Social Acceptability (1957)

[@whatcouldgowrongpodcast]

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[@JP-ve7or]

I like how this film treats the kid who doesn't care about cliques as totally normal and not in need of fixing. I did not expect that!

[@konyvnyelv.]

That's me. I am disgusted of being into a clique since it seems to me it makes everyone equal to others and destroys individuality

[@thomas.thomas]

@@konyvnyelv. you can find a clique of people that already are similar to you, no need to mold yourself to some random group find or make one that you personally prefer humans are social creatures and most people are not in groups not because they wouldnt enjoy it, but because they havent been able to join a fitting group yet, or are ill mannered and repulse others

[@konyvnyelv.]

@@garret6464 having friends doesn't mean being in a clique and viceversa. Cliques are more about status and popularity. Friends aren't for this purpose

[@kayhathaway6956]

“Cleeques”? I think it’s pronounced “Kah lick.”

[@sarka4727]

Its the true truth honestly.

[@Metaphyical0samak]

"Lack of social acceptance creates emotional scars"🗣️💔

[@cappuchino_creations]

This conversation between the parents is great. The Dad states his thoughts, why he thinks his daughter could benefit from a party. Then the mother expressed her own insecruities but the husband validates her feelings and gives her the feeling of secruity. Eventually the mother accepts the party and asks for help, andof course the husband will help. This was mentally a pretty healthy conversation!

[@FUEGOSTARR]

I thought so too! That conversation was a lesson as well

[@magicmoonart]

I was quite surprised at the father showing such an interest and positive concern about his daughter's social life. I have always been brought up to believe you must put education, work and career ahead of friends, boyfriends, dating, marriage, love, a social life in general. My mother only ever focused on my education then career and then when it became aparent that I was a layabout bum with no ambitions I was made to do the housework, become her virtual slave and became cinderella. I now regret not having chosen a "going out" career, meaning a career where by you have to go to a place of work instead of a from home job/career. as a result I am (not by choice) my mum's full time carer and rarely leave the house except for shopping errends and have no social life until recently. I now have my first boyfriend at 32... I am unsure how I managed that, for you see, my lack of a dating life in the past was not by choice. I have tried hard over the years to make friends and meet people and date via online but it hasn't worked until now

[@zellyu8559]

I agree; it is so nice and refreshing to hear people talk wisely like this

[@jukama7671]

I thought that the mother was very immature in the beginning, just trying to shut the talk about the party down. The father did all the work in that conversation.

[@firebenderkitty313]

@@jukama7671 I agree. She cared more about what people might say about her home than her daughter's happiness.

[@urgadurga]

I had a similar upbringing. I spent most of my childhood alone, in my room, only ever having friends at school. My parents would freak if I asked to have people over, or asked for a ride to meet up with them. It really did stunt my social development, I've had to go out of my way to fix my proclivity towards isolation into adulthood, and even now it's so ingrained in me that I still tend to be alone most of the time. They, I guess seeing what it did to me, did not do that to my younger brother. He was always able to have friends over, they'd drive him to his friends' houses or to the mall. He turned out much more socially successful as a result. It comes natural to him, whereas it takes conscious effort for me.

[@BrooklynBaby100]

Don’t even start with who had it worse. 😅

[@artgirl7649]

Very interesting character studies...The father of that house was a genuine leader of that family. He has a beautiful spirit. Thanks for posting this for us to enjoy...😊

[@magicmoonart]

Oh yes it was quite a pleasant surprised as most fathers aren't interested in their child's social life and tend to focus more on the educational side of things, favouring work and career as the focus of the life of their child. Men tend to be more practical, focusing more on practical stuff like work/career skills, whilst women tend to favour the social and seamingly more frivolous stuff like elaborate clothes, food, parties, material things, decorations, social stuff, friends and idol conversation. seems like a stereotype but for the most part it's true. My own father was only ever interested in my learning even though he was not involved whatsoever as he left when i was 6 and had no right to pry or judge. The only thing he ever asked me was "what have you been doing today/this week" on our once a week 2 hour visits. I asked him "do you mean education wise, or in general?" and he would say "educational". he never cared if I had a social life or if I was happy with my life in general. My mother was the same, she was never concerned about my being isolated or whether i had friends. She didn't care whether or not i was happy or had fun, she only cared about me focusing on my education and later picking and working on a career and told me to wait until I was well established in a career and had savings before even thinking about dating and relationships

[@genxx2724]

@@magicmoonart Yes. They didn’t realize that it doesn’t just happen after you establish a career. You have to develop social skills all along the way.

[@Lyonessi]

This is pretty much how my school life went. My mother was overprotective and not very social, my dad tried to a convince her I needed to be let out more but also having been overprotective to my older sister. I ended up having no friends to call my own to hang out with outside of school by the last years. At some point you have to look at your children like they're other people not some invulnerable pet. I was surprisingly really moved watching this.

