Should You Stay Friends With An Ex?

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In this week's episode of LOVELife I take a call from Tyree on being friends with an ex-boyfriend. Tyree says her ex is persistent in hanging out and just being "friends", but, after some scrutiny, we conclude that there is little to gain for either of them if they try to form a friendship. Enjoy!
Video links at the end:
Is His Divorce An Excuse?: • Is His Divorce An Excuse?
How To Make Friends As An Adult: • How To Make Friends As...
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[@caramelsandiego]

She enjoys rejecting him. It validates her. That's why I she's entertaining this "friendship".

[@1Skorpia]

shes an airhead but we were warned when she first called in lol!;)

[@owellhoot]

I'm not sure about that. My ex wants us to be friends too and this has been bugging me for months. I rejected him, he went away, I lived happily (sort of), then I was getting comfortable and he would call me again the next month and I would say no and then he got stuck in my head again. We both weren't sure if wanted to rekindle what we had. I didn't want to go through that hell again BUT he seemed to be really apologetic and my heart would melt a little each time. I was not even sure what boundaries there ought to be with an ex cause it was my first relationship. After months of this, I got my shit together and I won't let him coax into "being friends again". It took me five months to figure this pattern out and tbh a time had come when I would wait for him to call me back cause I missed him. However he is a manipulative asshole who took me for granted when we were together so I'm finally DONE with him.

[@karanpersand9153]

Jen Since88 she don't know karma on her way

[@selynasteriska]

I honestly think she just enjoyes the easy attention without caring about his feelings too much. She asked if she could be friends with him only cause she didn't want to deal with a problem in some months, not because she was afraid to hurt him.

[@TheInvisibilisation]

Why is everyone in the comment section so negative? Sometime you just feel like you have to take care of someone else (even if it's not the healthiest behaviour). Maybe she has a hard time saying no to him. We don't know her situation.

[@1992Xenomorph]

She wants the "boyfriend energy" and attention without having to call it a relationship. She is toxic

[@NAConen]

HE is also toxic. He doesn’t know what a secure, healthy relationship is because he’s a masochist.

[@OrthoLady]

She also sounds unintelligent, so yeah.

[@JazMegan]

@@NAConen do you even know what a masochist is? They made it seem like he was maybe wanting to reconcile with her and she admitted to not being nice about it but still keeping him around anyway for gratification for her ego. She's toxic

[@Shehroz-Ali]

That's very narcissistic. Been there seen and suffered that

[@MultiTanish123]

True

[@nstruebluey39]

In most cases with exes, most people go backwards. Close that chapter in your life and go forward.

[@nstruebluey39]

You're welcome.

[@Windtorment]

Sage (Poet) agree.

[@nancyxtay]

Sage (Poet) 💯

[@gymrachel]

Sage (Poet) totally agree 👍

[@empress9857]

Yep I agree at least distance and not a lot of contact my feelings still fresh I’ll be jelly and feel some type of way knowing or hearing what they doin so it would definitely have to be some distant for sure if we gonna be Friend then my definitely need to be over.. I’ll definitely keep it platonic no Sex touching expressing emotions

[@adamkatz6532]

He's lucky she left him. She's a mess.

[@moonstruck562]

lol

[@xcuite5493]

Adam Katz yeah that is what I think as well. She is a mess

[@Vixinaful]

Yea she sounds REALLY dumb!

[@emt680]

100%

[@killerbean5343]

She's stupid

[@snowshredder102]

Crazy how some people persist to contact their exes. I'm far too prideful (not saying it's a good trait) to ever contact an ex after getting broken up with. Sure it sucks, and it has eaten me alive for a couple months resisting the contact, but in the end it's for the best. You realize sooner than later that you get over your crappy feelings and meet new people that make you soon forget your ex. Spamming your ex will only extend your healing process, and I really do believe it can cause some mental issues if you let it drag out too long. Last year my girlfriend broke up with me and I felt like I went through 3 months of hell by dwelling on it. The thought of that feeling lasting any longer would have literally drove me insane. I'm glad I resisted the temptation of contact, otherwise I might still be lingering on. Be smart and move on people.

