Sigma Males As A Child (10 Harsh Truths)

[@BlitzenSpeaks]

Everyone hated me; family, teachers, other kids. Everyone! I cooked my own meals at 5. Before microwave ovens were in every house! I had to stand in a chair to reach the stove! By 8, I wanted to go live in the woods by myself. It was easier than dealing with people. I'm pushing 60 today, but still don't fit in. Nor do I care! At last, I have peace and quiet!!! That's enough for me!!!

[@taztaz6539]

I can relate to this

[@jeremyhess7977]

I tried to run away when I was 6. I had food, water, money, some clothes, and a couple small toys and tools. Then I got down to the main intersection and saw how big the world was.... I got scared and realized I wasn't ready just yet. So, I ran home and put everything back so that no one would notice or question me about what I was doing. I had to re-think the entire plan and wait a while. I realized that. And I "suffered" my crappy family for another 12 years.

[@mikesuniverses-7309]

I here You brother we are the different Thank GOD for that!!!!!

[@O.G.LIL-MAN]

same...I was cooking for my siblings at age 8, and doing full on chores when other kids were being lazy. I always had a small circle of friends since then too...and I do not have the will to conform to everything everyone else does 'just to fit in' which in turn makes us aloof or lone wolves. And the doing things differently is key for me too

[@poiboi64]

I often tell myself I wish I lived in a cabin in the woods with a nice fishing spot near by

[@Iamthatiam-q9v]

This bring tears to my eyes. Everyone hates me, my entire community, my own family. But I’m tough!

[@michaelharrison3602]

They probably don't "hate" you They just aren't that interested in you. If that bothers you you haven't learned anything

[@eftihioscan]

They do hate and hate for no reason which is what I thought. If the world hates you,know that it hated Jesus first. You have attributes that Jesus loves.

[@tiggerthecat5525]

I don't care if people hate me as long as they leave me alone

[@DiljitHayre]

That is because you are a lone wolf

[@Slebo_19SeventySomething]

“The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

[@414Chevy]

I was a "Why" kid. As a child sometimes, you are told not to ask why, just believe what you are told, which makes no sense at all.

[@offcenterforge1098]

My dad told me at around 7 if I asked him why one more time I was going to be in for it.

[@yeshayahubensh]

In a way, the vast majority of children are "why kids" during their early childhood. Until their parents/teachers succeed to "domesticate" them...

[@rumblehat4357]

The “invisible barrier” is 100% spot on how I felt as a kid.

[@Caoimhin7-4]

Well congrats. You’re not the one.

[@RoyGJones-bd7jw]

Same here

[@simonmeszaros2770]

I was struggling a lot with being apart.

[@ehvway]

Always felt like an outsider and I still do. It took me +25 years to find out what's "wrong" with me

[@stevestruthers6180]

I'm a Sigma. One of my several superpowers is to see danger coming long before anyone realizes it's coming, or to see things happening soon that others don't see coming. I've had people laugh at me and tell me I'm wrong, and boy, were they surprised when they saw that I was right. I can also quickly suss out people, figure out their motives and see right through them, often before they realize that I've already scoped them out from a distance. I also have a pretty good built-in bullshit detector. And the ability to think outside the box and connect the dots in ways other people can't understand. And 'the little adult syndrome'? Yep, I found myself in that position when I was a kid from time to time.

[@O.G.LIL-MAN]

THIS! As a sigma, we see patterns that other do over and over to their peril. They never listen to us...and then come back to us when the fall on the face. We are the ones that nobody listens to to their peril. And the thing is, we want others to not fall into the holes they make for themselves...but after awhile you let them go out your life for not listening and wasting our time

[@cavemanjoe79]

It happens. By the time I was fifteen my aunts thought I was raising my Dad, or that I was the more responsible one in our house. I not only did my own laundry I would also wash my Dad’s uniforms for work.

[@charlesponzi9608]

How did you fare during COVID-19? I hope your superpowers kept you far away from the medical interventions pushed by Anthony Fauci and other 'experts' blindly following the science.

[@heron6462]

This is me, too. If a destructive or manipulative person joins a society or organization that I'm a member of, I can read them immediately. I've been called unkind and judgemental for instantly pointing out their malign intent, but a couple of weeks or months later I hear endlessly from the 'kind' members about how awful these people are, and their wishes to get rid of them.

[@michaelharrison3602]

Never accepted things at face value at 74 I still don't it puzzles me that there are intelligent adults of my own age out there who still do that. Do they learn nothing from life 😅

[@jomi9858gfdrti]

And a very notable characteristic among the sigmas is that they lack ego. They see those who pride themselves on others, even about the smallest achievement, and who always seek popularity and external validation, as simple beings who are ignorant, insecure and lacking self-criticism. A sigma, does not need to say he is! And neither does he listen to an external definition wishing to fit perfectly into the description and then announce it. In fact, many sigmas have never even heard that term!

[@rumblehat4357]

I always warn people about other people, and turn out to be correct more than I’d care to be.

[@cigar8241]

💯 I warned my friend that her gf is a cheater but, he held a grudge and fast forward they separated for infidelity

[@charles2241]

I almost never do what you suggested, because it sounds like gossip to me, plus I realize I can always be wrong. The most memorable time I had with what you said, is a big time national charity was yearly coming by the place I worked at, and I didn't want to contribute to them because they were pressuring us (a charity pressure you? Ohhhh yeah). I told my boss's boss they were crooks, and that's the primary reason I won't contribute. Naturally this B tried to make me believe "everybody else in contributing", and yes, that almost uniquely disqualifies me from doing it, because I know the hell of what everybody else allegedly does. Next year, oddly enough, they didn't come around to steal from us. Why? Because that local chapter had been closed down due to corruption charges. Odd how I was right and "everybody else" was wrong.

