13 Ways to STOP BREAKING Your Own HEART | My Loving, Honest Advice

[@Creatrx_Craft]

The computer room was a luxuriously intentional space.

[@TheKatoSama]

I, too, remember the days when you turned on the computer and went to make yourself some tea while it finished booting up 😁 Finally got around to watching this and so much of it resonates! Thank you for saying that a relapse doesn't undo what you've already done for yourself, I really needed that. When it comes to standing by your choices, I have learned that you can just say what's what and skip the justification. It usually just invites people to try and talk you around, and really there's no need to justify or apologise for who you are and what's right for you ❤

[@violetflame5290]

Getting my hopes up too high or feeling overly excited over something that is either indefinite, or over something positive & exciting that hasn't even occurred yet...this is one way in which I have broken my heart numerous times in my life. I would cling to false promises and far away dreams and as a result, suffer from major disappointments.

[@fairyfortunes9362]

This was very insightful. I think for me the greatest lesson I learned in preventing heart breaks is that I let people be who they are and not who I want them to be

[@crafty_capricorn]

How are your videos simultaneously a fitness coach pushing me to get stronger, a fairy godmother sprinkling eye opening wisdom where I need it, and an actual friend who gives me a hug and tells me I’m not alone. 😭 I’m currently in the throes of heartbreak, both from myself and from others. Every single point you made here felt relevant to my current reality and it was revelational even past what I get in therapy. Thank you for everything you do, you have been a friend to me in some of the darkest moments of my life.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

I'm sorry to hear about the multiple breakups, darling. I know that feeling only too well. ❤ Thanks so much for your gorgeous words about this video x

[@NightWillowCrafts]

For your watery eyes, it sounds like Dry Eye. Sounds counter intuitive but the most common symptom is watery eyes. Try an eye drop like Systane (not sure if that’s available over the pond) but do not use products like Visine as they actually make it worse. Coming from someone who’s worked optical for a number of years and treated this daily ❤ increase water, warm wet compresses, and proper eye drops are usually the cure. If it doesn’t go away, there are things an optometrist can do which will help but are in office ❤

[@nataliasegal8674]

Thanks for this video. Lots of great points, especially about oversharing at the beginning of a relationship/friendship or online....both created so many issues for me that I just ended up deleting my Facebook completely and I'm so much happier now. However, your video inspired me to look through my KZbin subscriptions and playlists to see if there's anything toxic there that I need to let go of. Great content, as always!

[@oyoyoyo7624]

yes, “you in danger, girl!” is whoopi in GHOST

[@ericaf6851]

Ooof when you said that thing about how the good things in the past weren’t cancelled out by relapse, they were carved in stone… that hit me, I guess I don’t give myself enough credit: thanks for the reminder.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Always remember that. ❤️ Every single good thing you've done for yourself counts, ALWAYS.

[@violyss9274]

You’re so dope Kelly-Ann. Your content helps me empower myself like no other

[@kelly-annmaddox]

🥲🥰😍 Thank you darling x

[@inkandflame]

When it comes to doing something about the injustices or heartbreaking situations in the world, how do you step up and act without it taking over your entire mental space, heart space, soul space, and energy? How do you manage the overwhelm of it? That's what I have struggled with and one reason I hesitate.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

I am literally writing notes for a video on this exact subject right now 💋💋

[@taylorexploresmore]

You’re such a unique human being. I’ve been finding myself craving your content lately - I’ve been watching you for so long now that you’ve become a bit of a comfort for me! Thank you for being you, for being here and for putting so much into your content, Kelly! You’re amazing and I for one and so so grateful for you ❤️

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Darling, this comment just made me glow. ✨️ I'm so happy you find my work to be a comfort to you. Thank you so much for such heartfelt feedback. This really touched me xxx

[@roberthubbard3302]

Loads of wisdom here. I think my main problem in the past has been that tendency to 'write out blank cheques' for people. You always end up being taken for granted.

[@nikokatos]

Yes I do want that life again without the internet sometimes instead of all the time… it is all so overwhelming

[@EmilysTarotandMagick]

Yessss the sinking feeling and it just can't be ignored. Can't wait for your new book 📖 this was such a great video Kelly-Ann. Thank u for sharing. I felt very seen and held listening to this - especially around heartbreak from friends betrayal and having given too much to those ppl. And yes just so used to this feeling of fear, heartbreak and tears falling atmo... 💔 standing up and taking action to make change is the only thing to do. And yay lol 😂 to the dial-up sound! Remember when it was a massive box desktop computer and cd-roms 💭 felt that ❤ 🙏 Xx

[@Rachel-sv9pq]

The cyber cleanup is definitely what I need to be more vigilant about. Not only do I spend 10,000 hours a day on my phone but I definitely go look at accounts of people who I've BLOCKED because we were toxic for each other but I can't keep myself from pressing that bruise. I really need to get serious about logging off.

