Painful Secrets Part 11

[@Shibutanifangirl]

When she starts to cry, that's the only part of this movie that makes me want to cry. She is finally showing some emotion rather than keeping it all bottled up inside. Her tears make me feel for her. I'm a cutter, and I relate to her in so many ways. I just wish I had someone to talk to when I was her age, instead of suffering alone for more than a decade. To all who self harm, don't be ashamed of your scars. they are a reminder that you can endure the pain of life, but YOU are a survivor!

[@MrBAM182]

If you're crying you're not cutting. OMG this went through my whole body. I will never ever forget this sentence

[@YoursDarkAngel]

"If you're crying, you're not cutting"... the best quote I have ever found, to help not to cut... althrough this movie is a but.. mah... in some ways, its still really good I think... Thank you so much for uploading this :D

[@MizBabyGirl]

Dawn is right about her mother making this whole situation about herself instead of her daughter. Dawn where it's supposed to be. Maybe she needs to get away for a while and during that time, she'll realize that the whole world doesn't revolve around her and she needs to focus on her daughter's feelings instead of caring about herself, worrying about what other people think, and how she'll be blamed.

[@MarieCookiecore]

"...She's not an animal...!" This sentence make me cry.

[@beimmune]

The twitching thing is a really good portrayal of how the emotions are on the inside of people who cut. You literally feel like you are crawling out of your own skin. The eyebrow thing is creepy- but this makes sense.

[@sleepypinkyful]

My heart cries out to anyone who has to endure this. My daughter and I have battled and won. She is happy and healthy now, at 18. She healed herself. She decided one day that she can overcome, and did. It's hard to understand, for those who have never experienced it. I never cut myself, but I would hurt myself physically in other ways out of sheer frustration. I felt like no one heard me. I'm glad that chapter in my life, and my daughters is over.

[@AsksOneThing]

This movie is bringing back so many painful memories. I never got as far as Dawn, but it's all there. School's a minefield, home's a powder keg, Mom is making it all about her, Dad is mostly silent because he doesn't know what to do and the only way you can express yourself is to slice yourself open. Yup; I remember that way too well. Spot on, this movie sport on. I know "Dawn" is not real but in so many ways, she is. I just want to hug the poor kid.

[@carlisle81593]

this movie really gets to me!!! ive been going through a lot wit depression cutting and anger nd ive been to 5 mental hospitals for it. but since this year ive been doing a lot better since im off my depression nd anxiety pills. i can relate a lot nd ik its very sad but u can make through it. u just need to talk someone. ive had a counselor since i was 9 nd now im almost 18 nd i also have an in home therapist. they reallyyy dooo helpp

[@BinaryEmyaneh]

The part when she slept with those "boys" made me cry. She could never EVER manage to harm herself as much as she did. I Loved this part. Probably the only one that is realistic.

[@elseykelsey1290]

I like the fact that this part shows how cutting and self harm really does affect the whole family. Not just the one who hurts themselves.

[@chandler1MauRi]

the poor father. He doesn't know what to do but at least he tries.

[@PlusVK22]

The mother tried, too.. I thought the mom was really strong.. living with the memory of watching her sister die and having a husband that barely does anything.. she was pouring from an empty cup and was just stressed and needed a break. The second Dawn becomes a mom, no one will have the same empathy for her because apparently no one has empathy for moms even though moms are usually the most involved parent...

[@pompodore]

The mom is so frustrating but there are a few moms out there like her. Sean Young does a great job in this movie though.

[@TiNa2927]

'crying means not cutting..' i cry all the time and i still SH.

[@blackbloodedbeast]

This is an incredible movie. Very triggering, though..

[@PlusVK22]

Firstly, everybody's mad at the mom, but the mom is honestly the true victim here. She actually has severe events that occurred in her life like watching her little sister get ran over and unalived when she was growing up, and then she got blamed for it. She practically had to raise her brother... Then she has an uninvolved "husband" that just watches her do literally everything and he gives very little involvement to his own kids and family. The son is so obviously more annoyed with his father's uninvolvement that he takes it out on his sister, Dawn. The mom now has to watch her daughter self harm. The mom has honestly been through the most, and the most traumatic events, but she pushes through strongly, and no one cares about her or even acknowledges the immense strength she's shown all her life while having no real outlets or true support system. Anyone would react the way the mom does, and most people would be worse after going through all that. I was surprised the mom isn't the self harmer honestly. Everyone is focusing so much on Dawn, but no one will care at all anymore the minute Dawn becomes a parent herself because no one seems to have any empathy for parents. So as long as Dawn doesn't become a parent, she'll get endless pity and empathy. Dawn's main complaint is that her mother doesn't hear her. Most people wish that's all they have to complain about.. is needing relationship counseling to guide them to better communication while Dawn's mom will always have to live with the traumatic memory of watching her sister get unalived, and enduring a marriage where she's stressed and strained by doing everything. No woman should have to handle all the stress of their family when they have an able bodied grown man/husband... I couldn't even get mad when she took a break at the end. She needed it for self care to not pour from an empty cup and let the husband handle things on his own for a change. Young girls may get mad at me for this comment, but some may see what I mean if they're ever in a marriage where they end up doing it all alone. My husband is very involved so I can only imagine how mother's in her shoes feel. I was kind of okay with Dawn, until she cursed at her mom at the end. No one has to take that from anyone when they're breaking their back to uphold the household and get no appreciation. If people don't want to help themselves, everyone should set healthy boundaries from toxic relationships. Dawn didn't want to accept that she had to take accountability to help herself. No matter what someone did to me, it's my choice to help myself. If you can't get along, then distance yourself. I saw from all angles.. we get Dawn... but no one addressed the mom's perspective at all.....

