10 Things A Narcissist Would Say

[@janedoe133]

My cat came to mind, 😳but she’s forgiven. 😻

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

Lol

[@kmr4360]

💀💀💀💀

[@oliviateller9087]

😭😭😭

[@byunbaek6210]

HAHAHA SAME

[@glennbrown3426]

TRUTH! I have three of those little narcissistic things 😻😻😻

[@Albatross4Sure]

Let's not forget that "I miss you" means "I miss controlling you," and "You've changed" means "You're not letting me control you anymore." EDIT: Obviously I am not talking about people in normal, healthy relationships. This applies to abusers. Given the nature of this video, I didn't think that needed to be stated outright.

[@cl8wnm5n]

Spot on.

[@mollymcwilliams3325]

That second part thoooo

[@SinfulScents]

Wow that’s interesting

[@Coral781]

Totally. Took me awhile to realize this but it’s 🎯

[@diabloakland]

Omg yes

[@wesercole]

I lost my bestfriend of many years because of my narcissistic behaviour. She is the most gentle kindest person on earth and I lost her because of my toxic personality: I put her down, made her feel insecure, took advantage of her kindness and I will never forgive myself for that. She figured it out and not long after I did too. I just wanna say, take a step back and reflect on your actions, maybe it’s because of your bad childhood but you can help yourself. I’ve learned from my mistake and if you are reading this Melissa, you did a good thing by walking away from me, I’m sorry.

[@Themusicalpuzzle]

I am sad to read your comment. The good thing is that you recognize your mistakes....Time make us grow up and analize ourselves. I hope you will be friends again in the future. Life is long :)

[@madonnauchehara7755]

It takes a brave person to acknowledge their mistakes. You might have pushed your friend away because of some of these reason, but that doesn't make you a narcissist. A narcissist will never admit that they are wrong, because they are without empathy.

[@t-t8943]

Yeah I've had something similar happen to me. But she forgave me, I'm not sure if I'm narcissistic or not but used to have A LOT of mood swings and had some of the the things on the list (I do know I'm not an expert, so I won't diagnose myself) I do regret a lot of things I've done to her because she was my only true friend and all I had were my fake friends who I was very toxic to, and I'm trying my best to seek therapy however I always had this mentality where I would think that if you get therapy you're weak. Oops I made this too long, anyways I totally relate, and I know you can get through this and change because it's never too late, and I'm sure you're ex friend will at least appreciate that you are trying to change.

[@wesercole]

@@t-t8943 she distanced herself and that’s when I realised I was the toxic one this whole time. I needed some time apart from her to make me realise that. She greeted me on my birthday, I wanted to reply but I realised that for her own sake, I didn’t. She doesn’t deserve a person like me. I’m glad your friend forgave you

[@elgekok560]

@@wesercole Well you can change, honestly once you better yourself, come back to her.

[@RafaelNelvam]

If you're wondering "am I a narcissist?", you most probably aren't. Real narcissists (usually) won't even wonder if they are the problem EDIT: "you most probably aren't" doesn't mean "you never are". DISCLAIMER: if you're still in doubt, look for professional help, just like the channel reccomends

[@1crazycity]

Oh shit 😂

[@BLUE_FLUFF]

Oh- well thanks I guess 😂

[@potatowarrior747]

Thanks...I'm kalm now😂

[@catherinejoydoromal9079]

That's absolutely true. I once had a 2 year relationship with a narcissist. When i watched this video, he's literally the first person that popped into my head. He has said all these things to me and even tried to abuse me mentally and emotionally. When i tried talking sense to him and pointed out his mistakes, he turned the tables and never admitted his wrongdoings. He doesn't even realize it all. When i finally broke up with him, he tried apologizing like "I'm sorry if I made you cry. Idk what i did but I'm sorry I hurt you. I think I'll be depressed and do self-harm" Like what???

[@deepadcruz6483]

@@catherinejoydoromal9079 just tell him, "oh, if that helps u heal please." 😂 So proud of you that u took things in ur hand and came out of such a relationship.

[@michaelachase]

Just escaped a narcissist that had me in her grasp for 7 years. Videos like this really help validate and understand things more clearly. Thank you for making videos like this, seriously

[@Weekdiertje]

so hows life been when you got escaped? I'm so doubtful if I should do it

[@michaelachase]

@@Weekdiertje life has been significantly better but I still live in fear of her. Just way less stressed and better off because I’m not getting put down every day and starting to actually love who I am for me. It’s hard because you still think about them but easy at the same time because you also think about everything they put you through, but it’s worth it

[@Weekdiertje]

@@michaelachase thank you for responding, I appreciate it. I have to do it at the end of this month too.

[@michaelachase]

@@Weekdiertje it’s definitely really hard to untrain your brain dealing with a narcissist but it’s so worth your mental health and serenity to cut contact. It’s apparently the most sure fire way to remove them and stop the trauma. You got this man

[@321tiempo3]

I'll have a baby with one

[@normanelat]

from my observation, narcissists dislikes confident people because they aren't 'controlable'

[@kuntao791]

They dislike confident people that are not subservient to their egos and can see through their bullshit. They love confident people that fall for their bullshit.

[@Kelle0284]

@@kuntao791 Confident people won't fall for stuff like that.

[@kuntao791]

@@Kelle0284 I've witnessed this.... or maybe they just seem confident.

[@saddytrends]

Yeeeeees!! This is so true

[@AkropolisNo9]

@Bilinda Mueller pure evil I had one situation not that long ago with narcissists (1st time in my life) and it was very horrible

[@VengefulPolititron]

Might be a narcissist: 1. looks for validation alot 2. isolate you from others 3. say you're overreacting 4. "not everything is about you" 5. "nobody likes you" 6. "I help you, you owe me" 7. "you can't do it without me" 8. "don't let it go to your head." 9. "I'm the best you'll ever have" 10. "I'm only doing this cause I love you."

[@VengefulPolititron]

@@moniopia9551 that's the original story... reflection in a pond. but yes. I do that too.

[@VengefulPolititron]

@@moniopia9551 self reflection. childhood trauma social learning school stuff things that hurt you emotionally. learn about it. because of you don't know why you react or think the way you do.... them like me. and all people.. are just robots with programmed reactions. gotta fight yourself and not react the way you think you should or can. choose the high path. don't be a victim of your emotions or past. learn the truth about yourself. find the inner child. who you really are... before life hurt you. we all have been changed by that do back to who you were born as

[@marcybernstein1647]

MY SISTER IS AN NARCISSIST. SHE GOES AROUND TO EVERYONE AND SPEAKS BADLY WITH EVERYONE WHE KNOWS ABOUT US OUR FAMILY. SHE FORGETS SHE IS AN 8TH GRADE DROP OUT. I TRULY LOVE MY SISTER AND WISH WE COULD HAVE HAD A BETTER RELATIONSHIP YEARS AGO AND BE VERY CLOSE TODAY.

[@Elennar29]

Sounds like my husband. I don't know what to do guys 😔

[@betlea8070]

Always look for a list as the pace of the voice is infuriatingly slooooooooooo! Thanks for saving nearly 6mins of my life!!

[@jilliancrawford7577]

One thing I've noticed about narcissists is that they think everyone around them is a narcissist.

[@kyufweqw]

Maybe you are a narcissist too.

[@SJD207]

Yes narcissists project what they are onto others constantly... 🤪

[@annickdeborgher3896]

Yeah!

[@privatedeborah1004]

The exact thing happened to me in a past relationship. This guy was obsessed with the idea his father is a narcissist, it turned out he was narcisstic himself. He considered himself as the eternal victim, his parents were rich and he was the typically spoiled rich kid who had a taste for drugs and relentness self pity.

[@hs-zd4ch]

Thiss!!! Common among narcissistic abusers and non-narcissistic abusers is the thought that other people are just as manipulative, selfish, etc and then through that they believe that they don't have to change or have accountability.

[@sarah7thday786]

Guard your heart above all else.

[@rosethornil]

Thank you for this reminder. It was exactly what I needed to remember today. Exactly. I’m struggling myself to sort things out and this is a blessing for me. Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

[@Rawan98n]

I'm sorry for everyone who's been in a relationship with a narcissist person

[@ranikalakaar]

Mi 2

[@kaylaburse6319]

I was.... He emotionally abused me and I broke up with him.... Then he tried to get me back and said "I love you... I just wanted you to know that." And I said... "You're too late but thanks for telling me."

[@Rawan98n]

@@kaylaburse6319 good for you girl!!!

[@RideAcrossTheRiver]

I tell myself that her narcissism was a monstrous trait of her personality tied closely to her anger, dissatisfaction, alcoholism and drug use--things she just did not care to, bother to, or was able to control.

[@karlakolumna3101]

If it is any consolation and for anyone currently suffering heartache over someone like that: my narcissistic marriage ended 9 years ago and after a while of healing, I feel a bit "bulletproof" against this now. I recognize these traits in someone quickly and am able to keep/seek my distance. It's not a nice experience per se, but once you understand the patterns, you will recognize them when they show up again and be able to clean up your social circle and live more peacefully&happy. 💐

[@larajoygheriafi8205]

My “best friend” did all of these things.... I had low self esteem because of them and ended up blaming myself for all that happened

[@lizseal6401]

This happened to me as well. The kids in elementary school can be surprisingly manipulative. I had two toxic friends who said almost every single one of these.

[@themockingjay3173]

Wtf hauahauaha😂

[@sz7646]

@@themockingjay3173 gtfo.

[@xoxosalma6303]

BRUH I GOT BULLIED AND THAT MADE MY SELF ESTEEM DIE SO I FEEL U

[@Gks812]

☹️ same here.

[@24craash81]

don’t forget “you were being so nice to me now you’re being mean” which really means “why aren’t you letting me control you anymore?” 😂

[@AmaraOkpechi]

A THOUSAND TIMES, YES!

[@thebutterscotchkid2481]

Have people actually said that to you?! Jesus Christ!!

[@rtphotos4691]

@@thebutterscotchkid2481 - I just heard it yesterday.

[@maxiejohnson1774]

To Game from Crash...That Sounds like A Narcissist Who Also Still caught in His/ Her Childhood the Way He/ She Worded how Nice or Not Nice U Owe Them Like U guys are Sharing Lollipops!! That's Exactly what it Means that's about Control and Wearing their Famous Mask's to the World, please don't Let People find OUT Who I Really Am, Because I Don't Really Know!!!!

