Self-Aware Narcissists: Insight without accountability

What does it mean when a narcissist says, “This is who I am”? Does their self-awareness mean they’re ready to change, or is it just another way to justify their behavior? In this video, we unpack what happens when a narcissist admits to being narcissistic, why it can be so confusing, and what you really need to watch out for. If you’ve ever been thrown off by their “honesty,” this is for you.

[@sparkygump]

Too many people out there know they're jerks but enjoy being one.

[@microdosenyc4515]

THIS!!!!!

[@RyouShi98]

"Woohoo!!! I'm being a jerk and no one can stop me!" Homer Simpson

[@a.m.126]

Exactly.

[@cyndim8785]

I bought my husband a t-shirt years ago that read “I’m an Asshole so if you don’t want your feelings hurt walk away” He wore that shirt proudly.

[@michellemasich7464]

Wow sounds like my x. Is his name Glenn?

[@KimKittner]

@@cyndim8785 I had an uncle who used to always brag about being an asshole… That’s before narcissism was even talked about and he definitely fit that description.

[@annstar2793]

Classic !!!

[@MsBee]

Was he also a narcissist

[@cyndim8785]

@ I didn’t know what narcissism was back then. All I knew is he claimed nothing I did was ever good enough. No empathy, no compassion or no respect = narcissism. I wished that I knew back then what I know now. I would’ve left him years ago because he started being an asshole right after we got married and had kids.

[@sreed5633]

"That's just the way I am" yup, it is. Finally looked at my husband and said "you are 110% right. That is exactly how you are!"

[@WithAnEss]

💯 beware of the statements: I have sarcastic humor. Sorry for the sarcasm, that's the way I am. It's just jokes. Cant you take a joke? You're too sensitive, I'm being sarcastic. If its ridicule, it harms. If its mocking, it stings. If its passive aggressive, its confusing. Sarcasm is unhealthy criticism, meant to gaslight and insert critically demeaning comments. The narc is cruel, not funny. IT'S NOT YOU. Being an assh0le is on them. And if they defend by saying... I am a sarcastic @ss. It's an admittance of truth. Believe them this one and ONLY time- everything thing else is a lie.

[@youngblood8540]

We marry them (narcissists) hoping they'll change and narcissists marry us hoping that we don't change.

[@SherryTomlinson-r2y]

See if you can get Siri to say I love you😂❤

[@user-wi9hv2pb2q]

we marry the mirage hoping it's true, and they hope we never see through it. But they aren't upset by reality because they've known all along.

[@moniquejackson7741]

Wow, so Brilliant. This is the perfect example of what can happen when we assume that Awareness equals Hope or Change. A very FEW Narcissists are aware of what they are, but they're not going to do anything about it. Fantastic, Dr. Ramani. You are so Great at this!

[@PenninkJacob]

“It is like a suit of armor that never (never) comes off…” - Dr. Ram...!👍❤ thank you!

[@christelleny]

Self-aware Narcs consider narcissism a QUALITY. The only thing it should mean to us is: run even faster and further. Peace, strength and growth to all. ❤

[@TCWilliams-t7e]

Absolutely. Been told directly to my face [with narrowed focused eyes n all] 'nice girls finish last' (from female covert narc - frenemy of years past) + 'nice guys finish last (from narcopath ex partner) and 'I make MY OWN RULES' from extremely charming, intelligent [Mensa level] narcopathic sibling. The sentient self aware ones? Fully aware. Fully conscious, fully Machiavellian. They SMILE with the power surge of it all. Predators WIN in their book. We're just dumb enough to be taken - suckers! No conscience to bother them, whatsoever. The payoffs are too big (in this world, oddly tilted in their favour) and the really good ones at what they do? Virtually undetectable. In fact they will appear as 'as an angel of light' to their enablers and cult like following. They know. They just don't care cause it gets them what they want.

[@mariehughey5390]

I went on a date many years ago and the guy seemed to proudly admit he was an asshole. I made note. Saw him once more and he proved it. He was horrible. Rude, impolite, arrogant. It’s like he was stating it as an excuse for it to be okay to act that way.

[@OmniTarget13]

Many self-aware narcissists take pride in their narcissism thinking they’re the best narcissist in the world and will even compete with other self-aware narcissists out-narcissisting each other.

[@SherryTomlinson-r2y]

😂 no doubt true!

