Self-Care is Hard Sometimes.. Let's talk about it.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

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[@whitemountainwitchery7240]

Started this cooking dinner for my family and once I got my dish in the oven I said "Kelly-Ann is so right, I need some self care." And promptly told my husband dinners in the oven I'm laying down don't bother me and don't let the kids bother me 👌🩷

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Ok I am fucking feelings this comment ❤

[@whitemountainwitchery7240]

@@kelly-annmaddox oh Kelly-Ann when I tell you the last hour has been so refreshing! Thank you so much for reminding me that I too need to shut off from caring for others even though I am a mom.

[@MiaEZ]

​@@whitemountainwitchery7240regularly dear 💐

[@ClaireLeslie-eu4tl]

❤️ love

[@englishwitchinfrance9009]

I chose this video as my self care today. My husband is seriously unwell and is in hospital, I have 5 children to take care of and a ton of things to do...but today, as I drove home from the hospital I chose self care. Thank you for reminding me to look after myself right now ❤

[@simoneoconnor9392]

Wishing you and your husband all the goodness in the world ❤

[@cierragrove4745]

I was going to start a family this year, but instead, I am going through a divorce. It's hard for me to sleep, eat, tidy up, stay within budget, and brush my teeth. I think this video was meant for me right now. I'm very grateful for you.

[@violetflame5290]

I'm not doing well right now, Kelly-Ann. I miss working with you so much 😞 I moved to PA with "the family man" and I'm all alone out here..no car, no money, no friends, nothing.. Our sessions together were so enriching and therapeutic for me. I really hope that once I get back on my feet I can start seeing you again. It was really helping me on my self-care/self-healing journey. ❤

[@greylady1958]

Sacred Inactivity🎉 yes, yes,yes! That's such a powerful sentiment in this age of productivity and self improvement. There are so many distractions from doing nothing and watching the grass grow all by itself. And yes sometimes we do need to schedule our self care. Not only because we live very busy lives but also because doing things for ourselves is the first thing we tend to "forget". At least I do. Thank you for this very insightful and inspiring video my dear.

[@TheStoryOfRei]

May have cackled out loud when you said the “if you’ve gotten this far through this video you’ve been through some sh%t” part. 100%😅

[@jslipchi]

This video could not have come at a better moment. I was definitely raised with the "idleness = laziness" philosophy, so on days like today, when I want to just chill on the couch and do small things around my home, I always feel like I should be doing MORE. I need to remember that sometimes idleness = self care!

[@sunandstorm]

You know I’ve gotta say as a long time follower and client with self recognized AuDhd…..uh…..look I don’t wanna diagnose others at all but I 100% see it 😅

[@lauriem9658]

There are no coincidences. The Goddess shows me what I need to see when I need to see it. Thank you for sharing this.

[@lunar3n]

oh my gods i needed this at this exact time. thank you kelly-ann 💞

[@Miss_Lexisaurus]

I am absolutely guilty of the "broken the straight unbroken line" thinking and shaming myself and getting frustrated over it. Really appreciate you calling that out.

[@thenerdycrone]

I've got to admit, I totally struggle with self care. I'm coming to the end of three years of my youngest being on a part-time curriculum. He's finally transitioning to a special school full time in September. My Daughter has been struggling with Anemia and mental health, she's only 18 and my older son is burnt out after taking GCSEs. I've not even had time to take care of my own health needs i.e finding out about HRT etc. Let alone my self-care or spiritual needs, I just have to do things as and when. Everything is so chaotic, I wish I could get into a routine, but I'm so worn out. Writing is my only escape these days lol. Sorry to vent.

