Pros And Cons Of Being A Good Looking Man | Handsome Men's Game

In this video, I break down the pros and cons of being a good looking man | Handsome men's game. Things aren't always as they seem.
Good looking men can sometimes struggle in their dating life if they make the mistakes that I talk about in this video.
If you are indeed good looking, use it to your advantage but don't rely on that and continue to focus on improving yourself.
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[@callidus5586]

Born with good looks and forced to battle with other people's insecurities.

[@freeRoad249]

I agree

[@kunntakentay]

Exactly

[@greencam8572]

This shit true😭

[@nikhil8892]

Right

[@aaronjackson1493]

💯💯💯💯

[@dkm4567]

The jealousy from other guys is absolutely crazy sometimes. I had a very close “friend” who was always insecure and jealous in my presence. Everything was a competition. Every time other girls were around he’d bring up that time I acted silly. Would always bring up how much “money” he had even though he always fabricated the amount. Sometimes nothing even needed to be said, and you could just feel the competitive energy constantly. And the best part was, I was ALWAYS humble. Literally was never cocky once about how I looked. Didn’t matter, this dude was still that same goofy clown all the time. Finally had to cut ties for good. There really are some insecure losers out there man, just gotta ditch these idiots.

[@NBurnhoney]

Damn is that what it is Word for word I thought my friend was just a dickhead 😂

[@thomasanderson468]

Damn shit crazy I’m dealing with this same issues from haters at my job 😂🤦🏾‍♂️

[@mrike5651]

Had that treatment i left and everything came crubbling down ​@@thomasanderson468

[@otpays8552]

💯

[@cremzy2261]

I can relate to this sooo much I remember I turned around I look at one girl and my friend said she's not on your range after I looked away and minded my own buisness

[@johnprice3826]

Bro got it on point. The biggest thing is either people really love you or they hate you. I'm working in healthcare too so when I see people being cold to me it makes me feel uncomfortable and feels bad.

[@Rpgmaniac]

When you are handsome it can get you in trouble because even other men’s women be trying to hold eye contact with you even while they are talking to they boyfriend

[@kagoatleonard4019]

This is the worst especially with family. My favorite uncle brought his son who’s around my age(21) and his girl when we went to Disneyland. My uncle just wanted to catch up with him and meet his grandson. But let me tell you that this girl would not stop staring at me to the point where the family even noticed! It was crazy like this girl was even ignoring her son. I regretted being the leader of the group for rides after that one lol. It didnt help that most of the ride attendants were females either

[@Rpgmaniac]

@@kagoatleonard4019 lol damn that crazy bro

[@wesleysamilin9845]

Straight facts. I didn't start paying attention to my looks until adulthood. Feels great to be confident in myself but dealing with these new cons have been challenging.

[@mysticallytalented2690]

Same here. So much envy, each passing day you have a new test

[@Blinkers2007GameDev]

Same same! I’m 16 now and attractive. 2 years ago I was ugly because I never took care of myself. But when I started taking care of myself and lost 8 kg of fat I noticed I got a killer jawline and became attractive and women started notice too. Huge difference

[@paganilaster]

Women play more "games" too, trying to win you over by seeming "different". And yes, it's harder to get into a relationship. They simply don't take you seriously from the get go to avoid getting hurt.

[@ShaunZachary]

FACTS

[@Iamtemjin]

And that’s when they’ve already lost.

[@stevenpaster2195]

I tried to Holla at this big booty cutie in this Deli, she was talkin this neega (soulplane) but kept staring at me. I broke up her convo she was having with the lame, and ask her for her number, and she swiftly said no, and looked me up and down briefly like get outta here pretty boy, nice try.😁 Heb guess I didn't put in enough work for the number, attractive men have to work much harder

[@BihFaca11]

True. Few years ago i was on a dating app. Exchanged numbers with a women, she asked me right away do i have IG, i gave it to her. She said why are you on this dating app, you look like a model. Long story short talked to her for a month, multiple red flags came up, she was nice looking, had a good career, own place, nice car. But insecurities couldn't stop. So i bounced. And it didn't help she was from the Bronx.

