I loved it. I'm amazed at your courage to publically display your emotional sides. I'll never know anyone like you buddy!
@XxEtHaN39xX5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Chris :) I appreciate the appreciation and I would have to say the same about you, I'll never know anyone like you... not even close!
@kalynsloan31525 жыл бұрын
I'm dating a single dad (for the first time), and we recently had a discussion with similar themes to this. Thank you for sharing your experiences with loneliness so vulnerably. Since I am not a parent, I just don't know what this kind of love is like, and your sharing allows me to step into a greater space of compassion for my guy and for my single parent friends. What I can resonate with completely are your words around loving self. Thank you for courage, Ethan.
@Introvertwoman19894 жыл бұрын
The Conscious Dad I can feel you as a sngle parent too😭 but we will be okay God loves us. I am through it.
@TheAmazingsuntanSpider-man2 жыл бұрын
💙💙💙💙
@lotuswolf15183 жыл бұрын
Only strong men cry and truly show their emotions, you're an amazing dad, Lincoln will always love you
@XxEtHaN39xX3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching and for sharing :) I would agree with you, even though it is still hard for me to watch this video of myself.
@XxEtHaN39xX3 жыл бұрын
Also, for some reason, I can't see your comment on the video of us swimming! I am 27 and Lincoln is 3.5 years old :)
@MsOrganicBlack3 жыл бұрын
I was raised by a single dad. He raised three girls. Growing up I always felt like he was too strict and emotionally available. Your video makes me appreciate everything he must have gone through, and how he felt about us, and all the crying he must have done when we weren't around. Thank you. Bless you, Sir. Being a parent is the most important job in the world.
@XxEtHaN39xX3 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you for sharing that :) Your dad is a wonderful man by the sounds of it, and it sounds like he did a hell of a job raising you and your sisters.
@addiction2conviction3634 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad I found your channel tonight. Im a single father of my soon to be 9 month old son. Ive never cried so much in my life. I've also never felt so utterly alone. But being with my son is literally the best experience I've ever or will ever have. It's indescribable. Anyway, I related so much to you I had to reach out. I cried watching thjs video! Can't wait to watch all your other vids! Good job dad!! You're not alone either!
@XxEtHaN39xX4 жыл бұрын
Hey Brotha! So happy to hear that you are on this journey man and that you view it as the best experience you've ever had. You're right it can be insanely lonely at times and incredibly challenging and I'm stoked to hear you are embracing it all... the "good" and the "bad". If you need anything brotha don't hesitate to reach out on Insta @joyfullyethan would love to connect! Thanks for the appreciation and many blessings to you!
@swagacademi2 жыл бұрын
I've had a lot of those long bitter cries myself my dude, emotional purging is such a necessary process for our healing and our mental health as single dads.
@materiialart82263 жыл бұрын
Im currently going thru this deep pain.. i cry every night.. learning to accept the pain.. these women are truely Narcissistic n we need to be aware
@XxEtHaN39xX3 жыл бұрын
Hey Brotha, I'm sorry it's taken so long for me to get back to your comment. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through the deep pain and I Know that at the end of it you will be a much stronger man. I know that to be true with a capital T. I would disagree with the idea of these woman are narcissistic and we need to be aware, I have a hunch that you may just be hurting and are looking for someone to blame for the pain you are experiencing. That's your pain homie, nothing wrong with that, no shame, just your pain for you to sit, feel and heal. If you need anything let me know :)
@davidanthony54992 жыл бұрын
dude, I am so glad i clicked on this video. Thank you for sharing your story and experience, I'm sure it wasn't easy. I've been raising my daughter alone since she was 4 months old and it's been rough. This reminded me to get back on track with healing and loving myself the way i do others. Thank you man, I love you brother. It will always get better.
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
David!!! So cool to read what you wrote here man and fucking rights to healing and loving yourself man. That's something your daughter will grow to admire and respect the hell out of. Here if you ever need anything homie it definitely isn't easy like you shared. Let's kick some ass this year!