[@rachelking2303]

Take one hour at a time.. I completely empathise... 3 children 2 asd, 1 adhd. Myself adhd, I had to quit my job because managing my son's education was taking w days a week and still does and then leaves me with NO SPOONs for the next 2 days.. then beat myself up for shutting down... one hour at a time.. take the easiest route, and know you are not alone in your experiences. Xx ❤

[@thenerdycrone]

@@rachelking2303 Thank you so much for your message. It means alot, its funny but when we got the offer for my youngest. I thought I'd be over the moon. Instead, that was the point I crashed and burned lol. I'm slowly replenishing my spoons, just in time for the school holidays lol. Taking one of my other children on a respite trip did us both wonders. I did not realise how worn down I was till I took a little time out.

[@trevorsteelmon5262]

Hey day 2 of sobriety. Thank you for continuing making videos for the community

[@AZLoveNStuff]

Very helpful tips indeed on the tips and the list. Yasss 🙌🙌 I do need this. I find myself doing so many things at the same time and can lose focus. And yes that feeling of none of them getting “done”, and I do “forget”. I actually took myself on a date the other night for my first time and it felt great. 👍 it was nice to get out of my head and enjoy a simple walk. A visit to my favorite creek under the trees. Had A picnic 🧺 loved it.

[@peacegoddess5]

thank you thank you thank you

[@AZLoveNStuff]

Thank you Kelly Ann. You have been such a blessing in my life in this journey sharing your words and vulnerability to be real and genuine. Thank you ❤ I so needed to hear this right now truly. I have struggled with this from time to time more often than not. On so many levels. You have summarized this. I am in the states and have been dealing with some shit in the environment and as an Ally and a member of marginalized groups. I have felt this indeed with my activism. Truly I needed to hear this. and I feel lighter and not so alone. Bless you Kelly-Ann. Thank you for being genuinely you and doing what you do. ❤

[@dawnnicholson9675]

Thanks so much Kelly-Ann for this.. loads of information to act on. Thanks for your help and time..much appreciated. Take care of yourself also ❤❤❤

[@SalemElectro7]

Love this, as per usz. I’m in a heavy place rn and it’s hard to do the self care. The last several years have been harrowing in my personal life and with my health and narcissistic abuse and caring for an elderly family member when I can barely care for myself. I’m constantly there for my friends and tell everyone how important self care is and trying to help everyone I love remember that. When it comes to me, I feel guilty. And I’m just plain exhausted. I’m really trying to figure out how to do that for myself. I think I’m going to take your suggestion and write out all the categories so I don’t have to think when I’m in full burnout. For me, when I’m being successful with this, I try to think of myself as my friend. What are you constantly going on about with self care to your friends? Do that! I’m the friend that is experiencing these things and I need myself to tell me that. Thank you for posting this very important message, Kelly Ann !❤

[@autumnrain814]

These categories remind me of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and I love that. I’m definitely going to be utilizing this. Thank you so much. ❤❤❤. Sacred inaction is probably the one thing I’ve got down. I’m very lucky in that regard, I was never taught that it was laziness. My mother calls it “the art of doing nothing” lol. Categories one and three are where I really need to do some work and this is very inspiring in that regard. I think I’m gunna be making some changes in the weeks to come. 😊

[@rachelking2303]

So many many theories that support this yet our world does not !! Xx

[@ravensbuttons]

I'm so grateful to you for covering this. I struggle so much with survivor's guilt and I feel terrible I can't even remember to drink water. I feel so much of this. I hope you have a beautiful week Kelly-Ann!

[@ellydias1315]

So resonating with you😅 I am a dopamine person alright😊 I think I knew that deep inside and thank you for the great insight about making the inactivity being sacred that gives me a lot of inspiration. Thank you darling and I love when you laugh at yourself. ❤❤

[@rachelking2303]

