Sex and the City: How Samantha Was Right About Everything

[@thetake]

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[@deleted01]

Try being Samantha when you're not a 7+/10. Life will wake you up pretty quickly

[@kari547]

Which is so ironic because Charlotte was the one with the doting husband

[@88Roshan]

@@deleted01 😂😂😂😂life will be fine.

[@KateBerger]

Samantha's refrain, "I love you, but I love me more" is sage advice and why she is irreplaceable.

[@Tesko91]

Yes!!

[@guilhermesavoya2366]

That is true. But, to honest, if Smith Jerrod were the one who said that to her instead of the other way around, and after she stayed with him through a cancer... People would hate his guts.

[@KateBerger]

@@guilhermesavoya2366 Yeah, because it's not in his character. Smith is a class act because he knows it's not about him.

[@guilhermesavoya2366]

@@KateBerger But that is the thing. He is not an accessory to Sam (I mean, he is, but if they were real people he would not be). If the roles were reversed, it would be about him. And we would hate him for doing the exact same thing Samantha did him. And I'm not even saying that as if I thought she was wrong. She was right, and he accepted it as he should. I'm just saying that our reaction would be different, a The Take video about him wouldn't be as praising of him.

[@srami004]

Amen

[@audreytheausllyologist502]

Samantha was 100% the best character on Sex and the City. She was the most likable, the funniest, the least judgemental, and she was a mood. I sure hope her back is still in good shape after carrying Sex and the City on it.

[@Likhita05]

The most dependable

[@seebothways9630]

If reverse the genders on independent woman narrative it called mysonygy

[@aracelimuniz9396]

I love her!!

[@kathrinefer7301]

She was wonderful person 🥹

[@katharinaheckmann4962]

The best Of Friends

[@RavenousDevil]

"Relationships should complement your life, not drag it down" Holy shit, this. Thank you.

[@sparrow9403]

That’s exactly how I felt when I heard it

[@ilikeditbetterbefore]

You forgot to mention all the ageism during those years about her. The joke was always about her being older... But she usually looks better than them.

[@TheGrifhinx]

It's not even older, it's more like she looks more experienced

[@NatzTalk]

Yeeees!!!!!

[@kat35lulu88]

Most of the women watching the show were her age or older......

[@kathydelarosa1286]

She did those jokes about herself many of times too

[@Saffron-sugar]

What about all the ageism now? I am now the age she was then, and I’m being told, by this video, that most women back then were uptight Victorians 😂

[@chelmrtz]

I love that moment between Char and Sam with the stolen baby name. Sam couldn’t give a shit about baby stuff but she loves Char and hates Laney so much she comes thru. That’s outstanding

[@trinaq]

I agree, Samantha couldn't care less about babies, and doesn't want one herself, but she didn't hesitate in defending Charlotte.

[@maggieholt6778]

Samantha Jones was always the first to jump in to support her friends, it's aspirational.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Samantha was truly a great friend

[@abiola33]

I loved this moment too.

[@Muffinga]

It was partially self serving. She didn't like her anyway so any reason to call her a bitch she would be a welcomed one.

[@VeeLondon1449]

Samatha was the best friend on the show. And the least problematic. And the sole reason I watched SATC. I miss her.

[@angelaholmes8888]

I miss her too she was the best

[@BwInNewJersey]

She cant be the sole reason. The only reason a show like this works is because of the character relationships reflected off each other.

[@PatriciaScarpinTK]

And Just Like That is awful and the main reason is the Samantha is not part of it.

[@SR77736]

​@@BwInNewJersey no she was the only reason. The only reason a lot of watched it. They meant what they said and it's not wrong for them. That's subjective and it's pedantic to correct someone over their opinion. Let people have opinions. 😒

[@BwInNewJersey]

@@SR77736 Its really not subjective. Thats my opinion. Let me have it.

[@pistachiosandpopcorn7146]

“If I worried what every bitch in nyc said about me..I’d never leave the house”. Samantha…believe it or not….nowadays a lot of hermits need to hear this !

[@summer8291]

Yhup, I do

[@MIZZPIGGYBABY89]

Me Too

[@AmySharzer]

Me three!

[@EnergyreaderempathMary]

Me too homie! Me too

[@andydietrich3689]

I needed to read this

[@pongo5000]

She also in my opinion had a wardrobe that aged the best, I loved her style then and most of it still now

[@loisen]

She always looked so fabulous.

[@megem616]

Exactly - Carrie was supposed to be the fashin icon, but whereas her outfits were sometimes great, a lot of the times they were horrible. Samantha always looked good no matter what.

[@anastasia7]

Because she had a sense of style + personal brand that went perfectly with her personality. She was always feminine, sensual, elegant and appropriate, in business meetings or on a night out. Carry never knew what to do with herself: she was promiscuous, she was close minded, she was into hookups, she was into monogamy, she was for marriage but against having kids. She couldn't make up her mind on anything so her style followed her volatile personality and that's why most of the time she looked hideous despite having a bombastic body. Samantha had a more 'brave' version of Charlotte's style. Classical elegance with occasional extravaganza.

[@Jamietheroadrunner]

You saying a cowboy hat and a newspaper dress haven’t aged well? 😂

[@ann5765]

I always loved Samantha’s wardrobe best

[@joseluismeloconcepcion2021]

Let's be real. Samantha left New York and the women on her life because she realized they were terrible friends and wasn't going to deal with their shit anymore.

