Sister Spent Her Inheritance And Is Demanding Mine To Pay For Her Husbands Surgery r/Relationship

[@zachf748]

OP doesn’t see how bad it is. Her and her daughters feelings mean nothing to him. They both want the dog pic up *_(in her house),_* he doesn’t, so he takes it down, threatens the daughter, and starts the silent treatment (which is 100% emotional abuse). He is *_already abusive._* Please leave.

[@Kimberly_Sparkles]

Please hand him two months of house payment, the ring and an eviction notice.

[@paden1865able]

Count those two months of mortgage payments as rent, then hand him an eviction notice along with the ring. After packing up all of his crap and putting it in the garage along with a folding cot.

[@coreymartin6486]

@@Kimberly_Sparkles the payments as checks so he can't claim he never got the money back.

[@emanymton7184]

I'd totally turn his certificates into a puzzle and put it up for him to see. And write on the back to get the F out of my house.

[@josephbrown9665]

My daughters all have doctorates of medicine and they have a few copies one in their offices and another at their house as well as we have one from each of them in our home office on the wall with my wife’s and mine.

[@zachf748]

The amount of people that demand their siblings part of the inheritance, after they’ve blown all of theirs, is mind boggling.

[@asskicker4000]

Money can bring out the worst in people

[@ajb7530]

I know right. OP isn't selfish, the sister is.

[@carpediem6431]

Imagine a parent giving each kid $100. One kid blows through it on candy and fast food. The other sacrifices their immediate wants for longer term goals. First kid begs second for their portion as well, because ……… family. First kid also has shit on second one for years. Imagine the depth of lack of character, common sense, decency and sad to say, love, that fist person has for the second. Sad thing is everyone reading the OP post knows EXACTLY what will happen if the OP gives the money. The fact that OP is asking strangers on the internet a no-brainer, is concerning that she might do it. We can expect a “my bitch manipulative sister and her asshole husband (which everyone knows about), borrowed money from me, didn’t pay it back and continue to be awful to me, what should I do?’ Follow-up post.

[@cynicalminion]

as an only child, i can only HOPE i don't inherit any debts when my folks die... (they FINALLY got around to re-doing their wills)... my dad's mother, who -bless her heart- stared down someone in uniform when they tried to say that a birthdate ending in the '20s had to be fake, is my only surviving grandparent... BUT, since they hadn't re-examined anything until this past year, i (now over 40, TYVM) was supposed to be handed over to my MOTHER'S parents (both of whom have been dead for over a decade) for guardianship... so yeah... THEY have stuff to work out, and i just hope it doesn't mean that i inherit THEIR debt...

[@sleepyearth]

Especially when the sister still living luxuriously.... like sister is so selfish herself.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 1.) “Education is nothing compared to someone’s health” *Cue all the women who were screwed over for a man’s wants or needs turning over in their graves* Most of her family have cut her sister & husband off? GEEE I WONDER WHY?!!!

[@JordanDragonAs]

And men

[@alaaesong164]

"Most of her family have cut her sister & husband off" I heard this and was like awww yes, good on the family, they're leeches nothing more nothing less.

[@lucielledunns4585]

I wonder why Op didn't cut her off too like jeez, catch on to the memo and go with the crowd. Everyone but aunt and Op cut her off, I wonder what made them stay?

[@browhattheactualfu-2659]

Reminds me of the story where OP's husband took away the funds that was gonna be used for Op's tummy tuck, etc after giving birth

[@jerriewyatt905]

Sister knew husband’s heart and health issues before they blew through sister’s money..

[@catte.]

Story 3: the fact that the wife feels her daughter is entitled to someone elses heirloom is WILD. Where do some people get the audacity and entitlement?

[@JSainte17]

Why is NO ONE talking about her saying, “Claire is MY daughter and no one else’s.”!?!?!?!? The fuck!? Divorce. End of. Holy shit.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@JSainte17 wait they said Claire? I thought she said Sarah

[@JSainte17]

@@zerobolt9506 I'd have to go back and listen again but I swore that's what she said and I did find a few comments mentioning it as well.

[@JSainte17]

@@zerobolt9506 I doubted my hearing for a moment but yep. He wrote, "She said Claire is HER daughter and no one else's." How f*cked up is that? That's immediate divorce for me. I wrote this comment twice, btw, because when I responded through notifications it doesn't seem to pop up.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@JSainte17 I have to agree, OP needs to get out, not just for him, but for Claire too.