[@sammysmiles77]

I see so much of my life in this, minus the severity and my boyfriend is the most supportive and loving person. He's the reason I'm trying to get myself better... but this movie really hits home for me.

[@Dawnette2Weir]

finally the father is starting to care!!!!!!

[@LeeLee19901]

And growing a pair

[@ktar007]

it's good to see that the dad actually has some emotions.

[@PengunaFilms]

"It's always about YOU!!!" "those ten hours from the time that we were gone until the time we got to the hospital..that was the worst agony of my life" *INSERT BAD WORD HERE*

[@pearlncrystal]

The mum was the problem. Once she was gone, things started to be better :)

[@thecowscumhome]

her mom needs to solve her own inner conflict/issues and come back and BE a real mom.

[@deathlist94]

Mom leaving= VICTORY !!!!!!

[@liplylips]

the brother wasnt such a jerk in the end. i wanted to cry in that part.

[@montanam5997]

OH MY GOSH!! SHE'S JUST LIKE MY FICKING MOM!"make it seem like its about me but its not its about you" I wish I could tell my mom that

[@kayleicapossela2227]

"when I said I hoped u died I didn't mean it" "ik that" I almost cried on that part like holy crap

[@oliviamitchell4076]

Finally, she told the mom off!

[@SanDhampir]

maybe its a good thing that Dawn's mom should go away for awhile. i mean, she's always making it about her all the time when its Dawn thats hurting. sure, it looks like she's abandoning her. perhaps Dawn emotional scar that her mom conflicts on her constantly will heal in time if she's not there... just maybe...

[@LeeLee19901]

Yea I was thinking the exact same thing

[@Shannon881]

lol i friggin love when she's like "GO DAMN IT, GO!" :D

[@KurtCobainsMicrophone]

awww crying is how i stopped.....

[@deathlist94]

that father is one of the reasons that i miss my dad =) he is so kind and caring

[@KuramiRocket]

Man when I saw Dawn crying I really felt for her :'( I've been contemplating cutting myself. And I know your gonna say don't do it, you'll destroy yourself and it's addiciting you won't be able to stop. But u guys know the pain can be unbearable. I haven't done anything, and for my sake I hope I don't. And to u guys who cut, feel for u and hope things get better!

[@greencativy]

I kinda wish they showed the moment she first started cutting. Usually the first time a person cuts (from what I've read, experienced, and have been told by other people who cut), it's because of a really big event. It might clue ppl into why she self harms, and doesn't talk, or focus into her great artwork more, or...something that would work more effectively. I dunno...I think more of a history of Dawn would be interesting.

[@georgia66666]

My parents found out once, they saw the fresh ones on my arm, and they tried to talk to me, and I made up all kinds of crap about how it was the first and last time, and it was because they fought all the time. Now I still cut, just on my leg, and they still fight, and I'd probably be dead if I didn't have my friend helping me through it...

[@SizzleGeko]

@ha181293 well actually that is a step forward for Dawn. Because Dawn started cutting because of suppressed emotions. She had no other way to express her emotions except to cut. So in this case, yes, crying is good.

[@tiyabear]

@DanteChick09 My mom is kinda like that too she's worried what the people in my family would think because she wants them to think I'm perfect and doesn't think she's ever done anything wrong when it comes to me.

[@suus14]

lump in my throat..now I know how it must have hurt my parents watching me fall..im sorry mum and dad..im so glad you understand me now..

[@Bloombaby99]

@BlossomingProcess: Please know that my heart goes out to you. I may not understand your problems, but I know the feeling of hurt. One cannot type about pain, only feel it. I pray you will realize the beauty in yourself and love of your friends and family. I pray that whatever pain you feel will wash away like footprints in the sand. God Bless.