[@Germanywithtripti101]

snowshredder102. really really true, if it is not functional becoz of any sort of reason, it's best to just move on! If the two of u are mutual, just shut it off, no contact at all !

[@m.heyatzadeh]

Well said

[@GoInGcRz]

While I see your point of view. I think that we should also look at the way the relationship ends, and if space is needed, take it, but not all exes should be avoided just because they are exes. They can also make great friends. And who knows, a lot of the times people reconnect with those who they felt the biggest connection with, and it just may end up being that one person you accepted to keep as a friend, but don't dwindle on it, and instead just enjoy life and what comes with it. Make your own path and what attracts it will follow.

[@jpalpharo4304]

snowshredder102 she cheated on me so I don’t feel the need to be friends with her

[@MrLoowiz]

That's what happens when you put your relationship above your friendship. I try as hard as I can to avoid people like you.

[@barakatullah1035]

Mathew Hussey has a lot of patience.

[@Reddssoulja]

"I'm sure you're incredibly special"....what a line!

[@healingypsy]

he did laugh right after that

[@rolsonDotcom]

This girl is why some poor guys aren't allowed to move on. Chicks like this who just want attention and keep flirting and giving guys the wrong impression need to stop! She's such a dope! Poor guy!

[@Paytonrifley]

... she literally said she hasnt texted back, hasnt called back, has even told her to stop messaging her. Now that she's thought of giving into the continuous attempts of contacting her to hang out, she's the one at fault? Huh?

[@ericwilliams3673]

That’s his fault because if I’m told leave me alone than I’m moving on. If you telling me you are moving on. I will not fight and I will look forward. It’s that simple as 123

[@Jmc349]

Dude needs to get a clue. Don’t blame her for his simp behavior.

[@BlackLabelSlushie]

"Is this like a radio station or something?" was actually the smartest thing she said during the whole call.

[@lordyellowman]

She talks so stereotypically dumbitch it makes me kinda angry with her that he does that to her ex if she knows it comes from a place of unrequited love.

[@mikewill3946]

That woman sounds awfully cold hearted

[@NAConen]

Really? Isn’t he just incredibly foolish?

[@23magneta]

It's best to not be friends with your ex. This doesn't mean you need to be enemies or speak ill of them. It just means that if you happen to run into each other, you should be cordial, but not hang out. It just causes problems when either one of you starts a new relationship.

[@snoozyq9576]

False. I've been friends with my ex for years and we've both had new partners. His current gf is lovely and I like hanging out with them.

[@jamesgentry13]

Kinda hard when you are in the same friend group and close with them

[@HELLO-iq5rb]

Absolutely spot on. Perfect. 🙂

[@DD-ry4mm]

No only that! They will have ACESS to you which means they have space to manipulate you back into the drama.This is far more dangerous than it seems.

[@Alixir1228]

​@@snoozyq9576just because you can't let go and don't want to doesn't mean it's healthy.

[@nanoday1]

This girl clearly doesn't care

[@georgestate9384]

she's just mentaly challenged

[@MsSmashone]

So glad you called her out and told her to stop the BS and to be kind. Matt you're a blessing.

[@RosasNaturalLiving]

The caller is kind of annoying.

[@marylinrivera7806]

Shes very annoying!!!!!

[@elizabethwilson7741]

This girl sounds like she wants every guy after her

[@v.89G]

True

[@marlielaurent]

I believe she answered her question while asking it. It's clear that she is in denial. Most of us lie to ourselves when we don't want to believe what's right in front of us.

[@brandonflannery6927]

Marlie Laurent What do you mean? What is she in denial about?

