Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Even though most of us think we’d easily be able to recognize the signs and leave a relationship that’s turned toxic, recent surveys actually report the opposite. Why? Because well, in the words of American author Bryant McGill, “Escaping a toxic relationship can feel like breaking off a piece of your heart. Leaving is never easy, but sometimes it is necessary to save yourself and others from dying inside.”
But knowing how to tell when things are starting to take a turn for the worse can save you a lot of heartache down the road, and may even help you save your relationship before it’s too late.
We also made a video on the EARLY signs a relationship is toxic: • 7 Early Signs of a Tox...
Also check out 5 Levels of a Relationship - Which One are you? • 5 Levels of a Relation...
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Hannah Roldan
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
USA.gov. “Teen Dating Violence.” Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Accessed April 22, 2014.
Solferino, N., & Tessitore, M. E. (2019). Human networks and toxic relationships.
Houston, M. J. (2012). The Psychology of Abusive/Predatory Relationships: How to detach from and avoid these toxic relationships. iUniverse.
Schumm, W. R. (2004). Classifying Toxic Relationships. Journal of Psychology and Theology, 32(4), 349.

[@Psych2go]

Is love a choice? Comment below your vote.

[@luaihara]

Idk but i love this channel

[@emmmlovescats]

no

[@KJ_Parker_008]

Nope

[@pixie5853]

It isn't your choice whether to fall in love or not, but you can choose to act upon it or not

[@ZealousWins]

@@pixie5853 I like your philosophy.

[@sofiathelast_]

Y'all deserve a relationship that allows you to sleep peacefully at night

[@itismetotori]

This is beautiful

[@TheGeneralZubas]

Agreed.

[@racheledwards2352]

I wish I could find one

[@kathyk5589]

If you have a good relationship with Jesus, you will sleep well every night. kzbin.info/www/bejne/g3jUdKWYn61jpqM

[@jessflame50]

THISSSSS i wasn't sleeping properly in the end of my toxic relationship because i knew he was cheating and i wanted him to go to sleep with me so i could make sure he wasn't up cheating. Didn't work, he just lied about going to sleep and then cheated when i thought he was asleep. But ultimately, I'm so so so glad he cheated, because within that week i met my soulmate, and now my ex cheating is the best thing that's ever happened to me.

[@ebtrollfan]

1. You don't feel any support. 2. You don't communicate with each other. 3. There's a lot of jealousy. 4. There's built up resentment. 5. You feel disrespected. 6. You don't have time for other relationships.

[@brandiiiiine]

Thx man, never gonna need this info cuz this boy is gonna be single lol. But who knows, someone might need this. So thx again 😁

[@blazereho811]

Thank you. I didn’t want my boyfriend to hear me watching bc I don’t want him to feel bad lol

[@randycoolbaugh1408]

wow! 6 out of 6!!!! ................

[@ebtrollfan]

You're welcome!

[@ebtrollfan]

@@blazereho811 I'd do the same thing too if I had a boyfriend lol

[@myrna4445]

And this can be friendships as well. Not just love relationships.

[@destineyrodgers1733]

True

[@secretshadow9515]

100% correct, never dated anyone but I still had a ton of Toxic Relationships

[@samuraiboi2735]

@@secretshadow9515 well i know that everyone would say online friends are very trustworthy but that still applies toxic relationships as well but alot harder to find.

[@Gooddaysalways]

Or family

[@devanshu5108]

Very true

[@womenwhodate7643]

"Stop setting yourself in fire to keep someone else warm." - a quote that came to my mind. Remember, you are never alone ❤️

[@disco_depression]

I want to add to this great quote. Especially if the person will afterwards start complaining about the odour of your burning ashes. This odour is the one of all the sacrifices I did for you and all the negative feelings you caused in me piece of sh

[@shinebrightgaamez4329]

That’s a great quote, love it 😩💕

[@bonesbrigad.e___]

Thank you, @The Man Whisperer

[@scarletannelee2023]

Thank you for this, I was in an 8 month sexually abusive relationship and after 2 years free from it I met the love of my life, I sometimes get anxious that my new lover is copying my abusers behaviours and I need to level myself and realise that I’m safe now

[@itismetotori]

I wish you all the best, you deserve love and happiness

[@scarletannelee2023]

@@itismetotori wow, thank you so much this made my whole year, you are so kind. You deserve the whole world

[@mimivu5581]

Hope you are doing fine and heal🙏🏼

[@itismetotori]

@@scarletannelee2023 omg you're so sweet!!! see? you're awesome and deserve only the best

[@fai411]

Wdym by "copying my abusers behavior"? I hope you're safe now,I'm sorry about your situation. You're an amazing person and may your s/o cherish you for life

[@milesgoudy2399]

#1; you don't feel any support: 1:04 #2; you don't communicate with each other: 1:32 #3; there's a lot of jealousy: 2:23 #4; there's built up resentment: 2:51 #5; you feel disrespected: 3:31 #6; you don't have time for other relationships: 4:13

[@josieeeeeeeee3044]

Thank you!! 💕

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for putting this together!

