Sista Says New Residents In Nursing Homes Are Black Men In Their Late 40s

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[@StopSeekingValidation]

So imagine how many black women are dying alone when we’re speaking from a numbers aspect/collectively. SMFH

[@StopSeekingValidation]

@@q.t.gamingfamily (Typical Lol) there you go straight into super combative/defensive mode, even when that clearly isn’t the intention. I’m speaking collectively from a numbers aspect, black women out number black men but I won’t bother too elaborate any further to an (individual) such as yourself. SMFH

[@paigewhite1251]

This is usually WHEN they _want_ to be faithful & settle down with a hood woman. After, a medical issue slows their penis to a slow poke....or NO poke.

[@celesteadeanes4478]

@@StopSeekingValidation bw in hospice i never even heard of one dying alone they have children, neighbors church folk sororities sisters work buddies community service partners networks galore women do that worldwide

[@givemeabreak100]

@GAME TiME 1M their not dying alone. Their children and female family members care for them in their own homes until the end. This is obviously why they are not having to go into care homes.

[@perdetha]

As an RN for 30 years in Geriatric, this is the truth. They are in these homes still trying to be a playa in a wheelchair and can't wash their behinds.

[@dadao8564]

😂😂😂😂

[@faa1412]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@blacknight88]

Those guys are wheelchair players trying play with those female nurses

[@truthhurtshuh5443]

Nailed it

[@billyjacc]

My mom told me that 20 years ago, when she was a nurse in a nursing home.

[@hardcandy71287]

this is exactly at the age where some men start trying to settle down. they realize that they’ve gotten older and they’re looking for a nurse and a purse. 🙄

[@DuttyGyal718]

Yep. The KZbinr Burb N Bougie was right. Women are opting out relationships ad decentering men which also means opting out of caregiving. This is a subsequent domino effect of that. That means nobody is going o remind men to take their meds or play the administrative assistant role and make your doctor appointments. There was also Shar Henley, another KZbinr that had a coroner that said that most of the bodies they pick up in apartments are men that died alone. Men over here better start BUILDING+nurturing your relationships. Men used to joke about women dying alone when NOW, it's been proven that this is NOT the case. Karma has arrived. Winter is here for men. Men are beginning to reap what they have sewn in terms of behavior. Nurse and a purse season is Over.

[@neutralitythought]

"LET FOOD BE YOUR MEDICINE OTHERWISE YOU WILL HAVE TO EAT MEDICINE AS YOUR FOOD"

[@t.ruththeblack]

Everything in moderation!

[@473sgpm2]

That’s true!

[@giodude92]

Facts! 💯

[@romello4913]

Bars!

[@alexiswilliams9978]

Fruit

[@aggigg5755]

Like the Bible says, "You reap what you sow."

[@SuccessfulladiesSoftLife]

Most abandoned children on this planet have a Black Father.

[@kalimbaayinde25]

I don’t understand why people think they are going to stay young forever. Get your life right!!!!

[@deloresiles3416]

Kalimba, Amen 🙏🏾 to that.

[@mscece1900]

💯👏

[@TheQueenMaker]

Men do not put the same energy in women. Let her get sick and see how quick he abandons her

[@seekinghimdaily92]

Look how ol’ boy did B. Smith! *SMH.*

[@tyronelorenzovalentio3414]

Blah blah

[@The_torero]

This is true. It is common knowledge that more men walk away from their cancer stricken wives than the other way around. I have heard that some oncologists will even warn wives that their husbands might walk away upon diagnosis. I am glad women are now returning the same energy.

[@Marie-sf1pr]

@@TheQueenMaker Thank you

[@gloricebradley9360]

Some black men are in their 70’s and still running in the streets behind young women..😳

[@CREOLEHEAT]

They value getting sex over everything. Nothing else matters.

[@RTA6226]

​@@CREOLEHEATBwahahahaha! It's sad but true. I just posted about a friend of mine's workplace where there's an old ass executive administrator still frequenting clubs for young people! LOL! 🤣🤣

[@DSmith-gs4tr]

As a black man who's had medical problems and spent time in a nursing facility for rehab, I can confirm what this young woman is saying is the truth. I was blown away by how many younger to middle-aged black males I saw in rehab and on the long-term care floor. Luckily, I had family and extended family to visit regularly and advocate for me when necessary. If these facilities know you have people diligently looking out for you, you are more likely to receive better treatment. Unfortunate, but true. That whole experience taught me to take better care of myself and to regularly go to my doctor for follow-ups, tests, etc.

[@propagandaisnottrue2121]

Black men are much more likely to grow up in single mother house holds and in poverty. That alone means they are more likely to face health problems.

[@kmk967]

Yes. They are so unhealthy. I know 2 right now who delayed medical treatment too long and are paying for it. Yet these men tell us they are...

[@deebrown7160]

How are Mr Smith? Are you doing better.

[@linedanzer4302]

*@D. Smith* - Very good post. and well said. Glad your health got better and you're now taking good care of you.

[@pedward323]

Many black men on this site will learn from your testimony and know you can not live like a island to yourself,you need a village even a advocate when you get I’ll ,have to go to the hospital or to a nursing home.

[@cocoace7587]

I am a retired rehab RN , in Louisiana. 5 yrs ago , i was literally shocked at how young my stroke patients were . After a while the 45 yr old stroke patients , out numbered the 70 yr old stroke patients.

[@Withlola_ox]

It’s their hatred eating them from the inside out. Have you seen what these men say and comment? You think humans were meant to have that much hatred in them? Hahaha.

[@johnnygibbs4600]

That’s why once you get into your 30’s it’s important to stop drinking alcohol 🍷, cut down on the salt 🧂 plus the sugar, and try to get some exercise at least 3-4 days out the week, and last but not least get enough sleep.

[@nathanielpickens927]

@ Johnny Gibbs , I think you meant to say exercise at least *3 to 4 times a week. All of your points are very valid. If you aren't able to exercise 3 to 4 times a week, try to exercise 2 to 3 times a ( longer time periods) week between 60 to 90 minutes in the 2 to 3 days a week.

[@johnnygibbs4600]

@@nathanielpickens927 Lol I meant 3-4 days out the week my bad😂

[@ibarao8340]

I know what you are saying “ but we should never start because every single organ in your body is sacred messing it takes longer to heal if it all, we must do better

[@MrTleeboss]

Yes sir we got to do better

[@billydakid71]

Who cares we can't live forever anyway

[@sbolden123]

A person who doesn't take care of their children is worse than the infidel 🚫😏

[@nunyabiznys5169]

there is nothing wrong with disbelief in religion

[@Que772]

Facts💯

[@cnbri30]

🗣📣📣📣

[@wesleycorlynda8371]

Many of our hard working black men have not had access to health care, although they worked hard. Racism has caused travesty on our communities

[@NoDustZone]

@@nunyabiznys5169 A MAN who doesn't take care of his kids should be put on death row.

[@nellywilliams2776]

I worked as a dialysis nurse for 3 years and I had a lot of black men under the age of 50 as patients. The 2 biggest reasons you end up on dialysis is uncontrolled diabetes and hypertension. Not having those 2 issues controlled can lead to end stage renal disease (kidney failure).