[@Sweethippiexo]

But it also be something the victim says. Narcs tend to love bomb and present themselves as such a nice, kind person only to switch up half way through and become so nasty and mean. This is what happened to me in my 3 year relationship. When I met him, he was the sweetest guy and acted like he desired me so badly, made me feel good. Then it started. The “jokes”, the lying, the cheating, the excuses because they’re a victim and only their feelings matters, blame placing, gas lighting, and even to the point of physical threat over a small conflict. I questioned myself for so long and started questioning him. Why was he so nice then just snapped into this mean, scary person? It’s been a little over 3 years and we’ve had our ups and downs but I’m still struggling to completely let go and it’s going to take me a long time to heal..

[@beanoir86]

Coming out of a 7 year narcissistic abusive relationship was the best thing that ever happened to me... too many of those phrases ring true 😒

[@ValeneseB]

It was 7 years for me, too! 😢😢

[@kat71580]

Mines been a lifetime ., I was constantly told, my family didn't love me, moved miles away from them...control, isolation, I've fought back, I'm nearly, thru that open door..be kind to yourself, stay strong...find you again..❤

[@tigresmom5654]

7 years is a long time to deal with someone like that, or it feels like it anyway. Hopefully you don't have to talk to them anymore.

[@nebula_unauthorized3093]

I used to have narcissistic tendencies; when I was younger I think I was a narcissistic person, but luckily I soon became very self aware and got myself to be a better person.

[@babyjay4107]

me too! I just kinda grew out of it.

[@maxpahlke2823]

I have the thoughts of saying it but i dont want to and i want people to be happy but my ego is like no and im like yes cause thats importand

[@lunasea4309]

Then you probably learned it from an adult around you.

[@davids1693]

When we are teenagers we seems to have all the disorders tendencies 😂 literally like narcsistic tendencies histrionic tendencies borderline tendencies antisocial tendencies but is just because the brain and the person is passing the teenager life to a adult life (not necesary i mean like more responsabilites) and then its like a shock and happen what i say before...

[@davids1693]

@@nebula_unauthorized3093 Yes the positive thing is you are aware so thats cool.Btw if you dont feel good search for help all the persons need help sometimes(and is not just for the people with disturbed personalites 😅).💫good vibes💫

[@michaelmulvania6060]

Once you see a narcissist clearly. Every narcissist you meet from then on sticks out like a sore thumb.

[@jelle7]

Yep, as soon as I realized my mother is a narcissist, I started thinking about my acquaintances/friends, out of the 40+ people at least 4 I'm sure of they're narcissistic. Luckily I don't have narcissistic close friends.

[@e.MiLixx]

Right my narc mother was like you say everyone is a narc and I’m like no I just attract them because I was taught love by you

[@julietrask7497]

Dated one for 4 yrs but only recently have I researched . My therapist nailed it for me, yes because of the situation you HAVE to seek help. I almost died literally.

[@mouseman04]

I’ve just been block to block in crocs and sock hop out the whip and drop the top

[@riooproductions9227]

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[@maxenecorbe7478]

I love her voice its so relaxing i wish they have a podcast

[@Psych2go]

Thank you! sounds like a good idea :D

[@LolaLolo7]

Omg yessss

[@katrinaanub6795]

Yayyyyyyy😃😃😃😃

[@supraslp2.043]

Weirdo

[@BrandenPratt]

I always did like her voice as well.

[@KatherineGrey-pz9on]

Narcissists do the opposite of what is right. That’s what makes them so cruel. If they’re capable of crazy-making and gaslighting you to get their way, if they’re capable of giving you the silent treatment knowing you’re in pain and looking for answers, if they’re capable of destroying your reputation by starting a smear campaign and if they’re capable of triangulating you with their flying monkeys so they can humiliate you…then why in the world wouldn’t they be capable of something like cheating? Narcissists are entitled. Narcissists lack empathy. Narcissists are delusional enough to justify their actions. They have all of the ingredients for being a cheater. They’re known for cruel and devastating discards, but somehow they would stop at cheating on you because they have morals and just couldn’t go through with it? No one can truly believe that. The narcissist believes he’s so slick that the other person’s name will actually come up in conversations, if you’re paying attention. But the narcissist will mention them with disgust, as if he wants nothing to do with them. “I can’t stand working with Karen. She annoys me everyday and I can’t believe the things she wears sometimes.” It’s a test to see how you respond to this name coming up periodically. It’s also a way for the narcissist to gain some sadistic glee because they can talk about the other person with you while you’re not yet aware of this person’s role in their life. When they drop the bomb on your head and the realization hits that they’re leaving you for “that Karen” they’ll be overjoyed. If you’re with a narcissist you should be prepared for the push and pull, the other women or men popping up or even outside children. They can’t even be trusted to show up to an event on time. They certainly can’t be trusted with your heart. Additionally, Cheating in marriages is not restricted to only men. Women cheat as much as men do. If you're suspecting your wife of infidelity, you'll have to keep an eye on her of her without her knowledge of her. One of the best ways to know if your spouse cheats on social platforms is by paying close attention to how your spouse behaves while online. The signs are pretty the same. Is your spouse more time on the app without explanation and gets unnecessarily defensive when you ask about it? If your spouse behavior has changed lately, and continues to spend more time on social apps, it's time for you to take action, with the help of a private investigator (suggested; METASPYHUB@GMAIL. COM , you can find out what is taking all their time on social apps, who they are talking to and other things happening,,

[@Crazy_Chriz]

Dang that’s a text wall

[@sunkissed-flowr]

bot

[@dickrot]

tldr; narc bad abuser guys. everyone with npd is an abuser

[@jpmiska2684]

The most important part of this video is realizing that while you might not be a narcissist to everyone, you might still target specific people in your life and lash out against them with these narcissistic tendencies. These videos are great and I've no doubt benefitted from them, but I feel that they often focus more on those around us instead of recognizing these harmful traits within ourselves.

[@jennysnook]

Very important comment.

[@supersucks]

finally someone said it. Not gonna lie sometimes im afraid if I Am the Narcissitic one...or if i give off traits like these when i dont mean to

[@theflipper404]

@@supersucks Fundamentally if you ever possibly consider that you are the narcissistic one you are not a narcissist. Full on Narcissists can’t admit that they have any character flaws, it is literally impossible for them. They also DEFINITELY will not admit they are a narcissist and they will never consider that they are. Any therapist will tell you the same thing. That is how severely mentally ill real narcissists are.

[@philipreiner9689]

@@theflipper404 But as the video says, "... many more people have narcissistic tendencies." It is fully possible to question whether or not you are a narcissist while behaving in a narcissistic way. Simply questioning whether or not you are a narcissist does not free you from the burden of rooting out your narcissistic tendencies for your personal development.

[@theflipper404]

@@philipreiner9689 I wasn't talking about people having Narcissistic tendencies (which almost everyone has to some extent albeit mild, some more severely than others obviously). I was talking about full on Narcissists (meaning they have a full blown personality disorder at that point). The person I was replying to was considering if they were actually the narcissistic one in their own life (this implies that at one point they must have felt that others around them are Narcissists, but are now doubting that and wondering if they are indeed the actual Narcissist and everyone else is not). A person who is a full blown Narcissist or hell even has severe Narcissistic tendencies, would ever consider that they are doing something wrong or are in the wrong, that fundamentally is not what Narcissists do. It is in fact more common that the people that question if they are Narcissist's are actually co-dependent people, which their traits have a lot of overlap with Narcissists and sometimes they even are Narcissistic to others while tying to appease their main abuser Narcissist every whim. Co-dependent people are very easily gaslit and completely taken advantage of by Narcissists. Narcissists are a co-dependent persons worst nightmare.

[@arielm1374]

If I had a dollar for every time I was told "you're overreacting" "you're too sensitive" "stop being such a drama queen" while I was literally being beat to a pulp, I'd be rich.

[@erickmembreno6391]

She literally calls me a drama Queen 😅 ... f

[@thebutterscotchkid2481]

Can I give you the money? Lol, it seems like you deserve it

[@thefoolsfavorite]

that's kinda sad.

[@taisli2020]

This saying is also Very comum in toxic masculinity. I've knew someone that used to be really angry when I was sad, and he's had a already ready discourse about how someone was the result from he/She self, so he also used to made me feel guilty about my life. Then, he's began a discurse about how he was special, how strong and sucessful in his life, diferent and superior to others.

[@lonelyscarygirl]

Same, especially people from ifunn- that cursed place.

[@StayAtHomeMeme]

My mother was absolutely a clinical narcissist. My parents got divorced when I was very young (mom cheated on dad so he left) and I’m an only child. Being raised by a single mother narcissist was incredibly damaging. Thinking about it brings me close to tears. As a child you can’t “break up” with your narcissist and you have no idea how bad it is until you’re much older so you’re stuck. It’s tragic. I still harbor so much anger and resentment that no matter how hard I try I can’t release. I wish I could. To this day, if I see her name on my cell phone calling, my heart starts racing and I go into a panic attack because interacting with her cause so much anxiety.

[@jaywalx999]

Sorry you had to go through that. I really wish you the best future

[@rowanspiritwalker6667]

Much empathy and compassion! My mother was a narcissist too. She made it her mission to tear me down and try to take everything - friends, material goods and accomplishment - away from me. She broke into my houses, took things she knew were important to me, or that I had that she was jealous of and wanted, (racing bicycle and hundreds of dollars worth of Corningware), took my car, (I promptly took it back, it was mine and paid for with NO help from her), tried to get me fired from jobs, invited my friends over to dinner at her house behind my back and tried to alienate them from me..... I moved 1300 miles away from her when I was 25 and it was the best thing I ever did for myself. I learned I wasn't the horrible, trashcan person she tried to make me and everyone else think I was, and though I have warts like anyone else out there, I was actually a pretty OK human being. I was very very low contact with her and kept her on a strict information diet till she died. I mourned when she passed.....not so much for the person as for the relationship that could have and SHOULD have been, had she not been a narcissist. I still have some really ambivalent feelings where she is concerned.

[@thepassenger733]

You didn’t cut contact with her ?

[@cullenmott7614]

@@jaywalx999 agreed. Wish you healing and freedom from that trauma 🙏

[@juicymandoo]

I’m sorry you went through that. Hopefully you are still close with your dad.