[@duke45jp]

​@@BihFaca11 She met her MATCH bro. She couldn't handle it. She chose to be on that dating app...

[@marcuslorenzo9705]

You ever notice, in public, that if you don't acknowledge people because youre busy reading or working, people will be upset and turn away from you? Both women and men. It's like when you walk into a room, if you dont notice them they get angry, and if you do, theyre super nice and shit

[@buincqv67]

YESSS! I experience that daily. With both woman and men. Or you'll always constantly be the subject of conversation without doing anything to put you in the matter. In public, People will pretend their doing something or looking for something right where you're looking at as if y'all both are looking for the same thing and if you walk away shortly after it or dontt acknowledge them they'll walk away without even picking anything up as if they even intended to in the first place.

[@WesHaze]

@@buincqv67😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 y’all are hilarious! I can write a book on this stuff

[@landleymannery9329]

Maaannnn!!! He hit the nail right on the head brother I've been struggling with this since my twenties. My ex-girlfriend would walk 20 feet in front of me every time I take off my shirt at a water park, because it made her very uncomfortable at the fact that I am jacked and shredded. Looks are not everything, but you're right some of my biggest haters where ex-girlfriends.

[@JCno28]

This guy is speaking straight facts. One thing I wanna harp on is that as an attractive guy, your game has to be on point. Just like he said, attractive women are just waiting to shut you down, so you gotta bring more than looks to the table. Humility kills. Act as if you don’t even know you’re attractive when you approach women. That removes it from the equation altogether. Know how to make girls laugh and connect with them on an emotional level. That’s how it’s supposed to be anyway, looks are just a plus.

[@AndI0td763]

I’ve gotten the strange behavior my whole life. First day on the job with a female boss and her boyfriend comes up to me and says “I’m watching you.” When you’re an objectively good looking man you get challenged all the time. Don’t stress it though, I use it as fuel and practice for being cool and calm. Let these clowns make fools of themselves if they must, they won’t affect me.

[@omarals2835]

The daily challenges from other insecure men + the constant looks everywhere, no wonder I hate going out! Believe me brother I would trade good looks and charisma for calamity and peace any f**king day. I am sick of it man!

[@AndI0td763]

@@omarals2835 Personally I wouldn’t trade my looks. Yes I’d like to be less of an introvert and more outgoing but I am who I am. It’s mostly the same with anything, some people will like you and others won’t. It does get annoying having to deal with envious types but you gotta find your crowd and stay away from people who aren’t gonna be good for you. It’s difficult to trust anyone regardless.

[@omarals2835]

@@AndI0td763 It is truly difficult to trust anyone regardless I agree. I dont know brother, maybe you are right or maybe I am right, maybe nobody is right. I'll have to ponder upon it for a while.

[@AndI0td763]

@@omarals2835 Best thing to do is be thankful for your positive qualities and not worry too much about what others think of you. It doesn’t matter what they think, it matters what you think. Take care bro.

[@omarals2835]

@@AndI0td763 You are correct regarding that matter. I think I am just fed up with people in general, and it does not help that I am introverted and picky. I just wish to live in a farm surrounded by heavenly nature and take a long needed break from humanity. Thanks for your help and advice man, really appreciated!

[@watntarnation8471]

I always wondered why people stared at me. It makes sense now. I’m handsome. Getting stared at did not help my schizophrenia but when I realized why they are staring It all made sense and it wasn’t a problem anymore.

[@Ash_Hudson]

Yeah, I had the same experience my whole life. Made me insecure for ages whenever I'd go outside because I thought people were staring for the wrong reasons, and which made me mean mug everyone excluding some girls I liked. I eventually got over that phase, and that's when I realised.

[@Rudmyster]

This is all soooo true ever thing you said I’m a good looking man and it’s hard and easy at the same time. We must be able to make the other person comfortable when we walk in the room or it goes bad or not at all. At times we are just to much and we must go home early. My sister once told me Dear Brother you arrived here before you walked through the door. Everyone was looking for you and asking about you and when you walked in dressed to the Number 10 into the grand house that you built the entire room went silent. It’s crazy sometime just like that. And there is nothing you can do about it. I’ve also gone out and not one women would talk with me. And all the men wanted to pick a fight. Then there is the times when everyone want to be your friend the ugly dude wants a good looking wing man and all the ladies are on you. There are big up’s and downs. When you are Handsome.