[@johnbell1766]

47. 58 is young. Hell with that suicide pills!! To life imortal!!!!

[@areasonablethought610]

Take your medicine and get yourself in shape.

[@millertoyal]

@@johnbell1766 Whaaat??!

[@johnbell1766]

@@millertoyal TO much time life aint worth living. They can have the shell!! Slaves used to Jump into the. Ocean rather than be. Enslaved life imprisonment.... Death before dishonor its the code of bushido!!! Life imprisonment is dishonor!!!!

[@johnbell1766]

@@millertoyal LIVING WITHOUT HONOR SUCKS!!!!

[@rehobothyoosuf9027]

Some men have kids, abandon them and return when the children are self-sufficient so they can take care of the long lost dad. A man who ghosts on his kids is not worth having around when the child is an adult.

[@sanchez73day36]

I shake my head when I see anyone on social media glorify drinking and clubbing, smoking Weed being a player male or female and be 35 and over

[@triplebeans4159]

They don't care

[@markcarter3653]

I go to the club to dance ONLY! I don’t smoke anything & I don’t drink alcohol. I’m pretty sure I’m one of the exceptions. I’m a 53 y.o., straight Black male. I have an older Hispanic lady who cooks for me & I love ❤️ & appreciate her very much! That’s why I take care of myself so that she doesn’t have to take care of me but I can take care of her if the need arises.

[@realchanger8220]

Lighten up, nothing is wrong with drinking and having a good time weather in the club or anywhere as long as its done in moderation. As long as you make sound plans for your future and take care of yourself you'll be just fine.

[@sanchez73day36]

@@realchanger8220 smarten up I didn't say anything was wrong with it . I said when they gloriy drinking and smoking and and being a old thot is pathetic I can tell you have issues understanding and paying attention. 🤔

[@mikeblack8103]

@@markcarter3653 Be very careful brother. That lady can easily poison you. You should prepare your own meals. Be safe brother.

[@rebeccaleehazel2685]

I worked in long term care facilities, I have seen residents looking straight up lost. They have no one. They neglected, abused, used or just denied their kids. It's not about respect it's about the child's mental health. They just don't want to be bothered.

[@Mrjonezzz]

My father died from diabetes and several strokes at 45. He did wrong all his life and when he got sick no one stepped up. Sad.

[@thePraddagee]

Im going the same way most likely and no kids and did no one particularly wrong. It’s not always a bad guy story.

[@prettyisraeljudah]

Wow!!!! It definitely comes back around.

[@jakobisrael8295]

@@thePraddagee facts, wasted my life supporting narcissistic women and never found a real one. Watching this makes me exercise more and get my passport.

[@missboss8759]

@@jakobisrael8295 Every one of us both male and female, have to ask ourselves WHY we constantly attract people who are not good for us, or good to us. It starts with self reflection, trust me I know.

[@thePraddagee]

@@missboss8759 nah. The Lord says a good woman is RARE as diamonds. It’s the women. Men self reflect at many intervals in their life’s. Self reflection IS masculinity. It’s the women.

[@khartoniapratt2792]

I'm older Sistah. These Brothas have been running these streets back in my day , and not taking life seriously. I'm not surprised by what this Sistah said at all.

[@sankofaafari4374]

It’s your fault. You women don’t want black men. You stereotype all of us.

[@SS-fb7zd]

Those the street men, the get high men who started getting high and drinking at 14

[@ebonyreed3772]

This is really true. I've been in healthcare 21 years and its not just black men. It's all races of men more than women that are in these facilities. The bad thing about it is these men get in these homes & still feel like they can mistreat, abuse and ask for sex while needing to be taken care of. Some of the men just don't change and it's sad. I agree with them.

[@ultimatebeing3399]

Thank you for saying that. People really don't realize there's a whole world out here other than black people.

[@sunkissedbytmh3219]

You're telling the truth

[@hellisgood666]

Want to make it black to keep the narrative going thanks for the truth

[@ebonyreed3772]

@@ultimatebeing3399 You're welcome. I've actually worked in facilities since 2006 and it's all races of men. Not all black men are placed in facilities, they do have families that care for them at home. They also have families that visit them in the facilities, then it's those that just hit hard times in life & have noone. We don't mistreat them we show them the same care as everyone else.

[@mojoe3012]

@@ebonyreed3772 😏 mistreat them some. Just not too much 🤭

[@Tamfel_85]

It sounds like karma to me. You cant go through life treating people(women, children) like trash and expect a fruitful life. You harvest the fruit from the seeds you sow. For so long men thought that being a decent human being does not apply to them. As if women should only be caring, nurturing and have a conscience. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@mscece1900]

Exactly sis! 👏 nothing but karma catching up to them. Dog their own women and kids out but wondering why nobody's around to look out for them, even on their dying bed. Men genuinely need a woman's nurturing nature, it helps them heal from physiological and emotional problems. With that kind of love it could cure them, but they feel like they don't need us and that's exactly why they treat women as such. When they figure it out, it already be too late for them ⚰🤷‍♀️

[@darklovelyforever3795]

Exactly, facts!!!!! SMDH

[@illmatic826]

Comments like this is why Black Men are getting their passports and leaving you weave heads behind.

[@MimiCoco-gt7zo]

Be not deceived God is not mocked, whatever you sow that's what you will reap.

[@maryanderson3134]

I started seeing this 20 yrs ago in the Bay Area but after moving to Texas 15 yrs ago I worked in Houston and I started telling people then there's a lot of young black males in long term care facilities. GSW, Strokes, Renal Failure, Aids..I am so glad you're bringing awareness of this. Also we need to look at the long term effects of Truck Driving, I have seen a lot of them end up in bad health.

[@QueenM3.]

Love, I said I witnessed it 6 years ago & they still think I'm lying. So it's gonna ruffle some feathers with your 20 year experience. They just so ashamed they rather call it lies. Struck some nerves.

[@kmk967]

I know 3 blk dudes who all died due to not taking care of their health. It's pathetic. All three had signs that their health was failing. They did nothing.

[@prettynikki3667]

So true I've seen this in NJ over 20yrs ago started seeing this.. very sad truth

[@StopSeekingValidation]

So imagine how many black women are dying alone when we’re speaking from a numbers aspect/collectively. SMFH

[@GeeBee212]

This is so true. I took a group of teens to do programming at at nursing home/long term care facility thinking that it would be mostly people over 70. 25% of the people on the floor that we visited were Black men under 50! Mostly due to strokes, hypertension, renal failure, heart disease and diabetes but there were two intheir 20's who were there because they were paralyzed due to gun shot wounds. I am always at my husbands medical appointments because he never brings back the whole story. Only I would hope that our brothers take wives because of love, family and companionship. Not so that you have a nursing aide in your old age!

[@trusno7751]

WEALTH is HEALTH...These men better give them YT folks back their drugs & alcohol! Plenty water, proper nutrition, exercise, & a great relationship with the creator will definitely get you through! It's not a game people, stop playing these internet games out here!💥💥

[@verlania7539]

Best comment!

[@AngieB_916]

Well said!