[@Roma-SRyan]

parents are human, they do their best, as long as they kept you alive, its a win. as an adult, take the good from your past, learn from the bad n move on. blaming your parents when u r an adult is lazy. becoming an adult showed me, my parents are regular human beings not super heroes and deserve grace

[@Vexed711]

@@Roma-SRyanit’s ok to hold your parents accountable especially when kids are sponges and only know what they’re taught. Bad parenting has lead to serial killers, psychopaths and abusers. As an adult It is your responsibility to fix it. But “keeping a kid alive” is not a “win” it is the bare minimum

[@genxx2724]

@@Roma-SRyan I disagree. As the narrator said at the end, rejection damages the personality, leaving lasting scars.

[@Acr6gAttt-mq2hr]

​@@Roma-SRyanStandards have gotten *really* low if simply keeping your child alive is considered a win.

[@Roma-SRyan]

@@Acr6gAttt-mq2hr r u mentally ill?

[@ericastier1646]

It's interesting to see what normal parents are supposed to do. Would never have known from mine. When the father has concern about his daughter social acceptance, that's amazing,

[@joycegreer9391]

Same here. Especially dad.

[@julienielsen3746]

It's up to the parents to teach their kids how to socialize etc. Mine never did. I had few friends and it sure would have helped me if my parents had cared more about what as going on with me, and my future

[@Acr6gAttt-mq2hr]

These parents aren't normal

[@ericastier1646]

@@julienielsen3746 word for word your comment describes my childhood as well. I don't know what teaching to socialize means from parents, but i think they are supposed to teach by being an example that their child can emulate. Only if the child has difficulties can they specifically coach and create encounters with other family members to help socialize the child, such as sending the child for summer vacation in their cousin's family with children of similar ages. My parents didn't really care at all how i felt, it was all about them, about what i was supposed to become in exchange for feeding me and letting me live under their roof. Somehow my whole family was screwed by nobody taking any interest in me except my mother but she was socially flawed herself. First my father, and the uncles and aunts only as pretend, but in reality none, much less my cousins. Somehow none of my parents socializing worked when i applied it to my school mates. I found my whole life extremely difficult to make any friend and i am now past the age when they raised me. I know now that i received far less attention than the average child receives. Unfortunately some parents do not deserve to be parents.

[@sg5sd]

The way Marion's dad talked to Marion's mom was so wholesome, it made me shed a tear.

[@brianmcdonald9502]

You didn't see him slap her ass?😂

[@sofiabravo1994]

Honestly I’m a Marion I grew up with a mother that never let me have anyone over since elementary school...I remember being invited to birthday parties but my mom never let me go she said excuses such as I don’t know your friends parents I need to know them before I let you go anywhere which was fine but she never actually made the effort to get to know any of my classmates parents... we eventually I stopped getting invited and it really hurt my self-esteem and yes I used to get picked on as well I think it got worse because people thought I was stuck up...my mom never had many friends she projected a lot of her insecurities to me and my little sister. As I reached high school it got a little better I had potential like Marion I was confident and outgoing with my peers but something was still off I just didn’t feel secure to start conversation with the “popular” crowd...I even tried out for cheer regardless my mom trying to stop me . Sure we were poor but fundraisers would have helped tremendously. I didn’t make it because of my gpa. I felt worse and my mom didn’t care not even an I’m sorry. I just wanted to make friends. I had many aquatints even hung out a few times out of school but we weren’t best friends I think they just felt bad for me. I don’t talk to them anymore. I tried so hard to get my mom to care a little about my social life I lacked skills because she never taught me. She acted like others were against her and unfortunately influenced me. I didn’t become even more confident til I was kicked out at 18 by my stepdad. Having a couple jobs with no car was tough but being free helped me grow into the person I wanted to be. I’m 24 and have a little girl. I’m hoping because I’m very aware of what happened to me I can finally break this cycle.

[@tamirine1434]

I know what you mean Sofia. I could have written pretty much the same response - except for the part about being 24 and having a child. I'm twice that age now.

[@sofiabravo1994]

Cheryl Stark I disagree my mom and dad never put each other first and it influenced the happiness that me and my sister we were very young and we can tell that they were so unhappy and we were sad even when they tried putting us first that was the problem maybe you and I just have a different world view I’m under the umbrella of Jesus Christ meaning he’s first then my husband then me and my children and so far it’s worked

[@my2beagles535]

@@sofiabravo1994 I guess what I'm trying to tell you is that the information we have now on how to raise happy responsible children is different than it was 50 years ago. My mom was born in1928....never wanted kids but had 3, she just didnt know what to do back then. I'm 66, my children were so wanted and planned for. I did things differently than my mother. My girls will probably do better than I did. I absolutely believe in a higher power....my 2 daughters are the best 2 people on the face of the earth. and my 5 grandchildren are the 5 most brilliant kids on earth. Now you seee???? With time and experience our family went from not wanting children to admiring and planning and wanting them. Your family pattern is changing due to knowledge, experience and time.

[@genli5603]

How obnoxious!

[@Chahlie]

Narcissistic mother, poor Marion is set up to be the scapegoat.

