Senior Abuse By Family

[@Profhedy]

I watched my brother take over my mother’s house then her money, then her freedom, I Called elder abuse and they did nothing so I took a video of my mother’s deplorable living conditions. My brother locked up her windows and doors and wouldn’t let anyone get close to her. I broke in and brought her to my home but she lived only three more days. 😢Senior abuse is real and we must protect our elders from greedy family members! Good luck sir.

[@Luke2128]

Amen!!

[@stephaniemccord6100]

My brother did the same with my mother and moved around so much I could never find her. He moved her to Florida, a state she disliked and I lived I Wyoming and couldn't afford to travel to hunt her down myself. I found out she passed away from an insurance letter I received in the mail. I haven't spoken to him since he cut her off from me. Hope karma gets him.

[@annalewis3356]

Am so sorry.

[@annalewis3356]

@@stephaniemccord6100 God will rain wrath on him he's a god of justice God gives us a choice and your brother made a poor choice. Am sorry for your loss.

[@stephaniemccord6100]

@@annalewis3356 thank you.

[@notoes5443]

Was abused by my half sister. I'm 59, disabled (disability caused by half sister). She insisted I buy all food for myself, her, her boyfriend, and her son. Demanded I babysit her son, even though my disability prevents me from doing that safely. Our common parent (biological mother) sides with her. I paid for things I shouldn't have been forced to pay for, leaving me unable to afford medicine. Family members are more likely to abuse you than strangers.

[@zoebear1992]

Are you still being abused!? Is there someplace safe that you can go to if you are being abused, anywhere you can turn to like disability help or something like that or call the police on them or get rid of them?

[@notoes5443]

@zoebear1992 no longer abused. 20 years ago my current caregiver moved me 300 miles from the abusers. My POAs are my cousins.

[@zoebear1992]

@@notoes5443 oh thank goodness! You just never know what's going on with the commenters these days I just pray that you're okay now and that anybody reading this is okay too Peace and love to you from Michigan

[@pachecodecastro2593]

GATHER EVIDENCE!!!! I don’t live in the US so the system is probably different but I hope I can contribute. Where I live there is a branch of the Public Attorney’s Office specifically addressed to vulnerable communities (particularly children and elderly), I believe it would somewhat correspond to your Adult or Senior Services. Anyone in that group having evidence, or fear, of mistreatment (physical, moral, financial or otherwise) can seek help from them. Red-tape can be brutal so sometimes getting a lawyer may be wise. Tape your conversations, copy paper work and share everything with someone you trust. Keep all receipts and messages, it will make a world of difference. Sometimes it may even be a good idea to call the Police because there will be records. If at all possible, close your bank account that is shared with the abuser and open another one (sometimes it can be done with the same bank, but a different account and access clearances). Keep your friends close. Good luck. And search your mind and records: have you ever given the abuser a power of attorney? If so, have it rescinded through a public notary.

[@pachecodecastro2593]

Gather evidence and look for a lawyer who deals with abuse to the elderly.

[@BREASHONTELL]

I’ll keep you in my prayers because elder abuse is real. I just reported my own aunt for abusing my 90-year-old grandma, who she’s been living with for years-though it’s my grandma’s house. My aunt had been slipping psych meds into my grandma’s food, trying to make her seem crazy, but it was just the side effects from being overmedicated with medicine my grandma didn’t even need. During these episodes, my aunt would call the police, claiming my grandma was violent, and my poor 90-year-old grandma would be taken away in handcuffs. Imagine that-such a small, elderly woman being thrown into a mental institution when she’s completely sane. Even the psychiatrist said she’s of sound mind. To make it worse, my aunt once drove my grandma to an abandoned, rat-infested house and made her spend the night there just so she could go back to their house to go through my grandma’s personal documents and steal her identity. I hope she goes to jail for a long time. And get this-she has the nerve to be a social worker.

[@Brenda-t5r]

Senior abuse is a real thing, and it's a disgrace. Makes me so angry too.

[@jenniferwells9032]

Ditto 😡

[@Luke2128]

Me too!

[@shahgulrana9529]

Please use this plant form to talk about this issue it’s more deeper then what few of the people coming in front telling their stories take care

[@CHT420]

Family CAN be worse than strangers💔🙏🏼for you Michael

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@CHT420 Thank You. I have had lots of comments and suggestions to start a platform where people can help people with advice 👍

[@joline2730]

​@@michaelfrost2867 Great Idea.

[@bonitaclaireloveday-wp9rq]

I totally agree Family can be parasites. Especially around money & power.. Stay wise. ☮️Out

[@old-soul]

Truth 💯

[@LindaMerchant-bq2hp]

I know family is mote abusive than strangers. My mother was abused by 2 of my alcoholic brothers theyde take all if her ssi money and then say if she didn't give them her payments theyde have her put in a funny farm and I tried to intervene they said they would have me committed I told them they wouldn't do such to me or my mom that a couple of court protective orders serve them with I went made sure my mom wouldn't have to live with this elder abuse ant longer

[@jripser]

I wont have anything to do with my adult son or daughter. They both withheld my grandchildren from me to try and control me. I cut all ties and have a living will to protect me from them in the event i cant make my own decisions.

[@juliethompson8685]

I am so sorry. 😢

[@BarbaraLogsdon-h4z]

Sounds like my adult kids who turned out to be like their narcissistic father. I disowned them when they lost their use for my parents when they became unable to take care of themselves or when they passed. I washed my hands from them. They’ll get nothing from me as an inheritance. I moved on with my life and enjoy the peace and solitude away from them.