[@kathleenking47]

YT folks are using keto, more than blacks

[@trusno7751]

@@kathleenking47 Absolutely! It still doesn't negate the fact, of what our BLACK MEN need to do, to get themselves in order! The creator is my witness, I just fwd a text over to one of my childhood friends, (5:38a.m) dude is like a brother to me, I sent him a picture of this supplement that has a bunch of fiber in it, because he 2 is overweight, & just got diagnosed with sleep apnea! He drives trucks OTR, & doesn't properly follow a proper diet out there on the road, but I already know that he's gonna look at that text, & continue scrolling! The mindset of our people has to change, that's the only way ANYTHING is gonna transpire in our health & communities! We have been brainwashed for multiple years to HATE ourselves, & it's sad! But I'm glad you guys liked the comment, but it's alot of work that we have to do within ourselves! Continue to help get the message out!💥

[@rozchristopherson648]

You got that right. Alcohol, drugs, smoking, and eating animals are major factors in high blood pressure, heart disease, kidney failure, diabetes, and cancer.

[@misstinahamilton5714]

Im a hospice nurse and have been for 16 years . I have been an RN for over 20 years and in healthcare all together for over 30 years . I can definitely confirm this . Ive worked in different states and with different socio-economic backgrounds as well . As far as hospice Ive had a lot more BM under the age of 60 dying of terminal illness. Many of them dying alone and often no end of life arrangements so the county has to take over. If a man wants to live as a bachelor etc... thats on him . But at the least ensure there is life insurance , medical insurance , a will , etc... I cant imagine having strangers having to take over and determine the course of the end of my life .

[@denepO_Empress]

Don’t forget about alcoholism and years of drug abuse. Children are about planting, watering, nurturing and harvesting.

[@Soundevant]

I met a BM in his 50's. He neglected his children, he got sick with hypertension, clogged arteries, had to have surgery, couldn't pay his bill's. Out of 4 children only one of them acknowledged him. He realized he had really screwed up.

[@illmatic826]

What movie script you get that from??

[@Soundevant]

@@illmatic826 Don't let the same thing happen to you, the pen is in your hand.

[@CREOLEHEAT]

@@illmatic826 Truth hurts 😂

[@illmatic826]

@@CREOLEHEAT how do you know it’s true?? But I do know that black women lead the league in evictions wit y’all broke ass lol

[@illmatic826]

@@Soundevant typical black female wishing bad on a Black Man lol I hope an unmarked white van takes you on a nice ride one day.

[@nynurse29]

Nurse here 17 years, I've been screaming this over a decade now. It's got so much worse, they are getting younger and younger. Strokes, kidney failure, amputations. 5 of my blk male patients are in their early 40s. Their room has no pictures, no signs of family. When I'm doing my rounds they are always trying keep me in the room longer for conversation because they are so lonely. I switch assignments often because many of them get attached to their nurse almost like your their partner. When your off or on vacation they get weirdly upset with you.

[@woke72]

Wow🙏

[@StopSeekingValidation]

I hate to say it but they should probably commit suicide, So imagine how many black women are dying alone when we’re speaking from a numbers aspect/collectively. SMFH

[@humbleheart2650]

😨

[@abby-a]

OMG 😲

[@stitchinggoods774]

God bless you 🙏

[@misslisa904]

This is so true. I have been in nursing for 22 years here in Florida. Black men are getting younger and young in the nursing. Not just being a good father but being a good man to the women in your life. Being good father will help, but your woman will be there for you for the most part. Men, think about all of those years of being a player and see how you are playing yourself!!!

[@naga7461]

Young blk men are not in nursing homes 🤣

[@misslisa904]

@@naga7461 you a liar!!! I work in nursing homes...you know what, only a fool would argue with a fool...be blessed

[@jswann721]

@@naga7461 Oh yes they are! I’ve been seeing it for about a decade now.

[@blackqueen5201]

@@naga7461 my brother was in hospice at 38 he totally did the nursing. please listen they live very unhealthy lifestyles and it's usually the women that keep them in good health

[@naga7461]

@@blackqueen5201 what about guys in their 20s ?

[@7777b8]

this lady is speaking facts...true story- i have an uncle that had multiple kids with several women--one of his kids he disowned; denied was his....so fast forward later in life my uncle who is now in his 70's health severely declined and he was unable to care for himself. .guess who volunteered to take care of him affter his grown adults kids refused???? the one child he denied was his ....

[@lorealdrayton6164]

Oh my 👀

[@nitab5039]

Wow 😮 he’s so blessed to have that child even though he treated him like a curse. SMH

[@dadao8564]

Tell the child not to do it😎😎

[@mogetit5999]

Nothing but Gods grace

[@CodyCole80]

That child is probably still seeking his love and validation. Poor baby, but if he /she wanna care for him…🤷🏽‍♀️

[@mimitrent1163]

You can find good black women here. One of the issues, folks want to be treated like kings, with a pauper mentality. I’m not in the medical field, but I do work with the public. I’m seeing a lot of black men with debilitating health issues in their late 40’s-50’s still trying to “holla” like they’re in their 20’s & barely got a pot to piss in. Dude, take care of your health (spiritually, mentally and physically) You reap what you sow! Same for the women. I’m an equal opportunity person.

[@deborahyisrael5258]

🎯🎯🎯

[@amyoung101]

Agreed, you can find good women here. You don’t have to leave the country to find one. It’s sad to hear a Black man talk about a woman for a Black man as better suited if she’s from abroad. Reminds me of Eddie’s skit about getting an African woman. Ritz v Saltine 😂😂😂 I guess that’s why you said don’t bring them here. Nothing wrong with a strong, intelligent, nurturing American woman. Just ask my husband 🥰

[@shecreates365]

@@amyoung101 chile, these grown boys don't know what accountability is, including phil. Women abroad are used to traditional masculine men that provide. That's something we don't have a lot of in the black community...smdh. Full of excuses blaming everybody other than themselves!

[@cvzdez]

No not like a king. They want to be a tyranny a king serves his people

[@Unbeweaveable880]

@@shecreates365lol but yet 50% black men are single and all these babies out of wedlock meaning what exactly? And accountability is something black American women don’t have & don’t worry about black men going to other countries what does that have to do with you go find pookie and keep black men out your mouth 😂 y’all so obsessed with us

[@shagans6701]

I don't feel sorry at all for someone who prides themself as a player!

[@mistermilkman]

Sad part is there r a lot of women who play n2 this. The women they play with know this & still have babies with these men. There r women who know men have several kids with different women & still have babies with him, then play like he did them wrong. I think people need 2 take more accountability n whom they mess with. It's like any women who is having babies with Nick Cannon saying he's a player, but r part of the game. Some women r attracted 2 the player, but can't truly afford 2 play. As long as women keep supplying these type of men with punani & time, they will play. People ignore that factor & put it all on the men. It's important 4 children 2 have a father as well as a mother who teaches them responsibility, not just with words, but by example. Like u, I don't feel sorry 4 them either. I also don't want 2 pay 4 them bc that's what's happening.

