Shame and the Shadow (Shame and Love Series #2)

[@Sharkuterie327]

You’re a wonderful speaker, Emerald! You tackle difficult but incredibly valuable topics for self-reflection in such a clear and logical way. 💕

[@TheDiamondNet]

Hi Briana! Great to see you in my comments. Thank you! 🙂

[@malcolmmacinnis247]

Good video ! I like how you talk with your hands, it keeps it engaging :)

[@darubaru]

"...We put some aspects into the shadow in order to either maintain our world view, maintain our ego or to cope with trauma and unmet needs... These aspects becomes their own autonomous mini-personalities that have to manipulate us, as the conscious personality, into getting their needs met!" So that's indeed the shadow in a nutshell! Thanks again for the reminder :)

[@franciscoramirezespanagarc7974]

Very helpful video!!! My mother told me all the time that I was just like my father, although he drank more booze in a week than I’ve drunk in my whole life, and I do more exercise in a week than he did in his whole life. He enjoyed being a jerk, in order not to be like him I became “Mr. Nice guy”, a people pleaser.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Hi Francisco. Great to see you in the comments. 🙂 It’s a common experience to polarize our identity away from being like a parent who was either difficult or who was frequently the subject of condemnation from the other parent or other members of the family.

[@franciscoramirezespanagarc7974]

@@TheDiamondNet I’ve felt like when Luke Skywalker had a vision in an underground cave, he cut Darth Vader’s head; the mask exploded band revealed Luke’s own face…

[@jacobsolace177]

My brain/body set itself Totally Free of fear, anxiety, sorrow, despair, loneliness, shame, guilt, confusion, contradictions, addictions, ambition, competition, vanity, envy, greed, jealousy, attachment, possessiveness, ill-will, hatred, cruelty, bias, prejudice, and all other mental afflictions/disturbances.

[@jacobsolace177]

This gave birth to True Love, Peace, Joy, Goodness, Kindness, Creativity, & Clarity, in each & every moment of daily life, 24/7, once and for all, now and forever.

[@jacobsolace177]

It didn't take time. It had nothing whatsoever to do with time, effort, or choice. It occurred faster than the speed of light. The children are ready to be set Totally Free at the earliest age so they don't waste their entire lives with any mental afflictions/disturbances.

[@jacobsolace177]

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[@Richard-zp1uh]

Looking forward to your next video and you look fantastic!!

[@brah04X]

What a great exercise you suggested! Just actually seeing on paper the extreme qualities that I have embraced and the ones that I've pushed away for so long is truly eye opening. Fear can lead to such silly things

[@terryhouston998]

Love how you dig deep, how you go for the root of the issue. No b.s. Thanks for stepping out into the broader world to do this work.

[@pranjalagarwal159]

Goddamn, never expected youtube channels are that good! Every word is insightful and so love how you give detailed explanations.

[@OllieSmiless]

I can relate to your example. I call it "politeness" and "non-confrontational", which ultimately translates to not speaking up for myself, having no boundaries, tolerating abuse, etc. I was able to integrate most of it, but still working on some lingering shadows.

[@donstanley3887]

Living in the now awesomeness.. Wonderful Day Dreams

[@markusmeyer6391]

Compassion is the only remedy to shame. Judgement is the door to more shame.

[@bryancook7006]

As someone who suffers from chronic shame, this video series has been quite helpful. I appreciate the list-making and other practical suggestions. I keep wondering which qualities are so buried in my unconscious that I'm ignoring them. I suppose with practice it's like peeling the layers of an onion. In any case, much thanks for the insightful video.

[@durgeshsingh3842]

I love you Emerald! And your insights.

[@merlinmakinson4724]

I’m so glad I subscribed to your channel . I’ve been leaning a lot over the past year about Carl Jung and your video here is helping me to put the alchemical process together. At this stage I felt my ego had created a persona of a alcoholic and that what I needed was to change my ego system in order to change the person who was addicted. I’ve been aware of the shadow projection system from my previous AA work . I have a much deeper understanding now . Thanks for the video again

[@elnazfazeli8690]

Thank you for the videos Emerald. I hope you have time to continue on the love and shame series. They've helped me alot❤️

[@theechooflove7955]

Omg you just saved my sanity my love, I am seeing what I'm doing so clear your amazing thank you omg thank you

[@mateuszkuzma8029]

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." Matthew 7:1-2, Bible

[@yohaizilber]

Thank you for the fantastic contact! We are punishing ourselves. We are not stuck in a job, relationship, or lifestyle we hate because we deserve it, but because we may simply made a mistake.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Yes, we often ascribe meanings like this when dealing with shame

[@Alhemijaveka]

The flow, wisdom, authenticity... thank you Em!