[@violetpsilence2332]

OMG the speed bonding while sitting on the bathroom floor with dilated wide eyes locked into each other😹I remember those days… Your insight and the way it is expressed feels so nourishing, per usual!💘

[@antwanzhane_mawayd]

i so get you on the crying thing - don't have advice unfortunately // i'm out here accidentally forming a new ocean 😂

[@jenniferleftwich7]

Hey kelly, I just got your book yesterday and I left tons of comments on rebel witch video, it is now my go to book I love love love love love love love love love love love love love love love it,

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Ahh, this makes me sooo happy. Rebel Witch has such a strong place in my heart and knowing that someone has vibed with it and found it useful will NEVER get old. Thank you, darling, for supporting my work an letting me know it's helping you x

[@jenniferleftwich7]

@@kelly-annmaddox you are more than welcome, and thank you, for being you, I can totally vibe with your energy I love it

[@ucheoji]

This is wonderful, thank you.

[@stevieferrari2617]

Wow. I really appreciate this video! I was just listening to you talk as I get my house work done like usual, and then you spoke about asking questions about things that deeply hurt you, or make you hyper focus on them. I never realized I did that literally until you spoke about it and I had to pause the video and just ponder and reflect awhile. It’s so strange that things like that can happen, I suppose on some level maybe I knew I did that but I just needed to hear it put into words. I really appreciate the way you can describe very nebulous ideas in an understandable and completely relatable way. Thank you for making this video, I wasn’t expecting this video to affect me, and make me think so deeply about myself. I figured I’d do what I usually do, pop in the AirPods, listen to an interesting thought provoking video, and get my cleaning up done, so this was such a surprise. I am very grateful that content like yours is put out for free! Thanks again for this gem!

[@stephanieyeshuaislife7236]

I am SO vibing on your videos. Kelly-Ann ....

[@evergreenforestwitch]

I don't know how to stop the tears, but that's relatable. I'm 44 now. When I was 25 my bf passed and I grieved hard for a solid 18 months, pretty much cried whenever I was alone. And for quite awhile after I cried as every emotional response. I don't do that now - it definitely tapers off- but I still am moved to tears like 20 times easier now than I was before grieving. Tea bags with black tea, moistened in warm water and placed over your eyes for a few minutes greatly reduce puffiness. Caffeine is a diuretic and causes tissue to release water. Tea bags make great poultices. A ginger cinnamon blend on a sore tooth can draw out infection and reduce swelling. Tea is medicine in all the ways!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

I'm so sorry you went through the terrible experience of your boyfriend's passing, and at such an unfair age.. Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it's beautiful that his memory can still affect you deeply, and I hope you went on to thrive, even in spite of something so earth-shattering. My brother had a wonderful girlfriend when he passed, and we have struck up a friendship that is really important to us both. Although our grieving is different, it has many overlaps and elements of empathy. I am so glad I can be there for her. Thanks for reminding me about tea bags. I used to laugh at mum for wearing them buuuut I think it's time to join the club!

[@evergreenforestwitch]

@kelly-annmaddox I appreciate your kind words. I'm so glad you are keeping in touch with your brother's gf and genuinely like her. There is something tender and precious about cherishing the same departed loved one. Someone else who will understand why a particular gesture or expression is significant is priceless. Grief really cracked me open emotionally, spirituality and energetically. I'm a different person than I was before, and it's crazy because that was almost 20 years ago and I only know him for a couple years. The way we interconnect with certain individuals is very profound. Happy to remind you! Remember to chuckle with your mom about it next time you talk to her lol

[@Makenzie271]

More than once I went to the like button when I heard something that resonated with me only to realize I already liked it 😂 Thank you for another great video!

[@CatApocalypse]

Thank you, I needed a little reminding on a couple of these things. Been going through a very painful friendship breakup, and I suspect more and more that the way I've grown as a person in the last few years has made it incompatible. I think I let a lot of shit slide over the years. It's still tough to let go. 😿

[@xanderpromeo]

My brain has been in the clouds and this is exactly what I needed to hear, thank you.

