MOST DETAILED guide to choosing a partner | Based on relationship science

[@abhiam18]

The importance of a single life can only be understood after getting married. And hence the single life is understated.

[@SR-mv2mf]

I ruled out so many red flags that I ruled out everyone

[@Shridharlifeschooling]

Haha. Well single life can be good too :D

[@newlife4503]

@@Shridharlifeschooling yeah really..

[@sizzlingschumi9005]

@@Shridharlifeschooling please make a video on single life for people entering or above 40s and road ahead with no marital prospects...

[@SR-mv2mf]

@@Shridharlifeschooling hmm maybe but it’s very lonely you don’t even have an emergency contact

[@veenak1000]

😄

[@SumonAdakpbx]

Avoiding the wrong person is far better than finding the right person. I hope people understand it sooner. You won't die if they who you think to be right don't come to you. You might think of dying if they who seem right at the beginning come and later leave you.

[@shilpirana9568]

we should avoid the wrong ones while searching/waiting for right one

[@SumonAdakpbx]

@@shilpirana9568 The first one is a priority, a necessity so that one's life doesn't become a living hell. The second one could be a luxury, a wish fulfilment even without which living is possible and even better with social services as people need knowledge, awareness, enlightenment, spiritual susceptibility more than a significant other in the time of growing number of humans vs resources.

[@poonambairagi2809]

best advice🤗

[@SumonAdakpbx]

@@poonambairagi2809 thank you🙏

[@SirkarAnupam]

So, Looks is not a actual criteria to choose the right partner...

[@Dora23Jan]

When he says; run away when partner treats you inferior! And he is absolutely right.😂

[@raisa_cherry35]

😂😂😂

[@Realestatetamil]

1. Attraction not good thing select partner 2. Assement first attachment later 3.Avoiding red flags way more important than collecting green flags 4.2 categories are important to assess person Relationship outcome levels High important traits Relationship outcome level 1) Positive it protects you from tough situation if they have 2) synergy of dreams and desires Ask their short term, middle time,long time goal check cohesive with your goal , it shouldn't be opposite end ,if its it again red flag 3) negative How well both of you managing emotion during conflict? To solve problem Through listen to partner Accept mistake Try to resolve Dont allow High negative emotion Inability to resolve conflict High important traits 1.Equality of status Rules for both of us 2.Unconditional respect Are they treating you with respect 3.high priority for you and your Relationship 1st priority it determines how much time and energy they are giving on you 4. Loyalty Are they loyal to you ? Know their past ? Why they will be loyal to you ? 5. Commitment Are they saying I will break up ,or they have some tolerance 6.honesty and transparency Are this person is liar

[@Terahydron]

attractiveness is not bad but it should be reciprocated. else sex life will suffer. i have had two girls confess to me but I didn't find them attractive. now after many years, I do. so a woman is fine if shes shows equal interest in you

[@shwetabhagat4482]

Attraction is most important. Always remember that. You are choosing a romantic partner n not a flatmate, guardian or just friend. Attraction is not always looks.

[@mswr3351]

True… Attraction is more towards personality and how we feel with the person.. if we are attracted to someone we can spend 5-6 hours easily.. however if we r not attracted we can’t even tolerate the person more than 1 hours.. I feel we are even attracted to our friends.. there r ppl who we can’t even talk to

[@Terahydron]

in genz lingo vibes

[@Sanji069]

Attraction will be lost in time, but compatibility will be there rest of the life - its not you can ignore attraction but there need to be balance between both

[@SchoolOfUnlearning3]

You are a mother/father to your kids not just a romantic partner!

[@Artlover2803]

​@@SchoolOfUnlearning3 you not making sense. Your description sounds like incest.

[@ericgideon7400]

basically communication is the most important skill in relationship and marriage

[@arijitsahoo1589]

We can't say that taking time to choose a partner always leads to successful relationship, so many relationships are successfully going for years with their acceptance in maximum 1 week only if they had really met their perfect match , it’s like a magical bond that never breaks❤😊

[@jenab3560]

I trusted my brain the first time and my marriage still failed. Second time around, I'm trusting my gut feelings, and so far so good. There are challenges, but we love each other enough to make it work. I think love is the foundation you need, and the commitment that you will stick through.