[@juneyd455]

😂😂

[@aliceroberts1980]

Yep that’s my husband than he will us it as an excuse that he sick and has personality disorder like that’s an excuse to treat people like crap or basically me

[@aw5137-q8q]

😂 I know one of those! He has actually stated that he is "Blessed" with his Narcissistic traits!

[@csfiskus610]

They expect adoration for their transparency about their NPD.

[@GregMunro]

Astonishing video as always, at first i wasn't really into watching such relationship experts video, but it turned out to be a blessing in so many ways, 10 years ago i was with a narcissist and i broke things up 4 years ago, found someone who truly cared for me and i messed things up because i was trauma bonded. then i started watching a lot of youtube videos and some christian videos about relationships and marriages, i learned a lot, and something actually happened as well, i was able to get my ex back with the help of watching matthew hussey videos and reaching out to a spiritual counselor.

[@TrentReeves-c2k]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i have been battling with a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended a year ago, and till now, I am still in the crossroads on what to do, it is really sad.

[@GregMunro]

it's difficult to let go of someone you love, like i said, I watched so many helpful videos but the key was the spiritual counselor.

[@TrentReeves-c2k]

What spiritual counselor? How can I reach him or her?

[@GregMunro]

Her name is Shelly Renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@TrentReeves-c2k]

Couldn't find her on youtube, but saw her website online, i will reach out. thank you

[@lindamcmanus3057]

My mother experienced this. After 42 years of marriage, my father died, and my mother began a relationship with a long-time family friend whose wife had also died. He would totally cop to his narcissism by telling her he was “a scumbag” and “an asshole” and that he demanded to be “treated like a king.” As a person who’s survived a 7-year marriage to an abusive narcissist and suffers daily in a 22-year friendship with a woman who is a narcissist and an addict, I recognized this behavior. I turned my mother on to this channel, and she was able to see it. She hung on until he died two years ago, and it was brutal.

[@MimmiesMinis-KellyPenny]

I have learned, the very hard way, that when people show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM! Whether they be a true blue narcissist or have those characteristics due to substance abuse, their behavior and words are to be taken to heart because at their base level, that's truly how they feel.

[@dnwitte]

For YEARS I thought my narc was just playing the sociopathic asshole for laughs. (he was a big queen with a theatrical affect). It was only when I agreed to share a flat with him that I learned he was genuine monster. He left me really gun shy about new people.

[@Butterfly-ADHD]

My brother would tell me that I need to stop doing what he actually does. The rules kept changing and he used my 87 year old mother’s health information to keep me talking to him. He got very sick and I called for help. I took care of his pets and he lives four hours away from me. When I was needed he apologized for being mean to me. He ended text with love and hearts. Once he didn’t need me he went back to the old crap. I helped him for my mom and so I had no regrets. I also wanted to demonstrate what real siblings do for each other. It ended up being totally the correct thing for me to do. I now know he can be nice to me when he cares too. I haven’t spoken to him since I did help him when he was ill. The last thing I told him was if you can be nice to me when you need me. You know what to do. They gave me the strength to not talk to him again.

[@KimKittner]

This is my daughter. It’s hard when you love someone. The lies have floored me This time around she said she’s done and won’t talk to me. I know there will be another crisis and she’ll be back. Fortunately I’ve learned enough about narcissism that I won’t be her safety net anymore. Very hard but at some point you have to take care of you, even if it is family.

[@KimKittner]

This is my daughter. It’s hard when you love someone. The lies have floored me This time around she said she’s done and won’t talk to me. I know there will be another crisis and she’ll be back. Fortunately I’ve learned enough about narcissism that I won’t be her safety net anymore. Very hard but at some point you have to take care of you, even if it is family.

[@marysisak2359]

My sister went through chemo. She lives in another state. I sent her cards of encouragement, gifts, gift cards, called her every week to see how she was doing. As you said, I did what a good sibling should do regardless of how she treated me. She lapped it up. The cancer markers came back very shortly after her treatment ended. She sent me an email to inform me and said she was just going to do pallative care only. I was stunned. She is back to her old tricks manipulating me. I have no idea what her health status is and can only guess from the calls I make to her. (she only called me once in our lives and that was because she wanted something. Her excuse is she does not like to talk, she talks plenty when she is getting what she wants). When I call her I have to be careful about what I say just like before the cancer. We live in different states and we are the only two left in the family (she is 76 and I am 71). Practically speaking I am going to have to take care of all her final arrangements and I have no idea if she has days, weeks, years or might outlive me. I had to go back on my blood pressure medicine that I have been off of for 2 years.

