Setting Boundaries & Choosing You

I took my first solo trip to Egypt right after my 2nd album. When I returned, I could finally see clearly what I needed for myself. I started setting clear boundaries and making changes for the better. My people pleasing nature struggles to this day on what those boundaries are or where I can make better decisions for myself ✨Do you go through this? Share with me some of the ways you choose yourself or how you want to get better at it.
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[@Kaindi_S]

Saying ''No" makes you a stronger and more purposeful person...

[@marissaguerra9897]

Awesome

[@stacyberry6921]

Thank you❤️

[@sugar-spice38]

I'm learning no

[@Daya1828]

Very intentional. Very true

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

Saying no means...my happiness is what's most important to me.

[@MarthaMartinez-hm1vp]

I wasn’t taught boundaries by my parents. I was such a people pleaser and always found it so hard to say No. (Even when I wanted to scream NO) I’ve learned the HARD way and don’t wish that upon anyone. Heal, Love yourself and Always Choose You.

[@pumakel1]

Martha Sarahi me too

[@msbrt8638]

Same

[@belarlishimw4911]

Martha Sarahi I felt the same ways but couldn't put it in words .i felt ridiculous .thank you I know now that I'm not alone

[@neeveokoth2588]

I can relate

[@gabriellameattray9778]

While we're all in quarantine, I've been passing the days by with sadness and confusion for 2 months straight. Anxiety and stress. I don't know how to cope. Even when online school started and I went on Microsoft Teams to learn how to use our new learning platform, I couldn't wrap my head around what was happening. It hasn't been easy to do the schoolwork at all. I'm in the 8th grade, and already got into the highschool I want. I've had a 4.0 all year until school was cancelled, and in my city, they have to give everyone a passing grade of at least a C. I feel incredibly guilty for not doing a lot of the work, because all of my life I prioritized schoolwork above everything else. But now, I'm in a very blessed position where even if I don't do all of it, I'll still be ok. I decided I only care about doing work for certain classes. ELA, Geometry, and Health. I take French at school but I'm learning it much better at home so I'm not doing the French work. I feel so so bad, like I'm letting my teachers down, but I cannot deal with all the schoolwork. It's too much. I feel so lost. I need some outside eyes looking in on my situation to give me feedback. If you're reading this, do you think it's justified that I'm doing work for only 3 classes? (plus learning a language). Is it ok to take this time to figure myself out and keep myself relaxed? I'm just trying to choose myself for ONCE in my life, but I feel bad about it

[@marinecorpswarrior915]

A friend once gave me one of the most powerful lesson ever when she told me that its ok to say NO, and NO is a complete sentence, no explanation need, just put a period to it.

[@tiffanyott6525]

I love this! No is a complete sentence. Wow! Simple yet impactful!

[@Yin-ok6qp]

Wow. Simple yet powerful statement, i often worry and rush to give reason for saying NO.

[@daphneepaul3737]

I wish kandu buruss would learn from this. If she doesnt stop taking all these jobs and say her blood pressure can affect her kidneys, and she can lose her husband. sometimes oyu have to say no for your health. dialysis aint no joke.

[@payson578396983]

NO IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE

[@calmlyeverafter3248]

Boundaries. If you don't set them, people will cross them and you will, at some point, over-extend yourself. I've learned this the hard way but I've LEARNED

[@PriestessStellanie]

Tamika Thomas Yes exactly

[@MsLLewis77]

As I learned as well

[@byebye967]

Tamika Thomas period queen! Amen

[@Lily59265]

Tamika Thomas I agree We can have boundaries. I would like to add... The toughest lesson & thing that I learned is ensuring to consistently enforce them & remove ourselves from anyone who boundary bulldoze after you addressed the boundary a few times.

[@donnafagan2830]

ME TOO! Hard lesson learned!

[@KolussuslifeKB]

We have to learn to set boundaries to guard our hearts from people who like to take sweetness and kindness for weakness. If we dont then people will use, abuse us and take advantage and take us for granted. Nothing is wrong with not being a people pleaser or a yes man. Word up Alicia you've got the Keys. #kolussus

[@MartinWilliams247365]

Big Facts!! 💯💫💯

[@gueedsmaia4429]

Great comment. Being a good one does not mean to be a fool.

[@itstheWord]

Bless you.🙏🏽

[@melissajenkins1947]

Exactly!! You spoke MY truth...Sometimes you just have to say NO and leave it at that.

