Should a Christian Date a Non-Christian? | Ep 174

[@Melchizadeckk]

No. I married my wife who was not a Christian 25 years ago. More than three-quarters of our marriage it was a challenge. In the end, she did become a strong Christian. Maybe the Lord used me as a witness. If you do date or marry a non-believer you are asking for a lot of heartaches. Trust the Lord in his word when he says not to be unequally yoked.

[@NB-ky5ol]

Pete Howarth Amen! I know a woman who married a non-believer. It has caused her 38 years of heartache.

[@youknowwhatdaysayinhoe5646]

I married a Catholic! No fun.😔

[@NB-ky5ol]

Christians who ask if they can date non-Christians should look to the Bible for their answer. The only reason they ask other people is so they can get a different answer that meets their desires. God very clearly states His command on it. If you still are unsure you need to stop pushing your will over God’s will.

[@the_sojournersbus]

When I met my husband I was going through a major season of unbelief and rebellion. After five years of marriage I felt so much guilt for my life and how I had been blatantly sinning against God. I found a new church family, and dove right in. Me going back to God has put a massive riff in our marriage, how we raise our kids, everything; really. I knew what the Bible said while we were dating, but I didn’t care. I willfully sinned against God. I felt convicted, but married him anyway. I always knew as a child it was a terrible idea, yet I let my own sinful desire get in the way. It has been 7 years now, and I’ve seen little to no improvement in his heart. I urge you all wait patiently for the Lord to give you a godly spouse, and not just do what you think is okay. The pain and suffering you will endure is NOT WORTH IT!

[@cyoungbe1]

I married a Mormon. It lasted less than a month.

[@NB-ky5ol]

Wise words. Thank you.

[@CozyCornPop]

Me and my wife were both atheists and horribly sinful......im too ashamed to be honest about our lifestyle. I have now found God and am very worried about her. She still wants to do all the sinful stuff we used to do and I feel like our marriage is over. I cannot trust her and she is stubborn in her desire for sin, she doesnt even see it as evil as she doesnt believe in right and wrong. (Well she does, but cant give me a reason why some things are right and wrong). Just pray for her, that's all I can ask. We have two girls who look up to her and now I fear they will be taken in by secular society. I will do my best to take them to church with me and show them Gods word.

[@henryv4222]

bless you, know you are forgiven. You are not to hold guilt, this cross you bear will be your witness. It is a critical era, not many unscathed - and here you are, of the Remnant! That is amazing :) i pray you shine and the husband is jealous. Jesus is the head of the one in flesh and He is the best man....your husband cant compete, and if you cannot beat em join em. praying for your kid also.

[@drackoni-han13]

The god of the NT bible was a Roman invention....

[@NB-ky5ol]

Never date or marry someone expecting that they will change into who you want them to be. That is the best advice I can give anyone on dating.

[@jamineregnier2924]

I was in a relationship with a man who was brought up Christian but was overcome and brought away by rebellion. I heard the Holy Spirit say to me very clearly to end the relationship; and to do it immediately. I listened and split with him that night. Less than 2 months later I met my husband who is such an incredibly strong and passionate Christian who loves Jesus. Ally is 💯 percent correct when she says that marriage is impossible with a non-believer. All married couples fight, argue, sin, are hurtful... It is impossible to get through those times without God. When I am upset or am being attacked, my husband prays over me and it makes all the difference in the world.

[@bizzyrizzy4075]

I love that you said this. To many teach trust your heart or your feelings. You should be leading by Biblical values and what the Bible says. I’ve see. So many people lead by their “heart” and then years later it ends up bad and they blame their spouse and “sin” smh

[@liesesmith5996]

Answer (from experience): Absolutely not. Total disaster!!

[@1689solas]

Our answers don't come from experience but from scripture. Scripture teaches we shouldn't be unequally yoked regardless of anyone's positive or negative experience. It's not a matter of what works or doesn't work but what God has commanded. I do NOT think it would work well but that's not the basis for saying a believer shouldn't do it. My basis is what God has commanded in His word

[@cyoungbe1]

I dated a Mormon. Don't ever do that.

[@cyoungbe1]

Correction .....I MARRIED a Mormon. Don't EVER do that. Marriage lasted about a month.

[@angelabent2069]

Definitely not you will always lose out

[@MrCourtneympulatie]

No. The Bible says we should be equally yolked.

[@1689solas]

@BIFF NAKED Well I'll stick with God's word. Thanks.

[@paxnorth7304]

With a golden inside ? ;)

[@tedlee594]

It is not a command from God. Read in context. Equally yoked is about the church having nonbelievers who infiltrates the church and cause division. It has nothing to do with relationship. Man inserted this "equally yoked" context into relationships; not God. The Bible also says NOTHING about dating what so ever. If this was true about relationships, then the Bible is wrong about believing spouse santifying their mate & children.