[@emiilyjaane7]

Wow, I am so sorry! I don't understand your situation but I can emphasize with you. That is very sad. Some things have to happen for a reason, and sometimes just because they are you blood doesn't make them family. Family does not do this to one another. I know when your grandchildren are old enough, they will know you wanted to be there but were denied. God bless you 🙏🏻

[@rhondawiggins5728]

Punishment in your state, or the elder abuse hotline

[@tonyasnyder7025]

Me too. Cant see 2 of my grandchildren. Control control

[@aboutdawntoday]

I have no contact with my 3 grown children and once I got over the shock and hurt and sleepless nights I have come to accept it. The upside of when the worst thing happens is that it sets you free from fear.

[@e.1766]

I just recently realized my own adult kid has been playing me for a few yrs. I was devastated over it initially. Now that I've had time to think, it's best I don't have a dishonest person in my home. I'm trying to move forward & leave behind everyone who's already left me behind. Mom's are always damned if we do, damned if we don't, & there are plenty of little ladies in my family to Will the family jewelry I have; my own kid doesn't have to get anything.

[@dianagarrison3138]

How long were your relationships in trouble before they refused contact? What’s their beef?

[@unprecedented9997]

I could never imagine doing anything to hurt my mother in any way. Greed has taken over the country.

[@DLC-sy7pp]

The world. Or the western world.

[@nt3352]

Abuse is an universal problem - just that some cultures are better at keeping family shame and guilt under wraps...

[@dianagarrison3138]

No, I think what’s happening is that abuse victims are no longer so isolated and can talk to and support one another. We are in the midst of a true revolution.

[@christyv4125]

I'm so sorry. God bless and keep you, Sir.

[@suzystone244]

Hi Michael. I literally stumbled HERE. Good to meet you. I'm a 63 year old gal renting a room. Since January 2024. Landlord is 85 and pulling narcissist behavior towards me. Thought he was getting a " ready made gf ".... are you kidding?!!!. Anyhoos. Your story hit home on elder abuse. Even mid age abuse like myself. Luckily, my daughter is AWESOME. SHEknowd what Im going through. She gets it. I'm strong. Resilient. Fierce with my safely and solo nature. Have to be. Survived a violent crime in 2023 from my now ex husband. We older people need to speak up more. I am. No shame any longer ❤

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@suzystone244 Thank You for sharing your story. Anyone who has financially taken advantage of me. I’m sending a 1099 in January. Let the IRS collect their tax money. I’m now working with the VA homeless program and a local Real Estate Broker to find a safe bedroom to Rent. We’re checking to see what the emergency benefits are available to veterans. Thanks and Good Luck

[@SOCIAL_MEDIA_CREEPS]

Blood is not always thicker than water. My son broke off contact with his siblings and me when he met a militant vegan 🙄 We lived in a shared apartment and it kept getting worse day by day. I then moved out with my youngest and now I can enjoy a German bratwurst in peace. I definitely don't want my children to look after me as I get older. I will look for a nice retirement shared apartment with like-minded people and assisted living. I wish you all the very best 🙏

[@lovepaws5512]

Good luck, assisted living is extremely expensive in my city. Look at smaller cities, it might be cheaper. Best of luck.

[@SOCIAL_MEDIA_CREEPS]

@@lovepaws5512 Thank you 🙏 In Germany, there are assisted senior living communities on farms. They enable people to spend their retirement in family-like structures with typical everyday life in the country. If necessary, a nursing service will provide care. People help to look after the animals, but also with harvesting and cooking. Everyone does what he or she can and likes.

[@RKBaxter]

I am going through some thing like that with my oldest son. I'm a 75 year old combat vet, have been in therapy for 17 years for PTSD. It started at the National Center for Post tramadic stress in Medlo Park in California and when I started remembering the things I surpassed I began to brake my teeth out in my dreams at night. So they kept giving more and more meds until I lost my short and long term memory. After a 2 year stay I was moved into VA housing and this is when my son moved in to help me. The rest sounds alot like what happened to your money. I have sense re-gained my memory and I decided to write a book about what gave me that condition. Service to Country in Special Activities Division in Vietnam. Go Army!

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@RKBaxter Thank You for Your Service to Our Country and Welcome Back Home Veteran. Nobody has been Welcomed since WW2 👍

[@emiilyjaane7]

Thank You For Your Service. My great grandpa is a Vet, He served for 24yrs as U.S AirForce and was in the Korean War 🇱🇷 I hope you are doing well. God bless you. 🙏🏻

[@RKBaxter]

@@emiilyjaane7 Thank you for the kind words

[@kalayne6713]

Sorry this happened to you. Me, too. I spent half my tiny inheritance on my family only to be made the scapegoat and used and abused. Last week they apologised to me, gave me money towards our utility debt, and have been supportive as I underwent surgery yesterday. But I cant help but be wary. I live in hope I can find a way out but my daughter has cancer. I would feel worse abandoning her. Talk about feel trapped. Good luck with your life. Blessings from 🇦🇺

[@KT-sv6jx]

And THIS.... THIS Is Why I Live With My 86 Year Young Grandma So That She Can Live In Her Own House, She Still Drives (We Take Turns), She Cooks (We Take Turns), We Go To Church Together, Her Children & Grandchildren Don't Have The Patience Or Respect For Her Even Though If They Need Food, Money Or A Place To Spend The Night She Opens Her Heart And Door For Them EVERY Single Time. I Want Her To Have Her Privacy, Independence, Peace, Etc..... I Had Planned To Marry And Have Children However My Family Can Not Get Along So Here I Am Peacemaker.....I Can Get Married At Another Time......