[@sinom5265]

👌

[@crystaltharrell]

As a FORMER pleaser, I needed to hear this. To know that saying “no” doesn’t make you a bad person

[@motivationmedium1051]

exactly

[@CrystalDatingCoach]

It makes you a respected person. Especially important in relationships. Don't do anything just to please your partner. Say no.

[@daphneepaul3737]

I wish kandu buruss would learn from this. If she doesnt stop taking all these jobs and say her blood pressure can affect her kidneys, and she can lose her husband. sometimes oyu have to say no for your health. dialysis aint no joke.

[@almamartinez1951]

I cannot be the only one that wants to sit down with Alicia Keys and just have a conversation with her about life and literally just anything.

[@thembekaleburu4724]

Alma Martinez I would looooooove to🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🌸🌸🌸🌸🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ClaireCelticMystic]

These Passages as Circles all over the world, yes!!!! I would love you and all these commenters to be heard in person, on camera, as well. Beautiful!

[@lavendaire]

love your soul & how still and wise you are 💕 a role model in so many ways!!

[@jokesonyou222]

I love your videossss💓

[@dlr7308]

Her voice is so soothing

[@rawstrawberry319]

Alicia > Siri

[@linda22p93]

bubbly it is isn’t it 😊

[@Lalinox]

Right I closed my eyes listening to it like an audio book or some asmr haha

[@Kimberly-zz4te]

Surely is, that was the first thing that caught my attention

[@angelmcmurray]

Yes ! If I don’t make the boundaries, I end up feeling resentful and used, tired , no creativity because I’m always doing for others. As an Aquarius woman, I need time alone to recharge for my own sanity. Thank you 🙏 for sharing

[@julym4468]

I’m also an Aquarius I completely understand you!! I don’t like using my sign to define myself but how come us Aquarian’s seems to always be givers? And people just take and take until we’re dry.

[@marrymagda8140]

OMG I can relate 😊

[@analir7075]

July Maldonado I am an Aquarius too. And I think it’s because of our humanitarian nature. 😊

[@Lily59265]

I feel you. I'm Aqua 🌙

[@nessness_x]

same with pisces :((( I was just about to look up her sign too. Aquarius has become one of my favorite signs lately.

[@jamie.daugherty]

"No" is choosing yourself.

[@BelieverFirstwithSharonJoy]

“This is what I need to be happy, healthy & to be myself.” I love that

[@desireesissako1201]

Me 2

[@mpho5664]

Felt this . As an “ex people pleaser” the most powerful word is “No” .

[@tianathompson2725]

Amen sister, the most powerful thing is to love yourself. 🙏🏼🙌🏼❤

[@kjmg245]

I'm sorry but I just love her... she's so inspiring and beautiful😍

[@Nothando1]

Same.

[@veelomeli]

Truth! 💯

[@flufftronable]

why are you sorry?

[@hellensonga8009]

you don't have to be sorry about this

[@blessedchildofgod9112]

Thanks I needed to hear I'm so broken hearted 💔😢 my aunt died from covid 19 I hope God heal all broken hearts

[@coconut3656]

So very sorry to hear about your Aunt. Peace and abundant blessings 🙏

[@blessedchildofgod9112]

Thanks g God bless you and keep your family safe

[@tjones2550]

Please accept my sincere condolences, for the loss of your beloved Aunt. Cry as long as you need to, talk about her and keep her memory alive and just know, that I will be praying for you and your family. Take care of yourself.

[@dupsymakydupsy2347]

@@tjones2550 So sorry.

[@pumakel1]

sha b praying for comfort

[@tyson227dr]

Whatever you send into people's lives comes out into yours. Whatever you want or dreaming of, wish it for someone else. Pay it forwards

[@catherinenorris.7762]

Setting boundaries is very important even the one you love. They will start to respect you more and not take you for granted.

[@ThatZeeZee]

My father just passed away from covid a week ago and it really put things into perspective as you are explainging it. I feel as though prior to his passing all of our lives were just gogogo and we never stopped to think about ourselves, him included. I wish I would have given him a break by maybe paying his rent one month so he could relax from work and have time to himself but I never got to do that. I need this time to breathe, to exhale, and to find the strength for ME now. RIP to the most beautiful soul I've ever met 🧡

[@ahmedabdulai9852]

I’m sorry for your loss. My love goes out to you.