[@kcvriess]

I didn't listen to the Holy Spirit when I got married. My ex wife wanted to get baptized on the same day of our marriage so I thought that things would work out. They didn't... Nine years and two children later she left me for someone else. That was four years ago and I am ready to meet someone new, but only if she puts Jesus first in her life. It's very difficult to find Christian women where I live. I'm praying that God helps me find her and to be patient. But if it means staying alone, then so be it.

[@dawnsamantha6728]

The Bible also says to not divorce your non believing spouse. 1 Corinthians 7:13-16. It says that they are made holy by your belief and that the believing spouse may be the person who saves their unbelieving spouse My husband and I were not believers when we got married. I was raised Christian, but ignored it all when I moved out. I navigated back into the faith 8 years into marriage. When I read that passage in 1 Corinthians, I believed that I could maintain my marriage. There are challenges, but it not something worthy of splitting up over. Its been two years, and he is coming around. The changes in my life are apparent and he has noticed.

[@romans1vs6teen]

Answer: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! I am troubled that Christians...…. ( or maybe "Christians") are even asking this. READ YOUR BIBLE!! This is not coming from self-righteousness but from experience. From a time when I thought I was a Christian.

[@1689solas]

No. Next question.

[@dailydoser1309]

Really? How come? My fiancee is very devout. I am not. We have a fantastic relationship. Hell I even goto church with her. We respect each other and don't push anything on the other. That's like saying Democrats and Republicans shouldn't be friends. That's rediculious. By putting up barriers, all were doing is sewing seed of distrust and hate.

[@deluxe1030]

@@dailydoser1309 wait til kids come along.

[@dailydoser1309]

@@deluxe1030 we've already talked about that. Well, that we can't have kids.... Caveat; we've talked about adoption.

[@1689solas]

@@dailydoser1309 God's word says believers are to marry in the faith. They're not to be unequally yoked. That's "how come". If your fiancee or her church doesn't have a problem with this, that might be why you get along so well. They're acting like unbelievers themselves.

[@rshelly]

@@dailydoser1309 well, if your to be wife has a calling on her life given by the Lord, as a husband you are to lead and propell her into that calling. How can you do that if you dont have a personal relationship with God. She is compromising on her self, and she is settling for you being unsaved by her OWN beliefs as well. She is settling because a true believer would much prefer if their spouse was saved as well. She loves you very much, but not enough to want the same life and love of Christ she believes for herself... and to be shared with others. Marriae is a union of two souls...in holy matrimony before God. You may not see meaning in it, but if she does this would hurt as this is a direct choice against God. What you both decide is your decision, but you should ask her again where she stands in her own beliefs of christianity. Because its clear that being unequally yoked in saved and unsaved relations (and other types too) is not supported in the bible. So does she believe or follow the bible fully? This has more to do with your fiance because she is the believer, and has boundaries within her beliefs. Maybe the whole discussion hasnt been had yet... but I pray fornthe best for you both and that you can experience God truly. Because when she doesnt want to compromise anymore... youll become an object in her way and the tension will begin. Its just the truth.. ive seen it.

[@dbkyhere9229]

No! The ending doesn’t justify the means. Great counsel! Thank you!

[@Charles.Wright]

What is the "end" - ??? Being married to an unbeliever?

[@MsLuxDiamond]

Been there unequally yoked was heartbreaking and extremely stressful and embarrassing when my family couldn’t get along with my ex husband because he was very mean prideful and bitter toward them! My family was broken apart after 13 years of marriage and 15 total years together I was left to raise my 5 children alone! Thank God for my family who have always been there but he never has returned to Christ or done anything Good since the divorce he went into a major down spiral I have raised my 5 children in church with God’s Grace they are great children respectful and responsible! He married again to someone very secular it really is shameful to go Backwards from the World to Christ then from Christ to the World! All Bad! I am single but not always Sad! I used to be Married, Embarrassed and Sad! I prefer Single Free and sometimes Sad until God brings the right Man and I think he has but I take one day at a time and Pray and continue being the Best Mom and Woman I can be!

[@josephinenelan4204]

For the most part I would agree, but given that my mom married two men who claimed to be Christian (dad, who was abusive & step dad who puts himself first) and were able to hold up the facade until they married. I even dated one man who claimed to be a believer... but after he proceeded to molest me I further didn't care about that. So I did date a non believer because I wasn't about to be lied to and I wanted to know from the start what was what. We didn't get engaged until after he converted, and although he's a new Christian in our marriage, I'm watching real genuine growth. I'm not saying I'm THE example, but my experience has me 50/50 in the initial dating phase.

[@nyambsdeborah8954]

I understand where you are coming from. But I don't think a Christian should just date someone who CLAIMS and professes to be Christian. You have to see the fruits. They should have their OWN personal relationship with God.