[@DavidAbyssal]

Can you please describe that old crap he was doing. I think I have a similar situation and am training myself to deal with this. It might be useful. Thanks for sharing your story. Cheers...!

[@vladquebec]

An apology without correction of the problem is meaningless.

[@soniavos8065]

Just empty words, word salad, and future faking. 🎉 But the definition of insanity is living do the same situation and over again, expecting different results.

[@dnwitte]

After I went ruthlessly no-contact on my narc, he shared with a mutual acquaintance that he knew he had "made my life Hell" for the two years we shared an apartment, but he never said it to me, and never acknowledged that he might actually have been diagnosable. Just "this is who I am".

[@mollykayramstack6193]

Same! My ex narc told our neighbor after I ruthlessly moved out "We broke up because of me, I was not good to her" and never said a word to me other than poor me crap. They are so vile! They just want to release their guilt / shame to someone, it's all crap!

[@MarleyLeMar]

I recently had to get some good coaching to shut down an insistent friendship that was defensive, high drama, no accountability and no relationship repair. I needed to take action using good judgment but without being judgmental, and that was challenging. I was reminded of the story of two thieves on the cross where one took responsibility in the end, and the other didn’t. All I could know was my situation at the time and what to do about it. The reason I say this is that I am still learning the way we speak to ourselves and to others, about ourselves and others, influences our inner life, and that’s a self-care practice within our control.

[@OmniTarget13]

Self-aware narcissists use their diagnosis as an excuse when they get called out, and they play the victim instead of taking responsibility. They think that their narcissism is a free pass for them and that people should understand them instead of calling them out.

[@lindaspiess3545]

They KNOW they are narcissists. They WILL tell you, and are proud of it. Once I saw a video where a speaker told his audience "Will all the narcissists please stand up." They all stood up!

[@susannorris9063]

This is similar to my story. My husband was the one who made me aware he was a narcissists. Which he told me he was just a couple of years ago. He ask me what's wrong with me for staying with a narcissists. We've been married 50 years. I've been to counseling many times over the years. I had been working on what's wrong with me all those years. 10:59

[@WithAnEss]

3 minutes in and you described the narc i married, and in the process of divorcing.

[@annamiller8871]

Of course they know, that's why they get pissed when you call them out. They feel so entitled that they want to control the term narcissist.

[@well_weathered]

This! An 'understanding of deniability'. ~Teresa

[@kayneich9573]

"I so really don't want to hurt you again ", also doesn't necessarily mean they'll take steps to reasonably ensure so.

[@Sugerplum123]

My narc said " you know what I'm like, so you have to change"! 🙄🤯😱😤

[@julianadam8678]

Being a self aware narcissist is the way they trying to get validation and manipulating

[@AJ-en5gb]

Thank you very much for sharing this story. I lived this story and I am now 3 years out and going through a long healing journey.

[@ThisisPam]

This is so true. The main narcissist that entered my family’s life and particularly my daughter’s told me when he was just a teenager that he loved playing mind games and fooling people, playing with their emotions like cat and mouse. I didn’t put much thought into it because who would actually believe that?! Fast forward a few years and he had almost destroyed our family. When the final discard happened he admitted to my daughter that he was a narcissist.

[@liyuesigle9256]

That’s my 10-yo evil nephew whom I helped raise for 3 years. I tried to show him love while he played me and drove me up the wall!

[@VMorgenthaler-yp6yz]

The full blown narcissist is just a tiny step below the sociopath, it seems to me. Which makes them just about as dangerous.

[@djrixxard]

Doctor Ramani, the audio is limited to only the left channel. But most importantly, thank you for everything you do! You've helped me so much.

[@nicoledodge7240]

Yep, my best friend said she knows she is narcissistic and said she doesn’t do anything wrong anymore and I should “let it go” and turned it around on me and made me feel like shit when I tried telling her she has hurt me. I lost my friends group finally realizing she was the main reason for my anxiety and self doubt, she was so good at manipulating and controlling everyone around her without them even knowing.