[@MisterNightfish]

Story 1: "Poor financial planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine". Decision is made easier by sister and her husband being awful people.

[@itsjustme7487]

I still think Sis should get a home equity loan and sell a car or two. If OP gives the money, be prepared to take out student loans. You'll never see a dime back.

[@packergeek10]

Story 2: Ditch the guy. If he's fighting over something so stupid like that then what else is he going to have an issue with? It will be exhausting having to deal with this diva.

[@mbyerly9680]

It's his first move in controlling OP and her daughter. As bad as this is, it will only get worse.

[@robertx8020]

It shows again that 'being smart' doesn't make you a good person perse... What an AH ...which parent needs/wants such a terrible person around his kid(s) ? Who hangs all his/her diploma's on the wall of the livingroom in full sight anyway?

[@S730SD]

Agree 100%. I'd reimburse his mortgage payments & set his luggage on the sidewalk. A$$holes like that deserve no better.

[@kateemma22]

You hate animals so much you can't even look at a picture? Sociopath. You need to control a child so much she can't even have a picture of her dead dog? Staying with him is just counting down the days until he turns violent.

[@diarradunlap9337]

@@S730SD I wouldn't even do THAT much for him, if I were her. She should just put his stuff out on the sidewalk and change the locks.

[@ailinfergan]

Story 2: I'll pay you back what you paid so far on the mortgage. Now, kindly get the fuck out of my house with your insane demands. Oh and the wedding's off

[@pugsabi]

Sounds like he was just paying rent. No need to pay him back.

[@mindyschocolate]

@@pugsabi exactly

[@CensorshipVictim]

Story 1: Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm. Story 2: Throw the whole guy away. It's a power play Story 3: New wife sounds greedy.

[@daymonvoisin7153]

Story 1: I agree Story 2: Don't let others burn to keep yourself warm. Story 3: Don't set anything on fire to keep a warm person warm.

[@CensorshipVictim]

@@daymonvoisin7153 exactly

[@definitelyarealperson248]

Story 3: at 14:23 When the new wife says Claire is her daughter, not anyone else’s. Did no one else see that. That’s super messed up.

[@CensorshipVictim]

@@definitelyarealperson248 totally missed that!😱😰😨

[@definitelyarealperson248]

@@CensorshipVictim I literally went back and rewatched it because it was do messed up that I thought I must have misheard it. Like why were none of the comments about this.

[@nixxyhasthoughts]

Story 2: DUMP THAT MAN! He’s fine to hurt your daughter while you are out of the house, then give the silent treatment when you use his same logic. He’s be out the door.

[@zachf748]

Story #1 NTA. Not only will your sister not "pay you back in 1 year". She will not _ever_ pay you back. You know that. Please, don’t throw your future away for them.

[@robertx8020]

She will not pay you back, laugh behind your back and cut you off the moment she pays Who needs ppl like this (because I would refuse to call them 'family' in your life? Ot tell them you already gave your money away to some guy on the street as you felt closer to him! :P

[@devegas4910]

Exactly. I know someone whose family members asked to “lend” money from them and most assuredly, they never got it back or would and within less than even 12 hours ask for most if not all of it back as soon as they paid him back. This has actually put him in a bind many times.

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 3: OMG THE AUDACITY! DON'T YOU DARE GIVE THAT HEIRLOOM TO SARAH! Give it back to Kate's parents and let them pass it on to Claire! Otherwise definitely YWBTA!!!!

[@definitelyarealperson248]

Story 3: at 14:23 When the new wife says Claire is her daughter, not anyone else’s. Did no one else see that. That’s super messed up.

[@boogiebear3095]

@@definitelyarealperson248 I caught it.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@definitelyarealperson248 I missed it, I thought she was talking about Sarah

[@definitelyarealperson248]

@@zerobolt9506 most people missed it it seems. Crazy tho

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

12:02 I didn’t even think of this, dude was jealous that the dog shared the same space as his achievements. This is all about his ego.

[@AndyyWithAY]

OP will be the AH if she stays with this guy, he wants an apology from a 12 yr old after he removed her photo from the wall and threatened her.