[@jenniferaugustin7544]

@@nyambsdeborah8954 Love this response. This is exactly what I look for in a potential mate.

[@matiasyacsich9114]

I am really amazed with her wisdom, unusual for her age. Great understanding of God's word.

[@anthonycastellano7555]

I don’t see how it would work in the long run.

[@Ninjachick811]

I think that if you're gonna date a non-believer, at least make sure they're an open minded non-believer. My husband and I started dating in high school, and all of his friends told him to break up with me because I wasn't a Christian at the time. He stood by my side while I found my faith in Christ and we got baptized together before our wedding. We're happier than ever serving God in our marriage but according to this episode, he shouldn't have dated me. Take this episode with a grain of salt.

[@rshelly]

Thats like taking the bible with a grain of salt. We shouldnt abuse the grace of God intentionally. If it "worked" by the grace of God, you shouldnt encourage others to take a chance by denouncing the scriptures, and taking them with a grain of salt. Truth is, you shouldnt have joined with an unbeliever. God had mercy on you and worked it out, but we shouldnt turn our eyes from the word, and do things our own way. I think its dangerous and can lead others to interpet verses to fit how they feel. If we're saved, we're expected to follow the instructions, not cherry pick and expect grace to cover us thats not love. Im happy it worked out and your husband got saved

[@FearlessLeis]

She said that this is the exception and not the rule, but it's great that it worked out. 😊

[@TheMaskedThearpist]

Nah people should take this episode seriously

[@paula817]

Thank you for referencing verses. Always great to jot them down so I can refer back to them 😊 Values matter a whole lot....and spiritual values would be of the utmost importance. Do not be unequally yoked 👌🏼

[@valeriehancock1724]

I married a non Christian and can’t understand why pastors in my denomination would perform a ceremony for a believer and non believer. Pastors in my present denomination would not do that. My husband did become a Christian about 3 years after we were married, but it definitely has not been easy. He has not been a spiritual leader of our home and it’s been tough in many ways. Thankfully we now attend a great church, which has not been the case for the majority of our married lives.

[@albinsiby729]

Remember King Solomon ?

[@MsLuxDiamond]

❤️Love this great job Allie awesome advice to Christian singles!!

[@Melchizadeckk]

Good episode Allie. The episodes I look forward to and enjoy the most are those focused primarily on Christian topics and the Bible.

[@Melchizadeckk]

As Allie stated. It is far better to be single and lonely than married and miserable. When you are married your stuck and have to figure out how to make it work or suck it up and deal with a bad marriage. Marriage is hard enough after the honeymoon is over so start out dating only Christians and those that you align with politically. Two other areas that are important are money and sex. One is always the one that spends more and the other is more of a saver. Guys get into trouble because we tend to have more hobbies that want our money and attention. Sex is important to have a discussion about as well. One wants it more often than the other. Many times this is the guy and women start out with high interest and it disappears over time. When you are both Christians you have the Bible as your guide to help in these issues. Marriage is hard work. It starts out great and everyone has that in love feeling. After 25 years I can tell you that feeling comes and goes. To make the relationship go the distance there's a lot of self-sacrifice and forgiveness. If both people are looking out for the other's needs more often than not the relationship will thrive and be happy. And men women need attention and they need to know they're loved often. When they feel loved and cared for your life will be amazing as a side effect.

[@bizzyrizzy4075]

Excellent explanation it really is that simple

[@1689solas]

Why are people talking about their experiences as if that's the reason we shouldn't date unbelievers? God said we shouldn't. End of discussion. We don't date unbelievers NOT simply because it'll cause a bad experience but because God has told us not to.

[@barbieduggan]

Dylan amen brother!

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

Divine Command is a terrible ethics theory on how to live your life.

[@andrewwilson9183]

You seem to be ruled more by faith than reason

[@valeriehancock1724]

I ignored this and it’s plain in scripture. I grew up in a charismatic church where we tended to ignore this 😞.

[@louierivera7512]

Once again, Allie Beth nocks it out of the park! 👍🏻 this is totally 100% truth, it happens to us guys too!

[@Encrypted628]

Hard truths that need to be said.. Thank you very much Allie. Stay blessed.

[@rcpainter3023]

You have to really be careful about allowing the physical attraction persuade you into thinking that "this" might work. Just don't even go there. Find someone in your Church and if you can't, ask God to help you find someone of "like mind". It's challenging enough when you do share similar values why make the journey together that much more difficult?

[@puregirl2008]

Ladies (and gentlemen) listen to Allie! She is absolutely right and I know because I'm a Catholic married to a non believer . It is so hard and we have only been married two years. I thought the fact that he agreed that I could raise our kids Catholic would be enough but it's not. We have a one year old son and I already see so clearly how a child is influenced by both of his parents and how faith needs to be taught and practiced by both parents. If you are dating or wanting to date take Allie's message very seriously.