[@deborahgreaves4456]

I pray Jehovah gives you comfort in your time of grieving, it's not easy but hold unto faith, and the good times you had with your dad, things will get better, one day. Stay safe and be bless. 🙏

[@ThatZeeZee]

@@deborahgreaves4456 Thank you very much 💜💜

[@LosAngelesLaura]

One day at a time ♥️♥️♥️♥️ A father is no easy loss but remember how fortunate you are to have met the love of your life.

[@jamie.daugherty]

sending you and your family many prayers & love

[@Enrico_Fusai_Counselor]

Wonderful! By the way, always remember that *NOT* every choice is a lifetime one, and that you can simply play by ear, using your soul's guidance system. Do what feels right *AT THAT TIME* , and if it won't give you a good result, you'll amend it. It's an evolution process, not a quest for perfection. . PS: if you're reading this, I hope you're having a good day 🙏🏼 . Thank you, Alicia ❤️

[@mercedesiryn2904]

Enrico Fusai - Counselor am so indecisive,spent the whole day today figuring out how to let go and make decisions.thnk u for this

[@sharongitau8727]

You’re awesome for this

[@PriestessStellanie]

Can’t let people drain you if you don’t feel elevated then you have to say no. If people don’t like it then it’s their issue oh well.🤷🏽‍♀️💜

[@marrymagda8140]

True in theory but not so easy to practice. (talking from experience)

[@Lily59265]

PrincessStellanie My motto their issue & none of my business. I also adopted the Budhha phrase b/c some may feel like the carry the worlds problems....Chill Homie, Let that sh*t go. Or another phrase you are giving too many f*cks.

[@IamCynDoll]

I needed this at this very second. Thank you.

[@gwendolynjackson827]

Being able to say No is a important part of self care, and being true to oneself.

[@som956]

“A better Alicia “ The tone when she said that .I felt it

[@therealtifflove]

Yess we have to show up for ourselves before anything. If I don’t show up for me first, I have nothing to offer anyone or what I do present to them will not be from my full potential but what I have left.

[@dys4727]

I wish she gets her own talk show I will definitely tune in everyday, We definitely need more positive show on the air Now in these times instead of negative tv shows being broadcast on the air! Thank Alicia love you God bless your family

[@foxybrown5715]

Here's some real tea for you. ("Hosea 4:6, Matthew 10:16, Genesis 1:29") Watch youtube videos: 1) "I went to three funeral homes in Manhattan" (by Lincoln Karim) . 2) "Coronavirus Origins, China’s “Bat Woman," and the CCP’s Coverup-Joshua Philipp" (by American Thought leaders - The Epoch Times Channel). See the latest vids from these channels: #AmazingPollyChannel #DrRashidButtar #NetMostWantedChannel #AndWeKnowChannel #TracyBeanzChannel #AliceDownTheRabbitHoleChannel #ReallyGracefulChannel #WokeSocietiesChannel #WhereWeGo1WeGoAll #thecfrcontrolsthemedia #TheGreatAwakening

[@traquilasmith2275]

Yes so true We need more positive tv shows i might start a show one day.☺

[@dys4727]

Traquila Smith Well keep me updated I will truly tune in my friend 🥰

[@dys4727]

foxy brown Wow thanks for the information !

[@jayve4361]

She's so collected, calm and balanced

[@Ashley-JustBe]

“Be a better Alicia” I love that. I’m striving to be a better Ashley everyday 💪🏾💪🏾

[@tianathompson2725]

Amen sister 🙏🏼🙌🏼❤

[@leesteal4458]

Good for you Ashley.

[@lisamei4thinkingbeauty]

I don't know if you'll ever read this, but I have been praying, meditating, and asking God to show me the role of an eagle. To show me examples of other eagles to model after. And He told me to study you in this season. (I thought He was just calling me back to good music lol). But now seeing this clip, I see exactly why. You have always been a woman who rises above and soars. So grateful to have you as an example in such a pivotal and significant season of my life! 🙏🏽 cannot wait to get this book!!! It's going to be so eye opening, I can already tell! 🙌🏽 thank you for just being you and always so willing to share with us 🙏🏽❤

[@iamdeborahltillman]

Yes, the disease to please is a stronghold. May we all have time of solitude and Selah. NO is a complete sentence and we can never pour from an empty cup. Thank you Alicia for your wisdom. Bless you and your family. Be strong and courageous as but in it all just BREATHE!!!!