[@swiftninja91]

My dad shows a lot of narcissistic traits. Thankfully, my mum is starting to see it now and has started standing up for herself and not taking his crap any more

[@harrybaldwin7517]

W mum

[@fire4ev]

how is that a w mum who starts to see it years later after having children@@harrybaldwin7517

[@soulserenade.kcn1992]

Please hug your mom. As a mom, I know what she’s going through..

[@duchessofpotatoland]

SUMMARY 1. If you could have just one friend who would it be? 1:17 2. We don't need anyone else 1:43 3. You're always overreacting 2:09 4. Not everything's about you 2:39 5. Wow, no wonder nobody else likes you. 3:06 6. I always defend you to everyone else and this is how you repay me?! 3:29 7. You only succeeded because of my help 4:04 8. Don't let this get to your head. 4:24 9. I'm the best you'll ever have. 4:43 10. I'm only doing this because I love you. 5:09 Hope it helps. 🌼

[@jiminslostjams8810]

Thanks for it!

[@jiminslostjams8810]

These are all my sister's type. And then people ask me why don't I trust her💀

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for the summary!

[@imaqsa606]

Ty

[@THANATOS-PRIME]

My ex in a nutshell. 😑

[@notme_ytx1076]

Fun fact: The word narcissist comes from the guy Narcissus. He ended up falling in love with his reflection and looked at himself in a river for the rest of his life.

[@jacksongibbs8998]

When the nymph Echo was spurned by Narcissus, she placed a curse upon the the hunter, who upon seeing his reflection fell in love with it and wasted away trying to embrace it.

[@yvngjoint]

@Little Oatmeal MOST people do NOT know that. and nobody said they were smart for knowing it, they simply stated a fun fact.

[@allisenwendt7672]

Just like my cat, always looking at his reflection in the mirror

[@cicin9313]

@Little Oatmeal Imagine being so insecure, you need to resort to petty insults to complete strangers. Hmmmmm

[@zachtend]

@Little Oatmeal you don't deserve sweet strawberries as your pfp, you're obviously salty

[@millyjones3562]

One thing I'll advise anyone is to. "Never let a narcissist offer you some help. Because is usually a TRAP, and how they get to control and boss you around. And at the end of the day when you're eventually sick and tired of all their rules and bullying,and finally choose to stand up for yourself,and start telling them how you really feel about how they've been treating u.Then they'd start calling you UNGRATEFUL." And some might even try to hurt you, due to the anger they've got inside of them cuz of this courageous-act you just did. Majority of them are usually like this. So be careful guys! P.S -Just saying based on my experiences with a couple of them.

[@ChocolateMilk..]

Bullseye!

[@JoshuaCastillo6309]

Yup. Everything they do is a game. If they appear to be helping someone or putting themselves down, it’s part of a plan to elevate themselves above you. And I’ve seen it work, it’s disgusting.

[@dibrentley7915]

Good advice, am going out with a guy atm who wants to do things for me all the time, I make sure he doesnt by telling him I dont like to feel obligated to anyone. Not sure if hes a narcissist but he is certainly different to other people I know.

[@rara.raaaaa]

It's happen to me right now! Help!!

[@NurseRay]

You described my husband. When confronted, he goes into a narcissistic rage. He cannot show or be vulnerable, EVER. I've tried to have a good marriage, but he cannot. My relationship with my husband is very shallow, with no depth whatsoever.

[@FwireFwower]

Everything on this list reminds me of my mother. She used to tell me, "No-one is going to think you're cute but me"....

[@komedi8902]

Oof that’s bad

[@Psych2go]

I see. How are you coping with the situation?

[@rosieuwu9348]

I hope things are getting better, wish you luck

[@nagitoesfluffyahoge8591]

How did you type that 2 months ago

[@noorsabah1766]

Lmao did u time travel ?

[@inbasicterms-popculturevid1704]

Narcissism has more in common with self-hatred than with self-admiration

[@mistydreamz]

The self admiration is a defence mechanism used to cope with the extreme self hatred

[@Tiger-cm2rp]

So many girls on tik tok support narcissism when it’s a girl doing it it’s just weird overall

[@Sophia-bu3gp]

@@mistydreamz that’s deep

[@zz7733]

Bet.

[@BethanyHarbaugh]

I can say that this is a very accurate comment. In my personal experience with two of my own family members, they learned their narcissistic tendencies through their own trauma. One of my family members dealt with an abusive first marriage at a really young age, so they developed a self-hatred for themselves and never dealt with the trauma (and still refuses to acknowledge they haven't truly dealt with it yet). A lot of people who have narcissistic tendencies are making up for low self-esteem and going through life with a bit of a facade. It's a self-defence mechanism, as mistydreamz said. It's really sad when these people really do need help but are often too proud or scared to show true vulnerability long enough to actually get anywhere with someone. To anyone who has dealt with narcissism or narcissistic tendencies from loved ones, hang in there and stand your ground. Sometimes, these people need someone to tell them 'no' for once and to show them the consequence of their actions. I've grown more distant with the loved ones who have shown narcissistic tendencies. And, if they want to be close to me, my husband, and my kids, they can get some help and learn how to be more thoughtful. People with these tendencies CAN be treated, but only if they're receptive to getting help in the first place. But, don't ever think it's up to you to fix them. It's their choice and their work alone. Just give them the right boundaries so you don't have to be worn down.

[@meadowyj]

I've been told MANY times when I was younger "not everything is about you" and it seriously took a toll on me, because I never ever thought everything was about me, and here I am, stuck worrying if I am the problem, beating myself up and putting myself down about it.

[@VengefulPolititron]

get therapist. wish I would have

[@userm180]

if u guys need to talk im here

[@BeautyBySaraishere]

Absolutely!!!!! Same situation right now

[@carissahowell]

Same!

[@Mikexception]

@bunnykookie It may be the truth that we are not most important in world - they use this smartly. But they too are not "important" to have idea about someone's importance. Those I know they are simply dumb or dangerous. Thing is that while narcist says "you are not most important", for him his victim is most important in world Bad news for victim. Victim may create her/his importance for world every day in differet way then narcist is used to judge him , and that is the way to go out. Never try to fulfill his "unhappiness" - he chooses imposible ones or such which will make vistim more dependent like in a cage - example by taking credit to be "better recognized" by him . Or by earning in marriage bigger money which will make stronger ties. They will use every way to make escaper poorest by court or by outsmarting. They count on not letting free even after divorce . Before ecsape better not to have possesions which may be claimed by spouse. I was lucky that apparently my expensive car got fatal accident - would be not possible to pay half after divorce. She had no money ( daily statement) too. She even had no driving license - I was a family driver. Hopefully it was a wreck. I waited till divorce was done and with insurance she didn't know about, I took already my own only credit for new one .

[@AllOutBible]

Holy crap. My ex wife would tell me that it amazed her how I never noticed that my friends couldn't stand being around me. Not all of them, but looking back, she focused on the ones who were most likely to have the time to check in on me.

[@deroffene-fenster-wahnsinn1326]

I had a narcissistic friend a long time ago and it amazed me as well that he never noticed how annoying he was around people. People rolled their eyes constantly etc. and he didn't notice!! It's astonishing to me until today.

[@RideAcrossTheRiver]

My ex-girlfriend would say I 'sucked all the air out of any room I was in' ... or 'all my friends say you're boring'. Strangely, though, her face showed a flash of horror when she said those things.

[@deroffene-fenster-wahnsinn1326]

@@RideAcrossTheRiver yeah, that's what narcissists don't get: they ain't as interesting and great as they think and that's what causes all their problems.

[@RideAcrossTheRiver]

@@deroffene-fenster-wahnsinn1326 I think my ex-girlfriend hated that part of herself and tried to control it. But she also drank heavily and got involved with people who were worse narcissists, so she lost that battle with herself.

[@eylulbasakcetinkanat4352]

I am admiring my mother’s patience against my father’s narcissism even more now.

[@giannazeringue6837]

YES

[@giannazeringue6837]

Narcissitic fathers are the worst

[@jonitazean-lee]

@@giannazeringue6837 girllll frrr

[@Ann-sv7zx]

Both of them are bad Patience is toxic too

[@shirokira6513]

@@Ann-sv7zx wtf are you on about

[@orianabloom2571]

Narcissistic parents would say "You can't succeed or survive without me"

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

thank you.

[@bubblegum13131]

Lol

[@Chillwave6]

Mom told me that "she always does stuff for me, like clean the house and do a lot of chores" and that i can't cook just because she always cooks whatever she wants. She also said I'm not independent enough to even live by myself, so I replied "Wow I'm so amazed you got yourself pregnant at age 16 and me being 17 means you have rights to brag and insult others for not growing up fast enough." she kinda got mad about it and argued with me for 40 minutes before leaving to "take a nap"

[@ExposingtheNarcissist]

Very true. The narcissistic parent believes they can make or break you as their child. They brought you into the world and they can take you out as well😂. On a serious note they screw their children up really bad.

[@Chillwave6]

@Pragya Bhushan yeah i took both dishwashing and taking out trash as my chores but she did a bit of the complains anyway

[@racheldekker7590]

These are also signs of toxic friendships, look out for this.

[@iztheanimator5270]

Thx

[@chloecormier4347]

when my best friend does pretty much everything on this list....heh....

[@christavarghese5399]

I've had these friends in college ..now I stopped our friendship and am much happier

[@jetblack-0]

My “bff” doesn’t care about my feelings. She cares about me, but mainly cares about herself and her own feelings. I felt heartbroken when she acted like it didn’t really matter when my mom tried killing herself, especially since my mom treats her like we’re both sisters. I kind of despise my “bff” now..

[@jetblack-0]

@@christavarghese5399 Good for you❤️

[@Overitall805]

I find it fascinating that the popularity of this term has increased exponentially in the last 20 years.

[@valeriesparrow1072]

Not enough people talk about how it's so hard to cut off a relationship with a narcissist. After they make you feel terrible about yourself, you feel this unexplainable need to stick around so you can prove to them that you're not this monster that they've made you out to be. It takes some serious self esteem to put your foot down and cut ties, and on some level they know this, which is why they devote so much time to tearing you down. They NEED you to stay because you provide them with their narcissistic supply.

