SOCIAL ANXIETY | What it Feels Like (PERSONAL Experience With AUTISM)

In this video I discuss how you can overcome social anxiety by understanding how it feels. FREE Master Class: m.me/theaspieworld?ref=w8857985
Social anxiety can be crippling autism and social anxiety go hand-in-hand. Social anxiety is this overwhelming feeling of uncertainty around other people and social situations.
It can be during a social interaction like a gathering of friends or a trip to the pub or restaurant. But it can also be things like travelling to another country or getting on a bus or a train.
There are social anxiety medication you can take but I have not tired that yet. And I am not sure that these get rid of social anxiety symptoms.
Social anxiety causes lots of disruption in peoples lives and professional work, it can be quite debilitating
Social anxiety can be quiet disabling for people when they choose to not go out to do something because social anxiety is overwhelming.
By knowing what makes your social anxiety worse is the key to understanding how to deal with it better. If going to large supermarkets on busy times makes it worse and avoid them at the busy times and got the less busy times.
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[@TheAspieWorld]

What do you deal with most, Social Anxiety or General Anxiety Disorder?

[@kstarkidd8968]

The Aspie World GAD is a J E R K

[@teags3559]

General anxiety

[@Alizardlovesyou]

Generalized anxiety. But Social situations take so much extra energy that social isolation becomes a thing because I'm already wiped out from dealing with the stim of the day. It is somewhere between isolation and self-care.

[@emmacassidy8482]

General. In my case everything

[@svm5543]

Social! I honestly rarely worry about things in my own world. But I really struggle with social situations and get worked up before them. 50% of the time they are as difficult as I anticipated and I leave the situation with chest pains, worked up, and exhausted. The other 50% of the time it is not as intense I anticipated but it still takes me a few hours to calm down from the chest pains I built up priar to the situation.

[@raphtheartist9608]

I always wear my earphones while grocery shopping (or simply being outside) so I feel like I’m in a safety bubble and I forget that there are other people. It makes me feel so protected.

[@turtleanton6539]

Fully agreed

[@Drakeblood97]

I think my social anxiety comes from more of not knowing how I appear to other people. I always worry about how my voice sounds to others, stumbling over my words, running out of things to say, not doing something that is expected of me in certain situations and looking clueless (what to do at a bank, etc.), and feeling like everyone is observing how I behave; not comprehensive in the least. Social interactions aren't terrible for me in the moment, but in the before and after I'm usually consumed by catastrophic thoughts.

[@BlertaPupu]

It's exactly the same for me. It's so stressful, and it makes just existing around people super draining.

[@ctk7790]

Your description is spot on. Anxiety makes a seemly simple social situation feel like moving a mountain (naked with the flu).

[@julianmarks2396]

Very good video. Social anxiety has prevented me from having friendships in the past. Keep up the good work!

[@TheAspieWorld]

Yes indeed I totally understand that!! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@Alizardlovesyou]

Oh man, small talk is the hardest! So much effort for so little meaning. I do like feeling brave though, and I'm always getting better at it.

[@MeltedHugo]

I feel like social anxiety is just a result of prolonged and unsuccessful masking.

[@scottmacgregor4622]

Absolutely, 100%.

[@summero-my5in]

Is masking ever really successful? Seems like even those who mask the best get labeled as “quirky/weird”… neurotypical people always notice they’re different 😭

[@MeltedHugo]

@@summero-my5in True. But it takes a lot (developing a severe burnout for example) to realize that there is no point in masking at all because of the short term benefits it might provide in certain situations. Short term masking, like for one social event that you don't attend more often than once a year, it can help make it less awkward so it's over faster - whether this is even needed is up to the individual, but it often is needed because these people (thinking about family dinners) usually remember your provious maskings and might expect the same again (and that's what makes it so difficult, and what mainly fuels the social anxiety). But long term (especially for a job or a relationship) It is better and healthier to be labeled as "disabled" rather than "quirky/weird", otherwise you'll just fall into a web of lies and wrong "friends".

