Selfish People - 14 Warning Signs of Self Absorbed People

Selfish People - 14 Warning Signs of Self Absorbed People. Presented by Anna.
In today's video we're taking a look at 14 signs of selfish people. Why are people so selfish sometimes? We look at these selfish traits and try to find reasoning behind the behaviour.
Do you know of any other signs of selfishness? Perhaps you're wondering "am I selfish?" either way, comment below and let us know what you thought of today's video, we'd love to hear from you.
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[@lunalove5930]

1. Exaggerate their achievements (huge egos) 2. They will plot and scheme against you 3. They are self centered and conceited 4. They believe they deserve everything 5. They struggle with the idea of sharing and giving 6. They love to criticize other people behind their backs 7. Don't take constructive critiscism well 8. They don't show any weakness or vulnerability (seen as perfect) 9. They dominate others (in control) 10. They're extremely afraid of failing in public (public shame) 11. Very good at manipulating people 12. They don't care about others 13. Their own goals come before anyone else 14. They never listen to people who don't agree with them.

[@thickerthoughts9107]

Sounds like The Chinese Communist Party.

[@Joyanima]

Thank you for commenting! Any subjects you'd like to see covered in future videos?

[@DanNorton1]

@Ana Amaro What do you do that you think might be selfish (if you want to say)?

[@DanNorton1]

@Spotify You think so?

[@DanNorton1]

@Spotify Such as when?

[@BadEconomyOfficial]

You forgot some 15. They refuse to apologize for doing wrong by yelling at you when it’s clearly them. 16. When they do wrong, they “play dumb” and deny admitting they’re wrong. 17. They provoke you to respond.

[@Cheesygamergirl121]

So true

[@user-zy4xd1fi5j]

Uh, that sounds like me...

[@guchayourmacha2031]

Hell to the f*&king yes

[@dhivya2k474]

100%correct

[@Ashley-jx7sw]

Yep sounds like my ex 100% to a T . All of it

[@dhosea101]

Broke up with my girlfriend because she was selfish and self centered. Always talked about herself and took me for granted. Thank god I got outta that real quick.

[@Joyanima]

Glad to hear you're able to move on. You should find someone who appreciates you :) Thanks for commenting! Any subjects you'd like to see covered in future videos?

[@ccadam]

Sadly their seems to be an increasing amount of women with those traits. There's plenty of men like that too. Women tend to get what they want easier apart from the more attractive men. Even the less attractive women tend to get a fair amount of attention from men.

[@secretnet7125]

@@ccadam dude this has nothing to with the video. I have seen most men having ego problem. What u said was stupid. Selfishness has nothing to do with gender

[@deborahmclean6432]

Glad u gt rid of her

[@eltocatimbres]

maybe thats what you think you narcissist! (edit, this is a joke)

[@londonwoodside1582]

i started watching this bc my sister said that i’m self centered and selfish but it turns out i’m not and she is ◡̈

[@Joyanima]

Thanks for commenting :)

[@DanNorton1]

Why did your sister say that about you (if you want to say)?

[@londonwoodside1582]

@@DanNorton1 lol just cause she’s kinda rude asf

[@imperialyoshi8624]

i had the same problem i had my own brother call me selfish just because im following my goals.Then i notice that they are trying to change me.

[@imperialyoshi8624]

then they trie to tacke advantage of my genoristy,so yeah screww them.

[@NetricekDempster]

Umm who isn't afraid of being publicly humiliated? Some of these traits are about insecurities and not necessarily about being selfish.

[@GottEddy]

Shame is for protection, why did the body invent that?

[@julieleighton9970]

This is definitely me and the reason why my husband and I couldn't live together anymore.

[@Joyanima]

It's good that you're able to recognise your own behaviour like this, some people aren't capable of doing it. Thank you for commenting. Any subjects you'd like to see covered in future videos?

[@perryh.5306]

That Still shouldn't be a means to get a divorce. As a husband I would have stayed with you, that's water under the bridge.

[@deemastermind]

Be better

[@blackspiderman1887]

This sounds like my boss at work.

[@Joyanima]

Thanks for commenting! Any subjects you'd like to see covered in future videos?

[@leannebishop7880]

My onece boyfriend

[@friesandfloatarethebest1337]

@@Joyanima joyanima can you make a video on how to be APATHETIC & STOICISM? I want to cut off the dramas in my life and live peacefully. And also, how to take criticisms.

