Session 8 | Beverly | In Therapy with Alex Howard

This week, we’re catching up with Beverly. Beverly’s sessions here on In Therapy are coming to a close and in between sessions she expressed disappointment and frustration at this. Together, we explore how therapeutic work never truly ends and ultimately how self-development is a life-long process.
Alex Howard is a London-based Therapeutic Coach dedicated to helping break the stigma around mental health and helping people make real, positive changes in their lives. Alex is also the creator of Therapeutic Coaching and founder of The Optimum Health Clinic and Conscious Life.
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[@lindalock5065]

Thanks, Bev. We are all very much a work in process. Life is not static. I have learned so much from your sessions. I will be forever grateful to you and Alex. 💜

[@sandjblake75]

Beverly....you are a wonderful person. You really are. Thank you and thank you Alex.

[@HM-iu2pw]

The comments here are a testimony to how powerful these sessions have been. Great work both of you!

[@janegee5562]

You have been very helpful bev.Your honesty and willingness to be vulnerable has been lovely to watch.

[@jamestrickett1]

OK this is amazing, the insights from you both are spot on, it's all so very helpful. incl summarising the never ending journey, authentic vs ideal, inner critics, loving kindness, meeting needs, boundaries, handling emotions. And moving forward crucially wi more self belief, recognising all those cheering you on vs inner voice doubt. Omg my own current journey is so similar. I cannot thank you both enough for this one. Bless you Beverly, you are so remarkable, beautiful and fucking awesome. Another one for your Bottle xx

[@Rufus835]

Beverly - you are such a beautiful articulate person Your honesty about your feelings is so refreshing...when you talked about your ongoing journey and struggle with sadness it brought tears to my eyes. You have such courage and resilience xx

[@danyah8431]

Beverly, thank you. You are such an inspiration. Watching your journey unfold has been so healing for me. Thank you for being brave and baring your soul, so that we too can learn by following your therapeutic process. Inner work is rarely, if ever, linear. Be kind to yourself, and know that you have helped more people than you could probably ever imagine. As for Alex, wow! What an incredible coach and counsellor to have your back. Sending you love from Australia 🙏🏼🌷

[@sheilanightingale4641]

Thank you so much Alex and Beverly. I was touched by these sessions and am very glad there will be some follow up and support. How on earth could you be so brave to be filmed and face deep feelings on camera?! You're a star!

[@rala8051]

Thank you, Beverly, for sharing your process. I am amazed how self aware, honest and precise you are. Just by sharing your struggles, you helped me and others a lot, independent of your (also amazing and inspiring) progress. I could relate to so many of your struggles, eventhough we are in different life situations, and it helped me to understand that I am not alone in them and that there is always a path to growth and change.

[@philippawalker6200]

I watch all the In therapy sessions, but I have particularly enjoyed following Beverly's story. I will miss following her story, but I also found it interesting to watch a recap of her sessions, and how to structure an ending (I recognise that I can have a challenge with endings). I enjoyed watching her developing her insights and her emotional maturity, and the understanding of how her relationship with her mother has impacted her life. Thanks. 😊

[@hannekedenhartog9195]

I feel so related to you on this journey. I will miss these sessions with you. Thank you Bev for being here. We can do hard things😊. Love from me from the netherlands.

[@karenjanewilliams4722]

Watching your series has helped me Beverly - Thanks so much for your honesty, bravery and your sharing.

[@victorlujan6186]

I have really enjoyed watching Beverly. I have found her story very helpful. Good luck on the rest of your journey!

[@jamestrickett1]

Just at the start of this video. Already love her self awareness and honesty. Fab work Beverly

[@rkh7904]

Beverly, I have learnt more tools by listening to your sessions with Alex. You have reached out and touched other people with your story. Our life journey many indigenous cultures say is a circle and not a linear one. You have more knowledge now to move forward and able to find more joy. All the best.♥

[@EconMBAStudent]

Bev, I hope you read these comments at some time… you have with Alex made a real contribution to those of us who have had a similar journey your vulnerability, intelligence and courage to want a better existence is admirable. I believe you are on your way there. Wishing you all the best!

[@Contessa998]

Beverly I’m just like you. Not married, no kids. Worked my whole life, still am. I feel lost too. I just started therapy and I’m on a new medication. I hope it helps. Wishing you love ❤️ and happiness.

[@gilashroot8697]

You are very brave. I wish you all the love and happiness in the world. I am proud of your progress. Well done. Now go enjoy your life and thank you for sharing your journey with me. I have learnt a lot from you. You are very inspirational. I hope you learn to love and value yourself more as time goes on and that you give yourself many compliments along the way.

[@frentbow]

Beverly, I'm so excited for your journey going forward with the hard work you and Alex have been doing. On a personal note I climbed Ingleborough 4 years ago, now I'm on a recovery journey with CFS. My goal is to go climb it again. When I do, your journey will come to mind and give me the confidence to keep going. Many many thanks to you being brave enough to share and to Alex and team for the excellent work. Wishing you all the best.

[@jillychandler]

What a lovely looking lady Beverly is, and I LOVE her long hair. She looks very elegant. She has lovely expressive hands. I am in therapy now, and felt like Beverly in saying "what am I getting from this"? The therapist does not seem to be helping me at all, and I am paying for this?! But I then realized how it had made me think about things more, about my reaction to things, and how I either change them, or live with them, but stop complaining about them! I hate any confrontation, and have always run away from it, instead of standing up for myself. I worry about the consequences if I do, but then I am the one who suffers when I do not! I have been living in fear of horrible things happening for so many years now - I am 66 years young and want to enjoy my life, not just struggle through each day. xxx

[@abimbolaabiodun9505]

Bev you have done very well and we are all work in progress. As you Rightly said you have many skills and knowledge of yourself that you don’t have before.