[@DSR299]

Marion is extremely lucky to have such a wonderful and supportive father. He should tell her how proud he is of her as his daughter and keep up the good work. A daughter that age needs a beloved father like him. As such, she will grow up fine and happy all her life.

[@ranjapi693]

I was quite surprised of that, too. Exactly thats the way it should be.

[@Albatross4Sure]

I love how Marian says "no thank you" to the pie, and her mother shoves it at her anyway. Story of my life. Next thing you know, her mother's going to be telling her she's fat.

[@rocketship3396]

Ikr? I told my mother I was cutting back on sugar and she would still guilt trip me into eating brownies. Id eat them to appease her then throw them up in the bathroom. Very unpleasant.

[@Kittiesinclair5]

Thats called gaslighting today. ‘Blame the victim’, manipulate the victim into doing what the perp wants so the perp can then tirn around and accuse. Its ome of the cruellest tactics used.

[@LovellLevelsUp]

@@rocketship3396 to anyone thinking about throwing stuff up. don't. it ruins your insides and can make you really sick after some time

[@jacquelinhaspett3290]

And tell you you’ll feel guilty if you eat that and you’ll hate yourself

[@al023_]

it is sort of nice knowing that social awkwardness and shyness not only happens to me, but it has been happening to a lot of people; even back at those times!

[@Artlove8900]

Thought i was alone in the whole world that felt left out during school times .

[@hislittlemrs.9235]

​@@Artlove8900 nah, there's lots of us. My senior class invited me to the big end of the year party......2 weeks after it happened. Many have cruel jokes, and disappointments sent our way. Its just part of growing up. It doesn't end when you're an adult, but it can help you to see what type of people you dont want in your life.

[@michaelpryor78]

It's amazing how important teenage social life is to teenagers and then how trite it seems looking back on it as an adult

[@konyvnyelv.]

It was never important to me. I liked staying on my own as a teenager

[@leinanightray4294]

​@@konyvnyelv.Same here

[@anastasiya256]

If you never have it, it remains important 😞

[@jenniferhansen3622]

All you need are 1 or 2 really good friends. You don't have to be a part of a whole big group. Then there's less drama, and more kindness.

[@anala97-l4e]

This dad is so great. I love how he notices what's going on with his girl and asks her what's going on.

[@mariekatherine5238]

I was the female Peter, just wasn't into it, in fact, oblivious for the most part. The senior prom came and went. I went backpacking in Connecticut with my cousins. We had the best time around the campfire, making popcorn, wrapping up in warm bed rolls and star gazing. There's nothing better than the scent of morning pines, the Coleman burner with coffee perking! Better than putting on airs and social climbing while pretending to be having a good time. Give me my old jeans, flannel plaid shirt, and moose hide moccasins any day!

[@minniemouska4320]

Poor Marion. I remember how that feels.

[@ThePoobears]

same here..

[@gabbylopez9091]

Me too. A situation very similar happened to me in first grade. I was the only one out of the entire class that wasn't invited to a birthday party one of my classmates was having. They talked about it all the time while planning it. I would totally invite you to my house or an outing I had if I met you in real life!

[@daisyviluck7932]

Marion’s trajectory is a little bit derailed, but she’s not a hopeless case. She doesn’t sit alone at the malt shop, the girls she sat with seem interested in getting together, her father is in the process of bringing her shy mother around, really Marion has a lot of resources she can use if she’s smart enough and doesn’t blow it.

[@jordano7489]

"What time is it Mrs. Ellsley?" - "Time to go home Danny" Haha I was definitely that kid.

[@genli5603]

They always eat more at their friends' houses than at home, too. looool

[@MeowingKittyCat]

I guess Mrs. Ellsley never saw the film about "Social Courtesy".

[@koestenbraumstar1843]

they would tell me that when i rang the doorbell......oh Billy hi...its time to go home!!

[@gabbylopez9091]

That kid was roasted so hard! It was hilarious!

[@salemjohnson]

Would love to have had Marion's Dad as my Dad ☺️

[@barbaragreve3981]

I was so lucky! Back when I was a teenager in the 1960’s to early 1970’s, my Dad and Mom always conversed with me and made it their business to know how I felt, what was going on in my daily life, how school was going, etc.. We had every meal together, and that’s where we would have our discussions. It was great! I appreciated it even then but more so now looking back. I’m 66 years old now, both of my parents are gone, but I will be forever grateful to them for giving their time, attention and love to me.

[@allen8376]

@@barbaragreve3981 Wow, that's neat. I perhaps only dine with one (or occasionally both) of my parents every two weeks, on average.

[@soulvigilante]

I was waiting for the shot of "How to be Attractive" to pan over to him...

[@sandsquid1]

Me too!

[@jewelweed6880]

​​​@@barbaragreve3981you certainly were lucky. I made the table for dinner after learning about that in Pioneer Girls. But then I had to put it all away because my siblings had big kid plans (10+ year age difference), dad worked late, and I don’t remember the rest, but we weren’t going to eat together. I was disappointed. Really, that's how it was except for holidays and birthdays. My dad provided, but was either working, sleeping, or grumpy. That did not foster a relationship. But I needed one more than I needed a cushy childhood.