[@bigbaltimore]

Must be why he's the boss

[@bruceprice3583]

this is why I'm here, lol.

[@DavidJCathers]

I definitely took a lot out of this myself and tried to look as objectively as I could with this. Hate to admit it but I got a little over half of these and it's something I'm working on changing. Thanks for posting this!

[@daveidduha]

I came for self help and got roasted instead LOL

[@Angeltrap_cosplay]

I believe we are all selfish at a point. It matters how and where we use it. Using it too much isn't good. But like I said, a slight hint of selfishness I believe we all have. We want to defend ourselves and be able to be proud of our selves at times. Some of our goals are more important than the goals of someone else. It depends on what it is. And you have to use it carefully

[@Joyanima]

Thank you for your comment :)

[@GottEddy]

It's not that your proud of yourself, you're creating a self image which comes from LACK of something. It's compensation

[@mikecavazos7098]

Boy oh boy. I was dating a woman that was showing these signs. Belittling me not educating me. Very toxic. Dodged a bullet in a way. Thank you for this. Opened my eyes wider.

[@X2HellYeah2X]

I’m self centered and listening to you has helped what I can do better I’m grateful

[@harpsailorharp6716gg]

❤

[@francismausley7239]

Thank you... "If man be imbued with all good qualities but be selfish, all the other virtues will fade or pass away and eventually he will grow worse." ~ Baha'i Faith

[@ancienttechnique5830]

She just described every person on this planet. I noticed this when I was in kindergarten. My first time being exposed to a large group of people as a child. It was obvious that I was being thrown into a den of hyenas. We compete against each other to be first in line. I’ve learned to be just as vicious as the people in this world and I hated myself for it. Now I just stay alone as much as possible. I can’t escape you people. You’re in the grocery store. You’re sitting next to me at a traffic light. You’re at my job and you demand customer service from me. You are everywhere

[@dmcfail987]

Well not necessarily I’m very aware of myself

[@Star-po6gq]

You went to a bad kindergarten

[@slibnik]

you the ones who use the large shopping cart instead of a hand basket, and fill the cart to the brim!

[@shawndella1]

Some of us are humble, but don't take the crap from people who keep hiking their leg on innocent people who only wanted to care about them.

[@themoonisbeautifulisntit2860]

i was really worried about being self absorbed and that i am what i fear but it turns out that i only have one of these traits and one of those is that my own goals come before others at times, which the more i think about it even when i have goals for the future, others are always included in those goals and i try my best to consider how my actions and words could affect others, it’s super relieving to know that i’m not self absorbed because i don’t want to hurt anyone, anyways i just left this comment to express my thoughts more clearly because i tend to contradict myself a heck of a lot:’), thank you so much for this video!!💕

[@vinods1320]

After 40years of my life, I realized I am a selfish person and never cared about anyone in my life. I lost everyone and I deserved it

[@harpsailorharp6716gg]

dont be too hard on yourself xx ❤❤❤

[@learnersparadise7492]

At least you will have peace now

[@Ashley-jx7sw]

I sure hope my ex realizes this and realizes I was the only one that actually loved him.

[@learnersparadise7492]

@@Ashley-jx7sw let me know if you need solace , love and peace, I can help

[@starcatcher3691]

Well you have another half to live. I'd you learn to try to understand and care for others you will find your life is richer.

[@reyxo4780]

I felt like I was becoming self absorbed but turns out I think I might just be self centered :/

[@Joyanima]

First step is to realise you're doing it. Thanks for commenting!

[@stephanieomayra]

I think most of your points describe narcisism, not selfish people per se. I'm a pretty selfish person but I am not mean or plotting to hurt others. I think being selfish presents itself in different ways for different people, not just an outright negative one.

[@Joyanima]

Thank you for sharing a detailed comment, I appreciate it :)

[@perryh.5306]

Selfish and mean can go hand &hand! Btw...love both in a lady! But...you can be mean without wanting and having thoughts of hurting someone.

[@stephanieomayra]

@@perryh.5306 I disagree with your first sentence, but agree with the last one.

[@perryh.5306]

@@stephanieomayra you say your selfish but not mean.....I'm not saying that if your selfish your also mean....I'm saying that they selfishness and being mean "Can" happen together! Regardless...selfishness is awesome, keep being you!