[@reallynow9606]

@Christiana Rossi Really? I’m an atheist my wife is catholic we’re happy.

[@puregirl2008]

@@reallynow9606 I'm glad it is working for you . do you have children.? For me everything changed after we had my son

[@reallynow9606]

@Christiana Rossi Yes we do we have 2, a 7 year old and a 4 year old. Why did it change for you, if you don’t mind me asking?

[@puregirl2008]

@@reallynow9606 I am raising our son as a Catholic but kids are influenced by both of their parents equally so his faith instruction and experience will be one sided. I am glad your marriage is working but everything Allie Beth said in the videos has been true in my experience .

[@reallynow9606]

@Christiana Rossi A I see, I’ve never talked to my kids about religion. They were baptized and they know my wife is catholic, but my wife doesn’t force anything on them. They’re just kids the things we teach them is respect, manners, science and other things. My wife sometimes takes my eldest to church and I never tell her not to

[@youknowwhatdaysayinhoe5646]

I'd hate to marry an unbeliever, but even some "Christians" are shady, too! (Use caution in selecting your mate!!!)

[@Sheena0901]

Your hair is getting much longer ! So beautiful ! ❤️

[@claymiked6582]

Funny how I don't see too many Christian men dealing with this, but I see it too many times from the Christian women. They know what they bible and churches say but then they keep asking the question.

[@rshelly]

There are probably less christian men dealing with this because they are the catalyst for a relationship to begin. There are FAR more women in the church than men, and just... in the world. Its easier for a man to make up his mind to marry (biblically) than it is for a women who should wait to be found. There are just so many women in the church who desire to be loved by a man of God and married to a loving husband. Its just the truth, and this is where many women have fear and jump ahead of God.

[@barrygaynor1025]

No, according to the Scriptures of both the Old Testament and New Testament.

[@gdblackthorn4137]

The simple Bible answer is NO! 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? 16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

[@JohnDoe-jc3cl]

What part of “ do not be unequally yoked “don’t you understand?? Do you want to be blessed?

[@rebekah-chriss-k4872]

No

[@rustymyers1659]

NO!

[@barrygaynor1025]

"What does light have in common with darkness?"

[@jp5419]

Speaking from personal experience... NO! It can never work.

[@angelabent2069]

Definitely no I can speak from my own bitter experience

[@TheCatD]

Nope Nope Nope. 2 Corinthians 6:14 KJV: Be ye not unequally yoked together ...

[@barrygaynor1025]

When Abraham found a wife for his son Isaac, he made his chief servant swear a solemn oath, that he would select a wife for Isaac from their kinsmen, not the pagan non-believing people.

[@danielb0121]

it will depend when you received your salvation, if you received it during the relationship then albeit; that's acceptable. If you received it and then start the relationship, then it's not in your best interest to do that. But, remember, it's probably better for you not to get married that to get married to someone.

[@Yesica1993]

"it will depend when you received your salvation, if you received it during the relationship then albeit; that's acceptable." What does that even mean? And, acceptable according to whom? You? We are to obey Scripture. If you're in a relationship (not married) as unsaved people and one gets saved and the other does not, you end that relationship. If you're married, you're stuck unless the unbeliever wants out of the relationship. Then the believer is not bound. Why is this difficult to understand? It's one of the clearest teachings in the Bible.

[@danielb0121]

@@Yesica1993 well I am talking about marriage, I was referring to when Paul spoke of marriage. I probably should've clarified that I meant marriage and not just dating, but I stand by what I said, it's acceptable in the eyes of Paul; and as he was led by the holy spirit, hence I'm sure the lord himself would see it in a similar way. I find it easy to understand though mate, just maybe not the best at wording what I think. blessings

[@bobbyrobby3600]

Answer NO. A Christian should not date and non-Christian. Done. Seattle. End of story.

[@barrygaynor1025]

Intermarriage with non-believers led to the falling away of God's people in the Old Testament, and it resulted in destruction and loss of the Promised Land, just as Moses warned.

[@YoKinah]

it's insane how much i needed these reminders right now. and not only the reminders, but just someone saying "i get it. i get the feeling of having someone who finally wants you". that really resonated with me and made my heart soften up even more. thank you jesus for not stopping at the pursuit of my heart 🥹

[@jaysaini955]

I mean I don't know, Id date a girl whos chill tbh.

[@crafterman2345]

In theory I agree with you, but I live in a very secular pagan environment where gospel believing people are virtually nonexistent. Even in church, there are no people my age who truly seem to be transformed by the gospel, they only go because of their parents. You say that I shouldn't even have close friendships with nonbelievers but I simply can't find any believers. What should I do? Asking for help here.