[@FreeDumb101]

Not gonna lie... It's hard not building an ego when women throw themselves at you cuz you're handsome. Need to remind myself that fly as fuck too. 😂

[@abduljabbarmohammed4188]

Good looking need to have game but extremely good looking men don't have to have game. They can be shy and still women will chase him trust me.

[@boeingfan2479]

Wtf does “extremely good looking” mean. Sounds like some subjective BS

[@Sanjayk10]

@@boeingfan2479 Guys who look like Brad Pitt

[@spiscold50]

YUP THERE ARE HANDSOME GUYS THEN GIGACHADS LIKE ROMAN REIGNS,BRAD PIT, EXTC

[@MrJuly1990ish]

​@@Sanjayk10 Nah, the Pitt dude is considered old AF now, it's Micheal B. Jordan at the moment.

[@ovrxpsd]

​@@MrJuly1990ish lol wtf, older age doesn't mean you automatically turn ugly? there's a lot of older guys women still find extremely attractive. Johnny Depp, Robert Downey Junior, Denzel Washington, Pedro Pascal, Jamie Foxx, Oscar Isaac, Ryan Gosling, Jared Leto and the list goes on.

[@jeromestanford1992]

You speak 🗣️ like a “LIFE COACH”. Keep refining your craft. ALLTHE BEST

[@shadowlaw809]

I have noticed by been a good looking dude is that women just wanna hook up and some avoid a long term relationship with you

[@ShaunZachary]

Good point, bro. That definitely happens as well. That could be a pro or a con depending on what you are looking for

[@FreeDumb101]

Yup. I started to embrace my inner fuckboy and drop my desire to loved. Get money and fuck these hoes. If they want to stick around and build with you, cool. But it either way I'm not getting attached any more.

[@xrpmax]

Lol that's so true.

[@FreeDumb101]

Yeah, unless you got other things going for yourself.

[@taylorwatson5020]

I find the opposite. They want long-term.

[@stevenpaster2195]

Thank u bro. Outstanding video! I've been dealing with alot of hate so this is perfect for me

[@brand0nbandz]

Bro this is some top tier content! Love the rawness and realness. As a fellow handsome man, nothing you said here was false. Keep it up!

[@ShaunZachary]

Thanks fam 💪🏼💪🏼

[@seanknight9808]

Keep talking Shaun! I go through the same thing, mostly suffer from the cons.

[@johnkiilu4249]

Keep up the work brother. 👊🏿

[@frankv7068]

One of the things I relate the most is that I never knew why I walk around with a mean mug until you’ve explained it, I’m a 6’3” ft tall, solid muscle, good looking man that always avoided being mistaken for a pretty boy, I over “rugged” myself and even when I approach women I come off as over aggressive, I have to work on my smooth, stoic lay back swag because I just intimidate everyone around me.

[@Iamtemjin]

I’ve had guys in various spaces (even at comic book/card shops) look at me like they’re afraid of me or just don’t want anything to do with me and I get that vibe. Personally, I don’t see the big deal about them acting all “nancy” when I’m around. But you’re take on it makes sense onto why they act that way. Then they wonder why they end up being friendzoned/rejected in the female orbital front.

[@ShaunZachary]

Anyone who is confident in themselves will be neutral towards you or they’ll just be cool 💯

[@Whalebone66]

Happily I recognise most of the pros. Sadly, I recognise most (all) of the cons. I'm older now, but I still have to wade through the endless insecurities of others. Jaysus! They seem to think that I don't bleed, or hurt or pay taxes. Given how routinely unpleasant we are to each other, do they really think it's that easy for hot guys? 🤣🤣🤣

[@pjdavis4420]

I watched 3 videos already I'm hooked on this channel

[@ShaunZachary]

🤜 🤛

[@rosskee1910]

Tbh this channel is dope, man speaks such truths 🙌

[@deoncovington9485]

Women say there’s no way this man doesn’t have other women he’s to …sexy.. & … fly.. 💰…& successful.. good man..girl..💯💃🏿💰

[@ShaunZachary]

💯 💯

[@Jantonov1]

You are so incredibly intense that I laughed my ass off. But you're right about what you're saying.