[@MarnieGolde7]

Charlotte has always seemed like a pretty selfless friend in comparison to Miranda & Carrie (although not sure how much that’s saying..)

[@joseluismeloconcepcion2021]

@@MarnieGolde7 I was referring mainly about those two actually hehe

[@h0eera.115]

Oh I like this theoryyy. In And Just Like That, people keep saying that Samantha wouldn't just leave Carrie, Miranda, and Charlotte like that, but if you think about how much she was judged and disrespected by the three of them it makes perfect sense.

[@bgranger_842]

That's my headcanon as well

[@mv8908]

Yup 100

[@CrypticCharm]

Kim Cattrell was such a legend, that when they offered her a ton of money for Sex and the City 3, she turned it down and was disgusted with the proposed storyline of her seducing teenage Brady. yes, that was a story idea. that was when she refused to return, aside from the AJLT cameo. Samantha Jones, is confident, assured, and happy in her life and sexuality, but like hell was the character going to sleep with a child, who she baby sat in the show!

[@Some_guy_passing_by]

She did a good job really. Over 50 Samantha going after a barely legal boy would've been worse than the Che-Miranda storyline. They also had Charlotte thirsting after a minor . AJLT was trash . Yikes .

[@purrgundy]

When she could've been the perfect auntie to educate him about relationships and sexualities without moral judgement!! What a waste of opportunity!

[@mrrpswife]

Oh wow!! Didn't know that - yuck!

[@TamaNegi-el9yd]

Also have you guys seen teen Brady? Samantha would never go for that

[@bluebutterfly5684]

AJLT?

[@samhilton8633]

I hope Kim Cantrell knows she’s a legend for bringing us Samantha Jones.

[@Cityheart221]

You're right. Somehow she pulled what was meant to be a side character to front and center. She was able to deliver those lines with class and pizzazz! The wisdom we were meant to get from Carrie came from Samantha.

[@Luckimee]

AND The Mannequin 😊

[@gilkanamolina8667]

One of my many favorite Samantha’s moments is when she calls out Carrie for having a limited view of sexuality for a sex columnist.

[@Greenplanet949]

That was so on point!

[@kolaoshun6298]

And she didn’t lie!

[@petra_01]

Yaaaasss, Im never going to understand that 😂

[@catnyc718]

Carrie was vanilla, Samantha rum rasin ❤

[@T_Cup]

The best thing about Samantha was that she knew and liked herself, which is why she could put herself first so easily and still empathize with her friends’ struggles. Miranda knew and disliked herself, Carrie was always seeking validation in the men she dated and Charlotte aspired to be someone she wasn’t and lived her life trying to achieve what she believed that person would’ve wanted. It’s why Samantha grew but never really changed, and why she stayed the best character on the show throughout the entire series

[@durucan1399]

word

[@MeganSin]

When I was in the teens I thought I should be like a charlotte, but now that I’m in my 30s, I realized that should have lived my best Samantha fantasy. She truly was the best character.

[@lemsip207]

I liked Miranda. I thought her boring at first but she told it like it was and wasn't a people pleaser.

[@gbear2253]

I loved Big. Samantha and Big were self centered, brutally honest, free spirited in their relationships, all about their good looks, and didn’t care who they hurt. However, Big is demonized while Samantha is praised.

[@loisen]

@@gbear2253To me Big looked like someone who has relationship issues. He said to Carrie that he needed time for everything but she didn’t want to give it to him. But I wouldn’t compare him to Sam. She was very honest that she doesn’t want to have a relationship.

[@gbear2253]

@@loisen big didn’t wanna get married either and Carrie went crazy on him. Samantha hit on Big the very first episode and he rejected her. He wasn’t impressed with her femme fatal vixen tactics and vip privilege. Samantha got burned 😂

[@susannehuber3996]

Samantha was already in her 40s.

[@tartnouveau35]

This take is exactly why I was so angry with AJLT. They assassinated Sam’s character for a petty off screen feud. Throughout six seasons (and two atrocious movies), the writing consistently reinforced that Sam was nonjudgmental, incredibly loyal, and upfront with those closest to her. To suggest she fell out with Carrie and the gang due to a completely uncharacteristic disagreement is ridiculous (and let’s be honest: it would’ve been Sam desperately trying to convince Carrie to shift gears in a rapidly changing media landscape, while Carrie would’ve dug in her heels refusing to adapt as always, leaving them both in a precarious position). But also to suggest she wasn’t upfront and honest in her discussions about it (rather than aloof and distant), is completely out of Sam’s character. Having Sam die and Big run off permanently to London without explanation would have been far more honest to both characters. And having Carrie take on and honor Sam’s characteristics of self-love, directness, and empowerment while navigating divorce could have been a way to respect Sam’s character while also respecting off screen issues.

[@loisen]

Yeah they should have killed the character and it would have made sense. Sam was always working for Carrie for FREE. Why should she suddenly see her as an ATM? She’s the last person of the bunch to do that. She was the most loyal.

[@OzmaOfOzz]

Yes to everything you said. Sam was the best❤ I missed her in AJLT, it's just not the same without her.😢

[@sophiarodriguez3706]

This analysis is spot on. I’ve always felt they should have switched Big’s and Samantha’s storylines in AJLT. So much of that reboot ignores the characters’ core personalities, which makes it hard to watch beyond being curious about the trainwreck of it all.

