you keep getting hurt because you don't protect yourself.

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[@dollribbon]

thats why accountability is so very important. this woman is speaking facts

[@yuvikx_]

Simone, you are my therapist for real. She's the big sister everyone needs!

[@asktaylor493]

kinda funny that she talks about how people always treat her like a therapist and you still decide to comment that

[@JF59122]

I keep getting hurt because people ignore me, talk over me, talking to me when there's no one else to talk to etc.

[@daphnethetree]

this always happens to me, ive no clue what to do about it@@JF59122

[@07hurts]

every time she mentioned how she was 19, "and i damn sure never would've danced with the devil, at nineteen" played on loop in my head

[@yuvikx_]

I feel pitty for people who wish to stay the same even after watching this video. You speak facts simone! And honestly am learning so much through you, thank you so much 🤍🤍

[@user-zv5zs9db4t]

The transition might not be overnight !! Its gon be the smal changes people can do to be a better version of themselves... it is completely okay if u are not able to change right away but always keep in mind to protect urself !!

[@yuvikx_]

@@user-zv5zs9db4t That's totally true. But a small change is still a change, and am here for people who genuinely take efforts for changing their thinking patterns... it's a need.

[@arl.arl111]

You are so right. I was in a bad relationship last year and I was traumatized as well , I learned to set boundaries, protect myself, I learned to self love and become a better version of myself and not settle, if it's not the real thing I don't want it , I'm not dealing with bs anymore

[@leilastory]

Thank you Simone for giving us FREE KNOWLEDGE that we can use in the real world ❤❤

[@rojemierabino8739]

I also have this cousin who keeps on ranting about all her love problems to me. And we can both clearly see the red flags about her boyfriend. I kept on advising her that she shouldn't settle for that, but it's like that it's just a cycle. They'll fight, she'll talk to me, and then they'll go back together. I'm the one who's getting tired of that, so now that she's got the same problem again, I left her on read.

[@asthadubey5939]

You did the right thing she is just transferring the bad energy between their relationship to you let her think about it herself she will leave the toxic relationship for herself soon

[@rojemierabino8739]

Don’t stop watching Simone’s videos! cause when i did, i settled for bare minimum and got hurt! I think this video was really meant for me haha. I saw the red flags but didn't have the courage to end it until he did. The only thing I'm proud of is that even if I still have feelings for him, I know that I will never go back. I've got to watch all the videos I missed to fix this life of mine.

[@masturawrites]

Speaking from my own experience, I have to admit what Simone said is 300% true..

[@itslouka850]

+you're at peace because you're helping us , you deserve to have such a peaceful life because you're such a good and mature person , may god bless you sis

[@sarahle7160]

I have no idea why everything she said is so relatable and realistic to me. Queen, you are definitely changing lots of women's mindsets right now. I think you should make a podcast since I need to listen to this every day.

[@planetestheonly]

This is right on time, because just yesterday I cried due to disappointments others made me feel, but then cried harder because i realised that i hadn't put myself in any consideration on desicions I chose. I gave out so much and left no freakin crumb for myself, that's why i was disappointed, most of the time, I failed me. The moment I typed this down, I know better now.

[@user-dx8cl5gq4i]

Thank Simone, I recently come out from of 5yrs toxic relationship. That’s so hard for me. I was never protect protect myself. Even though he did physically attack and mentally abused. He said he did all of the things because of me and I’m the one who always makes the problem. When I having a panic attack, he said “ if u can’t control yourself, u should go and die.” He always keeps me like a secret from his sides. I was traumatised as well. Now I learn to let go and protect myself

[@aparnapatra4904]

I always wonder why everyone talks about how relationship is the only problem and donot talk about a girl who is single but people are toxic around her and life is also unfair....its good that people like her are helping people but situation in which I'm in...nobody is talking about that...that's sad...