[@ShaunZachary]

🤜🏼🤛🏼

[@LittleRedRideMeGood69]

Another straight video. *_Cooooooooooooool!_*

[@fabiomiguel9970]

Amazing video brother

[@ShaunZachary]

Thank you my guy 💪🏼

[@deoncovington9485]

Great video excellent commentary keep it coming

[@ShaunZachary]

Yessir bro will do- 🙏🏻

[@mikeyspice250]

I live in the UK. I'm glad my dude bought this subject up!!!!

[@marketwizard8012]

This is the most realist video on being handsome I’ve ever seen

[@mbrown6732]

Fire advice bro preciate this

[@7ackass]

This is the only video other than Rom Wills that I've seen in along time that does justice to this topic. All of these I've experienced plus I've made every wrong move in reaction/response to these events. So now it's time for me to reverse all of this and get back on top of my game. Thanks for the quality content.

[@ShaunZachary]

🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@jaywonder5155]

Good content bro! The only frustrating con for me is avoiding the Bussy Warriors. These dudes are relentless and aggressive as hell. I’m like dude I only like women. 😫

[@ShaunZachary]

Thanks fam 🙏🏻 ✊🏼

[@buincqv67]

They're persistent too.

[@tundeenitan4359]

Love you man, keep up the good work!👌🏾

[@ShaunZachary]

Yessir bro will do, appreciate you.

[@juniortate2373]

Wow this guy was speaking facts !

[@freeRoad249]

Respect broo thanks for advice ❤️

[@Movieclips_101]

Speaking facts 💯 and If she interested in you she will put herself in your area and if she not interested in she will stay out your area 💯

[@kentelley4589]

Your points On Point Folks✌️💯

[@jesusborroto4790]

Great video

[@marcusavila2961]

That male mean mugging at the gym... I get it a lot. Especially when their crush gravitates towards me and tries to get my attention. It’s obvious. And the more I focus on my workout, the more it happens. Dudes even try to ego lift right next to me with 10lb heavier dumbbells, but just for one set lol.

[@ShaunZachary]

True story man.. I just laugh when they do that

[@robertgarrawaychosen144k]

Or they start shadow boxing lol

[@ShaunZachary]

@@robertgarrawaychosen144k 💯 😂

[@WalkrFilms]

Or flexing in the mirror for 2 minutes straight🪞 while I’m tryna do abs when there’s mirrors everywhere else and I’m the only one there😂 fucking pathetic

[@Just93GGE]

@@robertgarrawaychosen144k 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@ACMR6297]

Not a handsome man myself but its so refreshing to see one that is aware and honest. I've talked to many handsome men about love and romance, including a handful of friends, and most just seem really clueless and/or insincere. Those guys just believe its magic and luck, or seem afraid to say that its their appearance (and my lack of it) that causes the difference in our experience.

[@hurdyu4146]

I believe it’s because most time subconsciously they know they look good even if they don’t believe it’s on a 10/10 level and they don’t want to appear arrogant.

[@ACMR6297]

@@hurdyu4146 I get where you''re coming from but most of the time it's them giving me generic advice for dating like "just ask her out bro" or "just be yourself" and I try to explain why it doesn't work for me and why it works for them. Also had one instance where there was a genuinely hot friend of mine who was crushing out on his female friend and I told him to go for it. He was too shy lol, but now they are dating.

[@Queenwraith]

New sub love the content. Corey Wayne 3% man is a great book

[@mbrown6732]

Another W vid bro 💪🏽

[@peoplesever28]

The answer I was looking for. 🤣Man I didn't want to talk to ppl I know about this cos they might think I'm arrogant or something 😪👌

[@cristianomessi3339]

I agree bro about the haters bro even my brothers and friends who are very close to me are jealous and hate me and try to bring me down sometimes. That’s happens to me a lot of time. I just cut them off and they come back talking again.