[@michellelaugie5345]

Beautifully said.

[@bluebutterfly5684]

Great point! Sam coming out of remission or something along those lines, and Big running off would have definitely made more sense.

[@amyadams9970]

Samantha should have been the main character. Shame we didn't get a spin off series

[@Mscldrew]

She is the main character, Carrie was just the narrator. Kim Cattrall was also the best actress of the lot. That’s why SJP was so jealous and hate filled. 😂

[@cannellecinnamon5504]

She should but it was just impossible at the time the show aired. Sam’s character was treated horribly by critics. After all, it was in 1998! Men were not at all prepared nor willing n agreement with her lifestyle. The critics called her every misogynistic name under the sun ( who&re, sl&ut etc) she was accepted because she was funny and not the main character. Thank god times have changed because she Was SATC. Plus she represented the future ❤

[@marila4495]

Ohhh i love the shade😂

[@tahsina.c]

It wouldn't make sense- women like this are treated like lepers even still!

[@Spectatorofthegames]

And Carrie as the PR rep. SJP does not vibe with the idea of sex. I think more people would have watched as well. SJP is not a poster child for beauty.

[@zoc.6922]

Samantha was always the first one to support her friends. She was the comedic relief.

[@murph8837]

No she wasn't. She would ditch you the moment you had something in your life she didn't agree with. She did to Miranda and Charlotte numerous times. She didn't even want to go to Miranda's mothers funeral.

[@Nad_111]

she didnt want to go to Mirandas mothers funeral because she didnt know how to behave in that situation, but at the end she went and started crying. Samantha was a good friend, for example when Carrie cheated on Aidan, she never judged Carrie or when Charlotte needed to talk about her sexual life, Samantha was there for hearing her friend. She had her problems, but wasnt a bad friend.

[@anaquelhas586]

@@murph8837 You're wrong, she didn't ditch Carrie when she was cheating Aiden, for example, she couldn't care less about the baby names and she stood for Charlotte anyway. Samantha had more emotional intelligence than all of them to realize that when she wasn't at her best, she wouldn't get involved so as not to make the situation worse, that's why she didn't want to go to Miranda's mother funeral.

[@melaniekathleen4098]

Yes, that really stood out to me in the first movie, when they're in Mexico and Carrie can't get out of bed. Samantha is the only one who actually feeds Carrie. I always loved that sweet, tender moment between the two of them!!

[@sarcasmallover8999]

Theres a reason why gay guys love Samantha and Blanche: confident in themselves, assured in their sexuality, loyal to their sisters.

[@dianemearl]

YESSS BLANCHE!!! Her and samantha are fabulous TV icons!!!

[@gee_emm]

The Golden Girls was really the blue print for SATC: The Slut, The Ditz, The Cynic and The Witty Best Friend. Sound familiar?

[@Artfanbookfan25]

​@@gee_emmThey did it better: they had a Samantha (Blanche); a Charlotte (Rose); a young Miranda (Dorothy) and old Miranda (Sophia), but no Carrie. 😂😅

[@gee_emm]

@@Artfanbookfan25 Lol. So true!

[@EverSoNina]

Love the Golden Girls! Favorite show of all time 💚

[@NekoEmy]

Even when I'm a complete opposite from the character Samantha in most aspects, I would watch the show and I would found myself siding with her in almost all scenes/fights/confrontations. I really liked her! I would love to have a friend like her in real life.

[@bgranger_842]

Me too!! I am not as sexual as Samantha but i will fight for her right to be as sexual as she wants and not be slutshamed!

[@NuhniiyaBehNez-ly2yr]

I LOVE this comment!

[@NekoEmy]

@@NuhniiyaBehNez-ly2yr Thank you 🥰

[@julijakeit]

Funny but Charlotte, a complete opposite of Samantha, has a lot in common with Samantha: both know what they want from life, aren't afraid to stand up for their believes, follow their own rules

[@saraa4353]

Carrie didn't deserve Sam's friendship and loyalty.

[@susannehuber3996]

Amen ❤

[@canesugar911]

Yup

[@melaniekathleen4098]

Agreed!! Especially in the episode where Carrie catches Samantha in a "compromising position" and Carrie says that it's something she'd "never do"!!

[@elifdogan993]

Hell yeah

[@mdayala21]

Yes thank you! I’ve always thought this.

[@mbanerjee5889]

A healthy relationship of any kind should never make you feel trapped. If you feel trapped by it, then it is not serving its purpose.

[@btrixlestrange]

Amen!!

[@megem616]

Samantha even put this in a very simple words - she said sth like I know that when you look and feel sad because of a relationhip, than it's not a good relationship - it's really simple as that

[@kimlena9333]

The only thing that never made sense about Samantha was why she was friends with the 3 others 🤔 She deserved better.

[@woodland5444]

I guess she was their mentor or big sister in a sense. She couldn’t leave these people to go down a path she didn’t see as right

[@lillyhammer3342]

I've had friends who frankly I've matured faster than; I stick with them because I love them and hope to encourage them one day to embrace their best and lovely selves and to surrender to the beauty of this life and love. I'm sure there's been people like this in my life too, as time passes different friends offer different things to one another.