[@tohhnee1619]

love this video! everyone needs to emphasise and prioritise self love fr. like if ur not secure and happy w yourself DONT go chasing a relationship!!! u will literally be falling head over heels for ppl doing the bare minimum 🙄 work on ur traumas, build a fulfilling life, ur standards will naturally soar higher than ever and u will find a guy who actually goes above and beyond for u 🫶🏻 which is what u deserve!!! don’t settle for short term highs of being in a toxic rs bc the lifelong trauma that comes along w it… it’s not worth it.

[@urfavgiselle]

oml I can’t even express how much I love you you’re literally my comfort person 🥹🫶🏻

[@rachellane2198]

I completely agree, you are v wise - your channel is a gem!!! I don't think anyone has learnt all their lessons in their first relationship though - always more to learn, just in different areas. I'm glad each of my relationships has taught me different things that have shaped me as a person

[@chuucake]

thank you always, *always* for being there for us ♡ i love you simone !!♡ i truly appreciate you

[@Yevheniia_Tkachenko1]

You are really a therapist for me. Just found your channel and it helps me to understand myself more ❤ Thanks, that means a lot

[@veiledsinisterly]

I wish more people get such understanding on relationships

[@yoonyatimyo761]

Because of you i am becoming the most confident version of myself and Love you❤.

[@lottalove5674]

this is exactly what type of advice i need. this is exactly it. thank you so much ♡

[@laurabadger9113]

I learned my lesson at a later age, you are on point! I like the way you broke things down, hurting yourself/vs. risk with someone who is worth it!

[@Punninhok239]

Thanks Simone, i have just came out from the same situation and you are actually reading my mind at the moment. Your video is like a therapy for me ❤

[@jamiesummers1111]

I feel it's one of your best videos to date! I think everyone goes through this and it's up to the individual to change and learn from the experience and this makes them a better person.

[@ekanuegas6969]

I really love this video, it's giving me TAKE SHIT OR TAKE NO SHIT, YOU DECIDE. thanks to you queen💄👠

[@moisavictoria]

You are so wise i need energy like yours in my life

[@MarioRamirez-gm4vn]

I felt you on the traumatized break up. I’m glad mine happened at 18 because I was able to pursue in myself and accomplish goals I was able to reach since I had so much time for myself. A traumatized break up does build character but it did have me single for the next 5 years 😂

[@Star-jr4ux]

i kinda went out with a guy for a couple months. this was the end of high school i was very very stressed and overwhelmed and he knew that. once summer break started i was very burnt out and mentally exhausted so i didnt really talk to ANYONE. he texted me and asked me if something was wrong and if maybe he did something (kind of understandable i didnt mind that) and after i said no u didnt do anything im just burnt out he asked if i was sure three times. at that moment i realised that maybe he doesnt trust me enough to believe me. i felt very unheard and i ended things completely and barely spoke to him after.

[@AngelaX111]

Thanks to you Simone, I recently came out of my toxic relationship and learnt a lotta things I should’ve noticed rather than ignoring- will make sure to protect my boundaries and myself ❤ nothing is worse than the feeling of self sabotage or trauma due to yourself, this video summed my journey too. Sending lots of luvv to you sis! 💗

[@SPNKL541]

Congrats sis

[@blakeharwood3691]

simone you have changed my life❤️ ever since i have been watching you (start of 2021) i have got into my dream uni, i have my dream life and nobody can stop me. love your videos

[@Sweetbuttons27377Qsgj]

No fr tho. Everything u said is very true. I regretted the last guy I was in a rs with. I've seen red flags and I didn't think it was a biggie I chose to ignore it cause I like the way he makes me feel when we we're talking but while being 3 months in a rs with him, I've noticed things that made me uncomfortable and were clearly red flags he should've known that. I was left heartbroken and traumatized but it's really true that it's up to me to never experience that again. I will never let somebody treat me that way again. I have no regrets about how my walls are even higher than ever. Right now I will just see who's the decent guy i'm going to end up with, enjoying my time single and not really thinking about having a rs anytime soon cuz what's the point if you see a lot of red flags.

[@awesomemiracle4503]

I've learned my lesson. From here on out, anytime I notice a red flag in someone, I leave. no explanation deserved or needed.