[@steph1907]

its old, but still revelant I believe.

[@edwardgaines6561]

Yup, there will always be social rejects.

[@GTA5Player1]

Yeah, if the kid's an idiot. "Oh no, I wasn't invited to a party!" Who cares!

[@lorrainemagarian7697]

Exactly

[@rocket767]

its 2021 the same message can still be applied even though the medium may have changed

[@YooTuba]

Peter probably grew up to be a multimillionaire inventor

[@Jayashri_Ramachandra]

And we never heard of him or what he invented

[@kon2175]

yootuba He really probably did.

[@sherrillperez9796]

@Henry Emrich Yes, exactly! Marian should forget about the party and set her eye on Peter!

[@crixxxxxxxxx]

He grew up to write Star Wars.

[@genxx2724]

Then he had no problem attracting girls.

[@yourewearingthat3193]

You seem upset, have some MORE COFFEE!!! 💥

[@michaelshields7777]

You'reWearingThat?! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️☕️

[@cicijade]

I wish I had a father like Marions, my parents wouldn't let me go to parties or really anywhere and then were surprised whenever I lacked social skills or friends.

[@ericastier1646]

exactly my story too. Parents always refuse to own their own failures that they pass to their children.

[@joycegreer9391]

Same here. Socializing wasn't important to my parents. In fact, they did not like teens socializing. Don't think social skills occurred to them, but they did expect I would somehow be assertive when I graduated high school. How when I was raised to be quiet and obedient?

[@Shortstacksandticktacks]

They werent surprised. They just wanted the heat off them, because in their mind, their own convenience is #1.

[@britlover21]

Yes Peterrrrr! Hail voluntary isolators.🤘🏾

[@TNHogs]

Bunch of teenagers with one of those noisy record players....

[@libertyann439]

Marion's mother is a drag. Her father cares more about his daughter than she does.

[@reason5591]

Her mom makes this party thing all about her worrying how "she" is going to look with lesser material things than their parents have.

[@redwingfan9393]

Her mother is a cow. Not just to her daughter but to her husband as well. She basically insulted him by complaining about money.

[@eckankar7756]

Obviously Mariam's mom is off her meds.

[@fembotprincess1]

Her mother is such a stuck up prude! What was wrong with having some of Marion's friends over? If she was so unhappy as a teen she shouldn't put that on her daughter. And her voice is like nails on a chalkboard...

[@cocokai9661]

Her mother has social anxiety. She's a rather helpless person. I feel sorry for her.

[@MarshaKlein8425]

I was like Marion until age 14 then something happened. I suddenly stopped giving so much of a rat's ass what people thought. With that I found a "clique" of my own, not the "popular" kids but those who valued individuality and that suited me better. By the time I was 23, I'd worked in France and had travelled with the RAF. I doubt many of my friends would have been one of the "cool" kids but they were a great bunch and was having a wonderful time, my shyness forgotten. Years later I became friends with one of those popular kids from school, he'd grown into a wonderful, kind, funny man. Sadly he died last year aged just 52. I miss him every day. I wish I'd known him better in school but I'm grateful for those years when we were friends. School can seem like forever, every drama so big and important but it isn't forever and you just never know who will come into your life when you're ready

[@872hurikane]

Dang that’s brutal. Half of the things this says would be called shaming today. But I still think our society lives like this even if it says something different.

[@MWFKBF]

I watch these old educational films from the 40's and 50's as a goof. "So bad they are good" type of thing. However this one hit different. It was very touching , and very realistic. Very well done. And made me sad.

[@julienielsen3746]

Nothing wrong with being good.

[@TheArtist894]

fkn dork, theyre not bad. Way better produced than the shit you watch now a days. dumb ass kid.

[@Felipe-u8p]

Me too man it's crazy but this movie it's a little emotional.

[@robbailey464]

LOL. The moral of the story is "Mean girls suck."

[@cynthiaclarke3979]

"Good Girls are Bad Girls that never get Caught"..

[@ConceptuallyYour]

Listening to these melodies, I feel like I'm returning to the most beautiful days of my life. 🌻

[@selrojas6346]

It's funny when you hear people talking about how easy was life in the old days. It seems it has always been complicated.

[@cartwrightworm1317]

I’m always skeptical when people talk about how great the old days were. It was different and better in some ways but I doubt it was so wonderful.

[@8luvbug]

Right you always see comments on videos from back in the days saying how "times were simpler/better then even from people who weren't even born during those times

[@kaitlynlynch9322]

Marian is honestly me 😭 I don't know how to interact and I barely have friends

[@edwardgaines6561]

To be a friend, why don't you *BE* a friend to someone else? Just make them one at a time.

[@THAT.RANDOM.GUY_]

I don't have any friends. It's hard being introverted and then being expected to be a socialite by society.