[@carolrose3367]

GOD BLESS YOU.

[@DChristina]

Can you still get married and still care for her- guessing this can be done as I’ve friends who’ve done this.

[@KT-sv6jx]

@@DChristina No, Not I This Situation. My Grandma Who's 86 Years Young Is 1 Of 12 Children She's #3 & The First Girl. My Grandpa (Who Was 1 Of 18 Children) Were Married For 60 Years, They Were Each Other's First Loves 💕. Within Their Marriage They Welcomed 6 Children. My Grandma Has NEVER Been By Herself, She Needs A Lot Of Attention, I Would Not Be Able To Give My Marriage The Time & Attention It Needs, And If I Had Children That Will Add More Stress, Time & Attention Wise. I Live On My Grandma's Schedule. The More People You Have In Your Life, The More Time & Attention You Have To Give Them. Many People Don't Understand This, That's Why They're So Many Dogs & Cats In The Shelter Because Humans Don't Understand Commitment. Once Something Becomes Difficult They Abandon 'It'. Marriage Can Wait, I'm On God's Time, Not My Time. Patience Is A Virtue. One Day You Might Need Someone To Give You Time, Attention & Help. Unfortunately Our Society Doesn't Like Slowing Down For Seniors

[@KT-sv6jx]

@@carolrose3367 Thank You And God Bless You CarolRose 🙏❤️🙏

[@DChristina]

Please, I didn’t mean to offend you. I’m going from my own experience- my mom is also 86 and just loves her grandchildren around her. A family around your grandma could be very healthy and enriching for her- even if she hadn’t been used to it previously. But everyone is different. We caring people have all made sacrifices in our lives, no doubt about this. Guess I was maybe trying to inspire a potentially healthy and positive avenue, better than living in fear of what could happen if anything changes. And I hope you don’t have to wait too many years to start a family of your own. My experience is if you do what is truly best for you, it usually has a positive effect on the loved ones in your life, even if it seems unfamiliar, uncomfortable & difficult for them at first. And when love is the motivator- how can it be anything but helpful for all involved? Always good to or as y to God for guidance. God bless you and your grandma🙏🏼❤️

[@steveberkson3873]

As a caregiver for my mother eight years I can vouch for either elder abuse or neglect ..I too had a narcissistic brother who only worried about the money ..

[@lisabarrett219]

I had 2 brothers that just wanted money while I scrimped and used my money to keep my Mom in her home.

[@AWidowWeeps]

Thank you for speaking out. We are a silent minority that apparently no one wants to hear about, so we need to help each other.

[@mickeyandres2651]

I protect and watch over my mom with everything I’ve got like she did for me….. It’s just her and I now, she insists on her independence and still lives on her own where she likes to be surrounded by her friends and services she loves and I see to her every need and want….. We’re doing great and very happy in our situation, whatever she wants is provided no problem and we all enjoy our lives. I knew when to step up not step on her, this is very important respect to have when caring for a parent, these aren’t stupid individuals they’re just aging and how blessed are we to get to enjoy that with them is my approach. She’s 79 and I’m looking forward to 80 coming up haha. Love you Mom! 🇨🇦💕

[@carolrose3367]

SHE AND I

[@mickeyandres2651]

@@carolrose3367 , Quit screaming at people and acting the fool on this thread……

[@shahgulrana9529]

Many don’t keep this in mind

[@letgo8118]

My 60 year old aunt was abused in a hospital. If she was an animal they would have been charged. We had to hire a lawyer for them to let her come home. When she tried to leave 4 security guards held her down and they tied her to the bed for 7 days she ⁸home but what they did to her she has nightmares and when she. We have to sit with her all day all night. Yes she was at Saint Barnabas hospital in Livingston New Jersey. It's all recorded. And now she can't hear anything out of her right ear.

[@DLC-sy7pp]

So sad reading the comments. 😢 I live with my elderly mother and half brother. I'm 50 and disabled and my brother is 31 and healthy able bodied but he won't help around the house and lets my mother do everything for him. Her health isn't the best and she really needs help now. I try to do what I can, i cook for myself, buy my own food, clean up behind myself and pay her rent for living there. He earns good money and hardly gives anything imo. I could move to NZ from the UK and live a better life if i was selfish, but it's my duty to see my mum out and try to repay her for raising me. I have the feeling that my brother thinks I'll do everything for him when my mother passes. He's sorely mistaken. This house will be sold immediately and we will part ways.

[@kevinsmith4862]

I read a book by an FBI profiler from years back. In the book, he touched on elder abuse, stating that as bad as the serial murders were that he would be writing about, it does not compare to elder abuse across our country. Elderly people are abused by every facet of society. They suffer more abuse and neglect than children do. The elderly suffer harm from society in genera plus from their own family. Where a child is abused by one member of the family most often, elderly people can experience abuse from many family members. When a child is harmed, the public takes notice. When elderly people are hurt, society shows little to no concern. What was most shocking was that the elderly were raped by family members, including the men. It controls them into giving up claims to their money and property. Sometimes, a beating and the threat of rape is enough. Sons or grandsons raping one of the parents or grandparents was jaw-dropping to me. The shame of the abuse, coupled with their vulnerable state of dependence, keeps them silent.