[@spearfishingmiami]

This guy is bringing factual content to the table. #100

[@deepblue188]

Being a handsome man has much more pros than cons.

[@jderrickson4597]

Are you handsome?

[@s-power2221]

I have been rocking the same cut and beard for over 7 years. I workout and also have a deep voice. Always got hit on by average girls and the girls i like they keep looking at me like they are scared of me or something, I don’t know. I don’t stay in the same gym for more than a year. At the beginning of the membership, i got looks and sometimes they leave the whole gym and train next to me. And I don’t start at all, and often i look away or move. After a while they get tired of me ignoring them and start becoming rude to me. And I don’t ignore them because I don’t like them. I am just a little bit shy and insecure about my life atm and i dont want to meet new people when i’m not doing great. At the end, it leads to very awkward situations, and eventually i get tired and move on to the next place.

[@PhotoLabMP]

You forgot to mention this other Con: Being looked at and hit on by aggressive gay men. They don't give a f if you tell them that you're not attracted to men. They'll keep doing it. This has happened to me numerous times.

[@FroscoTraining]

Lol you're right! Enjoyed this video, only discovered you the other day. Nice one bud.

[@ShaunZachary]

🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@boyzbad1978]

Shaun u my dude...just came up on ur channel...love it!

[@ShaunZachary]

🤜🏼🤛🏼

[@vsbsgdbhd2540]

You are hilarious bro I love your videos.

[@Leo11eff]

I crack up whenever you say “don’t be a fucking weirdo” that shit be so funny the way you say it with a straight face

[@atum497]

Everything you say is true... I've experienced everything you said

[@beyondnetero894]

You about to blow fr I can see it already

[@ShaunZachary]

Much respect Brodie, sky is the limit 💯

[@a5dollars]

Yeah he’s good. And I doubt he’s a natural. He put in the work to communicate well. You can tell

[@RoadToSix]

good stuff

[@rosskee1910]

As a decent looking dude you make me feel ice-cold 🙌

[@Mythical444]

Women definitely turn you down super quick, it’s really annoying……

[@thenumber1stunna69]

Yup and it’s always in some sly way too like mentioning or inserting their boyfriend into a conversation in an unnatural way like: Oh my bf loves that when you’re talking about work.

[@Malxomx638]

Salute boss

[@The_torero]

You have to remember, most "nice guys" are not physically attractive, thats why women aren't interested. If a genuinely nice guy was physically attractive, I am pretty sure he'd have no problem finding a woman. Other than that, I agree with pretty much everything.

[@Jantonov1]

Nah, they walk over them too.

[@The_torero]

@@Jantonov1 ..Jason Momoa is considered a "nice guy", he also happens to be very attractive. Do women walk all over him?

[@Jantonov1]

@@The_torero Don't know about him but he's a celebrity. Not a regular dude. Thing is a good looking guy can get walked on by women if he acts like a simp. Yeah they like looks but they hate a simp no matter how pretty he is.

[@madallas_mons]

​@@The_toreroThere's a difference between a nice guy and a kind man. A nice guy is a simp and submissive. The most handsome man in the world wouldn't be able to get women if he acted submissive and simped for them. Certain behaviours simply turn women off completely. That's why less attractive men who are hyper masculine (like Andrew Tate) do well with women. Looks play a part, but the masculine vibe is absolutely essential

[@The_torero]

@@madallas_mons .. Andrew Tate does ''well" with women because he is always flashing his cash. If he did everything exactly the same but no-one knew he had money, I doubt women would pay him any mind.

[@desiregamesking226]

People be wanting to fight me for no reason

[@cremzy2261]

frrrrr

[@cremzy2261]

one girl wanted to fight for almost no reason

[@Davidchendavid]

100 subs!! Nice

[@ShaunZachary]

Yessir bro, thankful 🙏🏻

[@bbmthegreat2209]

Bald Rui Patricio giving valuable advice

[@tcggggg]

Holy sh 😂😂 mate guarding the perfect term to describe it 😂 seen some dudes block they entire girl vision of me when walking by. Or wrapping they arm around when they was separate before. Or grabbing the hand. Its all little shh but any man with sense can notice patterns

[@BerserkerX]

At 20 seconds I already knew this wasn't the video for me.