[@melw8651]

The pot calling the kettle black😂😂😂

[@RajeshwariSundaram]

Yeah. What a narc does is always right. If we do the same it's wrong. So self centred and manipulative. I have lost trust. Not sure if I will regain the trust anytime. Every action makes me think if I should believe or think what's in the plan. Crazy to deal. I wish I knew about this much before getting into this relationship! I miss myself being so independent and myself! Thank you Dr. Ramani! Listening to you opens up many things and on how to handle situations. Appreciate you doing these videos.

[@kkryz]

An online friend I've been no contact with... he said something about being a narcissist. He would say things like what if I'm angry and someone comes at me with happy. He had charisma. I sent him your video back when when I wasn't thinking about him being a narcissist. He told me he didn't want to see any more videos.

[@Five-r2b]

My mother is a mental health nurse for abused children yet beat me until I moved out of her house at 18.

[@OingoLove]

My grandma was a licensed counselor for decades, but so emotionally unsafe that I had to go No Contact in 2016. I had to protect my kids from her.

[@dcruz7123]

Thank you Dr. Ramani 💗Your videos are such a Blessing. I know the worst for me is to hear my own child, now a grown adult, tell me that Dad has changed. Dad tells our four children that God has forgiven him and he's good. All his actions and lies fall under that "forgiven him" (he never asked me for forgiveness or changed the financial hardship he has caused upon me, when he has always been the bread winner, and has obtained way more money than I have ever had), and I'm left thinking which god??? When a commandment says to not put no other god before God, well that explains that there obviously other gods. Oh my.

[@GoogleUser-pc6tu]

It’s so astounding how they think that they think like a normal thinking person, there is zero wrong in anything they do , at least that’s what they think 🙄🙄🙄 They are broken people

[@patrickbinford590]

Yeah the guy said to his wife in the real life story that Dr Ramini is presenting here, the guy said to his wife, which is truly astounding here, that he was a narcissist. One realization, 1 metaphorical that I just had was that that guy was playing The Almighty. UNBELIEVABLE. The question is as applied to this meaningful illustration/anecdote: does The Almighty change or NOT?! Rule number one, don't expect a narcissist to change. Rule number two, if a narcissist says they're going to change, refer back to rule number one. Rule number three, if the narcissist changes you didn't do it. Rule Number four, beliefs determine reality. It's my current understanding that precision in the study of narcissism/relationship psychology is EVERYTHING. ♥️

[@joelbumba2006]

Narcissism comes from “heresies” which is conditioning people. They do it on purpose in order to change someone else. Such a person will never change or repent of their evil ways. A narcissist does evil, an empath rebukes evil.

[@TorgerVedeler]

I think the best thing to do when you first meet a narcissist who knows they are narcissistic is pretty much the same as when you meet someone who is narcissistic and doesn’t know it. Get as far away as you can. They won’t change, and they aren’t worth it. But when you only realize it after you have been drawn in, that’s harder (I know this from painful experience). Narcissists are very good at grooming their targets.

[@JoannaTerpstra-e8w]

My last boyfriend told me that he WAS a compulsive liar. I understood that to mean he used to be a compulsive liar. 3 years later I found out that almost everything he said to me was a lie. As for being proud of one’s narcissism, Trump is an example of how successful that can be. Why on earth would he change when half the country enables him?

[@FrostyFreya]

Nobody will play you more than the cover in the beginning! In my experience, they are the exact opposite of what they are portraying themselves to be. They tell you they are shy and then you see them talking to everyone at a party (except for you). They tell you they don’t care about material possessions and they are jealous of someone getting a new car. They say they want a commited relationship and they want their forever person but they are highly non monogamous. This list goes on forever

[@VMorgenthaler-yp6yz]

You’re describing my narcissist. This is the end result of making radical self acceptance into a religious practice of sorts. The only proper motivation to attain self acceptance is so you can start doing the work of being a dignified, competent, empathic adult. First you accept your faults, especially the ones that hurt others, then you go and sin no more, so to speak. You confess it all, to yourself or to others, but not in order to forego making yourself into a better human person. No, it’s so you’ll know where your beginning is, where the place of starting is to be found. Why are we alive except to strive? Maybe I’ll sell t-shirts.

[@sushmayen]

They're not self aware. If they are I don't know what to call them. Never heard of self aware narcissist. They know they hurt people but they think it's their right .

[@SherryTomlinson-r2y]

I have listen to self aware narcissist videos. They only go but so deep. I give the credit though!!

[@lovedbythestars9609]

Was with a self aware narcissist for many years. Dr Ramani's expertise has really helped me move forward.