[@makeupbyavnijamwal3700]

What should you choose love or money for marriage?

[@jayeshbhagat4754]

What's ur suggestion for how to choose partner

[@kobinsadvance]

@@jayeshbhagat4754 You both should share the same belief system 80% of the time.

[@theaditxys]

In your case it's was hit and miss scenario, and it's doesn't prove anything.

[@mythoughts238]

Those days love conquers all. Today, compatability conquers all.

[@Jagritidhariwal]

Saw a thousand videos on dating, but no one has explained the stuff precisely the way you did. Thank you so much for this video✨🌸

[@saswatupadhyaya410]

Watch @shwetabh gangwar ,u will find other perspectives as well 👍

[@aakash950]

@@saswatupadhyaya410 that will confuse her

[@thewierd_thewonderful996]

He makes men specific videos

[@cacavb]

Because it's still unnatural (artificial..man made issue) so there is no as such absolute conclusion..

[@pragati__dhami]

Just two days back, I got cheated on by someone who was looking for all these traits in me whilst himself being an absolute pretentious man with a habit of compulsively lying. This video is truly amazing tho. And when Shridhar says “don’t forget your deal breakers”, it hit home. It’s no shit. Before going into that relationship I was well aware of my needs and boundaries but as soon as I caught feelings, everything started to become hazy. Anyway, it’s sad we can’t undo what’s already happened. Although I am deeply hurt right now, I know I will be fine in a couple months/years. If anything, this was a huge lesson for me. Love and strength to anyone else who is going through the same pain right now. Just know, it wasn’t your fault, you’re not alone and this too shall pass❤️

[@bts1true792]

This too shall pass

[@GlimpseOfJoy2022]

Yes ...it's very hurtful

[@GlimpseOfJoy2022]

Coz we are loyal at their back but later came to know from years he was cheating u

[@Crispr_cas9th]

Don't worry u will be fine..

[@pixie89]

Yes. And you're doing great. Stay strong

[@advaithhegde5553]

Relationship outcome level: 1)Positive 2)Negative 3)Desire of outcome High Importance traits: 1)Equality of status-feelings,wishes etc. 2)Unconditional respect 3)High priority for relationships and you. 4)Give higher attention, and are loyal to you. 5)Ask the reasons for every answer they give. 6)Commitment for life.

[@RajeshSrivastava-fr7qz]

भौतिकवाद भोगवाद बाजारवाद स्वार्थवाद गलाकाट प्रतियोगिता "मेरा जीवन मेरी मरज़ी मेरी ख़ुद गर्जी" के दौर मे इंसान का खुद से रिश्ता सही नहीं है तो भाई दोस्त पत्नी सन्तान ससुराल के साथ क्या खाक सही रहेगा.......

[@phaniraj5142]

Most of time we don't or can't choose our Parents, Teachers, Boss, wife and friends etc in life...but we feel and proudly believe that we have chosen one...

[@ajeetalbert91]

Rules for men: 1) Know yourself and be honest in expressing yourself! Don't try hard to impress! You cannot be that impressive person lifelong. Don't put efforts in this phase where you are trying to getting to know each other! 2) Similar ideas or common goals with respect to finance means your relationship has already scored 50% marks. 3) Excitement fades, monotony prevails and committment only saves. Stay committed to your partner! This is where you need to put in efforts. You will experience a different version of love when you just start caring for each other and be peaceful with each other's company. 4) Choose your partner who is attractive for your eyes but not for the society's standards! Physical attraction is essential to engage in physìcal relationship, especially if you are a man. You have a visual stimulus that triggers the neural system and makes your little boy stand. You cannot fake to make your partner happy. 5) Accept that you cannot have it all. Be a little bit of stoic here!

[@VG-ew4cn]

I'm really stuck at the 6) points you made. Physical attraction is important because as a man I need to feel excited about physical stuff. Any guidance on how to look at this requirement in an arranged marriage? Two girls with almost the same nature but one is okayish looking with a good salary and the other is good looking but has an average job. I should be looking at long-term stability as well but at the same time confused if I can ignore the looks.

