Should I Forgive a Cheating Husband? (Part 1)

[@Luke747gal]

Forgiveness can be done while also divorcing them.

[@wfranco209]

I moved on and found someone who fears God. I thank God that infidelity does not live in my home🙏🏼🙌🏼

[@stacychance7041]

My husband, drank alcohol, cheated a lot of times over the years, left to be with women and came back and forth. Finally left us in a world of debt, to be with his woman moved out for good. I have not been able to get a job. He is happy and doesn't care what he has done to me. I never turned to another man or drink or smoke to deal with it. He abused mentally, emotionally, cursed me. I want it all to just erase from my heart and mind. I've been asking God for help. It's hard. I want justice sometimes and then I just want to not feel this way.

[@anretta]

Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation.

[@Lovedrug96]

True but if u still love u can still reconcile

[@sabrinazakrowski1399]

​@Lovedrug96 how is that helpful or healthy for anyone? Once someone betrays you, it's very hard if not impossible to ever fully trust them again. Love is important but not enough by itself.

[@Livingstonesmusic]

Cheating women are even harder to forgive. When a woman cheats she goes to a much more selfish place in her mind and she seeks emotional fulfillment over sexual fulfillment. Men just cheat for the sex which while horrible, it doesn’t run as deep and it doesn’t resonate with the same overall meaning and significance 🙏

[@veenakakade2833]

Very very divine and high level thinking indeed. I forgave my husband too... He became spiritual and is respecting God... Don't know how he got to this.. Atleast now I see him caring for me more than anyone does or do... Forgiving and keeping my chin up without talking too much after discussing what he did to me point by point and how he could had addressed that feeling of want of another person patiently made him feel guilty... I feel mine was a "killing with kindness technique"... All this coz I had n have always loved him .. i know he too does with me n kids .... True at the back of my mind I always know I was not the only one... but I forgave n trying to forget... Yes when Jesus showed the way ... what are we as normal humans?..... by the way I am not a Christian.

[@tonyval214]

I made a mistake as I got into looking, liking and saving photos of models that my Ex-GF/spouse found out. It's not my intention to have an affair or interest to meet them as I'm already an old man and no financial means to have a good time, She broke with me and I can understand that and now she fpund a bf. It's hard as I really love her and asking her to give Us another chance, Yes it's hard to forgive as the quote say that " A Cheater Will Always be a Cheater" which I disagree as I knew that there's still a chance for someone to change just like your husband,. I'm thankful to you to share your experienced and May God Bless You Both. I prayed that she will come back and be with me to make this relationship works as I'm the one at fault.

[@perrymugo2249]

The pain of being cheated on is too much it's a month now n I can't stop thinking of how he did this to me despite giving him peace love n I cook sweet meals n make sure he is not stressed only to find out all this was for him to be sleeping with his secretary. My heart is so broken lord I forgive him, please heal my broken heart and soul.

[@cindyna5036]

I did forgive him and I gave him chances I kept finding him on dating sites I felt like he just broken our promise. I feel like he didn't want this to work he blames me for his unfaithfulness. He's also narcissist.

[@lafemme5716]

Cindy N A - Please be kind to yourself and leave him. You are not happy now and you will not give yourself a chance to be happy by repeating history.

[@komalawasthi1040]

Please leave him I always find my man on dating sites despite he says that, he has his man needs, and long distance for me has been nothing but full of lies...! He always tend to cheat on me by keeping my past mistakes as a way out for him to cheat...!! And holding onto something toxic would would only give you temporary happiness later you will suffer again and again and will find yourself suffocating with his lies and the audacity to cover the truth..! I wish you the best all you need is some courage to move forward it is difficult at the start but soon everything will make sense...!!!

[@yaritoko_]

Leave him

[@ryanehlis426]

My wife cheated on me multiple times, God required I forgive her.

[@HeresMyBit]

Wow really

[@iamthewitness658]

God bless you brother!!!! I forgive my abusive cheating husband many times the saddest thing is after all this now we're in divorcing process. Forgiving is special gift from God! I am lucky praise God!!keep me in your prayers am mother of 2.

[@ryanehlis426]

@@iamthewitness658 God bless and protect this lady and her children in Jesus name!

[@iamthewitness658]

@@ryanehlis426 Amennnnn

[@Lovedrug96]

If I love her , I will forgive her

[@iamthewitness658]

I am glad I forgive my cheating husband my lord helped me!!!! Praise lord!!!

[@HeresMyBit]

How are things now?

[@sunflowerogirl3479]

Yeah how are things now

[@iamthewitness658]

No good if we lost the trust there is no health relationship.

[@iamthewitness658]

@@HeresMyBit not good because no trust still hidding his phone from me and need more privacy. I really for give him my heart is healed but the relationship is norhealthy.