[@emiilyjaane7]

I am so sorry you are going through this. That is exactly what i am worried about when my grandma starts to get older she is 67 (Disabled,Cronic Pain) and one tough cookie, but she allows my uncle who is 45 to live with her, and i have brought it to her attention many times that he is taking advantage of her in many ways, She knows as well and i dont know why she is allowing it. He always disrespects her. She always asks him not to bring strangers into her house but he does not listen. Her children (my mom & uncle) don't know it yet, but she has talked to me about sogning them out of her will, because she knows they wont appreciate her home, or her belongings. Im glad you put your foot down and are not allowing yourself to be mistreated or taken advantage of anymore. Stay blessed 🙏🏻

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@emiilyjaane7 Wow. Thank You for sharing The response has been incredible. I’m not alone . I’m going to be working with others to help others. Homeless Veterans. We have so many retired professionals who can certainly give advice to Us Good Luck

[@AutumnGold0706]

My mother worshipped my brother and she was terribly abused by him at the end of her life. I lived far away and she did not love me but I wish I had known what was going on He stole everything she had. You need to move on and get away before the son controls you with the law backing him.❤

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@AutumnGold0706 We have to start a grassroots movement. So far people are sharing worse stories than myself. Oh My Goodness. I’m going to be working with the VA to create a Home Share. A bedroom people can rent and feel safe.

[@cliff30daycollin87]

I feel for you sir. We have POS's in my family as well. We did not raise them this way. It steams from the spouse. What a corrupted POS we have in the family. Our money and assets will be donated to our local favorite restaurant when we die. We didn't raise our kids to be "waiters", ("waiting" on us to die).

[@elaine1423]

@@cliff30daycollin87 I am so sorry❤️

[@juliaarellano9524]

I no longer talked to my family my older sister verbally abuse 90 year Korean Veteran Father, when he told me it broken his heart, he didnt survive. He die of a broken heart.. Please, Sir...stand up for ur self. I wish my Dad would of been stronger and told me sooner. Please make this stand as there are other Sr. Out there. God Bless you

[@Susyt40]

My brother took advantage of our mother and completely neglected her when he was supposed to be her caregiver. He sure took care of her money and you had better believe I had the bank give me the statements for the last 5 years of her accounts. Then I saw her condition and took pictures. Then I took all this to a detective. My bother went to jail. He deserved way more than 4 months but he also had to pay back some of the money. Meanwhile, I’m selling everything valuable I own to get her the care she needed all along. Her last two years of life she spent laughing and eating and enjoying. I will never forgive him. I NEVER imagined a son would do his mother this way. I was wrong.

[@IndigoNoetic]

Sending you love and support. You are strong for standing up for yourself and wise for speaking about it.

[@sherryweeks5956]

Call Adult Protective Services....They are quick, and are followed by a police officer. You don't have to go to court nor any of the processes. They do it all on your behalf.‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@fredflintstone2234]

They do nothing. As long as the elder has a roof over his head and food, they don’t do anything.

[@marieharris6269]

They will intervene, you can also tell your medical provider they're obligated to report. Often times they will set you with a social worker to help connect you to community resources.

[@mariannewarner9252]

You can choose your friends but not your family and l don't believe blood is thicker than water in a lot of situations

[@joline2730]

Marian: Yes, someone told me this when I was just 19, and it made me look at my family closely and decide if I liked them as people, not family. I found I did not like my mother . . . And I left home soon after.

[@mariannewarner9252]

@joline2730 My mother and I never got on and as l was an only child it made me sad sometimes. We didn't speak to each other for 10 years it was when she went in hospital it was discovered she had Dementia. I went to see her and she was glad to see me as if the last 10 years never happened and so we had a good relationship until she died 4 years later

[@joline2730]

@@mariannewarner9252 similar to me ... we didn't speak for 5 years, then she had a stroke ... went to the hospital but she was out of it and died a few days later.

[@danyelleedwards4570]

Well actually, the whole saying is The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb, meaning the people you CHOOSE to associate with may be closer to you than people who are merely your bio family.

[@mariannewarner9252]

@@danyelleedwards4570 Thank you for that

[@mariofrappier2328]

I will say as a son of a parent that needed protection from predatory behaviour, never believe or trust anyone no matter what. Greed is prevails as primary motive.

[@thebobloblawshow8832]

I truly hope things get better for you Sir. Don’t put up with that crap. Get a lawyer.

[@JeanMccreesh]

I work with seniors, many with dementia. The stories I hear, what I've seen. Even my own mentally ill sister is lost to me by selfish family. People can be so greedy, and uncaring. When I see family do their best, even if it's not perfect, that gives me hope. If you or someone you know is being abused contact your Senior Advocate, or disability resource agency. Let professionals guide you to the right help, and get support. Don't be afraid, be strong and wise. You are not alone. There are caring people out there. Bless you. 🇨🇦💜

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@JeanMccreesh Thank You . I’m learning that I’m not alone. I have an Attorney now. Senior Services was a start, but they are limited

[@g.w.hampton5525]

I only have one living relative... my adult daughter and I live in fear of her being in charge of me when I'm elderly. I was my younger sister's caregiver through some ghastly thick and thin and was both of my parents loving caregivers through thick and thin and I know it takes a certain ability to be "that" person but I also know my daughter isn't that person. Short tempered, a bit mocking of thoughts that aren't her own... not looking forward to it.