[@rumblehat4357]

@@charles2241I don’t gossip, but I will tell someone what someone else did to me and let them decide for themselves if they should pursue a relationship.

[@RRTS2556]

you're not alone to this

[@tiggerthecat5525]

I'm trying to embrace it but I don't see it as a gift. I only like being right on the rare occasion its positive

[@richardlgayphd6099]

as a senior in high school I was told by my counselor that clearly I was not college material but that he had a friend who owned the gas station and was willing to hire me. I went on to earn 4 University degrees culminating with a PhD , of all things, in Clinical Psychology. This was instrumental in me understanding the "Whys" of this world. A SIGMA INTJ .

[@johnwatson9518]

@richardlgayphd6099 my Jr. High algebra teacher said, in front of the class, I would never get into college. Phuck him. Graduated with a B.A. in Psychology.

[@Robert-zb5ep]

I went through the EXACT same experience - HS counselor told me I had no business going to college and should look at a trade school. I also went on to earn 4 university degrees, a Doctorate in Education but worked as an I/O psychologist.

[@standimitrov678]

Finding the map is just an early stage of going somewhere.

[@O.G.LIL-MAN]

I get you on this...I am earning a PhD too right now, but back when I entered college, I was a rutterless ship not knowing what I really wanted to study. From Engineering to Art, it was like I was being forced to consider fields that really didnt fit who I was and how I thought...but now I am in education helping others navigate the world.

[@bb5242]

I badly wanted to go to MIT, but didn't understand that it required more than academic aptitude. I was really awkward because neither of my parents went to college and we were barely middle class. So I had to go to this really uncomfortable interview with an MIT alum as part of the application process and ended up blowing that just by asking the guy questions I'm sure he thought were pretty dumb, but I just wanted to know the answers. Basically, if you're not absolutely certain you want to be an engineer, physicist, or mathematician, they weed you out. I did want to be one of those! I was actually perfectly suited for MIT, but was just not able to get that message across. I lost out to three other students at my school who got in there. Only one of the others was truly MIT material! I often wonder how the other two made out there. My second choice college was a terrible, terrible mistake and I went kind of rogue and even got arrested in my freshman year and got kicked out of school--a 4.0 student. I then had to rebuild with very little resources the following year. I then graduated college in 3yrs anyways, then went on to get a Master's and also a PhD from two different major universities. Thanks for not understanding me, MIT! You would think a place like that would be able to recognize real talent instead of fakers.

[@AnthonyRodriguez-xe7cx]

Outside looking in is how I felt. Also, people always expected more of me. My friends and brothers always came to me for answers to questions. More responsibility laid upon me. For years I tried to fit in but still saw the eorld differently. Finally, only s few months ago I came across this site and it opened my eyes.

[@sirclarkmarz]

I call this riding on the outside we're all on this journey together but I need to separate myself from the others

[@craighoward6243]

This is me 💯 %. Had to get a job to help my younger siblings for school clothes. Started running as a teenager, got hooked at age 27, and trained 5 years to complete my Ironman Triathlon journey. My 30,s got divorced with one child. True Sigma fashion " Gave her everything & pd futures child support. Broke my back In 03 lost everything again & my health 💔 15 years of very hard work. & a weight gain & loss of 189 lbs over those 15. For the last two years, I've working on the finished product. I saw my Dr yesterday. "It looks like you're ready to start training again." I looked at him & and said, " I don't wanna run 50 yards" in all those years all of that True Sigma fashion." we never complained. It needs to get done. " Love u guys

[@MikeDarga-h2o]

dont be so hard on yourself

[@FixtIt]

I never really felt like a kid, and I never really felt like an adult either.

[@gregorypope3899]

Thank you for putting that in words for me. This is precisely how I feel...

[@aaronslater470]

For me being a kid was like walking into a room where everyone turns to look at you and someone says "This is the place we've chosen for you. This is your seat, your position in society, and you are to adhere to our expectations." To hell with that

[@rumblehat4357]

I always looked at it as being born in the wrong time.

[@builtbyrogergarage]

You catched the same exact thought that i've got for the entire life and still having now.

[@guymaninu]

Wow! Never heard anyone use my line, lol. I swear I should have been born 100’s of years ago, like I am the Highlander or something. 😂😊

[@rumblehat4357]

I guess I’m alone in this.

[@builtbyrogergarage]

@@rumblehat4357 anyone isn't really alone. Just unique. Think about it. If i can say mine about it, don't fall on the thinking that you are alone, it create a bad sense of loneliness that can take away the best part of life: Living with joy and fullfill your life everyday with new experience. At least that's what i've learned in my life till now. Sorry for too many words. Hope you understand what i want to say.

[@jameswatsonatheistgamer]

I disliked school and the people in it. They bored me. It was a drone factory and I wouldn't play their games.

[@BAsed_AFro]

We got little to no validation as a kid, so learned to run primarily on internal validation. Folks that depend far more on external, typically don't understand how we just don't.

[@bobsnittle3793]

this... as an adult sigma, that was my childhood. cold mother, no father. everyone hated me. thats why i became so self sufficient and strong when i got older.

[@rumblehat4357]

People who cannot connect dots are incredibly frustrating to me.

