Self-Care for Homeschool Moms | Classical Charlotte Mason Home Education | Common Mom

[@fayefayelou4093]

This is so good! Being with our children is a luxurious blessing. God is so kind to us. ❤

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Absolutely.

[@Jessica_Jones]

"You don't need a special life to care for yourself." "All the things that you are doing matter." Thank you, friend. I am not even a mom yet but am so encouraged and humbled by this video. I am a deep thinker and tend to get in the weeds on what-ifs and wanting things to be perfect. Needed to hear this today. Bless you! 🙏🏻❤️

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

So happy to have you here! It's wildly freeing to realize the common life is the good life when in pursuit of the transcendentals and God-given limitations.

[@katiepoitevin4702]

"I'm very passionate about understanding how to live like a human" 😊 - that may be one of my favorite things you have said, and it may just be my new response line when people ask me why I do things like homeschool my kids. Thank you so much for making these videos, Autumn. This channel has been truly life-changing for me. Seriously...through you my eyes were opened to the Charlotte Mason world, I found the CMEC, and I have had so many beautiful and worthy things to ponder and thoughts that have challenged me in good ways. It has changed my homeschool, my mothering, and myself. Thank you. One thing that I do when I need to declutter and step back for some self care is I tune out of social media....except for one special time slot every couple of weeks where I get to listen to the new video on The Commonplace. ❤Take Care.

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Wow, Katie! Thank God! My favorite thing about living ideas is they can't die! They'll always be noble, lovely, and life-giving and they will always be what people (moms!) need. Talk about gifts that keep on giving. I hope you love your CMEC year! I think they're absolutely tremendous!!

[@sophialarson9100]

Yes, I despise cutesy nonsense! What a lovely journal ❤

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

It's really beautiful. I highly recommend it!

[@teresacarpenter7266]

I love this! I cringe at all the “you need to escape your children” language, definitely could use more encouragement from moms discussing how to cohabitate with our kids and embrace the years when we are all together.

[@maepostings1871]

You are my favourite CM mom to listen to and my husband jokes when i put on one of your videos, "listening to your bff again?" Thank you for sharing your journey. You have helped our family soo much. God bless.

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Hahah! I have those people too. My husband used to call the guys from Classical Stuff You Should Know "my classical guys" because their voices rang out from the kitchen every evening for months! So happy to have you here!

[@morgananderson4917]

I’m two minutes in and I agree wholeheartedly and am so excited to hear the rest! I haven’t known how to bring this up with other women without offending them, so I’m thrilled you’re talking about this to help me expand my vocabulary about the topic.

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

It's a hard one to discuss sometimes! I actually tried to film this last year and felt like I was too snarky and needed to put it to bed until humility made herself known. Then I realized I was a fake martyr and-boom!-it wasn't just annoyance at modern self-care but a recognition of learning to love rightly overall...which I am still very much learning myself.

[@juliamahoney1509]

This is the best channel I have yet to find!

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

So happy to have you here!

[@melissazeager1029]

Thank you for this fresh take on self care. You handled it beautifully. This is timely because at the beginning of a school year the temptation of wanting to be a robot is very strong. It utterly annoys me but I see it as the way through. Your gracious words of not needing a special life to care for yourself and what you do matters were enlightening to me on this journey. How to live like a human for me is having hard stops in my day for certain practices, simple living including having less stuff and eating simpler meals and practicing the art of being present by decreasing phone usage bigtime. Thank you, Autumn!

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Yes! The hard stops are SO important. I call those "pegs" and they really make a difference. Yours are great ones. From one machine to another, we were made for better!

[@kristenb768]

As a homeschooling mother of a young baby (with 3 other young ones too), I really relate to your breath of intensity at 14:09 😂 Made me laugh out loud! Also, I am really appreciating all this humanizing discussion! I have been considering this mindset in my own life, so very much enjoying this food for thought. Especially as mothers, it is so easy to begin to treat ourselves as the one who does the things, and not as an image bearer, created by God with limits and capacities that grow and change.