[@Nancy-xb6wh]

Talk to an elder law attorney for advice on your other options. It sounds like your daughter would not be a good choice as your caregiver.

[@22GmaRocky]

Yes, get it set up in advance.

[@olly8]

And look up Adult Protective Services number- in case you need to call them.😢

[@LarryFain-y9w]

Move to Thailand or Philippines In your old age .. pray about it

[@fionaroberts1585]

g.w. hamton, you can get a Power of Attorney done through a solicitor. The attorney does not have to be a family member, just someone you trust. Should you become incapable the attorney takes charge of your affairs, both financial and health and welfare. Good luck xx

[@williamgeardener2509]

One lesson to be learned. Only rely on yourself and never trust anyone else, not even your own children. Oh, and make sure all your money is wasted on good whiskey and bad women so' they have to pay for your funeral.

[@ms.krueger2660]

It’s disgusting for a grown adult child not to take care of the people that raised them. The people that brought them into the world. I took care of my Mom. I owed it to her. She took care of me when I was a kid. We think -they had to. No they did not. They did not have to be there for you. They did not have to love you. They did not have to feed you. They could have given you away. It was my pleasure, my duty to take care of my Mom. My Dad died 25 years earlier. 😢 I loved my mother and father. They were wonderful parents. 💜 It’s been three years since Mom passed. I miss her more each day!!❤️🙏. She was very smart. I asked her all the time for help and advice. I miss that so much!! She helped me raise my 3 sons. I’m sorry if I am saying too much here. I really miss her!!💜 I believe I have raised 3 great sons and don’t have to worry about this. ❤️

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@ms.krueger2660 Thank You for Sharing. I agree. We’re only one disaster away from being homeless. Earthquake, fire or just the result of others

[@shahgulrana9529]

If the grown up kids do land a hand in taking care of older parents, as with now days fast moving life they do what ever they is half heartedly one have to except he realties of life and be strong and brave with moving on

[@jeanberes4147]

I’m so sorry for what you are going through. My brother abused my parents for years. Every time I tried to intervene, I then became the enemy. My dad was on to my brothers tricks…my mom would have turned over every penny they had to my brother if given the chance. My brother deliberately caused my parents to fight with each other. After mom passed, my brother turned up the heat, to get power of attorney and try to keep me and my dad’s sister away from dad. Just a few months before he passed my brother brought a lawyer to dad’s house and changed his will, and finally got POA. My brother then changed all dad’s bank accounts to be joint accounts with his name as sole beneficiary, and I wasn’t even mentioned in the will. During the period of time dad was without mom, my brother used threats to get him to turn more and more money to him. My regrets are not about money, but that I was unable to stop the psychological abuse. My dad would say to me (never to others) that his son is a crook. It was so very very sad.

[@gigiw.7650]

My son allows his wife and her mother to abuse me. Her mother has hit me for no reason and they steal from me regularly. I called APC, a Social Worker showed up to our house and my DIL became very frightened, telling me that she didn't want any problems. I'm getting my place soon but I have to cancel my medical insurance to be able to afford it. The Word says that the members of your own household will be your worst enemies and this is true for me. I'm going to disinherit my son, and give the $ to my friends who have always been there for me. 😢

[@user-gd4ri4pt8j]

So sorry to hear this man's story. The kids of today are so unappreciative. They forget that as we raised them we gave our love and money to do so. I believe that when you get old it should be role reversal for when the kids should take care of their parent. That's what I did and when they passed I missed them but never regretted taking care of them.

[@lourdesecheverria6209]

A dear friend is experiencing the same and worst. May God help you and protect you always! Never let "blood" be an excuse to accept abuse, manipulation or emotional blackmail. ❤❤

[@lqsi12]

predators seem to come in all forms, whether its money, envy or control, they all feel its their right.

[@magnificentmuttley2084]

I feel for you Michael. After my mother was fooled and robbed by some phone scammers, I was pleased my nephew decided to help and protect her. After a while it became evident he had robbed her of her life savings, tens of thousands, everything she had worked her whole life for. He is no longer a member of our family. Financial abuse of seniors is so often perpetrated by family members, as shocking as that may sound. He can rot in hell.

[@donnyetta]

Very sorry to hear what your son is putting you through, Sir ❤

[@elaine1423]

Very very sad....poor guy

[@aguilona]

I am 67 and cut with my siblings, nieces and nephews years ago and happy alone😊

[@devinramos6317]

This is why I don’t want any children and I’m glad I don’t have any❤❤❤ childless, cat lady❤❤❤

[@isolda980]

I have helped so-called family, giving a room in my house. 🤔Those situations soon went left. Sorry you are going thru crap, Michael!

[@charmainekirk1512]

It happens, and more frequently and more cruelly than you can imagine. Ensure that you protect yourself! It happens to elderly people, to dying people and people who are no longer able to speak for themselves as well as unfortunately, from our children.