[@luiggiibanez]

@@brandonflannery6927 that she is a terrible human being lol

[@euphoricaaaa]

She just wants attention, she doesn't want his heart 💔

[@harveydentcanwetrusthim8103]

She's just making sure he's never getting over her

[@wisintoh6318]

Bruh this is legit just Attention by Charlie Puth

[@karenlesley1868]

I stayed friends with 3 ex boyfriends and it’s no issue but I can’t stay friends with this last one because I was too emotionally involved with him. I think the staying friends thing depends on the depth of your involvement with them.

[@PhanRegSop]

It’s true. But eventually you reconnect and occasionally reach out about something every few years.

[@AnnaIsHere]

Maybe you will be glad to know that I'm going to break up with a guy because they are staying friends with his ex. Maybe someone broke up because of you. Isn't it "cool"?)))

[@uikmnhj4me]

@@yougotgroovebelieve it or not, women can have healthy friendships with guys they dated as long as they never slept together. If anything, them having explored the idea of being a couple in the past and mutually deciding it wasn’t a good fit is a great sign he’s not going to try and gain her affection once you’re with her. This is the problem people run into when they sleep around before marriage. Too many chemical connections make it hard to truly move on. That goes for men and women

[@uikmnhj4me]

@@AnnaIsHerethat’s super judgemental of you. If your ex has an inappropriate relationship with their ex, you are absolutely justified in breaking things off! But don’t assume OP has an inappropriate level of connection with their ex just because they said they’re friends.

[@lovemecom3832]

I adore him very well when it comes to how he gives advices to people who are in a confusing situation. For me, Matthew doesn’t want us to feel hurt again and his advices could help us avoid the position of being heartbroken.

[@Haaannz]

This girl sounds really immature, this dude needs to move on! She'll just be stringing this poor guy along!

[@DianaRoseF]

You can see Matthew talk so forcefully at the end, he was definitely boiling with anger...

[@jingye5096]

Matthew definitely has a caring heart. This makes him so special and respectful.

[@Nadiline5]

Omg this girl.... NO. She likes the attention.

[@jsmum196]

Well said Matthew. It totally sucks to hurt someone! It's something you live with and always feel bad about.

[@linjoki]

I'm in the same exact situation.. my ex was trying to be friends but i realized it was just bringing up lots of our past issues, which I hadn't allowed myself enough time to heal from. I'm glad I chose the right path and watching this video confirms it. Thanks Matthew :-)

[@PrincessSakuno]

this is like brain trauma again and again, listening (to the girl's train of thought and answers to Matthew's questions) but I'm glad she was open to Matthew's suggestions at the end and asked a very relevant question to wrap it up

[@LaurenMAguirre]

Your advice, although it incorporates advice on current issues and technology and frustrations, is really timeless! Thank you Matthew.

[@321ozzy]

It depends on so many things... If both are mature enough to keep the limits and both have no romantic feelings anymore, there is no problem in staying friends. This girl is just playing stupid as she knows he is into her and that nutures her ego, the fact that the false hope destroys his ego is secondary. What will she offer as a "friend"?

[@Fay8Fay8]

She just needs him to feed her ego.

[@clearbtv5707]

Very correct 👍

[@Zadlmond]

I think this video answers one kind of situation, but in my case I want to stay friends with some of my exes because the feeling of love doesn't go away, and i don't want to lose someone special to me. I have also been in a situation where someone I'm friends with for years (never dated) has suddenly told me they like me, and then I have to reject them every time i see them, leading to our friendship ending. What I'm saying is that it is definitely possible to be friends with exes, but you can't be friends with people who have feelings for you whether you've dated or not.

[@innogee8423]

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[@lauramanky4391]

100% wants him to still be around her to make herself feel better!

[@lauramanky4391]

@@oscarwilliamson1264 I am!

[@eveFlower101]

That's a slippery slope. I have a NO friendship rule including all social media and must say, it helps to turn the page that much quicker. I do, however, have an ex that I'm forced to see every 2 months and it's so hard. Hate it because it's does bring up old unresolved feelings. It bugs me even more because he's so cool about it.