[@stephanieomayra]

@@perryh.5306 Ah, I see. I agree then 😄👍🏻

[@haanis5458]

Sometimes putting yourself first is a good thing. As long as it doesnt define you. In sports for example, it can be a good thing to think of your personal needs sometimes. That can make you better at that sport. Just dont let it define you and it is fine sometimes.

[@Ashley-jx7sw]

Yes but there should be a balance. The difference is self centered people have absolutely no balance.

[@Evaultfinancial]

Damn this hit the nail on the head 😬 not the energy or vibe an unselfish generous person wants to be around. It’s draining 😞

[@Ashley-jx7sw]

My ex drained me to a T. I hope one day he stumbles upon this video and realizes he’s the self centered one pretending to be perfect meanwhile talking crap about everyone else behind their backs

[@kristinabeeghly4708]

My friend, who lived alone for many years and has three adult children passed away last year of cancer. She was a very good person and a dear friend but her children are the most selfish people I have ever known. Even though she was sick and dying, her son, who lives about 15-20 minutes away, never came by to check on her, to see if anything needed to be done around the home or bring her anything. Instead she drove to his house, picked him up and went to restaurants which she picked up the tab. The other two children are not that much better.

[@GottEddy]

"My people are dying from lack of knowledge"

[@alfredquintana2227]

....My best friend Wally is so selfish and bad for the community!!!😠

[@nahomokubamichal874]

Hey Anna welcome. I lern fast all the time with you.Thank you

[@Joyanima]

That's great!

[@christmaself9891]

My sister. I lost my son and she is a Nurse, a psychiatric mental health nurse, I swear she is a patient. No help at all through this hardship. Still bragging about how great here kids are and the spouses. thx.

[@tommyparkerparker]

I knew a guy that got me in trouble because of his selfishness. I often say, I wish I knew then what I know now.

[@lots3799]

Glad I stumbled into this video. It made me realize I was right. It describes 10 people I knew for 30 years. There isn't one thing you said that don't describe them.🤣Thanks......

[@smariamyumiko6809]

Dealing with a selfish lab partner. Yes. Always out for drama and mind games. Drive me over the edge all the time.

[@Zalidia]

I am watching this just to find out if I am actually selfish. Unimportant comment, please move on Hey don't go down there. Lol i am, i suppose i can go use my face as a punching bag. Also I told you to not go here. Go away.

[@Joyanima]

How did you do? Thanks for commenting by the way :)

[@Zalidia]

@@Joyanima 11 of the signs sounded like something i would do. I am selfish. Oof. Also no prob.

[@ganapathibhat5360]

Same here

[@_SxlarMMM619_]

So basically siblings? 🤣

[@Joyanima]

haha, you should check out my video about signs of toxic siblings!

[@oleggeraschenko4932]

Joyanima, selfishness and self-centeredness is a thing of it’s own, not necessarily linked to manipulation or narcissism. One can like to talk about himself, without wanting to manipulate, do good deeds to others without wanting recognition and have friends. It’s like a challenge one has to cope with, and the best friends can do is let that person know and help him overcome that

[@tranquility9325]

Since I was raised by narcs and well versed on their behavior... selfishness is definitely a narcissistic trait. Right along with manipulation.

[@specializedcourses7045]

That is very true. They are great in manipulation . Excellent interpretation. I have a sibling who is selfish. Thanks a lot for letting us know.

[@DanNorton1]

If it's bad to be selfish, is it good to be selfless?

[@DeepakKumar-ot3rb]

All these points are correct as I thinking. And I strongly agree with you.

[@JayJay-bo5kl]

Great video thanks 👌. commend people who admit their flaws and correct themselves..

[@DanNorton1]

Is it selfish to admit one's flaws and correct oneself?

[@NovocaineGirl]

I love her voice, super unique ^^

[@BattlePeanut]

Lol when she covered her ears and chanted, my brother always does that along with most of this list

[@menkabharwani4839]

Yes thank you

[@StephEWaterstram]

I have a Friend who makes it clear of His Self-Centeredness. He admitted He seeks out others like Himself. They boast themselves to be uber significant! It's a very annoying delusion and petulant. When He discusses His past relationships You can clearly smell His relationship seems to be oriented to be a service to Him. He also gives gifts that are not even applicable To the interests of others, just based on His perception of what He Thinks You are interested in often showing They're not interested in Your thoughts, feelings and actual interests whatsoever!