[@Saffron-sugar]

There were only so many extremely successful, single wealthy women in NYC that she could stand hanging around with

[@leedlbagginshield8492]

even Miranda??

[@trekon2023]

Exactly. Wouldn't someone with Sam's character get tired of their judgment, explicit or implied? She was also the most generous friend while the others were usually worried about their own drama.

[@smagicportal_sf]

I also love that she has moments of doubts or challenges herself to open up and be vulnerable to love, not just a one-dimensional headstrong character

[@naimahabdullah-gulley4405]

Samantha was my fave then and now. During the original run of the series, I was in college, so I liked her one-liners. But now, as a 40-something married mother of 2, I like what she stood for. She was unapologetically her and while she didn't always see eye to eye with her friends, she was still supportive of their choices. Her friends, weren't for her though. Samantha needed better friends.

[@Greenplanet949]

Loved Samantha! She lived unapologetically for herself. Miranda I liked too but wish she hadn’t compromised herself with that loser Steve. Carrie I thought was a mess.

[@88Roshan]

Cant forget the iconic line “i don’t live my life waiting for a man!” 😂 changed my life.

[@jadziawynter9241]

I wish I had Samantha's confidence!

[@silverkitty2503]

i dont she ended up with a lot of duds

[@mayathebraveofkitwanga448]

You can, babe❤

[@jm4397]

We didn't realize how great she was until we saw the show without her 😢

[@susannehuber3996]

She was the show ❤

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

The rest is a mess.

[@nataliapola6988]

Unpopular opinion; I would like to be like Samantha. But not an exact replica, just some of her qualities. There’s many things you could learn from her. She was a great businesswoman and had connections. She was well dressed and groomed. She was a great friend, despite how they treated her. She would not judge her friends, no matter how in the wrong they were. She always had your back. She also has strong head on her shoulders. Honestly, I wish they would’ve had a show on her instead of Carrie. Carrie was judgmental and hypocrite. she’s talking down on Samantha for the action committed. But how about her sleeping with a married man and cheating on her boyfriend Adrian? Does anybody recall the time that Charlotte caught crabs with a one night stand?

[@ozymandias7372]

And Carrie was so irresponsible with money at her thirties and expected her friend Charlotte to pay her when she was abt to loose her apt due to her own mismanagement with money. She infact guilted her when Charlotte didn’t offer. Carrie was judgmental irresponsible and hypocritical

[@nataliapola6988]

@@ozymandias7372 that episode boiled my blood. You spend thousands of dollars on shoes and expect someone else to clean up the mess for you? Carrie was immature and expected the world to revolve around her.

[@glitzerplastikchichi]

@@ozymandias7372 I thought this episode was particularly good because Charlotte decided to give Carrie the ring as a loan (!) for the apartment. Leaving aside the financial mismanagement, it was very refreshing to see a woman supporting another woman in this way in a series. You rarely see something like that.

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Carry is just an immature person with many narcicisstic traits. I don't like her.

[@Eva94995]

To not judge your friends no matter how wrong they are is not a good quality, it talks about alack of character and morals. Sam slept with married men, you can’t expect her to judge carry when she was the mistress of big that’s true, but don’t say that is good. It’s not. Those friends only help you to keep being miserable and take poor decisions, that is not a good friend. That’s why Carrie told Sam and not Charlotte about her affair with big, cause she knew Sam wouldn’t said her what she deserved, and when Charlotte found out about she was nice, too nice, but with kind worlds she said what was really happening, Carrie eas the other woman and it was wrong.

[@cartersmom0629]

This video came at the right time for me. I just ended a relationship last week because I wasn't happy, and I was wondering if I had made a mistake. I don't think I did. Putting myself first for the win!

[@cartersmom0629]

@UsiQuotidiani.18 Thank you so much 💓

[@murph8837]

You probably did make a mistake.

[@cartersmom0629]

@@murph8837 😂😂😂

[@jimbarino2]

Narrator: "She had, in fact, made a terrible mistake"

[@cartersmom0629]

@jimbarino2 No I didn't

[@valarieford1778]

Totally agree I wouldn't sleep around like Samantha. She told the truth about marriage. Never give up your friends. Put yourself first. Learn when to let go if a relationship. Be happy by yourself

[@Persnikity-yv3nh]

Omg. I just realized I'm a Samantha. I don't share her romantic history, but her philosophy of "I'm going to live on my terms and people can judge all they want" is totally relatable.

[@henance]

None of the women were right or wrong. That’s the point. They are all complex women who are happy and sad and support each other and fight. It was one of the earliest shows to show women like that. They grew and changed and fucked up and again and again. They were human. Which why at the time, early Samantha was the least relatable, but over time the show corrected and made her human too, flaws and all. And the girls were friends through it all.

[@tahsina.c]

I'm a gen z and that's exactly why I love it, it's such a cool show and seems very unbiased, they're all flawed and valid in their approaches. There arent any other shows like that coming out now

[@vincentcerasoli5969]

Agreed. However I would argue that Carrie as a grown woman in her 30's demanded Charlotte give her the money to buy her apartment just because they were friends even though Charlotte had nothing to do with Carrie's financial mismanagement. You can't chalk that up to just being human, she was an adult. Not her finest hour.

[@redleeks6253]

Or they are all the same woman living different phases of the same life. I know many women who had a samantha phase in their 40s and 50s especially after a divorce.