[@sabrinaeteson9059]

Exactly what I needed to hear today! Great tips....thanks again!

[@TrishnaGuha17]

I am just feeling better and better. Thanks for showing us how to be a decent human being.

[@RockinDiva70]

I needed this tonight this was a perfect thing for me to hear tonight at help me make a decision that I need to walk away from somebody that I never thought I would walk away from. Because he can't decide what he wants and if I'm not going to be his number one priority I'm no longer going to be an option he can't make up his mind he's debating whether he wants to marry another woman or be with me and it's absolutely ridiculous and I'm done I'm going to make his decision very easy for him I'm no longer an option

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Lisa,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺,you only need a good man in your life!!

[@luxuryqueen42]

No do not stay friends with your ex especially if you're with someone new!

[@nancyxtay]

Cool Chicka 💯

[@NikkoYM]

I'd been seeing someone who is still really close friends with his ex-girlfriend. Really close. OK, we're older, in our 50's...but, let me tell you...it's a bad bad feeling. Awful. So, I agree. And, if you don't have any other friends than your ex --- it's time to go out in the world and make some new/other friends.

[@andsch3881]

@@NikkoYM My boyfriend needed a whole discussion about why it disturbs me seeing the photo of his ex-bestfriend with whom things got romantic and sexual for a while still hanging in his bedroom, 1 year into dating me 💀

[@NikkoYM]

@@andsch3881 so sorry. I guess we have to ask why we do this to ourselves. I have to ask myself why I keep doing it to myself. Thank you for sharing.

[@snoozyq9576]

Unless it works. Works for me

[@ejuakats427]

Thank you so much Matthew for this video.. Thank you for your honest opinion and not being irritated by the caller. Lol. Anways, I am currently going thru the same situation but the only difference is my Ex just got married few months back and is hell bent on staying "Friends" with me after leaving me to marry another girl 5 months after our breakup and yet he keeps manipulating me to not give up on our friendship. I finally have an unbiased advise and the perfect response to give him and would try as much to cut him off completely. PS; Your smile was really warming... :)

[@IS2KHJ]

My "ex" and I were close friends for a long time before we decided to date for a few months. I ended it because it didn't feel right. I didn't see him for half a year but after a friendly catchup he told me he still liked me. I told him to move on and stopped talking to him. Half a year later he ran into me and we exchanged small talk. He asked me out for catchup but after numerous excuses I ended up going to a very awkward dinner. On a tipsy night with mutual friends, although I kept my distance I ended up in front of him frustrated and rejecting him. A couple of days later, he texted me asking to see me so I decided to unfriend him completely. We're strangers now, but I do feel very bad to have lost such a good friend.

[@HausOfAdonis]

Mary Nn but that’s the way it’s gotta be sometimes. Good job.

[@marieee3579]

I feel like he should have respected your decision. You gave him several chances to stay friends without being in a relationship, but he wanted more regardless of what you wanted. I'm sorry you lost such a good friend, but in my opinion you did everything right

[@naterk9460]