[@SailorMya]

Right! This has nothing to do with the picture and where it hangs but everything to do with his behavior towards a 12yr old and him pretty much telling a little girl that it is not her house anymore because he lives there now... If she stays with him she will lose all respect in her daughters eyes...

[@hunnykun101]

She had nothing to do with it to because its a innocent picture with a dog they lost and he's making a big deal about it. That is pathetic of a grown man

[@jeaniebee3657]

its about the dog pic taking attention off of his certs and diplomas and such..he is an attention whore and hates that a picture of a dog is the first thing people see now and not his shit...thats what i think anyway..its abuse no matter how you look at it to threaten the little girl and he should be shown the door.

[@elaexplorer]

Story 3: No the heirloom belongs to Claire, it was her mother's. As someone who lost out on a family heirloom because one of my mother's siblings stole it when great grandma died, it's still a sore spot.

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

My bio dad took a ring that had been willed to me by my grandfather. I was 12 when he passed and I still have memories of sitting on his lap spinning the ring around on his finger when I was small. My aunty tried to get it back for me but he had already had it made into a smaller ring for my step sister. She tried to give it to me when she found out why I wasn't happy she got it. But my grandfather was gone from it at that point. Bio dad had tarnished it. I didn't say any of that to her though. I just said it's hers now. Still a sore spot for me.

[@flavialm1]

@@stillvisibletoallusers is still a sore spot because you never told her that, you never spoke your mind about how the entire thing made you feel, you need to have a conversation to about that to your father and her, doesn't matter how long it have been

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

@@flavialm1 while I appreciate your advice, I'm NC with bio dad and step sister is no longer with us, found out that was due to abuse from bio dad. It's going to be a sore spot forever, but never ever because of her. It wasn't then and it isn't now. I will never be in contact with that man again.

[@zerobolt9506]

@@stillvisibletoallusers I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, I feel from just the way you're said about her (even though it was just a little) that you must have loved her a lot

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

@@zerobolt9506 I do love her very much. Yes. I was 12 (now 31) when I met her, she was 8 (passed age 25). She was just the coolest wee human. I miss her. Thank you for your condolences. They are appreciated. 🙂

[@jazzyg7202]

Last story: op would be ah if he gives heirloom to adopted daughter. If Kate would have adopted Sarah than yes she can have it. Claire should get ring, and I can see why your son never bonded with your entitled wife.

[@definitelyarealperson248]

Story 3: at 14:23 When the new wife says Claire is her daughter, not anyone else’s. Did no one else see that. That’s super messed up.

[@Khellyyyyyy]

@@definitelyarealperson248 I did catch that and was surprised that nobody brought it up! If Kate is still alive, Claire wouldn't be her daughter. Ever. It's clear how she's trying to erase Kate's memories little by little. I hope OP wises up quickly and shut her down.

[@karolinababusek516]

I read this on reddit and the story is more interesting. Actually was will and the home is the daughters too and the 2. Wife hate this facts. The dad will move out in few years but in smaller less luxurious home and the wife hate this.

[@faesolada445]

Story 1: I have to agree with OP's friend, let them sell the luxury cars, get a mortgage on their big house, and what ever else they can get money from.

[@tunatofu63]

Telling me that someone I hate will die without my money i plan to use to fund my future is probably not the best argument....

[@Tammohawk1]

That is some very convoluted logic that woman is trying to pull on OP and the necklace. I think she heard the word "heirloom" and lost her head about it. And I want an update to this one. I want to know how that evil wife reacts.

[@itsjustme7487]

Current wife is a total AH. If Claire can't have it give it to your son.

[@kellypatterson8506]

Story 3, Mark your assessment is spot on.

[@pickle_pup8187]

The first story - OP’s sister needs to contact the hospital and ask about what options for funding, grants and other options to afford the surgery. The sister did not plan. Her husband was chronically ill a year ago and she should have planned. The picture of the dog - put the dog picture up and ditch the fiancé. The heirloom story - this story was in another sub and there was SOOO much more than the heirloom but also the house that they live in. Kate left the house to the kids along with the heirloom. The OP ends up giving the heirloom to his son to hang on to. The new wife is pissed. She wants the house too and that isn’t happening.