[@progressispowerful1537]

I needed to see the words together because that's exactly how I feel just didn't know how to word it, thank you

[@dja.selekta]

Hallelujah

[@dja.selekta]

Puzzle solvers unite

[@whitesamurai]

I connect dots, they call me a "conspiracy theorist". I then explain they have been unburdened by intelligence. From there, the conversation usually goes kinda sideways.

[@charles2241]

Actually, it's probably born of the same way of thinking they always do. If something requires just a bit of deep thought, they'll never get it, because everything is supposed to fit real neatly into their little vase of easily recognizable and surface level things. What I think is dangerous about connecting the dots, however, is that many who do it let their egos get involved with it, to where something that substantially contradicts their view, they'll completely ignore. It's like they're on some crusade to become famous by the one small thing they're talking about. It's having zeal for the truth, but then thinking the truth is only in what you observe, and that some of it, even a very large portion of it, can evade you.

[@jamesgrosrenaudjr812]

I’m the constant learner . I can be a master on a subject and still feel there is more to learn

[@chrishicks8347]

The only person I think a sigma could truly be friends with on that level that we need. Is another sigma. Most of the people I talk to would never be able to grasp what I think. And to find someone that can accomplish that is so rare. Holy Spirit of Humanity

[@Allium_369]

It’s extremely difficult to find someone with common sense these days, let alone a person on our level. I’ve given up on society as a whole. I now choose solitude and couldn’t be happier.

[@wanderingwarrior5626]

I've been all over the world, over forty countries, lived in six for extended periods of time. Never ran into another me!

[@chrishicks8347]

@wanderingwarrior5626 what was it like?

[@True38]

@@Allium_369 My sentiments exactly. Seems like common sense has left the building for good but now that Trump is back in office, there's still hope fortuantly. The party of common sense has finally won everything and I couldn't be happier even though I don't live in the US but it affects the whole world positively.

[@Slebo_19SeventySomething]

@@Allium_369 “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

[@UnappealingUndesirable]

As a 100% Sigma Male (51 in 2024), on our "internal scoreboard," we have a LOT of "I Told You So's," that we can throw at other people. We also have a LOT of people who tell us, "You were right about such and such or so and so." I just throw my arms up, and say, "When I state the obvious, I'm right 90% of the time."

[@FischerFan]

I'll bet marriage is one of them.

[@aiden1444]

I agree. Now I just tell the minions, “ but you can’t be told anything”

[@DC-qk8ue]

My favorite saying, “It’s not about being right, it’s about trying to equip you with proper direction”

[@UnappealingUndesirable]

I'm not making this up: My Sigma Manhood and social awkwardness, didn't serve me well, in terms of finding a wife, and to have kids with her. I might be CONSENSUALLY becoming a father of up to 5-6 children, all in 2025! All of this is totally AI. I'm not seeing any of these women n-ked. My ONLY fear, but it's a big one: Any of them betray me (child support). I'm relinquishing all parental rights. If I come back here in a year or two, and tell you all that X number of these mothers, are drinking 15% of my paycheck each, YOU can all tell ME, "We told you so, Ojisan!"

[@MagicalCreations-fw7pj]

"Matilda" came out in the mid '90's and although I'm a male, that movie seemed to be written about my life. Still my favorite movie.

[@numerologicatarot3333]

@@MagicalCreations-fw7pj this is one of my faves because I could relate but I related to “The Sixth Sense” way more so it’s my fave of the genre.

[@cuadstar]

Yes! I'm 53 now and just watched the movie "Matilda" again. It made me very emotional because of its connection to the sigma ethos. It's a comedy about a child's life that resonates deeply with me. Sigmas feel everything intensely but often show little through our outward expressions to protect our autonomy. It all fits together, and it all makes sense! Love you all.

[@natedog01able]

I was depressed in grade school because I was a sigma child with ADHD I had problems with my grades and relationships with friends and family. I was better in life being alone. I noticed my problems are gone being alone walking my own life.

[@ehvway]

I feel you! I diagnosed myself with light autistic trades. Few months ago an expert confirmed it. I am embracing it because I look at the hyper focus it will give me.

[@eyespyyourspy1328]

I was always accused of disrespecting authority due to my questioning of everything. Even to this day, I despise it when anyone says, "Because i said so." I grew up being called a problem child and spent the majority of my 4th grade year in detention because I asked too many questions and didn't just follow the crowd and fall in line with the others. I don't have a problem with Authority, but I will always ask them who made them an Authority and how that person was qualified to make them Authority. Most of the time those questions are not answered and rather I get a response that shows the individual lacks proper characteristics of a leader and person of Honorable Authority. Those questions always expose tyrannical minded individuals and I secretly (now I say this I guess the secret is out) take joy in breaking their facade.

[@danielbrooks4057]

Man this is so accurate.. I’ve been depressed almost my entire life, and it turns out it’s just innate in my internal being.

[@wanderingwarrior5626]

Why depressed? I've never been depressed, even when the whole world seemed against me!

[@Rw-kt7qt]

I just felt misunderstood growing up. There was everyone else and then me. I always felt like the odd one out because I saw things differently.

[@elmoomle4565]

Burdened with responsibility at a young age, ZERO validation from parents/siblings/peers/teachers, very high expectations accomplished and met with indifference, very keen ability to see the folly of hypocrisy and overt thespianism in others, incessant curiosity of how things actually work vs. what is presented, overt critical thinking ability, seeing the intrinsic humour and duplicity in everything, entirely indifferent to the racist taunts/personal attacks/opinion of others. The above are some of my personal experiences growing up as a child...explains a tonne, clearly.