[@rshelly]

Everyones circumstances are different, but dont give up hope. This can be an opportunity for you to be an example of the living word daily in the midst of lukewarm habitual believers. Continue to oray for wise godly counsel your age, friends who are godly and a community to grow in. It may looks different than what YOU expect, but God will keep you in a place where you'll grow and if we make our prayers clear and back it with scripture he is faithful to deliver it to us. My closest friends i grew up with are not christians, and i questioned my position there and repented because I didnt want fellowship with darkness no matter how much i love my friends. And you know what, God has taught me boundaries with them and how to show his love without taking on the iniquity. He has also been faithful in providing a small group of women i can confide in, they arent local, rather international friends.... i thought theyd be within reach but what I have now is exactly the space i prayed for despite being in a dark environment. God is always on display, and i had to change my thinking that he'd put me in an easy environment when as the vessel, I am merely that figure of Christ for those looking for hope in a broken and fallen community. Each season will have its purpose, im praying God equips you physically with some people ( or opens your eyes to whoever's available that you didnt see) as he has already blessed us with ALL spiritual blessings already.

[@crafterman2345]

Shelly Rodney okay thank you this helps a lot. I agree that we need to be the light of Christ for others and that God has a plan for us even when we don’t know what it is.

[@nyambsdeborah8954]

@@crafterman2345 you can have non Christian close friends. I thinks that's a good way that they can see the love of Christ in you. But don't engage in sinful behavior that they engage in. Stand firm on the word. And maybe if you can't find someone, you can dedicate yourself to the work of God. Or volunteering to the poor

[@melissasagor4282]

christians do not want to be told no to their own selfish desires that go against God's word.

[@satinderkaur4453]

What an beautiful woman of God thank you Allie .

[@gabymejia6979]

Hi, and HELP! Just yesterday I went out on a date with a non christian. We really had a good time but totally noticed some red flags. Its hard because I did enjoy his company and I dont know what to do if he asks me out again. Should I tell him no because we believe different things and that could never work out? Should I just ghost him? And everyone in my family was totally against of me just accepting his invitation. What should I do?

[@knowyourlove5613]

Hmmm... why would anybody want to? I’m not gonna have anything deep to talk with them about. There’s going to be no common purpose, No common foundation for life decisions. What’s the point?

[@andrewwilson9183]

How do you know? People overlap in there views quite alot

[@TallowQueen]

Just asking Jesus how patient to be with my boyfriend. I've only been a Christian for a few months so I can't expect him to understand in a few months...We are long distance Navy so communication isn't always there. I'm 25 so I want a family soon lol.

[@misslauramayy]

Just to offer a counter opinion I think that it is unfair to write someone off because of differing denominations. Most people stick to the denomination that they were raised in ( for the most part). I have seen many times that people that are throughly in the Bible are very aligned in there religious convictions even if there denomination is not the same. That being said I think those are things that you find out pretty quickly, within a few dates, and judgement should be made from there. I think a large part of this is a problem of culture that says when you go on a single date with someone you are committing to them. The process of dating is to sort out if you are equally yoked or not no commitment needed. All this being said I don’t think it’s wise to marry someone that does not sure your religious beliefs.

[@commandergree2428]

Yes, only if that person is Catholic, definitely not if its a Muslim or jehova witness or any other religion. As long as that person respects your Christian views, there shouldn't be a problem, we should be careful not to fall in extremes.

[@marlonmoncrieffe0728]

What about Eastern Orthodox?

[@commandergree2428]

Marlon Moncrieffe I’d say that’s alright, we used to be the same religion

[@josephmarr1664]

No, a Christian shouldn't. However, life doesn't always work out as it should. Unfortunately, I didn't know what the Bible said before I got married and my wife is from a country where knowledge of Christianity is almost nonexistent. So neither of us were Christians. Thus, quite honestly, neither of us should've been getting married. It was essentially a profaning of marriage and it's something I feel remorseful about. However, the best I can do is to ask for forgiveness for my sins, repent and follow God, and pray for my wife that God may change her heart in the same way that He changed mine. Some might say that I was closer to being a Christian than she and others might even argue that I was one already, due to a common misconception about Catholicism. I was a Catholic until I was 38, which is when I finally began to read the Scriptures and found how un-biblical Catholicism actually is. I personally wouldn't consider myself to have been any closer to being a Christian than her, despite that I was at least somewhat familiar with some common teachings about Christ. Becoming a Christian had nothing to do with anything I did. It was all about what God did. My wife is from Japan. There are very tiny cultures within her country (which make up about 1% or less of the population in Japan) that identify as being Christian, but I'm afraid that not all of those within that small percentage even hold to a biblical view of Christ and what what God has revealed to us. Anyhow, it makes so much sense as to why God would command Christians not to marry non-Christians. It can be an incredibly stressful life. I'm thankful to be a Christian now, and God knows I certainly didn't deserve for Him to change my heart. Yet it can be heartbreaking when you see your loved ones following the world instead of following God. Nonetheless, whatever is in God's Will shall happen.