[@Rayis4444]

@@VG-ew4cnPhysical attraction is important but you need to understand what physical attraction is for you, it could be a tall guy, short guy, fair, dusky, curly hair, straight hair, etc. But do not rely on the social standards of looks- fair only, tall only, etc. Find out what your heart truly desires and what you truly like.

[@random_person_on_internet]

@@VG-ew4cn no you shouldn't ignore looks It is the only thing makes a man fall in love with his wife Choose the girl whom you find attractive Salary of the girl have less importance You need to love her first Otherwise you will fail to love her and then she will have to live a miserable life where her husband doesn't feel any kind of attraction for her It is most painful situation for women ( coming from a woman)

[@Srimudit]

Feel lucky to be born in the era of KZbin where this kind of precious information is available at my fingertips.

[@drnaishadhpatel4399]

Explanation is top notch....i have suffered all those things in toxic relationship...you have to be mentally strong to overcome trauma and rejection...and i after few years i not regret my decisions

[@sohinisaha597]

I have been thru a failed arranged marriage. I can vouch for all that you have said to be true. But will add one more point, not giving in to attachment stems up from having a high self esteem. No amount of knowledage will work otherwise. To be able to love yourself alone and not only when validated in a relationship.

[@sujeethaca]

Attraction is very important in a relationship.. It is very difficult to form a connection without attraction.

[@Shridharlifeschooling]

We can learn to reduce its importance. Not zero. Just less.

[@Sona77.]

Attraction will spark your interest but it won’t maintain the relationship.

[@jigarrajani7948]

Very true,if attraction isn't important why do you need to have a relationship with a girl/woman ,this guy is just stupid

[@loveshell007]

In my experience, attraction can develop over time. Like u find a guy visually unattractive at first but then you start finding them cute once u get to know them.

[@ankanmazumdar5000]

You dumb, you feel attracted towards someone's personality coz of hormones released in your brain. This honeymoon phase will go away once your brain stop getting that oxytocin. Rather it's all about how good and comfortable you both are & feel as a teammate to win tackle and support each other in this life battle.

[@MoulyBhatt]

This is one of the best relationship videos I have watched in a while. There are not very many resourceful videos for south Asian culture in mind. Kudos to you!!!!

[@Sayantan365]

Sir, most of your videos are superb, but this one is gold. Take a bow. I wish we had something like this earlier..

[@taherin.patel7]

Wow this is just wonderful ♥️ I just wish i could have watched this vedio an year back, I would never had given a chance to a toxic person! Love your content💕keep making this , the world needs you!

[@mightyguy079]

Me too

[@nandamaharjan2985]

Thank you, this is a wonderful work you put together precisely and concisely. These things may sound simple but a lot of people don’t even know.

[@riyaraj3963]

After reading the caption, I am forced to comment that we have no clue but it is not us who chooses the partner. It just happens.....btw you are doing a good job👍

[@meghadave9363]

I think some level of attraction is required in a marriage. Otherwise it feels like a business partner

[@meditation8905]

True without attraction I don't think u love someone unconditionally .... it's not a different kind of love ...not a friendship ... looks don't matter

[@Deb_deCoder]

mrrg and relationship are wymn's business.. it's kind of transaction.. where men have to pay like a fool while she may or may not have s3x

[@pallavi6939]

Thank you so much for useful tips.. Actually I fell in toxic relationship ignoring Red flags & bearing consequences now. I have 2 teenage daughters who need this message to find genuine partners.. 🙏🏼

[@srivinay3382]

That honesty line is 💯 correct.. one cannot find peace when the situation is like we need to assess the other person's words everytime like a detective By the end.. we want to be a partner not a detective ✌️

[@GS-um6ww]

Good analysis.. Mostly decisions are impulsive .... One need to learn commitment....Temperament suitability is to be checked

[@brittelska1449]

I have ignored physical attraction and dated based on other qualities (reliability, consistency, attentiveness, good listener, thoughtful etc) and resented the lack of attraction the longer we were together until they started to actually repulse me. Two have still ended up to be narcissists. Really hesitant to take that advice again.

[@VG-ew4cn]

So you mean physical attraction is much more important?

[@meditation8905]

Solely Depends on person .. if he or she is a good human being no need of just advice .