[@JoeClark-t9d]

Being a Sigma cost me no kids no family not much of nothing but satisfied in a way not bothered by unesasary low energy from people

[@sirclarkmarz]

You haven't missed out on anything

[@jomi9858gfdrti]

Don't confuse ego with being a sigma The ego is the most deceptive human characteristic! It makes you feel what you are not. What good is being a sigma if you are more alone than a stray dog?

[@jomi9858gfdrti]

​@@sirclarkmarz Hahaha... A sigma doesn't make statements as if he owns the truth! 🤣

[@michaelharrison3602]

Im in my seventies and i still want to learn more and improve myself

[@briansim3031]

Not being aware of the obvious, frustrates me when dealing with others. How can you not know that? Alot of the obvious, goes right over the heads of many.

[@Jamesxavier-v4x]

My now ex wife used to use those medications with the measuring cup that comes on top of the cap. She’s used it then put the cup on the cap and the residual liquid of course dripped all over the cap and the bottle. Now tell me HOW TF is it not obvious to EVERYONE that one would wash out and dry the cup before replacing it on the cap?🤯

[@Sherrodja]

"Question everything, especially the government " ~ George Carlin ~

[@johnlewandowski8624]

I do! Have been for decades!

[@tln25]

Who else here drinks too much, alone, to watch a movie that you don’t pay attention to… simply to give your mind a break?

[@rocketpack910]

I've always strived for inner strength, with no need to control anything.

[@deemoe5215]

And accurate depiction of my world. 👍

[@keithjackson8076]

This was 100% my experience growing up. As a successful manager in various roles (I didn't crave leadership), I produced results in ways that confused others and was often told I was a maverick, as if this would hit me as criticism. I accepted that with pride.

[@rembeadgc]

...to a "T" but, finding out that God makes us all unique and particularly gifted for His glory and service, should we take up that cross, makes all the puzzle pieces fit together. Not that people, life and myself aren't still challenging but, I understand they're/we're challenging for a reason and a purpose that I am created to be a part of.

[@johnwatson9518]

My elementary school report card always said, "Doesn't play well with others." No shit.

[@versedwell]

This one made me laugh. Thank you! 😂😂😂

[@ChosenOne1967]

mine always said "attitude needs improvement"

[@tiggerthecat5525]

😂😂 yep

[@jeremyhess7977]

"Content to play alone, or with only one other child at a time." - OR - "Hesitant to engage in play with the group." Well, yeah; A.) I'm determining whether this kid is worth becoming friends with. B.) Because most people are uninteresting idiots.... or maybe I'm just busy thinking and assessing what my next move should be. Either way... teachers were always misinterpreting in their observational analyses of me.

[@johnwatson9518]

@jeremyhess7977 spot on.

[@wesleypipes5673]

Ain't that the truth, I don't know how many times I thought I was having a polite and intelligent back and forth with someone only to have them get angry and tell me to "Stop arguing".... in my head I'm like "Oh that's what you that I was doing? Wow you're really like on another planet huh?"

[@rumblehat4357]

I like to know “why?” Because if I need to explain it to someone else, I need to know the subject inside and out, not just repeat verbatim and say “it’s just how it is.” If you don’t understand why, you can’t properly explain things.

[@charles2241]

Later you realized just how much of the population is only surface level, and there's no way they want to hear all the detail you learned. You couldn't explain beyond "it's just how it is" if you wanted to, because they're already turning away or going to sleep.

[@versedwell]

The desire to teach others is inherent in me as well. Like @charles2241 was saying, a big chunk of the population don't want to know. But you will occasionally run into people who are eager to learn. So don't be discouraged to teach. Just work on knowing when ppl actually want to learn from you.

[@jimberlygridder183]

Exactly...and then I learned that most people dont care about really understanding something before they claim to " know " it. So many people actually bullshit their way into positions and politic their way into promotion. I never could stomach the pretense.

[@AlexeyKovalev_SKW]

​@@jimberlygridder183when I was younger, I thought that people think wrong. Later I understood - the most of the people don't think

[@timbarrett5313]

Yes yes and YES

[@seanarthur8392]

Brings back some tough memories. OFTEN think differently? Excuse me, we ALWAYS think differently. Half the time you're playing tic tac toe while I'm playing 3D chess in an alternate dimension. Comparatively. Sigma male, INFJ, true Super Empath.

[@FullCircleMinistries_904]

Abused and placed out the house at 6 years young and forced to live a adult life. However prior. I remember at recess all the children played together and I would travel to the other end of the playground and play with pine cones and straw in the hot sun for the full hour of recess. I never fit in from that point on. Thank you*

[@averagejoe6971]

This video is pretty accurate. 5 elementary schools till junior high before 5 high schools in 5 years was interesting. Yeah, i graduated, but not in cap and gown. Credits were screwed up, and some schools were 1500 miles apart. Met A LOT of people when i was young, and can "sift" people without thinking, now.

[@timbarrett5313]

👍👍👍👍👍👍💯

[@timbarrett5313]

People sifting excellent statement sir

[@averagejoe6971]

@@timbarrett5313 ;)

[@stevenwilgus5422]

ONE minute in-- and you have described the dilemma perfectly! By 8, I wanted to go live in the woods by myself. It was easier than dealing with people. I'm 71 today, but still don't fit in. Nor do I care! At last, I have peace and quiet!!! That's enough for me!!!

[@johnt5875]

When i was a child people would ask me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I would tell them I wanted to be a hermit that lived in the mountains. I would get blank looks, people stopped asking after a short while.