[@Serenityafterall]

Just introduce yourself to someone !

[@MrSmackdab]

Let me guess; you're bored by small talk? You're most likely introverted because you're more intelligent than those who you think are rejecting you - but that's the downside of introspection

[@elmin82]

me too, even i'm 37 years old and i'm still an introvert

[@firhanhidayat2803]

I dont know, but i really like marion

[@YooTuba]

Good grief, instead of "Social Acceptability" this should have been entitled "When Your Mom is the Self-Centered Passive-Aggressive Controlling B of All Time"

[@rochelleyanuzzi9729]

^^ Indeed!! Seems like she's the one with the issue. >.>

[@anagabriela6157]

suzies sister's even worse

[@nickwalco]

I wouldnt want my future daughter having friends like those assholes in my house. Well, maybe Susie, she seemed decent

[@nickwalco]

@kris scarpetti what bad word?

[@clutchcargo666]

"mom, kids don't want you to bake and make a big deal, they just want you and Dad to be gone"

[@AriannaAyers]

I seek out the little Marions of the world, the ones my children can befriend, and ensure that they too are invited to the parties, and playdates. Sometimes, I find myself in a room full of people, my children happily playing with their friends, as I sit and hear the woes of the little child. Even if I am not a little child, if I can help someone of any age feel listened to, and valued, intrinsically for who they are, as they are, then I have been a vehicle of positive energy, and hopefully helped them to feel a bit more confident, and accepted.

[@frala2398]

You are very kind. I like how you think.

[@ConceptuallyYour]

This vintage music is like a glass of old wine, the more you listen, the more it is filled with emotion and nostalgia. 🍷

[@deepashreer1698]

I'm 22 and still Marion's life is what I'm living.

[@BrooklynBaby100]

Change it ding dong

[@brianmcdonald9502]

MOVE!!!!

[@josephapostolou9507]

Dude the dad rocks for 1950's standards

[@Adnilas]

Fathers the the 50s were FAR better than they are now

[@cocokai9661]

Yep! Conform and suck up so you can be a part of the 'cool gang'! God forbid you not fit in!

[@yuri2604]

@@cocokai9661 oh yeah, being alone and depressed seems like a better idea. Teenagers crave for social acceptance. Is it too awful to go for it if it brings satisfaction? If you really belong with "the gang" or you should look for real friends in another place... only time can tell. But doing something is better than closing yourself just because trying to fit in with other kids is too "normal" and doesn't make you unique enough.

[@cocokai9661]

@@yuri2604 Being alone doesn't necessarily translate into being depressed. Many of us thrive alone. And yes, people tend to find their own group. Pretending to be something you're not doesn't lead to great happiness, at least I haven't found it to. And one of the best lessons a kid can learn is that it's not the end of the world to be alone. Too many horrible things happen because people go along with the 'cool' kids and are so afraid of not being accepted.

[@бронза.вафля.конус]

​@@cocokai9661they showed a guy at the beginning who was alone, but he was alone by choice. Marion is lonely, and she doesn't have friends, but it's not by choice

[@gilessmith5057]

This video not only applies to high school but the workplace today.

[@jb6712]

Yes, it most certainly does!! Experienced it in full during my last 18 years of working (ICU in a major hospital/Level 1 Trauma Center). If a person isn't young, hip, cool, skinny (or at least working out 30 hours a day), and "clubbing" once a week, one did not belong to the "gang."

[@criminallyautistic8372]

No it doesn't.

[@RLC302]

This too shall pass..

[@cocokai9661]

Yep! And Marion may come to realize she was better off not being in the 'gang'. And judging how they behaved on this video (with the exception of Susie) I'm pretty sure her mom was right.

[@laurabuffone4742]

Rod is easily acceptable, and leads the clique, in large part because his family is well-off, but "lower class" Ben would not gain acceptance if it weren't for his exceptional talent and determination. And this makes Ben a "climber"! Love it.

[@JP-ve7or]

Interesting how they use the phrase "social climber" as a compliment rather than an insult 🤔 I guess it was considered bettering yourself through determination.

[@robinwhetstone]

Yeah, there are some underlying assumptions that need to be questioned in this story. I'm hopeful that young Eric will get ahold of some Allen Ginsberg and Dylan records and start exploring whether being one of "the gang" is actually something to aspire to.

[@almohvn33]

Money DOES play a role. I just saw someone I went steady with... after 47 years of not seeing each other. We ran with the popular peeps, and the queen bee was FAR from pretty but we all knew she was rich (not so rich today... BTW) and we laughed at that. She was FAR from pretty!

[@debrawoodrick2889]

I think the fifties were all about social climbing. Remember Hazel and Mr Baxters sister? But really the same thing is in place now. You just can't acknowledge it. I think the sooner er you understand how groups actually work the less you blame yourself for being out of synch.

[@genxx2724]

It was Ben’s family who were lower class.