[@turtleanton6539]

Yes

[@turtleanton6539]

​@@MeltedHugo this exactly

[@fr34k3rZ01d]

Even the thought of going out fills me with dread.

[@davidlanier7006]

Agoraphobia can happen in a closed in situation. Most people think of agoraphobia as being afraid to go outside, but it's also a fear of being trapped in maybe like a classroom situation or a crowded area. I use to get such high anxiety in line at a store to pay for my stuff. I would almost pass out in that situation. I don't know why, but I've gotten better at it, but it's not completely gone. Our ASD and anxiety and other issues can change some over time. Excellent video on social anxiety. I still have problems doing stuff like signing my name in front of people.

[@Leena79]

I've been diagnosed with social anxiety long before even considering I might have ASD. I definately try to do my shopping etc in the quiet hours, and unfortunately have failed to accomplish quite a few things in life because of the overwhelming anxiety. My coping mechanism is to plan everything - it's guaranteed that when the anxiety hits me, I won't be able to think anything but what's making me anxious, but if I have a plan to follow, I can get through these situations. A shopping list, a list of things to do (and in which order), my name, address, phone number written down for making phonecalls. This works quite well, but all the situations with unknown variables are the ones that I can't handle. And let's just say, everything involving socializing has a lot of unknown variables! 😂

[@charliepollard6783]

I start feeling really dizzy and I start physically shaking. It’s like everything around me starts closing in on me.

[@ylvanilsson9604]

Same here! I even start crying if my windows are open and people are walking outside. I'm not on ground level but it still freaks me out! I (18) hid from my family members during a gathering yesterday. I didn't greet them, I didn't say hi, I was in my room shaking, panicking, crying and later when they left, didn't even acknowledge my parents until the day after (this morning). Things like this makes me feel really guilty, but I can't help my physical reactions. Sometimes those scare me more than the anxiety it self.

[@jennifernybergpixie7958]

Yes

[@titanbuck7]

@@ylvanilsson9604 If you haven't tried medication yet, def check it out. It helps a LOT when it works. And for some when it doesn't work it relieves stress at the least. Think about a pill that makes you not care if something is going on that would usually make you react. Good stuff. ♥️👍

[@alltimebubble7837]

Same, sometimes it feels like the whole world focuses on one point infront of me and the walls close in so I just start shaking and my heart beats faster, I wouldn't wish that on anyone

[@kestrel.m]

I have social anxiety, some days are better than others but it is something I always work on. I guess you could call me out of the ordinary, I love socializing and I love people but it scares the crap out of me at the same time (oxymoron I know). I guess the best way I could describe it is I like socializing one on one or one on a couple of people. I cant stand big groups of people. I love getting to know people as everyone is so unique and there is always something to learn. I still need alone time but people fascinate me it is the reason why I went into sociology and medicine.

[@meganlovesdisneyandcrafts4780]

YUP, Exactly how i feel...... It’s awful 😞. Going on a massive big trip with the family in a week. It’s for 10 days and thankfully my parents understand and told me to let them know when i need a break. I really really want to have a good time, hoping my brain decides to cooperate... at least a little.

[@TheAspieWorld]

You’ll do amazing!! Stay positive! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@meganlovesdisneyandcrafts4780]

The Aspie World Thank you, that means a lot! Yup, notifications on!❤️✌🏻

[@grantarnold2606]

I have terrible social anxiety so in order to assimilate in social situations I use alcohol but I'm trying to get away from that because addiction runs in my family. I've never been diagnosed with autism but after watching your videos as well as others, a lot of things are beginning to make sense.