[@stacysiteiya6300]

Finding the courage to say "this is what I need to be happy, and to be myself"

[@marrymagda8140]

Boundaries are good. They are needed They protect self from being used and abused but also from self from using and abusing others 😜including our own selves.

[@orangesodabliss]

very well said!!💜💜

[@theonethatgotaway6511]

I needed this so badly..I have such poor boundaries..I went to make a sandwhich and this was on when I came back..God is a miracle worker..even when it feels like everything is crashing down he calms the storm in me somehow

[@weareallone6148]

No is the Shortest and the most Powerful Word! The Power of Self Love!❤️💕❤️💕❤️💕❤️

[@veelomeli]

💯 Boundaries are huge and not put in place enough, collectively. I've actually started to get better with this. I have come a long way in my journey to being a better me. Thank you again for your light. 🙏💜✨

[@IreneWamae]

Wow, i felt a weight lifting off my chest hearing from you. I'm a fan. Nairobi Kenya is also a wonderful place to come.

[@sindyvictor4604]

Currently learning to set boundaries so I can be more for me than I am for anybody else. The root problem is healing the inner child and the best way to do this is to feed your dreams; break away from toxic relationships and feed your dreams.

[@JillOpal]

“This is what I need to be happy, healthy, & to be myself” I love that! lol ❤😂🙌🏾💯

[@dr.phillips2008]

As a giver, I really needed to hear this message! Saying no feels so strange to me but I have learned that ppl will take advantage of that loving part of you and leave you drained... saying no is freeing it gives me time to recharge and practice self love which was an element that was missing in my world... thx for the validation sis stay blessed...

[@shteevale395]

Alicia is one of very few artists that I genuinely have respect for. Not because I personally know her, not because I'm a huge fan, but because of how she has solidified her pure positive imagine in an industry that thrives off demeaning women; she never gave in. Even in her own personal relationship, where it could have gone all sorts of negative ways, she maintained herself in a beautiful positive way. I hope she knows how much she inspires women all over the world.💗

[@Light-oz5pv]

I’m not sure what algorithm KZbin smokes but this was all I needed in this very moment and the first video I saw when I opened my app. I’m not even subscribed to her channel! Alicia, I’m deeply grateful you shared this. Thank you!

[@lorisamolsky4037]

Boundaries should be something taught in grade school. We are not provided that guidance ( at least I wasn’t). Now in my late 50’s I am literally just learning. But thank you!!! Beautiful and grateful for these thoughts.

[@CarriedAwayChannel]

It’s so hard to say no sometimes. I still, even at 45, want to be the one that always says yes. But it’s too much and takes so much of my time. Same with delegation. Although I’ve been better through the years, I need to set those boundaries and say no more.💗

[@Slimm_Sheedah1]

Carried Away 45??? No way . Don’t look it from your thumbnail

[@karengervais7093]

I’ve been doing just that during this time at home! I’m breathing and thinking so much deeper now. I need to make changes in my life and it scares me but I’m keeping God at the forefront because He is bigger than my fear. Thank you Alicia for that reading. Every time I come across something that aligns with what I need to do it makes me stronger.

[@ncedambina542]

'I let go of the belief if I stepped away nothing will be there when I return' I felt that.

[@y.l.d.bergamin6748]

Thank you for your words Alicia. You are such an inspiration, especially to young women! I've also learned the hard way. Being a people pleaser, saying no is hard, but I'm getting better at it each day. For the first time in my life, I'm choosing me. And I like it. I'm discovering, setting and accepting my boundaries. I've become better at recognizing toxic people and removing them from my life. People don't always intentionally hurt you or treat you bad, but even so that doesn't mean you should accept their behavior. Let them know your boundaries, be strong and say no. Don't do things at your own expense. Be kind to yourself and do what keeps you happy and healthy. Sounds corny, but it's the truth.

[@s.baranizade7770]

She’s just the girl and she’s on fireee Love from Turkey

[@deborahgreaves4456]

Bu dogru 🙏

[@linda22p93]

😆😆😆 my favourite

[@stephaniecannon410]

My advice would be four words, "you just do it!" As for an example if a person is drowning in your hand reach would you ask yourself if you should reach out to help? Or would you without thought just do it. Well, imagine that person being yourself. No question about it, you would just do it. Why, because you want to live and not just exist. To live is being active, actively contributing to one's self; fulfillment, health and longevity and spiritual growth. And on the otherhand to just exist is to be inactive, unmeaningful fulfillment (a mundane form of life) and dull and leading to oppression and or depression, so forth. Every morning, that the FATHER allows you to see, choose to make room for you too, daily. You're worth it. And in that place you will finally 👂 and 👀 what you've been too busy to hear and see. My hope is that a whole new world will open up to you ❤that you didn't know was there, tranquility, harmony and inner peace. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN ALWAYS ❤

[@stephaniecannon410]

Don't loose yourself awhile fulfilling the demands of life and others.