[@idontevenknowli]

I love this channel's vibe. Simonesquared gives great real advice and all, but this channel gives hardcore realistic no-shit advice that i know is not sugarcoated and i can trust

[@simrantuli26]

learnt this the hard way, but so glad i did

[@user-bs6pw6gw2v]

First ❤simone Thank u so much for these amazing videos❤ I've realised how insecure & plp pleaser I am & I came through ur channel guess wt I'm learning so much from ur videos tips 🥺 I'm becoming the best version of myself 🫂 I'm finally loving myself heartfully ❤️ putting strong boundaries ❤ Staying happy alone enjoying my own company ❤ Keeping myself first taking care of myself mentally physically emotionally spiritually ❤

[@tatamic139]

5:28 simone I swear the scenarios you explain in these videos are so funny like I GIGGLED.

[@dar9445]

FRR 😭

[@motuchotu444]

i love her so much she's my bestfriend and i have feelings for her i told her about this she told me "never keep any expectations from me" "never wait for me" i feel so much hurt my chest is hurting a lot tears are flowing down while writing this I don't know what will i do without her i lover her so much💔

[@cherrypie333]

the hotel videos are back amazingggg

[@jennyzjf1784]

Just got dumped by the date. We were having such a great time and we knew we both enjoyed everything. But without any red flags/ signs, he stopped everything 2 days ago, telling me that i'm perfect but he's not ready for a serious relationship. i accepted the reality but I'm still in shock and don't understand why this could happen. First time in my life...

[@tarastella9564]

I can't believe I just found your channel. Your videos are incredible; you speak nothing but the truth, expressing everything that was in my head but I couldn't put into words. I also had a traumatic relationship a few months ago (I was also 19), and even though he wasn't my first boyfriend, he definitely left a lasting mark on me. To this day, I have significant regrets about why I didn't leave him when I first saw the red flags, which was after about two weeks of dating. This guy disrespected me so much, yet I always tried to make excuses for his behavior. Never again will I tolerate this in my life. I never want to be hurt the way that under-league jerk hurt me. Now, I'm focusing on myself and trying to forgive myself. While it's rather difficult, it gets easier every day. One thing that calms me is that since I've experienced all this bs, I know how to recognize red flags and GTFO. I'm not scared of setting boundaries and no longer being a people pleaser. I choose myself first; I prioritize myself.

[@lilkamie6042]

The way i am relating to this vid right here oh godddd

[@melblairgrace]

Really needed to hear this right now. Thank you ❤️

[@muskanqadeer7196]

Everyone make mistakes that's normal but repeating them is worse 💯

[@user-yl2ef1wn9q]

Honestly I felt the part were you said "Most of my subscribers treat me like their therapist' Although I never had that kind of feeling before, i did experince kinda similar situations, were you give people advice but when its their turn they give out the shittiest advice of all time or just say "Im sorry", not only that but some people do take your advice but instead of jumping into the helping boat you offered they drown themsleves in their Misery.

[@elainemikui2699]

At this point you're one of my fav KZbinrs. I'm obsessed with you and your educational content. Keep going ❤

[@enna1004]

I also went through a traumatic relationship at 18/19 that taught me all the lessons at once and I’ll never let someone do shit like that again

[@Jakilyn]

0:35 I literally came across that quote this morning ❤

[@sumerrbliss.28]

I'm in love with your energy! ✨🤍

[@elswtchks]

Simone! ❤ You're beautiful as always. Thank you for all the advices. Setting boundaries is really a must. Never betray oneself, self-love!

[@manishashah9]

This is my self improvement corner

[@sugandha011]

Thankful for the day I'd started listening to you. Never had a elderr sister myself but I had simone.