[@pansprayers]

These days, the answers are going to be close to nothing, if not nothing at all. COVID has severely screwed up the available options that weren't sufficient to begin with for those who were under/uninsured. Grant money only refreshes at the beginning of the year - when it's gone, it's gone. And if you so much as get a job at McDonald's making more than 24k per year (single person, add 4K for each additional dependant) you're screwing yourself out of any Medicrap that might be available. Chances are, if she would have sold everything a year ago, they would have still turned her down due to their account balance. Sister's an AH, but you have a really black and white view of a complex situation that I'm guessing you often tell people is 'so easy' to get assistance with (and it really, really isn't, hence why people die due to lack of access to insulin because they're 50$ short and on assistance all the fucking time in the US).

[@lazarushernandez5827]

That heirloom story sounds like another one, where the OP was the daughter and her dad moved in the new wife and daughter into the home. New wife starts to make changes not realizing that OP is the owner of the house (left to her by her mom) and dad only lives with her...

[@lashanamonroe705]

Story 2 is very concerning… The OP should NOT trust and or marry this man because those types of behavior only get worse Mark please update story 2

[@elaexplorer]

Story 1: sister can go get a home equity loan and "pay that back in less than a year" if she is capable of paying it that fast. She's after OP's money cause she actually doesn't intend to pay it back at all.

[@elaexplorer]

Story 2: Do you really want someone in your life who can't understand why a dog would be memorialized? He is not only a bad future step father, he's a bad human being. Edit: he paid rent for 2 months in your house.

[@mindyschocolate]

Exactly. It’s to his house. He’s not on the deed. He paid rent, nothing more.

[@ScooterBond1970]

So much this

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1:NTA I remember this story. I remember exactly what I thought then and still think now. "If the husband's health should have been a priority, why didn't SHE, hus wife, make it one herself instead of buying cars and shit. OP isn't obligated to do anything let alone the thing she didn't do. Edit after comments Re:long quote heavy comment. OP would NOT be an asshole for an asshole not to giving them her inheritance if they never did those things. She isn't obligated AT ALL and is well within her rights to keep the money regardless of circumstances. That comment was mostly OK but that part bugged me.

[@aylanae4797]

Same here...but that's reddit double standars for ya. Ohh your father m, mother etc are demanding for your money your not obligated b/c you worked for it. Op gets and inheritance and bil/and sis were "good" to her oh it nake you an ah if they treated you right like nooo...let's keep the same energy.

[@BerryTrekkin]

Story 3: OP says that he had a talk with the wife about it and it didn’t go well, he’s hoping to update over the weekend. Five years earlier, she wanted to sell the house so that they could buy a new one for a fresh start (ie no reminder of the late wife) - problem is, the house belongs to the children and not OP (not that OP was willing to sell). She literally wanted to sell these kids’ home so she could buy a shiny new house and leave them with nothing. How OP missed these red flags is beyond me.

[@JSainte17]

Why is NO ONE talking about her saying, “Claire is MY daughter and no one else’s.”!?!?!?!? The fuck!? Divorce. End of. Holy shit.

[@namayra299]

Omg. OPs been ignoring way too many red flags. Damn.

[@Mimikinn]

I don’t think it’s that she wanted a new house so much that she wants to erase OP’s first wife from ever existing. She seems threatened by her memory and is competing with a ghost. She goes out of her way in claiming to be the only mother to her stepdaughter, and seems to want the heirloom shared because it’s something that connects the two and excludes her. Honestly, she sounds really insecure and possessive and OP should just leave her before it hits Fatal Attraction levels.

[@namayra299]

@@Mimikinn I read more of OP's comments and it's definitely about the house and money as well. They can't afford a new house on the similar level without downgrading so she wanted the kids to sell their house, take the money and buy a new one. (it would Be marital property then). Also OP planned to move out when Claire turns 18 but his wife doesn't want to. Gee wonder why.

[@fytrndm]

That's a whole of red flag waving like a bloody parade and he still married this woman? Yeah, I have no doubt the son saw it from a mile away and kept his distance. I feel bad for the girl since I have a feeling this woman is not beneath being passive aggressive to a child. Went to read some of OP's reply and apparently the children's inheritance from their mother is managed by someone else. Smart woman, with how spineless OP is, I have very little faith that those children's maternal inheritance would've been gone if he had been managing it for them.