[@ACollectorNotAHoarder]

I totally agree. That's why I always get annoyed by people hating on Carrie for her bad choices. We're all Carrie at some point or another. We're complex and we make mistakes and we're self-involved and flawed. If the characters were perfect, the show would be boring.

[@glitzerplastikchichi]

@@ACollectorNotAHoarder Above all, Carrie guides the viewer through the plot of each episode with her column and thoughts. She can't be a "perfect" character who always does everything right.

[@rochelle2758]

The "Faced with her own inadequacy" line when Carrie is describing Samantha's throwing and "I don't have a baby" shower was one of several moments in the first season where the writers clumsily tried to have their cake and eat it too by implying that Samantha's self-confidence was delusional. They did the character dirty at first, before finally realizing what the audience already knew: that she was great.

[@murph8837]

But it was correct about her. She was severly delusional and had feelings of inadequacy. Samantha wasn't good with relationships because she was too confident and above it all. She could not handle a serious relationship and it was a commonly repeated part of her character. She is a cautionary tale of what happens when you are emotionally inadequate and delusional.

[@glitzerplastikchichi]

@@murph8837 Many people aren't good at serious relationships. So far so good, but why is this character delusional? Just because she's confident and doesn't try to fit into a relationship model?

[@murph8837]

@@glitzerplastikchichi no, because she thinks she is above it all and somehow a stronger better person. She wasnt like that with James, the man she thought she could marry. That plot offered us a Sanantha who was more human and realistic who took other people's feelings into consideration. She was willing to try everything to save that relationship because she didn't think that having a small....private part was enough to give up on love. It gave her character some humanity. She was even willing to go to couples counseling with him. He ultimately broke up with her....though I doubt it would gave continued after she finally broke. But the Samantha after that was this selfish, nymphomaniac. When she was it a serious relationship she would lose all sense of herself and become a paranoid, needy sterotype of the women she disliked. She was worse than Charlotte. She was doing things like giving Richard a painting of hearts and expected him to hang it up right away. She started pulling stunts like stalking him undercover. She lost her sense of self, something that Samantha in previous seasons would have never done. She was pathetic and unstable. She also had Jared who obviously adored her and stuck with her through her cancer struggle. She eventually accepts him and they end up an exclusive relationship. In the movie they undue all that character to development because she cant take that with his rising stardom that he isn't always available. She gets upset that he didnt intuit that she covered herself in homemade sushi and came home late. She was becoming needy and unstable the pointof overeating. Then she proceeds to break up with Smith because she "loves me more" a warped take on her pevious use of theline she used with Richard. Samantha did not avoid relationship because she was some strong, empowered woman who went against convention. She avoided relationships because of a weakness withn herself. She couldn't handle relationships.

[@haroonrash11]

​@@murph8837this 👏🏻💯

[@aniccavogt]

@@murph8837 wow, I'm afraid the passion with which you're judging her speaks for itself... plus she was the only one being loyal no matter what.

[@Rosula_D]

Samantha ran so millennial women can walk. She taught an entire generation that we don't have to limit ourselves for men and we are finally catching up with what she was talking about 2 decades ago!

[@ildia.goldstein513]

true queen , people were harsh on her character in the comments back in the day. her character was revolutionary so to say. she carried rebelion against patriarchy with class. she had class compare to many women today.

[@Eva94995]

Limit yourself for men? She literally lived to please men, everything she talked about was having sex with men, even married men.

[@pamelab7235]

I dont take life lessons from TV characters, good lord.🙄

[@minuit6305]

As a teen i used to love Carrie. I realized i just loved her fashion. Samantha was the mood! And the inspiration 🙌

[@MizMorgue1]

No one could've play Samantha better. Samantha is my mantra. She was unapologetically "too much" AND she was happy and at peace in her life. Samantha IS love yourself 1st, and you'll always be safe❤

[@girlie89]

My love for samantha is exactly why I'm not watching And Just Like That. It's just not Sex and the City without her.

[@seebothways9630]

a lot of these independent woman narrative in reverse sound like mysonygy

[@nordette]

It's not sex and the city it's and just like that. That's why they named it something different, it's a different show

[@jessstaxx1864]

​@nordette and it sucks bad

[@saraa4353]

Same!

[@nordette]

@jessstaxx1864 yeah, the first season was brutal but the second got a little better. Lol I'm hoping the third gets it right. They seem to be finding their footing

[@Becky_Cal]

Samantha was bar-none the best character in SATC!! She was true to herself, pursued what gave her joy and was a boss lady with her own company that made enough revenue so that she bought her own home in the most desired location in NYC at the time! She was a great guide for women in the decades that followed!!!

[@bbeyez]

When you look back at the show now, Samantha was ICONIC. She had decided to live her life and love her life. She is a secret hero of mine

[@cche16]

she was the best character, only good friend and authentic person in the show. she was always funny, smart, non-judgemental, outgoing and had real growth but stayed true to herself. her one liners, delivery and storylines remain the best in the show.

[@djnush]

Love Samantha! 🔥 The only thing that was out of character was not getting tested for STIs regularly. I think the writers dropped the ball on that.

[@DMMA0726]

I think it makes perfect sense tbh. The show presented an outdated and mainly heterosexual notion (even at the time) of sex. Even though people knew straight people could get HIV and Sam had that scare people still weren't getting tested. Even now most straight people having frequent casual sex don't get tested, the only ones who get tested regularly are consenually nonmonogamous people and gay/bi men.