"Should you stay friends with your ex?" Same answer as "Do you want to be just friends with your ex?" That's "friends" as in, only ever friends. Not "Well I'm hoping that they'll see how great I am and one day we'll get back together because of it." Not "I'm going to prove that I've changed by staying in their life." Whatever you want from your ex, friendship or getting back together, be honest about it. And if you want different things, then you need to go your separate ways. Think about one of your friends of the same gender (or if you're gay, the opposite gender) - basically someone you'd never have any sexual attraction toward. I have a guy friend who just got engaged. I see him on the couch making out with his girlfriend, I'm not sitting there getting jealous. It doesn't hurt me to see that. I support their relationship and I want them both to be happy, because I view them both as "just friends." If someone is "just your friend", you'd want them to be in a successful relationship with someone else. If you aren't comfortable with that - if you don't fully support them finding the right person for them, then that isn't a healthy friendship. I saw this happen with a different friend of mine. His girlfriend broke up with him and he kept persisting, talking about how he was going to "win her back" and "prove that he'd changed." This is someone who already told him she didn't want to be with him. Now he's constantly at her beck-and-call, always there as a shoulder for her to cry on whenever she wants it, and she even tells him in front of others "Hey, remember, we're just friends" when he talks about wanting to see her. It's really sad to watch and he now he's talking about how that's what he wants - to be "just friends" with her, and you can tell that's not what he wants. You can tell he wants more than that, and he's going to get hurt, especially when she fully moves on and starts dating someone else. He's only pushing her further away, because she knows she can get everything she liked about the relationship out of him without having to put in any effort or commitment. He needs to be honest with himself and with her about what he wants.

[@isaymanalot]

This is very thoroughly explained. I needed this demystification because this is what my ex's mindset and ultimately decision was to be fair to both of us. Thank you 🌺

[@Regal1]

Me and my husband are currently going through a divorce and we're still very much friends. We're still living together, but in separate rooms. However, we have kids together and we're both adults who realize that we've just grown apart.

[@Regal1]

@Christie Jensen he's moved out since I posted this. He's over here every day after school to help with homework and takes them every other weekend. We're still friends and go have lunch together sometimes. We also took the kids to universal studios this summer as a family. It's sad how many people can't be like that with each other or use their children as pawns to hurt the other person. 😔

[@skybri69]

haha! Maybe I analyze every angle to the situation, but I always just cut off ties with my exes. I started talking to two of them after a year or so and now we are perfectly fine as friends; can go out, eat, and chat about each others current relationship statuses without it being awkward. There is ways of putting a stop to someone without it having to get to a harassment sort of state. Block, block, block. If you're not putting a halt to it at this day in age with so many ways of doing so, you're just encouraging them to keep at it without having to say it. Guys don't get subtle hints, they get actions, women!

[@Germanywithtripti101]

Briana Domingvet so correct

[@RealityHurts923]

Does your new BF know you are friends with the ex. Fuck that. Never date a chick with friend exs. Some botches just dont get it

[@GoInGcRz]

@@RealityHurts923 sounds immature to me

[@charmedheart7887]

Hmmm... the caller doesn't sound sincere at all .. too "put-on".. Am I the only one feelin' it?

[@lemarch57]

Agreed. She is bragging. 'Look at me, I have some poor f%$@er wrapped around my little finger. Aren't I special?'

[@kebzy]

Good advice Matthew. i couldn't have said it any better.

[@krystalsmart7328]

I'm still good friends with one of my exes. We dated for 3 years and have been broken up for 5 years. I went states away to visit with him, his girlfriend and their new baby. If you really love someone it doesn't just end. And you can love someone without wanting to be with them.

[@fionacummings5421]

How did you make that transition, since were together for a long time?

[@Un1234l]

How're things right now?

[@moleiroo]

Yeah I'll have to disagree. When you say "if you really love someone..." you're putting all of the weight on love and disregarding everything else. How did things end up? Was it friendly? Were you respectful to each other? Were there social circles that needed to me 'avoided' by one of the parts? You see, love is not enough and you can't simply imply that if people don't manage to remain friends after a break up it's because they didn't really love each other.

[@snoozyq9576]

​@moleiroo you can't really disagree. It works for people whether you like it or not. Works for me too

[@emma3514]

@@snoozyq9576 hey, I am in a situation where I would love to be friends with him but I am still battling negative feelings from a breakup and need more time to heal, may I ask you, how did it work out for you? How long after the breakup were you able to be friends with your ex and if it was a long time (more than a year), how did you rekindle the friendship?