[@rach9466]

Where is that commandment in the Bible? Even the 2 Cor verses she pointed out aren’t a commandment, and it would mean any marriage even pre-existing plus all other kinds of relationships (friends/ business/ etc).. do people follow it for all other relationships? The best that can be said is that it’s not advised.. but I don’t see where it’s commanded not to. 😑

[@josephmarr1664]

@@rach9466 Forgive me if I'm misinterpreting anything you've just stated, but it sounds like you might somehow be under the impression that the only authoritative commands given by God are those written in the Law which He has also written upon our hearts (The “Ten Commandments”), but I assure you that God is not limited in such a way. Remember, all Scripture is Theopneustos (technically, “God-Breathed,” but also sometimes translated as inspired by God (2 Tim 3:16). Please reread the entire passage of 2 Cor 6 and see if you still truly feel that way. Most people might simply quote the verse (2 Cor 6:14) and stop there, but I personally prefer not to simply cherry pick a verse for an answer without ensuring the verse is being referenced within its correct context. That verse is a good beginning point for this conversation, but continue reading it through (2 Cor 6:14-18): 14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 What accord has Christ with Belial? Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement has the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God; as God said, “I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 17 Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them, says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, 18 and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.” With that said, this is only a portion of Scripture. I wish I had more time now to go into this further, although I'm not saying I know it all either. But there is more about this within the Scriptures. The question you asked in regards to whether or not it is something that must be followed with all other relationships isn't something that I can answer in a single sentence or two, as there is a lot of Scripture that covers this and it's dependent upon a number of factors. I think the bottom line is that Scripture is clear about the relationship of a marriage, but the world defines (or attempts to redefine) the terms of a marriage quite differently than God does, and in a nutshell I believe the Bible guides those in Christ to marry a partner who is also in Christ. With that said, the Bible also covers situations in which only one partner may have first become a Christian. If this happens, it doesn't say that the Christian should divorce if the spouse has not also been saved. Instead, the Christian is supposed to love his wife (or love her husband). I think the Christian must trust in God and pray over this situation. I don't think God promises us anywhere within Scripture that this will be an easy situation. However, we're also not to dwell on what happens on this side of life. The true life is yet to come. This length of this life is not even as long as the blink of an eye in comparison to the life after God resurrects us. We obviously can't change our past, but if I had already been a Christian, there is no way I would've considered marrying my wife. I'm not saying it's impossible for a one who claims to be a Christian to end up happily married to one who isn't a Christian. But I am saying I believe God is very clear about this subject, and as mentioned above, I believe one who is in Christ is meant to be become one with another in Christ. Anyhow, God bless :) and have a great week!

[@josephmarr1664]

@@rach9466 Rachel, my apologies. I made the below response before watching any of the video again. After posting that, I started watching the video and I see this lady actually covered quite a bit of what I was saying. Sorry about that. If I'd recalled everything that was in the video or had taken the time to watch it again before replying, I wouldn't have spent as much time restating what I said. I didn't watch the whole video again, but after posting that I watched the first 6 minutes of it and thus far she's covered a lot of what I was trying to convey.

[@rach9466]

@@josephmarr1664 thank you for replying. I was replying to your word choice.. just don’t see it being a commandment even in the NT.. that would imply it’s a sin. I don’t personally view that it is a sin, although it’s obviously not “advised.” Some will read that full chapter and take it as Paul is not talking about marriage at all, because he is dealing with another topic. If it is a sin, then good must come out of a sinful situation since some non-believers have come to belief within marriage with a believer. I suppose that is possible? (I’m a bit in confusion about grace/works/predestination at the moment so please forgive me..) Unfortunately I think there can be unhappiness within Christian marriages as well, and believer/unbeliever could be happy. *Ideally* though, better to be with someone who believes (truly) the same.

[@josephmarr1664]

