Seven Ways to Improve Your Empathy

[@spinnorsomething]

I used to be really empathetic, and recently I lost it. I started to hate myself for being so careless, because I was acting like my obnoxious friend Cyber. This video helped me gain my sense of feeling for others.. I missed my care for others when I was acting jerky.

[@doncrawley]

I think we ebb and flow. Sometimes, we're more caring and empathetic than at other times. The key is to be aware of when we start to get off track and then be intentional about making different behavior choices. Life is all about our relationships with others. I love what you said about missing your care of others. Thank you so much for your comment.

[@VidelaChkaduaIsBest]

I used to be narcissistic. I ruined many of my friendships. My self-worth revolves around validation... I know the red pill says women are like that but still... I am learning empathy and I am a little more empathetic. I want to be more loving to my friends , family and boyfriend. I also lacked self control with my sexual urges... I abused a narcissist who also abused me... I was very codependent...I got diagnosed with Schizophrenia do to disorganized thoughts however my doctor said I could be Bipolar 1... I know... I feel happier that people don't hate on mentally ill people on this side. I also loved attention way too much it made me cheat... I feel like shit... Unconditional love is important and does exist... my mother is the most empathetic person... my dad, not so much. But I still love him. His mother betrayed him... which to the point is almost abuse... my sister is autistic... but loves attention just like me... I love my sister despite me being the opposite of her. I even abused my sister. Have you ever been an ex-narcissist, bpd or hpd? A lot of people say avoid them like fire... it hurts.. oh well... my advice is always have conditional love and listen to what this guy says... lets end stigma... I feel sorry for BPD people but at least they are self aware and seeking help God bless you all... love from me...

[@VidelaChkaduaIsBest]

I nearly cried at this comment... thank you so much... I love this video... I wish all the help for people with Cluster B personality disorders... everyones so calm and understanding... You did sooo well... thank you so much

[@fantasyfanatic6278]

True

[@Hmanas14]

Ratatoing Greatest Movie Ever Finally a person that I relate to

[@mariusleroy8895]

Bianca I truly believe that with meditation, an empty mind a clear mind. You can Cure all the mental ilnesses

[@doncrawley]

Wow, thank you so much for opening up with us and laying your feelings out. That took a lot of courage. It sounds to me like you're working on getting better. Good for you! Thanks, again, for posting. (Sorry it took me so long to reply to your comment. I just now saw it.)

[@uatpalinichowdhary3265]

1. Listen 2. Use empathetic language 3. Don't be judgemental 4. Practice curiosity for others 5. Challenge your own prejudices 6. Look for commonalities 7. Avoide labels

[@StellaGoetia666]

Thank you so much, unbelievably kind. I will remember this.

[@mercolediadams3146]

Hi I am a 17 years girl, and I have a problem with empathy. When I was 15 I started becoming careless about life and everything, and if I say I mean everything; for example I had trhee dogs and I used to really love them with all my heart, if one of them had died I would have been really upset I would've cried for days weeks and even months, but as I said before at 15 I started to not care about anything (dogs included) , and when one of them died I was just a bit sad but nothing more. Also now I am watching a show called Skam and everyone on the internet are like I feel so sad for the protagonist , I cried all night for him.... while me I didn't even saddened from it. Also I don't have friends and I am always ( 90% of the time at home) and I just can't start caring about people again. It hasn't always been like this when I was little I was really sensitive, compassionate, I wanted to help everyone and I had hard times saiyng no. I know it so long but if there is someone who can help me? or giving me some advices I wold really apreciate it. ( I hope I explained myself correctely)

[@rajeshwarsharma1716]

Did something drastic happen to you when you were 15? Usually a traumatic event or series of events lead to profound changes in psychological make up. For some the trauma is drastic and obvious but for others traumas may be subtle and may become buried in the subconsciousness. There are many ways of dealing with past traumas. The aim is to remove the intense brain waves from the past traumas and render them harmless. Once this happens you will no longer be influenced negatively by them and your genuine spontaneous self will express itself. Please reflect on your experiences around age 14 to 15 or even younger and dig up your traumas. Seek expert help if you are not able to deal with your past traumas.