[@leona7558]

"its difficult to accept when the people we love the most are actually the ones hurting us the worst" That hits deep

[@queenraven1156]

Hello future and past viewer 1.)you don’t feel any support-1:05 2.)you don’t communicate with each other-1:33 3.) there’s a lot of jealousy-2:24 4.)there’s built up resentment-2:52 5.) you feel disrespected-3:32 6.)you don’t have time for other relationships-4:14

[@AlexaMinecraft]

Are you a time traveler? Video was only posted a few mins ago but this comment is literally 2 months ago-

[@asomeoneperson4608]

@@AlexaMinecraft it’s actually quite easy to be this time traveler and no you don’t need membership

[@zaharabliss106]

My heart goes out to those with toxic romantic relationships. I'm kinda scared of that since I've had unhealthy friendships where my boundaries were disrespected ,sometimes I was just straight up treated as if I was a toy to be fought over, I was body shamed for being thin all the freakin time and I just felt like I couldn't tell them my problems with them without being told "Yeah but I saw you die in my dreams" (which actually happened) all while dealing with a pathological liar who I thought was my friend. God I can't imagine that but in a worse way.

[@VenuZiast]

im glad you're out of it. you didn't deserve to feel and be treated that way.

[@fangirl714]

same is happening with me right now, but i am trying to get out of it without hurting my 'friend' she is nice but yes she is noone the less :I

[@fangirl714]

@MariaDreamed 这很酷 :3 thanks! but......she is kinda drama queen so im trying not to trigger her drama lever and get out in a peaceful way :)

[@down-like-the-tower]

I don't know why some people are like that.

[@kyan2632]

I'm happy that they show both sides. Not only one side is being toxic, that even the most good hearted person can commit mistakes and that everything has a solution. Is very sweet, thank you for this.

[@kylaa9205]

I haven't been In a Relationship before So I'm here for future preparations. Just In case lol

[@aakashdeepdhall6012]

Exactly

[@Floki-hd3bq]

👀👀✨

[@aakashdeepdhall6012]

Lets be in a relationship Zero two and tanaka

[@autumn_falls8853]

i got a toxic bestie who stole my iphone 11 but i got it back thankfully but then she beated me up and stuff

[@peacheroseee]

same 🕺🏻

[@Floki-hd3bq]

I made a girlfriend first time in life but I never thought it would go so toxic...and it wasn't my fault too 💔😴

[@Psych2go]

Glad you got out of it

[@toeragtoerag]

@@Psych2go can you make a video on “how to get over a rejection? My best friend just left me for another person.

[@Zippy_Diffy216]

“Leaving a bad relationship can feel like ripping off a bandaid, but it’s worth it afterwards” -something I thought of

[@Psych2go]

What's your experience with manipulation? Share your story here!

[@dogewithgun7739]

I can't find love

[@dogewithgun7739]

That was a jokes

[@dogewithgun7739]

Have a very merry Christmas

[@Luci_elf]

Had my ex cheat on me 20+ times and I went back to her because it was so toxic

[@dogewithgun7739]

@@Luci_elf my ex cheat on me 3 times

[@JJ-mh4xd]

Please please leave the situation now I have spent so many years in a awful relationship i finally left someone who was emotionally, domestic, verbally financially he was a Narcissist and so was his parents. It was 3 against me constantly. The keeping score thing was huge for him , he always said for me to leave. If I didn't do want he wanted he would threaten to throw me out of the house. I got on a housing list, and used my friends address so he didn't know what I was doing. I also put my cat as a emotional support animal. Once I found a place I was able to afford the rent and have my cat. He was shocked that I had a plan in place. And I have been gone for 9 months now and loving every minute of it

[@aimeesanchez1769]

I go through this now. It’s highs and lows with him. 😔 it’s been 14 years and I’m now waking up to his narcissistic ways. It’s hard to leave because I’m not financially ready to be on my own. Plus we have two kids together.