[@pixie89]

Same here

[@asmitabharati4956]

Couldn't agree more, been there😢

[@renu653]

Agree

[@palashkhatri7820]

Thanks Shridhar , awesome video with great crystal clear information

[@Stoic_Paatthh]

Very very true,each and every word is worth understanding Many of us don't find red flags, sometimes our parents also do hurry,all they say,sab theek ho jaata hai, But avoiding the wrong person doesn't mean we have to fight back,amecabily partners should get separated, but in our indian families, after marriage specially, couples don't get separated amicably, specially lady has to fight for her rights, that's the irony

[@priyaraj9518]

So true.

[@harikrishna7626]

Bro your really great I have never seen such a good video on relationship. I was also connected to a person like this after the distance it was very difficult to forget her now only after some couple of months my brain is thinking rationally on the relationship thanks bro❤

[@ravishingtwinkle3811]

As I work on myself, I am attracted to values in a person, also how loving accepting they are to themselves

[@stelinethomas3580]

Very very useful & explained in a way that's easy to digest. Absolutely loved the content & structure

[@rupak1048]

I have never thought there can be such criteria to choose your partner. Life was not easy and now i am getting to know it's more than not easy

[@gargi3553]

This is really the best video on choosing a partner I have ever seen Thnq soo much sir🙏

[@siddharthpathare2]

Upto the mark explanation, really a psychological, scientific and rational approach. Thanks clearing thaught process.

[@educatedkannadiga]

Watching this again after the gap of 6 months. Every word in the script is thought out. Carefully listen and utilise this knowledge

[@MrunaliniPatil98]

So perfectly explained. Amazing !!! This is giving 100 % clarity

[@raginisharma9302]

What an Amazing Video Sridhar- this comes at the right time and your first point on attraction was so apt. Loved watching the brilliant tips. Thank you 🙏

[@123lsa]

Amazing work sir! This has helped me a lot. Sometimes we just forget the red flags and just get connected because the opposite person is attractive but I understand the importance of not letting go of the red flags! Thank you

[@dharmilshah9367]

The Best video on how to find the Life partner. Thank you so much for such Great wisdom ❤

[@shreehoney8738]

Trust me …you are such a amazing person sir ..thanks a lot for giving such good content …🤟😀

[@overthemoonflorist9135]

You are a gem who saved so many😢 i really wanna thankyouuuu. I have tears😢 thankyouuuu so mucchhhh ❤

[@sadafperween6865]

Omggg!!how well u explained and covered all topics !!I have watched tons of video regarding this topic but couldn't find as informative as this video.lol❤️🤗

[@Deardiary_24]

Very very informative video. Much needed 🙌

[@sanaafzal6150]

I saw this video a little late and made the same mistake, chose a guy on attraction and height... the ever worse decision of my life. He just walked out one day silently leaving me devastated. I'm still trying to recover from the trauma. May GOD heal my soul.

[@tayyabnazir512]

Ameen

[@Deb_deCoder]

respect his decision.. he may have lost attraction for you while being in the relationship

[@Terahydron]

no attraction is necessary. after being attracted try to find qualities. don't find qualities in random people. these things are hierarchical, not lateral. attraction first, loyalty second (but a must) , then nature

[@debbiefloresbrown5317]

Love cover everything. Nobody perfect every person has red flags just depends who you love enough to tolerate everything.

[@brindapatni2871]

Superb video. Thank you so much. Much much much needed one. 1 request please speak slowly. I understand very well but the one who can't will miss important message. Again excellent work.😊

[@PreetiSingh-bh1ff]

You explain very well.. if we talk a person for 4,5 Times, slowly we feels connection ( sigreet habit) but it doesn't mean we are competable . Nice 👍 explanation,nice research 👍

[@priyaak8273]

Ultimate speech sridhar sir, ur good in knowledge talks, i really liked ;helped me alot this video 🙏 ❤️💚💛💙💜thank u

[@priyavassarker8070]

That's why Saturn gets exalted in Libra. Libra is a sign of relationship , Saturn represents hard work and relationship actually requires hard work so it make sense.

[@guppyd69]

Aaap kehna kya chahte ho?