[@saonedixon5476]

I'm 45 soon to be 46 August 25, since I've been trucking I gained 60lb I use to be slim as hell I'm talking 145lb at 6ft 1inch now I'm 206lb. Im retiring in a couple of years from trucking once I get to Rwanda I'm walking up those beautiful mountains and hills. im getting my health up and weight down. Cause your health is your wealth.

[@tbj4855]

Hope the best for you bro ✊🏾

[@saonedixon5476]

@@tbj4855 salute 💪💯

[@saonedixon5476]

@Action Potential 22 yeah skinny as hell 😆

[@bgood4449]

@Action Potential 22 - About 20 lbs underweight.

[@HEFFROZAY]

Happy early birthday Virgo brother I'll be 45 on the 24th

[@sharonmcclellan9249]

This is absolutely true. I've been a nurse for 39 years and working in long term care for the past 15 years. I've seen young men as young as 22. Strokes, End stage renal disease and on dialysis, Amputations is the leading cause of LTC admissions. These men are usually very angry, mean and aggressive. In adult diapers and required total care. Oh yes and Bariatric, over 400 pounds. Young toxic men grow up to be old toxic men if you don't get healed. And it's about to get real, when states start dropping medicaid/state funded insurance that pays for long term care. Where will you go and who will take care of you. Its very sad..... Karma don't forget.

[@CodyCole80]

All that stress and anger starts eating them up from the inside out-emotional turn physical. So many guys try to infuse a sense of “get a man to protect before the bottom falls out” ideology on women. How will you protect me if your sick and broke down?

[@Redskywinter204]

Graveyard 🪦

[@Kuttie03]

I agree with what he is saying. However, I do not think a man that is a real provider needs to go to another country to find his match. There are lots of traditional women here. The problem is these dusties want a traditional women and don’t know how to be man, much less a traditional man

[@Paradise2003]

Exactly. Most times these guys are using "traditional woman" interchangeably with "doormat". They don't want to be a traditional husband or provider. They just want a woman that will quietly allow then to suck her dry spiritually and financially.

[@sexyblackjag]

It's crazy....when women here want a provider...they have every excuse in the world....but when foreign women expect it...they get it.

[@carolyndaniels386]

Absolutely.

[@sg5720]

@@sexyblackjag but foreign women willing to put up with abuse to get what they want from the man while western women won’t. Despite how “difficult” western men think western women are, we actually value ourselves more and unfortunately a lot of weak men can’t handle women who know their worth.

[@Morgan-go3oz]

@@sexyblackjag facts

[@tbolton6156]

Likewise, being in any relationship is no guarantee they will stay with you. Also, remember you don't have to be sick or old to die. Not all children will take care of a sick parent, I've seen this happened.

[@kimberlyagee7338]

So true!!

[@woodswal]

Treat your kids with love and show them how to love then they will take care of you......even if you are not biologically their parent.

[@sharoncobb9334]

Amen! In the end it's all about you and jesus!or whom ever you believe in!

[@tbolton6156]

@@woodswal still there's no guarantees. The things I witnessed in my life, taught me to put no confidence in man.

[@tinkthestrange]

If you pick the right spouse and raise your children properly you won’t be alone, someone will be there for you. It may be 1 person, but you won’t be alone

[@lastdays8574]

Family is vital for the survival of the black man.

[@th3azscorpio]

Indeed.

[@pryorinc5827]

Actually for anyone.

[@crystalsplace7163]

Very much so.

[@fitnessbabe7958]

@@pryorinc5827 Exactly.

[@ladystalker3953]

🤣

[@cocoblessings]

She is not lying. When I was a hospital chaplain, many patients were black men in their 40s & older. Most of them did not have children, wives, or long-term partners visiting or caring for them. Their children didn't want to have anything to do with them due to their mistreatment, neglect, or abandonment. No one was there to advocate for them when dealing with the r@C1st medical system. Many were transferred to hospice & long-term nursing homes only to be forgotten. I always visited BM, who was hospitalized on my shift. It was so sad & overwhelming. Many times I came home in tears.

[@successizthebestrevenge]

Same thing happening to BW. They kid's don't visit or care about them due to the mother's mental and physical abuse. Oh well

[@missboss8759]

@@successizthebestrevenge No where as much as men, the women have their children, aunts, siblings and friends come and see them often, people who work in nursing homes and rehab places see it all the time. And for some reason even if the moms are not right, the kids still show up.

[@trusno7751]

That's sad! DAMN!

[@-g.k.4389]

@@missboss8759 it's still happening

[@TURBOBEATZZZ]

@@missboss8759 well ding ding you're the winner 🏆 for the who dies last championships! 👏👏👏👏

[@ishmaelwilson6702]

It's still a lot of good sisters in America, don't be fooled by the extra bull👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿

[@queen4269]

Good sistas whom don't want you or any other parasite of a man 🙄

[@michelleevans9474]

Unfortunately, sisters need 2 go outside of their race, they really dont have a choice, some bm or LGBT, players, talking about passports, women just dont have the choices men have.

[@Nik_Unapologetic]

Ok. Glad I seen this comment. Because I thought it was just me because it seems to be flying over everybody else's head. He's low key trashing American women. Wow!

[@queen4269]

@@michelleevans9474 My choice now days is good reliable and stable Mr. Buzz Buzz underneath the sheets. Treats me better then any trash bag Pookies and Ray's Ray's on Earth 🙄

[@angelajohnson8739]

Absolutely

[@terracottakim8234]

This is true - I haven't seen my biological father in 27 years ... last week one of his folks found my number - they just called me saying he needed hospice, was in and out of consciousness, and has been in the hospital alone for the past 6 months ... and could I help. Huh? I don't know that man, ya'll figure that issh out. Talking about he doesn't have anyone 🤷🏽‍♀

[@Pressureddiamond]

Sounds like a him problem 😂

[@oshiomowemomodu3724]

Where were these relatives two and a half decades ago,when you needed your father?

[@terracottakim8234]

@@Pressureddiamond 🗣🗣🗣

[@terracottakim8234]

@@oshiomowemomodu3724 EXactly, the lady that called me ... I knew her name, even spoke to her when I was little - she didn't keep in contact or try, NONE of his ppl did ...my mom & family have lived in the same house + had the same phone number for 30+ years

[@Jaygirl212]

live your life sis and just be the best mother you can be because your kids will love you until your dying days. If he wasn't your father then, he's not your father now *shrug*

[@nynurse29]

I was an diabetes and hypertension nurses educator in a primarily black neighborhood here in Orlando Florida at a doctor office. My job was to increase outcomes and decrease complications from chronic diseases like Diabetes and hypertension. I would teach diet, medication, lifestyle changes. Most of my black male patients would not show up for their appointments with me. Or when I catch them while they were in the office they would blow me off, don't pay attention or take any literature I give them ,they would leave it in the exam room. Sure enough few months later when i get the hospital report most of them was admitted to hospitals for Stokes or other complications.

[@kmonger]

A lot of black men can't wait to leave this realm.

[@NurseSnow2U]

AND THIS IS THE PART NO ONE IS TALKING ABOUT…..passively soo-I-cide-al (because they’d ban me otherwise).

[@stevethompson-bey906]

We have to do better 😔 black men have a fear of doctors historically due to experimental practices that was done to us 😢 in the past! But, we have to get pass that and find a doctor that we can feel comfortable with ! Education at a early age about health care is the key!