[@arroyobaby38]

In high school my sister used to tell me me and my friends were the popular group. I didn’t think so. We were just nice to everyone. We weren’t stuck up or mean. Maybe thats why she thought we were popular. There were 12 of us in the group. 7 girls and 5 boys. It was great back then.

[@planetofether5462]

Judging by the size of the kitchen alone, if they don't live in a big house, I'll eat my beret.

[@cacatr4495]

1950's houses, built just after the war, had big eat-in kitchens. They were saying that a 3 bedroom, 1500-2000 square foot house, wasn't "a big house." And that would have been (roughly) the size of the average, modest, middle-class house, likely on less than a quarter acre of land, in the brand new suburbs. "Big" is in the eye of the beholder. The negative parent was comparing their house to "the mansion on the hill, and feeling inadequate about it.

[@zellyu8559]

These old videos are amazing

[@carolynridlon3988]

I have never really fit in during all of my school days (even back to grade school) - it hurt many times but I managed. It didn't help that my classes were always with the popular & wealthy kids (we were definitely lower middle class) who were very snobbish - the town I grew up in was very divided between the haves & have nots. But I did make a few "acquaintance" friends for the time. But I was not interested in returning for reunions & such. I finally met a man who thought I was funny, have a great smile & I could cook! We've been married now 35 yrs and we are each other's best friend - but we do have a few friends we've met over the years that we keep in touch with. High school was not the end of my life - it was the gateway to freedom.

[@laurencrown7043]

Ben makes me want to build a time machine to go to the 50’s

[@haciaelexilio]

What a powerful message.

[@MattTee1975]

Geez, that "Time to go to bed" line broke my heart.

[@theboombody]

I fall under the category voluntary isolate, but I still love this short and I feel for the poor girl in it. I love the Rifftrax version of this even more.

[@Quacks0]

I got rejected all the time as a child and teenager. I know if affected me a lot in my adult life.

[@elizabethlovesalbert]

Here is Ron Hunter, and unusually popular adolescent; he’s athletic, intelligent, he’s 35 years old and just opened a 401k.

[@timarnold9969]

His cousin, Biff Torrington just acquired a membership at Dusty Pines Country Club in Grosse Pointe. Having this status symbol enables him to have gin and tonics while discussing pork futures, his golf game and playing squash at The University Club. Ahhhh, it’s the life to envy! Wait a second Mipsy, let’s have a wine and cheese party at the beach house on Friday! Isn’t 1963 just peachy? Fast-forward to 2023… the Jones’ are having a COVID passport evaluation party on Friday. Apparently, they are not inviting Sook Cho Dung, since he stood-up the Anderson’s at their Tranny Gender exposure event. Awww, shucks! Let’s smash our iPhones and go back to the old days.

[@fozziebumble8361]

I think mariums mother is projecting ,

[@drzerogi]

Well, yeah. She all but admitted that to her husband

[@cocokai9661]

But judging by the 'gang' (with the exception of Susie) I'd say she's correct in her 'projecting'. They were awful! Especially Susie's older sister! No doubt the mom was right in thinking her daughter might be made fun of for her lack of money and social standing (we watched the gang and Susie's sister do exactly that). I love the 50s and 40s. But let's face it. They pushed this be accepted no matter what crap. At this time the idea of not being 'popular' was worse than anything. God forbid! Many of these videos seem to insist that people 'overcome' their shyness and suck up to the popular kids if they ever hope to be happy. Thankfully this is something people started to push back on!

[@robderham1958]

This film's message was very true then as it is today.

[@XsukiniiX]

2:38 I don’t see this nowadays If a girl walked up to a table and there’s no chairs every guy would sit in silence..

[@patriciagallo-stenman1518]

I started my own clique at 14 in the mid '60s. Me and my outcast friends became Beatlemaniacs. We had a great time banding together.

[@stealthyrat]

That sounds lovely 😊

[@v.m.8472]

As long as there is group think …

[@fembotprincess1]

Ending left me hanging! Did Suzy approach Marion tomorrow at school? Did Marion get invited to the party after all? Did Suzy's parents make more room for more friends? Ugh I hated the ending...

[@genxx2724]

I also want to know. But I think the point of some of these films was to raise a topic for discussion afterward. They should use these in church groups.

[@joeyvocals71696]

My greatgrandparents were 30, and my grandparents were 6, when this video was made Facinating to me Keep up the great work!

[@melodym7045]

A family had so much social pressure in that time with nice things on top of it. If Marion's mother mingled more with people on the street then she would have easily been invited. Now no one cares that mother is socially awkward. And in that time you needed to have nice stuff in your house, husband a good job, wife wearing nice clothes, mink coats, diamonds, social clubs, dinner parties. We live in a world now where financial flow is not the way it was! We can't simply go get a job after high school in NASA. We can't work our way up the chain and get through with college degrees. Social acceptance is all we got! If you know someone in a big company, cool you get the job!