[@DeadliftingIsGood]

When you're handsome people always want to pull on your energy

[@Dizzy808]

all facts 💯🗣

[@story1234]

Fuck. I need to organize “handsome survival group”. Handsome man will need weapons against the normie. It’s not a crime to be ridiculously good looking.

[@larryrubin5150]

If a girl likes you she won't let you go

[@Ash_Hudson]

I'm a drummer. I've literally had girls get on stage and dance beside my kit 😂 And then when I get off stage, I've had girls come up to me and hit me up as well. I am a good drummer, no doubt, but that's not why they approached. Let's be real. Everything you're talking about is exactly on point and lines up with most of my experiences. For example; not needing as much money, getting away with a lot more, etc. Not proud, but I've been broke forever as a musician, and that has not hindered me in the slightest in terms of getting women or even having them commit to me. I am definitely fortunate, but I didn't always realise I was good looking because there are a lot of people out there that would lead you to believe you're not, i.e, jealousy, haters etc. Watch out for them, because most of the time they're your own fucking friends. Paraphrasing, but Charlie Sheen once said, "It's lonely at the top, but I sure like the view".

[@Andy1119]

That becky chat works everytime

[@mcflex460]

completely right about the jealousy aspect. ive found the best position for a man is slightly above average or average and in great shape. if youre too handsome your dating pool is limited believe it or not. remember most people on earth are 5s or 6 in looks including women. if your too good looking there are gonna be times where you will be alone

[@tcggggg]

But being alone as a 8 + is a nice calm place. You get validation from girls looking at you all the time. You require less of that from a relationship like most people. But a secure sense of validation is always better.

[@mcflex460]

yeah you have a point but it gets old especially if you think some of the girls checking you out are your type and they run away if you try and talk to them @@tcggggg

[@iknowilookdumbwhenisaythis5593]

This shit is real and it sucks.. I get picked on constantly for bullshit, i've learned to tough it out and laugh it off but the shit never stops. How do you deal with it, is my question..

[@ShawnRealer]

Facts💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@ramonemachismo3386]

It’s fun being good looking but confidence and game matter more any day. And I look like a model.

[@ryansmith9082]

Shaun Zachary you should do a video the difference between cute and handsome.

[@Nikola7.62]

13:12 THIS. Everything you said is the exact thing what happened to me. One of the most frustrating things ever.

[@Ash_Hudson]

Yeah, it's usually always your own friends and people you trust doing it. It took me a long time to realise that's what was happening. Not specifically for you, but anyone who might be interested, I have an example: Had a good friend I was in a band with, a good guitarist. Not a good looking guy though. There was a really cute, popular girl he was into and would always send her the same boring messages nearly every day, "Hey, what u up to?", little did he know though, I was in a relationship with her. I remember when I told him face to face, it was like he was shell shocked. Understandable I guess, wasn't my intention though. That passed, and we carried on as a band. I didn't notice at first, but every time we went to a party and there were girls around, he would subtly try to sabotage me or bring me down. He wasn't specifically the only one. Flip it around though, I knew he was having a hard time with women in general and I actually genuinely tried to help this motherfucker, gave him pointers, tried to be his wing man etc. Me and that girl broke up at some point in the middle of this, and what is the first thing he does? He starts hitting her up immediately, to absolutely no avail of course. I wasn't actually that bothered, but it did open my eyes a little more. We stay in the band, we continue the parties. No arguing ever, I was just slowly downloading info and becoming more aware of the kind of dude he was over time. And he was one of many. I remember I started seeing another girl who was within a massive friends circle/music scene. We had a party at her place one night, him and my band and some others all come over and it was cool. Later on that evening though, most people have left, but he sticks around. I'm sat down on the couch with her, and he walks into the room after using the bathroom and randomly just calls me a "bitch", and I laughed and said "Nah, I'm not" and in that moment I just let it go. He then follows the girl I'm seeing into the kitchen where she is making food, and she texts me that she feels really fucking uncomfortable and he's stood right behind her breathing down her neck basically. We ask him to go home. I went through some trauma during this period of time, for a few months. Nothing to do with this guy or anyone in particular. Just some depression and personal demons I was dealing with. I clearly wasn't my usual self, but I was invited to another party after not seeing anyone for months and months. This dude was at the party, and miraculously he'd got himself a girlfriend at last. I was happy for him, and I expressed that as best I could despite feeling anxious and depressed. He notices I'm not my usual self, and took that as an opportunity to try and belittle me in front of everyone a couple of times during that party. Obviously he was riding the high of having an actual girl be interested in him at last, but I also saw it as pathetic behaviour, like he was trying to get one up on me. To add to that, he also said/joked before I stepped into the party "don't hit on my girl" or something to that affect, I can't really remember. And not that I'd ever hit on a friend's girl but it made me realise 3 things: 1. He was a fucking hypocrite, and 2. He was insecure as fuck, and 3. He obviously saw me as a threat which I hadn't even fully realised up until this point. Seriously, I was just blissfully unaware. I didn't see him again for a long time after that party, but during that depressive phase and isolating I thought about all of this shit and realised how much of an insidious, jealous little cunt he was and promised myself that I'd be more aware of this kind of thing in the future and learn to cut off the people who are like this immediately because they are pure poison, and you cannot help them. Trust me, I tried.