[@andron967]

How much self is there to be aware of in a narcissist. Maybe they actually are self aware. But there isn't much there to be aware of. I can see it if I take away what I thought should be there, but it isn't. I had expectations but it was only shared fantasy. Hmm, interesting to think about. Thanks, Dr. Ramani ! New insights are so cool.

[@yourworstfan]

A lot of narcissistic people are actually pretty intelligent. If they are, they are capable of recognizing intellectually that they meet the criteria for this label. It just doesn't have any emotional significance to them. It's like expecting a snake to feel bad about slithering.

[@sevencaesars2804]

Great episode!!! 👌 I love your content. Keep up the great work! It will be interesting to see how the nature of narcissism will evolve from here now that awareness of this disorder is progressing 👏

[@EDS-zo8gx]

"If you wonder whether you're a narcissist, you probably aren't one" should probably be replaced with, "If you are actively trying to fix your most toxic tendencies, you probably aren't a narcissist." It's really easy for a Narcissist to say the words to throw you off but not do the work. Same sort of thing in the therapist's office - it's easy to say "I wonder if I'm a Narcissist", then provide a bunch of narratives that support a CPTSD diagnosis in order to not have to face the possibility of being "found out".

[@genevalawrence801]

By copping to it, the narcissist is trying to give himself or herself a free pass to keep using you. And going to therapy is different from engaging in therapy. It’s just one more way to excuse themselves and to require you to excuse them, too.

[@karenread753]

10:53 I’ve been involved in a situationship with a guy for almost 3 years and only recently realised that I think he’s narcissistic. He never said ‘I’m narcissistic’ but he said things like ‘I’m selfish’ ‘I’m shallow’ ‘I’ll say things, you’re probably not going to like’ ‘this is who I am and I love who I am’ He’d couple that with moments of ‘hating being on his own and being vulnerable. He came back a couple of months ago and up until about 6 weeks ago was obsessively saying he loved me, missed me, I was always special, it was never me, it was always him and his stupid mind. He can’t deal with his feelings and loads more, then he buggered off with someone else - again! His answer - ‘you know me, I’ve got loads of ladies in my life but I’m not in a relationship, I’m a free spirit. I sent him a long message about how he’d hurt me, he laughed at me, said I’m sorry if my actions hurt you. he’s now moved into her house and bought a dog - 5 weeks after love bombing me. Now he doesn’t talk to me and posts it all over social media. There’s been so much of a similar behaviour and I’m still questioning if he’s narcissistic!! This channel is helping me so much to answer all my questions. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[@LenaSouzaM]

Love all your posts, thank you Queen. ❤✊🏻🙏

[@tinaralls3936]

Yep, my ex actually told me he thought he was a narcissist who lacked the ability to love. And I just thought he was being hard on himself!

[@kayneich9573]

Yup. Been there.

[@Mimienan59]

When they think being a jerk is them being better because they can , it really it’s a double injury.

[@privateprivate8366]

This isn’t lost on me. I admit that I’m not at the lowest end of the spectrum. As a result, it may be so that I have somewhat less difficulty, actually ridding myself of certain narcissists, oddly enough. That, in addition to my situations not being the worst. Maybe it’s a bit of the “hair of the dog” type thing. Yeah, not a great analogy. But yes, for some of the narcissists I’ve dealt with, it wouldn’t be surprising, if I stood with them out in the town square, announced that they’re a narcissist and they did a little happy dance, exclaiming, “Yeah! That’s exactly what I am! Your worst nightmare!” First, keep in mind that, even if these jesters know what the word means, they have no conscience. For them, being labeled a narcissist (particularly for malignant ones), means unchecked power; omnipotence. That no one can do anything about them. The victim and society often can’t or won’t anyway. So, they’re free to gleefully go about their destruction. When you even have movie villains, like The Joker, it canonizes narcissists to being the best version of dark tetradism they can be. As far as they’re concerned, “Where’s the downside? Oh yes, the downside is being the victim! Appears to be a win!” Problem is - they get away with it - in family, friendships, love relationships, workplaces, court of law.

[@caranoblitt6212]

In some ways I think there’s a paradigm shift with people being proud of awful, narcissistic behavior.