[@Joyanima]

Thanks for the interesting comment Stephen. Any subjects you'd like to see covered in future videos?

[@leanneseville3782]

Thankyou very helpful ❤️

[@kabuwanqin9]

Oh nooo I come across as selfish 🤦🏻‍♀️I dont want to be like that!!!!!! UGH

[@BlueThunderboltsiren]

I have several questiond if you don't mind me asking. 1: What if someone is trying to tell you to do a certain thing their way and then even though you told them almost 5 times that it would not work and your trying to help come up with ideas to make things work but no matter how many times you try to come up with ideas, that certain person always acts like that their ideas are more important than yours and it always feels like if they don't get their way their going to have a mental break down all of the time, and they act like they don't care or think about your input or how you feel about it? 2: What if whenever someone makes a plan about only what they want to do and you actually participate and have fun though they still make things all about them through out the whole time, But it just so happens that whenever YOU make fun plans that you and that person can do together for fun hoping no selfishness involved that person either starts making things all about them all over again, or they just plain old stood you up and then they tell you at the last minute or when your just now going to bed saying that they had other plans without telling you ahead of time or they go hang out with someone else instead? 3: Why is it whenever I try to come up with a conversation with that certain person they always have to talk about themselves all of the time? Like all I ever hear from this person is I I I I I I I I ME ME ME ME ME ME ME. Like don't get me wrong, I like listening to that person talk about themself, but I feel like that person does it way too much sometimes. Especially whenever I want to talk about something else and maybe about me for once that person literally In 0.5 seconds turns it around and we are talking about that person and all over again all I hear is I I I I ME ME ME ME! It makes me kinda sad tbh because I feel like I can never talk about how my own life is going sometimes and I feel like there is no room to talk about me sometimes. 4: Why is it whenever I try to make plans to where I want to be with my family and my family only or whenever I want to talk to another friend for once and have a great time or whenever I have a date to go to (as an example I don't really have a date lol ) that person has to bud in and demands that she gets involved with everything I do or she will break down because all she wants is all of the attention to be on her and her only. 5: Literally whenever we talk on the phone or text that person always ends up talking about how I'm not following up to her expectations that I know that they are very hard to follow, like having to drop every single thing that I am doing even though that there are times where I can not drop everything I'm doing just to answer my phone because she always says that she would have a break down if I didn't, or just like last night where she said that I have to try to make plans to hang out every other day a week, which during the weekdays I am usually the busiest, but I told her so many times that I am usually free during the weekends and we can hang out then. But Everytime I insist on telling her that, she is always like OH THAT WON'T WORK BECAUSE IT SOUNDS WAY TOO LONG, even though she literally just told me that she was free during the weekends as well, and once again if things don't go her way she would break down. The moral of the whole thing is that whenever she doesn't get her way it turns into a break down story. Why is this always happening? She even expects tells me that I am only aloud to have an hour after a busy day or what such to myself and then text her or call her right after, even though she knows very well that the best way I recharge is when I spend a long time to myself so I don't mentally lose it. She also doesn't really except that there are times that I literally do not want company that day and I need a day or 2 to myself to prevent myself from going crazy. BUT NOOO she makes excuses on why I should get out of my way and give her all of the attention she wants instead or else you know what will happen next. 6 and final question (maybe): Is it a bad thing that I feel like I should talk to a therapist about this situation and possibly other problems I feel like I'm having about this? The reason I say this is because I don't want to feel like I'm forcing my family into this, especially the fact that it's my problem and I don't feel like it would be right getting them involved with something that I should be the one dealing with it anyways. Although, it doesn't mean that I don't want anyone on my side for once though. What do you think I should do because I feel like I am stuck on whether I should find a better way to deal with out feeling like I should just stop spending time with that person which is something I really don't want to go through. Sorry that this is so long.

[@shawndella1]

Honey, you hit the nail on the head with a woman I know. She has managed to manipulate every single person she knows and acts like she is totally innocent of everything, and I look like the bad guy because I won't tolerate it and I can see through her.

[@jays5926]

Every young man needs to watch this video

[@tuyeth9205]

And young woman........

[@renatasniper4359]

Absolutely.... I dated...someone on and off for YEARS...and all he did was brag about his menial achievements, while dragging everyone else down. This video nails his personality to a direct science. Yet, he had accomplished really nothing in comparison to so many other honorable people. Great Video! Thank God... I am out of that situation, The guilt I had felt while in that relationship... UGH.

