Should I Sleep with My Husband At Their Home During Christmas? | So This Is Life

[@mama.louis_]

Just go with the flow. You'll be shocked that your in-laws won't even think about it. Please go with the flow and don't try to force anything. Also, if you decide to make things a big deal, then that's exactly how people will take them.

[@dovinanambuya9682]

For me I think, let her not over put thought to it, just let things flow, If it happens, your not sinning, but also you can try having a conversation with your Husband about it, express your discomfort. I love you ladies❤

[@sothisislifeug]

@dovinanambuya9682 we love you too!!!! Eh. Even if you're not sinning...there is a way in which sex was always portrayed as an enigma!!! So the thought if someone knowing that you're doing it is not easy to sit with.

[@iamprecious2394]

Do you know that traditionally the banyakole invite you over when you are recently married so that you can do things in your family home just to make sure the things are happening. ( It's a tradition That is silent )😅

[@msmuhindo6657]

You people really overthink things. You are married, just go to your room, whatever happens, will happen. There is nothing absolutely wrong. Also, this is a sign that you and your husband need to build a ka house in the village (well, not purposely for your sexual pleasure). But because you will eventually have kids and there may not be enough space for all of you in that main house. I also don’t agree with you, Mysty. Why should they drive away? That’s utter disrespect for the mother who respectfully prepared that room for you. Just be clean, carry your towels, beddings and everything you need. Be prepared. In fact, leave a few pairs of beddings and towels at your in-laws home for use on your next visit. You shouldn’t be using your MIL’s beddings.

[@blessingbyamugisha]

I agree with you on people carrying their own beddings, in fact I find it so weird to use my MIL beddings for sure! My thought on them driving away comes from the woman feeling somewhat insecure yet still 'wanting' to get intimate with her husband. I feel like MIL would understand, especially if they are there for many days. Like 2 nights at home, one night away- for comfort. No?

[@blessingbyamugisha]

I also want to agree with couples planning their own house in the village because eventually MIL's house won't accommodate everybody. Thank you.

[@msmuhindo6657]

@@blessingbyamugisha when you say it like that, yes, that’s fine. If you are there for a while, you definitely need time away from that suffocation…