[@JJ-mh4xd]

@@aimeesanchez1769 please if can get on a list for housing and get it started i could not agree more it is hard to leave and I was there 13 years . Its going to be hard but you are going to be soo much happier! Nothing is worth all the stress FYI Have the HUD mail sent to a trusted person house so he doesn't know you are on a list. I had to do that. He was none the wiser.

[@edenperry1058]

I just was forced out of a toxic relationship by my ex who twisted himself into the victim position and said my anger towards his actions was "so unfair" towards him. Looking back, I gave him the world and did everything to improve myself so we could be happy and all he did was belittle me and tell me that I wasn't enough. Honestly I think this final round of abandonment is what broke the camel's back because I feel like I'll never be able to trust people again

[@JJ-mh4xd]

@@edenperry1058 i get it, but I think in time we can go watch dr dr Ramani videos i swear by her

[@edenperry1058]

@@JJ-mh4xd I'll have to check it out!

[@SuperBullet78]

Of course there's always hope to a relationship! One of my friends was super jealous when I was hanging out with other people other than her and she became overly obsessive with me. But when we talked about it she understood what was happening and realised that she was going to lose both me and herself if this continues. Now, we are very good with each other, giving enough space but being close too. We are better than we have ever been and we both help each other to grow and become better people. Trust me, communication and being open about your feelings is always the key to fix or develop a relationship!

[@oopimms91oo44]

I'm in a toxic situation, but there's so much we can do to make it less toxic. I'm not giving up, unless nothing changes or it gets worse.

[@sixskydiver9344]

I had a relationship that was like almost all of these points. They made me feel so much worse about myself then I already did. Made it seem like I was blaming others for my long times of sadness when it really was them. They really messed me up and I'm glad I got out of that toxic relationship. Now I'm just trying to learn how to love again, even though it's not easy at all.

[@MyInstaID-islamonly30]

Best wishes

[@ghost_boy2724]

It hurts so much seeing someone else you care about in a toxic relationship. They trust the other person and every time their partner screws up she just makes excuses. I can’t imagine BEING in a relationship this toxic. I don’t know how to help or if it’s even my place to say anything.

[@ceciliaplancarte104]

I think in the end the only and maybe the best hing you can really do is stay by their side and support them. Because when they finally realize and leave that relationship they won't feel alone. I was in a toxic/abusive relationship for 2 years and when it finally ended I was glad one of my friends stayed by my side. She is still to this day a part of my emotional support and helped me so much in healing.

[@eclipseartstudios6352]

Used to be in a toxic relationship a long time back. The best choice I could make was to let go of them and move on with my life. The longer you hold on, the more it hurts.

[@sussymax2421]

It's like you just described my father daughter relationship with most of the signs, even though I knew it was getting toxic. It still hurt like a brick falling on your head.

[@Sica210]

Same!!!

[@fullmetalhundertzehn]

I immediately broke up as soon as I realized my girlfriend was becoming more and more toxic and every attempt to sort out things via communication seemed to be pointless. Definitely the right choice, even though the break-up was kinda cringe.

[@SpookyGhost61]

My relationship, or what’s left of it, it definitely moving in a toxic direction. On a break now, but I don’t think all is lost. They have only just become noticeable, and can be worked through. Thank you for helping to clarify these behaviors

[@namethestars]

Unfortunately I was blind to the toxic nature of my relationship, those rose coloured glasses, I only realised to my detriment when he was arrested and jailed. Ten years of lies that I thought was real, it takes a toll on the soul 😔 the signs were there but I naively ignored them and really shouldn't have, more fool me.

[@han-od2yx]

i was in an extremely toxic relationship for 2 years. i felt very trapped and suffocated by my ex. he manipulated me into cutting off a lot of my closest friends, so i felt like if i lost him i’d have nobody. even though i was not in love and hadn’t been for awhile, leaving him was one of the hardest things i’ve ever done. he continued to drive to my house and text me off random numbers after i’d beg him to stop. he only stopped when i called the police and filed a restraining order. we broke up this summer and since then i’m very happy with someone who treats me right. to anyone who’s currently in a toxic relationship, it’s so much better to be alone then to be with someone who doesn’t treat you right. leaving is difficult, but it’s worth it.

[@kimsmith819]

Thank you for the information. I just cried through the entire video. Yes, I'm struggling badly to get out and stay out

[@keiraadolph442]

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[@collidedloveandhate]

Its been a reoccurring pattern my entire life, so much that I have been guilty of being toxic as well. I just want to remove myself from everyone so I can get mentally well and stable for myself. I feel I owe it too all those that I have hurt, neglected, and at times manipulated. I didn't realize I was doing that, but I can see that that was what I was doing. I an remorseful and well do all I can to repair my values and intentions.