[@djnush]

@@DMMA0726 Gosh! That makes sense! Didn’t think of that.

[@saraa4353]

Words to live by: "I love you but I love me more." Self-love at its finest.💖 Self-love is the prerequiste of ALL loves.

[@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254]

I love Melanie Hamlett's videos on Kim Cattrall and how she loved Samantha's character.

[@evanunez8833]

Ah thanks for that. I've been following Melanie for a few months now and was always thinking she reminded me of someone!

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Is she scrraming and shaking and gaggöing and wiggling or does Mel once behave like a mature woman? Mrl might be right in manyyyy ways, but her acting out is not my cup of tea. I was told she has au Tism and AD HD but I don't care, I just don't like her Toddler Tantrums.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I just love her character so much and Kim Cattrall you will always be fabulous! I always thought she was wise while giving Mae West Energy. Also, Samantha had great taste in men lol (along with being a Bicon/PanIcon)

[@themaggattack]

*"I love you, but I love me more."* This is the most POWERFUL, iconic line! Unwavering self love is what REALLY threatened the patriarchy. Not just that Samantha had a lot of sex... not even that she enjoyed it... but that she WASN'T ASHAMED of herself for it. She couldn't be controlled through shame. She unapologetically loved herself too much. Independent women with high self esteem who put themselves first were (still are) targeted by misogyny. Including the internalized misogyny of other women. But thanks to characters like Samantha, more women are standing up for themselves and "loving themselves more." ❤

[@mizginavale22]

I love Samantha, her feminine power, her confidence, style and fierce loyalty to her friends.

[@alvacardona6243]

She's the embodiment of Shakespeare's famous quote, "To thine own self be true".

[@carmelasantana3091]

Samantha was always my favorite character. I admired how she was true to herself and walked her talk, for better or worse. She fearlessly embraced her life. Such an inspiration.

[@bioniclohan7291]

She was the heart and soul of Sex and the City.

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

When she threw herself an "I don't have a baby shower"!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@outinsider]

When I was younger and first exposed to Sex and the City, I thought I was Carrie. As time went on, I became more of a Miranda. But, in all of it, Samantha is aspirational. Considering how problematic Carrie and Miranda were/are, I remember the first thing that empowered me- "I'm trysexual, I'll try anything once." To a young bisexual person, I needed that confident saying to reverberate in my head until I came out. Now, it's in my head as a regular attitude.

[@Soitbesme]

Still sound like a Miranda to me 😂

[@outinsider]

@@Soitbesme Fair enough- except my relationships are written better.

[@Soitbesme]

@@outinsider that’s true !! Miranda just couldn’t handle a relationship it was just a full mess .

[@outinsider]

@Soitbesme I think she can handle a relationship, she just couldn't handle someone else's baggage.

[@amilapilotti5534]

I would'nt consider Sam inspirational because she said "I'm trysexual", but for other reasons: her strength, her non-judgemental attitude, hel loyalty

[@Veru_catmama]

ever since I saw this show for the first time when I was a teenager (35yo now) I loved and admired Samantha but back then didn't really know much WHY I loved the character so much.. all my friends were like "ew, no, you should wanna be like Charlotte".. the older I get, the more I can see that she is exactly what a woman should be - confident, loving herself first and not take any bs from anyone, including her judgemental "friends"

[@jennyfab312]

Samantha is why we watched. She was always the best person on the show. Even when sjp became jealous and tried to put Sam in embarrassing situations, Sam was the friend you wanted in your corner

[@melaniehenry8821]

Samantha was an incredible character and I looked up to her so much growing up. “I love you but I love me more” is sage wisdom for the ages.

[@christi776]

"Relationships should add to your life not complicate them" LOVE THAT!!!

[@LMak1989]

Samantha is women’s James Bond, even though the character has some unearned skills and confidence and skills, it seems like it’s a fun fantasy for the audience… she’s so ridiculously built up in confidence, sexiness, money, privilege etc with little to no downsides that it’s actually comical. The irony of course is that Kim Cattral seemed over the characters portrayal + and of course the lifetime girlfriends fantasy didn’t actually pan out in real life LOL

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

No reason why it should. I mean they were ACTING.

[@LMak1989]

Thank you, that’s my point exactly.. they were ‘acting’ out a fantasy that’s in fact harder to match to real life

[@inoba5891]

Samantha was the greatest, she never backtracked and stood by what she believed in! Always had a soft spit for her🎉

[@cityremade]

This is interesting. First SATC wave of feminism was Carrie. Then we appreciated understated Miranda. Now it’s Samantha’s wave 😅

[@albertamathurin7084]

I LOVE IT

[@amilapilotti5534]

otherwise how could youtubers earn their living?

[@amethyst6386]

My favourite Samantha moment was a vulnerable one when she got stood up for a date, she was in a beautiful white fur with gold and diamond cartier watch on her wrist and gold bracelet, crying at the restaurant.