[@rowanelessar5892]

Very good advice, Matt. There's a similar situation I really wish I could pick your brain on, when you have the chance.🙏

[@legacybuilders6373]

If you read this, I love you man, you have sorted out what I was craving for! Thanks! May God bless you!

[@RaquelFantasia]

It's hard to keep friendship when: » you still talk to each other everyday, from mourning to night; » he/she or both wanna make love or sex together; » he/she still shares romantic songs with you; » someone recalls good memories when you were happy and in love; » ...

[@uphyraop7083]

6:00 Bro, your advice really deeply touch my heart. Even though I'm a dude but I'll take it for myself. Thanks.

[@punjabansruleworld]

Wtf this sounds like Trisha Paytas 😂

[@mistrzostvo]

"I don't know!" Honey, you know.

[@ziyou3494]

I think the key takeaway from this call is that, for two people to stay in a meaningful long-term interpersonal relationship (relationship in broader terms), their intentions towards one another need to be aligned. There also needs to be a healthy amount of respect, self-respect and NO presence of unhealthy attachment.

[@TheMalilife]

I wish Matthew was my mate. He is amazing. And when you need advice i wouldnt question who to call.

[@somyan8540]

TheMalilife yea and it's all private and confidential

[@11charlott]

You hace an amazing voice. Thank you so much for all the help you give us.

[@somerajdas2660]

Thanks Matthew this cleared all my questions about my ex! Great help!

[@christinacataldi877]

The 3 friends I had that I loved dearly then ended up wanting more, I had to go no contact for their own sake. I missed them and wanted to still have the benefits of their friendship, ie knowledge, resources, stimulating intellectual conversations, hikes etc etc etc I had to cut it out completely. One of these friends I just recently ran into 18 years later!!! And we’re still the best of friends. I’m thinking at this point he probably knows not to ever go their again!!!

[@nycgirl999]

I found this advice helpful day one into my breakup. Thank you!

[@dianat.5754]

The way he says "Hangin' in there for...so long...". Gosh.

[@leamubiu]

I am THUNDERSTRUCK at how gracefully Matthew handled the interaction. That caller sounded so stupid to me, I would have oozed contempt in his place. I couldn’t do this job without becoming a ball of stress and sarcasm….

[@ooxxssugarpuss3078]

'Is that cool?' Mathew you are amazing!!! He's stalking her and you are an amazing man! Truth!!! It's awesome. This girl is being schooled! That's good.

[@ClassicGlamDoll]

Well, for the way she reacts, i guess she kept him around. He was just comfused. If you aproach someone and they act like they think it is NICE or COOL, would you get the hint that they want you to go away? Lol clueless

[@zoewain6912]

I LOVE IT when my brain works at the same pace as Matt and I know what he is going to say in response as soon as she is done talking :D

[@TheWilDOn31]

6 months of that is crazy? I've had an ex who even after 7 years is still trying. The problem is mutual friends...

[@chempanda6388]

No point, both people have to be mature and on the same page. If they genuinely enjoy their presence as human beings then sure. Sometimes two people need to step back and eventually get back together but that's not always the case.

[@VictorMoraVP]

Perfect moment to watch this video. I see myself on this guy's (the ex boyfriend of hers) position. Thanks Mathew!

[@JesusIsRealJ1247]

You cannot grow as a person, let alone. With another person. When you've got one foot in the past, and one in the present... Cut off and sever all communication with your Ex's. So you can begin healing and growing into the better version, and learn from your lessons with them. So you can move into a new relationship with both feet. Because in the end. Keeping in touch with an Ex (W/o children involved.) Is unfair for the new partner you meet. Whom has both feet present for you to get to know. I broke up with a girlfriend because of this fact alone. I told her my boundary from the get-go before we got romantic. She continued to stay in touch. I dumped her the moment it was revealed she couldn't respect that wish. Because at the end of the day, she wasn't present and in the moment with me, as her man. As much as she could have been. In turn, could not fully develop feelings, despite the Ex was dating new women.