[@HollarMoonMountain]

Such a rich video. Thank you.

[@gillianmariepearce]

This is brilliant. So much to reflect on! Thank you, Kelly-Ann!

[@wavingcat5]

I felt exactly the same when i saw the computer meme! And I mostly didn’t have the internet until I was around 30! I want my life back. Unfortunately I also find great things like this video, and you, online, and all the good things that come with things like this. It’s harder to control than alcohol, I think, because so much of life is involved.

[@austinmonroe5551]

I love this topic. Thank you Kelly Ann ❤❤❤

[@kelly-annmaddox]

@@austinmonroe5551 ❤️❤️❤️

[@AGoddamnedHarpy]

Definitely done all of these at one point or another 😅 . My extra-ness takes careful management to avoid getting in my own way sometimes. The more you know! Great points 👍🏻

[@ShannonMeyers-dm4ip]

This was incredible for me! The whole damn thing.. how is it that everytime you post a video etc it always is in line with what I'm going thru or what I need at that moment? Idk but I sure am grateful!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

😍😍😍

[@Skatelifefool]

I like the thumbnails you make

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Thank you. My wonderful editor makes them - I will pass on your compliment.

[@irisiperle3369]

Such another awesome informative video from you Kelly-Ann! I love you so much! I feel this video helps the masses! So many of us don't get this love that you give. Thank you!

[@kelly-annmaddox]

🥲🥰😍 That is such a nice comment. Thanks for watching. I love making videos like this one. I must make more x

[@anareus1]

I get excited when I see one of her videos!

[@anareus1]

Thank you. I needed this.

[@stephanieyeshuaislife7236]

So did I

[@KellySmithDavis]

Fantastic video! This was the pep talk I didn't realize I needed. ❤

[@TheStoryOfRei]

This video has definitely come along exactly when I needed it. Made some notes in my journal to refer back to. ❤️

[@stephanieyeshuaislife7236]

Good!

[@cyberbrujx]

❤ thank you

[@jenniferpike8168]

Number 8 - too much rigidity - I have a hard time with this one. I got better about being more flexible and rolling with the punches when covid hit (thankfully neither my husband or I ever got it *knock on wood*). I've always been a huge planner and like to know how things are going to be and when and what things I need to do and when. For the past almost 3 years now, life has been in limbo. There is a potential outcome that I want SO much more than the other and I find myself acting as if that's what's definitely going to happen. I tell myself not to get my hopes up in case it doesn't pan out and I yes, get heartbroken.

[@futuremutant]

another wonderful banger, bless ❤

[@hd.37]

Sounds like a form of stigmata (your eyes)!

[@Laylalaughslast]

I know exactly what you mean about phone addiction. I also struggle with all of the things you mention. Ugh. I’m really wanting to read more and feel like being online isn’t constantly raising my cortisol level (without ignoring horrible things like genocide). Being online constantly feels like too many people are in my living room.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

'Too many people in my living room' is such a good way to put it.

[@antwanzhane_mawayd]

and number 3 (of what not to do)_______chile 💔 guilty

[@elineeugenie5224]

I can just see you asking questions that you didn't need the answer to objectively... I recognise it and i hear you 16:00😅

[@autumnsmith3585]

Which card is your necklace? 💖

[@Bjorn_Algiz]

Hehehe everytime a video of yours hits my feed I get so fucking excited! 😊 ❤ love it sister! Keep being a badass Jigglypuff. 😎 I wish I had an emoji for a Pokémon 😂

[@MissZarcasm]

Virgo Rising.. I'm SO guilty of not allowing my cyclical nature to be a part of me that's NORMAL and NATURAL. And I think that's causing my recent obsession with "rewilding", because I do want structure and routine, they make me feel secure and peaceful when they work FOR me. However, I can get so damn judgy of myself (and others) when routines and habits "fail". It's really silly honestly. Nothing blooms all year round, and neither should I! *exhales sharply and flips my hair* :D

[@MissZarcasm]

As for paying attention to actions rather than words, I am having an odd experience with this currently as I am, like yourself KAM, very word oriented. And psychology interested. Which means I can often "read between the lines" of what is being said, place meaning on choices of words and so on. But I have someone close in my life who chooses their words TERRIBLY sometimes, and yet their actions are typically really up to par? It's like reverse-world day for me and I am being shook around helplessly. LOL