[@albagomezmoreno4547]

I've always felt like Marion, but now that I'm 21 I realized it's actually not that important to be popular, now I prefer much more to have few friends but true ones (currently I only have a friend, my boyfriend and I try to get well with my classmates) But it's true that for teens popularity is considered very important... not being popular ruined my adolescence.

[@Skipper86]

Good father and controlling mother. No wonder Mariam has a hard time with social skills because her mother wants her to do things the way she should be doing them.

[@joeldecoster8816]

ff sakes, the parents cant be in control of EVERYTHING, but they sure as hell feel gult and grief for their kids

[@JP-ve7or]

I feel for her mother. Her own adolescence clearly left some scars. But I think having some girls over and seeing their interactions through adult eyes could have helped her heal a bit.

[@ehmincorrect3603]

@@JP-ve7orexactly. her mother seems really insecure

[@jewelweed6880]

​@@JP-ve7oryes, i wish there was a complete story, i wanted to see how they learn and progress, but it was a story to open discussion

[@noahfriedman1181]

This is Marion's world and we're all just living in it. Main character energy

[@Lucailey]

I am 39 years old and have heard "everyone wants to be popular" I disagree. Sure, I like to be liked...but being popular? No, I never wanted it. Even as a Junior High/ Highschool kid, I felt like being popular would be far too much work. Keeping up appearances, having to attend social events? Having to stay up to day with what is cools and what isn't....Nah, It's not for me. I never wanted to go to a popular kid's party. I was happy hanging out with the few friends i did have who accepted me for me and didn't pressure me to worry about doing the "in" things or having to deal with a bunch of people. I still am just as happy to take a bubble bath while reading a book, going on line or just hanging out with a friend. Even now parties give me anxiety. Now I think "I like to be invited, I just don't want to go!" LOL

[@4knewt505]

Not once did I wish to go to a party. My sister was super popular but I just didn't care. I was shy but I didn't place my value in people wanting to be around me. Her longing made me sad in this film. I realized later in life that I'm an introvert so I stopped trying to make excuses for myself. I'm much happier now at 46.

[@leinanightray4294]

Same here! I never liked how as teenagers we were expected to be super social, go to parties and worry all the time about looking good. Teenage years are supposed to be fun, but this sort of pressure didn't seem fun to me.

[@julienielsen3746]

@@4knewt505 It's up to the parents to teach their kids how to socialize etc. Mine never did. I had few friends and it sure would have helped me if my parents had cared more about what as going on with me, and my future

[@ohsweetmystery]

This video just said we all want to get along with other people. It was actually good about saying it is perfectly normal and okay not to be popular

[@susannahdyro4845]

Marion should make her own click with her friends,show the cool kids that she just as good

[@sarab9967]

Damn I was fancying Ben then he played Marion like that... smh

[@DannyCodePlays]

"What time is it?" "It's time to go home, Danny." Haha! Yeah, relatable.

[@sherrillperez9796]

Would have been great to have seen these types of informational vids when I was young.

[@SuperNevile]

Especially if it meant missing double math.

[@Roscoethecat]

Poor Marian. I hope she had a good life.

[@jn1mrgn]

My parents probably saw this in school, but sure didn't apply it when they had kids.

[@deborahsojourner6755]

My mother for sure

[@arlettasloan6453]

What? ??? That's a horrible ending! Where's the sequel?

[@dante441]

Somewhere over the rainbow

[@AllLifeIsTravesty]

Jesus *fuck* that ending was brutal. Marion's gonna end up going _Carrie_ when prom rolls around.

[@OceanPatriot777]

No Marion went behind the Iron Curtain 0_0

[@regularity2556]

At least Marion has two friends to have lunch with and watch a movie. I literally have no one.

[@suesnook5137]

I am sorry. There is a friend out there for you.

[@anonymoushuman8443]

That makes you strong.

[@genxx2724]

I saw the simplest but most wise thing on a program called Army Wives. In order to have a friend, first you have to be a friend. Try it.

[@DoodleBear223]

​@@anonymoushuman8443 no it doesn't. Psychologically not having a community is very damaging to most people's mental health. Being lonely doesn't make you stronger, saying this as a lonely person

[@Whiskerybeast]

Is it bad that I want to sit with Peter, read his comic book and have a root beer with him?

[@pantegohummus8215]

Same.

[@maryduhon9769]

I can understand the mother's side of this, especially in those days. Everyone seems to forget that mothers are human too. We have to do everything to.put our children first. We still have ourselves to deal with, and it's never as simple as our children think

[@gillies9]

Rod Hunter? My inner Beavis & Butt-head is laughing hysterically right now.

[@turnofevent8094]

This is part of growing up, some get attention later on in life, this girl will survive not being invited this one party.

[@MizzKittyBichon]

5:31 "Oh, would you care to minuet??" Haha, sorry. That's too funny of a quote! Hahaha!

[@phuongbui1239]

I was a Marion and I'm super grateful for that. I'm 20 now and I'm feeling perfect each day. How? When I was her age I always tried, tried and tried.

[@queenvictoria4237]

This video I wish I discovered when I was a teenager.