[@ButterflyBandit88]

Thank you for this video. Ive been struggling with not having a relationship for a while and i really needed to hear this

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Another person can't fill your inner void. Learn how to build strong friendships that are not an unpaid caretaker for you

[@alekonej]

I love Samantha’s character but for sure she wasn’t right about everything. Making all your relationships so heavily based on sex comes from an intimacy problem and a dehumanization of the other (and ofc this is true for overly sexual man too). I really enjoy her freedom, confidence and openness, but she is, like the other three, a flawed character, and I think thats whats amazing about the storylines of SATC

[@janettewong9900]

While I agree that she wasn’t right about everything, I don’t think she has a problem with intimacy in general since she has such close friends - she just really doesn’t value romantic intimacy, especially when it clearly comes at a greater cost of independence than it comes to men and is even socially enforced in ways - even now, there isn’t a male equivalent of the vitriolic stereotype of the “old cat lady” IIRC I think her intimacy issues are also somewhat addressed in the episode when she gets really sick as well as her cancer scare. Flawed as she is, I understood her reasoning for not staying with her partner because she felt indebted to him for being with her through her cancer and even though I wouldn’t have chosen that for myself, I was glad she was brave enough to to stick to her convictions

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

​@@janettewong9900There is: "The bum living on the streets"

[@Moonshine97]

​@@DiamondsRexpensive Divorced bum at that....ex-wife took everything...

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Intimacy problem? She just doesn't settle. Not everybody thinks they are not a full person without a romantic relationship. I am Single by choice, my life is good, I don't want a romantic relationship. I have to many good things going on, don't want to be a caretaker for a guy. If Affairs weren't extremely risky and if there were more hot guys I would go fully Sam. I just don't have the time and energy to deal with the Real Life men.

[@kathydelarosa1286]

Yes because when she tried to get into relationships she always thought it was too much emotional work and talking.

[@ImaniKhadijah]

I think this is definitely an interesting take on Samantha's character with some great points, but I do wish that the fact that she struggles with vulnerability, emotional intimacy, and is emotionally unavailable was emphasized more as well. I think back to her brief relationship with a woman as well as her response to Miranda's mother's death that indicates this. (also just wanted to note I haven't finished the series so this is my opinion from what I've seen so far)

[@ksenia_online_english6728]

Finally someone said that! I DO believe she had an avoidant attachment style and deep inside she was just afraid of meaningful and long-term relationships with men! Yes, she is an interesting character, for sure, but the lifestyle she was living mostly stemmed from the fear of real intimacy and bonding.

[@emilyruggiero1465]

Sam was SO spot on. Samantha Jones was the MVP of that show, ran her own business, non-judgmental of others. Baller!!!! Yes yes yes!!!! Sam was whole on her own, not desperately chasing after men like Charlotte and obsessing like Carrie.

[@BallroomPink]

Samantha was the best friend of the group.

[@RubyVera-m2s]

Samantha was a good friend but a bad partner. She never was willing to consider others or sacrifice for them. If their presence started impeding on her life, she’d cut them off. That’s not a valuable trait to have in general. Would have been nice to see her grow to love someone rightly and come to realize, it’s actually a beautiful thing to put other before yourself. And I don’t mean in a way where you end up a martyr. But in a way that is healthy and helps you grow to be a better person

[@MissBlueEyeliner]

Samantha deserved better friends.

[@cheddarcheese089]

I was always the Samantha of my group of friends. I personally thought so and they would say it as well. Sometimes you really have to just love yourself enough to get what you want and need outta life.

[@likachambers6465]

Me too 😊❤

[@lexyred6289]

Grew up watching her and I just realized I am her. I'm in no rush to get married and have kids. I enjoy my life as is and am not crying over not meeting made up societal expectations

[@livalittle13]

She wanted full autonomy, and I've always loved that and understood it. She is one of my personal icons

[@fabayac8275]

Samantha had the best one liners !

[@Artielectric]

Samantha was so awesome! Kim's fittings were amazing to witness and be a part of as well. Samantha is Patricia Field's authentic style. Kim and Pat had a fabulous connection with each other. Kim would walk in the wardrobe room fitting area - Take off ALL her clothes (ALL OF THEM!) Through her hands in the air above her head and say " DRESS ME BOYS " - I am 100% grateful for the experience.

[@zahinarfa2463]

The ICON she is!!🙌💯

[@loboestepario2424]

Samantha was in fact a gay man idea of the perfect woman. By the way, in that terrible AJLD they tried to replace her miserably with the appartement broker character. Cringe all the way.

[@wanderlustingartist]

I don’t see sex & relationship the way Sam does but I love her in every other way. She’s authentic, independent, smart, loyal to her friends and doesn’t give 2 shits about people who don’t matter

[@PaulRogers-y8o]

AMAZING video! Perfection in describing her and the clips you used! THANK YOU for posting this. REALLY ENJOYED IT

[@themissjoy]

She was the grown woman in the group. 😂

[@ahanaroychoudhuri]

Samantha really helped me realise self confidence and self belief to listen to my heart on what I want instead of getting succumbed to the invisible pressures that society put you into. So many women have lost their identity, spark and inner capabilities by giving themselves up to marriage and kids when not even questioning if they wanted it or if it was the right time. Sometimes, when you have no-one to guide you or throw light on the right path on what decisions to make, you only have your inner voice to listen to.