[@ehvway]

I always thought it was a strange question. Because choosing one thing is just boring. Than I said i wanted to be an actor, than they convinced me I should have a normal job. I am an actor/ filmmaker and I recently walked away from 18 years payed slavery. And i will not survive, I will thrive! And I will live in the mountains that will give me peace of mind and inspiration. Never cared about the busy city life too. As a small child I wanted to live on a farm with cows and sheeps on a big plot of land, far away from the normal city life!

[@CharlesDecker-k4f]

I had one 7th grade teacher that saw me and that was gold she gave me books to read that a lot of college students would struggle to understand she gave me freedom with this an adult saw me and i wasn't broken just different than the rest .

[@timbarrett5313]

Yes. I had a couple of mentors and teachers see this too . I have most of those books still. When other people were paying for their lost textbooks I would ask the teacher can I borrow or have this.. guess the answer lol hand wave yes go ahead

[@ethicalhackerwhitehat]

I am 42. These days, I let others talk because I know, they will not comprehend my idea. So I became more like a helper, guiding them on their own idea instead of teaching them my stuff. I invest, consult and don't work. I have achieved financial freedom, but I appear as anyone else. Life is good for me, quite, no drama, no idiots to confront etc, just me and my family

[@ratoneJR]

#1 happened to me. I was forced to be my brother's keeper, WITHOUT the authority to modify his behavior, AND beaten for his unruly actions. This led to many harsh words with my parents. Now, at 62, I still carry some resentment over that, and my brother is still unruly. I was forced to get a job at 12, too. Actually, learning to work at an early age aided in an early retirement. So that was good. #2 "Feeling different". I think many,many feel this...not just Sigma. But, Sigmas learn to enjoy it, mostly. #3 I have been told by many supervisors "That just the way we do it around here". Fustrating.

[@MrMack65]

Been sober for many years myself. I wonder how many sigma men get sucked into booze and drug addiction? This video is very eye opening. Looking back on it, my dad was heavy sigma. I always thought he was an alpha.

[@Velazquez4life-xf7ts]

Self medicating.

[@mikehh8020]

As a sigma, I stand back and look at this video from a different perspective. It could apply to anyone. Everyone who watches videos like these walk away thinking they're sigmas. Even females.

[@coolchange1970]

Bingo!

[@sirclarkmarz]

The first rule of Sigma club is you don't talk about Sigma club. The second rule of Cigna club is if you tell people you're a Sigma you're not one .

[@1cdmap]

Sigma =aspergers

[@wakeUPdummies]

​@@sirclarkmarz bingo

[@Jamesxavier-v4x]

I was a “Day Dreamer” so much so they put me in remedial reading class. When I was tested my IQ was 138 😂

[@rwashi]

This takes me back to my childhood days.

[@boco1951]

I always thought that it was just that only a small percentage of people really understood. You go your own way cause that’s what you do.

[@morganchandler5126]

This video explains so much from my childhood

[@larryleker6366]

As a child I never understood why others were so invested in human endeavors. It all looked empty and meaningless to me. This was partly because my mother used me as her confidant and personal valet when we were alone. However, in public she made it clear I was the scorned loser of her brood. My father was constantly embroiled in petty financial crimes and never seemed to see that his friends were using him. But I saw them for who they were. I learned to mistrust all adults very early. To this day I don't think I really trust anyone, even myself. My childhood was spent as a tiny adult, and I've spent years constructing my own custom made childhood where all I need do is make art and interact with people who understand me.

[@supremarvio9578]

Them: theres more than one way TO skin a cat. Me: but how many reasons are there FOR skinning a cat.

[@kurtbogle2973]

I can onlu speak for myself. Understanding is everything!

[@kurtbogle2973]

Understanding is everything, and learning is fun. I look at learning as a recreation.

[@AlexeyKovalev_SKW]

Yeah, in 1998, when the crisis happened and everything I could build to that time was falling to the abyss, I started to learn English to keep myself busy. Several years ago, due to health condition I couldn't walk, only seat. 2 years I was in awful pain 24/7 and to distract myself I started to learn web development. I love to learn and it helps me to survive

[@ShortbusGang]

You are all very well trained humans. Seek Freedom.

[@patrickcrosby3270]

My mum said i was swapped at birth, bit tricky as i was born at home but i was always different to everyone else.

[@swampsurfer6493]

Wow spot on brother!!

[@jrose9774]

I remember adults would always be freaked out after talking to me and my mom would ask what’s wrong and they would tell her they’ve never spoken to a kid that young who spoke just like an adult.

[@QueenLightbeam]

"I'll just handle it myself "....

[@user-hr1ci1gq8i]

Yes I agree, but for me these thoughts were more subconscious

[@CheslinScheepers-n2m]

My life. We thrive alone.

[@kerrygriffin578]

Thank you for the content!

[@StevePaxton-gv4tp]

To all my teachers who thought I wasn't paying attention: suck it!

[@AzzyRolls]

I’m a female and I related to all of this.

[@sheldonviskovic2126]

There is such a thing called the Sigma Female!!! For real! 😘

[@reganpain1738]

Welcome to the club👊

[@markperez3877]

Sigma female 🦾🦾❤️❤️

[@CONQUERMORRIS]

My sister relates also

[@urrywest]

I was born to kids myself.... They never grew up.... How I relate to sigma is fiercely independent. That would be me.... Many of the perhaps contrived atributes attributed to sigmas I don't seem to fall one for one on.