[@janiceritchot9505]

Sorry to hear this ! Hope things pick up for you soon ! 👍🙏✝

[@seawallbird5724]

I'm very sorry that you are having to put up with this terrible treatment... sadly it is very prevalent nowadays and usually it starts with disrespect and impatience and just carries on from there... I can see it in my own family... Have faith and belief in what you are doing... and know that you have support from many, many good people sending you best wishes... Hoping for a positive outcome... 👍🏽👏😊❤

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@seawallbird5724 Thank You Very Much. My Sons company Yield App is in bankruptcy. I feel horrible for the people who trusted Him. I’ve lost money. My Brother Eric is going to handle my finances. Starting a nonprofit. I’m excited. Red Rock turtle rescue program and myself might sponsor me until I get my 501(c) started Albertsons and Costco will donate the produce and meat scraps for the turtles and Big Cat and Birds. I met the officer who runs the drone program and I’m sure he will recommend and train to drop whatever with drones 👍🥇💰🙏

[@marianfrances4959]

What I thought of as "family" has been tossed in the garbage by my only child. So now I'm 70 and have me, myself, and I to look out for my best interest.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@marianfrances4959 We’re all just one disaster away from being homeless. Wait until our elected officials are in the same position. Families can’t be trusted

[@misswinter3361]

I'm so sorry that you're being treated this way. I value & respect my elderly mother above all others. You deserve the same!

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@misswinter3361 Thank You. It seems I’m not alone

[@misswinter3361]

@@michaelfrost2867 Please keep posting so you can update us.

[@vitisbp1131]

Great video, Michael. I'm in my own house.... for now. But I was in hospitals and nursing homes for a year and a half. I wanted to go home to my house, but the "social worker" and the "case worker" dragged their feet while pretending to do their jobs. My problem was that I'd been hit by a car and became paralyzed from the chest down. I've now lived at my home for ten years since fighting my way out of the nursing home. The idea of EVER going back is horrifying and nauseating.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@vitisbp1131 Thank You for Sharing. Wow I could just imagine how many hopeless Nights and Days You Spent. We only live once. Glad You are Happy Now. Sorry to hear about your Accident 🙏

[@vitisbp1131]

@@michaelfrost2867 Thank you for your sweet reply. I even have a two year paralegal degree, yet the buracracy (sp?) of the doctors and nursing homes, I believe, have lawyers completely intimidated.

[@janholman6192]

Started out my son usually got 20% of my Social Security check every month (is all the income I have). Now it's about half. All I do is stay home or go to the grocery store with him once or twice a month. I never go anywhere fun, can't afford to. Wondering when it is going to end. 🙄

[@old-soul]

❤

[@ms.krueger2660]

I know someone that took her Moms money and spent it. Then she put her Mom In a home and let her son move into her Moms house. She didn’t go visit her Mom either. She was an only child so she got everything!! She could not wait for Mom to kick the bucket. Upset me so much. They raised their daughter in church and gave her everything. This is how she repayed her Mom.😢 Disgraceful and disgusting!! 😢 I can’t believe all these horrible stories I have read in the comments. We owe our parents our lives. They should be well taken care of when they get old. I am happy to say I took care of mine. 💜. I loved them so much. I miss them. ❤️

[@mikejohn0088]

You reap what you sow is the absolute truth.

[@kvdme]

My family in a nut shell. Dad is 94. Just forced into a home. He layed 20 minutes in my sister's garage unconscious and she never called 911. They just want his money. I took care of them for 2 1/2 years till i moved 6 hours away. They forced him into a home. 7 other siblings. Refuse to take care of him.

[@williamhiller3988]

The older I get, the worse I'm treated.

[@M.J.-Boops]

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I know a few people who are also going through something similar. I want to help but the ombudsman and APS didn't do anything.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@M.J.-Boops Our system is broken. We’re only one natural disaster of being a homeless. Scary

[@M.J.-Boops]

@@michaelfrost2867 yep. You're right.

[@sophiaduarte745]

I pray everything works out for You.❤ People don't appreciate Their Families.

[@d.a2500]

As you get older the memories of what you were taught become very clear in your mind,I lost both parents quite young and everyday I hope they are proud of how I have lived my life because of what they taught me.

[@marydellgeorge2425]

Honey Im so very sorry I can tell by Your voice You are a Tremendous person This here is so unfair

[@tlcross9620]

My sister and brother-in-law sold our mother's house and promised to take care of her until she died. They moved her clear to BF Wyoming and everything was fine until everything was paid for Bye Mom as soon as the money stopped the brother-in-law started abusing my mom mentally add vocally. He screamed at her to the point she stayed in her room. Don't give up seniors. Start writing down abuses times and dates and what they have done to you. Right now we're headed to court and Senior Services will be involved... he could go to jail for this.

[@paddy9449]

My so "called" brother and sister did me like that also a few years ago..... I don't talk 2 either one of them....KARMA has everyone's address.....Just sit back and wait...... HA! HA!

[@minglim-pollard1167]

Hello there, So unnerving to hear of your plight, as an aside this is why compulsory DNA testing is such vital component for all concerned within families, one never quite knows whom precisely one is dealing with in these types of horror situations and most particularly when it comes to control of resources and when money is involved and the evils of maltreatment from those and should dare one to consider let alone utter, the possibility of rank genetic non familial outsiders who present, though not in every situation a strong tendency to run to type. In the final analysis it is only mummy can really attest against versus daddys very best guess, it's all in timing therfore, let the genetic science present the results and put paid to all the swirling genetic and financial legacy allusions , Stay strong, KPPnz

[@Anna-ww4pv]

And this is why you should be careful in who you select as a beneficiary and keep your records up to date.