[@riyarose4514]

The way you explained…hats offf…Thank you

[@vickyAlways]

virgin couples love & try to know each other like new born babies ,they are new to opposite sex emotions, feelings, bodies, and thus have lots of butterflies , anticipation, and goosebumps even while holding their partner's hand. They will do lots of mistakes with each other initially and there the fun lies ,they play with each other like rabbits . But if one partner is non virgin then he/she will laugh at his/her partner and cannot love back in the same way. That's why a virgin deserves another virgin

[@pushpalatamohan5632]

You speak wonderfully sir . I watch your videos as they are very interesting . My daughter is MS OBSTETRIC AND GYNECOLOGY . Selecting the right person becomes difficult when you have two to three choice .Dilemma to choose . Arranged marriages very difficult to decide because very less time to assess. Ultimately it is big gamble i feel as a mother of a girl. Whatever homework one does risk remains . Only God helps us if our karma is good. I cant stop admiring your personality sir .

[@Littlebuttercup8]

Seriously, I feel it’s soo much easier to be crazy about a toxic person than to be crazy about a good person. Being with a good person in a long run feels “Boring” but if you think about it, isn’t that what we all want? Calm cool and composed ? Then why does it feel boring?😢

[@gowthamibala9384]

I am grateful that I can consume this entire contact free. This video has a great deal of information that will retrospect your every decision.

[@katyhodea9229]

Very well sketched and super professional. Thanks

[@sowjanyap5827]

I have been ignoring all red flags and adjusted till I got divorced. Now with the freedom and self esteem I gained back, I feel so stupid to stick to that relation. Believe me single life is so much better even when you are a single parent.

[@meghasa8416]

Thank you so much ❤. It's a beautiful video. I watched this at the right time.

[@renukatandi5979]

After watching this video I subscribed your channel. I liked too much this video. You explained everything clearly which will helpful in the way of choosing someone perfect ❤️

[@roamingwithsubhom]

Thank god I came across this video ❤️ I'm 26 and single. I hope I will find someone better 😌

[@spoorthidi5544]

His each and every point in 💯 true. I agreed all his points bcz i have see and experienced those red flags

[@riachowdhury518]

Very good advice. Clear and easy to follow. Thanks for this video.

[@saketpanigrahi]

Guys please dont listen to youtube or any social media. Try to understand your parten communicate and be hopeful. I am sharing my own experience such youtubers make a stereotype and those who believe blindly on them get persuade. My girlfriend told me that some of my behaviour pattern are like this so she thought something else which i am actually unaware and not even an inch associated with . It will ruon your life to take suggestions from outside. Its your life dont look for shortcuts . Explore your partner try spend more time to understand them . Talk about past future etc to make bonding and connection. Its ok to get failed in a relationship . We as a human are entitled to make mistakes and learn from them not from a random KZbin suggestion. And its my humble request to girls also they are somehow getting manipulated. ( Not gender biased view but based on personal expenses which could be wrong) Think wisely. Best pf luck.

[@BeTheBull12x7]

I have never come cross such best video. Super work.

[@nibeditasharma2665]

I dont think calculation can make a relationship work..but may be help in getting better..without emotion a relationship is just a,deal..

[@srishtisaini5434]

Well explained and dispart lot more clarity.

[@nishakumari6735]

Yeah noticing red flags is important but I find your suggestions to be full of expectations from the other person to be "perfect".. and that's where relationships fail..it might end up making one or both suspicious about each and every move they take or talk about. That's where expressing oneself verbally backfires..

[@nishantkumar6960]

absolutely lol, especially the last one when he said, keep repeating a mantra and he gave his mantra, "if I experience a red flag, I'll leave." Just imagine how torturing and disastrous it is. It's like he/she is only waiting for a red flag to appear to use it as an opportunity to end the relationship lol. In that case you already have made your whole life a suffering even if you get a perfect partner. No one is perfect. Humans are full of flaws. I'm sure everyone will definitely encounter some red flag (from their perspective) at some point in their relationships. Its like he/she has been waiting for the red flag opportunity his/her whole life lol. I'd rather say instead of the red flags see the green flags, like if the partner is understanding, trustworthy, respects his/her personal space or not and Physical attributes are comparable or not. In simple words see the person has good sanskar or not. If someone has so much fear then they should simply avoid any long term relationships especially marriage. My friend had narcissistic, selfish nature who hurt me a lot finally I stopped talking to her. Still I'm not running behind such a level of perfection. Although I'm afraid of relationships. But my point is you should be more brave rather than being more cautious if you want to be in a good relationship. Relationship should be about emotion and not some robotic brain logic and dumb mathematical calculations. If the partner hurts you constantly then bad luck, choose god now 😊