[@jordanw8382]

This is almost dead on, except that I found it useful to me to be a "chameleon" to blend into different, often very different groups. In 2020-21 I finally found my tribe of sigmas. They came out of the woodwork questioning the rules, lockdowns, and injections while the masses went along with it, and found themselves up as leaders of groups of others. I am very fortunate to have a sigma wife. We devised a way around the totalitarian rules and left the country with our children.

[@JohnGallagher-kp4nd]

Remember, all these videos are just a generalization of a type. We are all unique and don't fit into every mold/description of a type.

[@avcat]

I remember being told after a while not to ask too many questions. This happened in school and in the workplace.

[@natedog01able]

I love a difficult life as a sigma male but I noticed the rewards are better when people tell me oh wow I don't understand how you know this. The surprise is the most rewarding part of being a sigma male because most people don't understand sigma people

[@anamnesiser]

Sigma is another term for; individual with heightened awareness.

[@SamGold-pe6xz]

This is strong affirmitation 🎉

[@CONQUERMORRIS]

This describes my sister, she had to watch my little brother and I, and wasn't seen as the leader by my mother and father, I was the apple of everybody's eye, I was always skeptical, but I wasn't focused and on point, until I became grown, and the jealous environment, that I moved to, became a battle of wits, street knowledge etc, and people comparing themselves to me, or trying to put me in their boat, to make themselves feel better, I used everything thing from my childhood to my adult to rise, my parents was patient, with me, tougher on my sister and older brother, my sister and i connect because we saw each other's grind, great video, it describes my sister to the T( I teach her patience and wisdom, she teaches me about the ruthlessness of the world/ and be aggressive when necessary.

[@boxxjumper82]

At least you weren't an only child. 😅

[@CONQUERMORRIS]

@boxxjumper82 oh you had no siblings? Cousins though correct?

[@boxxjumper82]

@CONQUERMORRIS i did, we grew up in separate homes in the same city.

[@CONQUERMORRIS]

@@boxxjumper82 oh ok! But you turned out fine, though as an only child how did it feel? Did Your parents spoiled you, or it felt lonely? Just interested, if you don't mind me asking.

[@boxxjumper82]

@CONQUERMORRIS It was tough, my grandparents were super strict on me in the 90's. I also didn't understand why me and my sister were living apart, why my mom and dad parents didn't get along. This is when " Family First" went out the fucking window at the age of 9. I would ride my bike to go see my sister, since the parents and grandparents were stuck on stupid.

[@marcin3136]

I ran away from kindergarten when I was 4 and Prison Break is a sucker compared to that ;))) I spent two weeks searching and analyzing the way to escape ...

[@TinyWorkshop]

what doesn't break you will make you stronger, but was a pain when I was kid.

[@BrienDunn]

Yep...exactly.

[@reiniernn9071]

The WHY part: This is also a speciality from very high intelligent children. Yes I mean those who are not suitable as a member of the mensa group.... but even within that mensa group are the smart outsiders at the top. I do know a few of those 1 on tenthousand smartest people..... I understand why this sounds irrational, but we say....like attracts like . ("soort zoek soort" in my language). Most of them also charactrize as sigma...due to their intelligence they go their own path regardless thoughts of others. No , not all sigma's are that smart....but most of those who are that smart are also sigma. I'm glad that I could answer most of the "why's" of my child...one of those 1 on a tenthousand (I can prove that but that also reveals my IRL name) The teacher also told us that my child was disengaged when they had te do some kind of test...5 years als at that moment. When she told him after 25 minutes he really should begin with that test, only 5 minutes left of the time, my child gave after those 5 minutes the test back...without mistakes in the test. She explained that she did not really know what to do with him. Oh , we were very lucky with that school...at least they tried which is / was very rare. I'm not one of those smart myself even when I know I would have passed the Mensa test (due to rsults of other tests done) But at least I also was a "why" kid....and could handle the same for my kid. Even if I had to answer more than once that I needed to search for the answer first.

[@ralphseewald4069]

By age 12 I already had a subscription to Psychology Today magazine

[@O.G.LIL-MAN]

no lies told!!!! My parents had a sub to this magazine when I was young too and read it cover to cover as a young kid

[@chrishicks8347]

My childhood ended at the age of ten. I have huge problems with humans that can't keep up. When I hear humans complain about working I just laugh. I started working at 10 years old and I haven't stopped since and I'm 52 now. The only person I follow is Jesus because he was kind not because he died on a cross. Seed to a sigma that makes no sense to celebrate the death of Jesus you are happy he died because you didn't want to go to hell for your own sins. That'll make sense to a sigma. A sigma what a pulled his ass off the cross or not even allowed an innocent man to go to jail and death. Walking the sigma life is a lonely life but it's only one way to people who don't understand a sigma. Holy Spirit of Humanity

[@timbarrett5313]

I have my own why's and how's about Jesus and true religion. But I respect the thoughtfulness of Jesus Christ being one. He was!

[@chrishicks8347]

@timbarrett5313 do you want to know what Jesus was really like? He was a really nice guy that liked helping everybody. He didn't care what gender you were eating care what race you were he didn't care what your political beliefs were. He just was kind and Jesus Christ is one of my top idol. My three top humans are Nikola Tesla, Martin Luther King, and Jesus Christ now can you guess why? Because they all understood you're just humans. And they all believed in equality for all. Those are characteristics of a human that are beyond beautiful. And that's what Jesus means to me.

[@robertburke9920]

Read “Where Do We Go Now, LORD? Burke.” Sigmas will love it.