[@grams5861]

My 17-year-old grandson is Autistic and has sensory issues. Watching your video was very good at helping me understand him better. You are such a fast talker that I felt some sensory overload myself. I mean that in the most respectful way. 💕😉

[@howardlanus8467]

I'm on the spectrum, and I can tell that I have significant social anxiety. Whenever I go to a party or an event I'm freaking out on the inside, even as I seem calm and collected outside. This is because I am highly sensitive emotionally and I don't always read social cues correctly, so if I make a mistake, I get blown up and it hurts a lot. I see people as emotional time bombs that are always close to exploding, but you never know what will blow them up or how close they are to detonating, until it's too late to fix the damage. Part of that is that I feel that way myself, and I don't know how to communicate my feelings in a manner that people will take seriously.

[@timothywalker4563]

Interesting video. Long before before I found out I had Aspergers I wanted more control in life, so I took a class in public speaking and I took stock of some of that fear and realized if I work on communication I could do better and as time went on I got better at handling that anxiety it was one of the best things I ever did. However I still have limits to what I can handle. I once lived in Miami and managed to acclimatize to it even though I’m not bilingual I slow down and meet people and find if I can talk with them and 90 percent of the time I could and I picked up some friends in school who were second generation who spoke Spanish and English quite well. You spoke earlier of being in crowds and being in entertainment venues, yes this wear I breathe and look at the situation and I think we’re all hear for the show and I just (slow my roll) breathing and concentration work quite well and I have adapted overtime to this challenge. Water is always a good idea even the act of drinking gives you a second or two to think about what you might say next or should I just listen and nod. I guess I’m old school I not into CBD’s or gummies if someone wants to check with there physician than do so, there is probably more than one way to deal with anxiety so definitely expand your knowledge, oh I forgot walking from one venue to another can slow some of that anxiety down. I learned this recently while in New York City it was after a musical and it was almost about dusk so I was relaxed on the way to the restaurant I was with my sister and she can break down a Chinese menu fairly quick, pro tip if you have help and it’s a long day let someone help you. I’ll be honest getting on the train leaving the city is a relief I can throttle down and think about making it back. I do enjoy the city but I’m more at home in a small town. Anxiety can be a challenge but I’ve learned you can deal with it and enjoy life😉

[@YEIYEI78]

Thank you for your honesty my son gets so overwhelmed with crowds is overloading he runs and hides, people believed he is just being disobedient but when you are in the spectrum just little things trigger you, I always ask him but he can't explain himself the feeling, Thank you for you inside.

[@OriginalSirSpeaksAlot]

I know exactly when my social anxiety came. It happened in the 3rd grade. I was a very social kid, and I was very bubbly. The kind of kid who hand dreams and goals. My young cousin was killed in a hit-and-run in Mexico on their vacation, and my mom was worried about my aunt(her sister) suffering through it alone, so my parents both decided to just immediately pick up roots and move close to her. I wasn't even given time to say bye to my friends or crush. Before I knew it, I was immediately placed into a new school in the middle of their class without a grace period. I wasn't given time to know the teachers or time to see the class. Just immediately thrown in there. They were learning a different subject that I was, so I was also a stunted learner as well. Just dominos falling in place and it just went downhill for me It has ruined my life. I never went to college when I should have. I never kept friends because I was afraid of what they'd think of me. I had done social things, but it always fell apart. I wish I knew how to fix it. I wish I knew how to help others through it

[@aaronhickton8494]

Thank you for these videos im currently suffering with anxiety but your videos have calmed me down and ive started going out now and stopped worrying keep uploading my hero❤

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hey Aaron that is amazing!! You are doing so well! I’m rooting for you! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@aaronhickton8494]

Thank you man i am 100% gonna subscribe just incase

[@werttiffanyable]

Thank you for explaining this ☺️i often have a hard time explaining to people what social anxiety is like.

[@gailrohleder6748]

Thank you Dan for explaining this so well. This is exactly how I feel.

[@Kapplerartbloomingdale]

Sometimes I do cry in public due to social anxiety.❤

[@jerryjohnsonii4181]

Thanks for the knowledge, Dan !!!!!!!!!!!