[@ha181293]

Good movie but "if you're crying you're not cutting" -Not true.. (but I get the message)

[@annielynge]

THE MOM DOESN'T EVEN FRIGGIN STOP. Gahhh.

[@aerianaeve]

hell is right. she's lucky, she's got a table and actual stuff in her room. i wish there was a forum or something where all us psych kids could talk. makes it seem less lonely.

[@Suuzz95]

I just need to cry too. She is like a little girl, so unsure about herself, because she has no friends. It feels like my life. Like the cutting. Damn, I hate that parents and the manner how they do .. Damn, I hate the mother so so much !

[@littlenatnatz101]

The mum just goes from one extreme to the other. One moment she's giving her every second of attention she can, threatening her if she cuts again she'll be put into a mental hospital, and just shouting at her all the time. Then the next, she's saying she's gonna go away and leave her for a while. WHY CANT SHE JUST FIND A HELPFUL MID-POINT??

[@MickeyMouse016]

Oh this is a good movie! :) Gotta love the lifetime movies! < 3

[@itmustbepaige]

I used to do this. I understand how you feel. Its the same way I used to explain it to others. Even though I don't do it any more, I still view it the same.

[@0Xenabby0]

I liked her friend, she was sweet trying to help her.

[@ichbineinbutterbrot]

I'm siting here, before the computer, and I cry. It's so sad! Normally I never cry while seeing movies... But now...

[@RaynbowUnicorn]

This was amazing. I loved it. It made me cry, it was so relatable. -3

[@babyduck198718]

Because it only causes more pain but them fighting doesn't help either. I had a friend who had this problem and it's very hard and everything breaks them down more.

[@ashlinkrater9643]

That is sooooo true, they make it seem like cutters just go around cutting up their body if one tiny thing goes wrong, cutters are nothing like this.....

[@iLuvYew125]

this girl needs a cat or a dog or something. a pet can really help a person feel apreciated and loved and wanted. my cat actually saved my life

[@bananabutt62]

i dont know if anyones mentioned this already but i think thirteen used the music in this movie as well. not that it matters or anything. i was just having deja vu throughout this whole movie because of that.

[@Caitsadventurevlog]

"I DONT CARE I WANNA RIP THEIR GUTS OUT!" I was laughing so hard, please tell me im not the only one?

[@KurtCobainsMicrophone]

awww crying is how i stopped..... i felt SO much better when i cried!! now ive stopped but i have a few scars on my wrist and i get the urge 2 do it all the time....but at least im getting better and now i know when i get very angry or upset.... i can allways cry :')

[@tracervudu7]

I almost think her mom didn't leave so she could get better. I think she left in hopes that she wouldn't get better so she could come back and say "ha! see it wasn't my fault!"

[@SpeltThisrong]

isn't this the same music they play on several dramatic parts in the movie, Thirteen? I love that movie.

[@laurasincollege]

i feel so lucky.... my mom didn't really bug me about it, she was just like, "yeah, I see why you would do that. when i was your age I just wanted to hack up my arm sometimes."

[@azgirlmarie]

i think the dad is the most emotionally unstable person in this whole movie O.o

[@sarachristy2455]

No cutter would run of class/ art shop or whatever to cut themselves, it's always a silent beautiful pain. This girl is such an atention seeker. Movies like this are the reason why people think that self harmers do it 'cause they're crazy and do it for atention. Both not true.

[@JustAnotherRottenKid]

Because he's really upset that his daughter is hurting herself and he holds it in but then all of his sadness and anger comes out and he breaks the glass to release it.

[@iraqidolphin]

Kids don't understand how hard it is to be a parent. Parents don't understand what it is like for youth with mental health issues.

[@charsigner93]

im in recovery to and your so right! we all do it different we all have different resins the main thing is we all are the same in only one way we all cut and we all do it for a reasin

[@gtmelyfe]

this movie can go in so many ways, the brother could be off using drugs or even cutting himself like his sis, a sequel could definently be made.

[@MandaLovessYeww]

when my mom found out i was a cutter she decided to tell me that if i keep cutting there will be "consequences." the consequence was seeing a theripist. something ive been trying to do for years.

[@REBARBATIVEbec]

seems like a pretty odd hospital to have windows on all the rooms, too. I know she's in one to make sure she doesnt cut...but the operating room? privacy please haha

[@KnG1Dakota]

she has my life. im just happy i havent ended up in the hospital yet

[@thenicolcervantes]

The only person I like in this entire movie is the therapist.

[@musicislove713]

my mom is the same way. i come home from a friends one day and she goes "are you still cutting? the news says its a trend among teens" it was so hard not to freak on her for thinking that i did it to fit in....