[@kbf9644]

I really wish the were more updates for 2 and 3 because the risk of catastrophic harm that rests on that mother and then that father. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 3 The wife is the AH and OP will be too if he does this. It's a family heirloom, it needs to go to Kate's family. It might be okay to do this if there was no daughter, but there is a daughter. Wife needs to stay in her lane, she's so out of pocket.

[@definitelyarealperson248]

Story 3: at 14:23 When the new wife says Claire is her daughter, not anyone else’s. Did no one else see that. That’s super messed up.

[@sallynguyen4403]

People really can be shameless when it comes to greed. I have no idea how people can say stuff like this with a straight face and act as if their logic makes 100% sense. If her daughter Sarah was raised right, maybe she can tell her mom off for being so selfish.

[@flavialm1]

@@definitelyarealperson248 why are you coping and pasting the same thing on every coment?

[@definitelyarealperson248]

@@flavialm1 i did it on like 3 comments. And it was weird it wasn’t mentioned in the replies to the post. So I was wondering if people just didn’t notice it or thought it was normal

[@ScooterBond1970]

@@Austenfan177 that's the impression I got too. She's trying to replace the late wife with herself.

[@Bos187]

Looked up 3rd OP's posts on reddit... Hoooo boy we're gonna be in for a hell of a ride when he make the official update. This weekend he promised.

[@charlotteemerson5050]

Sister expects OP to make sacrifices while she makes none

[@PrincessMadeira]

Story 2: My parents have multiple painted portraits of my childhood dog in their house, as well as childhood drawings of him

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "MY husband's health should be MORE of a pRiOrItY" sell your shit then 🤨

[@karendaniel620]

Story 3: OP is merely holding the ring until Claire turns 18; it's not his to give to Sarah. But, and this isn't something I heard in the comments, it's troubling that current wife is trying to erase Kate, saying she's Claire's only mother. This is about way more than an heirloom.

[@JSainte17]

It’s BEYOND troubling. I’d divorce over that shit. And NO ONE is talking about it.

[@zerobolt9506]

Not gonna lie I missed it, I thought she was talking about Sarah at first

[@JSainte17]

@@zerobolt9506 I doubted my hearing for a moment but thought, no, her saying that about Sarah wouldn't make any sense. So I replayed it. She said "Claire is MY daughter and nobody else's." How absolutely insane and vile. That would be divorce for me already.

[@M3GPie]

Yeah as soon as I heard that, I was shocked. If I were OP, that would’ve turned into a huge fight. Who does she think she is that she can erase Claire’s mom? What a selfish narcissist.

[@kellypatterson8506]

1st story, 1st commentor hit the nail directly on the head and drove it at same time.

[@JSainte17]

I hear so many stories where people get through years of dating to engagement, moving in, etc and suddenly there’s this issue that is often times breakup worthy. I cannot believe the people who say everything was great until this. He or she has always been nothing but amazing! It reminds me of the stories on r/Infidelity who say “Before this, we had the perfect marriage!” Do you wear blinders?

[@aylanae4797]

They got them glasses on when you get your eyes dilated at the doctors..think and shady. 🤣🤣🤣😎

[@charlotteemerson5050]

It sounds like stepmom is trying to erase Kate from their present and future lives. Bet she would erase her from the past if she could.

[@dm9078]

NTA! If she gives that money she will never see it again. Tell the aunt to pound sand. Nothing harsh about what the friend said. This guy mocked her I’ll father and made a scene at his funeral and now they want her money. Hell to the no OP! That third story. YTA and a total POS! And a freaking thief if you do this!

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 2: We need an update because OP needs to YEET this guy from Ruby and her life IMMEDIATELY.

[@listenquitely2888]

I hate people who act like they are above u and give u the guilt trip cause u are responsible.

[@clairebear-96]

Story 3 YES you would be the AH, I can’t believe new wife is saying she’s that girl’s only mum - no, her only mum died and left her one heirloom to her one daughter. not to her husband’s new wife’s daughter. I totally agree with the brother that everyone should leave the party if he were to give it to Sarah Edit to add, if I were the Claire in this story, I would absolutely be so heartbroken and betrayed by my dad if he gave away MY necklace from MY dead mother to someone else. My mum is actually dead too and i do have a “step mum” technically altho I only consider her my dad’s wife, so while my family doesn’t have a similar situation going on, I can really really relate to this one

[@aleksandarbradaric4925]

In my country there is a saying: If you hang your certificates/diplomas on a wall, it's a 100% sign you're a insecure person who doesn't know anything and just brags with them.