[@SchoolOfUnlearning3]

My life. 😢 My in-laws accused me and ran a huge hate campaign among my relatives and friends circle just because I’d like to mind my own business. They accused me of things. They lied about me to my husband. Then, i pledged to prove my goodness to them. I did everything. I changed myself for them. I quit my job when they asked just to say family is more important to me. (Indian arranged marriage setting). I don’t buy anything without their approval and my husband’s. I learnt cooking. In return, nothing changed. Each year it is getting worse. Then reality hit me so hard. So so hard.

[@msnxs23]

A few years ago I had a friend who was controlling and he didn't treat me well but everytime I was about to cut him off, he said he was sorry and that he didn't mean it and my mom said to not cut him off and forgive him for the thing he did and everytime I gave him another chance, he treated me the same and last year, I realized how toxic and much of an asshole he was so I started to cut him off slowly and the last time we met, I was cold and wasn't talking to him much and since that time, I haven't talked to him at all and that night my parents were angry at me for not behaving well at him that day and a while later, I told them why I was like this and a while after that, they realized that I was right for cutting him off

[@smg3250]

I dated someone who made me feel like if I didn't dress and act a certain way, I was making them look bad. Like an ugly accessory. And boy did I try my best, but it took such a toll on my anxiety that I developed health issues

[@ophelia7640]

I never felt the need to prove them anything as soon as I realized that they were even lying to themselves to convince them right. So I was like, no one not even themselves can prove them wrong or anything. Pointless.

[@tammybagwell1741]

Especially when it's parents

[@petej_2]

I dated a narcissistic girl 3 years ago and struggled with emotional abuse because of her. I’ve only found my way out now, still struggling but I’ve found a way out for the first time and now I feel a sense of release.

[@blankbear782]

Congrats man!! 👍👍

[@aliciavalensia5594]

I’m sorry you went through that but I’m so proud of you for finally leaving. Work on you. Love you. You’re amazing human.

[@julietrask7497]

Same here, verbal emotional abuse. It was horrid, I would be iced out for days because of a comment I made. Congrats Pete 👍🏻 survivors unite !

[@racafritz]

Stay strong! You are you and, they aren’t in your head manipulating anymore. Keep family and best friends close. Even if they haven’t been through it they love you and, only want the best for you.

[@GoldCODMyt]

The truth will set you free congrats

[@pennypay1]

Is it strange that I really like the little sprouting-leaves thing on these characters' heads? To me it kind of symbolizes resilience, hope, and personal growth.

[@nerdynuronz2173]

Wow, I never thought of it that way!

[@leahwilson8982]

No I love them as well ❤️

[@T_Cup]

Nah, it's completely normal. I really relate to them, maybe because I feel that I too am a small and ever growing, ever changing being in a wild world.

[@teresaj.5550]

It could also mean your a latent gardener.. ❤️

[@davie7199]

I just like plants in general

[@cherryblossom3746]

I'm in a friendship and have known my friend for almost about 7 years. She has always made things always about herself and never thought really about anyone else. Thank you so much for this video so much 💙💙

[@phosssssss7]

Similar things that I've seen a narcissist do - acting like others are always wrong - bragging about skills, money, etc... - lying to make themselves seem "better" - making fun of things you enjoy - blaming everything on you and not admitting to their mistakes - acting like their other friends are better than you Sorry, I know some of this stuff was already said in the video

[@blessedsoul949]

I concur,they are mean and cold-hearted!!

[@rtgbhreth]

I know someone who does exactly these things at work. She hates me cause I don't give her room to talk let alone put up with her bullshit 😂 luckily I got her moved away from me.

[@LittleFlower06]

I'm just checking if I'm not one cuz. like I like to make sure I look good before anything. like who wouldn't? buuuuuut.. I can't explain it. I love looking at myself making sure I look good

[@preciouslittlediamxond]

This literally describes someone I used to be friends with but me and the whole friend group decided to kick her out.

[@jeonbunny6890]

This is literally my sister, I suffered for 6 years because of her, she destroyed my mental health at one time in my life that I felt like suiciding..

[@PumpkinLady11]

My narcissistic mother “No one will ever love you” She said this a lot to me as a child and teenager if I had a different opinion to her. It’s been a very difficult thing for me to erase from my mind and heal.

[@anneperry9014]

I know that feeling mate!! You're not alone 😉......

[@darnesiacochran7743]

Narcissists rob you off your quality of life. The best way to help your sanity and put an end to this manipulation turning into gaslighting is by seeking closure. For instance, when my husband started getting frequent night calls, I would ask and he would just wave off those calls as unimportant. At a time i could take no more of his lies, I decided l deserve to know what was going on. A friend of mine referred me to this sage hacker, cyberhackingsage who helped clone his phone without physically touching it. All I did was send his phone number to this sage hacker and through a remote link sent to my email, I was able to access all of his texts, mails, Facebook, Instagram chats, real-time call listening and his long deleted messages. He also helped me in checking if my phone is being hacked and secured all my numbers from unauthorized access. My husband was a cheating narcissist and I’m glad i found out all his secrets and infidelity. I'm finally going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him. Perhaps, you are in a similar situation and you need help or you just crave that extra teeny bit of closure, I urge you get in touch with them via Gmail, cyberhackingsage@gmail. com or text and WhatsApp them on [phone]. Thank me later.

[@TorettoHuNGameplays]

Don't tell 'em... A FUCKING THING!

[@anishnaabehistorypodcast7215]

My mom literally told me repeatedly for years and years that I was "worthless." She's a bipolar alcoholic, but the damage has been done. I see these narcissistic tendencies in myself. It strains my marriage. But when I really have bad days, I dig deep and find faith. "Physician heal thyself!"

[@cornbreadbatter3157]

My mom told me the EXACT same thing

[@deltahomicide9300]

Narcissists always think they're honest and noble and anyone who tries to reason with them are sensitive and should grow a pair

[@napalm_lipbalm86]

My mom😕😕😕😕

[@deltahomicide9300]

@@napalm_lipbalm86 my mom too sweetie :c

[@jecka1982]

My sister

[@robertfindley921]

I've known several narcissists. One was an ultra-narcissist. They are impossible to deal with. The one thing they all have in common is enablers. People that worship them and promote them to others. One subordinate of mine actually said "Just follow my direction. I can't think of a time when I was wrong."

[@emilymschoener9193]

OMG they collect enablers like candy.

[@robinalford2186]

Sounds like someone that use to live on Penn. Ave.

[@ITIsFunnyDamnIT]

Currently stuck living with a narcissist. I can't even begin to tell you what a P.O.S. this guy is and vindictive, manipulative, shit starter, violent and his sense of self importance is to the extreme like you wouldn't believe , actually maybe you would believe since you know how narcissist are. An You are sooooooo right about these P.O.S. narcissist always having someone who worships them. My nephew is married to one and I HATE his husband so much . I can't even say what I'd like to say. I just can't wait till the day he is out of here.

[@JoshuaCastillo6309]

That’s their lifeline. Without people who sucker into their BS, they’ll wither away.

[@krasistefanovlol]

oh god there are ultra narcissists

[@lks806]

“Wow no wonder nobody else likes you” “Not everything is about you” Are the 2 phrases that I’ve heard multiple times before.

[@chloereed454]

Same

[@outlxndish]

same

[@vran.7745]

Same

[@lks806]

@@idksalis ah yes gotta love that...

[@lemonwedge6664]

i always hear the last one ._.

[@galaxylucia1898]

As someone who is single and is extremely selective of friends, I feel bad for anyone who gets gaslighted and suckered into relationships with these type of people. It sounds like hell on earth. Be good to yourselves everyone. You deserve true love and friendship and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

[@newpersonal3762]

It's absolutely hell on earth. I'm pretty sure I have PTSD and have had it for a while. I'm emotionally destroyed. She never apologizes no matter what she says or does. My sacrifices are rarely acknowledged and sometimes made fun of. I don't even feel fully myself anymore.

[@galaxylucia1898]

@@newpersonal3762 Wow. Sorry to hear that. Is this a family member you rely on for financial support due to health (or social reasons)? Because if not, you should just leave, go no-contact. -You only have this one lifetime… that person made it a living hell. Now it’s your turn to make your life a living heaven.

[@divya_sancheti04]

Same. I have also became picky while choosing friends..ig it's better that way..

[@crashofthemoons]

It is and I am still dealing with the trauma

[@shxyiin]

LOL i’m VERY particular with who i become friends with and the ONE time i let my guard down for just a bit, they end up being a narc🙄 never again!

[@deehall47sdadjokes]

I'm just SOOOO grateful there's no more narcissists in my life anymore. There's 5 of them I can think of from the past. I haven't seen them for years now and I'm just happy with that

[@krejados1]

"No one can love you the way they do." Yep, you got that right.

[@wtrfallofiya]

Once I let go of the narcissist in my life, I realized how much of the criticism they sent my way was projections of their own faults. I had learned to always doubt myself. Any amount of sacrifice on my part was never enough. Standing up for myself was construed as aggression, and their actual aggression was always justified in their mind.

[@newpersonal3762]

I keep telling my wife that the things she says to me are projection of how she feels about herself. She broke her hand punching me in the back a couple days ago. No apology. Yesterday she said I'm the most stupid man she ever meet. Today she said I'm not just stupid but more than stupid. Her nails made my arm bleed and when I told her, she said good and I hope you die. I reminded her tonight what she said and she said she means it. No apology.

[@Neko.Virtual]

@@newpersonal3762 call the police on her and tell them what she did

[@CrabbyO]

@@newpersonal3762 Get out! I just left my narcissist because she was hitting me in the arm and the head while I was driving. When I let my right arm fly to block her blows, she got so upset (how dare I not let her continue to hit me) she jumped out of the moving vehicle! (only going 10-15mph, but still). Now she's alone and will get the staples removed from her head sometime soon. Some people are just toxic. Get out of that relationship ASAP.

[@userm180]

im so sorry for you guys. this is so toxic and u shouldnt have to deal with this. sending prayers ur way and if u need to talk im here

[@mnwilliams386]

Nail on the head!!!

[@wisdom-for-all]

Narcissists will always have someone they accuse of ruining their lives. Narcissists do not love - they hold hostages. If you meet one, RUN 🖖

[@Psych2go]

This is true! Have you met one before?

[@haibai7197]

Plot twist: the narcissists are always the Imposters in Among Us, because they accuse other people while slowly destroying them

[@haibai7197]

@@Psych2go I don't really know, but some of my "friends" have told me some of the things in the video

[@vartikaindora5906]

@@Psych2go I can't even choose to run. She's my mom ! 😞

[@veronicaclarke7499]

@@vartikaindora5906 Same. Can't escape when you're related to them.