[@michaelhall8373]

We learn the hard way because we are hard headed and stubborn, rules are suggestions, information was always king and the why of it will always remain. It's not individually for the sake of individually but I want to do this not caring what others do, more along the lines of autonomy. Was always at peace with ourselves being alone. Hard on ourselves expecting perfection in ourselves and whatever we do but knowing we will never accomplish perfection in anything pissing us off. Self reliance is sought after early. Reading people comes easy, some take a wee bit more effort. We despise authority, loathe rules, If we're told you couldn't go there, do this or have that we will be there doing that while we have whatever we were told not to have because we can. Most of the time knowing that i know the answer, solution, the problem before it exists and the path to navigate it to my benefit is enough and stay silent. Fortunately I see myself in my grandson so I can guide him with the why and that will be enough.

[@meh.7640]

1. interesting. for me it was more like being a grown up but being treated like a child. 2. i knew what the other kids were doing to fit in and i didn't like it so i chose not to do that. but i couldn't wrap my head around why they rejected me. being authentic should always come first if you want to have meaningful interactions. obviously. 3. i always thought that authority is not just given to someone who has a higher position than you. it is earned, and if you can't answer my questions, you're not an authority. that just feels to me like i know better than you. 4. no, no, i really was disengaged. because it was so unbelievably boring i had no choice but to entertain myself inside my head. if a topic doesn't capture my attention, my thoughts start to drift off. seems normal to me but i guess when you're like 2 levels above everyone else it becomes ubiquitous. teachers knew i was smart but they couldn't figure out how to deal with it. what made me keep my thoughts to myself wasn't the teachers but rather the hatred and ridicule i got from my peers. 6. i sometimes found myself wanting to get to know someone that i have nothing to do with but i had no idea how. and every time i tried something it was just weird and didn't work. i think mostly because of a combination of awkwardness and the fact that i didn't really talk to anyone else. 7. no dunning-kruger-effect, no confirmation bias. 10. we crave connection and understanding because we are humans. we are social, actually. but what made me feel isolated was not my interests. it didn't help though. i feel like there was no place in the physical or virtual world where i could truly connect to people. others had maybe one shared interest or attribute that i liked, two at most, but that was not enough. i could bike with someone but not talk to them. or i could talk to someone but not game with them. that's just not a sufficient connection. that's too superficial. for a society where everyone seems to value deep connection people are way too quick to tell me i'm too picky. if deep connection is the goal, it should be called being resolute. but in my case, it's not a choice. it's just not worth the hassle to stay friends with someone if the connection is not deep enough. normal people work way differently. well, i guess my story is still relatively unique even among sigmas. i've been suffering from depression since i was in kindergarten. people didn't like me. even the few i did like. i had some connection here and there but nothing to write home about. mostly out of desperation, i guess. wanted my life to end for the first time when i was 10. was misunderstood by everyone, standard deal for a sigma. i met my first (and only) real friend when i was about 20. he lives far away though so i don't see him more than once every 2 years. i struggled with confidence from a very young age because i didn't know why nobody likes me. i thought i must be doing something wrong. i pretty much dedicated my life to figuring out why my life sucks so hard but i always thought i was doing something wrong. everyone told me so and i didn't know any better. i even started a family with a terrible person because i thought it would help to just pretend that i was like the others. that was my last, desperate attempt to fix it by doing something different. but then i learned that this is just who i am and i can't ignore that any longer. so i split up with that person and now i'm still suffering from depression because i can't get rid of her since we have to care for our kids together. and i'm long time unemployed because i just can not get a break. learning about this sigma male thing is very weird to me. it's like i lived all my life trying to accept that nobody can ever understand me and suddenly some yt video explains me to myself. what is this? how do you even know all this? are there studies about it? is it based in science in any capacity? do you just tell us about yourself? why are so many creators doing this nowadays? i need answers.

[@dennisbohner6876]

I decided as a child that I would 'surf' this reality. Since I am not a polymath, literate genius I knew that digging as deep as I could in the subjects that interested me would result in a 'siloed' form of thinking. I am not a Renaissance man. I did feel that this would work as the world is too complex to grasp but you can see the waves, the currents, and the winds on the surface. I let that guide my moves. Statistics and outcomes govern my focus.

[@lynnvener6631]

These traits must be very similar for females as this sounds just like what I experienced as a child. School was especially torture for me as I had too many questions & was always blown off. I was labeled as a TALKER instead of a knowledge seeker😳

[@inquizative44]

I was "parentified" as a child. My mom suffered from mental health issues. So as a 7 year old a child I took care of her. I kept track of her appointments, medication dosage. I administered her medication that I kept away from her. When I was about 6 my mom attempted suicide. She swallowed a whole bottle of phenobarbital (yes, I could read then, as well as I do now.) I called my grandma and the police. That's after my mom smashed the phone into multiple pieces. I literally with my mom's life hanging in the balance figured out how to re-wire the phone to get a dial tone. Matching and twisting wires back together to call for help. How this Google algorithm figured out that I was a Sigma male is amazing. I have to say, I fit all the categories.

[@urrywest]

Are we really sigmas just because we were born to people who never grew up?

[@inquizative44]

@@urrywest No, it's just an example of what Sigma child would do under the circimstances. Also, most kids would haven't been able to fully process what happened. Like my big brother who was 3 years older. He ignored our mother's suicide attempt, he went out and played like an average kid.

[@urrywest]

@@inquizative44 To me it means reflective and independant.... To me sigmas are generally deeply flawed.. For the life of me I don't know why I get so much attention from girls.