[@DavidWeaverMusic]

Awesome Emerald!

[@geraldinevermaak2746]

By far the best, thank you. You make me want to heal and do better. Great spiritual leader, not once did I loose my attention span and you really teach from a non judgmental and unconditional love space.. Thank you!!

[@trevawhitmoyer682]

Very insightful, interesting and helpful, Emerald! Thank you for your videos. 💎 🌺

[@tapaswee11]

Complex ideas explain simply Thank you helps a lot 😊

[@TheDiamondNet]

Thank you and you’re welcome!

[@dkushma]

Thank you for all your help!

[@douglas50m]

Thank you so much for making these videos Emerald ;)

[@prabhakersaraswat]

Thanks for the information 🙏

[@C63Bez]

Another fantastic video

[@SB-yl1ng]

Smart woman.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Thank you for the kind words. :)

[@HonorineUwase]

Thank you for taking time to share this with us!

[@simoulchi1350]

Thank you . Love from Paris

[@TopGamesEntertainment]

Thx , I loooooove your videos , you're amazing thx again ❤️🙏🏻

[@ctobi707]

great video, thank you

[@lordapophis7438]

I really needed this talk Esmeralda! Thank you!

[@Me-We1985]

Thank you for the wisdom

[@FromIdeologytoUnity]

You seem to be doing well. Its hard to describe, perhaps more energised than last year.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Hi Nick! Thank you! Great to see you in the comments. I filmed 3 videos back to back. So by the time I filmed this one, I had a good momentum going. More off the cuff and less scripted.

[@simoulchi]

❤ what an insight. Amazing as usual .

[@mr.mojorisen2076]

Great analogys thank you

[@gilbertgonzales915]

More we shame others were going to have to fragment ourselves to be acceptable in our own eyes

[@dorian655]

This is really good stuff. Been experiencing difficulties at work and this has definitely helped me put things in a distant perspective. Much love to you all!

[@Angell_Lee]

Beautiful video as usual, thank you!

[@lukedmoss]

Thank you, this is well timed and in depth

[@rhimeralemuse]

Thank you again for this suggestive information, Dr. Donald B.Calne's book Within Reason, explains that emotions lead to actions, and reason leads to conclusion. Another writer, Keith Whitt has suggested shame as an emotional gift motivates us towards course correcting responsibilities. When I become aware of the shame association in morally wrong behavior, rather than discarding or avoiding it through repression or blame; I reason changing inappropriate responses, creativity inspiration alters the awareness of my being, opening the passages of opportunities for accepting the life of intuition.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Hi Rhimera! Great to see you in the comments. 🙂 Shame can often seem like something that’s of benefit to us because we often do become more selective about the actions we’re willing to take. But shame fragments us and creates feelings of invalidity. It’s much more constructive to touch base with feelings like guilt instead of shame. Guilt is to feel bad when we do something wrong. Shame is the feeling “I am bad”. The former is helpful but the latter is often harmful to ourselves and others. With guilt we can have concern for others. With shame, we become so preoccupied with our own feelings of invalidity and coping with them, it cuts us off from having connection and compassion for others.

[@craigdemeter]

Rad video!

[@worthyofdeath]

Thanks!

[@TheDiamondNet]

You’re welcome! 🙂

[@thecounselor6221]

🙏🙏

[@TheDiamondNet]

🙂

[@mjordan401]

The day after I watched this video I saw a perfect example of the family dynamic where shame causes one family member to cast a shadow over parts of their life.

[@nicholaskostopulos8631]

Excellent .. wasn’t Carl Jung amazing?! And so are you! I plan to watch and recommend your work to others … 👏👏👏

[@faerietech]

haha, not me watching this thinking that I was already familiar with the subject - only to then read through the list of binary (perceived) opposing attributes and see one that hadn't even occured to me ever before... 😵 thanks for this v well explained video !

[@TheDiamondNet]

Glad to hit you with something unexpected! 🙂

[@rockstarphysiqueinc.2391]

Thanks

[@TheDiamondNet]

🙂

[@heartwisdomlove]

this sharing is excellent the Dalai Lama recently wrote a book called be Angry

[@mayw2200]

There’s this colleague who drives me insane (heart palpitations and all). He is often late, he’s like a tourist at work, he has bad work ethics, information retention, immature Peter Pan attitude (comes late to meetings, toxic ego, can't take feedback...), not familiar with best practices, not up-to-date with latest trends. I want to do the work but I am the exact opposite of these traits. How can I make peace with having him in my team? I wish I could integrate any of it if it’s in my shadow! Thanks so much

[@TheDiamondNet]

One thing is to differentiate between simple discernment that his actions lead to negative outcomes and the internal judgment of “I am like this and not like that”. The latter is based in shame. What I recommend is to try to notice the positive points and diamonds in the rough of having his perspective on things. And then work on incorporating the gems you find in that perspective into your own life. But also coupling it with an awareness that all people are in a fundamental state of fragility. And even those who behave terribly are doing so because of something that “down the line” wasn’t chosen by them. “A person can do as they will but they can’t will as they will.”