[@jiminslostjams8810]

My family friend is just exactly like this .she was a person I trusted the most , she knew more secrets than anyone 💀 When people ask me why don't I trust her now these are my reasons 🤧

[@julianacollins3550]

To be honest no one really deserves to be cheated upon and I believe smartness is essential in any relationship, my worst experience was discovering my 7 years cheating Narcissist husband through the help of an hacker who helped cloned his cell and i got access to all his Call logs, Text messages, Whats-app, Facebook, Messenger, I-cloud, GPS location, Kik, Snap-chat, Instagram, Skype, Twitter, Email and Social media chat, i was able to read both his new and deleted messages without touching it. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Texas, USA and was able to access his phone while he was away cheating in UK and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned . He also does hacking of account or any other type of hacking and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact this Genius tracker via Gmail (geniustracker701) or Via Whats-app [phone]. I hope you find peace of mind just like myself after discovering the truth.

[@jiminslostjams8810]

@@julianacollins3550 I'm sorry to hear that☹️

[@clarasteuerwald2397]

same...

[@haikuoflife]

The isolating you from others and everything they do is for you, to try to manipulate you into thinking you are special. It starts out so subtle.

[@ChandniVlogs]

There are covert narcs that wont say any of this and would instead give silent treatment or use sarcasm at your expense so beware!!!

[@Psych2go]

That’s true. Do you know someone like that in your life?

[@ChandniVlogs]

@@Psych2go Yes an ex :(

[@wandapepper]

@@Psych2go yes! It would be also very helpful to dedicate some videos to covert narcissism! They can be even more dangerous than the "regular narcissist". It's so important to make people aware.

[@courtneyjames5495]

@@ChandniVlogs I feel for you. My ex did the same things. Never said anything "mean" so they never said anything like this, but instead gaslit me with "kindness." Made me feel like I was out of line or overreacting for having certain feelings, but of course they never used concrete confrontational words like "overreacting." They were always super careful to make sure that they came off as just being "nice." For the longest time I thought I was crazy...I was like they're nice to me but it feels fake and I had all these feelings cause I had been looking into what it means to be a narc out of having a hunch that they were....and everything kinda loosely fit about regular narcs but not quite...then I found out about covert narcs and I was like...omg...everything makes so much sense now. But I am glad you got out of it. Truly.

[@schr4pnel]

would they also guilt trip all the time?

[@daradoe9415]

True story: Years ago my sister was in a custody battle with her ex. They both hired psychiatric "experts" to testify that the other one was unfit to have custody. The expert my sister hired put in his report that my sister was a narcissist. She didn't know what that meant so she asked me. I told her and she says, "Oh, so it's a good thing then." BLEW MY MIND

[@priyahammond8532]

YES! My sister took a narcissistic test in her gifted class and she got the highest score. She came home and bragged about it to us.

[@hmaroni9572]

So what about the custody?

[@AJ-fb9en]

What happened with ur sisters custody case??

[@someonejohnson5774]

@@priyahammond8532 🤣🤣🤣

[@limitlesspossibilities444]

haha typical deluded narc

[@TheMusesOrg]

"Don't bite the hand that feeds you" My dads favourite saying, while in the same breath he undermines my self esteem, and stokes my anxieties by reminding me how scary the world is.

[@margomazzeo1680]

Same thing I went through..

[@ladybird491]

Did you abuse and disrespect them? If so then you deserved to hear it. Just cause someone say they statement doesn't make them a narc, you could be abusing them all while expecting them to take care of your. Kids can abuse their parents it's called parent abuse.

[@TheMusesOrg]

@@ladybird491 Did you not read the second part? Or do you believe that is acceptable behaviour by a parent? Probably, considering the kind of comment you feel is appropriate to leave in response to someone sharing a story about their trauma and abuse. You need to work on your ability to empathize.

[@jaeda6248]

I don't think he's wrong for reminding you how scary the world is. If he doesn't do this, then you won't be prepared for what the world has to offer when you finally leave his house at an older age. I don't feel like it's right for parents to completely sugarcoat how the world really is. Of course there are some things that children shouldn't know about but there's also a considerable amount that the kids should know. So that the kids don't grow up thinking the world would work however they want it to. These are just my thoughts though.

[@user-eo9to7wd2t]

@@jaeda6248 I don’t think it’s a good thing. My parents were always so scared of the world it ruined my childhood. I couldn’t go to sleepovers. When I was 17 they called the police on me because I wasn’t home directly after school so they thought somebody kidnapped me😐 My house was right next to the school. I got grounded every time I tried to visit a friend’s house even if they were my neighbor and my parents knew them for over a decade. They said that I would be molested if I stayed anywhere other than in our house. I couldn’t even join clubs because they thought the other kids would make me do drugs. I couldn’t go to concerts either. Parents shouldn’t teach you to fear everything about the world. I have severe anxiety now and my two other siblings are suffering with this too.

[@glenbateman5960]

It should be noted, "Not everything is about you" is often said TO the Narcissist by one of their intended targets. This does not mean we have uncovered a second Narcissist.

[@ietefiet]

When I finally stand up for myself: 'Wow, you're sassy all of a sudden.'

[@hmaroni9572]

Yup they can’t deal, but also people with low self esteem

[@Void_Dweller7]

“When I was your age I never talked back to my parents”

[@Strix_Nyctea]

@@Void_Dweller7 this one gave me flashbacks holy shit my dad said this alot

[@beezee6098]

Omg I actually lol.. I had a flashback and saw my exs face saying the exact same thing to me.. and I haven't even thought of him in 3years til, now!

[@nicolestarr1328]

"I don't need the attitude."

[@iceluvndiva21]

"great. Now I'm the bad guy" after a fight. This honestly says how they're "MADE" to be the bad guy without EVER owning the blame. NEVER let this get to you. This is a lie.

[@brilliantmistakes570]

my husband does this...

[@niyokathibodeaux2975]

My boyfriend says the same

[@myfarts]

Sounds like mother gothel

[@private-grijojjqroqijw]

mother gothel from the disney movie tangled loool

[@Dr_Lovekaffe]

Damn why do i do this oof

[@_shundra_3182]

As someone who's admittedly a bit overconfident and isn't afraid to give themselves praise for the right reasons, I get accused of being a narcissist alot. I try to use this video to remind myself that having a bit of an ego problem and being a full-blown narcissist are two very different things.

[@OfficialMannyMitchell]

thank you

[@southgoesnorthwest]

Feeling great and confident about who you are is good. As long as your not dragging others down ever and only lifting them up. If your hurting others it doesn't matter what you think of yourself because others will not like you.

[@erikagrey6999]

When I was a teenager I was always being accused of being a narcissist bc i didnt share the same teenage insecurities others were going through and i was confident in my skills and myself. It was so annoying bc how is being happy and not constantly tearing yourself down (as is much the norm amongst teenagers and social media) make me have a literal psychiatric personality disorder lol

[@_shundra_3182]

@@erikagrey6999 I had a similar problem in high school. Like bro, not having a habit of destructive self-loathing makes ME the one with an emotional disorder?😂

[@Fexghadi]

@@southgoesnorthwest Here's a bit of a rhetorical question for you: What if I'm not hurting others, but they are butthurt that they ran into someone better and perceive my help as a belittling act? I myself am very much aware of my strengths and weaknesses, and my insecurities lead me to dread helping others unless I have much more knowledge and/or skill than required to be in the "teaching" spot. And yet, because people are so fragile and egocentric, they will feel belittled EVEN when they are the ones asking for help. The current generation is breeding narcissists in my opinion, by removing the "right" to criticize anyone or anything, and excessive "positive discrimination". People are getting offended by the existence of words without context, but context is almost everything, and it only gets worse when those same people are getting validation. Soon we're going to be banning positive words because of possible sarcasm at this rate; take for example the "I am so smart" subreddit whose goal is clearly to shame idiots. Context is key. And sadly, as there is strength in numbers, we wonder why we feel like stuff is going downhill...

[@vinsukun_]

I think a lot of people confuse narcissism with confidence. I have a lot of very confident & strong people in my life, including my best friend. She's always talking about how amazing she is and I agree with her. What makes her NOT a narcissist is that she is always lifting me up, helping me, and never asks for anything in return. She's been my best friend for almost 11 years now and she's given me so much that I've become a confident person myself lately and it's all thanks to her. She would never take credit for it, though. She always tells me I'm strong enough to become better and better on my own, and I love her for it. This video taught me that I don't currently have any narcissists in my life...and that the few I have encountered I've completely cut off!

[@DodgeThatAttack]

The difference with narcissism and confidence is that confident people love themselves and use that to be a better person. Narcissists hate themselves and use it to take advantage of other people.

[@camilliamccown4006]

I used to have narcissistic tendencies, but after realizing how toxic they were and noticing how it affected others around me, I had changed. As far as some of the others who are narcissistic, I've been told things like "you've changed and gotten so much stronger", "I'm sure there's no other guy out there for you that's better", "I don't know why you keep saying no if you're not giving me the chance", and "I feel like I'm playing 2-sided Russian roulette when it comes to compromising". These are just the top ones I've been told by at least 4 different dudes, one of them being an ex.

[@DJ-ts5uv]

My mom was my narc. I’ve put distance between us. My life is much more peaceful.

[@womenswarrior]

It feels so much better when you get away ❤️ check out this video kzbin.info/www/bejne/aKGxhWt8fMmSrsU

[@DJ-ts5uv]

@@vbf1228 it was a long, hard road. There were many arguments, horrible treatment and a lot of manipulation and I just got tired. I felt like it was a waste of my energy and it was destroying any chance at peace and self love. I drew hard lines in the sand and I stuck to them. It meant losing my relationship with my mom and my sister. Yes, it hurt and it was painful at first. I cried a lot, but I am so happy now. I am living life on my own terms and I love my life. A narcissist never ever changes their behavior and they don’t care about you or your well being. I realized that nothing I did could ever change my mom or the influence she had over my sister. I chose me and my happiness. I talk to my mom about once a month and my sister and I text occasionally, but we don’t have a strong family connection and I am finally okay with that. That burden is done and I am so grateful everyday that my life is tranquil and peaceful. Walking away was the best thing I ever did.