[@brucepower3429]

@@stevethompson-bey906 nothing to do with that BM especially the boomers have ego issues.

[@shadeedmuhammad8107]

@@NurseSnow2U explains please

[@feet0013]

This topic is one of many elephants in the room that is rarely discussed. But it gets worse, I have seen wheelchair bound and bedridden 20- 30 year old BM in nursing homes.

[@Redskywinter204]

Drug overdoses, yup!

[@sweetlove6916]

This is sad but so true, when the hospitals discharged these men they put them in Uber and tell the driver to drop them off at the nearest homeless shelter because they have no one to care for them. Shelters denied them because there unable to care for themselves. However if it’s extremely cold or snowing they will let them stay overnight but have to leave after breakfast.

[@CHICAGOBULLrc]

So you never seen this happened to a BW 🤔 y’all 🧢

[@dionthornw9838]

@@CHICAGOBULLrc how does a homeless uninsured person get to see a doctor in a hospital...they don't, they usually die...this statement was 🧢...then they call Uber for the homeless...

[@kmonger]

Since when have black folks especially black men not been outcasts or at the bottom....none of this is new.

[@stitchinggoods774]

I see them in the post office lobby when it gets cold

[@stitchinggoods774]

@@CHICAGOBULLrc not to often

[@cecemeadows8117]

...There is ALSO blk women HERE that are ready to be wives to men who are willing to do right by them. Not ALL of us are like the "modern woman". Just like not all blk men are "bad fathers". Look harder. 💓

[@Lele-bk3qm]

AMEN!!!

[@prettyisraeljudah]

Exactly, But we need to be careful. You don't want no, anything.

[@goldenlady3678]

EXACTLY!!!!

[@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha]

RIGHT. Phil was pushing n preaching that passport message lol.

[@larrybee7713]

I guess we ALL need to show up then.

[@auntrayjones39]

I’m the son of a male described in this commentary. Everything covered is true my dad apologized last week for tearing up our family and not being Father.

[@RY-os9vw]

Wow-it takes a lot of humility to admit your shortcomings. I’m glad that you were able to hear your father’s apology and that he was willing to apologize. 💜

[@urhyhnis]

Hopefully if he ever needs the care you’ll step in to care for him. Forgiveness is most healing to the person doing the forgiving.

[@memebzk5001]

he's only apologising because he's gonna need you to care for him. dont fall for it..

[@Crown_Of_Kings]

@@memebzk5001 chill lol

[@memebzk5001]

@@Crown_Of_Kings u know it’s true

[@nynurse29]

For the people that's denying this go visit about 10 nursing homes in black areas, go talk to the black men in there. You will see we aren't lying, stop being so stubborn and listen. This is increasely happening young black men in nursing homes.

[@greatnessembodied]

Nah.

[@randyritaford568]

@@greatnessembodied OK lol, like she stated keep staying in denial.

[@suezcontours6653]

@@greatnessembodied See you in the next nursing home

[@alleaseewsenoj161]

Yeah it's true especially in psych facilities as well

[@DeeDee-wx7fi]

Many people ignore the truth. It’s sad

[@deidrephillips871]

The younger wives are putting their spouses in personal care and nursing homes. There were several men in the facility with my mom. The young wives didn’t want to deal with old , grumpy men. The barely visited and was out living their life.

[@latoshastanfield5523]

😆

[@Jenna1394]

😲

[@getreal4real169]

It’s true though. The young women really have men their own age on the side.

[@CREOLEHEAT]

Hey, they'd rather a woman who doesn't care about them beyond his coins than one that does. As long as she young, he will gladly be taken advantage of.

[@CodyCole80]

These men should choose women their own age who actually care for them. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@sonyagemini712]

I like that you're speaking about how there are good women in this world that love our husbands to the bitter end. I take great care of my man and make sure he eats healthy foods and gets a physical exam annually. We even go to the gym together ❤️

[@t.ruththeblack]

It's an all around win/win situation when this happens. And it's fun!!

[@sonyagemini712]

@@t.ruththeblack I agree 👍 💯

[@Asneeded]

Now, this is what our young women need to hear! Thank you!

[@justred5164]

That’s wonderful! I hope he appreciates you.

[@sonyagemini712]

@@justred5164 I believe he does 😉🥰

[@tyannaconnorpjaor6843]

My husband 52 and living life like he 25 and denied our newborn daughter diapers I divorced him ! I denied him and his past wives and children. No time for drama

[@solomongrim982]

GOOD JOB SIS I HATE Y'ALL WERE STUCK WITH SUCH A HORRIBLE COUNTER-PART AS US BLK MEN

[@reneehenderson6134]

Y'all see these black men in their 40s, 50s, and 60s, struggling down the street carrying a 40 ounce beer in a plastic bag and holding onto it like' it's a little baby. Those are the men who denied their children and abandoned good wives.

[@thedarkknight4956]

I see old men in their 30s homeless.

[@duronbryant5921]

That’s not true this is false is because men still end up there reguardless

[@SS-fb7zd]

Y'all talking about the bottom of the barrel men but they were that in their 20s too so who slept with them?

[@allisongriffith6417]

Some of the bm asking for traditional women are not traditional 🙄 providers. This lady was so adorable in the way she treated 😍 her husband. God bless her.

[@liltrill8976]

That’s bs are u even traditional

[@bigamemphis10]

Agree, just loss two friends because they didn't take care of themselves. Both were 38. Also have another friend that's 39 and already has had 3 strokes. Take care of yourselves brothers.

[@crencottrell7849]

Wait a minute...are you telling me that Black men who are able bodied are going to the same final destinations as senior citizens whose adult children don't want to take care of them!?

[@redred9382]

Yesss they don’t have no means to take care of them selves I know a few I was shocked. They kids don’t wanna be bothered cause they didn’t take care of they kids or grands. These kids don’t care about the old no more. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@undernewmanagement3561]

Yes, but there is a 20-year difference in age between those two demographics.

[@ellevinny]

Yes

[@TavaraTheLaughingLion]

Wait what? Im not really getti g this, didn't get Phils reason but surely ain't no 40yo BM in nursing houses, come on now

[@dionthornw9838]

@@TavaraTheLaughingLion lol..40 year old BM are not getting that sick unless they are very unhealthy...

[@tawandagriffin1707]

There are good black women in the US we are just tired of the games.

[@SS-fb7zd]

Well two side street there

[@celesteadeanes4478]

@@SS-fb7zd bm have ruined their options abandoning ambitious educated MORAL bw in droves. For playing , manipulating and cannot afford to expatriate preferences. I live in well off wyt communities Brads picking up your 'trash' --pretty, grounded educated and abandoned bw at a bargain. Now that the mrkker rates are every 5 minutes bm's side of the street has gone over slummlord.Its the men. Sad truth

[@SS-fb7zd]

@@celesteadeanes4478 stop it most of our desirable sisters got kids by 22 you cannot keep expecting bm to play step daddy. Brad is not marrying though

[@muckmire3716]

Very few

[@mxhughes]

5% are serious most be on bullshit

[@FaithLoveDreams]

No lies told!! As a nurse and previous hospital case manager the term is called “men who hit the wall” I can’t tell you how many men I had to place in nursing facilities with no family or a woman by their side. If you don’t want a woman then stay in touch with your family, be present with your aunts uncles nieces nephews etc. if you don’t they won’t care about being present for you when you need it either.