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Hahah! You get it. Sleeeeeep. And I'm so glad! Caring for my children has taught me so much about caring for any person. Motherhood can be incredibly healing on all fronts.

[@tayloranthony4322]

You are so brave, Autumn, I *love* you. Thank you for making this one. We all know it's so true!

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Tay! Further up and further in!

[@asheleybroadway]

I’ve been practicing Examen and love ignatus practices . Love love your channel!

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

You might love Tsh's book then! You can learn more here: www.tshoxenreider.com/gratitude

[@kathleenperez3316]

Oh I love this!!! Thank you thank you!! It also reminds me of Allie Beth Stuckey’s book “you’re not enough and that’s okay” has to do a lot with the idea of self care and what you talked about :)

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Oh, so good to know! I've definitely heard of that one!

[@bygraceonly182]

Love this so much. Glory to God.

[@chelseyummali]

So relatable. I’m def a go getter as well, but I have never had any issues doing things for myself 😅 BUT I give myself some credit that it’s enriching activities like studying my religion, reading poetry, knitting, sewing, textile dyeing, learning etc. My problem is priority setting. Sometimes I have a laundry basket of clean clothes sitting around for days…weeks? Hahaha 🤪

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

That sounds much more like good leisure to me!

[@KalleSchrader]

Oh Autumn. I resonated with so much of this vied so. From the ditch of self care, to my strictness of planner designs 😅

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

I have very strong feelings about planner designs. Sometimes, I surprise myself with how much I feel about paper products...

[@asheleybroadway]

Your channel is such a blessing thank you for all you do ❤

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

@@asheleybroadway thank you kindly!

[@exploringgodscreation-]

Lately one of the self-care things I want to do is join The Common House! There is so much I want to learn, and I deeply enjoy your videos. I have a 3yr old boy, twin 2 yr old boys (they are 14 months apart), and I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant. I feel at a loss of where to start, have you considered filming a video sharing what you did with your children before officially starting formal training?

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

We would love to have you! I have so many resources, guides, and templates from the years before we were formally schooling in Common House!

[@sarahclutter7649]

I also cringe about the endless memes and posts about entitled selfcare and mom life is hard. Motherhood is a season, and I'm so blessed. ❤

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Woof. Don't take a spin on Instagram reels. They're a real downer!

[@meganbennett3175]

😂 I loved your part about the couch cushions!! I have told my kiddos for years that we will buy nice new couch cushions when they (the cushions) have learned not to live on the floor, as they are constantly playing on the floor or everywhere else, except on the couch where they are meant to live. My kiddos are now 11 & 9 and we still don't have new cushions 😂😂 Maybe one day when they're adults???

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Hahaha, I doubt you're ever getting couch cushions, Megan! My kids commandeer the cushions but * also * the reading chair and every dining room table chair to build their fortresses; I now regularly sit on the piano bench. Ha!

[@everywherejoy9019]

Over 10 years ago I picked up Ann Voskamp’s book One Thousand gifts and have been keeping a Thankful Journal ever since that first reading ( I read it over 17 times, Ann’s book and the practice of keeping a running list of all that I am thankful to God for helped me through a bit of anxiety I was experiencing).

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Gratitude is so healing! And it helps us tell a truer story of our lives!

[@abigailmurrish8170]

Coming in late, but wanted to say so very much appreciated this perspective. Thanks for sharing. You (and your viewership) might appreciate the framing "self stewardship" as in contrast to self care. It was coined (to my knowledge) by Dr. Tasha Chapman at Covenant Theological Seminary. It's been a helpful framework for me in my neighboring, motherhood and vocational work in a local church.

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Oh, I do like that! I'll have to look into it more. Thank you!

[@Elena_TBCH]

Greetings from Spain!! Love everything you do Autumn ❤

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Hola! I once had a lovely stay in Madrid and wish you a happy hello too. Happy to have you here!

[@AndreaSorial]

4 minutes in and I can already tell you are right. I love this video. And I've laughed out loud at least 3 times already 😂

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

I do aim to laugh while talking about lovely ideas. I'm so glad you're here!