[@anotherland2462]

let me post with a bikini profile pic....lol. i'd probably say you aren't far behind him.

[@GottEddy]

Yet you did want to change him, how selfish is that

[@discoveringq]

I love the advice given here. I’ve been best friends with someone for almost a year now and within our friendship I’ve noticed some things that make her seem self-absorbed. The good news that I confronted her about this multiple times but the conversations never go well. As a result, she always say I’m the one with the problem and I have anger issues. She even told me I was too sensitive. Even when I’m taking accountability she doesn’t accept it. One time she did agree to work on her prideful ways but nothing has changed. I’ve never dealt with a friend like this before and the deeper I get to know her, the more down I feel about myself. I want to make our friendship work but it’s an repeated pattern that’s often leaves me exhausted. We have a lot in common and sometimes I feel comfortable sharing my family issues, and my religion with her. But sometimes I don’t even know how to communicate with her cuz she criticizes some things that I said. Ive been doing research and learning more about the content of our friendship and figure out if ending the friendship is the best option. Should I just end it?

[@neilmurphy966]

Hi I've been in similar situation but much longer period than yours so I know how frustrating and draining it can get... I'd say try and meet other better people and if u have a few kinder ones that nourish you then you could still keep her in yr life and give her a chance to grow but if u spend less time with her? I think if yr with ones that boost u then u might feel better about dealing with her woes.. to me that sounds fairer way of phasing her out of yr life? But I'd say keep yr eyes open and dont repeat taking this from anyone else in the future!!!!!!

[@madsam9403]

Take that person as a lesson, if u notice these things then u should take a action ; 1)manipulative 2)forcing u out of comfort zone 3)making u attract to them by charming talks 4)portraying themselves as a very very good person when they r alone with u 5)using emotions or actions on u (basically they r checking what rewards ur mind to use this again) 6)notice their eyes (extremely active and it will feel as if there’s no real emotion) U need to understand that their minds are very active when it comes to noticing people and they don’t have any empathy so they will never feel a thing when they see something that is wrong but at the same time they will show their emotions in WHAT THEY FEEL IS WRONG basically it’s all about them and they don’t give a shit about anyone else remember when u distance urself from these people they will keep coming back not because they care for u but they found u as an easy vessel to nourish their egos they r like a parasite all they need is a host and it doesn’t matter who’s the host they will just keep looking for it and they will also keep increasing their charm to attack most hosts however if u do believe in god I’m sure almighty has placed a special place for them in hell

[@tranquility9325]

Yes. This person is quite toxic.

[@melissasartin8945]

Wow, you just described my sister to the point!

[@perryh.5306]

I wanna met her!!

[@hannahwiegel541]

Hearing this makes me wanna cry, because I wanna change, but I don't know how.

[@samuelhere41]

I can't change

[@DONCAZZHOLT2011]

Maybe ur just wanting I live among shelfish person live around shelfish world if u voice the deep sorrow because people treat u like shit constantly and you want for normal things but are forced to do what benefits them then it sucks

[@perryh.5306]

Don't pressure yourself into changing completely....some people actually look for those traits in a partner! Take me for example, I won't be in a relationship with anyone unless they have traits of selfishness and mean. You basically have to pick your battles

[@kausamsalam8543]

Maybe give yourself two days a week in which you just listen to your family members-and accept whatever they’re expressing. Then, allow yourself to do more charity work of your choice without sharing with anyone what you’re doing for family or fellow humans-and try asking Allah/God Almighty for His Mercy towards you. (Selfish people don’t have time for such things-they just want to “do them,” as society teaches most. When we begin realizing things about ourselves, instead of looking at other people’s problems, that’s when change can come into our lives, God-willing, /In’sha’Allah.🥀

[@TheBigChangePH]

This is very informative

[@V.Scheff.V]

I’m afraid of failing in public but I’m not selfish

[@danbruno5945]

Lol im selfish 1.I protect my weekends off work and enjoy my chill time so much if anyone needs me for a lift or there's a social gathering 8 times out of 10 I will say im a work when really im watching netflix lol 2.I do every other weekend (son) my ex wants me to take him for basketball sessions on Sunday mornings every week,I said I rather keep my weekends off child free but happy to take him of its my weekend on. 3.I live alone on purpose because I enjoy undisturbed sleep

[@DanNorton1]

Re: 1, is it good to lie like that?