[@deborahyisrael5258]

Now WHO is hitting the wall? LOL

[@SS-fb7zd]

@@deborahyisrael5258 damn lol men hit the wall too

[@kimbirch771]

Exactly, try your best to be on good terms with your kids and their moms

[@deborahyisrael5258]

@@SS-fb7zd Yeah. But they're always claiming that women are hitting it at 25, lol.

[@SS-fb7zd]

@@deborahyisrael5258 if they eating crazy not exercising and having kids it hit very fast

[@fullarmourC]

It's karma. This should be a wake up call to men who pump and dump then don't take care of their kids.

[@larrywilliams6648]

I had a brother tell me that I was too old to be working out! Been laughed at and talked about because I work out running, lifting etc. @57 still going strong. Brothers, your health is important.

[@leslivingston7791]

Keep up the good work!!!

[@dawnelder9046]

57. Still a kid. The day you stop working out is when you are old.

[@daniellegeorge4043]

This something that has been picking up down south. I'm in ga and I was a CNA for 18 years. And for the past 10 there has been a large uptick in young black men. Because in ga they allow inmates to come to the nursing home. Gunshot victims, people leaving prison to finish out their sentence at the nursing home. I had two you've men in their 20's both gunshot victims, crime related. Then the employees don't get any kind of training to deal with inmates. And they are just mixed in with the general population of the nursing home residents . It's dangerous and takes a lot out of the employees.

[@nathanielpickens927]

@ Danielle George, are these young ex inmates paralyzed or in ♿️ wheelchairs?

[@daniellegeorge4043]

Some are paralyzed and young, in their 20s and 30s. Some are old and set to the nursing home to finish their life sentences in the nursing home. They can only leave the facility to go to the doctor or hospital . And their PO comes to the nursing home to check on them

[@stitchinggoods774]

Bless you

[@valeriecoleman6480]

Me too GA had lots of vets and HIV convicts patients

[@misstinahamilton5714]

This is very important to mention . Due to the way managed healthcare has shifted , and prisons being overcrowded , this is whats happening and its only going to get worse . There are folks who belong nowhere near frail elderly people in these homes . Im a hospice nurse and we care for lots of nursing home patients . One time I witnessed a man attack a worker and another time a man beat up a poor old lady with dementia .So its dangerous to the other residents as well . And I had no idea there were residents who were still serving their time in nursing homes . Thats wild

[@joemomma3208]

This is why diet & exercise are of the utmost importance. You literally are what you eat. If you throw away “junk” why eat “ junk food” and expect nothing to eventually happen.

[@ianm8218]

Exactly need to start watching my diet

[@derricklacy8829]

@Joe Momma real talk! I had to change my eating habits in my 20s because my blood pressure was out of wack it was hard but I did it!

[@MSALL-co8bf]

Help us Jesus

[@prettyisraeljudah]

Exactly brother!!! I stay doing Stretches.

[@Bossgaming60105]

@@ianm8218 same here

[@michellegreen2994]

If he's willing to provide, protect, & take care of the family, the sisters in the USA are ready. 🛑 Stop playing games.

[@Pressureddiamond]

They don't want to do that that's y they are either dying alone or going to 3rd world countries to get some poor woman to be their sex and house slave.

[@markwilliams3425]

We will rather deal with other race of women then to take care of you black women

[@teeone10]

Not

[@bluecrystalpalace]

@@teeone10 Not everyone is ghetto. There are different types of black females you know. There's Nubian, (erykah badu types, have you ever gone to a festival their all over the place), there's sophisticated types, spiritual types. It's really unfortunate that ghetto black culture is made to look like it's the Whole of all black culture. This is bad for both males and females. Try other types of blacks with other types of values.

[@CodyCole80]

💯

[@jolewis5286]

I took care of my dad the last 3 years of his life, and yes he was a loving father so blessed to have him in my life. I could cuddle with him and talk about anything.

[@getreal4real169]

You were blessed.

[@kayelleaich]

I am now ready to share the story of my children's narcissistic father who abandoned all of his children. There's a total of eight adult children (not to mention grandchildren) who never had a relationship with him. He will be the man that will depend on strangers to care for him in his geriatric stage.

[@michaelpond813]

When we are young we don't value our heath and take life for granted. Do right and value life. Not partying and junk foods.

[@CodyCole80]

@@michaelpond813 I think her comment is more about his abandonment than food.

[@olly2027]

You can still be a good father and your children may not help you.

[@dbdgirl-o3i]

Could be the stress of taking care of the elder parent or the finances or both. You can't drain yourself away(kill yourself)/your quality of life for the twilight end of another. Cold but true. Some people find it honorable but it comes at a cost you can't get back or redo. Depends on the individual.

[@tammyslade9441]

Not normally do that happen, because you reap what you sow! When you take care of others that's exactly what you get in return!

[@my.0224]

Rare.

[@jennywren2696]

No such thing!

[@realtalkjames2408]

Or be taken away

[@winluvwinluv3734]

I have seen a lot of men my age that I went to school with who have had strokes some say they didn't take their meds. Some say they didn't like the way the meds made them feel now they have issues from diabetes and hypertension. My husband has had to be hospitalized twice since we entered our 50's and I was there every minute to talk to the nurses and the doctors. Then I was the one along with our son to care for him at home, so this young lady is correct.

[@SS-fb7zd]

Crazy I take my medicine daily

[@tarafrazer8133]

I loss 5 Uncles back to back in the past 2 years and all 5 of them died single no woman in their life because they wanted to be players. My Uncles had good women who loved them, but they dogged them out, they were alcoholics, and wouldn’t work. All 5 looked for my Mom and my Aunt to see to their needs when they got sick. Only one of them was there for his two sons who helped. I’m seeing a lot of this in our Community.

[@Mushimushi25]

We'll get ready for the influx of single baby mamas, from gen x. But they won't be in homes, they'll be on the street.

[@livinmylife5182]

That's exactly what white people say about our race now, black men in particular. I'm so glad I raised with my father in my life and in the same home until he died

[@isitjustmeinsightwitht.5913]

MY CONDOLENCES🙏🏿 BUT MEN & WOMEN NEED EACH OTHER IN OUR COMMUNITY👍🏿

[@Mushimushi25]

@@isitjustmeinsightwitht.5913 No we don't brother, they need US. We can go to Africa. All the talent should find wives in Africa. Then let's see if they know how to submit and follow. Otherwise we'll help build the tribe in Afriat. Nobody wants to deal with Misandry and disrespect.

[@hbsupreme1499]

​​@@livinmylife5182 why do u care what they think just look at what there people have done and do today

[@MrAsharrison]

The sister was on point. It’s past time for brothers to change and settle down and treat their spouses and offsprings with the respect that they deserve.

[@donaldlee7839]

She the type of sistas we salute. Brothas when you come across this sista, gotta treat em right and gotta build with em cause you may not find another when ur searching for them. Regret sucks.