[@inquizative44]

@urrywest I think your searching for compliments and validation.

[@urrywest]

@@inquizative44 You got mine... Your cute.

[@OliverWoodphotography]

God this is so me! I always did everything my own way and was always getting in to trouble for reasons I could never understand. I was hyper curious but had little inhibition and would unscrew light switch panels at school to see how they were wired, it felt like a compulsive important mission. I also became a serial truant and young smoker. I got a sense that some of my teachers were unsettled by my complex, odd, aloof and confusing character. I also remember having 'followers' and being irritated by people that wanted to hang around with me or come out on my lunchtime escapades around town. I just needed to be unbridled by 'friends' most of the time and to be in my own adventure space. I was definitely odd but never unpopular with girls, guys often seemed to resent this too and this makes me think that I must have had the Sigma 'thing' ?

[@easter_sunday]

I was already a loner when my father died. I was 10 years old. As for the question "Why", that's the question that was wrapped up in that apple that was offered to Eve by the Serpent.

[@Christopher-e7o]

Great power needs great responses

[@HenryWork-b4j]

I find less "reasoning" and more just "being" that way, especially as a child. While the reasons become apparent over time, in the moment, it's more instinctual and intuitive. Leading to patterning of even intentional self programming.

[@delosreyes8987]

i know what you mean i have experience the outsider feeling quite a lot even in the gym where i practice taekwondo and sometimes in some other places such as churches

[@jeffreylovell1594]

Not so much that I asked “why”in my younger years,I would out my mustard seed curiosity wanted to know what it means…such as words I would ask my mom and she would direct me to the dictionary for Webster Miriam’s… I came home from Sunday School at around the age of 6 to 8 years old asking… “What am I?”,my mom knew what I was asking and answered in kind…we are protestant and that led to more questions which put me into deeper and higher levels of understanding…then as I became aware, I was mistaken for being older… I was judged by my long hair, but hubris was not going to dictate my personality or my path…sure the question of “why” haunted me and I still have to capture my thoughts, but I know whose I am

[@loam5735]

My father showed me how to run a combine when I was four, picking up wheat sitting on his lap he fell asleep and I continued harvesting until pickinig up a rock. Stopped the combine shut everything down then wolk him up to remove the rock. Mother showed us how to cook, she was a great baker but lousy cook. Became addept at it. Torchered by siblings, such as put in a box and dumped head first into a rain barrel or a butter knife heated up in a toaster then slammed onto my sholder. Never fit in, but growing up on a farm and throwing bails of hay over eight foot walls got kinda buff, excelled in sports but average ackademic student. Until last year of high school where actually tried, and got most improved student. Did construction then University. Never understood why this shit was always piled on me, think now it was a recognige to see how much you can take with out breaking. Had a time where I was so distraught I was about to eat a bullet, the only thing that held me back was I thought it was the weak way out. Had relationships where they lied, cheated and were not good people. Sorry for the rant, there is much more but this is enough. Sigma's don't want to lead or recognition, that is the last thing we want. Leave us alone, because as stated you push us too far we will push back.

[@markbell9973]

Wish I could be a friend. Yep. Being raised pretty much totally in a farm environment....what can I say that you didn't already write in your post? Nix! Just that I was born into a farming/ranching community of about 1000 in the middle of nowhere in northern Arizona. There were just enough people to keep me from being totally on my own. Also my grandma...damn miss her. Btw. I bucked hey like the best of 'em. I'd never want to go to the gym after that natural buff. I became a teacher and later a professor. I specialize on the guys in my classes and do all I can to get them to learn the max and to follow the passions they discover. Know what? I wish(÷) that on you, man. That you get a path that takes you to "contented." Also to "surprised by Joy" (quoting one of my fave books). And on to a permanent, quiet happiness with those few friends, maybe a partner, may couple kids, all who love you back, around you. Amen, right? Mark (Slc UT)

[@bman4737]

Nope!!!!! I was unfortunate enough to be born in an abusive home with a father who didn't understand me, teach me how to play such basic sports like catch, shooting hoops, and so forth. My mother was intent on murdering my spirit because her father murdered hers. Both parents liked my younger sister more than me. I got along with all of my cousins, but they were Amish unlike my school peers. I had no neighbor boys to practice sports with, so at school I always got picked last in gym team selection because I sucked at sports. I was an avid book worm, and I thought something must really be terribly wrong with me because I was weird. I knew nothing about Sigma males back then (1970's), but it is likely that my being one helped me to survive!

[@charlesponzi9608]

Not blindly following rules and the ability to connect the dots helped us as adults during COVID-19 when everyone around us was suffering from mass formation. Yes, question everything and observe the world from a safe distance.

[@ernieyangco]

As a sigma I can do many things other people cannot. I learn multiple skills to rely on. I don't like at the mercy of others doing simple job like technical, mechanical, etc.

[@ericleoneshalom359]

VERY TRUE...............

[@Shadow-g5c1z]

Watch, listen and learn. The day you stop learning is the day you die. Watch how you treat others because they are not you. Listen to other’s words you might find a path for yourself to move forward. If you’re a sigma, you understand.

[@tiggerthecat5525]

I've learned not to share my ideas

[@esxlab]

Exactly this...

[@unknownel6174]

I have a disturbing theory that most dictators were sigma children. Being a sigma doesn’t always yield positive results.

[@unknownel6174]

I also understand that they could be Alpha males as well, of course

i enjoy hearing about myself

[@ronaldposthauer1888]

Dang. I thought I was all alone.