow__bryanburdo4547]

I got hooked on exercise and sports before I tried drugs. Somewhat circumstancial but some good decisions while you spared me a lot of misery.

[@whocarescrapsa]

The last 20 years of my dad’s life, he did not touch cigarettes or alcohol. People would ask him when he gave up smoking and drinking? He would tell them that he hadn’t given them up. We would look at each other and think he is crazy. I understand now what he was doing.

[@NicholasMGlasson]

Great to see Dr Orion! Very articulate and interesting

[@whocarescrapsa]

Listening to these two, 1 hour and 10 mins felt like 15 mins. Keep up the awesome work guys!

[@MissTsapovska]

When I quit smoking it was a firm decision that I will never ever take a cigarette. This worked for me, this firm decision. Unlike this when I was trying to bargain with myself that this is only for today that I will not smoke I always violated the promis made.

[@budbas]

What is the purpose you're smoking for?. I am smoking too. But that's when I am working, as smoking helps light the bulbs in my head (I do IT configuration/programming stuff). I don't smoke at home. It's all for the purpose. No addiction, booster only.

[@devanvieira9174]

Two Men communicating from opposite sides of the world trading quotes & wisdom that put perspective into life that can help thousands of others.. when i think of how Nikola Tesla predicted we would be able to communicate this way in 1926, us being so far apart but closer than ever, it makes this conversation even more wholesome. Its one of the few vids i downloaded so i can always glean something from it when things are shaky.

[@cacdistadosapi2667]

GUYS!!! THAT BEGINNING WAS REALLY JUST FUCKING AMAZING!!!! YOU'RE BLOODY OUT OF THE SLOPE!!! CONGRAT-FUCKING-LATIONS!!! YOU'RE INGENIAL!!!

[@dukewanders]

We all want or aspire to - Hiraya Manawari - longing for a world where dreams come true. This is a was great video, well done.

[@PicaroPariah]

Two great guys that are positive influences in my life talking. Great video.

[@bethciraulo7744]

You are very intelligent and I enjoy all of your videos. Thank you.

[@findpatterns]

Thanks for this episode. The best one yet IMO.

[@janiceball8431]

Excellent discussion. Really enjoyed it.

[@lamb_stone]

SO many great gems into the notebook!

[@secondrickamendment4770]

"People would need more counseling, for being told their average, over being told they are below average" I Just got Flooded with all the Parents who have told me there kids have been diagnosed with Something.... Anything... that explained their child's behavior (all while I was thinking that their kid was acting... like a kid.)

[@GameMakerRob]

Ive always known that i didnt want to be famous (or at least for as long as i can remember). What i do want is to have earned the respect of people that i live nearby, enough so that theyre happy to see me and acknowledge me.

[@cnrspiller3549]

Just be friendly, helpful and interested in their lives. If they do not respond in kind, then they're not worth the effort anyway - move on.

[@ivananelovic3425]

damn what gold this is! absolutely love this detail at 37:22 - 37:28

[@NicholasMGlasson]

Interestingly many celebrities and financially successful people do not understand how to be 'monk mode' or at ease of mind when they are under immense stress, tragedy, crisis, financial stress and so on, yet they pursue this tranquility of mind once they eliminated all of life's real struggles. Our Zen teacher taught us to see outside ourselves and when challenge arises, to face it and embrace it.

[@mathysscheepers7007]

Dr Orion is a wise man

[@lukefay2464]

Chris, this was a fantastic conversation thank you for sharing this with us.

[@s2syed]

Great to see you have Orion on here 👏👍

[@John-qt3vt]

Looking forward to book Dr.!

[@alonsoguemes6486]

The Doc will have one day his own 4K cinematic episode. Mark my words.

[@JoséLuisJiménezLaffont]

Amazing conversation, guys. I just... snap out of it. I understand now... now I can see into the future, but with power. Thank you, unknown yet known friends PD: Been in acid help

[@bhnuc]

Find his advices practical and on the point. Great conversation.

[@rafayalighl]

Bring it on!!!!!! Chris you beauty. I've been waiting for your podcast with James and brian for months now and you had them both in the same week. You're the goat 🐐 💯

[@karenodriscoll5965]

This is outstanding. Thank you to both of you. Pure gold.

[@ernestjohnson3261]

This was awesome thanks gentleman 😊

[@451Flamez]

This was a therapy session for Chris Williamson. Great episode!

[@davidrosenfeld5525]

Dr. Taraban has a unique angle and point of view! Even without a degree he would be a brilliant giver of advice. He is a great supporter of men when few have the courage to do so. He saves lives. I only hope he has the strength of spirit to not pay much attention to the naysayers as they willl always be out there.

[@eemmvvee3155]

dr taraban is great

[@marguskiis7711]

Another Red Pill guru.

[@pazzodi3]

I love Alan Watts I'm so happy Orion listens to him also. I love listening to Orion, Gabor Matte, Sadhguru, Jordan Peterson, Thomas Sowel, James Baldwin. Such great men out there with so much wisdom

[@kimmcdaniel8933]

Graditude and serving others