[@EphemeralProductions]

This is probably my biggest mental health issue, even bigger than Asperger's (which follows behind as a close second) and my ADHD. I NEVER talk in any group of more than a few people, because I can't stand the "all eyes on me" thing, I don't want everyone looking at my ugly face. Can't get up in front of people, it nearly gives me a panic attack. Basically I have textbook S.A.D. It has stopped me from having MANY experiences, because I was too afraid to do them and to speak up and take advantage of them. It's interesting you mention the GI disorder thing; I had IBS suddenly crop up in 2007 out of nowhere. It comes and goes but mostly has gone into remission (thankfully).

[@ht8083]

Try a zero fibre diet for a while you ibs will completely dissapear

[@MissMeganBeckett]

Having other people explain how something might feel to you, asking if you’ve ever felt that way, and then describing the definition of a condition is really useful for me because I don’t know how to describe feelings a lot of the time. I’m over 30 but I only recently figured out that a feeling I had been having off and on for years now was actually a panic attacks, my headaches were actually migraines, and the reason I couldn’t finish school was because of a burnout. I found these from different sources, my psychologist and my psychiatrist, my mom with confirmation from my doctor, and KZbin. It feels better to be able to accurately describe something in a way that other people will understand without being misunderstood because I don’t have the word to describe a feeling. Forgot to add I also have social anxiety, diagnosis from high school. 13:47 I also have the same feeling you are describing about concerts movies busy streets crowded rooms loud noises restaurants etc. Cbd gummies work for me to, my psychologist is also working with me on the breathing exercises and grounding techniques.

[@Julie-lh5jb]

Oh gosh! Yes! So much I could relate to here. And funny I also recently decided to go for my big shop between 8 and 10am on Monday 🤗 Brill plan worked out so well 😁 thank you!!

[@mirandaranda57]

I am only about a minute into this video (so far), but I have to comment right *now* and say that your energy is a breath of fresh air, and I’m so glad you found this platform to blast that energy, knowledge, first-hand experience, and talent out into the universe! Thank you for making the world better for us autistics!

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hey thank you so much, that is such an amazing thing to hear!! I am so happy you enjoy my videos :)! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :). 😀👌🏼

[@uncletimmy6092]

This was really weird because I've gotten so much better at coping and managing my social anxiety over the years that I forgot that I deal with these small anxieties still every day. I'd say one of the primary things I do is to plan. If I'm going to the supermarket or to the mall it's never something casual - I have to know exactly why I'm there, exactly what I'm after, and exactly how I'm going to get there and exactly how I'm going to leave. Generally I'll go to places I'm familiar with and I can navigate easily, otherwise even just being in a different environment, not knowing a shop layout or what the people working there are like and how they act is a stressor for me that I can only deal with with mental preparation (which often needs about a day). I'd also say when my social anxiety gets bad it isn't exactly the same. I dissociate a bit, my mind goes blank and I can't really think, and when it's bad enough I find it difficult to communicate with speech.

[@statickaeder29]

This is a very good presentation, Dan, and it helps me understand how our autisms present differently. I do have social anxiety, and it is so much smaller than the other problems I have. There is a thing that I do that I think would help you, and I've done this since I was a teenager - carry earplugs, and use them whenever you go somewhere that is too loud. Just having them is reassuring, so that you know that you can put them when you need to. And when you do put them in, they will help - not completely, and you will have to explain to people that you are wearing earplugs if you can't understand what they are saying, and it helps. I have much more trouble with visual stimulation. I work Only in the back room of a TJ Maxx, because when I have tried to work out front on the sales floor I get lost. it's embarrassing enough to wave at signs of people making greeting gestures - it is terrifying to lose track of where you are because there is so much visual stimulation, so many mirrors, that you cannot find where you're supposed to go. This is not a large store, and I get lost if I'm on the sales floor for any length of time beyond a few minutes. Gray-scale sunglasses help, but I need them to be prescription, and I've just not tried anything like that at work, though it would probably help. Day before yesterday at work, I had a panic attack/crying fit because there was no more of our standard work to do, so I was being told to do this and this, and move this, and clean this.... I tried to warn them by telling them repeatedly that this is chaos, and I'm, not good with chaos. I don't get the sweating and raised heartrate, that I'm aware of - I feel like I can't move. I do have a neuromuscular disorder that is probably related to my autism, that I take heavy-duty muscle relaxants for, so that is probably what kicks into overdrive when I panic. I didn't go into full wailing, which is good - I have a classically trained voice, and they would have been able to hear me beyond the sales floor to outside the building.