[@blackwingedangel722]

nah, neither. they're just really good with heart monitors these days.

[@imanmjfanforever]

It scares me, becuase i can relate, iv'e NEVER went this far but... school is a hellhole, i'm loosing my friends, my mum moans that nobody listens and makes everything about her.. Dawn just want's someone to love her, hold her.. especially my mum, everything about her...

[@Bekll]

No, they get an urge to experience a physical feeling to mask the mental frustration they have and marking on the skin is a way to do that. Also, you can get endorphins from it.

[@KiteRosesWater]

that music when the mom is looking around her room sounds like the music from howl's moving castle.

[@shadeslovanika8890]

The mother has to realize that not everything is about her. My mother was the same way, at least until I moved out and away from her and I was still cutting. People who cut have many more problems than just one, or just one person. I know that I can't pinpoint why I started, or why I continue to cut, all I know is that the source comes from many places. It's not all about attention, it's about taking control of your pain. It's nothing to be ashamed of, and shouldn't be feared or ridiculed.

[@KatieTatieTot]

My Mom's like this one. Doesn't let anyone express themselves. She's the only one allowed to get angry or upset. So dramatic and selfish.

[@FrauleinFrys]

That music drives me insaaaaneee!

[@fleurfanee]

I am proud of Dawn. She takes her place with her mother

[@TypeOTotallySketched]

I'm so sorry for your loss :'(

[@annikahelena1746]

For those who're saying that "real cutters aren't like this", well, do you know every single cutter in the world? people are different, and who knows, maybe somewhere someone is having this kind of extreme cutting? You never know. Someone might feel so lonely and worthless to end up like this. Who are you to say that it's not how "normal cutters" do?

[@rockxlegend]

Dawn's part would have been great for Ellen Paige.

[@iloveeleven925]

Well you see, glass is actually a liquid. So before it fully hardens, it is still a bit rubbery. :)

[@jdStarlight]

Wouldn't it be ironic if the dad accidently cut himself while crushing the stained glass thing he made? And then he suddenly understood why Dawn does it herself? Sometimes I wish life were like that...

[@xxpeacexxlovexx]

god this movie is so depressing i think i cried about 5 times during the whole thing

[@Singergurl777]

ya, i was convinced by my youth group leader to tell my parents, and he came with me to make sure i did....that was the stupidest thing i ever did...lol

[@bulgin18]

Every time I see her brother, I think a deep voice is gonna come out, then I hear that! makes me laugh how I think its gonna be soo deep xD

[@Narghargs]

Awwww the dads a sweetheart :)

[@Heamartin]

@teehkayy I didnt mean that she didnt "think propertly" in a bad context.. Actually, I've been in that situation before. But, comparing myself to what others thing, some people THINK their life is bad, or that no one cares, when people all around them are caring. My friend thinks that no one cares about her, and that no one really cares about her, but really, EVERYONE does, and she doesnt see it.

[@heyheatherhey11]

OMG!! HER EYE BROW GETS ME MAD >

[@lyssalikestoparty]

i'm worried that someday, that will be me in that hospital....

[@alextornupinside]

and for the first time, she really cries...

[@Brok3nR3cord9]

"Go, dammit. GO!!!"

[@xxxglitterglamxxx]

oh wow. do you live in the states?? Cuz I know in Canada, when a teacher or someone fins out about someone cutting themselves, they take it very seriously.

[@Tipoistoutnu]

This movie is based upon a novel named "The luckiest girl in the world" by Steven Levenkron

[@yeaimagangster]

yeah, it is the same end song. when the tracy and her her mom, mel, went to sleep.

[@G1rlF516nd]

Then sometimes when we're upset... it can make us do things, the opposite of what we know is right.

[@XxSharpieItBlackxX]

@SundayYacht i think that's like the commercial break for tv lol

[@TheMimi78]

The mom only left because she understand and doesn't know how to help her daughter.

[@ettena93]

Anorexia, drug problems, alcohol, cutting... they always dramatize it in movies, especially when teenagers are involved. Most people understands this, thankfully :P

[@BinaryEmyaneh]

I know but it seems like its an old movie. They didn't know much about this, they actually thought it was about 1 person out of 200... "If you're crying you're not cutting" this sentence taken alone shows how ingnorant people were about this subject before. But at least, they took a normal girl with normal problems, showing that it can happen to anyone as long as they're suffering, and how hard it is to deal with stupid people are not even smart enough to understand

[@G1rlF516nd]

I feel sorry for the brother now... maybe i was too quick to judge him. Most fourteen year old boys would be confused, scared and insecure and unable to deal with something like this.

[@JCmySaviour27]

God on every single part of this movie someone's gotta be talking about her eyebrow...and i just did xD