[@theadventuresofemily_]

Same

[@moonsyoungestsun6550]

@@DJ-ts5uv I'm so jealous of you. Every time I was on the verge of distancing myself (unfortunately, I live with her), some obstacle happened. The new house I was going to buy had construction stopped on it because of drainage issues........the whole street actually was shut down for an unspecified amount of time. An apartment I was going to rent went up by $600 right before I signed the lease because they suddenly had new owners. I couldn't afford it. Two more times, my jobs laid me off. Then covid happened and again, several units at the apt. complex closed because too many people had it. I know these obstacles keep happening for a reason because I believe in signs from the universe. However, I don't know why yet. All I know is that I want to feel the peace I had when I used to live on my own and it isn't happening fast enough, no matter how hard I try.

[@McRemmyBaby]

“You’ll never be happy”

[@dongxuemo4090]

I once had this friend who said to me “ you have no friends, nobody likes you, no wonder your 2 brothers committed suicide “ and then when I cried she said why are you crying and I said because you said this and she said “ I never said that “ after that I cut her out of my life

[@mookie121291]

Thats fucking twisted

[@sarahwilliams2440]

I'm glad to hear you cut this person out of your life. I hope you are doing better now and have better people around you 💕

[@dongxuemo4090]

Thanks

[@hmaroni9572]

OMG, so good you left!

[@trickynicky2118]

Gaslighting in effect!

[@toadtrumpets17]

This woman and her calming voice has gotten me through so much🥲

[@Dethos]

#3 "You are overreacting!" Prime example of gaslighting.

[@horace6851]

sure, but sometimes people do overreact. Imaging that every word, every look is centered on them and have their criticism in mind. Narcissist with insecurities also exist and very often are megalomaniacs imaging that everyone is constantly talking abut them. That's why I don't like this video, not every narcissist is in the position of power.

[@limitlesspossibilities444]

@@horace6851 unless they are dealing with a more powerful narc I guess...

[@ThemysticsageLeeza]

Man My ex would say that all the time, I couldn’t even bring up things that I had concern about they would say I was the problem and I was always stated fights but so I stopping and silently suffered until they moved out. Oddly enough even tho they would always bash me they tried to pull me back in after all that pain, I just couldn’t let myself do through that again. If yall see red flags early please run and save yourself the pain. In the end sadly that person may have really had love for me, but if thats how they love, I dont want it. I had a really hard time letting them go, but once I did my life, emotions, and health got soooo much better.

[@SinfulScents]

@@ThemysticsageLeeza wow well I’m glad you had the strength to let Go! And hold onto yourself instead ♥️💯

[@DreamyWorld19]

"That never happened" or "I never said that". My father's favourites excuses when he did something wrong.

[@DrLizListens]

This is a positive sign. You're right where you need to be. You are worthy. You are brilliant. You can set healthy boundaries. May all your worries wash away and you find pockets of peace throughout your day 💗 Dr. Liz

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the reminder

[@blazortheepic0384]

as the child of an abusive narcissist, I also love the "Are you calling me a liar"

[@skinistasty7384]

Oh my God my mom says that a lot 😭😭

[@angelapelletteri5479]

My mother is totally like this. She loves to say that she's done so much for me when she really hasn't done much of anything

[@jeffb.140]

Sounds like my mother .. She also forces "help" on me only to try to extort favors from this unwanted "help" later on.

[@dreamstorm947]

I'm 31 years old and my mom sill hangs over me that she "almost died" to give birth to me, as though I asked to be born or asked her to risk her life for me (she had a choice to have the docs focus on saving her or me and she said she picked me but luckily we both survived). And apparently letting your grown child live in your house while going to college and paying you 10% of their salary as rent is considered a huge deal. Like oh nice mom I know parents who don't charge their kids rent but kuddos to you for doing so i guess? (edit I moved out 6 months ago after she physically assaulted me for loving my fiance i'd been with for 10 years more than her. I dont live there anymore)

[@shakurwonders5216]

@@dreamstorm947 way to go I'm proud of you. I'm 21 and still with my mom, she toxic and has narcissistic tendencies just like u explained. I need to collect enough money to get out of this hell

[@asriel1575]

No offense, but you could possibly be ignorant due to being young. Maybe you should look beyond big things and look at the small stuff? I mean, she did give you a home and plate on your dinner table every day.

[@dreamstorm947]

@@asriel1575 Providing a home and food is legally required so kids don't get taken away. That doesn't mean the person isn't abusive or a bad parent. Bragging about providing the bare minimum so your kid doesn't die isn't good parenting.

[@redashea3004]

So i wanted to say something, this channel is a blessing. I spent 4 years with my abusive ex because she pulled alot of these same lines, honestly some of the content on this channel helped me to understand and get myself out of that situation, so thank you. I love y'all to death, blessed be and may your efforts be ever fruitful.

[@noel_metalhead666]

That one saying, “I’m only doing this because I love you”, really stuck out to me because it reminds me of my parents, they use to say that sometimes when I was younger, they’re not narcissists at all, don’t worry, they’re not even close, but sometimes, someone can only do something for you because they do actually love you, it’s not always a bad saying.

[@sara_ssu]

I agree with you! My parents used to say that a lot to me! At the moment it was annoying, but now that I am a mother, I understand their feelings!

[@cynicalbutterscotch6581]

Same but at the same time, it can get questionable from time to time.

[@johntaranto29]

My mom made false reports to the cops to have me removed because she didn't like my substance abuse disorder. I quit both heroin and alcohol because I hated how sick it eventually made me. But afterwards I still liked marijuana and hallucinogens. I had no desire in the slightest to be sober, just practice harm reduction and only use things that are physically safe. I was a full grown adult but I didn't get the right to make my own choices or just move out. She said she had to, aka its cause I love you. Now our relationship is destroyed I refuse to talk to her and my substance abuse disorder is exactly the same.

[@blessedsoul949]

A narcissist however,is not genuine when saying so.They have hidden motives behind everything they do.Thely always want someone to be below them so that they control them even if it means punishing them.The narc ex I was in a relationship with only did things to me that would benefit him and always wanted payback. In cases whereby I stood up for myself he would withdraw his help and punish me.

[@MioKanashi]

After all I realised I'm the only problem. I found myself thanks for making me get the right way.

[@Psych2go]

Would you like more videos on narcissists? What other topics would you like us to cover next? Let us know down below!

[@tiny4088]

26 seconds ago-

[@0Iive]

Hi, could you please do a video on cutting (or any self harm) alternatives :) I’m trying to quit and this would really help thank you

[@larajoygheriafi8205]

My friend is a narcissist. The sad thing is I didn’t realize until it was too late

[@yeoraaa3102]

Can you make a video about agoraphobia

[@Psych2go]

@@yeoraaa3102 We'll let the team know :)

[@itsuhh_luskywalkerr9975]

My narcissistic ex said everything and acted this way exactly. If not I’m the one out of line, always humiliating or belittling me. Everything is about them never give in, I always had gut feelings but never listened to myself. If anyone is in a relationship and see this video I’m pretty sure it’s a clear sign that you’re trying to figure out who you’re really with. You can leave the relationship, you’re worthy, you deserve love, and happiness. You’re are enough, you’re beautiful/ handsome and there’s no one like you in the world that has your personality and your love to give. Don’t ever let someone tell you otherwise, you can drop people and gain ones who are worthy, just as worth as you are. Stay safe 2020 will be closing soon.

[@maraontop]

Hope you are ok and hopefully your ex changed his ways and gets help

[@jennasaisquoi5174]

I had a lingering gut feeling for months that I ignored about a guy. Always trust your gut 🤓

[@shawne1209]

Same here!! It took me two years to finally realize it. Pro tip- if you find yourself wondering or googling if it’s abuse.. it probably is

[@SonyaKhanOfficial]

Beautifully written!! I left a damaging relationship a few months ago and I feel so free now. We all deserve genuine love 💕

[@Anne-cs7mu]

same here.. I've been going through heartbreak for the past few months to realize this.. So frustrating when I can't see the end of that relationship and even end up blaming my ownself.. But, then I realized that it's not me but he is.. My fault is easily trusting someone, I accept that.. but no need to push all the blame to me because I know not everyone have the same heart as you.. Life and move forward because life is too short for regret

[@distiranotdustycar4077]

Me: **chuckles** I'm in danger

[@Psych2go]

Uh oh!! Did these points describe you?

[@lindac6742]

Lmao Simpson’s af

[@putritiara9083]

Me to lol

[@jugemujugemugokonosurikire4735]

*Just a reminder this is not a video for a self diagnosis*

[@kingofhearts804]

4 points of this I related to, and I felt so bad because of them even though I used them without knowing

[@novavoyd666]

I'm late to this video, and though I am not narcissistic, I was raised around one and probably subtly adopted some of her traits and ways of interacting. I've been watching a lot of these videos lately, trying to see myself in the things mentioned and other videos about how you might be a toxic person without knowing it, or manipulative without knowing it, and so far I think they're helping me see these things in myself. Thank you so much for the videos you put out there, it's helping me realise and acknowledge some of the bad traits I have and in doing that, I wanna learn to work on them and be the best person possible for other people and myself.

[@annabethdiana5857]

After I left my boyfriend of 5 years in July of 2018, on Christmas eve of that same year, he showed up at my job saying "Merry Christmas" like him coming in would be the best thing that happened to me. When I asked what he was doing there, he just swung his bag towards me, as if to say "I'm just shopping and wanted to stop by." I then asked again, emphasizing "What are YOU doing HERE". He then told me that he wanted me to go somewhere with him and talk things out. When I told him no, and that I had moved on he said "Yeah but I haven't." clearly only interested in whatever manipulative tactic he had waiting for me. When I continued to say no and told him to leave, he didn't and kept trying to get me to go with him when I got off work. I told him no again and my manager came over and kicked him out of the store. He asked her "Oh, are you kicking me out?" with a chagrin smile on his face. She then said "You cannot harass her while she's at work, so yes, please leave the store." That wiped the smile off of his face and he left. Fuck that guy and everyone like him. They should all be sterilized and forced to live in communities with their own kind.

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder Grandiose sense of self-importance. Lives in a fantasy world that supports their delusions of grandeur. Needs constant praise and admiration Sense of entitlement Exploits others without guilt or shame. Frequently demeans, intimidates, bullies, or belittles others.👍

[@samuelebincoletto637]

Can a person be born with NPD? And can someone with NPD become a criminal or a murder? Just curiosity.