[@LaurenSonia]

Amen Alicia Keys! God bless you we love you so much! All your fans love you! My first song I ever sang on stage was when I was 10 and it was Fallin.. you put a lot of soul into my heart with your words and music. I would not be as good of an artist..I am learning to finally say NO! It’s me time... and I can’t put aside time to waste rubbing shoulders with those who do not care is I live or die tomorrow! It’s totally the roots of the trees not the branches ..

[@marniepowell948]

My sister i am so proud of you!!! The gift we give ourselves is the most important gift of all. Thanl you for reminding me that NO. IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE. 🦋

[@kenanzaid3731]

This girl got a good heart ❤️.

[@newleft2254]

She's a woman, not a girl!

[@firstladyj173]

New Left Thank You I Thought The Same And I Was Going To Send The Same Msg Shame On Kenyan Zaid .Shes Also A Woman That Has A Husband And Child SO No Girl Here

[@jaclynh9343]

I frickin adore you; so humble, wise, soft-spoken and real (vulnerable)... that takes courage as well, the greatest form of strength. Thank you for sharing and being You!

[@OliveaVogue]

Thank you Alicia, I am from Africa living in Munich with my 9 year old. It’s so hard...without my family here. But I made this choice and your experience touched me. I am ready to make that commitment and set healthy boundaries so that I can live the best version of myself, to be a better mom and a better friend. Thank you. Words don’t teach, experience does. I shall breathe in my African roots to inspire me for the life we chose here.

[@sharongitau8727]

Crazy how the stars align...... I recently realized I needed to set stronger boundaries, I watched Alicia 2 days ago and she has been a fav forever. She’s a cancer too. And now she is being a huge impact at this exact point I my life, telling me exactly what I need to do. I see my self in her. Crazy how it all comes together..... im hopeful now I’ve been depressed... but that’s another convo

[@aaliy_h.0645]

Love her so much... she's an angel i wanna give her a hug :(

[@fabiolagraceffa9261]

This woman is so holy. Love this content.

[@Sharing_laughter_to_the_world]

Saying no makes me feel bad and saying yes leaves me feeling worse most times. its a process, i hope i get to that place where saying no feels good for myself. Thanks Alicia

[@RebeccaMooreFrey]

I so needed to hear your wisdom, the boundaries-setting, saying No and not always trying to please, and being true to yourself. You are awesome Sister & I love you. Shine On!!

[@Brainhoneywalker]

This was medicine. Just what I needed to hear, exactly when I needed to hear it. Thank you seems not quite enough.

[@motivationmedium1051]

Alicia girl, you are speaking directly to the deepest parts of my soul. So excited to purchase your book and share with my family and community. Thank you for using your platform to share this message. to everyone reading, you are allowed to say no. Sometimes saying no feels challenging and overwhelming though. Saying no and setting boundaries doesn’t make you a mean or selfish person. You can set boundaries and say no and be a positive, loving, spiritual, conscious, and kind person.

[@lovenotes5299]

I choose some years ago to choose to say no to pleasing other people and doing things I didn't want to do according to other peoples agenda. When I learned to say No! They pushed back and still try to use their manipulations and so I choose to separate myself from these people who don't respect my boundaries. I'm in a better place mentally, physically and spiritually. Gardening during this pandemic has taken on a more even paced spirituality. Growing fruit trees , medicinal plants ,and fresh vegatables. Experimenting with different new plants has made me more in tune with creation and myself.I don't seek anyone's approval or acceptance, learning how to give myself time to be creative ,to just be me and enjoy living my life.

[@elynmaria8890]

As a Rotenese girl... I always said yes to everyone because it means respect. I can't say no ...no matter how educate I am , even I make my own money... It is a big NO to say no ... I have no right on my own body ... I feel bad if I can't please people.. this is a wonderful massage for me... I Will learn how to set boundaries and stand up for my self... Even it means I gonna lose them.. but I found me... Love from Rote, Indonesia

[@dolphineakoth]

I chose myself and set boundaries in my relationship, when my ex faince couldnt respect them I left

[@reneemassey-2827]

Amen! I went through the same thing with my ex. I left and I'm happy as h###...