[@brianvelasquez118]

@@Ash_Hudson Shouldn’t have been born handsome then 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@Ash_Hudson]

@@brianvelasquez118 lmao

[@YoLightnings]

@@brianvelasquez118that’s such a dumb weird thing to say

[@JK-yi9gk]

@@YoLightnings yeasomepeopledontgetit

[@Unkn_prince]

😂😂😂😂 yo I’m Dying real talk Best channel fo sho

[@bigkeezo]

Preach brother preach 🫡✊🏾

[@AndrewPalios]

Nothing scarier to the toughest guy in the room than a dude he sees that could steal his girl.

[@C.R886]

Reading and watching this video is great, I sure girls have plenty on KZbin, but in the end of the day it's genetics! Most people have a bloodline of good-looking ancestors

[@Whalebone66]

Love your work. It seems to come from the heart rather than from some cold, fish eyed place. I have a technical question. In your piece you said this gym bunny chick was watching you for 3 months and after all that, I forget whether you said you'd dated/hooked-up. But why did you put up with the dog and pony show for so long? I get so tired of the the staring. Don't they know it's rude? And the weird displacement behaviors? Sometimes I just go say hi because it's gets me some kind of closure. Then I can get on with my day, one way or the other. Wish I was gay sometimes.

[@ShaunZachary]

Appreciate it fam! And man I just laugh at it really. When you have the awareness, you know every move they’re gonna make

[@JCno28]

Women need to be held to the same standard as men when it come to that lame and insecure shit. A woman doesn’t want an insecure man so why would a man want an insecure woman. We gotta see past looks and understand that she’s not worth your time if she treats you badly for being attractive. That’s some little girl shit.

[@StunningSilken]

Right

[@topgmusics3553]

Damn True Men

[@larryrubin5150]

You can't be a real nice guy but be kind

[@donsolo123]

I’ve been experiencing hate from women more than men! Especially lesbians. It’s all good tho boo boo. I understand. 😘😂

[@stlouisramsfan03]

I'm a "mixed Native" and my entire life I've faced scrutiny for looking more Hispanic or "like a Mexican" than people from my tribe. I have never ever really gotten along with my fellow dudes from my tribe. They have always despised me and I never knew why (nor do I still know why). Every time they verbally attack me it's always in reference to my looks. Even my male friends who are my fellow tribesmen act weird or say things to me like, "I don't know I don't have anyone to impress so I'm not going to work out", "I'm no manwh*re, I don't need to sleep around with different women." And these remarks or comments are always with me but never amongst themselves. My entire life I've been told I'm very attractive for someone of my tribal affiliation. Then when I thank them for the compliment and tell them I'm mixed and that I am also Hispanic they always respond with, "Oh, then that's why!" The irony of all this is that I have only had one girlfriend and it was 100% an online relationship. Hence why I don't really consider it a legit one to put in the books. I've lost my v card back in October last year and I consider that a success in ways despite her not being the most attractive. It's difficult for me to believe I'm very attractive. I don't know if I am. But I have a fear of being ugly because I have seen how difficult life can be for those who are not the most attractive. But certainly, I don't understand why guys act strange towards me. It's either they all hate me and I don't even f--king know them or they're decently okay and can talk to me without being a little b-tch. I don't bother others I do my own thing and let them be. It's crazy just HOW petty other men can be.