[@barbarakirby3907]

I watched a woman try to take over my 77 yr old brother. She was married with2 children. My brother was very ill, and she tried to get his money. Had a lawyer at the ready… he passed away days before that appointment.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@barbarakirby3907 So Sorry to hear This News. It’s all about money and greed. Send him a 1099 in January. The IRS will collect their taxes and might lead to more investigations 👍. My personal advice

[@sbsman4998]

National disgrace, worked in hospitals/skilled nursing facilities watching daily families throwing their elderly under the bus, often times parents begging their children "don't send me there!" then arguing about who does what, always picking the poor scapegoat while doing zilch zero for their once loving mother/father who sacrificed their entire life for them, now discarded like everyday trash, disgrace shameful, what's worse my family is same way but I would rather die alone on my house floor than have them stand at my bedside, what's more my estate already willed in total to St Jude's Children Hospital ~~ Coming from Italian heritage I accepted sacrificing 15 years of my life to my dying parents and would do it again, but these later generations, well what can be said!! ~~

[@kelleyturner6584]

My husband, who has bipolar 1 disorder, at 67 years-old was physically assaulted by his 70 year old brother over a compressor and the same brother spit in my face and their mother physically assaulted me, then 64 and recovering from being very ill. Law enforcement refused to charge either with a crime.

[@denisethomas913]

I am so sorry this is happening to you. Please see if you can get an attorney that can help you get your money back from your son's. Shame on your sons. Say your other sons name who took advantage of you so the whole world would know who and what they are. THIEVES and THEIR NOT TO BE TRUSTED if they can do this to their own father imagine what they will do to strangers😢 May God Bless you and guide you in what you should do 🙏

[@maryparsons-ri4of]

Keep up the good work and truth. One day I will tell you what my children did to me!!!

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@maryparsons-ri4of Anytime you want to talk about it. I just rented a bedroom from a Divorce Lady that is kind enough to rent me a room. She has Awesome Rot Dog 🐕. She’s also a Real Estate Broker who might just be interested in helping People out with finding a bedroom to rent or whatever is happening in their local market. I think I’m done with housing. Just going to concentrate on my medical. Good Luck to You 👍

[@suziwilson8889]

That’s terrible I’m so sorry that happened to you, my youngest son and his narcissistic wife don’t speak to me because I got legal advice and sued them to get my money back, so my advice is don’t give them a cent and get legal advice 😊

[@maryparsons-ri4of]

I know exactly what family abuse is, I told them all to stay away from me!!!

[@TerriFrank-b2m]

So sorry you are going thru this, hopefully there's some legal help.out there. Praying for you.

[@LaurieClausen]

I am so sorry. I believe you sir. truly. Sharing your story is courageous. thank you

[@DanaMay-r6q]

Dana abuse by entire manipulative family. Except oldest son.

[@kathymcneil2389]

God Bless You. I will pray for you 🙏

[@ubeuonly]

Prayer does nothing. So ...just do nothing

[@shahgulrana9529]

Please be strong you not alone it’s pandemic now days spreading like wild fire lots and lots of older people like yourself and myself are caught up in it feeling the hurt and pain beside getting old, not much one can do some time few kind words give hope and strength so be strong for your self lots of luck kind regards

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@shahgulrana9529 Thank You. Nice to see I’m not alone. I’ve chatted with some Very Strong People. It could happen so fast without warning being homeless. There isn’t any honest help 🤔👍

[@shahgulrana9529]

@@michaelfrost2867 like I said stay strong, this happening to lots of old people from their own kids who they bought to this world spend all their life and anergy to give them the best start in their life, now the parents who did they become ghost like for those grown up kids very sad fact of life extremely painful with old age strength is the only thing keeps one going, I no words are easy said but believe me being strong helps stay safe and well lots of luck

[@wwk68tig]

Sorry for your experience..........the money issue (who gets what, when, etc) CAN be a blessing, but I think that's a rarity. Good luck.

[@catherinecastle8576]

May God bless the truth seekers and the truth speakers. Seniors For Seniors. Good way to start to resist the evil so prevalent in the modern West these days.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@catherinecastle8576 Thank You. I’m going to work helping homeless Veterans in the las Vegas area. Maybe a grassroots project to help seniors connect with professionals retired

[@mtwhatley3253]

I’m sorry this happened to you sir….you remind me of my late father. I wish I could spend one more day with him. ❤

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@mtwhatley3253 Thank You for your comment. I’m finding out that there are many more people like myself who have been treating poorly by family and trusted loved ones. It’s a sad world we live in

[@mtwhatley3253]

@@michaelfrost2867 my father was psychologically abused by his mother his entire life. It affected him greatly. He was a good father and did the best he could. My prayers are with you sir.

[@nikki-mg6nj]

🙏 many prayers to you I’m so sorry your going through this 😔take care and stay safe ❤️

[@ms.krueger2660]

I am so sorry !! Bless you and I pray things change!! 💜🙏

[@lisamalcolm6916]

God bless, keep your head high God will see you through this , talk with God He will make your path straight. Unfortunately people don’t always know what they are doing .

[@observer4497]

Absolutely. Take care of Yourself..FEMall….✌️

[@christinecronk9234]

My sister is doing this to me as well

[@annemarie19553]

What's going on??? Can you call upon anyone??? Elder Abuse Authorities??? 😮

[@christinecronk9234]

@annemarie19553 there doing all this behind closed doors and told me if I ever take them to court they will bankrupt me.

[@philchurch1115]

Very sorry your son is being a jerk. Hope it get better.