[@tranquilitywithinllc2916]

During this virus outbreak, i feel like we had the opportunity to have time to realize what's important in our lives. Im typing this from my new laptop as i begin to embark on loving myself and giving to myself. We need to sit down and collect ourselves and choose ourselves too. While it's a great thing to give to others, we have to give to ourselves also. In Jesus name. God bless you, Queen Alicia!!!

[@angelicaduarte2599]

Yes! A new laptop! Me too!

[@ariadnaponce1]

This is what I have been reflecting about, and making changes in my life for years, especially for the past year and a half. I don't believe in coincidences, I needed to be reminded of this message today. Thank you! 🙌🙏✨ I choose me! 💗🙌🙏✨

[@avaleneallen7250]

Thank God for that sister , give the great God all the Glory all the praises and all the favor, Amen 🙏🏾

[@stephengeorge4394]

Alicia you look so cozy in that turtle neck & cardigan. You're one bad sister! Peace & love. 😎✌️

[@oya_the_goddess8854]

Stephen George shes white not a sister tf

[@SR77736]

@@oya_the_goddess8854 shes half white and half black. Wth?

[@dignityproverbs8359]

@@oya_the_goddess8854 I believe she would be cool either all black or all white. Her soul is deep ❣️

[@itstheWord]

Excellent! CONFIRMATION! Thank you. Spoke mountains into where l am, where l am going and how much l realize, next to the Spirit of God that leads and resides within, l am first. I am somebody and l am of value. My heart is full of the love of the Lord Jesus. l am strong, kind and desire to "Grow On" in life and opportunities to help myself and OTHERS.🙏🏽🥰✌🏾🙏🏽 Thank you dear one, thank you.

[@mirandazwane2191]

Her energy is so pure🙆.

[@PrincessBanger]

I feel you tremendously. I sometimes think I’m being selfish by saying no or giving my time and energy to people but I am learning how important it is to take care of myself first. Yeah, thanks for your insight Ms. 🔑

[@tiffanywade9274]

I needed this word. I hear it. I know it. But sometimes you need a reminder in just the right wording. Hold the no...

[@kdozier2935]

You are so amazing, you remind me so much of my daughter. She too is an amazing person, also with a beautiful voice and amazing charater. Maybe one day you two shall meet! Until then, I love your journey. Much Love to you!

[@herbalshaka87]

"Energy to do the work you actually want to be doing. "🤞🏾

[@accessmylife]

Yes. We need to set boundaries otherwise people will not know what you stand for.

[@miss_kiara4950]

I LOVE HER :) Somehow she is always glowing and natural :) She inspires me to make more videos :)

[@morganmungen2766]

Love her complete energy as a whole being always ❤

[@antoinettejamison1987]

Once I start saying "no".... I'mma start hearing it...u get wat u give...saying no doesn't make u less human....it actually make u less super human...u lose ur power wen u lose ur soul...I would never trade a heart for breath...that's wat nature do!!!

[@Atlanta718]

Say no as a pleaser to say yes to purpose. 💯 Keep boundaries to show up for you. Be happy and healthy!😊

[@1137rmb]

Hey girl! Thank you so much for sharing passages from your book! What an amazing way to share a bit of yourself with all of us and simultaneously working to raise the collective vibration! Much respect!! ✊🏽 sending you love and light ❤️

[@giorgiodelamora3126]

Love your way of thinking, thanks for sharing with us in this difficult times.....

[@rhondabaroli2683]

Stay on this path . It's ok and necessary to set Boundaries and don't let people manipulate you or tell you your taking them for granted .don't take crap from anyone .I know what I deserve

[@sugameltpastriescoffee7186]

learning to set my boundaries was one of the best and most challenging things I ever had to do and it's paid off, living in a different world where there is a place for me. On the other hand I've been trying to show my wife how she can fully own herself and learning to draw lines of her own, it's been hard. Thank you Alicia

[@davidsearby6314]

Alicia, you’re amazing. Thank you for this!

[@nuriavic1]

I was in a "take moments for me" phase before covid situation. It is really hard for me, to do what I want to do with at my work, and still have time to do other things that I love. The last piece of the passage really touched me. :) Thanks for sharing, you inspire.