[@Ashley-jx7sw]

You are going to regret acting selfish with your weekends when your son is grown and no longer cares to see you on weekends or at all since that’s what you taught him

[@newbief5457]

Yes.........I m selfish , this is video is all about me....😪

[@Joyanima]

Thank you for commenting

[@coreyanderson7424]

Actually, selfish doesn't necessarily have to mean narcissistic. Because the real warning signs are just being selfish in general, even little things. Like not ever offering to help someone else at work.

[@MetroSonic]

It sounds like a person I knew for almost 6 years turn out to be corrupted and selfish only care about herself but really don't care about others pretend to care but very selfish and ignorant. I don't like that. I like communication and making great conversation with love and caring. Selfish self-centered people are not cool they've been hurting people down

[@Feber2001]

I love people... but, my defenses are so up. I've been hurt before really bad, and I am reluctant to "put myself out there." I'm scared that I will be used and stepped on like before. Help?

[@abdullahayatrollah2416]

Never listen to others problems or feeling it not about them. So terrible. But they are being honest. They don't care.

[@alexcervelli1195]

I'm watching too many of these, I'm so scared that I'm gonna become selfish

[@WishesandWonder]

My ex is like this. She is very self centered and only talks about herself. Cuts me off during conversations, never asks me questions, tries to play games with me, and lies or brags to make herself seem more “busy” or enjoying her life after the breakup. She said her life is so amazing now and she’s super happy. Dodged a bullet!

[@Comrade134]

Thank you darling.

[@MaisMikeKaribyan]

Very true points

[@lorineilson7529]

The selfish person never asks how I am or how was my weekend

[@avichanda4641]

I don't know i think i can never change myself

[@showtime0561]

I found myself thank you for this video

[@sv-yk5gi]

I feel everyone around me is..🙄 the psycho level activated. Now side effects is i wanna become one now. I am trying to change myself to that psycho.

[@lloydfrancis9149]

Wow this is great information blessings

[@sterlingpless4335]

My father used to be like that he had self centered tendencies I had to work two jobs and go to grad school and he was filling sorry for himself...

[@DonnGassVEVO]

Thank you

[@BruklynGam3r]

I just came to the realization that this is me! I don’t try to put others down tho!!

[@ryanng754]

I am the center of example to the world, self thought other.

[@friesandfloatarethebest1337]

You just described me but the only difference is that I am so weak. I am so sorry. I only become selfish after my former classmates bullied and mocked me for being academically active. Also, I am insecure and I am a lonely introvert that has low communication skills. They thought I am braggart but I really am not. The hate that I have felt before was thrown into my brother without a valid reason. I will change for the better. I am not like this, I should not be like this. I want to be back to my old self, my true self. 🙂 Thank you for this

[@DanNorton1]

Is your old/true self selfless?

[@DanNorton1]

@Mangogurl OwO Is it good to be selfless?

[@DanNorton1]

@Mangogurl OwO You're selfish now?

[@DanNorton1]

@Mangogurl OwO What do you do that's selfish, if you wish to say?

[@DanNorton1]

@Mangogurl OwO Will you be better off if you don't do that?

[@mikmik2661]

Hi. Just want to ask what is the difference, if there is any, between self absorbed and self centered?

[@sophialee467]

I think it is the Same thing?

[@Yasu-sm3vp]

Without being a selfish person, I personally believe there is no other ways to achieve one's ultimate goal. Being selfish is needed sometimes!

[@DanNorton1]

How would you define "selfish"?

[@Ragingknight12]

@@DanNorton1 I personally believe that a selfish person only cares what they get out of someone. I've been called selfish because I wanted to end a friendship that I felt was no longer good for me. But the person said it would negatively affect them if they couldn't speak to me again. By basically making me I guess feel guilty for wanting to end a friendship

[@DanNorton1]

@@Ragingknight12 So did you end the friendship?

[@Ashley-jx7sw]

So at the end of all that, you will achieve your goal with nobody around to celebrate your achieved goal. I don’t think achieving a goal is rewarding if you don’t have loved ones around to cherish that goal with

[@dodahbay7313]

@@Ashley-jx7sw A lot of these people aren't exactly "love ones". Sometimes it's good to cut people a lose whether it's so-called friend or family members.