[@chitownking1762]

You're obviously a troll!

[@LIONESSOFZION]

👏👏👏👏

[@YoutubeTeasipper7856]

As a black woman growing with out my dad and after much growth beyond those stages... Men seem like they love to live with regret too me... They continue to choose it with abundance...

[@undernewmanagement3561]

Omg! I live in a senior citizen center and the majority of people here are bmales around 55 years old (the min age). I am 70 and many of them are in worse shape than me and they are constantly hitting on me for sex .... but they have stopped since I reported one of them for harassment! I am a decent Christin woman and i am disgusted at their stale, filthy and outdated mindsets. I have not had a single convo with any of them bc they have no standards and nothing on their minds of any interest. I thank God that I didn't get stuck with any of them.

[@maryfields877]

They haven't changed, even in their invilidity.

[@misslady5029]

Amen!!! The Lord Jesus takes care of His own!!!

[@nynurse29]

That's a fact. I'm 45 and a nurse. I really don't like working with most black male patients. They are always saying something inappropriate to female staff members, disrespectful and arrogant. Most of them have tax payer insurance like Medicare or medicaid. The audacity

[@salenasheppherd2834]

@I Without the Black FATHER to teach & show them how to be respectful MEN how are they gonna know? A mother can only teach her man-child so much. So stop putting ALL of the blame on the mothers.

[@queen4269]

OMG I feel exactly the same way when I see them of any race and they try "hallering" at me. It's like Bra, you ant even gotten your own car before. Never had your own home or ANYTHING! YouAntShitToMe bruv!

[@Alexandriah.Washington]

So they are looking for caretakers? No thanks!

[@marvl6472]

Wake up Black men pay attention to your health regardless of some women stating these facts for personal reasons, they seeing things up front

[@prettyisraeljudah]

🥰

[@queen4269]

A woke man? Haha and I got the real Starship Enterprise D here in my garage to sell you...

[@mishamandudi75]

Man! I remember my dad had a diabetic episode. I was out of the country and my siblings were scattered everywhere else. He had the nurses call everyone for about 2 weeks and no one answered nor came to see him. Mind you there are 6 of us and my parents are also divorced so my mom coming to see him was a NO! Also, none of his friends came to see him either. He told me this years later when I was expecting my 3rd child (his 3rd grandchild). He said he was so scared in the hospital because the nurses weren't trying to listen to him and no one was really trying to bet him to get better. Many men need to do better by their families because really, we are all they have.

[@CodyCole80]

This is a case of being placed under a curse. When you 💩 on your kids and don’t take care of them, your life will NEVER be blessed.

[@saonedixon5476]

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing. True indeed brother Phil.

[@prettyisraeljudah]

😍

[@larrybee7713]

Amen.

[@shawnni3014]

Amen

[@justred5164]

Folks, I was in a long term relationship with a guy that became ill at a early age. He was also a veteran that had a stroke. I did everything I could to help this man. But he wouldn’t care for himself. He drank and smoked chronically, a womanizer and cheap! He was so disrespectful to me and his family. He also thought he’d never get sick as young as he was. No one thought it would happen. Before his illness he was very good looking and charming. THIS MAN DID NOT APPRECIATE ME AT ALL! He became very toxic and I just couldn’t help him anymore. And I was the only person that would help him. Needless to say he died in the bathroom. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@haggai3.477]

PRIDE IS THE STENCH OF THE SPIRITUALLY SICK. SELFISHNESS IS SPIRITUAL GANGRENE. HENCE THE TERM: TOXIC.

[@justred5164]

@@haggai3.477 yup

[@thomashammond16]

Not surprising.

[@clintrovertqueen2624]

😔what a way to go.

[@justred5164]

@@clintrovertqueen2624 I know, it’s awful 😞

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Thanks for talking sensibly and giving good advice.

[@biko89housebuyer48]

Let’s not discount the effects of the overuse of marijuana by black men.

[@nubiancutiee2]

These lazy men ain’t even watching you, they done got so comfortable in their mess!!! They don’t want to change

[@queen4269]

Trash bag males.

[@msdeethehoneybeewilson4681]

Sounds like my toxic ex. Always saying that he's scared of dying alone. If he didn't argue and tried to trigger anyone, he'd have someone.

[@TifaL20]

Well that explains why I see so many homeless black men on the streets just out of their minds.(in NYC)

[@queen4269]

Exactly. As a child I use to be so hurt by the sight of our " Kings" out on the streets. But now as an adult, it's simply apart of my daily commute and now I understand why they are out there with no pride whatsoever. They like all men just an'tshit 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@jswann721]

Same in Houston

[@BayouBarbie504]

New Orleans 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@markcarter3653]

Now that you mention it, it does give one pause, I mean I never thought of it that way, to think that’s why I see a lot of homeless BM in NYC.

[@mcarthurspark8636]

Here in DC too

[@factstofittheories2721]

If you're in your mid 30s or older leave the chicks in the twenties alone.

[@woke72]

Real talk.🙏

[@dc9345]

She's telling the truth.

[@michaelpond813]

Life is precious and if we don't value life we dishonor. God. Our bodies are the temples of our souls.

[@jaelelenerds4106]

I am a nurse and I work both nursing homes and assisted living facilities and she is 💯 percent correct . I just want to add that in addition some of the cases are young men and women who are gunshot victims who can’t walk anymore due to gang violence , or a person from the shelter system who was on drugs and caused sores and wounds to there body’s .Yes I live in NYC

[@antsimm1022]

I will admit, a lot of what I've seen lately are young guys suffering kidney and liver failure from lean, popping pills etc and using alcohol simultaneously. The club scene, new era streets dudes as they call themselves. I call them the generation influenced by Lil Durk and Future. And all of these cats are under 35. They're in my younger brother and cousins age bracket and younger, much younger. Like the young rapper lil Keed here in ATL who died and Quando rondo who just had kidney issues from the lean and other "it drugs" they consume in this modern era.. And that ish is expensive too. They be paying $500-$2K or more for a chance at having organ failure... 😔🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🙏🏾

[@MsJoyce31202]

👍

[@memebzk5001]

lmao

[@markcarter3653]

@ReaP JoY That’s a good idea! There should volunteer nurses going to all of the barbershops & beauty salons to take random blood pressure measurements in every major city. Especially where there are a lot of Black & Hispanic men & women. Or maybe the barbershops & salons can have a blood pressure machine, like the ones in CVS, Walgreens or Rite-Aid, in the shop so customers can do it themselves.

[@crystalsplace7163]

@@markcarter3653 I love your thinking.

[@soun.slayer]

This is way older than lil durk and future now lets be fr now

[@DEMediaDrive]

Annual and or biannual check ups are a must. Embrace and use the technology available to improve as you age. Every year is a new and improved version. Try not to eat large meals late. Dentals are also very important.

[@batteriesnotincluded4715]

I follow her content. She’s a personal nanny, educator & gives great advice.

[@ginam2817]

What's her name?