[@mercolediadams3146]

@@rajeshwarsharma1716 thank you for your comment ❤ I really appreciate it. Honestly I don' t really remember having a big trauma at the age of 14 15, problably when I was younger I had "little "traumas, like not being able to have friends and always felling excluded... and other things I was just tired of suffering and I started becaming like this because I didn't want to suffer anymore( I don't know if this could be described as a trauma but it made me suffer a lot with other things( that I am not gonna mention it would be too long and complicated to explain). But anyway I just hope this is not my real personality because you can change a lot during puberty.

[@rajeshwarsharma1716]

@@mercolediadams3146 thanks you for your response. I can understand that you cannot divulge private issues in this forum and aplaud your courage to speak out . Pain and painful emotions are stored in the memory and these can add up from past traumas. They cause havoc in present and future times. The good news is these pain and painful emotions can be got rid of by simple techniques. If you want details you can email me on [e-mail]. PS there won't be any charges for my confidential consult.

[@mercolediadams3146]

@@rajeshwarsharma1716 thank you very much for helping me I'll write you as soon as I can❤

[@mercolediadams3146]

@@doncrawley thank you very much for your comment, I will try to follow your advice❤

[@starrcrafttheartofhomemade3208]

Family is the success model. Inspiring to see those with vision!

[@jishaansirsangi5088]

well said!

[@bonniekamochi4791]

These words are relevant every day in everyone's personal and professional lives, especially when communicating on social media platforms. C'mon people! "Don't be judgmental. As one human to another, that's not really our job."

[@Degga911]

What a great video. I'm training to be an officer in the British Army and beleive it or not this is just what I was looking for. Many thanks

[@Leonustice22]

I do find myself less and less compassionate about other people. At first I think it has something to do with my IT field. Now I realize I need to change myself. Thanks very much!

[@SoleGirlsRun]

I love how you draw on other people's references! Thanks!

[@dontcare7477]

I’m glad I saw this video. I was told I’m a narcissist and now I am trying everything I can to fix myself and to become a better person. I hate having pushed away so many people and that I ruined my marriage because of it. I enjoyed the video

[@doncrawley]

Hmmm, a narcissist wouldn't be doing self-reflection and working on self-improvement. Unless a mental health professional told you that, I recommend you take that diagnosis skeptically! Certainly, you may have some characteristics of narcissism (many of us do), but I doubt you're really a full-fledged narcissist. Be very careful of listening to either amateur psychological diagnoses or self-diagnosis. Congratulations on your desire to become a better person. If you haven't already, try searching on "narcissistic personality disorder" for more information and consider talking with a therapist for more insights. I'm really glad you enjoyed the video and wish you tremendous success in your journey.

[@cal4318]

Big Thank you.

[@doncrawley]

You're welcome! Thanks for your comment, Cal.

[@elianastewart7478]

Thankyou very much for this!

[@gabrielabdul8372]

Personally i know how it feels when someone don't have empathy. It has ruined me completely. Thanks God i have now changed amd learned how to have empathy.

[@doncrawley3478]

John, I'm so happy for you that you've developed a sense of empathy. That's a great way to be a person who brings light into your relationships with others. As you show empathy to others, while also showing compassion for yourself, you'll build new and satisfying relationships, both professional and personal. Take care, my friend!

[@elvin20ny]

Very well said,R.Crawley... Thank you so much .

[@cristianpetri1]

Thanks for the information ! Very helpful !

[@Satx0071]

What your stating is being able to sympathize with the customer unless as a service adviser he/she has gone through the same type of situation.

[@shaizadasaleem8493]

Seven ways to improve your Empathy 1. Listen 2. Use empathetic language 3. Don't be judgemental 4.practice curiosity for others 5.challenge your own prejudices 6. Look for commonalities not differense 7. Avoid lables to others

[@_issaheaven2761]

Thank you this helps me with my job

[@aflahnurainisalsabila9795]

Thanks!

[@doncrawley]

You're welcome!

[@irgendwie7331]

thank you for this!

[@JenKumar]

I'm a trainer for IT professionals in India working with Americans. I'd love to review your book for the Indian market. Is it available in India?