Just wow... everything in this video.. apart from lists... lol lists ohysically guve me stomach ache.. i'm trying to work on that !! The categories.. oh my goodness, mine vary a little but to your levels.. laundry is a categroy two cos sometimes just eating drinking and personal hygiene takes a day in my house - for kids and myself. The category 3 the guilt.. I have never heard anyone express this but I am deeply struggling with this right now..the world is such a sad painful place , and my life is hard but others is always harder .. the world hurts my heart so much nowadays.. so to hear you say this brought teara to my eyes.. But you are right skip my lersonal care and I become a person i don't like being.. Your videos ways guve me such motivation, your tarot gives me inspiration to go sling aome cards, your journalling tips inspire me to journal, and today and earlier in the week i waa inspired to go back to my category 1, i often forget to eat, I never phone the GP, I am working in increasing my movements- and again Thank You cos gym , working out, automatically have me overwhelmed. Just Thank You Kelly Ann... I am seriously considering a reading with you..and I don’t like readings for me in general... i'll read for people but find someone i want to read me.. that's a challenge. ❤

[@ashgreenspinner1503]

This is definitely a timely reminder for me and friends! Thank you Kelly-Ann!

[@MatrixMaster777]

You are awesome! Thank you^^

[@HollarMoonMountain]

Yes I’m a believer in personal alchemy. I always watch your videos to the end.Thank you for your continuous work.

[@AZLoveNStuff]

I have struggles with this in the past. Most definitely. I think a lot of it for me was generational cycles I was breaking. I have always been the one in the one sided relationships giving and giving to the matter of where I was depleted with “friends” and also family. I was hard to accept at first because I felt used. Which led to a cycle of depression and anxiety. I had to pull myself out of that pit. Also habits and patterns I kept separating of self doubt and not believing I was worthy of the time. The guilt of there are so many people in the world going without. Why do I deserve this? When I realized and made a conscious decision to accept my part in it. And accept also the one holding “me” back and stopping myself was me!! I stopped making the excuses. And also had a big light bulb aha ha. As to ok girl you say you want to live “healthy” or what that meant for me. Mentally healthy truly. Because I realized jow all of these things were affecting me. Leading to the anxiety and depression and how I did not want to live like that or be in that rut for lack of better terms. The action had to start with me. I was actually so bloody uncomfortable I had to make the move. And accepting that my actions were Not in alignment with what I was wanting to do or how I wanted to live my life. It was a tough pill to swallow and still is at times looking at the man in the mirror. However now with these realizations I feel I can see a little more clearer and clearer each time. Learning and growing and that in itself is worth the work. I appreciate all of your tips on self Care Kelly - Ann truly you make such a huge difference in this community. Thank you. And the big key at the end recognizing even those little things we do for ourselves. As often those can be overlooked. Which leads me to recognize what I’m focusing on. And how big of a change I can see when I am aware of what my mind is focusing on. And how that can drastically change things for the good… and well the indifferent.. mostly the good. awareness and the Willingness to step forward and up for myself. Trusting I am worth it. And reminded that to really make the difference I want to in these Marginalized communities and in activism it is absolutely 💯 percent critical that yes darn it Yes ! I must take take to take care of myself. I’m throwing out life rafts… and here my boat is sinking!!???

[@zebulonswearingen4607]

I’ve watched several of your videos regarding self-care. Just listening to you is healing. Hearing your voice and what you are saying - and considering it - that in itself feels like a form of self-care. I could only imagine what kinds of things would come up if I Googled “self care”. I’ve never Googled it - but I think that some of the words and images in that never-ending scrolling would actually make me feel bad about myself. Scrolling in general can have that effect. It’s the KZbin version of channel surfing on a tele. And if I click on certain videos, I might feel even worse. Many of the videos would be helpful - but the entirety of the videos that come up in the scroll is like a form of gambling with a massive deck of cards. It’s often the case when doing a Google search - you end up having to sift through a million spoons of all shapes, sizes and functions to get to that one butter knife. So I’m lucky that Midwest Witch (now Seraphina Nightingale) told of how much your videos helped her. All I had to do was search for your name. Seraphina has another trusted channel on KZbin. She helped me and my son through tough times during my father’s losing battle with 2 different cancers, in the days when she was Midwest Witch. She continues to be a helpful person as Seraphina Nightingale - and herself is a big self-care advocate and self-care giver. So I just wanted to express my gratitude. I have began taking better care of myself and I feel quite a bit better. And I realize that the act of self care is an important and ongoing human journey.