[@singsing8876]

​@@iamthewitness658 don't worry sister oneday he'll get what he deserve good or bad no one can stop God's wrath.just wait on the Lord 🙏

[@kp7223]

I like the topic, I hate that it's always an addiction. Perhaps he is just selfish. Perhaps he didn't truly value the marital bed. I don't think everything should be labeled an addiction

[@PureLifeMinistries]

Hi Kay, we completely understand. We hesitate to use the term at times as well. For one, the psychological community’s use of the term can easily help to create a “victim mentality” in which the person is absolved of any moral responsibility to change. The addiction is seen as a kind of disease which cannot be cured. We, of course, wholeheartedly reject the idea that a person would be called an “addict” in that sense. We mainly use it because this is the term many people are accustomed to seeing, and it does help our videos show up in KZbin searches. At the core of our dealings with people in sin is to press upon them the reality that we give our hearts to what we love, and when we give our hearts to something other than God-that is called idolatry. This is why our founder’s main book on the subject is called “At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry.” I hope this helps you understand better where we are coming from.

[@silverlining6247]

I cheated on my husband. I ask forgiveness to God. I ask forgiveness to the wife and I ask forgiveness to my husband. My tears shed and my heart put back into whole when my husband says, " I forgive you" the more that my tears flooded. My husband hugged me and say again " I forgive you"

[@standground7956]

*Not to be rude, did he divorce you shortly after forgiving you? People should forgive a cheater and move on remembering the good times (regardless of length of relationship). You should never confront a cheater showing anger, frustration and upset because it’s meaningless; It’s only an ego stroke for them. Cheaters don’t care what you think, how you feel or how it affects you, that’s why they don’t consult with you before starting something with someone else. Cheaters pretend remorseful when their caught, some will provide an Oscar worthy performance. Ending a relationship with a cheater is the most unselfish thing you could ever do for someone else. It allows them to opportunity to have a clear conscience, get with others guilt free without all the misleading and sneaking around. Forgiveness does not mean you have to stay.* Am I wrong?

[@Lovedrug96]

@@standground7956u are wrong

[@tyson192]

What about a cheating wife?

[@Myron1988]

Spot on 6:55 God bless us all!! Beautiful message! ✝️✝️✝️😇😇😇

[@PureLifeMinistries]

Hi thanks for your comment! We hope Kathy’s other videos bless your walk with the Lord.

[@Myron1988]

Thank you God bless you as well!!

[@cindyna5036]

Is it possible that I can forgive. still leave the relationship because nothing's moving forward? I feel like I'm not attractive enough I don't feel good enough. I feel he's looking for something better. I just can't give anymore I've given everything.

[@JordanLeightrials]

Are you unequally yoked with a non believer? Appreciate this was posted a year ago but praying for you either way, God bless

[@joycetarupuwa1978]

U forgive and then he keeps on cheating

[@susannasaddler6970]

It happened to me with children, but I forgive him but I leave with my children 😂

[@coralee7801]

Once a cheater always a cheater. Move on.

[@Lovedrug96]

U need to take this mentality off ur head. People do change

[@coralee7801]

@@Lovedrug96 You need to learn how to write complete sentences.

[@Lovedrug96]

@@coralee7801u need to go back to school, maybe take English class

[@cyralypsseah5786]

Do you consider flirting/ teasing as cheating in a relationship?

[@Sarah-xd4zi]

Duh?! Would your partner want you doing that? Does doing that have your partners best interest at heart? Could flirting lead to cheating some day under the right place and right time? YES. So yes flirting and entertaining other women is CHEATING and BETRAYING the trust of the ONE person you’re suppose to only do those things with!

[@simranaggarwal1225]

I in same situation, i am broken don't want to see him and leave him but i am totally dependent have a daughter if i don't agree with him he is going to bring us on road. 😭😭😭 I feel helpless... Its my second marriage. Dont know what action should I take.... He has so many partners don't stay with us

[@Nevergiveup-du9jm]

This lady is an inspiration

[@PureLifeMinistries]

Amen!

[@cindyna5036]

My Christian boyfriend cheated on me too dating sites and when other women would approach him he's flirting he was making plans with another woman twice this happen who knows how many more times.

[@PureLifeMinistries]

Hi Cindy. Yes, you could certainly forgive him but still end the relationship. The Bible speaks about not being “unequally yoked” in our relationships, and to me it sounds like this is the case with you and your boyfriend. If he is already exhibiting signs of selfishness like this, it would only continue if the relationship continues. Of course, people can change-that is what the gospel is all about! God is able to transform even the worst sinner into a saint-but we would definitely not recommend making any deeper commitments to a man who is dishonoring you in the ways you have described. I would recommend you listen to one of our Purity for Life podcast episodes, Episode #352, “Should I Marry a Man Struggling With Porn?” I know you didn’t specifically mention porn, but the wisdom in this podcast still applies.