[@jawalamihzakirsahiron1671]

Self centered people also show weakness when everyone ignored them and seek attention when no one listen their dramas and stories or opinion about their achievements and when someone are more popular than them or being embarrassed and humiliated Infront of everyone when no one defend them

[@Eddy.user-pq5fg2bf7s]

Thank you so much

[@ryandeffley7652]

A really simple "selfish test" is making an open ended statement and seeing if they ask for more details. I use this on dating apps all the time to size women up. Her : How was your weekend? Me : It was great. Especially Sunday! **Now if she has any basic curiosity or interest at all she will inquire more about Sunday. But you'd be surprised how many don't. 🤣 However it's a very effective simple way of gauging how self involved someone is.

[@lukaskrejzlik716]

„They don't show weakness or vulnerability," isn't very fitting statement in my opinion. Of course, you explained what you meant. But I don't know anybody who would like to be seen as weak and vulnerable.

[@markivory6635]

Oh yes.i certainly do. Mr Paul Harris

[@HowDidIGet3700Subs]

Single for over 5 years is another sign of a selfish person.

[@ten-ub4xd]

what about those people who direct every subject on themself, you're watching a movie and they start saying 'this is me... This is me... OMG this is sooo me'' every two minutes', or your talking about something then they bring it back to themself every damn time.... tiringgggg

[@different3187]

Thanks 💯

[@greebs1957]

I’m trying to find out if I’m selfish. I always feel like I’m only doing stuff for myself and i feel like shit because of it. I know I don’t like to do anything because I’m depressed but I should probably try harder I’m just so confused

[@DanNorton1]

What do you think you should be doing that you aren't?

[@greebs1957]

@@DanNorton1 my family is always asking me to do stuff with them and I usually say no or say yes but then pull out last minute. Also I feel like I don’t help out enough with other people because I’m not that busy and everyone else is so I feel like I should help them more. Idk it’s kinda stupid but I just think that I don’t do much all day because I don’t have the energy to do anything but also that’s a stupid excuse cause I should just get up and stop caring only about how I feel. Sorry that’s really long

[@DanNorton1]

@@greebs1957 What about trading value for value: If someone does something for you, then you do something for them? And if they haven't done anything for you, then you don't owe them anything?

[@greebs1957]

@@DanNorton1 ye but they’re my family so I have to help them especially cause they’re really busy and I’m not so I can help them out and maybe later down the line if I’m really busy they’ll help me. That did really make me think tho about how much I do for them and how they don’t even acknowledge most of it and the things they do for me also benefit them usually more than they benefit me

[@DanNorton1]

@@greebs1957 Glad to hear it got you thinking. That's what I try to do with my KZbin channel. I don't see that one needs to help someone just because someone is a family member, especially if one is already lopsidedly helping them and they don't appropriately acknowledge it.

[@TrulyMademoizelle]

This is my sister. I'm aware that she's currently using me and my friend to babysit my nephew while she's in school. Once she graduates and starts her new career she's going to drop us like a bad habit. But I'm in it for my nephew.

[@jacques-pierreoosthuizen9292]

My sister is suicidal because of a selfish boyfriend.He works her up and drags her down.

[@number1fishinasundress]

I came to this video to make sure I wasn’t a self absorbed person. because lately I’ve been very confident in the way I look, but I realized this stuff doesn’t have to do with appearance. and the more I listened, the more I realized, these traits sound WAY to familiar to my toxic best friend.

[@human_appeal_org7028]

Honestly I will tell you The people you hang out with can really change you so be careful And do adopt negative attributes

[@sjinzaar]

I'm here as I was told I am selfish since I want all my friend's free time to be spent on me. So, I believe that is selfish behaviour, but I never thought of myself as being selfish but perhaps I am. So, I 'm writing this before watching the video. Afterwards I will continue this comment.... On with the video... Mmmm... after the video I must admit that I have some of these traits: I do expect to be the number 1 in the room, I do manipulate and judge others even though I think I'm right, I don't take criticism well, and pubic humiliation is a no-go. I don't criticise people behind their backs but I do think that, and don't dare to criticise me - no no. I do show weakness and vulnerability but only to elicit an emotional response from someone to support me. I don't know if I put my own goals before others, because I don't really have goals, although getting emotional support from someone might be a goal. I do sometimes listen to people who don't agree with me - that is why I am listening to this video since I was told I'm selfish. So, even though I am wonderful and great, how do I change?