[@memyself6879]

@@samuelebincoletto637 yes

[@samuelebincoletto637]

@@memyself6879 Yes in both questions, right? Also do you mind give me some examples?

[@memyself6879]

@@samuelebincoletto637 yes in both. I attend a psychology club and we had a session about that. Basically Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is genetically transmissed and there's no way to get rid of it altogether. Narcissists are low functioning psychopaths. Whereas psychopaths are less likely to end up in prison as they are better able to create master plans and cover up their wrong doings, narcissists (as well as sociopaths sometimes) are more likely to get caught and sent to prison for breaking the law, for example for drugs and stuff. And yes, narcissists may commit murder; they have no or low empathy so they won't really care about other people nor take pity for their victims.

[@samuelebincoletto637]

@@memyself6879 Thank you very much, good luck with your studies.

[@quadirgillette5390]

This channel is underrated, subscribing.

[@Psych2go]

Thank you so much for your support :)

[@PerlaVera-z8r]

After a 6 year relationship; I’m just now coming to a realization that I’ve been with a narcissist this whole time. The feeling of constantly walking on eggshells to avoid arguments; apologizing & taking the blame for their mistakes against you; feeling the need to reassure them that you’re not the person they accuse you to be; constantly trying to validate yourself as an honest, trusting person when they simply don’t trust you; being torn down when you feel more confident about yourself; being limited to interactions with certain people due to their manipulated behavior; etc…I’m fortunate to have the support system I have with my family to be able to move on more peacefully from a toxic relationship such as this one. I have finally decided “enough is enough!!” & I have the right to love myself & well being & finally step away from this relationship in order to be able to find myself again & enjoy life the way I did before meeting this individual. Very glad I recognized it before it got any worse. This goes to any person: “Learn to love yourself, before you can love anyone else”

[@alwaysyouramanda]

“Everyone (thinks or say this,” is a really big one. A narcissist will often try and speak for “everyone” in order to manipulate your self-esteem.

[@ktwhimsy6946]

This is so true! My ex (the narc) would also try to back up his “facts” (which were really just his opinions & not factual at all) with “studies”... something like “everyone knows this, even studies show it to be true” 🙄

[@mrs.a4932]

My husband says this all the time

[@selecttravelvacations7472]

“Nobody likes you”, “everyone warned me about you”, “you’ll never amount to anything” etc..

[@phosssssss7]

@@ktwhimsy6946 omg same- 💀

[@userm180]

@@mrs.a4932 did u talk to him ab it?

[@hken423]

When I was a teenager, my best friend was a raging narcissist. It would absolutely infuriate her if I didn’t answer my phone. She’d call the landline, my sister, my mom, my work, if I didn’t answer right away. I was so easily influenced back then, especially by her. Eventually I had no other close friends. She manipulated my parents into letting her live with us, because she had a rough home life. I was completely trapped by her, unable to get away from her even in my own home. She hated all my boyfriends. I remember this time at an amusement park, we were with a group of people, and I went off with my boyfriend to go on a few rides without her. She blew up and almost left me there. Eventually she got a boyfriend that distracted her enough to give me some freedom. Now as an adult, I still struggle with having a good sense of who I am. I was so heavily influenced by her that I feel like my personality never fully developed. I was forced into submission by her dominant personality. I was too immature and dumb to realize what she was doing to me, so despite everything, I thought she was the best friend I could ever ask for. I loved her a ton, and I still look back on her with fondness, that’s how strong her influence was on me. Now, I realize that I needed to learn how to be assertive and create boundaries for myself . I wish I knew how to do that back then. I wish I got the chance to grow in my teenage years, away from her influence.

[@bucketofvitamins3637]

I'm so sorry. It's good you realized what was wrong, even if it's years later. I hope you're doing well now :)

[@jawaela]

You loved her because you were capable of loving, not because of her influence. ”Normal” people can see the good in bad people and love that good part. This is how I remember my dad from my childhood… I still love him but I also hate him for how he treats others. Sometimes he’s tolerable and even nice. I have some good memories from childhood with my dad but a lot of bad.

[@pickleandmayo]

Holy moly, you just described my childhood and teen years. My “best friend” at school arrived at my small, country school in 1st grade and latched onto me and never let go. She dominated and controlled me, and put me down constantly. She would never let me enjoy anything, or have any success, or make other close friends because I was hers, and she would ask out any boy I said I liked and then proceed to date them, telling me I was ugly and that I’d never get married. I tried a few times to draw a boundary by telling her or writing a letter suggesting we cool it off or not be so close anymore and she would either physically hurt me or explode with anger and cry and tell me I was a horrible bitch; her volatility was so exhausting that I gave up. I formed major self-esteem and attachment issues as a result and still struggle with intimacy because I feel so suffocated anytime someone wants to get close to me. I finally told her to f**k off and leave me alone when we were 18, after high school and we no longer speak but I often wonder what I’d be like if I was able to form a self-esteem and personality and friendships without her. People underestimate the damage that toxic friendships can be because you’re often unaware of the effect on you until afterwards or in therapy. I think they can be just as bad as having toxic family sometimes because you’re stuck at school every day with them and you don’t have enough life experience to know that you actually don’t have to put up with it, especially if you weren’t modelled healthy boundaries and self esteem by your caregivers. I wish you healing and happiness ❤️‍🩹 🙏

[@hken423]

@@bucketofvitamins3637 thank you!

[@hken423]

@@jawaela that is very true. There is good and bad in everyone. If it’s someone close to us, it is even harder to see the bad for what it really is.

[@ziggymac5813]

Unfortunately it's been studied and the findings are that everyone has a little narcissism inside them. The main thing is that you learn to recognize those behaviors and train yourself to not continue doing them. Ultimately it's up to the person that decides if they're fine with behaving and acting that way or not.

[@VectorCultistCaptainVector]

@Ziggy Mac , is that true?

[@McRemmyBaby]

“You’ll never be happy”

[@SonyaKhanOfficial]

Period!

[@riooproductions9227]

Are you tired of being taken advantage of? kzbin.info/www/bejne/kHrImpSGjpZ8pZo ❗️❗️💔🧊

[@justinanderson1438]

I believe that’s true honestly

[@Bodacious_Crustacious]

As someone who's directly related to a Narcissist, I can confirm this is 100% accurate. He was so awful I had to cut ties with him. My brother just never changes for the better.

[@literallynothing5141]

My ex literally checked off all of these points... and he called me the narcissist🤭

[@komedi8902]

AHAHAHAHAHAH *how the turntables*

[@Ocean0Bluu]

Same, happened to me too.

[@Psych2go]

I see. Thanks for sharing! How did you get out of that relationship?

[@MidnightSky1821]

I'm everything according to my ex. Even though I know I am not, but there's times where I doubt it and think "am I really this messed up as a person?" Then I speak to someone and they help me make sense of it. I'm not perfect but I am not a narcissistic person. I do feel the word gets overly used as I also feel all humans can have traits of narcissism as well for survival reasons.

[@Possiblyabandaid]

If I am being honest, when my ex called me a narc during the breakup I didn't really understand what it meant...man after a bit of time I actually started to wonder if I was. The way lots of the forums and youtubers talk about themselves (exnarc community) you would think they are sitting at the right hand of god. It is rather narcisstic in itself sometimes the way they act. Oh well, after a year spent destroying myself (because why not) and a lot of therapy. I at least know that isn't the case. I still don't believe she has NPD though, she had a lot of the checklist.

[@CrazyAlienLady051]

Narcissist when you don't agree with them or when you defend yourself from them: "YOU'RE A HORRIBLE PERSON WHO CANNOT ACCEPT CRITICISM!" Got this alot...

[@SonyaKhanOfficial]

My goodness it’s actually sad how much they project and deflect their insecurities onto us!

[@brucekitchura3680]

Note: any time someone calls you an asshole it's 99.9% probable you just wont go their way.

[@MsRowan92]

Wow, i just had the biggest fight with a so called friend of mine. She said a lot of the things in the video to me and told me i am unable to deal with criticism and that I would say horrible things to her all the time even though she does everything for me and is supposedly incredibly kind. I have enough of this bullshit. She made me feel like I was a horrible person.

[@Chi181]

True

[@christinenielsen1207]

apparently i can’t take criticism either. 🥴

[@AlexisVandom]

"I know you better than you know yourself." The most insidious thing my mother ever said to me. And she started saying it when I was a toddler.

[@ccpr15]

Same

[@oldironsides4107]

She probably does.

[@JuliaGulia310]

@@oldironsides4107 some people either believe they know you better than you know themselves or want YOU to believe it so they you are more likely to trust them than yourselves. It's a ridiculous thing to say to say to a child, as while you may be responsible for that child and of course have more knowledge than the child, you should want the child to grow up with a healthy sense of self. And it's just disrespectful to say to an adult - including your own children, because you're denying that they have their own thoughts and insights into themselves.

[@Meggy1]

That’s exactly what my ex narc used to say to me! Ironic since they are incapable of true intimacy and can never really know anyone because of it. But in their delusional minds they believe what they want to.

[@Sohnikudiaish]

I cried for hours and hours and he knew but still somehow it my fault all the time. He didn’t let me go to gym/dance classes, isolated me from my best frnd, mom, other frnds….The worst relationship you can have is with a narcissist. I was stuck for 4 years. And my gut was telling me all the time…this is not good, but my stupid emotions and him saying “I’m suffering and i m sorry but understand me” that shit!!! Got me! It was a horror dream which lasted for 4 years and took me 2 years to recover. I was only 18 when it started. Hundreds of crying nights, i needed help, i wanted love but couldn’t tell anyone. He made my mom a villian in my own eyes. I was all alone no friends left…no one. i was so naive. But now I have lost all my empathy . I just won’t love anyone like that with that such pure heart. I still remember me crying and shouting in my car alone… loads of head pain all the time and he giving me orders manipulating me…i still remember the chills,heart dropping, feeling horribly empty from inside, like i lost my soul. But trust me the day I broke up i didnt cry that night. I had pain in my heart but i was done with that. I knew now he wont say anything to manipulate me. I still numb my eyes but this is nothing to what i have suffered. I wish this never happens to anyone.

[@madelinerocco8345]

These videos are actually really helpful to watch when I’m having ptsd about my narcissistic dad. It just reassuring to know that it is not me and that there is actually something clinically wrong with him.

[@userm180]

are u ok?