[@marytrichilo7475]

Beverly's journey resonated with me so much. I enjoyed seeing the growth of her understanding of her own gifts and the beginnings of letting go of limiting beliefs. Thank you Alex for the privilege of watching your skilled work with Beverly.

[@ruch5tami]

In watching Beverly in the first couple sessions and watching her now, there’s such a huge difference. She seems much calmer and less anxious and stressed. Good luck Beverly.

[@rutheshowalter8504]

Dear Beverly, I'm so glad this is not the complete end of hearing of your story. I'm glad you get some more sessions and that we will eventually hear from you again. I have identified with your work so much, especially feeling somewhat abandoned at the end. It's hard to wrap up when you are still working through things. Best to you!

[@gabrielakarl3859]

"when you write a book, you write the end of a story" so beautifully said....

[@gabrielakarl3859]

I love his assessment of therapy results in Beverly...and how authentic he is

[@bonnie_nelms]

What I’d like to hear about is KATIE…as in, what happened to her? She was filmed for 13 sessions and no termination process..and she was in a very unstable place at the end with talk of suicide ideation. Really left viewers hanging, and I shudder to think about her. This was handled very badly IMO and I sure hope she is okay.

[@sj4370]

Thank you very much for sharing your journey Bev. Following your journey is helping me so much in my journey.

[@hdesc4691]

Thank you Beverly and Alex - this was terrific

[@angelalyle882]

Good luck Beverly. Really enjoyed watching your journey. You’ve got this. You are stronger than you ever thought. ❤

[@UNBOREDdesign]

I followed the sessions and I kind of worked together with you. My story is different from Bev's, but I could relate to hers in many ways. It was so helpful. I even had a very strange somatic experience after watching session 5. I felt an irresistible urge to move my body to shake out something from it. It felt as if I had some huge greasy mass at the level of my hips. Anyway, the whole journey was a very strong experience. Very, very helpful. Thank you both! 💜

[@coralmccrystal4606]

I think Beverly's great and will certainly make friends if she gives herself a chance. Everyone is a person in their own right, not just half of a couple or a grandparent. No one could have pleased her mother She did well surviving at all! Alex talking to Beverly about what you focus on reminded me of a Big Issue seller asking my friend and me with a smile "Going to work? Going home? " I thought of the hassles at work and the worries around mortgage rates but realised that from his perspective I was living the dream.

[@susanstephenson5874]

Thank you Beverly for sharing your story and for being so brave I wish you all the best for the future. Thank you Alex great work again I am getting so much from these conversations. Susan (Dublin)

[@einsteindarwin8756]

I wish Bev had a KZbin channel to document her journey so we could continue the journey with her.

[@margpeach3228]

It has been very interesting to see your last interview. You have great courage and more ability thatn you believe. Yes we all stop doing some things we feel we cannot do until we bite the bullet and just try. I have done this over and over. Keep trying ... you are amazing Love Marg❤

[@marionmcnee8759]

Beverly, you are such a lovely person. Why don't you start your on vlog on KZbin as you are such an interesting person, and natural star. All the best for your future.

[@wilnaschnetler6516]

Bev, you are enough. I want to ask you what are you giving back to life. You have so much insight of life, live it and give it and just be in it. Enjoy life.

[@jillychandler]

Beverly looks just like my Auntie Beryl Blunt, who died a long time ago now, and also like her daughter Denise, who was my cousin of course. Maybe we are connected by family in some way - that would be really amazing?! xxx

[@rutheshowalter8504]

Dear Alex, your skill and perspectives are so helpful and I benefit from hearing you saying similar things to different clients. I have a question about attachment. Would you call it attachment when your client isn't quite ready to move on from sessions with you? I think attachment between therapist and client is probably essential for healing and progress to take place. But then is it a problem if the client is attached and not ready to move on? I'm not saying Beverly was overly attached. I've had an experience where I got really important help form a therapist. Part of it was healing of a child part of me that had been in the hospital at 11 months of age for 12 days (spinal meningitis, normal procedure for 1960's). When my therapist wasn't available I felt panic and abandonment like I must have felt at 11 months old. I have learned ways to comfort my child self but I still feel a great deal of attachment for that therapist and wish I knew how to detach. I'm not sure if Alex will be reading this. I am interested in other people's perspectives on attachment in therapy.

[@kiarntz]

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[@obiblooze5902]

Seems to me she's saying the same things she was saying in no. 1. He's telling her what she's feeling which once she leaves the session is not true. Does therapy ever work?!

[@streaming5332]

She's annoyed because he's leaving her in the lurch. She should be furious.

[@sandimoo]

I’m sure he will keep her on as a private client…..he can’t carry on forever for free! She let slip a couple of sessions ago that she wasn’t paying. I think 8 sessions is pretty fair I have to say

[@streaming5332]

@@sandimoo I should think so as she's exposing her life to all and sundry, and being a guinea pig on his videos which in themselves are making money.

[@lenoredavi6137]

@@sandimoo He says in the video that they will be continuing sessions, but they won't be recorded for the show anymore.

[@pigsinpyjamas9410]

I feel like Kate has been let down by society and her community

[@sarahholland2600]

She's "still going to to get support, just not filmed" . Hmm. I feel like he's tiptoeing around why. Is she not interesting enough for him any more? No wonder she feels hurt. I'd feel very used: for the purpose of the channel.

[@lenoredavi6137]

Perhaps the scriptwriters needed to show what happens sometimes when people finish their sessions without a sense of inner completion..... perhaps they felt she was going to cope the best out of all the people on the show?