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

It's similar in my culture. While we celebrate our achievements, we don't display them. I'm with you on the insecurity and the ego trip comment from reddit.

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

In the United States some professions are required and expected to have their degrees hung up.

[@stillvisibletoallusers]

@@llcdrdndgrbd in their offices or place of work though right?

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

@@stillvisibletoallusers oh yeah, sorry, I should have listened to the story before commenting

[@llcdrdndgrbd]

@@stillvisibletoallusers the fiancé was like YOU DISRESPEC MY EDUCATION YOU SHOULD BE CALLING ME DR BUTTHOLE LOOK AT MY PHD

[@janicewilcox8590]

If you move some guy into your house and he immediately starts disrespecting your child you need to move him right TF back out.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#2 RED FLAG, Kick him out and end the relationship he is an abusive jerk and I worry for daughter.

[@Streetwisefirst]

Story 3: it goes to Kate’s daughter. Not Sarah, and it has nothing to do with her. It’s goes through Kate’s family not Sarah who has no relation to Kate. OP can buy another piece of jewelry for Sarah so she can have something special for herself. OP WBTA if he gives the necklace to Sarah

[@anno_mundi]

Once again, I'm chocked that people have to pay for surgeries.

[@carpediem6431]

Dog pic story: mother is 1-step away from bringing cancer into her family for her child. Curious if she’ll heed the responses/red flags or do what so many do, create long lasting trauma in children from an abusive step-parent because she’ll crawl through the sand for a partner. Sounds like this one is some type of dr. So many will crawl for that.

[@L3adb3lly]

Story 2 is scary af. He didn't give any reason why he wanted the photo taken down... just that he didn't think it should be up there. Who displays a bunch of their certificates on the wall of their home? That dude is a narcissist, and he's primed to go hands on if they get married.

[@heathermiller5765]

Story 2: Anyone else tear up at how he’s treating the daughter? Oh my goodness, that poor girl 🥺 I couldn’t help but notice this btw: “I own the house we live in” “He said it’s his house too now” Come again? 🤨

[@tinabrock758]

NTA don't do it Op. She will never pay you back. She thinks she deserved it. Sorry Charlie.

[@TheDarwinProject1]

Its very possible that the "cars & luxurious stuff" that OP says her sister spent her inheritance on are modified for her husbands health conditions. Wheelchair vans & stair lifts, for example, might seem "unnecessary" to someone who has never experienced disabilities, but they are quite expensive, necessary for many disabled to be able to stay involved in their family's lives & may even make it possible to retain employment. These modifications also aren't covered by insurance usually. Just an example of how OP could be spinning the story in her favor.

[@immyg_563]

i have chronic illnesses and so does my mum and other family members, we know that you should always save for a medical emergency or expensive appointment.

[@bambooscooby1024]

really tired of families guilting other members when I was treated like crap by my family and told they didn't care when I lived homeless for 3 years while trying to get back on my feet. now thanks to covid i might still end up homeless again after almost 60 yrs old

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Story three: give it back to the family. It's not yours to give away to whoever you want. You give it to who the original owner wanted it.

[@JSainte17]

Why is NO ONE talking about her saying, “Claire is MY daughter and no one else’s.”!?!?!?!? The fuck!? Divorce. End of. Holy shit.

[@MrAnthon2]

1. nta. do not give up your inheritance

[@noneedtoknow07]

Last story: stepmother is on a power trip. She is pushing real hard on something that doesn't and shouldn't have anything to do with her.

[@fytrndm]

Did Kate even have anything to do with the adopted daughter? My mother's adopted and yes, she received family heirlooms but it was from *both* her parents who adopted her. It's crazy how this woman thinks her child is entitled to something from a woman who had nothing to do with the child. Honestly, OP should give it to the son for keepsake or make sure it is in a safe deposit because that woman felt so entitled to something that wasn't even part of her family's tradition so I don't trust her not taking it.