[@jessicaolson717]

Such a great video as always! I find it very disturbing how "self care" is used as a selfish excuse for consumerism. Where did you get that journal? I would like to incorperate something like this into my day. Thank you again for all your great ideas!!

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

The gratitude journal? Right here: www.tshoxenreider.com/gratitude

[@ruthiesheppard729]

You voiced some much that has been on my heart that I couldn’t put into words. This modern self-care mindset is so dangerous for ourselves and our families. Thank you for the perspective and tips on how to live the life we are striving for. Haha! As a mother of five children (one being a toddler), getting a full eight hours is a fantasy but I should practice going to bed earlier and get as much as I can. My night owl spirit wants to rebel but I know it’s true. 😆

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Haha, I know! As I started working on my first Rule of Life (with three under four at the time), I kept wanting to put something like "8 hours of sleep" on it but knew it was unrealistic. That was my first ah-ha(!) moment of practice versus an expectation/demand. I can't make demands like that but I can cultivate the discipline to go to bed by 10p or 9p, depending on the season of life!

[@mountaingirl8124]

Ha! This was me, and then God called to adopt triplets last year and I surrendered! 😂 Great vlog!!!

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

AMAZING.

[@deannahazelwood9751]

Autumn, have you read Eve in Exhile by Rebecca Merkle? If not I highly recommend and would love you to throw it in a video with your thoughts and comments. It's one of those books I keep coming back to again & again to rekindle my fires of inspiration and enthusiasm. It definitely qualifies as a "self care" or as I like to think "soul care" book, which is better and more fulfilling than self care.

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Oh yes! I have read it and loved it! Did you catch the documentary too?

[@deannahazelwood9751]

I saw something about it. Is it free or part of their subscription?

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

I had to subscribe but that was back when it released! Not sure if it's available outside of that now! @@deannahazelwood9751

[@SummerLove-yv1kf]

Hi! Just wondering your theological tradition? Really enjoying all your content! I feel like you are putting into words what I feel deeply but haven’t fully realized. Thank you!

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Hey there! We're in the Orthodox tradition.

[@lauramatos1181]

@@thecommonplacehomeschool I just found you not long ago, I love your content. We also homeschool our three children. Now I find out you’re also Orthodox, so cool! We are Orthodox Christians also ☺️🥰

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Hey! So happy to have you here enjoying all the beautiful ideas together!!@@lauramatos1181

[@katie7748]

I don't like the nauseating cutesy stuff, either. The worst of it, in my opinion, isn't even the childish stickers or the ugly fonts. The worst of it, in my opinion, is all the stupid "motivational" drivel they tend to plaster all over it. Little catchphrases (You've got this! Girl boss!), cliché quotes from random famous people (Eleanor Roosevelt, Maya Angelou), affirmations (You are beautiful! You are strong!), just...trite, hollow, patronizing platitudes. Ugh.

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Oh yes. Those are very bad. Agreed.

[@janellewhite8030]

First! So excited! Woohoo

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

You keep getting it!

[@janellewhite8030]

@@thecommonplacehomeschool I'm so glad someone else has the same reaction I do when I hear "self care"! Barf!

[@katie7748]

​@@janellewhite8030 Yes! You are definitely not alone!

[@jessicafriday9958]

I know this was a minor side note you made, but i also find so many products that are marketed to women as ugly. I really cant stand the loopy, over the top, "hand lettering" fonts and kitch-y graphics. I even think floral patterns are often over done. I find there is more beauty in simple things than in busy things.

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

It's a thing! I don't understand why things marketed to women are so ugly or childish but it's a thing!

[@katie7748]

Ugh. Yes. That messy "cursive" font. There's also that weird, tall and skinny print (very common with the Godawful Modern Farmhouse and some Minimalism style trends). Or worse...the *mixed* fonts. Ack! Wake me when it's gone!

[@ildikobabrian8259]

Sometimes I feel like commonplacing your videos..

[@thecommonplacehomeschool]

Well, that's very kind.