[@khadraahmed5]

That’s one thing I’m learning is to put my priorities first and setting boundaries, saying no is quite hard to having those feelings in feeling bad in the aftermath, but it’s worth being selfless and the time you could motivate yourself in doing better things and to also have a peace of mind is totally worth it especially if your a parent

[@lyndosha_E]

Doing your best to set and maintain boundaries has become so important as a grown woman. So many things come for us on a daily basis. Prioritizing our personal goals and interests is just as important as serving and being there for those we love. They co-exist. Thanks Alicia for the reminder.

[@maggiestack90]

I loved Alicia's book and took a lot from it, but after watching this video I had to express something that has been on my mind after reading lots of books about self love during quarantine. My comment is not directed towards Alicia or to say she is wrong, my intention (as a individual who grew up in poverty like Alicia) is to add on to her message. I think we need to keep in mind that a lot of people in this world do not have the privilege to say no, because for some to say no is to say no to a home for your children, to say no would be saying no to food for your family, to say no is to say no to healthcare for an illness. Its hard to accept in this "self-care" era that there are people that don't have the power to say no, but its real. Alicia is a major inspirational figure among black female talents who started from practically nothing, but the majority of black women do not even have the resources to freely pursue passions or contemplate boundaries. And who should we question for making it so? All I have to say is VOTE! Speak up, read, listen, donate. We all need inspiration like Alicia, but we all have the power to make life better for our neighbors.

[@iaprofessional7986]

Well said

[@danamuller5016]

Yes if I said no or would take a break every Hour I would get Fired

[@pockahantiss]

Hot damn, this is an emotional day. I was watchin' "The Real" talk show, & I got super emotional from watchin Jeannie Mai's proposal to Jeezy, now I'm watching this, & I'm tearing up all over again. I'm learning to take time for me unselfishly! Thanks Alicia!😊

[@itstheWord]

Excellent! You are SOMEBODY!

[@honeymelanated338]

NO . I NEEDED THIS SHORT VIDEO . I started the no process and leaning not to feel bad about it

[@AlexWilliams-qf3rp]

My how you have grown. I love what I'm hearing from you and your heart seems to be in the right place. I remember when you first started out, I heard the late great Issac Hayes talking about you when he was on kiss f.m, saying these words.."this young lady, is going to be a Superstar". He would be so very proud of the woman you turned out to be. Saying NO, is a BIG DEAL. Kudos Miss Keys. God's blessing on you.

[@Lemorgg]

Speaking directly to me. In. This. Moment 🙏🏽

[@Alexlittle9]

*"How do I want to keep showing up for myself?"* 🔥🔥💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯

[@roseannataitt9236]

Saying no makes you more purposeful..word..I'm also a people pleaser..thanks for that Alicia!

[@berniecafun9003]

Super LOVE to you, too. Alicia. Thanks so much for sharing . Just 4 days ago , I learnt that I have been a Gaslightee for 17 years. I have a long road ahead to create boundaries and recovering from a codependent relationship. I'm a long lasting fan. God bless you and your family.

[@zhibell1942]

Cannot wait for her presence here in Charlotte NC ❤️

[@michellelucero6654]

Wow! Powerful truth you're speaking love it, every bit of it is correct ❤️🥰😍😘 The feeling you get when you start loving yourself enough to use the word NO, is indescribable. And people around you start to get it and stop asking so much of you.. Its definitely a win/win😍😍😍

[@tyravanleer5593]

Yes, setting healthy boundaries with people is very important!

[@thetemplelaboratory]

You have to be vigilant! They'll say they respect your boundaries, but actions speak louder than words!

[@MariaFerrerCurves]

“The passages” videos are giving us LIFE Alicia! More please!!❤️🙏🏻🌈🦋💜💟

[@BLETransitYT]

Absolutely pretty and so influential 😍❤️💞

[@streamsofdreams6705]

Tysm Alicia I’ve always felt connected to you. As a people pleaser I’m finally realizing my value and the importance of setting boundaries. I’m Egyptian and your story was so beautiful. I’m inhaling that liberation with you 💖

[@lisamazurek429]

thank you for sharing your warmth, wisdom and vulnerability with perfectionism and being a pleaser and the struggle with shifting from a pleaser to healthy boundaries. I sooooo resonate with this. I'm in the middle of it. I'm grateful for finding pockets like this video (and your book) that keep the light on while I make my way. much love to all.