[@rachaeljordan2209]

The realest and wisest friend of the bunch

[@Ivanchica1987]

The "I love me more" and "Not my style" lines have become my adult mantras, as I was just a kid when the show aired....The "I love me more" helped me get out of a particularly toxic and manipulative relationship, believe it or not.I loved Samantha, Kim's brilliant acting and her entire role and character. A woman after my own taste, authentic most of all and truly herself.❤

[@annamo9354]

The funny thing is...when I first watched the show over 20 years ago, I was a Carrie...then I briefly was a Miranda. When I turned 30 I somehow morphed into a Charlotte. Now that I'm 47 I'm Samantha through and through. I am in the best shape ever. I take whatever men have to offer but never them...and it seems like a lot of guys in their 30s love a woman in her 40s.

[@guyafrica7894]

I just realized that Samantha might have been on the AROMANTIC spectrum too. She's my favourite. Inspirational.

[@angelaholmes8888]

Omg you are right 🤔

[@tinaloye2014]

I thought she was but they don't have words then to explain it

[@ACollectorNotAHoarder]

"Aromantic" 😂 You crazy kids with your made up labels.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

I'm aro (not ace) and she's always been super relatable to me. The understanding when to leave a relationship event though you both "love" each other, very aro of her!!

[@tdelioncourt1268]

@@ACollectorNotAHoarder People over 40 use these labels too, the concepts aren't new (ever heard of platonic love) you should go out sometimes :) Also why people finding words to express their feelings and finding themselves make you react? Something to dig into if you ask me! secure people don't react, just accept.

[@anavrogers5132]

Samantha was the best!

[@lft3636]

Samantha Jones IS New York City.

[@leogaray4531]

For all the women commenting about how Samantha was right, how she was ahead of her time and bla bla...Samantha was never a woman, the producer and writer (who's gay) recognized a hundred times that the character of Samantha is in fact a gay male, so all about her character, her sexual freedom, idependence and sassyness is all a gay male and was never a woman and that's why she's also so different from the rest of the female group.

[@chanmarr8118]

I absolutely loved Samantha and wanted to be her because of her confidence. She was my fav character followed by Miranda for her bluntness. That episode where Carrie walks in on Samantha giving a BJ and judging her for it really pissed me off and I liked that S defended herself. She never wavered and stayed true to who she was until the very end.

[@rika7625]

Samantha was the best ❤ and my fav on SATC

[@begonia22]

Samantha Jones was a tv character like no other before and there hasn't been anyone like her since. There is a reason for that: her message is dangerous to the patriarchy. Because she showed us we should love ourselves first and foremost, stand firmly in our values, be good suportive friends, live the life we want to live without waiting for anyones permission (specially not a man). She was afraid of romantic intimacy, but as a true trysexual she even tackled that fear head on and didn't let it stop her from being happy. She was a truly dangerous woman!

[@amilapilotti5534]

e basta con questo patriarcato! non esiste piu' . Il vero problema della società moderna, ovvero la società della selfie generation, é il narcisismo, il pensare solo a se stessi, l'egocentrismo, il vivere virtualmente piuttosto che realmente. Sia donne che uomini soffrono di queste cose. Ecco il nuovo malessere sociale

[@melodyclark1944]

That's great that she encouraged her friends to leave relationships that weren't working. The characters I see resisting relationships look like they're doing it out of fear of commitment.

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

What is this "fear of commitment"? Being responsible for someone else's actions?

[@selenasimmons6653]

Looking back on the 4 of them Samantha was really the Sex & The City...I always viewed her with my jaw to the floor (I was young when the show originally aired) but I would often nod in agreement when she gave solid advice..I have a friend like her character...and she is priceless 🙂🙂

[@natashaauton2029]

Best character on that show. Loved Samantha..

[@islim3885]

Based on Carrie's diaries (the book), Samantha turned that way AFTER a failed marriage to a wealthy man

[@OzmaOfOzz]

I love this comment section because everyone thinks Sam was the best and most loyal friend of the bunch ❤ personally, Chaelotte comes second best. Yes, she was traditional to the point of being annoying, but she always showed up for her friends ❤

[@Cityheart221]

You are right about all that you said. So sad she was there for them but they were not there for her. They were not really her friends. They needed her as their coach and cheerleader. I think they were jealous of her confidence and her work success. They all seemed to consistently struggle in their careers. At least Carrie finally got a book deal. They all slept with a bunch of guys and even on first dates, but judged her. So many examples. Even Carrie narrating said snarky things about Samantha; her "friend". Sadly, the script spilled into real life. It was a good show in its time because there was not another like it. The public loved the idea of independent women with careers, friends, meeting to share their lives and encourage one another. I don't think we really paid attention to what they said about Samantha and to her. It's when we rewatch that we catch it. Even the movies had her character going backwards while all the others were supposedly moving forward. I do miss the character, and the idea of the show, but I understand why Kim wanted to move on.

[@laurenmarieprescott]

The I’m NOT having a Baby Shower… I didn’t see that episode & im living for it. Yes please. I want to do this for myself

[@cup.o.joe...]

Samantha was the best, there's really no place for an argument

[@marta.melnyk]

I wish I had a friend like Samantha. Until then I will be my own Samantha

[@yuliyaspiridonova2474]

Thank you for this video! Samantha’s attitude and advice is still very much spot on! ❤Defo my favourite character in the series and the main reason I watched them.

[@AmandaFromWisconsin]

She was the least annoying of all the characters. I have no idea why so many people loved this show. Maybe it's because I'm a 43-year-old woman who's never been in a relationship and can't relate to any of it.

[@theworldexplorer]

Wow what a great video essay, so spot on and so well written actually