[@ilyakuznetsov2075]

This whole video really resonated within me. Especially the part about open communication. It just feels like we both weren't as open about our feelings about the relationship as we should've been. Neither of us took the time we needed to reflect on the whole thing. Both of us were toxic to an extent and this video has made me realise that I was the one who had more toxic habits than my partner. We never fought but there was definitely a cloud of resentment drifting between us, pushing us further apart. I wish I could take back some of the things I did but I can't do much now. I wish she told me sooner so I could've done something about this. My wishful thinking doesn't excuse that I should've realized my toxic habits too. I was blind I might still be. I can't do much now other than hopefully learn. I disrespected my partner on a lot of levels and I wish I was at least aware of this. In my next romantic relationship, I hope for more clear communication. I think that the lack of communication might have been rooted in my inability to commit to the relationship fully. I will hopefully do better in the future. Thank you for taking the time to read through my rant of a comment.

[@kiraa2636]

I've been upset in my relationship recently and this made me realize the way it's going. I genuinely want us to work because i love him so much and have never felt this way about some one before

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[@5hane9ro]

Videos like this just show me how toxic my last relationship was. She was short adorable girl that no one would have suspected her to be the way she was but now I'm just glad I noticed when I did and ran.

[@user-th1cy4hv9x]

This topic was like my relationships with my narcissistic parents nowadays

[@Sica210]

Yep! Especially the nowadays part.

[@animationsforfun0]

This didn't happen to me with a significant other, but with a friend. I saw many of the signs that I could relate to. We're now over and treat each other as strangers.

[@dragonswirl3579]

Here's the thing, me and my ex partner acknowledged these signs and tried to fix things 3 times, and it never worked. No one I've ever met who's been in a toxic relationship has been able to save it. You'll just end up hurting yourself more.

[@ShopperKungVtuber]

and everyone tell me to be myself and i was like i'm so toxic why you want it and now everyone hate me

[@andyc9902]

You just need love. Just change the people who are arround you

[@ShopperKungVtuber]

@@andyc9902 nah just deep down i know i'm really bad person i still try to reconnect with my friend that i too toxic with them i just want them to know i change but they never gave me a chance anymore

[@andyc9902]

@@ShopperKungVtuber well self realization is the first step. Heal well good luck

[@ShopperKungVtuber]

@@andyc9902 Thank you i'll do my best

[@andyc9902]

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[@MrAhmed7608]

Wow! I love your videos! I’ve been subbed to you for years. They have so much information and I love how you talk about things most other ppl wouldn’t, and you animate it too! Keep up the great work!

[@AyuChii]

Thanks for making this video. I shared it to my friend whom is in a toxic relationship right now.

[@eud64_]

Thank you for sharing! These videos always hit the spot when needed.

[@WheatleyDuxk]

Reminds me a lot of my first relationship. It got pretty bad and it affected us both heavily. I used to be sad when we ended up stop talking with each other but I eventually saw that it was best this way.

[@DrJustininJapan]

VERY POWERFUL VIDEO!! it is good for people to recognize signs of toxicity to best protect their mental health

[@jakubkurzyna8149]

You're voice is so friendly and welcoming, and the content is always so interesting and eye-opening :)

[@Artemixization]

You have accuratebly described, point by point, the relationship I had 7 years in the past. I couldn't avoid the bullet on time, but fortunately, the pain now is (almost) over.

[@FelixSkura]

The highest vibrational thought which always keeps you strong is the energy of love. Accept yourself as it is and start loving yourself first.

[@Cloudy_Canoodle]

I left a toxic relationship recently, I felt amazing after leaving it, and felt like the world has been lifted off of my shoulders. I told my friends that I left the relationship but they just glared at me and are mad at me. I don't know what to do.

[@starchambers8200]

Hope you can all recover from something like this, in my case the relationship was one like it came straight out of a fairy tale at first but it just turned out to be like all these points in the video, it fell apart. A really good step you can do when this is the case, it's just accept that maybe it just wasn't meant to be, when you've given everything you could and still, it won't feel the same way as it used to be or don't feel like there won't be any progression at all, we just gotta be strong and move on, this really hurts but time can cure the pain if we know how to love ourselves first, if you're reading this and experienced this too, you have all my support, stay strong and bring the light on your eyes back, we all deserve it. 💛

[@DuDaJ_JacobDowns]

I’ve never been in a relationship(teen) but *thanks* to your videos I think when I get in one it will be as *healthy* and *good* as a relationship can get 😊

[@xitogun101]

I love that you guys acknowledged the fact that you can still talk and air things out and potentially salvage things. Some people do the whole “cut it off and walk off in silence” thing and often times I feel like that leaves people with a bitter perspective of friendship. And then when you run into these people they have trust issues that you don’t immediately see until you’ve been friends with them for a while. But again, conversation is key! It will let you know if you can talk things out or if the damage is too severe and you should move on.