[@badkitty4922]

Last Story: The necklace is CLAIRE'S! End of. *mic drop*

[@britnicox3929]

Him threatening my daughter to take something away from her like that would be the end of that relationship. There is no justification for threatening a 12 year old. I’d be taking his certificates to him still but to pack his other stuff too

[@alezot6141]

"My aunt suggested others pay but most of them cut my sister and her husband off". Can't imagine why, they sound like such niche people /s

[@mimiandy1683]

Story one: NTA. If I was OP, I would’ve told the sister to get a bank loan.

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 2 - I'd say OP should find a way to pay back those mortgage payments (it's good that it's only two, that'd make it easier) and then toss him out on his ear. Also, the most appropriate place to hang certificates is in one's work office, methinks.

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 3 - Son is right, it's Claire's.

[@maryb8150]

The necklace belongs to Claire. Though adopted, the stepdaughter isn’t blood in relation to this heirloom

[@LisaApril]

Story 2:WTH! What is wrong with this lady? Kick that narcissist abuser OUT! Unless the fiancé’s name is on the deed he does not own the house.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Story 3: Sarah isn't Kate's blood, so heck no!

[@Sasha-up9er]

Story 1: if sister could afford to pay it all back within a year, she could just finance it with the hospital. The issue is, the hospital wouldn't fall to the "but faaaaamily" bs when it comes time to pay up

[@bioshockbrat9171]

Story 2: We had a big collage of all our past and present pets, to have them with us and honored.

[@pattsdannys6316]

Story two.... Get a lawyer, Evict him, pay him back for the two months, and remove him from your lives.

[@Habitarse]

The phrase: your lack of planning ist a You Problem, not a Me Problem, serves here very well.

[@jerriewyatt905]

Story 2… OP’s fiancé has showed her his true egotistical self! She should listen and rethink if she wants him in her daughter’s and her life..

[@GiordanDiodato]

Story 2: Goddamn what an AH. I have my old cat (passed away in 2017) as my background image on my laptop and I plan on doing the same thing for any and all future computers.

[@Gah2Kylie]

If she knew her hubby was ill for years, then she should have been saving for her hubby. You are NOT the AH!!!

[@nixxyhasthoughts]

Story 3: Kate’s daughter should get it. It’s an heirloom OP is only safeguarding for Claire. If it was from his side of the family, sure. For context I’m a mum an adopted child so I get the nuances about that.

[@Ziyanani]

ooo story 2 needs to ditch the fiance asap, he's not safe to have around if in less than 2 months he's trying to control everything, danger, red flags, run awayyyy

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 2: I am desperately hoping for an update to this one where she kicks him out of HER house!

[@michaelag6829]

Story 2 This guy’s action are a test run to see how much control he will be able to wield over his fiancée and her daughter Then he gaslights and emotional blackmails the fiancée This man is no good

[@shannonbullock2202]

Last story: OP should ask wife if she died suddenly and he remarried and had another child would she be ok if he gave her wedding rings his new child and not her child? Or even His 1st daughter? I'd tell her I'd give everything of hers to MY daughter and not OUR daughter if she keeps pushing this

[@listenquitely2888]

I hate how step parents always try to intervene and guilt trip their spouse cause of jealousy to heirlooms and what not.

[@nikkiwhray1598]

Story 3 seems a lot like the new wife is trying to have a pissing contest with a dead woman. It feels dirty and underhanded to try and devalue her both her husband's love and his late wife's wishes.

[@JSainte17]

Why is NO ONE talking about her saying, “Claire is MY daughter and no one else’s.”!?!?!?!? The fuck!? Divorce. End of. Holy shit.

[@devchekhov7512]

Never be with a partner who makes threats to your children.

[@TheFleahost]

Heirloom belongs to the bio daughter. OP is simply the temporary custodian.

[@cheskydivision]

Don’t give the money to sister. His health was bad before sister spent her inheritance.

[@XHobbiesPrime]

I like the fact that you put a lot of text on each page. I look at these while working sometimes and have to have the volume down and have to read them instead of listen to them. Some redditors will put 1 sentence per page and it drives me nuts. I read several times faster than they speak. Thank you.