@@rach9466 Hmm. Hmm. Well, I don’t know the entire Word of God perfectly, and I wouldn’t even try to argue that I nearly do. There is so much within the Bible that I’m not 100% certain of. There are some things that I do feel certain of, while there are other things that I have strong beliefs in, but lack absolute certainty of. And then there are other areas in which I still have so many questions about, and don’t believe I’ll ever know the answers to on this side of life. This is one of those areas in which I feel almost completely certain of though. With that said, we’ve only spoken briefly so I don’t think we fully know where each other stands on the subject. Before going too deep into this, one thing I’d also like to admit is that I haven’t been reading and studying the Word of God for anywhere near as long as I should have. In fact, for most of my life, I never read the Bible at all. I was living quite selfishly, mostly for my own pleasures, while partying as much as possible (although I’m not saying there is necessarily anything wrong with partying), basically living without any care for what the one and only true God had revealed. It’s crazy, but that’s the truth. I’m thankful that God changed my heart. I’m not saying I’m now living without sin, but I’m very well aware of my sinful nature now, and I’ve gained quite a reverence for the Scriptures. I spent 20 years in the Marine Corps and have since been working for a law firm, but I’m not an attorney. There was actually a time in which I was preparing to take the LSAT, but just as I felt ready to take it, God put it upon my heart to dive into reading the Bible. I was actually shocked by a lot of what I read at first. And as I was reading it, it was as if I was dissecting it and believing I kept finding fault in it. Those were actually issues with my own hermeneutics more so than issues with the Bible. With almost every sentence, I felt like I was finding errors and contradictions, but most of those issues were due to me improperly reading the text, and not being familiar with what some of the other books of Scripture said. It took me a long time to read the entire Bible, and the first read over was not nearly enough to make me fully grasp all I’d read. Additionally, I was doing too many Google-like searches for answers, which just led me to reading a lot of verses out of context. This began my next venture. Although my 2 undergraduate degrees had absolutely nothing to do with Scripture, I enrolled at a seminary (Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary). I hope none of this comes across the wrong way. I’m trying to give a bit of background info about me before saying what I’d like to say, but I hope you won’t feel I’m trying to boast about myself in anyway because this is nothing at all to brag about. If anything, it’s to say that I began learning about the Word far later in life than most. After my military retirement, I felt like God redirected me in my life. I wish He’d do the same with many of my friends and relatives. I completed a Master of Theological Studies in 2021, but I’m in no way a Master of Theological Studies (lol). Quite far from it. What has been established is simply a foundation of biblical knowledge that I feel I should’ve had from an early age. Although I’m not going to ever rule it out, I didn’t go to seminary with any intention of seeking a new career move. I wasn’t even thinking about job opportunities. And I haven’t sought out any. I’m still very fond of my job, despite that I have far too long of a roundtrip commute. The seminary schooling was necessary for me. It helped tremendously. I was SOOO far behind in biblical knowledge. To this day, I still don’t know as much as I should for my age, but I’m continuing to learn. Most people do agree that this passage is indeed speaking about an important partnership, like a marriage, in which both sides are together as one, working in harmony, in the same way that two oxen work together when they are yoked. That’s obviously not to imply that two oxen working together are married, but I think you get the point. From a hypothetical standpoint, let’s say the passage is only speaking in terms of your everyday relationships. If that were the case and if it were indicative of simply our everyday relationships, or everyday encounters, how much more so would these commands be towards those who are contemplating marriage? I believe it’s basically saying that the two should not be living a life that is going in opposite directions, as is the case for one who is a Christian and one who is not a Christian. That’s not to say that a Christian and non-Christian are incapable of being compatible at all. They’re both people with a sinful nature so they certainly can be compatible. But ultimately, they’re heading in opposite directions. One thing I believe it looks like we do agree with, is that it would not be advisable for a Christian to marry a non-Christian. In regards to your last question, yes, I think with God almost anything is possible. On a different note, one thing I believe Christians can depend on in a world that’s so full of sin, is suffering. Even those whom the Father loved most went through unfathomable suffrage. Look at John the Baptist, who paved the way. He was beheaded. That’s pretty serious. The Bible talks much about how much Paul suffered, and despite that he was at one time persecuting Christians, God used him to write almost half of the books of the NT. We know Paul was imprisoned and beaten multiple times and we can read in Scripture that he was facing death and was ready for it. Although that death isn’t explicitly written about in the Bible, many other sources indicate that he was also beheaded. Tradition also reveals that Peter was crucified upside down. Anyhow who has read the book of Job knows that Job definitely went through some pretty intense suffering. And the Son, Jesus Himself, well, we all know about how He lived completely without sin, yet suffered immensely as the perfect sacrifice to atone for our sins. Thanks for responding, and sorry for making this so long-winded. But just speaking about this makes we want to spend more time in the Bible. I need to spend far less of my time on Sundays watching football (which I admittedly love with a passion), and far more time reading the Bible.

[@innovationhq8230]

What people should be talking about is if Christians should even be dating other Christians. Courtship and such things not even thought about with the rapid apostasy of so called Christians.

[@InfoLunix]

What if you only get attention from men outside of the church?

[@Charles.Wright]

Still no? Why would that change the word?

[@nancygorman]

You had your baby!

[@barbieduggan]

Very good advice...

[@heaven9378]

No because God said so

[@BeckyCoon]

Short answer: No. Long answer: Noooooooooooooooo

[@Post-Trib]

You can date your spouse after you get married. Dating is something secular people do.

[@andrewwilson9183]

Than explain to me how a person should get to know their spouse. Plus I remember High School, people dated, Secular and Christian alike.