[@darrylwallace5007]

So very true👍

[@dark7angel456]

Everything i do in life is twisted Into something they can tAke from me and i walk away feeling INVISIBLE. i dont often get to FEEL GOOD AROUND MOST PEOPLE BECAUSE OF THEIR SELFISH SICK WAYS... I walk in painfully dread around most people hoping ill finally find selfless people

[@sandblackbondchickcruz462]

I remember my husband ordered himself a rib dinner and hid it from the kids and me! The kids were very small!! He ordered movies and waited until the kids and I left the house so he could watch the movies by himself. He loves to cater to his friends not his residents! Never bought the kids school clothes nor shoes but would spend money at the bar and on his bum friends! Facts!!

[@askingwhyisfree7436]

It's hard to communicate with people who are not willing to listen. They practically assume all they say is the truth. It's all them. -.- Care to listen to other's thoughts? nope. they'd shut you down once you say your opinion. I'm like....bro.

[@DanNorton1]

Is it selfless to listen to others?

[@LisaS1]

This friend of mine I suggested on their visit here if I could show them this attraction but we'd need a car and there's 4 of them so she says "Only 1 car".

[@jamiewilliams829]

Me and my girlfriend have a friend who is very self absorbed and acts the victim when she can't get her own way,she always try to be bossy but we don't put up with it.

[@dark7angel456]

Seems like i had the misfortune of coming across the most SELFISH people... Im 33 years old and NEVER WAS GIVEN A GIFT FROM ANYONE except maybe family members and 1 or 2 people. I have grown up in adulthood around nobody and if it was. Sadly it was around sick selfosh people that do not GIVE anything but take and shun me. I never really had what i wanted. Even in friendship. Ive not had much selfless people in my life yet😪😪😪 But the exact opposite, meaning painful headaches and depression to suicidal tendancies, anger and hatred filled birthdays.. When will this all end?😪😪

[@nitishdhingra5489]

I hate myself and want to improve, I have few traits related to weakness , getting best , winning!!

[@poyakhajei2585]

it might sound weird but if anyone can please help me out... is buying gifts for your close friend considered selfish? I'm in shock! she is a close friend of mine… me and my mom bought many gifts for her birthday… a few days later while we were talking she told me that she considered my act as deeply selfish and for my own benefit… while all i and my mom wanted to do was to cheer her up and make her happier what are your thoughts about my and her action?

[@povabearisinyourhouse5264]

This sounds exactly like my brother (Except my brother is not so good at manipulation)

[@johnnygreenshirt6215]

Dunno how this popped up but title says Selfish People - 14 Warning Signs of Self Absorbed People and asking for thanks and support. WOW What a girl.

[@thabangmakgatouncensored2023]

Sounds like my ex colleague who really went out of her way to make my boss believe that I was a bully meanwhile she was the one bullying me 😂 God is good

[@Jstarryofficial]

There was this one kid who could never take a hint like bro i hinted at him telling him he needed to go to the gym with me and he thought i was calling him fat 💀

[@laxmikant977]

Yes rightly say nice video

[@afrohawk7960]

I have a selfish person in my relationship that’s why I don’t want her she think other people is more important than me but it’s all good that’s why I’m single right now

[@truthsavant6005]

That's not the definition of selfishness. It does sound more like narcissistic personality.

[@dt6052]

my best friend was like this, god i must say that friendship was a torture.

[@sweethearthoney]

I have a friend me and him play with eachother until he show me his bsf he and her play with eachother longer than me and...one day he told me can he play with his bsf bc they play with eachother longer then I said " yes ofc ! " and he spend less time with me I was depress so I unfriend him bc we never play with eachother like we used to me but then come back and panic ask me a lot why I unfriend him I didn't tell the reason I make up an excuse : " I can't control my emotions " then he ask nothing more but he start to chatt with me more while playing with his bsf and sth I can't stand they play together and I feel like a third person Everytime I look at his face I feel a thousand of pain come and squish my chest so hard I cry out loud I push him away so many but he always come back and I have to watch them play as getting used to be the third person until my birthday he promise will play with me but he end up play with her until his bsf offline so he play with me I feel happy but the the second day he become sad bc his bsf unfriend him I was mad so I go confront her and tell her why did you unfriend him she answer " idk " I ask more Does he make u uncomfortable? Ect.... But every single answer from her I feel so cold like a bucket full of cold water poring on me so then I realize what she wanted I start to ignore him...until he forget about me Was I selfish? For steal someone else bsf ?