[@mayw2200]

@@TheDiamondNet very insightful thank you

[@theechooflove7955]

Again I have to thank you so much you have helped me at this point now so much thank you I can't even say how mich

[@catqua]

Emerald. When I seen the 24 item list near the end of your video. It describes to me, Ernest Shackleton 2 yr Antarctic adventure and his leadership qualities, which is on one side of your list, which produced from his crew (Following) qualities, which is on the other side of your list. This combination made Shackleton and the crew act as one and survive the most incredible survival stories ever told. Is his story the integration of your list?

[@moonshineonme75013]

You’re good!

[@moonshineonme75013]

Better than good!

[@moonshineonme75013]

Thank ✨ You.

[@TheDiamondNet]

Thank you! ☺️

[@pugninja7037]

Mines saying i don't like, this is my value to others.

[@ahmadeldesokey5765]

Missed you.

[@yaredtsegayeart4970]

Can you make a new in depth video about the collective shadow?

[@saumyamali5619]

I saw one of your video about anima/animus... you talked about projection. That if we integrate it we will stop projecting. Nowadays I'm watching that that people are talking women should be more feminine and man more masculine so they can attract the opposite. are they projecting? What will happen if we stop projecting? what will be overall effect on oneself and relationships? what will be it's positive and negative sides?

[@childofgod5153]

Sorry, I know this doesn't really have anything to do with the video but...I've noticed that Jungian psychology is similar to the IFS model (Internal Family Systems), in that there's a lot of overlap. I was wondering how I can seamlessly meld the two philosophies together. So can you break down its similarities and differences for me?

[@omaravelar3271]

Hello, thoughts on Dr. Tracey Marks' content ?

[@windowcleaningalchemy2853]

Hey Emerald. Can you answer a question for me? PLEASE! Can you tell me why I keep seeing esoteric information stream into my conscious mind out of know where? One day I saw The Creation of Adam, The Rock of Gibralter, and The Scales of Justice blast into my mind like lightening bolts. Then for five more years I had a stream of consciousness go through my mind that showed me images of Jewish Mysticism and Shamanism. IS THIS THE COLLECTIVE UNCONSCIOUS? Pleas reply if you can?

[@niomicameron6056]

Just curious on a few things. How come sometimes things people don't like about themselves don't get pushed to the shadow? Like if they're socially akward or aren't assertive enough etc? They're aware that they don't like that about themselves yet it's not in the shadow. Also, what's happening when people are attracted to their opposites? Like if a quiet introvert is attracted to an extrovert and vice versa? Thanks!

[@drajessygutierrez]

Hey I like your videos and I want to do shadow work but I don’t know how

[@tunaerkan1016]

This is a very nice channel I have found. But seeing that last upload was 4 months ago scares me as if it has gone unactive

[@TheDiamondNet]

Don’t worry. I will post again. 🙂

[@farhadsalehi7194]

My god, this could be all said in 4-5 minutes, repeating and repeating the same thing for 22 minutes!

[@chloeagape4853]

I had a partner who was like that hippie. He basically was unwilling to get a job after 6 years of unemployment and became quite delusional about society unfortunately

[@TheDiamondNet]

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[@TheDionysianFields]

You should be making a living off this stuff. Of course, now I have to offer a (slight) critique. I'm both the hippie and the politician, but that's not to say I'm perfectly balanced. One side has to have "controlling interest" even if it's a close split (51/49%). We have to know what we default to in a pinch. Hence, there's always a tension between the two and the potential for shame any time the hippie-hedonist (in my case) overrides the politician. Unless I can come to appreciate that (even) the hedonist must have its day...which falls in line with your teaching. But such is a very difficult thing if your split happens to be 90/10%. All food for thought. Also note that the original hippies took their movement very seriously and might have changed the world had they not been watered down by hedonist-hippies. Thanks for all that you do.

[@Crazyboyakm]

Dear aap mere channel me Jake dekho ki mene kesa video banaya hai ,agar ko galti ho gai to batana ?🥰