[@MissZarcasm]

Im just having a wholeass conversation by myself down here at this point but who cares. The last point hits me in places I'm not sure what to do with.. I want to love what I have, but I'm currently (and for the last 6 months+) in a financial state of below minimum living expenses due to disability and bureaucracy. My expenses for food is 60% lower than what it "should" be by any normal standard. My car's broken down. It's really, really hard right now and I'm so frustrated by not having any room to save up, to fix my practical problems or even buy myself some damn ice cream if I want to. It's making it very hard to cherish my surroundings. I do know that I am grateful for all that I DO HAVE, and every bite I CAN HAVE, but it's also followed by that sensation of "This can't be Just. This can't be Fair. This can't be Enough". I feel like meditating myself into more gratitude workings is gonna make me explode. It's not for lack of trying, or lack of awareness of how it could be so much worse. (I have been homeless and in literal starvation in my early teens).

[@riot.9]

I've heard that sea buckthorn oil [internally] is good for your eyes. Also blueberries [from forest] and carrots :) Thank you for sharing - gives perspective.

[@buttercup371]

In regards to teary eyes: I’m in school at Joyful Belly Ayurveda to be an Ayurvedic health counselor. Tears are considered as a mala, or waste product, of the mind. Tears are the only way our body can rid itself of stress hormones -whole- without having to be broken down and eliminated during sleep. My questions as an Ayurvedic health counselor would be: How much sleep are you getting? ( to know if it is adequate to eliminate stress hormones). What time are you sleeping and for how long? ( 10pm-2am is pitta time in the body where the body cleanses itself and the livers/kidneys/ digestion self-cleans). Are the tears salty, bitter, sweet? ( to find out which dosha or combination of elements they are related to). Do they primarily run out of the inner corner, center, or outer corner of your eye? ( also a sign of which dosha is involved). Do they feel hot or cool? Are they thin, viscous, do they burn? Is there mucous in your eyes, and if so what color? What does the sclera look like? ( bloodshot, yellowish, etc) Is it constant or intermittent? What time of day is it worst. Do you have dry eyes? ( indicating vata as a cause, or air/ether). Depending on the answer to these questions, balancing the ati pravrutti ( or excessive flow) Within this channel would have a different treatment. Treatment would be dietary, lifestyle,/routine, herbal remedies, and practices. 🙏🏽

[@meadowrae1491]

I had a weird flu that included watery eyes/sinus pressure. I recommend a neti pot and ibuprofen to help with swelling.

[@imdivyamenon]

there is not much I could do for streaming eyes - apart from my SSRIs lol It just is

[@ginga_ninja-wn9db]

Bit off topic but is that a Dave Grohl Jesus candle? 😂

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Certainly is 🥰🥁

[@ginga_ninja-wn9db]

@@kelly-annmaddox I love it!

[@purplesunflower8242]

Me to being an Empath part of the path. Rose oil hundred per cent good for grief.

[@martinafreyjakartelo1852]

Interesting content, go girl! Teary eyes can be constant release in spiritual context:) if your emotional or physical body is overwhelmed then it finds its way to release.:)

[@jolacey1853]

Hi Kelly Ann I suffered with streaming eyes for years. Even had surgery to make my tear ducts bigger which didn’t help! Also tried various other things to no avail. Then I found the answer (for me anyway) Every night before I go to bed I put some organic coconut oil on my middle finger close my eyes and the firmly smooth this across my upper and lower eyelids from inner to outer edge and I have not suffered with watery eyes for a few years now. Because the sebaceous glands in our eyes can get blocked this technique helps to unblock them. It’s been a game changer for me but you have to do it every night as part of your routine. Hope it helps x

[@cleoh666]

Your eyes could be allergies! Could try taking an antihistamine, and check the weather if the pollen or wind is high. Or it could be if you're using something new in the last week, like a new candle or face cream

[@nostromois]

8 months since you first posted this and the Palestinian journalists are still targeted, injured or murdered on daily basis... what endless horror....

[@teslagoth9401]

Wondering if you are experiencing allergic conjunctivitis. Cold compress and a Benadryl might do it 😢

[@elineeugenie5224]

In my experience, streaming eyes are a sign you need detoxing (also in the case it's pollen or other allergies). So if we can use other detox techniques, bath, walk, hot water drinking, sleep, we'll probably get some relief. Okay back to the video.