[@sawlaura9709]

I do like the videos that are uploaded to this channel. Im more of a visual and hands on learner. So most of these videos are helping me learn from past mistakes and understanding better on how to work on things with myself.

[@naivelittlgirl]

i just cut things off with my toxic "friend" and she literally said it was my fault lol, but i've never felt more free in my whole life then i do rn, at first i was kinda sad but now i'm fine, although she left me with a shit ton of problems :')

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[@itssnll]

Thanks, Psych2Go! I watch these types of videos not only to look out for myself but for my partner as well 🥺 I don't want to become toxic towards him, he deserves all the best this world!

[@censorship4374]

I was in a toxic relationship for four years. Both of us where responsible. And it was one of my hardest decisions I've ever made, but it definitely was needed. Even if it hurts the alot, time heals every wound.

[@animefoeseal1923]

Those statistics are kinda scary. Also hi from the past to all future viewers

[@_naneko]

how? 😱

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[@awlonghurst]

I love your voice, it sounds so calming and kind.

[@iamgoddessoflove]

Any relationship that makes you feel worse about yourself, rather than better, is toxic! When you are left feeling unloved, drained and have been attacked in any way, is a sure sign that you're in a toxic relationship. No one is worth staying in a relationship that causes you constant pain and heartache.💔 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships

[@kin-ra2146]

Thank youuu I really needed this

[@sunflowerdrops55]

You guys are one of the best channels

[@kenni_li]

Recently left a half-decade long toxic relationship. It's been happier since i left but, I'm ngl, It was a traumatizing break-up and I still get nightmares and cold sweats about that relationship. But, im still happier tho 👌

[@averysleepyartist]

Thank you so much for this video! I showed me that I made the right choice

[@denver8029]

Thanks for making this

[@e_squared7797]

I love the Stardew screen and music it is one of my favorite games and I find it calming.

[@gabrielledrake9218]

I was in such a toxic relationship for over a year. I was a shell of a person & he’d dismantled my entire personality bc he was desperate to have a quiet & acceptable girlfriend who wouldn’t embarrass him. I’m loud, I’m always joking, I love making people laugh & I’ve never cared what other people think. But he destroyed me little by little & I wasn’t me anymore. I told myself every single day “if I love him a little more today, maybe he’ll love me a little more tomorrow” … and he never did. No support, no kindness, just mean words & coldness. I let myself stay in that situation for so many months. I let myself be unhappy for so long. Please, don’t ever let anyone treat you like this. It is the worst feeling & it takes so long to recover. Im sending so much love to anyone in a toxic relationship right now. You deserve so much better. If it’s just slightly toxic, then I really hope you can work to better your relationship & get to a healthier place 💗

[@Thefadedfairy]

It’s hard to understand toxicity when you’re in it. Once you get out,it’s a game changer

[@feliciatran5667]

Thank you so much for this video, because that is what I needed to watch due to personal problems, at home including one with my mom. I need to continue reaching out to those resources now 😩

[@Psych2go]

Glad it was helpful! How many signs did you resonate with?

[@lillylovegood2300]