[@corndawg15]

The dad: I want to make sure our child is a healthy adult Mom @ 11:32 ThIS IS aBoUT mE!!

[@saud29]

8:21 Marioins Dad thinking: "Who the hell did I marry"?

[@wmpetroff2307]

I love it! For sure he's all????

[@TheCartoonLoon]

I like how the video didn't actually teach anyone how to be more socially acceptable/ to not care about being socially acceptable

[@grumpyoldlady_rants]

I grew up poor and an outsider but I always had a group of friends (underdogs my mom called them). At 15, my dad decided to move the family from the only place I and my siblings knew in S. CA to a teeny tiny town in the middle of nowhere in OR. After that, I had acquaintances but never really any friends. I left home before I turned 18.

[@chanelye9485]

I felt her when she put the classic music and they left

[@redwingfan9393]

I'm sure coffee will make Evelyn feel better as she heads towards deep depression.

[@MrTruckerf]

Irish coffee!

[@paulcheek5711]

I never mix with the lower classes, its so uncivilized...

[@xerxes7500]

oh marion.... she makes me wanna go back to the 50's

[@LizLovesLollipops]

Her mother is so stuck up. lol

[@pechoja]

She is insecure and still at the development age of high school licking her wounds, afraid her daughters friends will reject her too. Too painful. Sort of identify in some respects for other reasons. It does not help the kids when parents don't have the skills to teach their kids.

[@lorrainemagarian7697]

No but very insecure

[@cocokai9661]

No. The mother has social anxiety. She's insecure, not stuck up at all. And judging by what little we see of the 'gang' I'd say she's right to think they're a nasty little crew. Jesus, the kids made fun of Marion for picking the wrong song. Can only imagine what they'd have done if they saw her humble home and sat through her humble party. And don't even get me started on Susie's horrible sister!!! Making fun of Marion's clothes and parents! What about what we saw made you think that the mother was wrong in her opinion of Marion's gang? They were shown to be everything her mother feared they'd be! I know that's not what the viewer is supposed to think. In this time era being popular and accepted by the 'cool kids' was considered the most important thing of all. They preached fitting in as the goal. What Marion's parents should have done is told Marion to be herself and choose better friends. In the beginning of the video she's sitting with two girls. They seemed fine. Why does Marion need the approval of the snooty kids in the 'gang'?

[@colleenkyle7741]

Honestly out of everyone, I'm the mother. I'm closed off for a reason. Not because I want to be but because that's all I knew how to do. Anxiety is a big part. I always felt like someone was laughing at me, so when I grew up, I learned to be a lot more closed off. Of course I was quiet and never fit in, because others would just laugh and shit. So I choose to distance myself.

[@jewelweed6880]

The other girl should have called anyway and explained the situation. But Marion was simply ghosted.

[@ninademci1500]

As long as my daughter told me by Thursday, so I could buy groceries, I had no problem with her having her friends over.

[@almohvn33]

SPOT ON... Unreal how true and good this is. I was very lucky, due to very high sense of humor (and decent looks) that I fit in with many cliques. My sisters did not, and still talk about it today. Sense of humor can truly go farther then any looks. I also was very "prudish", meaning not a slut. This foundation and superb parents carried me to where I am today, 64, retired and had the time of my life in my career, Army and everything I do.

[@aliciayoung3392]

Very Good Movie. It's still Relevant today. It's kinda sad tho. No One Should Allow others to Decide Their Self Worth! The wise thing to do is Find others Who like & accept you just the way you are!

[@beetlebum1]

OMG what a dream dad! I am gen x and I swear my father has shown no interest in anything I have ever done socially, and whether or not I was alright or left out.

[@watercolourferns]

I was Marion for most of my school life and I liked it that way. Popularity is over-rated. Most of the popular people I knew married and had kids to young, never really finished their career, or never really found what they liked, live off daddy's money, and have divorced, remarried or never separated and make the kids pay the duck. I'm 32, am an illustrator, barely now have a fiancee and a boyfriend, and hace two dogs and two cats, no kids in sight whatsoever. Because I gave myself the space and time to be myself and to find myself. If you're popular, good for you! If you're not, good for you too!! Neither is needed to grow into responsible, wholesome adults. And who tells you otherwise is lying.

[@colleenkyle7741]

12:42 "The most successful people weren't always the most popular kids"

[@Prettyordying]

I love that

[@sooverit5529]

They're all gonna laugh at you!

[@manp1039]

seems like Marions mother needs psychotherapy to deal with her traumas. Perhaps she has unfullfilled dreams that she is passing forward? Seems like she does not have an active interest in Marions emotional well being.

[@kitkat9973]

I've never seen so many natural noses in my life

[@UnfinishedRiot]

I'm completely floored by the idea of unnatural noses being more common :o

[@njhawksworth1588]

I don't think people look fully human after unnecessary plastic surgery.

[@johnbockelie3899]

Her mom wasn't very popular when she was in school.

[@kellyw8017]

If other kids stare and giggle at you, they aren't "poised."