[@rebeckajarl3934]

I so relate, what can, CAN help me not always are if a person I know, trust and know will do this. Physically guides me to a calm space where I can calm down and orient myself to this chaotic place. Lots of time and space guarding me from the space. But important do not surprise me or touch me in a way that its "no touch zone". Water are so good. Yes agree with give me time and space. Let me put my audiobook on and watching nature photos or videos.

[@rebeckajarl3934]

And I could relate so much that this video triggered that anxiety a bit. That is not a bad thing I say this to experience how accurate your explanation feels to me.

[@hcf1264]

When I shop at the store I get way anxious- the prices yell at me and I can’t choose. Anything. I’m constantly adding things up, comparing cents. This video made me smile. Good one ☝️

[@pancakeboi6797]

I work in a grocery store and I get overly anxious often when someone asks me to go to someone for something. At first I often mute it out and when they repeat themselves I feel kind of judged but then I eventually do it but it’s kind of reluctant. For example some customer forgot they’re items and as they were walking out my coworker told me to call them and it felt kind of uncomfortable and I’m also not good at remembering names and faces so it was super awkward to approach them and I just felt really judged.

[@Darvit_Nu]

Yeah yeah! The lighting gets intense, it gets hard to breathe, shaking, feels like everything is closing in and getting too close... I want to ball up and disappear. (This is why I wear a feeling communication band!) I have been unable to verbally communicate at times. Being around a lot of people - particularly in mixed groups that include extended family - it gets really intense, overwhelming and I often come close to meltdowns because there are expectations from them vs people who don't know me at all and are just shopping and going about doing their own thing, regardless of my presence or absence. Loud noises immediately make me go totally ridged and I can't thing at all (other than frantically looking for an exit).

[@TheAspieWorld]

Yup yup I totally agree!! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@cristinagonzalez6591]

Your video makes me feel anxious.

[@SuperGingernutz]

I totally relate to everything you said in the video and I mean EVERYTHING, including the media stuff. I still suffer from it and it has been made worse by having chronic illnesses. In fact, my GP originally diagnosed me with Social Anxiety Disorder which led to a diagnosis of AS/ASD/ADHD/PTSD. Recently, I got an anxiety attack when I was at the launderette a few weeks before Christmas - it was a place I had never been to before, I didn't know the people who ran it and then there was the noise of the machines, dryers, the radio on and the bags of washing all over the place! I had to go outside to catch my breath. Also, pubs and restaurants figuratively tie my guts into a knot with anxiety and sensory overload - especially when it would people I worked with.

[@TheAspieWorld]

Oh man that sounds dreadful :( sorry you had to endure that!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@Megan-we7kw]

Great video can totally relate

[@liamwilson5152]

Megan Buckroyd same

[@TheAspieWorld]

Thank you!!

[@liamwilson5152]

The Aspie World you’re welcome dan

[@Satanprincess666]

I relate to everything really with my autism. Also have uncontrolable agorafobia right now due to extreme paranoia but i get help 😁 thanks for the video greetings from the netherlands!

[@jonquiathomas6685]

I thoroughly your videos, Daniel.

[@g2393]

These scenarios make me anxious lol

[@kylewoodcreations]

Wow. That does explain 99 percent of my anger. And regrettably hitting myself. Mostly in the past. Removing myself from the situation and deep breathing is how I have gained control. I find myself asking for repeat information almost OCD like just to clarify my memory is correct and has not "jumbled" the memory into an incorrect form. I just hate it when I get a memory wrong or inside-out.