[@doncrawley]

Jen, apologies for my delayed (greatly delayed) reply. I just now saw your comment. Yes, it's available in India. Thank you for asking! Feel free to use videos from this channel in your training.

[@JenKumar]

@@doncrawley No problem, Don!! I'm back in the US, so I need to pick it up here!

[@BrianDonato]

I appreciate the message - empathy is so important! I discuss this in the last video on my channel as well, in the context of inner peace, from a parenting perspective. I hope messages like ours empower people to practice empathy! I just subscribed to your channel too, keep up the content.

[@doncrawley]

I completely agree! Thank you, Brian.

[@chrisyo4461]

Great advice

[@doncrawley]

I'm glad you like it. Thanks for your comment.

[@dbrmnt3545]

Thank you =)

[@DAClub-uf3br]

Now that we know what words to use how do we become more sincere so that those words have meaning?

[@doncrawley]

Excellent question. It starts with using empathy to try to imagine what the other person is going through. Think about what you might want if you were in their position. Use compassion to think about ways to improve their experience, to care for the other person one human to another. Thanks for asking.

[@kennedyrg7695]

good video!

[@AanRendyAriyanto]

Thanks for Advise

[@mel...s]

I scored low in empathy on my psych evaluation Its bothered me for years

[@doncrawley]

I hope this helped. Good luck on your journey toward greater empathy!

[@bradcrampton8920]

so great. namaste

[@livelife4237]

Brilliant

[@AmirAnsari-et9tn]

thumbs up!

[@Slownlazy]

Brothers and sisters? This is a cult. 1:06

[@doncrawley]

Why do you say that?

[@Slownlazy]

@@doncrawley Because every cult refers to themselves as brothers and sisters when in fact there is no blood relation.

[@fakeweightsfredokwomo3016]

Empathy is a seducing, demonic spirit.. Don’t be an empath. Have a discerning spirit. Seek the truth instead of acting how other people want you to act

[@doncrawley]

I'm not sure if you're sincere in your comment, or just trying to provoke a response. Regardless, I'll go ahead and bite. I'm sure you won't be surprised that I disagree with your view of empathy, especially your first statement. In his book, The Science of Evil, psychologist Simon Baren-Cohen writes that evil is the absence of empathy. You can certainly have a discerning spirit while still having empathy for others. Seeking to be more empathetic is not in conflict with seeking the truth. In fact, empathy is a tool that can help as you seek the truth. Empathy has nothing to do with acting how others want you to act. Empathy is about trying to see the world through another's eyes. Empathy is a powerful tool for building relationships. When combined with compassion, empathy is about lifting others up, working to create a better experience for everyone (including you Fredo 😀), and practicing kindness.

[@DajjalAbulahabov]

This how to is total mess. No2 be sincere. Then why don’t you tell us how to be sincere? Step by step instruction without too general blah-blah-blah And what’s the difference between being judgmental and labeling people? Rework it wise guy

[@doncrawley]

Thanks for pointing that out. You make a great point and I'll do a blog post and video on the subject of how to be sincere later this summer or perhaps in the fall. In the meantime, here are some ways to be sincere. Be genuine. That means that you say what you mean and mean what you say without being nasty to the other person. Always speak the truth, but that doesn't mean insulting others or being condescending toward them. Realize that being sincere can also mean being vulnerable and possibly opening yourself up to being hurt. Do good without expectation of reward or even acknowledgment. Sincerity comes from the heart. It is motivated by a desire to help others and lift them up, not out of competition or arrogance. As to the difference between labeling and being judgmental, labeling is the process of categorizing others using terms such as liberal or conservative, rich or poor, northerner or southerner, good or evil, tall or short. The problem with labeling is that people are complex and rarely fit into a single category. When we label people, it's easy to make incorrect assumptions about them, such as saying that all people who like a particular type of music fit a certain personality profile. Being judgmental is the process of assigning value to a person or a group, such as believing that someone who looks, acts, or speaks a certain way is more or less valuable than someone else. Thanks for your comment.

[@elizabetharruda9098]

I feel like this video is for narcissists 😂

[@fl0wmastr]

ask questions like: what are your beliefs and values? tell me about your politics and philosophies? these suggestions are terrible! you are not supposed to discuss politics at work.