@wizzyyyyyy3 жыл бұрын
Im a soon to be a single dad. Had my depression when I was 16 when my mother dies and leaving with my dad. we were then homeless from a life that was so good. Ive married a woman but then had to kick my dad out because they were not getting along. Since my ideas are not matching my wife's, ive tend to just keep quiet and just have things go her way cuz all the thoughts coming inside my head were pure hatred, violence etc. Now she is about to go away and " find herself" and think if shes ever coming back. Shes leaving me with our 6 yo daughter. Everytime I look at my kid, it breaks my heart so bad that all i can do is just smile and say daddy will always be here. I am currently lost and feel really broken
@XxEtHaN39xX3 жыл бұрын
Hey man, first of all, this may sound weird to you, but congratulations on feeling broken. I say that because I only know that good things come from being in that space (I've been there) and at the same time, I see you and understand how you can feel that way given your circumstances. There is a lot in what you have shared. From talking about how you held back your ideas and keeping quiet in order not to make your wife upset, to every time you look at your daughter and how it breaks your heart. It's understandable that you feel lost and broken, you've lost your identity, everything you have ever known, the past however long you have been with your wife. All that crumbling within seconds. That's no joke. To me, it looks like you have been presented a choice. A choice to also find yourself, break the co-dependency you had with your wife, and begin to find out who you are OR you have the choice to be the victim, give up, and let it ruin your whole life. Your daughter, she is counting on you, you are counting on you to get through this man. If you need any help, shoot me an email or a text man: ethanelliscoaching@gmail.com 1-587-343-0249 You don't have to do this alone.
@swagacademi2 жыл бұрын
You hit the nail on the head brother, "it's about going to those feelings and being with them" that is catharsis in its purest form and it is so necessary for single dads. Thanks for sharing this!
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
Yes dude, you got it man! That's how we truly move on and become fully integrated human beings :)
@BO_Knows1432 жыл бұрын
thank you for your transparency bro I have been going through this for 10 years and I’ve been afraid to let it out I just turned 50 last week and I have finally come to the realization of exactly what you talked about in this video. I don’t think I found it on accident thank you for making a difference in my life. Peace love and blessings
@TheAmazingsuntanSpider-man2 жыл бұрын
Jus found your channel. I'm loving it!!! Mine just started and it's hard. I jus got suol custody of my 15 & 9 yr old, but still can't see my 1yr old. You keep up the good work 💪
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
First of all wow man. It's beautiful to hear that you have the sol custody over your two kids... a lot of men never get that opportunity. I'm stoked for you brotha. Did you just start your journey as a single dad is that what you mean by 'mine just started'. Thanks for the appreciation... I'm tying over here much like I am sure that you are trying as well :)
@timmy59483 ай бұрын
Married for 12 years. Raised my daughters for 9 years and one for 7. I see them every other weekend. Currently living alone and I go thru this every week at least one time. Cry, consider ending it all, giving up on them and starting all over but then when I do see them, my reason to keep going is rekindled. Stay strong brothers. I guarantee it will be worth it in the end.
@felixthelamb76683 жыл бұрын
Just starting my journey also brother. I know exactly how you feel. I’m with you man.
@XxEtHaN39xX3 жыл бұрын
Man, thank you for sharing that and I'm glad to hear that you are starting the journey. If you ever need anything let me know homie as I am also with you! How old is your daughter by the looks of it?
@felixthelamb76683 жыл бұрын
@@XxEtHaN39xX My daughter is 1yr and 4 months. Her name is Emberleigh. I also have a second daughter from the same mother. Her name is River. She’s 5 months. They are my only two. It hurts my heart that my daughters are so young and the family is already broken. I feel so much guilt and I’m taking it hard on myself. Like they didn’t even get a chance to remember mom and dad together. Wanted to break that cycle because me and my ex both grew up without fathers. But I accept the blame for my mistakes. Sucks. But it’s good to know that there are people who are enduring the same pain and maybe even more so. It’s a bittersweet journey this life.