To be honest, when you said jealousy comes from a place of attachment I was kinda called out. I'm really easily attached. I have monophobia, and a huge fear of abandonment. And when I find someone to be close with I get bad. I don't ignore others, I quite like my friend group and will spend days hanging with my friends and family while I was on the phone with my partner (when he wasn't sleeping from his night job) he'd go hang out with his friends and family, and often times called me, and I liked that. I wasn't the one needing to go 'hey, babe. Wanna call?' He was. It worked well with my attachment issues, and played out nicely for our relationship. Just chatting while we did our own thing. However when I found out he was hanging out with an ex at one point I got really jealous. I wasn't sure who she was or anything. And I got a bit distant. I trusted him and I was sure they weren't going to do anything. But for a moment I felt threatened? I guess is how you could say that. Mainly cause his brother had mentioned his ass(I was on call with them) and they got into a brief conversation about it. And now, I do talk dirty minded things with all my friends, but at that time I was kinda like "really?" We got passed it and I promised him I wouldn't get distant again and that he can see his friends no matter what. I tried really hard to let him know he doesn't have to choose one or the other. I had an ex do that to me. And I let him separate me from everyone and so leaving him took so much time cause of my need to have someone. I can't possibly put anyone else through it. Guy I was jealous with however, we had met on Halloween, that was going to be our official anniversary cause it was the day I got to physically meet him. We went to a haunted house. He let me cling to him at all times the entire weekend I was there with him. He looked at me with so much love. He touched my face with delicate fingers, and held me to him like I was the only person he wanted to hold. He told me he loved me. Gave me such a dumbass smile. Kissed me in such a sweet manner... And then on the 4th, a couple days after I went back home, he broke up with me. Because he couldn't get over his ex(not the friend. But a different one) It all fell apart, my depression, which I had been trying to cope with the entire relationship (which he knew about, cause he talked me out of suicide a couple weeks before we got together) collapsed. And my mental state came tumbling down. And I wanted to end my life, I couldn't cope with it. And it made me act out. And he hates me now. And I know he does, though he doesn't say it. And I deserve it. I'm still not over him. I still struggle with everything. Wondering where I fucked up. Where I couldn't be better than his ex. Why he looked at me like he did, when his excuse for me wasn't just that he still loved his ex, but that the love he had for me was platonic. And now he's out of my life and I miss him more than the relationship. I miss our friendship before he even knew I had feelings for him. I know I'm a bad person, but I'm not sure what I did to deserve this amount of pain. To be crying while typing this when I should be sleeping cause I just got out of my night shift at work.

[@noelcastillo7261]

Im thankful were not yet in to a big fight.. and anyone of us looks down or hurt.. we told eachother with care even were not yet on to a relationship.. we have up and downs and quite cold eachother but were still on track of things..

[@lesliemorganking3283]

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[@happinesssomewhere18]

I haven't watched this yet but it's almost a year now being out of a 7 off and on toxic relationship with no apology or closure. The ending was horrible and traumatic for me. I've come to learn a lot about myself and him when I finally distanced myself for good. I worked on myself and continuing to grow. There was many red flags but I later discovered I was codependent and be was a narc. We deserve someone who realizes we are truly special. We deserve to be at peace and not in pieces.

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[@boomboom1258]

I was living with an ex partner for business and work reasons. I knew that he has developed strong dependency on me like I did too, but the moment when I've been taunted about leaving that living place, I knew something is up in the air. sometimes I regretted to be too kind and understanding of his mental illness that didn't help him with controlling his behaviours, but I know I can't do otherwise because I'd be a walking contradiction. It then became emotionally and physically abusive because I keep wanting out of that house for my sanity sake and I felt like a mom or maid helping him with the simplest chores seeing how he struggled with even taking a shower or getting food. Part of it has to do with my guilt from our past relationship history, but it also has to do with severe attachment to each other out of emotional and financial reasons. Few weeks ago, a big argument blew up and I decided at that moment that is it, I'm done. I'm done being made to feel bad about wanting my own life outside of his place. The built up resentments I have carried spilled out to our dynamic previously. Right now, looking back, it is truly toxic and abusive. I feel glad that I finally found the courage.

[@Sir_Outsider]

Sad to say that i was in a relationship with someone who was angry that i wasn't the jealous type, as well as having privacy.

[@gingermonke9406]

This is currently what's happening to me, I'm scared to loose her, Idk if it's me who's the problem or the fact that she doesn't really communicate with me. I just want her love :( She recently lost her online best friend, which had a huge impact on her, and I'm trying my best to help her get better, but it's just super hard when she doesn't want to talk with me about it that much... I feel ignored at forgotten, it feels like I'm not a part of her life anymore :( I just can't see myself breaking up with her, she's hurt already, and so am I. I can't do that towards her, I'd see myself as an absolute idiot. I just want our relationship to go back to when it started (1 month and 5 days ago), she used to almost be clingy and never let go of me, I felt like we loved eachother so much that we would never experience stuff like this. Currently I'm trying to give her space and time because of her best friend who isn't with us anymore :,( but I still want to be loved, and I still want to be there for her. This video explains alot and I want to fix it all somehow, but I can't do that myself. This shit sucks man :c - whoever experiences the same, talk to me fr... we maybe can help each other

[@ktonder1]

All of these signs were in my previous relationship. Recently broke it off and the toxicity had really messed me up mentally...

[@sirknightday]

I used to have someone, she meant everything to me and I couldn't live without her. She was asexual and couldn't exactly love me back, but it didn't stop me from wanting to be with her. It broke my heart when I decided to end our friendship because leading up to it, I drained myself physically and emotionally to try to apologize for something I did, although we both knew that I couldn't be forgiven and our friendship turned toxic because everything I did was done for her when it was only hurting the both of us. I miss her so much and it sucks because we go to the same school, I wish I could say something, but it won't change anything.