[@A.LeeMorrisJr]

Bad idea, you could be juggling NITRO! Neither he nor she is going to change unless they want to😧!

[@WWld]

No!

[@Story2ScreenMovieReviewPodcast]

Not to get personal here but I recently found out my ex girlfriend (who claimed to be a Christian) not only moved in with her new boyfriend but that is not a Christian. After she told personally he is a wonderful Godly man and how God brought him into her life at that time. So full of lying trash. A friend of hers told me this after trying to talk to him about his faith and there was nothing

[@danielcarriere1958]

As a Catholic, I agree. I dated a wonderful Baptist girl before meeting my wife, and it took a marriage prep inventory to figure out how different our expectations for marriage were, over and above our theological differences. I wanted a big family, she wanted one maybe two kids, I was fiercely pro life, she was pro choice. It was clearly not going to work out.

[@tink268]

@@Dasher49225 she was not a Christian if she had those beliefs lol

[@JaneKane08]

tink268 How is being pro choice or wanting 2 kids not Christian?

[@TheMaskedThearpist]

???? Baptists are Christians

[@TheMaskedThearpist]

​@@tink268you can't judge her heart only God knows

[@tedlee594]

It is God who is doing the yoking. Most videos like this implies man is doing the yoking. If you are a true Christian (a true believer in Jesus Christ), then you need to be open minded that it could be God who sent a nonbelieving spouse your way. A true believer would never falter from his/her faith in Jesus Christ no matter the circimstance. Remember, it is God that is doing the yoking. Peanut butter and jelly are unequally yoked, yet together they pair well.

[@bobkob]

Samson & Delilah,

[@asphaltking3648]

When 2 people get married the only way they enter into a covenant with God is of they are both believers.

[@curiousman1672]

Don't be yoked with an unbeliever.

[@bobkob]

Nope, says so in the Bible,

[@Swisspastel80]

You look beautiful today!

[@barrygaynor1025]

"Do not be unequally yoked!"

[@zosorob4559]

Lame

[@SDsc0rch]

we know what "dating" means... dating means....... HAVING SEX should a Christian be having sex outside of marriage

[@andrewwilson9183]

Thats not what dating means

[@baddkarmal5605]

This is truly amusing. Advertise a sponsor in a video about following the teachings of the bible. My house will be a place of prayer yet you turn it into a den of thieves?

[@NB-ky5ol]

Kyle Karcz Her videos are sponsored. It’s hardly a den of thieves. You are way too dramatic. Does your pastor take a salary? 🤭🤔

[@baddkarmal5605]

@@NB-ky5ol I'm not a Christian I am open minded to all religions. I was however raised catholic.

[@baddkarmal5605]

Because it's very annoying to me that anyone in this day and age would try to tell anyone else how to live. While using the bible to draw good god fearing probably mostly decent people to a sponsored video ... this really doesn't bother you at all?

[@eurekahope5310]

Kyle Karcz This video is clearly intended for committed Christians. Most of us would have no problem with any other religious or atheist/agnostic encouraging marrying within the faith/philosophy. Having similar religious views contributes to longer lasting relationships. As to the "den of thieves" accusation, Allie is not leading church, she is discussing her view of biblical principles. She discusses many topics from her Christian worldview. Do you have a problem with an atheist having sponsors while discussing relationships from his/her worldview?

[@baddkarmal5605]

Yes definitely lol. News, education, religion should all be free of ads realistically. If she makes you feel loved or entertained I am happy for you but I stand by my misinterpreted bible verse as much as she does with hers its supposed to be subtle but I seem to have made people mad with my interpretation.

[@arihawkins1731]

This is so sad. I can't even imagining refusing to love somebody because of their beliefs. It makes me so so sad that anyone would do this to themselves. (Sorta glad this channel is dead.)

[@nester5428]

That's is the reality

[@robbachmann6968]

Reading these comments has been a treat. Gods not real, religion is outrageous and evil. Just look at all these comments saying “no” are you guys kidding me? If two people love each other that’s the end of it. Why should superstition and silly texts get in the way of you being happy and content with a family. Y’all are blind. The Bible is a book written and reversed by people who wanted an answer to what happens after you die.

[@ardbegthequestion]

Woah. It’s really strange being on the “other side” now listening to this. Frightening... this is how cults are formed. Ok Christians, stay in your nice warm bubbles, continue to think that everyone who doesn’t follow Jesus is darkness and perverts and drunks. It’s laughable how much Bible come across as the author of gaslighting. I really have to stop listening to this garbage. It’s awful. I’m really sorry, I know it takes a lot to put yourself out there and I can only imagine with all the tripe that is strewn here, how much “haters” this pulls in. But this is the kind of stuff that is actually killing Christianity. So maybe just keep going... let it dig it’s own grave.

[@gospeltruth9345]

No

[@TheMaskedThearpist]

No