[@aliceroberts1980]

Some of them thinks it’s a good thing ! My Narcissistic husband and he’s far down the spectrum and he knows it down deep, but he won’t admit it cause he won’t admit to anything so he’ll still deny it and he calls me the narcissist

[@andron967]

Money and dept is often used as a vehicle for imprisonment. Big Mchouse's, credit card dept etc etc. I've avoided this. But man, I've seen it again and again. It's not my circus and not my monkey but I've seen so many others in those cages. But some day when this crap collapses we will all gain our freedom.

[@hn6187]

"the double bluff" hustle

[@Annakneedtunobasis]

Sometimes I really do think people are just being vain and are just completely unaware of what they are doing to negatively affect others.

[@MrIchWarEsNicht]

As a narcissist the metaphor of a barrier or armor has pin point accuracy when it comes to self reflection. You see a failure and want to change it but you are still not taking accountability. For me it is like left and right. And it happens almost automatically because when you try to appologize you don't think about the real meaning behind the sentances especially what they mean to the other person in perspective. Unfortunately fortunately I have experienced this barrier building up. I can relate to a time where this armor developed and where this armor was even thin or non present I am not so sure anymore.

[@jennifermcdaniel258]

At the end of my very long soul-sucking marriage, my husband told me he wanted a divorce and that he had figured ‘it’ out. And then he told me I was a narcissist. Said he knows it’s true, because he did the research. That was the very last projection I needed from him to finally piece together the puzzle I’d been ruminating on for 34 years. 10 months later, I’m the one filing for divorce.

[@susannelykke6239]

The narcissist main sentence “I can’t do anything about that”

[@csfiskus610]

Self-aware but refusal to take accountability is an oxymoron. Kind like being a good psychopath. They all know what they are. They just don't care. Yes, that's how they are. But you don't have to live with it.

[@lesabrydson2526]

Do not get thrown off❤. Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙌🙏❤

[@taylorgrigsby2014]

This is my ex! She has been calling someone that is harrassing a mutual freind a narcissist. It's been a weird looking glass couple weeks.

[@alessandrasaenz72]

My ex admitted at the end he could be a real SOB at work (though he was to everyone close enough, especially me) and didn't give a crap. He never changed.

[@Dj.D25]

I've seen videos of self aware narcissists explaining why they and other narcissists act or think the way they do. Often times their insight I find very interesting. Sometimes they even go into more detail than the narcissist experts on behavior patterns, what causes narcissism, agendas, and more. They don't seem to have the arrogant pride issue explained in this video though.

[@Laura-uq3xk]

This is so True, but it's not just about them having insight that they are narcissistic....it's with every so called insight that they have. I 've had narcissists who always cheat, talk about how they always cheat....but they just keep doing it. I 've known narcissists who always respond late or show up very late to appointments consistently say that " they are like that and sorry"....but they never ever change their behaviour. Not even when you keep telling them their behaviour hurts you, not even when you set clear bounderies with them. That only makes them rage, play victim, or if you keep your bounderies up, they discard you. The key is...they dont want to change. They have some insight into their behaviour, they can name it, but they dont care if it hurts you.

[@TheLove1Makes]

There are alot of good questions and stories Here.

[@thereisnoninadria]

If you have ever dealt with a sovereign citizen, then you know that they are highly narcissistic and aggressively seek to evade taking responsibility for their actions.

[@tatianaa.3694]

Minute 9:42 Another excuse would be that when you tell them something they have done wrong, they deny it saying something like "oh I see, the fault will always be mine because I'm a narcissist, right?! You're never wrong, right?" with feigned indignation 🤭

[@claytonjohn6473]

Another thing thats scary is the willingness to punish future guys for what previous guys have done. Or the saying she was the victim of sexual assault 25 yrs ago but still goes willingly to take private rides to the casino.

[@TraumaDeepdive]

I really hope that’s not me. I was raised by 2 narcissists and sometimes catch myself having some narcissistic behaviors, which I despise but can’t help it.

[@CassandraRose-e7i]

Dr Ramani, do you have an email? I would like to tell you about my negative experience with AA Sponsors with Narcissistic Traits. I wonder how common it is for people like this to offer to Sponsor Vulnerable newcomers. There is a Dark Side of AA that needs to be covered. Thanks!

[@Grandiosity365]

What if someone's narcisstic and has strong religious beliefs. Do you think they might change in order to obtain a reward in the afterlife, or to avoid purgatory?