[@nishakumari6735]

@@nishantkumar6960 👍

[@bhawnakushwaha0403]

Fantastic video.U just cleared all of my doubts..❣️

[@shaikhalmas1001]

Its Really Helpful Brother. THANK YOU 🥰

[@beats_hit]

Posted at perfect timing, thank you 🙏

[@Nidhi_Maheshwari]

Awesome Advice. 🏂💙💙 Both Julie and John Gottman would love this too.✨

[@amrapalibhagat1111]

Believing in your gut feeling or intuition is the most important thing. If something is not feeling good just walk away. Attraction is very important if I don't feel attracted towards my life partner ,I can't get into physical relationship. Premmunshi ji bahot hi khubsurat baat kahi hai " vivah ka adhaar prem hona chahiye,agar nahi hai to woh sharir ka vikray hoga". Isiliye attraction hona bhi jaruri hai.

[@ravishingtwinkle3811]

A very important quality is to see whethrr one can validate emotions. It gets a nightmare if one invalidate dismisses emotions, its like a partner cannot share anything in the long run. Now most grew up in homes with emotional neglect, in that case, to see if the person is willing to grow heal learn together. Just thid quality, that we didnt know so many things and I am willing to time learn to be a better human and do well as a team is epic Diamond. Another thing that is important is vision , someone who has a vision of love, has already felt the love affection within and would be able to bring that playfulness chivalry romance affection into the partnership and it would grow with time.

[@siddhipandeyvlogs5127]

Mentality ❤ Understanding ❤ Respect ❤ Bas aur kuch nhi chahiye.

[@Jayantgosain]

Wow!!! You just saved me brother. Thanks a lot.

[@rajneeshkaur2781]

OH MY GOD… This is need of the hour.. ❤❤❤

[@erumkhan8796]

OMG just amazingly described ♥️

[@ShreyasKa92]

Disagree with few things here like person has had sex before - It is a red flag when you’re still a virgin. This creates a trauma response of insecurity and distrustful behaviour. If both the people have body count(s) then it does not matter. Why would a virgin give up his/her virginity to someone who has been physically and emotionally used? That doesn’t seem right.

[@princyruhamah2846]

I would definitely tell after watching this video... It was a complete plate with all dishes ❣️

[@Vicky-qo1dp]

Key points:- 1. Attractiveness ( rich / cool / tall / status/..etc ) should not the correct way to choose. 2. Don't make decisions based on gut feeling, emotionally. 3. Connection is a drug, you want to talk daily, everything you want to tell and ask, if you lose connection then you will fell pain 4. Go slow - put the car in lower gear. 5. Take feedback from other people and slowly observe red and green flags 6 check positivity in a relationship, synergy of dream, 7. To be continued....😊

[@manasaharivanam3618]

thank you, it helped me to know some new points.

[@Queen.himshi]

Amazing. This is really very helpful. Thankyou..

[@knowledgefactory33]

I m already in love with Cute girl, but she is absolutely gorgeous but little more emotional and sensitive.. What should I do, either to keep her or to leave her.? Anyone guys..?

[@canopyinthecity]

1. Positivity 2. Goals aligning 3. Conflict Resolution

[@canopyinthecity]

1. Equality 2. Respect 3. Priority 4. Loyalty 5. Commitment for life 6. Honestly & Transpency

[@RASHMISINGH-re5hj]

This is the best video I found on this topic

[@uditjoshi1407]

Excellent choice of subject!

[@kaberigomes2117]

Using logical tool to solve feelings like love, is like taking knife to a Gun fight. 😅. Obviously you are correct Sir. But even dating coaches make simple mistakes, because no one, can truly make correct decision, when overwhelmed with emotions.

[@naveenjose7710]

But emotions will die soon.........Logic and rational thinking is always correct. Imagine if bullets are emptied,the gun is waste.But knife will be still useful.