[@Fordthepebel]

I am so glad I watched this. I am breaking up with my boy friend tomorrow, I relate to all of these 😢

[@wildnfearless9840]

Yeah, I recently broke up with mine and this just solidified the reasons behind my choice

[@michaelk4896]

Just a couple weeks ago I also exited a relationship of nearly 8 years and this video pretty much confirmed what I had been feeling for some time. Go with your gut feeling, do what feels right for you. Don't be like me and stay in a relationship for too long thinking hopefully it can all somehow become better. At some point you have to jump off a sinking ship...

[@wildnfearless9840]

@@michaelk4896 I agree with you. I thought the same. That it would get better but it never did. I had to let it go and be happy. I'm still friends with him though.

[@Fordthepebel]

Thank you! That means a lot! I realize now that I’m a lot happier:)

[@jeanettegriffin772]

I t.hink another sign that someone is in a toxic relationship, is when the toxic partner creates drama. I know a couple who did this to me. But it back fired. They did me a favor because the drama was centered around my son. It made me realize my son was going through a bad time. And I have gotten closer to him. As for them... they truly deserve each other!

[@blacklight2709]

In personal experience, I had a toxic relationship and it was hard to leave her. After that, when the shitshow ended, I had the chance to be with a lovely girl, but after almost a year, when I have felt I needed some time to be with myself and to heal because of my own depression, she slapped me when I was telling here I wanted to be better... And that broke me. All and everything I felt for here. I just leaved and that was it. Sometimes is even harder to see the signs... The last lesson she left me.

[@chessdad182]

Hit the nail on the head!

[@ar_wellow3819]

It's really hurt when you are in a toxic relationship. But I also wondering if there's any signs of a toxic relationship between best friend or friendship?

[@girl-wh8dv]

Yes

[@drewneutral389]

Of course

[@tekashimaahshiha647]

mmhm

[@Thefifthpacmanghoststinky]

These are all things that have happened or are happening in my relationship, but I feel like I can’t leave. It’s been 2 years and I’m drained and exhausted most days. Her family treats her like garbage so I know that everything she does is not her fault, it’s just responses and behaviours/habits to being abused by her two siblings and her parents her entire life. I know how she is on the inside better than anyone else so I know she’s a sweet, romantic, artsy, and happy girl but her depression makes it very hard for us to enjoy our time together. The problem is that if I leave she will most likely end her life. I’m the only person she has to call back on and in the only one who gives her time of day besides some of her work friends. We’re always together, not because that part is toxic, but because she can’t be at home, or then I have to deal with talking her out of a depressive episode because of the things her mom and her siblings say to her every time she’s at home. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like things would improve if I asked her to marry me and we just left, but I’m not sure I even have enough left in me to make that incredible effort. I love her to the moon and back but it’s getting harder and harder to call her in the mornings.

[@Anifi_Nya]

Thank you so much for the video. It was really informative and help me know that my previous relationship was toxic but can u please make a video "HOW TO GET OVER A BREAK UP OR A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP" It may be helpful for me and many others.

[@CherryRiot.]

I just left a toxic friendship and these are the exact things that happened. I knew for a pretty long time that we weren't right for each other but I still stayed bc they made me so happy even though they treated me horribly. Its true when they say its hard to walk away from a toxic relationship, whether it be platonic or romantic.

[@NuclearBacho]

I feel down about my current relationship status we got into a fight on Tuesday. And I feel like we lost are spark we had are breakup after but we still care and love each other and it's hard. I'm taking this video as a learning lessons of my mistakes on what I shouldn't do. Currently I just feel depressed about it because we weren't like this for the first year but then come around 2 are 2nd anniversary. I feel like we suffer a lot of loses in both of are families, and me not taking her serious hurts her and it hurts me for not picking that up. I treated her with disrespect mostly because she's scared to open up to really anyone I should've known that when she first told me. Honestly I'm taking this as a punch to the gut and just learning off my experience it's crazy I still love her and wanna do better and actually show that after this "break" is over. My jokes aren't cool me pushing things under the rug wasn't alright either. I just wanna re-spark what we had at the start.

[@MoshiurRahmanGFX]

I realized I am a toxic person and I experienced & noticed all those 6 points in me 1. You don't feel any support. 2. You don't communicate with each other. 3. There's a lot of jealousy. 4. There's built-up resentment. 5. You feel disrespected. 6. You don't have time for other relationships. At and end of that I lose her ( she was the first person i ever truly like and opened my heart). It was completely my fault. I never knew I am a toxic man. Now I know but don't know how to become better. I hope I get or find some help. ( This video is 100% correct with real information.)