[@user-us7vw3yq8p]

I can't explain it. Always sounds lame. But if I get abandoned in the supermarket (ppl like to test me which hurts and infuriates me) I will notice the music get louder as I panic about who will come round the corner, and I have to run after the person with me. X

[@gigischaumburg4289]

I struggle with this daily...

[@DavidJVMusic]

I think my anxiety is usually "social" but sometimes general. Like, In a store I am not familiar with it will get to me but if I am familiar with the place then mostly, I'm ok.. Public transportation bothers me, buses, I hate buses. A new busy city totally messes with me. If someone is with me then I am usually ok. lol, "running a marathon Naked in the cold with the flu..". lol I didn't know or understand that this was anxiety until I watched your videos explaining it. Thanks!

[@stevenwillians9665]

I do like your I have social anxiety do agree

[@FreshVernel]

I know I can't take the anxiety away but maybe I can help by giving a little insight: I work at a drugstore and there also as a cashier. Honestly when a costumer doesn't talk to me, only mumbles or is obviously uncomfortable I maybe wonder for a second about them and then move on. That doesn't mean costumers don't matter to me and I certainly try to make them feel good but I don't analyze their behaviour, think or even talk about it either.

[@SoniaJbrt]

When my daughter goes with me to the shops, she holds my hand like a toddler would. I have masked my social anxiety with talkativeness because I am genuinely imterrested in people. I am nervous the whole time, but its like research and that calms me down a lot. But my daughter (13 years old) acts like a shy toddler, cause she is totally overwhelmed by the noise and the people. She gets into this flight mode, don’t answer a simple hello. And sometimes she would just stand still, not willing to go another step. She didn’t tell me that she dislikes going to the store so much, but the other day I asked her, and now its just me going alone. She likes going to a restaurant, but we are very lucky to live in a quiet, small town. So we would go as a family, the four of us, early in the morning during the week. We can do that because I homeschool her and her little brother is not in school yet. That is ok with her, if there are two or three tables, including us, with people. But she prefers to sit in the outside seating area. Thank you for this very informative video, now I can help my daughter a lot more. She is extremely intelligent, but social anxiety caused that she learned nothing at school and got so bad that her apendix got infected and had to be removed. That is when we took her out of school, and started homeschooling. I get the same anxiety over cleaning the house. Maybe a little OCD there. But if it is fairly tidy and clean, I have taught myself to relax and rather concentrate on the interrior decorating I did and love rather than another dirty fingerprint on the cuppoard or something. It helps to try and teach yourself to shift your focus from everything and everyone around you and think of all the fresh fruit and veggies you are going to buy. Focus on the architecture, if its nice, rather than on all the people making all that noise. Also helps if you go with an attitude of entitled, that you have the right to be there, you have the right to the shopping cart that works best, you have the right to the most quiet till point, etc. That helped me a lot. And people perceive me as very friendly. Its like the anxiety and entitlement weighs each other out.

[@louisedavis1379]

I think depending where u r on the spectrum your anxiety will be different from others, that's what I have learned so far. My anxiety feels like it's suffocating the air out of me, my head starts to spin i'm sweating, feeling sick, which is why I avoid busy places, queue's, Tesco's. out of my own choice I have no friend's I love being on my own, it equals no meltdowns.

[@louisedavis1379]

@Nikki Bentley Is My Angel Yes there is a spectrum for Asperger's just like there is a spectrum for those with A.D.H.D, how about u do some research 1st b4 disputing what comment I have put!.

[@louisedavis1379]

@Nikki Bentley Is My Angel idk where u where diagnosed but we r going to have to agree to disagree, as the person that diagnosed me said there is and defined it to me, maybe age plays a part in this..

[@louisedavis1379]

@Nikki Bentley Is My Angel I also have both..

[@louisedavis1379]

@Nikki Bentley Is My Angel I'm 40, and was diagnosed at the age of 20, y don't u ask Dan if there's a spectrum, or a professional in Asperger's, seeing as your pulling me up on my comment.