[@levinious5924]

You can but leave em

[@perrymugo2249]

Have just realised that my husband cheated on year 2019 with his secretary now he is born again should I forgive him or forgive and leave coz they are still in touch with each other

[@Sweetheart-d6f]

What God has joined let no man put asunder

[@thetruehustler1365]

Don’t listen to Esther

[@auaumoana]

I’m facing a similar situation. I only found out because he told me. How are things going with you?

[@helenfoster3639]

My story is that through betrayal the process of forgiving was long and painful coming to the point eventually that I thought I hadn’t forgiven as “ thoughts” of what went on tortured me constantly … Until the Lord released me …. Jesus when asked by his disciple how many times should he forgive … Jesus said 70 times 7 That’s is 490 times per day ….. I was released , I knew I had forgiven from deep within my heart but the torturous thoughts !!!! Well thank the Lord I understood as soon as those torturous thoughts came , I once again forgave and prayed for the person and her family …. Never ever ever did those thoughts come 490 times in any given day !!!! When I battled with Gods help like this the horrid torturous thoughts came less and less vengeance belongs to the Lord …. I am grateful to the Lord for this painful experience as for the first time in my life I saw how black my own heart was as if I could have got my hands on the perpetrator I would have literally killed this person , that is what anger does God calls it murder !!!!… I personally was spiralling into a black hole stopping short with Gods Grace not blaming the Lord for not preventing The pain I was going through!!!!! Although I have been a Christian since I was 10 I really thought I had it all together, but the pain of betrayal totally unhinged me and everything I ever knew went flying out the window not really appreciating how black our hearts actually are if we choose to rebel against His Word … We need saving from ourselves …. Any one of us would commit the most heinous of crimes put in certain circumstances.. If you don’t understand this you do not understand how black the human heart is without God and also living obediently to His Words … I failed my test but I’m sure the Lord will give me another opportunity to practice obedience …. I now understand that nothing absolutely nothing comes against us without the Lord allowing it for His Sovereign purposes For me we r told to forgive and if we don’t God will not forgive us .. God understands about betrayal His friend betrayed Him …Also Gods also tells us to remind him that we r made of dust …. Yes the marriage held with Gods mercy and grace with lessons learnt from both sides and even healthier than prior …… We as Christian’s will be facing persecution in the West , we need to learn to take God at His Word … Bless you all 🙏

[@jemimahhezekiah218]

Till now i still wonder was t a crime to get pregnant? How can ur husband say he cheated bcos of me giving birth honestly .how many women gv birth aii? Really..till date ts very painful wen i think abu it..honestly even th trust i had for him is GONE. I at times regret getting married He still claims its only emotional cheating he did till today i dnt trust tht cos he flirts too much n blames th girls..to make t worse he is a pastor

[@Mike_Bloomberg]

I am sin 😭😭😰😰🥵😳

[@juriancastro]

We are not Jezus. Wish that wase so

[@leabolanio3142]

What if he continually keeps on cheating and lying🥹🥹

[@perrymugo2249]

The pain of being cheated on is too much it's a month now n I can't stop thinking of how he did this to me despite giving him peace love n I cook sweet meals n make sure he is not stressed only to find out all this was for him to be sleeping with his secretary. My heart is so broken lord I forgive him, please heal my broken heart and soul.

[@jenaesworld2085]

I feel your pain it’s been one month since I found out the truth

[@singsing8876]

same here he's still cheating.i stayed for my childrens but nothing hurts more than this😢

[@standground7956]

*You should forgive a cheater and move on remembering the good times (regardless of length of relationship). You should never confront a cheater showing anger, frustration and upset because it’s meaningless; It’s only an ego stroke for them. Cheaters don’t care what you think, how you feel or how it affects you, that’s why they don’t consult with you before starting something with someone else. Cheaters pretend remorseful when their caught, some will provide an Oscar worthy performance. Ending a relationship with a cheater is the most unselfish thing you could ever do for someone else. It allows them to opportunity to have a clear conscience, get with others guilt free without all the misleading and sneaking around. Forgiveness does not mean you have to stay.* Am I wrong?

[@curiouskittenn]

I am praying for all of you beautiful amazing women, the pain is unbearable and he is showing his true colors on Earth. You did zero wrong, this is his evil freewill displaying itself

[@perrymugo2249]

I regret leaving my job to take care of our kids as a good mum after struggling with nanny's now I am stuck n I can't move with my 4 kids I am in bad place I know God am born again but I feel I don't want to say with a cheater anymore.God will send a helper one day for me

[@perrymugo2249]

Have just realised that my husband cheated on year 2019 with his secretary now he is born again should I forgive him or forgive and leave coz they are still in touch with each other

[@rashid8646]

Divorce is not a sin. Adultery is. Find someone who respects you and respects God.