[@fxxkingxuselessx5501]

Perfect timing i was just asking me this question

[@celteranira]

When helping someone with their jealousy, I believe that the main goal should be clarified and maintained (e.g. maintaining the relationship, rather than deciding it based on feelings of jealousy). It's fine to feel jealous or feel which ever way, but when it's to a distrustful/destructive degree, everything can get destroyed in the process and that'd not be preferable in my opinion.

[@twostepz4982]

Not just relationships, but it applies to everything relating to human relationships too. If you can’t see or feel you’re relaxed with the person or people, leave!

[@alluresearlesxxxgalaxyqueen]

I recognize the some of the signs my relationship with my boyfriend for sure is toxic I hope it gets better

[@_naneko]

This just described my relationship with my mom, honestly

[@arielmaule]

Terrific video.

[@faithrosepetal4794]

This is my family... my grandparents and aunt... I've tried so many times to have a bond with my family but they don't seem to want one with me. I've grown to resent myself as well, thinking it's all my fault that they don't seem to want anything to do with me. I know that this was most likely geared to boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, but this reminds me so much of my own family. I tried to talk to them so many times and, while one minute it could be going decently, the next, they could be fighting with me over something so small and I retreat to my room again. My room is my safe haven and I try to avoid talking with my family for as long as I possibly can... knowing what would happen if I do end up trying again for a bond that most likely won't exist for a long while. I've neglected caring for myself as well (well, not showering or anything like that-- more for a problem I have with my appearance) because I just keep hearing 'what's the point' repeating over and over in my head. So I leave it and then hate myself for it at the same time.

[@lebbecca1817]

Your voice is so soothing 😊

[@somerandomfella]

We have a limited amount of time on this earth. Spend it wisely on yourself & non toxic people.

[@omenafro]

You can expand on Reason 2. I know many people who see a text from their partner and wait it out or flat out ignore them and only message back hours or days later. Then when I ask these same people why they never respond, they say "I'm always busy". False, I just watched them swipe away their message or scroll past and we're in a situation where they aren't doing anything. And if they didn't feel like talking then that's still bad since they do it so often they get labelled as that guy or girl who doesn't check your messages Their absence makes you stop trying and not wanting to talk to them anymore :/

[@dreamtoonfamily]

Praying that everyone falls asleep quickly and has a peaceful sleep. Hope you all wake up happy and well rested 😘😘

[@rainy_meadows1334]

I was in a 2 year on and off toxic relationship.. I just FINALLY broke it off in September. He made 5 other accounts on Snapchat trying to get me back. It felt absolutely horrible... I broke down with my friend and spent a lot time just trying to put my head around how bad it was through the years. He was so amazing I'm the beginning but he made small comments that I deemed normal. But it was him trying to control me and make me spend all my time with him.

[@Hikikowori]

im literally crying

[@bellagibbs6207]

Thank you 🙏🏻✌️💕🦋

[@nesswednesday2976]

Man... I was responsible for being jealous and not giving myself time for other relationships. There was a friend my ex knew. I got unnecessarily hostile when I noticed they shared jackets. Whenever she wasn't near, I assumed it meant she didn't love me anymore. This happened while I thought I had to be in a romantic relationship to get friends, which is wrong. I never learned much about how they worked either. Over the course of this year, I learned where I went wrong and educated myself about healthy relationships. In fact, I recently apologized to her. We both felt happy to release the weight off our shoulders. Although I recognized my problems two years too late, I'm glad we both can live our separate lives and move on peacefully.

[@trippofficial1261]

“You start to lose yourself in them, and end up neglecting all of your other important relationships in your life. Especially with yourself” 💔💔💔 I hate that this love turned me toxic. I still love you AC, but I guess it’s better this way… I hope you’re doing well

[@3DGEmusic]

I should be sleeping rn 😳 Great video as always! ❤💯

[@kristinanicole1592]

1000% right

[@faefae9913]

oml... i started to think i was in a toxic relationship with one of my "close" friends so I tried to get closer and closer. Then I decided to distance myself since none of my efforts were benefiting either of us... I soon realised that it was toxic for us to continue like this. I want to talk to them about my problems with our friendship, but I am very aware that we are both the reason why it has become toxic. They are arrogantly confident, so my alexithymia-like personality becomes very inferior when we talk about serious stuff. Basically, we are both the problem, but my side of the relationship can't be understood...