[@madelinerocco8345]

@@userm180 solid dog :) have a good day!!

[@userm180]

@@madelinerocco8345 u too! if u ever need to talk ab anything, im here

[@Handletoncity]

I can't tell if my dad is one or not. He calls plenty of others narcissists and is just a dick to everyone. But he acts like he's all I have. Sometimes he just acts hurtful and takes no responsibility. He took psychology and read a lot of books on it and he's obsessed with narcissism to a certain degree. Don't really know what to think.

[@thatblondartist1295]

Don't forget, "I'm sorry, but YOU..."

[@wendywhoisit1819]

In a lot of situations the fault is on both sides though and if only one is able to step back and apologise but the other isn't it sucks and it leads to nowhere.

[@ace_of_blades5046]

actually tho

[@24craash81]

i just cringed of flashbacks lol

[@potatotoes]

i don’t know why this wasn’t included, it’s definitely a popular one :(

[@kristen1856]

Always with the "but".

[@maliainu]

This completely described my previous "relationship." I did not realize how isolated I was from my friends, nor realized how manipulative they were. I'm so grateful to the friends who showed support. They helped me find the courage I needed to move on. Have been much happier without this person in my life ever since.

[@mouseman04]

Boom it’s remble messed around and got richer than all my idols

[@leslieyancey5084]

My ex used to say, “I only do these (mean) things because I care about you and want you to reach your potential!” 🙄

[@olgatrilogymartin3143]

The audacity!

[@hikerhobby1204]

Gag!

[@pavithra-7429]

@@olgatrilogymartin3143 👍🏻👏🏻

[@maddieric]

😮😮😮

[@philtookgrenadesforme7785]

good example of one

[@minichim3598]

This makes me questions myself. Because I think like this sometime. Now I'm finding ways to improve myself and to change this kind of attitude I have.

[@L.0022-y4j]

After fight with a narcissistic: Him: you will never find some one like me! Me: y-yeah, thats the point...

[@tonyallewellyn7304]

EXACTLY 👍🏻.. it’s their favorite phrase

[@donkbonktj5773]

Lmao please say «Exactly, because no one are as narcissistic as you» I know it’s not true, but just a suggestion :)

[@iscarly8059]

Was in a relationship with a narcissist for over 18 years. They kept telling me their problem was PTSD. We went to therapy a few times and I couldn’t figure out what the problem was until I hit the nail on the head and figured out they are a narcissist. The best thing to do is get out of that type of relationship. It’s toxic and they are negative. Thank you for sharing your video

[@marc-etiennemercier6584]

I did that with one friend but the price to pay was losing all my friends. Almost ten years later, I wonder if it was the right decision.

[@Bass108thatsmyfate]

I have a friend is who is a narcissist. Whenever I feel good and I always do. They try their absolute best to bring me down. They also make fun of me in public. I do stand up for myself. Just feels like a waste of breath. They don’t care. So now, I’m distancing myself and moving away. Every time I hangout with her, it’s always a competition.

[@ericacaa]

"you can't ever have kids, you will be a terrible mother..." glad he's history. i still haven't had kids tho, the words still echo in my mind whenever i consider trying.

[@lillymckinnon7853]

Are you gonna let those words echo through your mind until you reach menopause? You contradicted yourself. He's not history if you're still gripped by his words... I command you to go and have children. *NOW.*

[@ericacaa]

@@lillymckinnon7853 im not risking children during the pandemic, im still 34, I can wait a bit more. I just ended another toxic relationship, i dont want the wrong father for my kids. Healing first. But thanks!

[@versellia]

@@ericacaa that's good, you are smart. While kids are wonderful, when you meet a new guy, check out how he treats his mother. Hope this helps.

[@katyk8610]

@@ericacaa my mom used to say that to me but I'm not exactly sure why. Now that I've had a baby it's never come up again 😐

[@meetmewherethestarscollide]

I got told the I can't ever have kids by a doctor because of my epilepsy with my EPILEPTIC mother in the room with me .....see the irony in that?

[@2007cadys]

The worst part about being involved with a narcissist is how much you miss them when they are finally out of your life. Even though they have caused you much pain, you still love them and wish the best

[@Islamic....vibesforever]

🥴🙂

[@vindi167]

You are probably an empath

[@pavithra-7429]

My opinion :- who does that?

[@subhajitkarmakar291]

Does this have anything to do with narcissists? Isn't it true for like everyone?

[@royalebasilia]

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[@aaronaguilar5204]

Imma share some of my struggles with narcissism/arrogance behavior: I used to feel superior or otherwise “better” than everyone (including friends and family) because of the dumbest reasons like waking up earlier than them or learning new things everyday, self help vids were a gateway to this happening and the more i watched them the more my arrogance increased, it got to the point i saw everyone in my family as worthless and “below” me, ironically, one day it dawned on me that my arrogance of thinking that i was somehow ahead of everyone only prevented me from actually achieving anything to even brag or feel superior about in the first place, i would go on procrastination marathons all day long reminding myself of my superiority and ultimately ended up just wasting time, so i was basically holding myself from becoming better and genuinely getting ahead. The one day i realized just how much i absolutely sucked at everything i taught myself an incredibly valuable lesson, i recognized just how full of myself i was and felt a great sense of humbleness by recognizing all my flaws, mistakes and shortcomings, since that day i made a deal with myself to actually improve everyday and prevent my arrogance from destroying me and my potential, with this new mindset i started to see value and love in my family again, i began to read more books and became 10x more productive than ever, i strengthened my relationship with some people i used to hold a grudge against and have learned to control my ego, i have finally found myself in a position where i can brag about being ahead, but i have detached from these feelings of superiority so much that i just dont feel like it anymore, i like who i am and what i do and that’s all, i have no need to brag or be arrogant about anything, i’ve become way more grateful than before, i aprecciate everything and everyone i have and now realize just how dumb it is to think you’re above someone, i have found fulfillment and happiness by letting my ego go, and even when people praise me i dont think so high of myself.

[@yourgurl9739]

Damn dude, it is just the way i am... i thought bcz of all those videos i watch and books i read and so many other bullshits im better than anyone or i know better while others suck! While actually they're just doing fine and are talented and a normal human being and im the only one doing nothing but bragging and shit I felt so bad but now that i know im not alone i can forgive myself and start to be better... hope you're doing well💜

[@aaronaguilar5204]

@@yourgurl9739 Oh hi, didnt expect someone to actually read this, my arrogance was mostly born out of an unfair rivalry with my brother, and yes you are definetely not alone at all, a lot of people struggle with this. and rn im doing excellent, you can actually disprove your own superiority, just think about how many other people have watched the vids, read the books and listened to the music you have, there's probably millions out there meaning you would be above only a small portion of the population, like with most things in life self improvement can carry or destroy your life, it is a major double edged sword and i 100% learned it the hard way by getting a taste of the razor edge, happy new year btw :3!

[@Killer_Turnip]

I used to think like this as a kid. "Why are these kids so dumb. The teacher/class pays so much attention to them but they do nothing to deserve it." I never had many friends bc ppl thought I was shy, I avoided ppl like the plague. I realized later I did this as a coping mechanism to hide my insecurities and social anxiety (even from myself), and deep down I actually hated myself. It also didn't help that I was bullied a lot. Mild stuff, but in frequency it added up. Recognizing why you do the things you do is the most important step in being able to overcome your issues, at least in my experience.

[@danielmconnolly7]

*Life is short, eternity is forever. Ask Jesus Christ to forgive you of all of your sins and He will, and your soul will be saved.*

[@userm180]

i am soooo freaking proud of you guys. honestly. good job!

[@williamgoss4691]

A very interesting & informative video. I recognise several of narcissistic traits you mentioned in people I’ve met along the way. Trust me, you absolutely do not want to have a relationship with a Narcissist, it can be very destructive, verging on abusive.

[@cariefitzpatrick238]

“There’s no reason to be/say/act like this,” is another one I often heard from the narcissists in my life. It’s a way to downplay your own feelings and make you think you’re crazy, etc-kind of like gas-lighting, but not as intense. By saying “there’s no reason to be like this,” all they are saying is they refuse to see a situation from your perspective or they aren’t capable. And that’s a red flag, so bail. Trust me!

[@lullul6813]

Look i know you are pissed but there's no reason to say these mean things. Do you think other people have no feelings!? I just came back from work and you can’t even show me respect.

[@jessieperson]

@@lullul6813 I got chills...my mom has said those exact words I swear.

[@babandeeprathore]

Right, invalidating your feelings

[@yanerlaner7366]

Bro thats my dads favorite line Istg he always says this

[@phsteve6316]

i'm not saying this is entirely wrong, but there are definitely some times, when someone is really just overreacting.

[@seirasnw]

When your parents fit all of the things mentioned above: *nervous sweats*

[@theelevennineteen1222]

@s snw RIGHT?! I feel ya.

[@hansjensen2720]

be stong - bless u

[@arielsmith3640]

Yes. My father is this video.

[@yumithelight4375]

My Dad

[@Crusader-tg1wx]

If they actually do, then yes, that’s obviously concerning. But don’t try to fit everything they do into the criteria of the video. You’d be adjusting the foot to fit the shoe. But maybe I’m saying something you already know, and I’m taking a joke too literally.

[@Mia.S13]

I used to be like this, thankfully I changed for the better!

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing! You're brave for admitting your own flaws, it's the first step to self-awareness. What advice do you recommend we can do to change these behaviors? :)

[@Mia.S13]

@@Psych2go Well actually it was a pretty depressing situation. This little girl came up to me (she was maybe like 6-7) and I was 9 and she said “All my friends said your really mean” and I said “Who are your friends” and then she told me who. They were the siblings of my ‘friends’. That’s when I found out that the people who I thought where my friends, didn’t actually like me. I decided I was gonna be a lot nicer and I changed a lot. Sometimes my narcissism comes out sometimes but my new friends tell me about it and let me know (like when I give out backhanded compliments by accident/not realising)

[@QuintonDitmore]

I was raised with all of these repeated to me in many different scenarios. This was helpful to prevent me from second guessing the judgement I hold.

[@jennychen8826]

I think the reason why a lot of these sound relatable to people is because they’re hallmarks of insecurity and most of us have that. The difference is that narcissists take that to an extreme and use other people to feel secure and not only that but go to extreme lengths to emotionally manipulate someone to make sure they will always be there to help them feel better about themselves