[@Kittyxoxo]

best thing i did is just stay friends on FB if we broke up on good terms but not responded to him as often and we both moved on and he noticed that I don't reply or talk as much online, maybe once a month but we both have no lovey feelings for one another and that helped me anyways, staying friends with a good person is fine. However i had an different boyfriend who was very bad and doing drugs etc, so i didnt stay friends with him, i blocked n deleted and 1 yr later, were still not talking and im doing just fine and being healthy, cuz i dont want those kinds of people in my life.

[@sonison01]

I agree, I never stayed friends with my exes for the reasons Matt talks about...

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Sonison01,You are beautiful 🌹🌺,you only deserve a good man!!

[@ummagumma00]

I love the way Matthew's handled this. She clearly doesn't want to be friends with the guy...she's power tripping and sees an opportunity. He's debasing himself by pursuing her for 6 months. All they could possibly be is TOXIC.

[@kutiepi12]

Wow! That is so helpful! Love this one!

[@maferogers8591]

Awesome straightforward answer...ex is ex...past is past...

[@tassy636thatsanee2]

wow, I like this chanel. i like this. thank you so much for your great and optimistic answer. you are inspirated me a lots. thank you.

[@tortugadave8765]

There are just some exes that you can't see in another way (an ex or significant other) so staying friends with them is harmful. But if both of you can get past it, then it could work (this usually requires time)

[@monicaricardo9192]

Matthew I love your KZbin channel I agree. Exs cannot be friends or males and females cannot be friends because there's an attraction there on either side of the party you're brilliant guy you sound very honest very genuine and I love your talks.

[@1ofnoother]

Many discuss whether or not be friends with an ex, but I'm surprised to not see this question/topic covered: What if he or she is good/best friends with their ex? And esp. if they've hooked up with that ex again years after breaking up, but still remain friends!

[@ruru621]

I love you and your brain and your smile.

[@ericwilliams3673]

She was pissing me off because she knows that she over with him and told him that. I would stopped texting him if I was her because at least he was told by her leaving me alone. I was misled and kept around when a simple I’m moving on when we broke up would be nice. Now that hurts even more

[@roselikethewine]

What if the tables are turned and after 7 years I truly just don't want to let go of the connection we built and at the end of the day he was my best friend, and I miss that.

[@neverbeaten]

Nea Rose Rodriguez hey how is your life going? Did u guys become friends? Do u love him, how did u cope with him being with others?

[@snoozyq9576]

Try it. I'm still friends with my ex. Would be a shame to give up a perfectly good friendship. The girl he's with is lovely too so I get another friend

[@jackbravo2172]

This video is 7:31 long and could have been answered with one word, NO...... Next caller please ;)

[@m.heyatzadeh]

Jack Bravo lol only if all coaches were like you...

[@owellhoot]

Oh no! Reasons are very important for you to understand your decision and without explaining a no, you don't get peace of mind. Trust me.

[@wingedarr0w]

It usually takes about 10 minutes for someone to accept a simple answer like yes or no.

[@XianRaodon]

It's not a simple issue to break down, though. Also her follow up question was really good

[@olivialian2075]

So true. Thx Matt. This is exactly what I need in this point.

[@499120037]

There are bunches of human beings for you to be friends with, I said this similar line to my ex before I even tuned into this video, the truth is, those dumpers who want to remain as friends are just selfish and will not be the true love. Just forget it, as soon as they find another person to fill the void they will just dump you this "friend" like a trash

[@belcanadiangirl]

Matthew, we all love u so much! thank u

[@incredibles4226]

Matthew got angry after listening to her but how beautifully he controlled that anyway...really appreciable.

[@meydiaengka]

6 months after the breakup, he reached out asking to be friends again. When i saw his name on my dm, my heart broke again. It felt like pouring vinegar on fresh wounds, just worse lol I loved him, but i cant see him as just a friend.