[@louisedavis1379]

@Nikki Bentley Is My Angel ok not every person who has Asperger's and/or have a.d.h.d are the same, we may have similar traits, I know that every person is different but not every person with A.S.D and/or with A.D.H.D is the same, with A.S.D u have low functioning and high functioning, we have some that r in between the high and the low which is where the spectrum comes into it, it's the same with A.D.H.D they have high and low functioning and those in the middle or some in between the middle and the high functioning. we r going to have to agree to disagree on this one as we have bin each given different info when diagnosed.

[@pokelector3577]

Hey Dan, I do have anxiety. And autism but I’m a picky eater, and the only food I like is dry. And I hate mushy things such as mashed potatoes

[@AM-yj5jx]

My daughter went to hospital. For 3 days didn't go to eat, because she was scared, that they will look at her and judge her. After few days off school, she doesn't want yo go, because teacher in public will pay attention to her. So hard.

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[@Desh681]

Hm...is anyone here diagnosed with or suspect themself of having Alexithymia ? For a long time i was wondering why i don't relate to any of you guys, but after a bit research (and luck), i found a term thats linked to Autism that made me realize...shit, i actually _do_ have social anxiety, i just didnt realize it. Put through all the evidence, right from my own body language and my vocal tone when speaking in certain environments, and i am _definitely_ anxious, but my brain just wasn't linking it.

[@pw510577w]

I've never ordered for a group, not even family. If the toilet is crowded, forget it, I'll wait, even if my back teeth are floating. Every little detail, from the timing of getting ready, to what to wear, to getting there, to saying or doing the wrong thing. I don't usually drink which other people who do drink seem to find unconsciously off putting. When I do drink I tend to stop after 1 or 2 drinks. Alcohol does have the same effect on me as other people, but I'd have to have a lot to loosen my up to the point of being relaxed and not anxious, which I don't like to do. Eventually I find that the anxiety switches to boredom, because I'm not having fun, I'm watching and listening to other people having fun, seemingly effortlessly.

[@gregzeng]

This KZbin video describes NEURO DIVERSITY. This is acquired as babies and children. Poor adjustments to these environmental pressures, at so young and vulnerable stages, had the adult effects shown in this video. Treatment requires my old professional skills: Social Work. Fitting the affected and target individual persons into a wider world environment. This KZbin production is one such wider world environment.

[@siljrath]

thanks. glad i watched this (i think i unsubscribed before because metal in face and those ear things can be a bit of a weird sensory trigger for me). had a minor blow-out (which spilled into an email) earlier regarding mega-stressors and a social worker visit. feeling a lot better about it after watching this.

[@madamdevilish]

Does anyone else find that agrophiba aswell as asperger's

[@liamwilson5152]

sandancer86 yep

[@user-us7vw3yq8p]

Yes agoraphobia closed in on me over twenty five years. I always had seperation anxiety from babyhood and I clammed up wanting to go out but unable to go to most places and not even go alone x

[@OtaconEmmerich]

Is that a thing? Recent selfRX here...Huge crowds are just NOPE without a lot of support...or at all some days.

[@user-us7vw3yq8p]

@Nikki Bentley Is My Angel the opposite, she was advised to leave me to cry by doctor. It was a experiment in 70s which the mothers didn't realise.

[@FutureAuth0r]

I’ve gotten a lot better at social situations but when I have to present anything in front of other people or an interviews, I will have a major panic attack. Out of breath, racing heart, full on crying! Before I even start.

[@anthonym9716]

Yeah I had agoraphobia like symptoms still do I used to punch doors walls and self harm etc which I don’t condone and also I’m currently waiting for chromosome 16p13.11 micro duplication test which is a rare genetic condition my daughter has it and has autism

[@sarahanggraeny5579]

How people with ASD can eventually respons to a certain person who talk to them with so many distortion (visual, auditory, etc)? I'm wondering whether the distortion is still there or its gone (feels more calm) when you guys give some respons when people talk to you?