[@4.eva.21]

one of the best and most authentic videos on selfcare ❤

[@ellydias1315]

Thank you for making the video Kelly Ann. You are a beautiful Gem 💎

[@brittneysosa7250]

Kelly-Ann I think we need a tour of your filofax! 😂❤ Btw, thank you so much for this video. It really was a fantastic reminder and gave me some good ideas (as an organizational freak) Also, I did do the Self-Care exercise and it felt honestly healing to just sit down without any distractions and just think about the things that I know are good for me and also bring me joy. ❤

[@shaleenguaiquier7597]

I’ve been having to take a look of my selfcare routine lately as well and what I need now is boundaries and more selfcare and focus on myself wants and needs. And I just treated myself to a tarot journal bc I always have been into it but never fully invested the time and energy bc I was all over the place and focusing on other things and ppl and not myself and what I need and what I love to do. And I want to say thank you again for the video you put up abt the tarot journaling you have so much helpful insight and advice which I really needed. So thanks again.

[@elisenightauthor]

This was so timely. Thank you for the inspiration.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

You are so welcome! X

[@ladysmall9853]

Watching this video is very timely today. Thursday is my week day off work. It is laundry day and often food prep day. It is the day I get the house to myself for a few hours most weeks. A couple times a month I do lunch with a particular friend. Today, I have decided that I have enough of the food I make to wait until Sunday, so today I am letting myself be "lazy." Laundry is basically done and I am catching up on KZbin videos and playing with my cards.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@ladysmall9853 I'm so glad you're taking this time for the much needed sacred inactivity you require. 🥰

[@nathaliemorissette4681]

Thank you Kelly-Ann for this mid-year review. Your honesty touches my honesty. Much ❤ to you.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Thank you darling. ❤

[@spacewagon]

Thanks as always Kelly-Ann! I’ve watched and commented on your videos for a few years now and I think it just may be time for me to set sign up for a session with you! : ) Blessed be 🙏🙌

[@EmilysTarotandMagick]

I really needed to hear this. Thank you Kelly-Ann 🙏 Xx

[@theVonnieness]

Girl, you have me crying. I really needed this reminder. Thank you.

[@beautyb4876]

I have recently discovered something that makes me very happy and that's watercolour painting (going to try acrylic soon) I'm not very good but my family is very creative so must be there somewhere lol this is a great video thank you perfect topic

[@kelly-annmaddox]

LOVE that you've discovered such a wholesome activity and you're really allowing yourself to have it. ❤ 🎨

[@Bjorn_Algiz]

Love your message and words of wisdom sisters! ❤😊🙏 you are a Gem! Appreciate your being and the community you have built here.

[@jenniferpike8168]

I really love the different self-love categories, and realized that I need to work on all 4, but particularly didn't know where to start from on the 3rd one. Then I started reading Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis tonight, and everything just started to click. :) I know where to start now on my 3rd category. ❤

[@ladyamalthea85]

That thing about being a serotonin vs dopamine seeker is so interesting! I am not great at self care, I'm the first to admit it. Today's self care is cuddling the puppy on the couch while knitting and watching you, next is heading off to the hairdressers! I get my hair washed and braided weekly.

[@ClaireLeslie-eu4tl]

Finally an intelligent conversation my sweet

[@sx272]

"you're here because something happened to you"- i felt this 🖤 i've been watching you for years and you've always been a helpful and comforting voice through my ups and downs- thank you. x ps. i have ADHD and you seem to have it too, but you seem to have worked out lots of systems that allow you to be successful- would love to see a video on that :)

[@rachelking2303]

Not just something... lol most likely LOTS of things... xx

[@MiaEZ]

I am so happy to have found you dear 💐

[@EvelynAlice7]

Thank you for this, potent and enriching as always, lots of notes made and will be sharing my thoughts over in discord. Your work is so invaluable to me. x

[@typrovoost7640]

Phenomenal advice…..Thanks!