[@kalimbaayinde25]

Wow, it’s women here, that will be there for you who are traditional, but most black men don’t want to support financially

[@genmorg7088]

This is so true and a fact. Within the last tree months at least five men I know if were found unalived, one was already starting to decomposed, they were in their forties to late fifties and were living alone. Take care of yourselves and your loved ones and start making smart choices

[@lionessontherise2403]

She is so right my oldest 2 children’s father hardly ever did what he should have. Due to a combination of things he had cirrhosis of the liver. He never thought his 16 & 15 yr old kids would move in and be his caretakers for 6 months. His son wiped him, changed his diaper & bathe him. His daughter fed him gave him meds. He had a mom who he barely treated right and she was old, 2 kids that I allowed to go stay with him, that he barely treated right. He had ran through so many woman and had other kids but they were younger than mine. They got to know their dad for the most part on his death bed because he was dead within 6 1/2 months . I never talked bad about him so these kids were willing to go help their grandmother take care of him. But we definitely didn’t see that coming

[@queen4269]

I'm sorry but I would have never put my kids through that. I would have simply never told them he was even still alive and shut the door on any of his needs. My children have already been through more then children should because of their sperm donors abusive and absent behavior. Why traumatize them even more? Don't you love them??

[@my.0224]

You did the right thing.

[@lionessontherise2403]

@@queen4269 You tried it ..they were very loved and this is why you and I are completely different. If you told them that he was not alive at some point you’d have to answer some very tough questions that your children, would no doubt be asking you. As soon as some other family meme er of his told them the truth. now wouldn’t that be traumatizing for the both of you and as you very well know Truth Hurts. lying to your children doesn’t make anything better and trying to say that it was because you want to help them is a Piss poor excuse. My children are grown now 30 and 28. They were glad to have gotten to know him, to be able to get answers to questions they had, they also were able to meet and know there other siblings and they all are close to this day, their children have relationships. If I were You: My selfish actions would have caused them to miss out on life long healthy family relationships for themselves and their kids And for what? Have a good day Ma’am…👋🏾

[@queen4269]

@@lionessontherise2403 Hun nothing you could ever say to me would justify you Simp'ing your ex abuser as if you and your children owe him anything. Hun Que Sera Sera mother Teresa. When they beat you you bend over backwards and tell them that they missed a spot and ready you and your children for another deadly blow. I guess that's the wide difference between you and I. You, did what you did for the man whom caused you and yours more pain physically and mentally than any other on Earth maybe save your own father, whom probably wasn't in your life anyway. And then there's I. Whom has been beaten physically and mentally enough for me to raise my hand and take hold of the rod, and walk away from the abuser. * Shugs* like I said, que Sera Sera. I walk in freedom and self love and you crawl in past painfully memories tripping off how you can make an unfixable problem better by loving the man whom don't give a spit bout you and his own offspring 🤷🏿‍♀️ P.s. next time, walk away and spend your time and love on you and your children, alone. As much as you may have thought that your hapyness don't matter, know now that God says that you are and have always been enough and worthy of at least this. Good Journey, Sister.

[@priscilladavenport5791]

@@lionessontherise2403 Amen

[@henriettahudson3006]

I moved out of my father's house this past June primarily because I was his caregiver from 2019-2022. My 89 year old father is a gaslighting narcissist who never had any sort of accountability or responsibility for his abuse to my family, myself and my late mother. During the three years that I lived with him after my mother died in December, 2016, my dad never missed the opportunity to profane my mother's name and drag her name through the mud. We constantly argued for three years and he just blames me for things that went wrong in his life. When I mentioned having a part-time home health aide that the VA would pay for or get into a nursing home, Dad would argue me down! On June 2nd, an opportunity came to get my own apartment, I TOOK IT AND NOW I'M 100% FREE!!! So, I'm not really surprised that Black men are in nursing homes because adult children (particularly daughters) are refusing to take any kind of abuse from their fathers!!! BLACK MEN - THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU TREAT YOUR CHILDREN LIKE CRAP!!!!YOU DESERVE IT AND YOU GET NO SYMPATHY FROM ME!!!!

[@CodyCole80]

So who’s caring for him now?

[@givemeabreak100]

@@CodyCole80 who cares

[@givemeabreak100]

💯

[@drjekelmrhyde]

Not just taking care of the kids, we need to take seriously our own health. After Black Panther died at 43 should've been a real wake up call.

[@dustrepellent8986]

🤣🤣not blk panther

[@kehindeemiabata4032]

His dieing had nothing to do with poor diet. It was colon cancer which can be hereditary. His brother also died at a young age of the same thing .

[@drjekelmrhyde]

@@kehindeemiabata4032 Never said anything about diet. I'm talking making sure you get checkups as often as you can and keep up on it.

[@sarahthomas2506]

I've been a CNA for 30 years! I've lately seen lots of millennials ans genexers in nursing homes! A lot the ones I see are all races! Yeah, a lot of them are black men! Some I used to remember seeing hanging out! Just never know! Its also how you treat people! Being nasty! My hubby had cancer! Supported him from beginning to a beautiful recovery! We had all our families together! My husband beat this cancer with chemo and eating right and working out! We beat this! I was beside him all the way! He's a treasure to me!!! Thanks for sharing!! I see it a lot in my job!!😳😳😳😳😳💔💔💔😎😎😎😎😎

[@caroladams437]

My brother is in a nursing home, and I see this all the time when I go and visit him. But I would like to say I am very disturbed about how you depict American women. Especially American black women. We know how to cook. We know how to take care of our man. And we are very loving and kind. There is something very disturbing about throwing a black women away in America. We are not trash. We are dedicated to our family. You just have to look in the right place.

[@nomadictravelerfromTx]

Yes. I have a co-worker that was a player his whole life. Now his sister is taking care of him because he has a brain tumor and is taking chemo. The women loved him.....at one time!😮

[@amynoel7060]

I promise you I was seeing this about 12 years ago when I worked in a facility in Jacksonville as therapist. I would see black men, unmarried, (they were players in their day)... they had kids, but they really didn't have a relationship with those kids and so now they had no one no woman no kids to give them care and it was kind of sad.

[@juliettevashton1007]

They deserve it 👏

[@NycBeauty]

@@juliettevashton1007 😁

[@Pash21]

It’s they fault they diss women all they life till they get sick

[@ellehcin2056]

I'm a nurse and this is a true phenomenon. Definitely surprised to see this more & more.

[@wofyisrael987]

Now that's a real woman.!!!!!!!!! That brother is blessed. All praises to the most high Yah.

[@shereenadvanceyourlife5729]

Speechless. My brother and I took care of our grandfather until the end ❤️

[@dawnelder9046]

I expect grandfather was there for you. My husband has health issues. I am there for him because he was a good husband and father. If something happens to me our children will take care of him. These are men who only cared for themselves and left poverty and misery where ever they went.

[@KaylaElizabeth_h]

"This is why you need to be a good father. So they can take care of you" what!!!!!

[@afrobluatlanta2380]

Yep. Reaping what they've sown...no support system.

[@thadevilzadvocate]

They didn’t take care of themselves. And the way the world is now folks are getting sicker and dying younger. I take care and make aloe Vera smoothies daily and grow my own plants. I’d rather be dead than have some one take care of me for the rest of my life.