[@jennifernybergpixie7958]

This so much

[@tntscreationsandrea806]

My 16 yo son says his body vibrates when he is around people. People who he is around more often he says it isn't as bad and people he isn't around often he says it is really bad.

[@jamesasimmons]

How does the hyper focus work along side the ADHD ? They seem to conflict but that might be due to common misconceptions of ADHD

[@TheAspieWorld]

They do!! But there is a video I made on it kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4vLgq2ia853e6c Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@minoutikana2029]

Can it be that an autistic person doesn't really know what exactly causes the nervous and anxious feeling they have in these situations ?

[@ehowiehowie7850]

I'm thinking I've got asd AND ADHD

[@SoniaJbrt]

Me and my daughter have this strange anxiety of being alone at home. We both want to go with, visit family and enjoy visiting family, but she prefers to rather stay at home, but never alone. How does that go with social anxiety? Is it just a fear of being left all alone? I can never be alone. I have to have my family, or at least my kids with me. As for shopping alone, I know they are waiting for me in the car, so not really alone. Could you explain this fear of being left alone?

[@SoniaJbrt]

@Nikki Bentley Is My Angel English is not my first language, but thanks.

[@m3linavazqu3z7]

I hate going to the stores and people say how can I help you ik they r trying to help but some people don't want. One time I freaked out at the mall I went inside of a shoes store bc they had chairs to sit down to calm myself and the lady ask me how many I help you in front of everyone else in the store yelling at me bc I was on the other side of the store as her. I just couldn't talk I couldn't and I didn't want to talk and be left alone so I just walked out of the store and as I walked out the store I heard her making fun of me really loudly to her other worker. One of the worst experiences going to the mall.

[@m3linavazqu3z7]

Also I think I deal with more social anxiety

[@TheAspieWorld]

It is difficult that’s why I love amazon groceries haha!! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@stephenl2571]

Well now I think I’m autistic with GAD/ SAD…

[@ljbutcher77]

I have autism and dyspraxia and a speech in-payment

[@TheAspieWorld]

Oh hey!! Welcome to my channel :)! Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).

[@turtleanton6539]

Wooof

[@gaymerkitty6240]

Why do your videos have so many ads?

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hey!! That’s odd they shouldn’t :/!! Thank you so much for the comment! Make sure you are subscribed and have the notifications turned on :).

[@CarolineCarnivorous]

There's 7 for me, which is insane for a 17 minute video

[@emmacassidy8482]

Is there anyway to get rid of the adds?

[@CarolineCarnivorous]

@@emmacassidy8482 Adblock or pay for youtube, I guess

[@ohohashley]

Thank god for self checkout!

[@teags3559]

Hiii

[@TheAspieWorld]

Hey!! ✋🏼

[@baldkea]

Hey bro, have watched a few vids, but this just was distressing to listen to. A bombardment of fast-spoken words which was by halfway-through well-speeding above what my brain could both take in or cope with. Maybe try to slow down a little and be more gentle towards us that need slower/gentler advice?

[@jacobrobinson2706]

baldkea try reducing video speed in settings

[@baldkea]

@@jacobrobinson2706 Tnx for that

[@FutureAuth0r]

He also has ADHD so he probably can’t help it.

[@eb1247]

Where is the video? All I hear is talking there's no video.

[@TheAspieWorld]

What? Refresh your browser there is a full video

[@eb1247]

I listened to it all yesterday, the picture is working now tho.. weird

[@lucac9823]

I usually get a lot of anxiety with my auspurgers and I get really stressed

[@shaqman8649]

i’m so sorry but your marketing for your course you’re trying to sell, is VERY aggressive. i can’t watch or focus on this video because of it. i hate that type of marketing and it shows who you are as a person. instead of having them recommend you to other people and being given tips, you decide to cater to desperate parents who want to help their kids get on a routine. really makes me question why you’re selling the course, if you’re entire goal is to help people and parents understand autism… but you’re selling a course to help them schedule? i don’t get it lol, help me understand :)