[@robinpenn7167]

I needed this. Thank you.

[@sevenheathen5545]

Thank u for this vid! really needed that😊

[@heatherfoxandhawk]

I've been meal prepping for my family all day, for this next week. I just started working again and idk how moms work 40+ hrs a week and still do all the cooking and cleaning and child care.... I already want a self care day 😂 thank you Kelly Ann❤ im trying to figure out how to fit everything in ( including my spiritual practice and mental health care) and Im realizing I have to be more organized.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Organisation is often the key. The problem that many of my clients tend to have with self-care is that they don't feel as though it's ok to schedule down time, creative time or spiritual time. They feel like it's selfish or unnecessary in some way, so we often work on correcting that.

[@heatherfoxandhawk]

@@kelly-annmaddox definitely plan to work with you someday, it's my dream🥰

[@autimarie]

Thank you 🖤

[@roberthubbard3302]

I have suffered from depression from an early age as well. Since Prozac came out, I have taken that. Before that it was much worse. It was basically salt-based pills, like lithium. You would wake up feeling completely dehydrated, with a throat like sand paper. It was worse if you drank as well, which I also do.

[@ginga_ninja-wn9db]

Totally a dopamine seeker

[@ellenmarie2772]

Thank you

[@beanbaghagwag]

😊oh, my stars. This came across my feed at the perfect moment. I pride myself on my ability to finally self care after abuse, trauma, and the lower than low self-esteem I suffered from in my younger years. It's become hard, but life-saving over the last two years, and I do deal with the guilt of self-love and self-care while someone I love is self destructing. Thank you for the reminder that it should be quilt free.

[@seekingvision]

I have a filofax section with step by step bullet point instructions on how to clean/organise my entire flat except my witchcraft items. I need it for mundane cleaning that is quite frankly boring & ever ongoing drudgery lol 😂 I don’t need that motivation for my witchcraft areas. (when I had leg surgery the cleaner I paid used my filofax clean it this way lists which removed any anxiety for me about a stranger doing it)

[@teresastorms3774]

Wow, what a treasure trove of information. After many years of just barely taking care of myself, I have finally started to find myself again. I have made some major changes to my life and how I do what needs to be done even when I don't want to. I know that even if those things SUCK now, my future self will be so glad I did what needed to be done. My self care thing on weekends is finding little pockets of time to do my nails, play with makeup or just hang out and drink some really good coffee. I mix in those things like dishes, laundry that have to be done and make a game of it. Once I do this, then I get to do that. It gets my Id on board and the drudgery isn't so dull. The sacred "doing nothing" is at the top of my list! I am going to make a list of things that are self caring and try to check one off every couple of weeks or months. Most of what I do doesn't cost anything, but it feels so decadent. What you said about not doing for yourself doesn't help anything really hit me as so profound. Thank you, love. This was just brilliant. So much love to you, and everyone here! ❤

[@andipeters743]

"Sacred Inactivity" is now one of my favourite terms! I have ALWAYS known that my creativity is related to periods of rest and deep thought and general wandering. By the way, three weeks ago a retired doctor told me that I was the most ADHD (undiagnosed ) personality that she'd ever met, so is there a link or what?

