She Wanted to Revoke Her Sister as Bridesmaid Because She Didn't Want to Wear the Dress

[@bhavikakosambia3307]

She didn’t want to be the asshole so she asked her sister to be a part of the bridal party despite knowing her preferences. She could have been more thoughtful but she chose not to be. There’s nothing wrong with wanting your wedding to go the way u like but then she shouldn’t have asked her sister to be the bridesmaid. She could have explained she wanted the photos a certain way and knew her reservations if her sister asked. Your wedding is not just your wedding…don’t you want your loved ones to be a part of this and enjoy it? It’s a family event. Also, if you are someone wants everything to done her way then own it. Don’t pretend to be nicer than you actually are. Be upfront.

[@aryana77]

There's nothing wrong with what the bride did, she can choose who's in her bridal party. It's sucks because there's not really an issue here-- she wants the bridesmaids to wear a particular dress and if they don't want to wear it then they don't have to be a bridesmaid it's that simple. She's not banning her sister from the wedding she's just removing her from the bridal party, this way the religious sister can wear what she likes.

[@alexandragatto]

Controversial but I'm gonna give it a NAH (No Assholes Here).* I think maybe they both should have thought through the asking and agreeing to be part of the ceremony a bit more since the chances a highly modest dress would have been chosen were slim to none. The bride should have thought "oh, my sister probably won't agree to wear a knee length dress, I should talk to her about that before asking her to join" and the sister should have thought "oh, my sister is going to expect me to wear a knee length dress, I should remind her I'm not okay with that before saying yes". Putting the pictures looking good over including her sister in what is generally a symbolic role anyway doesn't make the bride an AH in my opinion, especially if she said "you can still come to the parties, get ready with us, etc, I just want all my attendants looking the same in the photos. It's not personal and I still love you and want to include you." The sister is not an AH by any means by not compromising on what she wears but I think they could both show more grace and understanding for the others' position and work this out between themselves instead of escalating into a fight. *Also, the post doesn't make it clear if the ask was made before the sister converted (with COVID it's plausible that years passed between the ask and the ceremony.) If sis converted after the fact the bride is even more in her rights to rescind the invitation because something material and unforeseeable changed that she had no control over, i.e. her sister suddenly not being willing to wear the dress when she previously would have had no issue with it.

[@anaiyaj5372]

I'm sorry but I'm agreeing with Cristine and Jen here. Knowing her sister's religious background and beliefs there are 3 better way she could have gone abt this. 1. If she just HAS to have that dress, then she shouldn't have asked her sister to be apart of the bridal party. 2. She could have chosen a dress with similar colors and themes that would also be respectful of her sister's autonomy. And 3. She could have diversified the dresses and accessories so that every would follow a common color or theme and her sister wouldn't stick out for wearing leggings/sweater. That way the pictures would look uniform and she could still have people wearing her dream dress and maybe be more inclusive of everyone's comfort levels cause it's possible other people felt uncomfortable but didn't speak up or stand their ground. If I was the sister I wouldn't want to go to the wedding either. And yes this is your special day and it's all about you but that doesn't mean become a tyrant and start disrespecting people's beliefs etc.

[@Tiaunavailable]

This is on the bride. Let's say for example the sister was Muslim, I don't blame the woman one bit for refusing to wear that as it goes against Muslim religion to do so. (Btw it's not the religion 's fault either, those are simply the beliefs, that woman and men should wear conservative clothing and that's okay.)

[@krisherdown]

The bridesmaid is giving a legitimate reason. I would feel uncomfortable wearing such a dress and it has nothing to do with religion.

[@tankarayvanderbooben]

Pictures are very important to the wedding, almost more important than the ceremony itself, showing skin should not be controlled by your religion they’re literally just being misogynistic by censoring women. Maybe don’t pick a religion that creates friction between your family, my opinion she should uninvite her sister for trying to alter her perfect day.

[@saitohajime9939]

It’s still someone’s religion. I’m not religious but if I had someone who was and their religion didn’t allow them to show skin, I would allow them to cover up. Yes, the religion is based on misogyny but most religions are. Also, we don’t know what religion the sister is but I wonder if you would be saying the same thing if the sister said she was Muslim?

[@tankarayvanderbooben]

@@saitohajime9939 well I don’t come from a Muslim family but a heavily Christian one, when my sister got married last year I wanted to wear a nice maroon dress for the wedding but because I am a boy and also was part of the bridal party my parents wouldn’t even consider the idea. Maybe I’m biased but when I marry my husband one day in a giant princess wedding dress, my parents will not be there.

[@saitohajime9939]

@@tankarayvanderbooben that’s a difference between religion and homophobia. Completely different things so pls don’t compare them. Christianity isn’t centered around homophobia but religions that have women cover in modesty are centered around modesty and coverage. Your allowed to not invite your family for reasons that make you uncomfortable because they are homophobic and/or transphobic, but the bride in this video wasn’t uncomfortable and she was denying the rights to this persons religious freedom. I went through the same thing you did, I even made a comment before yours on my experience, but that does not mean I have the right to remove someone’s freedom of religion for selfish reasons.

[@idkmusic5333]

what if it's not even her religion what's stopping her from wearing the dress? What if she just feels more comfortable covering up? imo it's not that important, people should be able to wear whatever they want

[@tankarayvanderbooben]

@@idkmusic5333 it’s not the sisters wedding, it’s a dress code, if she doesn’t wear the dress then she’ll be asked to leave