@codyyoung95312 жыл бұрын
My fiance left me of 10 yrs and my life has just been a crazy mess cause when I see my son hes with his mom always asking why I had to move out and dont live there I tried taking my life twice in the pass week I cry all the time but act like I'm ok but that smile is just a mask...
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
My man! Showing up and sharing the truth within the messiest time of what will be your life. First of all, I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing this. It's hard, incredibly hard, especially in the beginning. I can relate to those thoughts of suicide being there and that is not a fun place to be in. It's dark, it's scary and it's a hopeless place so you are definitely not alone. I would recommend seeking someone to talk to and who can support you through this time. Whether that is a coach, therapist, counselor it doesn't matter someone who can help you navigate this. If you want to have a conversation let me know. I could sit here and type out a million and one things about how this is going to be a moment that you will look back on and be so grateful it's happened and tell you that your life is going to get so much better but at the end of the day it won't help. All that I know is that you got this man and if you want to have a conversation let me know because you my friend are not alone in this!
@rosemagic69312 жыл бұрын
My brother is a single dad he has the same situation. He move in with me . I am a single mom myself and I know even thought he tryes to put a smile on his face sometimes I can see the sadness on his eyes. His son asked him the same question .
@the_dark_italian2 жыл бұрын
Dude, I feel ya! Same here since the last Week! Thx for sharing! A single dad.
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
Hey dude! Thanks for sharing man :) always good to hear from another single dad. I hope the journey has been well for you!
@JaeTheMightyBarbarian2 жыл бұрын
I'm a single dad. It's great to know we're all sharing the experience and were not alone. Thank you for your videos 😁
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
Yes brotha! I’m stoked you found the channel because you are so right we are not alone. Damn man, there are so many men going through what we are! Thanks for being here
@siennagippert31124 жыл бұрын
Hey, I just found your channel and I am glad I did. 🥰 I'm a newly single mom, and have a few single dad or mom friends. This helps me to understand myself better, thanks for sharing your thoughts and journey!! 🙏😊
@XxEtHaN39xX4 жыл бұрын
Hey :) Glad you're here! I'm happy that this helped you understand yourself better and welcome to the journey of single parenthood 😊
@jpowell26032 жыл бұрын
Widowed dad here to 4 kids everyday is a learning experience for me. We have our moments as a family but Im loving the experience with my children.
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
J! Man, that would be a heck of an experience to be a widowed dad of 4. I could imagine that everyday would be a learning lesson and it only makes sense that you would have your moments as a family. I'M SO HAPPY TO HEAR that you are loving the experience with your kids. You sound like a solid dude and I appreciate that!!! All the best homie!
@jimenezern103 жыл бұрын
I've been sperated for almost 9 months. I have temp Primary custody of my 3 kids. I have felt the pain i heard your voice while you cried, many times. Thank you for this video. For anyone who feels alone, it gets better.
@XxEtHaN39xX3 жыл бұрын
Hey brother, thank you for sharing! I'm glad to hear that you can relate and it's gotten better for you man! :) Cheers!
@robertshetler70252 жыл бұрын
I know the feeling brother my son lives almost an hour away from me and two years later i still cry. Most people dont get it. Im now in the process of trying to move closer to him and it just makes ot harder.
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
Robert, thanks for sharing homie. I get that man, on levels you and I probably will only understand (Or other single dads). I'm happy to hear that you are in the process of moving closer to him. I hope that has and is going well as I know it's taken me a little while to get back to you!
@LetsgoHabs095 жыл бұрын
So true. We do need to allow ourselves to feel. ❤
@XxEtHaN39xX5 жыл бұрын
Amy Middleton 💯 feel all of the feelings... no matter how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ they are!
@digi91034 жыл бұрын
this is me sometime 🙌 single parent is hard. your video inspire me🙏
@XxEtHaN39xX4 жыл бұрын
You are not alone that is for sure :) I'm glad you can relate and find some hope for yourself! It's a crazy journey!