[@chrissies6400]

I'm 22 and your Tipps are eye opening really thank you

[@nitika8535]

Much needed video 😢going through a lot these days

[@UniquelyHerz]

I’m right with u. Hope you heal soon 🫶🏽

[@loraineg.6752]

Hi Simone, a new subscriber here!!! I'm so loving your content, very unapologetic and empowering. Helped me a lot since I have been into a situationship this past couple of months that I've got too attached, was also ghosted suddenly and founded myself confused, depressed and unworthy of love. This pep talk is definitely a splash of cold water I needed. I knew he was a bright red flag (calls his exes crazy and wont shut up comparing them to me) but chose not to acknowledge it cos I was enjoying the attention and the ego boost. Now I am proud that I have not tried to reach out to him ever again. I also decided that I'll see a therapist so I can work this out and further improve myself.❤

[@apekshasehgal]

congrats on 100k💗💗💗

[@sunnysnow08]

I needed this very much. Exactly why I am subscribed to this Channel. Thank you so much Simone.

[@user-lb1fl7sh8m]

26 types of friends to avoid: 1. User - The person who only texts you when needs you 2. The friend who talks more than action 3. The friend who disappears when you need them in a difficult time 4. The friend who makes you feel guilty 5. The calculator - ‘ i did this to you, so you should do this for me’ 6. The friend who puts you down 7. The friend who talks about you behind your back 8. The friend who does what they want to do 9. The gossiper and the drama queen 10. The trauma dumper 11. The flaker 12. The friend who cant make time or show up for you 13. The victim - the child who never grows up 14. Hater - the friend who secretly hates you 15. The competitors - the friend who competes with you 16. The people pleaser- the friend that agrees with everything you say 17. Risk taker - the irresponsible & careless one who risks everyones and your life 18. The person doesnt respect your boundaries 19. The person who does not reach out to you 20. The love bomber 21. The bad communicator 22. The chronic negativist 23. The opportunist - the friend who wants to be with you when something good is going on 24. The friend doing nothing with their life 25. Friends who’s values dont align with yours 26. “They did nothing to me” friend - The person who is friends with everyone p.s. also your enemies

[@inlovewithri]

you deserve so many likes, thank you so much you saved my life

[@nathananderson8720]

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZbin channel 5 months ago about self development. Now I have 328 subs and almost > 100 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.

[@harshita.v28]

that is so true.. I was talking to this guy and told him im feeling emotionally low and mf proceeded to talk about sexual things coz he thought i will feel better and bro i ran i ghosted him …. it is very easy to see red flags when you experienced things !

[@elainemikui2699]

Babe wake up the queen has posted

[@user-gq6rn3lo7p]

Love only is not enough👌🏻

[@janaeyoung6896]

“If you make a mistake and do not correct it, this is called a mistake.” Confucius

[@LUxo323]

I won't put myself in a position to be hurt 😊

[@hsupyae9581]

Thanks Simone for this amazing therapeutic ways of your video. Lately, I’ve been dating a guy and we dated about 4 or 5 times already. But still, he isn’t ready for a relationship. He said he’s afraid of breaking up and lack of confidence. He said he’d like to be in a relationship only we’ve known each other for a long time. There are some bad habits about him so he said he will change those habits of him and will try to be ready in a relationship later. Well, since our first date, we did all the couple things like you know, kiss, holding hands and blah blah… like things every couples do. So we’re just like a couple in other people’s eyes. But we actually aren’t. I mean am I wasting my time on him? Should I let him go? Or stay as friends only? I’m thinking of dating as friends from now on. I still can’t let him go cuz I still like him. But I know I have to protect myself. My friend said like “if it’s not going anywhere, stop wasting your time”. I mean yes, I totally understand her advices but I still like him and still can’t let him go. What should I do? Simone, can you please answer me or anyone else in this comment section? Cuz I’m really really indecisive and this is really sucks. Thanks in advance. TwT

[@saishruthi3295]

Thanks a lot Simone every info you share is just so helpful...😊

[@maryss8767]

i always cut contact with person that make me uncomfortable , i thought its my bad trait, but that trait save me from toxic peoples , so its rare to me to be trapped in toxic Relationship or friendship .