[@EddieBlanks]

👊🏾

[@BENTAYGA2]

Ty pretty boy @14:20 🤛🏿 epiphany

[@p3aoh161]

You have no idea how much I’m judged in classes and by people to my face because I’m handsome, they tell me I look like an actor, not everyone but people have jealousy

[@adamrussall3944]

You right

[@Hi_how_r_u_]

Im a VERY insecure guy, no money, broke, bad habits (porn & binging youtube), scared of talking to people, no succes with women I know working out would probably be one of the better things to do in order to build self-esteem I get discouraged easily because i have not much going for me atm and making progress is difficult because im too scared/insecure to be assertive in life. This is NOT an excuse to stay like this, it's moreso a reason to keep going and make as much progress as possible. It's just sometimes hard to imagine it's even possible. I gotta start hitting the gym. wish me luck.

[@davidaguayo9571]

I have a friend of mine whom she is literally a smoking hot 10/10 which she had an ex-boyfriend that was very attractive but he had no personality at all, she said he was BORING AF. Literally wouldn’t want to go out to eat, go to a party, travel with her, etc, etc. She and I hung out last weekend which we went to a bodybuilding competition to watch my friends compete, then afterwards we had dinner at a really nice Italian restaurant, then had cake and mocha at a 1950s themed dessert diner (we laughed and talked a lot and I taught her swear words in American Sign Language and I made her laugh), then went to a retro video game store, and then she said to me “I’m having so much fun with you!!! This is more fun than the dates I’ve been going out on.” I was like “WTF?!” Lol

[@martifrey3357]

she is using you and you didn't even realize it. No matter how "boring" her ex was she goes for those guys anyway

[@nacholibre4785]

Should have made a move.

[@madallas_mons]

​@@martifrey3357Nah, women crave excitement more than anything else

[@dieharder2k]

I've known about people maybe thinking I was a jerk, so its become part of my personality to actively be extra nice and genuine and non judgemental to everyone and treat everyone the same regardless of their attractiveness and social status to counteract that assumption immediately. Also my situation I think is even more greatly effected by the cons of being handsome because I am also greatly skilled and talented dancer and people recognize me and even know my name that I've never met. So my social status is super high and my confidence has entered into not giving a F what people think level. I think the problem I am running into I am just now realizing from advice regarding dating as handsome man is that I am possibly automatically assumed I am a player which I already knew was possible and worked hard against that issue. But also I am now aware that a lot of women will not give any indication they like you at all and actually you just have to go talk to them. Also if a girl kinda seemed not very interested I would Immediately just move on because I didn't see the point if they aren't reciprocating the interest level I gave them I didn't see the point. But apparently them showing low interest or even seem to not even noticed you at all in a club could just be them actively trying to avoid showing you how much they are actually attracted to you.

[@PJJBOSSMUSIC]

Interesting

[@dieharder2k]

I actually have kinda gained the impression that agrees with what he said at the end, that really handsome men might actually have less chance with really attractive women than guys who maybe are just above average or kinda handsome. I feel like really attractive women are like kinda on high alert if you are trying to get their number for a date because they assume you are a player, or they disqualify themselves from dating you because they are insecure that they think you are much more attractive than them and its too much anxiety for them to say yes to any dates if you ask them. Then also if you talk to very attractive women I think they are even more likely to consider you a player and will test you even harder it kinda seems. Maybe also its what he said in the video that the most attractive women are even more insecure and maybe even less likely to consider dating someone really handsome.

[@did.it.myself9022]

Lmao "Hey BeCKy.."

[@nikhil8892]

True