[@sonjabryant2567]

I know full well I have a son that mentally and emotionally abuse me and I had to cut ties with him iam too old for that it’s a shame when you raise them and do without for them and they grow up to turn on you but KARMA will return on them believe me.

[@debbiedowdy3612]

I’m going threw this I been dealing with this my youngest daughter grandson grandkids they have netting to do with me my oldest daughter I see one year I’m at a point I’m 64 get a lawyer and let him put a protection order again if he got money or property go after them sorry for all you going threw

[@Mike-p9n]

You have my full on support im 62

[@e.1766]

I wish I could help you, & all of us who've bee victimized by so called family. I had to watch, as a minor, my uncles & parents take away whatever they could from the grandparents under the guise of 'helping'. I, myself am disabled, & my parents & brother make it their Mission that no family member help me Directly, they can help me thru Them. So if I've received any help, They used it, & matter of fact, I wouldn't even know how much money my families gotten saying it's for me. Idk how to stop this, but I'm trying to think of some kind of advocacy program for All seniors & disabled adults, that we can utilize for Free to protect us from family financial & physical abuse. Thanks for reporting bud; let's all do that in some form or another💚

[@melissalavrisa4055]

I feel do bad for you. Prayers and love to you.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@melissalavrisa4055 It will get better

[@BarbaraAtkins-wy8vu]

Ask the Lord to help you forgive him and move on friend. Doesn’t mean you have to have him in your life but turn him over to God. Easier said than done I know but possible with Gods help and when you finally turn him over 100%- you will have so much peace. Remember the parable of the man who owed a debt and went before the judge and was in danger of prison but the judge forgave his debt. This man left and ran into another fellow who owed him a fraction of what he was just forgiven of and he laid hold of the man and demanded payment- when the judge heard he decided to throw him in prison after all and to be turned over to the tormentors. This is a picture of us being forgiven for ALL our sins and then we won’t forgive what someone did to us. And we live without peace until we turn them over to God and leave them there.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@BarbaraAtkins-wy8vu Thank You for Your Comment

[@CarolWilliams-m8k]

This is awful as a senior care aide I see this enough sickning

[@marilynbrown5274]

A good idea to try..is finding home care for a senior..is to ask around your CHURCH ..and ask you Pastor to ask the Congregation to scout out some reputable people willing to do home care . Get references as well. It is one MAJOR way to PROTECT a senior..or disabled person.

[@chrisjohnston3405]

I’m a little confused on your details but highly sympathetic. Had a horrific family I’m still recovering from. There is a definite need to vent, collaborate and expose abuse of all forms, the government is not going to help us, the American medical system has no interest in helping either and is in collapse!

[@conniewhite8362]

So sorry prayers someone will help you

[@eileenkung5839]

My sister abuse me.too.

[@Darkrosejill]

Unbelievable is it not 😢 the hurt and pain causes deep trauma ..hate to state but glad i am not alone ...gbu

[@kathyirk4797]

My 2 sisters have taken guardianship of my mom in the last year. They found out my mom wanted to leave her will to my brother and they have taken control of her money, her house and she has started having mental issues which I believe is do to the stress. Mom doesn't want the state involved and they have told her that's what will happen if they step down. My sister is planning on moving my mom out of her home into one of her rentals and letting her son stay in my mother's home and then she says she will sell it. Plz. if anyone has any help, they can suggest.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@kathyirk4797 Sorry to hear. I think someone out there has some suggestions. I’m sending everyone that took advantage of me financially a 1099 to the IRS. Let them pay taxes plus. Good Luck 👍

[@MzTeriberry]

It happens so much I had my daughter arrested for throwing me down...she learned her lesson... daughter's and sons like to come when there mom/ dad is in there death bed I seen it in my family what a shame the sisters tried doing that to my mom's house but I took over legally and got everything left back a lot was already gone b4 my mom even passed away

[@KarenRichter-n7f]

There are Attorneys that handle Elder Abuse. It can physical, mental or financial. For documentation and protection I woukd get an Attorney. Good luck.

[@d.a2500]

My EX husband had a stroke more than 10 yrs ago now and the loving wife took his name off the house and stole all his super then put him in an aged care home.He was too young for that, but my son and I had no control over what she did.I rang the Govt dept in Australia where we lived, and in typical Aussie fashion the lazy public servant said we are not interested in the past Power of attorney holder only the current.By this time she had handed my son the POA and disappeared, so I said to the lazy Public servant the past POA was a thief the present is a Policeman and hung up.We moved him to a care facility close to us I visited him everyday for roughly 6 yrs, we hired outside carers who too spent a couple of hours with him everyday so his days were quite full and we lost him 2 yrs ago now.Our son recovered his money and it has been put away for his grand daughters.Money is evil, parents and loved ones you can’t replace.

[@carolinehannah5188]

If you study most cases, there is always that one person, manipulator, if you will, is the reason for a lot of these issues. If only people were strong and not be influenced by them.

[@mariaybarra1054]

Family can be so bad and or so good. I hope things turn out well for you.

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@mariaybarra1054 Thank You. I’m finding there are worse off people than Me. So when I’m fine, I will be helping others

[@ktor1208]

I have been in elderly care for 18 years I do advocacy, well checks, end of life and all general care if anybody needs my help please let me know

[@michaelfrost2867]

@@ktor1208 Thank You for Doing This 👍

[@ktor1208]

@@michaelfrost2867 you're welcome I love what I do