[@katarzynajuszczyk7892]

Story 2: He wants control. He is abusive. Throw away the whole man

[@owl7072]

Story 2: "It's strange to have the dog's picture on the wall" My family's pictures of our old cat vibing in a frame on the wall: 👁👄👁

[@Tammohawk1]

1. NTA That brother in law disparaged OP's father's illness, caused a scene at the funeral and refused to allow OP to live with them. Now they want OP's inheritance for a surgery they should have been prepared for due to the nature of the jerks illness. If they can't afford the surgery, they can't afford to pay OP back within a year. They can sell their vehicles and apply for help through the govt. If his disability is so bad, why isn't he collecting disability and getting medical benefits too? 2. Who is the childish and spiteful one? Who moves into someone's home and starts acting that way? I would consider telling him to get the F out now after that nonsense. To take my child's picture off the wall and the to threaten that it will go away for good? Nope, nope, nope. It's NOT his house also. He's an interloper. And another reason I won't date again. lol 3. That heirloom has no connection to the stepdaughter. That new wife is out of her gourd to think that her daughter should get it.

[@anikanele7958]

IF Op in the first story would give her sister money, she should demand that they sell their luxurious cars and other luxury items first and then give them the rest of the amount needed with a legally binding document that makes sure sister makes monthly payments so Op will have the money back when she needs it.

[@cheskydivision]

No op it’s not his house too. He pretty much walked in to your house and became entitled. Him helping with the mortgage is just him paying rent. This is not the type of person to have around your child. Don’t put his name on anything.

[@josephbrown9665]

We have pictures of old dogs and our kids dogs as well as the dogs that we have.

[@DameNickum]

They want OP to pay for luxuries they have by paying for a surgery they could have paid for, if they had been wiser with their money. Don’t do it.

[@iwantsifegold]

Or you can always tell her the only thing I’m going to do for my nephews is not wear red to his funeral. The smirk is negotiable

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

Even in the USA with our crappy health system. No one would be denied medically necessary surgery to survive. If one cannot afford it, they will work a payment plan with you. Or the state will take over and pay the bill for you if you are shown to be unable to pay at all. So that's bull her sister just wants her money.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Unless the surgery is elective, she doesn't need to be able to pay. They can't deny you surgery if you need it just because you can't pay. Definitely do not pay for this surgery if he wouldn't let you live with them. He's a garbage person. She can sell her car and downsize her place.

[@pansprayers]

Really depends on the situation. They can and will absolutely demand you pony up for the cost of surgeries and medical devices (ask me how much fun getting the cost of an LVAD together for my uncle was because Medicaid denied it) needed for chronic conditions in the US. The only obligation that any medical care facility has is to stabilise you during an acute event.

[@9999plato]

The heirloom is an inheritance set in moms will when she died.

[@ajb7530]

1st story, OP your sister is the selfish one. She wasted her inheritance on pointless things, instead of using it on the surgery. Don't ever give your sister your inheritance, use it for college and achieve your dream. 2nd story, OP why are you engaged to this horrible guy? Is his name on the deed of the house? No, then it's not his house. I would warn him and if he keeps acting like a tool, then I would dump him and kick him out. Please put the picture back up. OP NTA 3rd story, OP the hairloom belongs to Kate's daughter Claire. Sarah isn't Kate's daughter. Period.

[@TheArnaa]

Story 1: sister and husband can remortgage or sell the house and the fancy cars etc they spent the inheritance on. Just got to the part where OP’s friend said the same thing. Also, sister and husband are hypocrites who didn’t prioritise his health when they got the money but now demand you make it a priority.

[@rachaelclark8465]

Story 3, YES you are the ah! Claire's mom left it for HER. You need to tell your wife to mind her own business.

[@Ospyro3em]

I lost what very little sympathy I had for the sister when she sent the manipulative messages like "look what you're saying no to". They can afford it just fine if they sold all their unnecessary luxurious items.

[@Avariel75]

Story 3: The Son is absolutely right, that Heirloom belongs to Kate, and was always intended for Claire. If he was to give it to Sarah, he will forever destroy the relationship between his own children, (Claire will never forgive your wife or her Step Sister, and more importantly, will resent you).

[@notconvincedgranny6573]

Your vanity wall belongs in your office, not your home. Please, let me come home and find my child in tears because Johnny come lately threatened her/him - he would get dropped; that is drop-kicked.

[@delilahbelle2125]

I've just discovered your channel, and I have been binging your videos all day. Lol.

[@ettinakitten5047]

Story 2 - I agree that OP would be TA if she doesn't end her relationship with this man.