[@kaberigomes2117]

@@naveenjose7710 The point is. No one can take logical steps when overwhelmed with emotions. And you will fuck up the relationship yourself at one point in time. You cannot make a checklist, to stop yourself from falling for wrong people. It's the part and parcel of the dating process. You will never know they are right or wrong, before the moment of test comes. If this was possible, psychologist would give certificates of traits a person has, to make dating and selection of partners easy. Even they can only guess what a person is, or will behavior in the future.

[@naveenjose7710]

@@kaberigomes2117 Yeah.There is nothing wrong with following emotions.In a relationship if the other person truly loves you or values you both can change their behaviour pattern for mutual interest. But sadly,if one follows emotions like pure lust , body shape, colour, beauty.Love from these emotions fades away and will be problematic in future.

[@kaberigomes2117]

@@naveenjose7710 We are straying away from the video. Just answer me this question. Will you now like a girl but leave them after going through this checklist recommended in the video. Plain and simple answer.

[@naveenjose7710]

@@kaberigomes2117 After some life experience not only girls,even with male friends one will do checklist and interact carefully. Last month I even rejected sex offer from a married lady doctor who is in my neighborhood. Careless relationships come with heavy price later.

[@hemlatarawat3474]

Ultimate Sir..❣👌👌very informative..👌🙂

[@srinuemani]

Wowww..great video to move on from my ex 😅❤..thank you soo much.

[@divyadiva84]

Yaar one should not forget that the other person is also just a human will his or her own flaws. Unless the relationships are not verbally or physically abusive and have some form of violence learn to accept your partner with his or her flaws. N the simple hack is doosre person ko itna importance hi na do apni jindagi me ki har samay uske actions se farak pade. Apne me mast rehna seekho.

[@Nidhi_Maheshwari]

10:41 Right on 🙌🏼

[@megha_hegde]

Thanks for this 🎉

[@CuriousAboutTravel]

I would say this is the Best video on choosing a partner

[@chandrimamukherjee1473]

I guess I am a good fit to comment. I was in a toxic marriage for a decade ignoring these red flags and my partner ended up cheating on me. I knew from the beginning I was not his priority, I knew he is a liar, I knew our expectations from life were different still I stayed in that toxic suffocating marriage.. I am separated for 2 years with a child and dealt with depression and trust issue due to his cheating. My child suffered a lot because of my wrong decision. Trust me guys you don't want to feel cheated in a relationship it will break you and your self confidence into pieces. So choose wisely.

[@Deb_deCoder]

Too many bengalees are getting divorced.. it will be foolish step for bengali men to mrry and lose money in alimony and child support

[@chandrimamukherjee1473]

@@Deb_deCoder soo typical to reply in my comment. I shouldn't but still let me tell you I am working and not expecting his alimony..and if we talk about child support let me remind you the child belongs to both so support should also be provided from both end...Anyway it's difficult to make dumb ppl understand Bengali girls have strong backbone, so we don't need to depend on men's alimony, our education is enough to provide for us and our child .

[@creativecosmos4132]

Glad to know you are self aware and are doing better. Many women are going through the same and are sooner than later realizing that toxic relationships are not worth it. Kudos to you.

[@mswr3351]

I think Positivity and commitment are the most important deal breaker… a committed person will grow for the relationship, they will make it work by changing all bad things.. they put efforts to make it work… No matter how much good person he or she is.. if they are not committed they will run even when small disagreement happens

[@mswr3351]

If you are interested you will do what is convenient.. if you are committed you will do whatever it takes..❤ I have been with a nice guy who has committed issues.. he Ran just after our first disagreement (he told me that I have became fat and i got hurt by the way he told.. I just asked him to be kind and he has right to tell me anything he wants but just be kind) he got offended and stopped talking

[@manishaambwani1571]

Perfect video...on how to choose a partner or a life partner.

[@yuvrajguptaofficial888]

learnt alot thanks dear

[@subodhgautam649]

Excellent...very first rate video...💯✔️💯✔️💯💯✔️

[@priyakamboj1261]

So far the best video on this topic, how easily he summarised and explained alllllll the concepts. Loved it