Significant relationships and other topics | Real Talk with a Vulnerable Angel and Friends episode 5

[@reflectiveFrankC]

Shared's struggle over predestination many struggle with. It is connected to the concept of free will. Deeper thinkers apply it too widely.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

You and I are similar, not the same. Your path is yours and unique to you.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

My dad was the first black sheep for marrying my mom. He ended up giving up his faith. Before he died he had a resurgence of reading the book of Mormon. I suspect his illness a big factor.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

I appreciate Shared's view of Peterson.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

You know me, I appreciate that regarding my watching. I think you are courageous.

[@dominicacreates]

I'm not sure which part of the video this was in response to. Comments don't post with a timestamp from the video. Sometimes it would be useful if you provided a bit of extra context in your comments so I know what you're replying to (you could include the video timestamp if you don't what to type more words for the context).

[@reflectiveFrankC]

@dominicacreates courage was a general all over commentvfor even doing this.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

@@dominicacreates related to one of your times explaining your reasons for doing these shows.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

Good relationships are a a timing thing. Both have to be ready and good communication is present in some form. If one isn't ready acceptance is important in not trying to force something. The fears need to be understood and accepted.

[@dominicacreates]

I agree with this. We can also think we're ready at the beginning but over time learn we were not as ready as we thought. But sometimes healing comes within the relationship itself, not outside of it. In my last relationship, it had started out in helping me to heal parts of myself I could only heal inside of a relationship. I wanted to continue that journey with him, but there were times I found that difficult, and eventually it seemed like he was not capable of healing with me, or at least not ready for that part of the relationship process.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

Good discussions aren't about winning or loosing but about learning from one another and hopefully helping somehow. That usually means more listening less talking. I have doorknocked as a Catholic. Listen seems to work best. Depending on how pressured I am I have let other door knockers in I have responded in various ways. In earlier times it was more about win or lose. Not my best times.

[@dominicacreates]

Some good points here. It is a good idea to let go of trying to win and just focus on trying to understand each other's perspectives better, and learn about how people have come to their conclusions.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

While sleep brought up my last live comment needed explanation. After saying it realised it may be taken as judgement when I was trying to share a personal insight. When I can't sleep my fears are in control. I find bring prayer or inviting God's presence seems to help sleep come. Years ago I used to have lots of nightmares sometimes waking feeling Satan standing over me. Hopefully this context clarifies.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

Truth leaves one freer in the long run. Conscience is painful when attempting to hide from self.

[@dominicacreates]

I agree with this.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

The guy pushed some unhealed buttons Mike. We generally react to others because our stuff is involved.Things we've dealt with tend not to push buttons and easier not to have fear reactions (fight, flight freeze or fawn)

[@dominicacreates]

Yeah, this makes sense. We're more likely to be triggered when it hits an unhealed button we haven't worked through.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

When you really care about someone you generally want the highest good for them. If it isn't you that's okay.

[@dominicacreates]

Sometimes I think this is one of the reasons Lee let me go, thinking I deserved better than he could provide for me, and he wanted that for me. I didn't agree, but like I've said, I wasn't going to fight for something when he'd already made his decision. He has his own journey and I have to trust that he'll find the path that is best for him because, yes, I still care about him and want what's best for him, even if it doesn't involve me.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

@@dominicacreates I think your thinking is on track in this situation.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

I sometimes use universe something I think St Paul would do. Reference St Paul's letter to Romans I think. If I'm wrong it is in acts when he refers to the state of the unknown God.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

So far I let you know when I watch somehow.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

This was a response when you said you had 4 viewers. I only saw it in the review.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

Anothe C.S. Lewis book A problem of pain.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

In my early 20's I used to read tarot but was really using my intuition with some basic generalities the cards offered. It led me to not believe in them. Too easy to manipulate answers out of people. Gave them up.

[@dominicacreates]

I don't really believe in tarot either, I've just gotten addicted to watching the videos that got fed to me by the algorithm, so I keep watching them, which just gives me more. It's a vicious cycle. There have been times I've found comfort in what is said, but they can be all over the place and contradictory and then you don't really get any answers that way. It was just me looking for comfort from somewhere outside of myself when comfort was hard to find.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

@@dominicacreates treat them cautiously they are or can be manipulative.partly because they push our selfish side more than our with God's will side. It is subtle hard to explain.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

Christ's version of the Golden rule is Love God with your whole being, then love your neighbour as yourself. I was taught God first because God gives context. That context teaches I am loved by God. That leads to knowing how to love others. This involves truth, being real and risking because it leads back to relationship with God. See the later discussion on God.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

She was doing it superficially at a head level. Jesse Green probably most feelings related. Institute of human development gave her mixed thinking. The guy that wrote Why does this keep happening to me seemed to help in she did something with him in U.S. before coming back to Australia. She commented she healed her arm nerve issue she was joyful about. It stirred something up because a few days later when she had her 50th birthday and then the diagnosis of cancer happened. Not sure enough about details. Just my perception. She seemed more alive and willing to take chances. She met you and Elyse to bungie jump, spielunking and balooning. Things that perhaps fit her childhood self. She had been a gymnast like Elyse did.

[@dominicacreates]

I think it was a raw food diet that had cured Mum's arthritis. Yeah I remember her diagnosis being shortly after her 50th birthday. Mum didn't bungie jump, only Elyse did that. We didn't do any ballooning either, unless Mum & Elyse did that before I got to New Zealand. We did rock climbing and spelunking though, and also went to a sulphur and mud bath place. It was a time I treasure and I'm glad I got to have that with her shortly before her diagnosis. I didn't know Mum had been a gymnast though.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

@dominicacreates yes one of the reasons she encouraged Elyse. She did it before her parents died. I think she was a much freer person before that happened. Our first meeting was at Viedavou(sp) known for rock climbing.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

One of the problems of romantic relationships is we make up stories about the other. That's why we need long getting to know one another situations before sex because sex creates artificial bonds to the fake story. Its all chemical hormones. The stats show couples that talk about the things these kinds of cards that we usually develop better relationships.

[@dominicacreates]

Yes, that's right. I've certainly made my fair share of mistakes in that area, and why I've decided to forgo any kind of bedroom activities until I've established that we're on the same page in terms of goals and values so I know we're right for each other.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

@@dominicacreates to me that is marriage given vows from both are real and not manipulated.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

I think you are asking the right questions. Ask Christ to show you. Many have done that. Insights start happening.

[@reflectiveFrankC]

Last comment do you want me to feature your podcast or would that be too stressful? Why I haven't done so for these yet. Different than leggo podcast and your comedy related shows.

[@dominicacreates]

I don't have a problem with you sharing it. I'd love to have more viewers engage with this content. I don't know how much your sharing leads to people viewing my KZbin videos, but I don't think it would hurt. If I had issues with people watching me having deep and vulnerable conversations with my friends, I wouldn't be doing this series. It's for anyone who wants to watch it and might get something out of it.