@TheMarshallMalone3 жыл бұрын
Did you feel loneliness before being single? I’m not a single dad but a dad in a relationship. Still, I feel lonely a lot of the time. I’m trying to let the feelings happen and work through them. 99% of the time I’m okay, because I’m busy and distracted but the last few weeks I’ve been struggling. I do want to teach my kids it’s okay to be “just you.”
@XxEtHaN39xX3 жыл бұрын
Hey Brotha! Thank you for sharing, showing up, and being here Marshall (Loved your channel intro dude!) To answer your question yes... before doing all the work I felt lonely all the time. When I was in a big crowd of people and friends, there would still be a part of me that felt lonely on the inside. When I was in my relationship with my ex I felt lonely quite often. So I think that many people do experience loneliness while they're in relationships, with other people and etc! A couple of thoughts that I had, that whenever I feel lonely around others it's normally because I feel like I'm holding back some part of myself, I'm not sharing all the things I want to share, I'm not speaking my mind/truth about certain things, so I feel as though I'm not showing up as the real me... inauthentic in a way. Second of all, it's so cool to hear that you are working through your feelings and letting them happen, that my man is a HUGE thing and I celebrate you for doing just that, and also teaching that to your kids... I think that is so freaking amazing and something your kids will be grateful for down the road. Another thing that I wanted to share that in my experience and way I see the world and from those who I have worked with I have seen business as a way to distract oneself from what one is really feeling on the inside. We keep ourselves busy (I'm in the work of this all the time) day in and day out because when we are not busy is the time that we are thinking we aren't doing enough, or that we aren't good enough, or that we are dumb, stupid or etc. With that being said, again it's dope you are on the path and putting in the work to yourself man because from watching your videos you seem like a beautiful man. Hope you have a wonderful moment whenever reading this! You rock man!
@youngkey30512 жыл бұрын
I’ve been raising my daughter for 5 years now and she’s 7. I’m wondering how you’re doing now? I wish you all the love, life, liberty, and prosperity beyond your wildest dreams my friend…. 🙏🏽💪🏽💯
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
That's beautiful man :) I am doing wonderful now dude. Obviously there are days in which I experience the other side of wonderful and that's okay too. Working on building a couple of brands/business, raising my son, and contributing to the world in all the ways in which I know how. Where are you from man? And thank you, I'm wishing you all the same man!!! May we get what want, and better yet experience fully that which we already have! Also if you haven't yet make sure you subscribe my dude! (Helps us out a ton :))
@youngkey30512 жыл бұрын
@@XxEtHaN39xX I’m from and still live in Miami, FL. I’m glad you’re still pushing forward.
@thomasphilippe36882 жыл бұрын
How are you now ? We broke up 8 months ago, i have my 7yo daughter 2 days a week. Those days are great. But i spend the other 5 in tears. The days i bring my daughter back is the worst day of my life. And it happen every weeks... Are things getting better ? How...?
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
Thomas :) my apologies in taking so long to get back to you brother. Life has been nuts and that's to say the least lol. Things are waaaaaayyyyyyyy better brother :) There are still dark days, but they aren't as dark. The beginning of any journey is always the hardest and once you make it through then other challenges arise that seem harder but there is this knowing underneath it all that if I've already experienced what I've experienced then no matter what I'm going to make it through. It's hard man. It really is and I can totally understand how you would spend those other 5 days in tears. Damn, is it ever hard AND I'm excited for the man you will become in the process. How are you? How are things now?
@indiangurjarslifeblog25584 жыл бұрын
Who z she...is she understand yr feeling
@ventsislavstoyanov94312 жыл бұрын
you are the best
@XxEtHaN39xX2 жыл бұрын
Thank you :) So are you!!!!
@upasanasatapathy85084 жыл бұрын
Heyyy!!!lots of love from India❤❤
@XxEtHaN39xX4 жыл бұрын
fizi satapathy hey! Thanks for dropping in much love from Canada as well 🇨🇦