[@dylanbuchman8128]

Matt can you make a video on how to get over someone that you don't think is your soul mate, but that you can't get over because you're not meeting anyone new you like and going on dates? I never find anyone I could and would want to go out with, but not from any fault of my own. I just can't find anyone. And I've tried so hard to move on from the other person and forget about, but I miss what we had so much and not having that with him or with someone else I really like is killing me. When I'm by myself not doing anything, because my life is pretty empty and uneventful, I can't help but miss him and wish he were here. I'd really appreciate it if you could give some advice for moving on when there's no one else in the picture and you can't find any dates.

[@neverbeaten]

Dylan Buchman ı got the same issue. How did u solve it?

[@nahds6121]

i just discovered your channel and i love it. you give real good advice and i just hope that i can talk to you about my problem

[@Da90lias]

Can we download the full show on podcast iTunes?! I would love to hear it all!

[@becca2393]

Hi Matthew! I am in a bit of a pickle. My best guy friend ( We were best friends for a year: texting constantly, Skype, talk on the phone, hanging out almost everyday)…and I started dating a month ago, and he broke up with me out of the blue through text after ignoring me for 4 days. I didn’t see it coming, because he was planning future events with me and seemed really happy and lovey. His excuse was that he would be “too busy” and “i deserve better.” He also wants to keep our friendship going! I don’t even know if no contact will work because our relationship only lasted a month. We were planning to meet up but I blew him off because I don’t want to make it too easy for him to see me. It’s been 2 weeks since the breakup, what options do I have?

[@AnnaLVajda]

Depends on the ex and if you can be truly happy for them without being romantic or manipulative I don't see a problem. If they were/are abusive and manipulative steer clear imo.

[@cassieguedea8880]

LMAO poor Matthew. this girl has a lot to learn. "oh, reaaaaaally?" wtf

[@alejandragonzalezperez7161]

I understand this girl, sometimes after being strong for a while, you an feel a little bit weak and ask yourself if a friendship may work.

[@choxypush3228]

If my husband had watched this I don't think I will have to go through all the psychological shit that I'm going through now

[@lalala43926]

Needed this ! You're awesome!

[@dilayolga]

Im wondering when guy says "he is not ready for a relationship right now or there are so much going on in his life and he wont be able to give what you want and just wants to be friends" is that an excuse? or can that be legitimate?

[@angelagapa]

I'm in the same situation right now and I'm curious what happened next with you @dila y.

[@espositolne]

Varies. My ex gave me that excuse. Then a week later he called saying he missed me. The problem was him

[@Moonlight.Melon.Mounter]

its an excuse

[@TracyGreenwood]

OMG, she's just loving the attention. You can see why they are not together. "Is this like a radio show or something?"

[@vladmkrtumyan1660]

Can’t believe I even thought about this for a second every second you spent thinking about your exes another second wasted that you could’ve spent finding a better person

[@maryterezk8657]

"Go out there, meet new people." I wonder how this can imply during this damn corona?

[@fluflammer1]

Damn that’s some good advice, never thought about it that way

[@lauraheidorn4767]

so true I didn't think about it that way matthew. If your friends with your ex he may develop feelings for you again even if you don't want to go there at all with him. maybe I need to think about being friends on facebook with my ex.

[@and3311]

This girl was out to lunch mentally & not too kind, but Matthew handles it so tactfully. Much respect 🙏 She doesn’t have much sense of humility when it comes to other people’s feelings. She only seems to care about how it effects her 🤔

[@lovelynpeterson5601]

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[@lovelynpeterson5601]

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[@lovelynpeterson5601]

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[@NecoBabbles]

There are many different kinds of people out in the world. Just because YOU can see how a situation should be played out doesn't mean the person in the situation also sees your POV. It sounds like this person is very young and inexperienced in relationships, so Matt treated her as such while planting some good advice. At least you, the viewers, now know Matt isn't "making up" the women on his radio show....