[@user-wi9hv2pb2q]

Years ago, like 15 yrs ago, my brother went to a therapist with his gf at the time. he came out saying "oh these therapists everything is about narcissism." He told everyone how stupid the therapist was, and never went back. 😂 Guess he's not one of the 'self aware' ones.

[@claytonjohn6473]

Ive even heard "yeah, i know its a fantasy, but its fun" I dont know if it was part of the fantasy that google maps was trying to tell her where to find me as shes crying saying all shell do is hurt people.

[@jennw6809]

The last couple videos have most/all of the audio in the left channel only. Just FYI

[@mortythepug]

I can relate!

[@stayitive4343]

NPD type later aware from others why I had bad reaction to medication and apologized about his unawareness however they did not care how I felt about it happening. They wanted me to "get over it" and continue to serve them by listening to their victim/hero stories.

[@truelove2334]

Typing this before completing the video. Wondering if you’re aware of celebrity, Nick Cannon revealing himself as a narcissist?

[@alaskansummertime]

Why do people stick with narcissists? My ex girlfriend started out nice and sweet. I let her move on then she started with extreme gaslighting and narcissist so I quit her. She even showed up unannounced on Christmas and I told her to get lost.

[@aliceroberts1980]

I got trapped by my health and money and children. I didn’t want my abusive husband having custody of my daughter without me being there to protect her so there’s a lot of reasons maybe a guy wouldn’t know about because it’s easy for them to get money and make a living women get paid less

[@marktamny]

I don’t think a lot of people understand the implications of being narcissistic. They just associated with having a strong ego or something like that. I think I didn’t understand the behavior & impact of narcissistic people until watch yours and other videos on the subject . One other thing I’d like to point out, we are all now victims of narcissistic abuse, thanks to our current president.

[@ktbiwk]

Also known as virtue signaling ✔️

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

Idk they took it too far. The flirting/ridiculousness is draining and depressing. It looks like prison reform issues/mental issues

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Don’t let their new found insight that they are Narcisistic throw you off. Awareness without actions, accountability and real change happening is empty. I would say it’s another of their manipulative tactics. Narcisists don’t stop but they reload, Just like the machinę Terminator in the movie with Swarzenegger.

[@VMorgenthaler-yp6yz]

Has Dr. Ramani ever talked about human beings who cannot love? If not, I hope she will.

[@Noneofitt]

Can you address doctors/therapists who know the person is being victimized, maybe even quasi trafficked, and due to self interest, look the other way or lie about the severity of the organized narcissism?

[@NancyBrown1975]

We have to look behind the facade they are wearing to truly know who they are.

[@PaigeSquared]

Dr. Ramani i have a question. People without empathy do not care to be seen and heard by others, is that right? It just isn't something they have as a need? Can we pick up on a pattern of when someone allows themselves to be known (at a deeper level) or not, to see how they function interpersonally? Is this something that healthy enough people also avoid, avoid above all costs, are there different levels to this? Is this something that could be used as a determining factor in real life? Or is that only a certain flavor of narcissist? 😅 What about codependents who don't know themselves, how would that show up?

[@Alafair.CarolynJohns]

There are so many types of narcissists Im starting to get confused

[@manapeace]

When my narcissistic sibling got married he was crystal clear he had no desire to have children because he’s too selfish to ever be a good parent.

[@emm_like.thebird]

Sounds like a good thing to me! If more people had this self awareness, there wouldn't be quite so many neglected children in our world.

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

I completely agree with you! It seems like I’m dealing with a malignant narcissist, as he openly acknowledges that he is not a good person. Despite this, he still wanted to have children until I decided to stop the fertility treatments.

[@melisentiapheiffer3034]

​@@emm_like.thebirdright ✅️

[@emm_like.thebird]

@@melisentiapheiffer3034 sending you so much love, strength, and solidarity from my corner of the world to yours ✨️❤️

[@shainanash8518]

Narcs don't care. Have great support systems. Narcs get away with it

[@thuster123456789]

Oxymoron!

[@matthewwozniak9138]

If you complain, then your being ungrateful. Self awareness doesn't equal accountability. Some people enjoy being jerks and have no reason to change themselves. Narcissists project their own behavior unto others. So they will accuse you of the things they are doing themselves. Just agree to disagree, then show everyone else the real you. Eventually the people around you will figure it out anyway.

[@issazeele1707]

9:55

[@merlinwizard1000]

13th, 10 February 2025