[@cookiesontoast9981]

"Am I giving a shit about anything outside of me" Gotta be honest, before I became spiritual? I barely gave a shit about most things outside of my immediate relevance/interest. Something that now is very very different. For example following you on Instagram recently and seeing your posts about Palestine really opened my eyes about that entire thing, when before I just didn't look into wars currently happening in the world because they made me feel like my ignorant comfort was being threatened. But now I'm aware of the horrors going on and it makes me sick how fucked the entire situation is. Also, I never get good sleep, so pointing something as obvious as that out isn't meaningless, like you said. :)

[@meadowsandmountain]

My boyfriend recently told me if I were a Pokemon I would be a „Dostuff“ 😂

[@nataliasegal8674]

Great video! Any witchy self-care advice for us neurodivergent people who are sometimes too exhausted and stressed out from existing to do anything but too wired from stimulant medications to actually take a nap? :( I know you were talking about serotonin versus dopamine and to not try to be productive when we rest as much....but I feel like I rest after work by doing the dishes and tidying up, etc. because my body is too restless for actual rest and it give me something to focus on that's not rumniation....but I still feel like doing the dishes is not REALLY rest, you know? haha! I can't even watch a full-length movie often enough because I fidget too much and the more tired I am the harder it is to focus on reading a book.

[@lone-welf]

that intro hit way too hard 💔

[@Sundaymagpie]

I am LOVING Aura! Sleep hypnosis are my jam!

[@holilex]

seratonin fo sure

[@rebeccagarner7665]

i'm a list person. always have been, makes me feel like i have my shit together with a list - i wonder if you would ever think about creating a list for the 4 catagories you have? i think it would help me make some kind of order, as that's what i struggle with

[@heatherb7565]

had to pause and just take a breath when you talked about all of us out here listening to you having been through something and wanting to process whatever it is, take a deep dive, believing in the alchemy. Feeling seen! 💕 and yes I have fallen into the mistake of leaving myself off the list of people that I care for. I don't know why it is so hard, feeling like I need to be caring for and uplifting others constantly, and needing regular reminders that it benefits nobody at all if I'm stressed and burnt out, but it's definitely something I'm working on so thank you for addressing it.

[@ClaireLeslie-eu4tl]

Today please

[@tiny-yaga]

loved this video, had to get my journal out and take some notes hehe. btw i’ve been revisiting a bunch of older videos as i ponder my practice at the moment and i have felt like revisiting helpful tips of yours from the past. i must have been subscribed for at least 8 years or thereabouts because i have a very clear memory of the video that really made me realise i had something to learn from you and that your way of thinking and explaining things really made sense to me, and it was your video on unlived lives. anyway, something that struck me going back and forth on the KAM video timeline lol was that certain things have been with you for such a long time - i recognise ear rings, necklaces, shirts, images, wallhangings, knick-knacks on your altar, tea mugs, etc. and i realised how much those little things over time reinforce the feeling of spending time with a friend, just having a cup of tea and checking in with my witchy old pal kelly-ann 😂 appreciate your company over the years so much ❤❤

[@ClaireLeslie-eu4tl]

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[@NathansWay]

Thank you, basic hygene is amazing self care. I know that me and a few friemds have struggled with that during major mental health struggles and because it is stigmatized by shame it is for that reason it is not talked about enough amd alot of people keep it as a " dirty seacret" and not talking about it makes it harder to get support.

[@ClaireLeslie-eu4tl]

Hang with me for now

[@anayrre2062]

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[@ClaireLeslie-eu4tl]

I know a free resource if need be. Ask…

[@HollarMoonMountain]

Why do I keep falling off? Why can’t I maintain an unbroken line. The pressure is unreal I put on myself.how do I stop. Who the fuck am I? Thank you. I feel like you are speaking directly to me. (lol if you are this far thru a video of mine you have been thru some fucking sht🫶🏻🖤)

[@ladyamalthea85]

That thing about being a serotonin vs dopamine seeker is so interesting! I am not great at self care, I'm the first to admit it. Today's self care is cuddling the puppy on the couch while knitting and watching you, next is heading off to the hairdressers! I get my hair washed and braided weekly.

[@sevenheathen5545]

Thank u for this vid! really needed that😊

[@sevenheathen5545]

Thank u for this vid! really needed that😊