[@shine2678]

I made same mistake twice, never ever repeating this same mistake again, i just feel so horrible and i feel like a fool

[@saru_eonni2]

3:15 she said that she was 19 and that was her first relationship... I feel ittt!!! Actually todayyyyy I'M ALSO 19 YEARS NOW AND JUST FEW... 3 HRS BACK, I told understands him and.. wow he so happy and ambitious like a shit he was talking! And I realise now... He is something like... Toxic whatever!!! I don't want him..... Fuckkkkk off!! I love him more then him but, anyways.. I love me firstlyyy ... :) 💗💗💗💗I said sorry to myself! And ... Be happy and don't care.. about others!! Help them when they need it!! But . Don't make yourself down!!!! 💛💛

[@s3npaii862]

Not me choosing not to watch this video of simmo because i think im healed 😅😅 then i watched it bcoz whynot its simone and damn YOU FORGOT YOUR LESSONS YOU LEARNED LAST YEAR😢😢i should remember at all times what i went through and not just automatically assume that there are better people coming because old ones were bad. I believe we make people bad or good to us based on our behavior and reactions to them...

[@user-fc6nk9pj4w]

best video of the year

[@sans9101]

Simones literally my therapist 💗

[@ameldearxx]

This video was on time when I broke up from a toxic relationship thanks❤

[@btslover8560]

MOTHER IS BACK!!🙇‍♀️✨

[@Mondscheinelfe]

love the beautiful music

[@zahrashahnawaz]

i love you, thank you

[@rushalidhar1212]

Idk why when I'm setting boundaries I always end up alone :(

[@patrickrad1735]

She is a very nice lady and she is the best wife to me Yeji she is always making me happy and she makes my life easier

[@gracengu9364]

Simone, u are the sister that I never had. Love you thank you so much ❤

[@diminee13]

She's right at first l also have done this thing when I used to like someone I see all the red flags in a guy but still, I used to make excuses like ohh c'mon it's nothing he also has good quality etc. Then I realised that I'm just making excuses just bcoz I like him but he was not good at this point I'm ignoring the bad things which did hurt me and now l don't give a shit like if it's not good he's disrespecting he's always putting his choices and views but never cared about mine then I stopped like I don't wanna get hurt either I don't deserve it now, no matter how much I like someone I have boundaries if it's hurting then plz stop I always do this cuz I realised why would someone like this person deserve me? I love the mindset she has I always try to think just the way she clarifies like how things affect us if we choose the wrong things

[@fairymary_555]

Queen is back

[@alfonsowells9691]

Finish it yourself

[@sassia2382]

Really good content! Thank you.

[@Aprilla667]

I've learned so many things from you, I'm so grateful I've found your channel

[@3lla_Addison_]

This helps a lot thank you for the pep talk 😂💕

[@milkbread5036]

Thank you for making these videos!

[@pandagurl211]

thank you mother

[@ajtriovideos]

the worst part is when its ur own mom and its repeated over and over again.

[@arushi3621]

mother simone you have to make a separate video for red flags bcs you giving those examples are changing the trajectory of my life🙏

[@simonesquared20]

i have one

[@elishi5189]

i really needed this video thank you😍😍

[@anchan_dulal]

love you Simone ! Always up with something helpful❤❤

[@LUxo323]

I'm not willing to be terrified 😊

[@naomim.7220]

Feeling proud because more and more as these videos pop up on my feed I realize I'm starting to not relate to the titles anymore😜 but I still watch bcuz hello it's simone

[@meena2151]

girll, welcome to malaysiaaa

[@zenaidazarate7203]

What about the factor that it takes I think 400 hours if I remember correctly to get to know someone. And -on a separate note-wow same here! He was unhappy with his life so when I got involved with him- although he never asked me or made it official -he my life turned into a living hell.

[@farihamohamedhilmy4700]

Wow! I can’t believe you were in Malaysia at that time filming the video. Nice 😁 Thank you Simone for the wake up call

[@user-x6l5zhpr07duyu]

I love thissss ,thank you Simone❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@minouloubandha1089]

hi could you please make a videos on how to pick up on modern day soical cues for people who are currently struggle with them

[@user-nn7br4vd1d]

you look stunning omg lyy 🩷