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@SwitchTVKenya4 жыл бұрын
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@carolineireri3224 жыл бұрын
@Joyce & @Benjamin, u doing a great job! Please talk about these two topics responsibilities in marriage and finances. Have seen a number of women, nowadays, are bread-winners and at the same time got all the responsibilities upon them.....house chores, nurturing the family.....yet the hubby is just there....kula kulala, kamovie, kula kulala......
@servelovemeditate46154 жыл бұрын
Ja ja 🌹💪🏿😘
@moderngrandma34524 жыл бұрын
If Benj happens to open a school, you will wonder whether education is based on ages. His knowledge will benefit all ages and some will be students forever because at every stage you will need his advice. In short, he is the best African asset in that profession so far. Keep informing....we give both ears....
@faridahfaddy69943 жыл бұрын
I also agree 100% I wish we had like 1000 Benjamin’s in Africa:
@MrZim2634 жыл бұрын
Zulu you are full of wisdom, I am learning a lot.... & Joyce you are a great host...shout out from Zimbabwe
@fengefenge15653 жыл бұрын
Say it again my bro I learn a lot from Him , wish him long life
@emmakaruri92673 жыл бұрын
Men hear this" even if you're making love to her,, value her dignity.She is not an object.
@tamiramutunga1554 жыл бұрын
Ladies ve a relationship with Jesus for he will guide u n protect and remember love doesnt hurt or boast instead love is kindness patience in short the fruit of the holy spirit.please God and put him first u won't tolerate such perversion
@bellaolum97683 жыл бұрын
Honestly I can't do some crap just to keep a man
@jackiesiime98654 жыл бұрын
MY MAN MENTOR FOR LIFE🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 FOREVER GRATEFULL FOR THIS SHOW
@SwitchTVKenya4 жыл бұрын
❤❤ Thank for watching and share with others to get inspired💕💕💕
@rachelwaweru84794 жыл бұрын
Good show, very informative, Benjamin is such a vibe.
@lucylucy31553 жыл бұрын
I'm always liking even before the video starts playing because I know kuna greatness ahead☺️☺️
@DjLiyayiCashvevo4 жыл бұрын
So encouraging words.we truly need to overcome sins in relationships. I vow to change my life.
@shakilarasti4 жыл бұрын
Very informative and a eye opening conversation 👌👌“baby is not a toy “
@bessiemunyori36104 жыл бұрын
Wow I binge watch all of his videos from switch coz it's so educative. am also learning a lot even on the part of raising children and marriage talks. Benjamin Zulu really puts things into perspective
@dorcuskencey68164 жыл бұрын
My siblings and I were raised by a *step-mum* (3 of us) life was unbearable, *she would pinch us on the thighs,ears and above elbow near armpits with bic lid *(kifuniko ya Biro)* or she'll just pinch and squeeze our skin inside her nails until you see the white colour inside our/my skin and blood coming out of there 😢 it was very 💔 and emotional...then she'll threaten us and tell us not to cry or..... * If my dad comes from work we will get double beating from him for what we haven't done😢 ,we didn't know if he was protecting us to avoid unnecessary problems from step mum? or he was enjoying doing it to please her.?*🤷 I personally don't have any good childhood memories, my sister and bro decided to run away coz they couldn't take it anymore and find their way to kisumu from NAIROBI to try and locate our biological mum which they did. They couldn't take me along with them coz I was the last born and they too were still young,I guess at that time I could be a burden to them... *Thank GOD we grew up*😊😘 Right now my kids who are teenage currently 14 &13, they're living with my dad but they do study in boarding school (form 1 and class 7) and I cater for everything on my on... I'll never allow my step mum to treat them as she treated us,she knows that I'm tiger who will bite for her cubs... *Now I'm a single mum of 2 teenagers,my kids means the world to me...I swear I'd kill if I have to...coz I've experienced how step parents treat kids who aren't theirs.* *In front of everyone, they will pretend to be the best....but behind that face there always darkness in everything they do and touch.* My fear right now is..... if I get a man by my side will he treat my teenage daughters as his,regarding him knowing they already have a Dad? My gate to open my heart is through my kids if they get along *"in future with the guy I'm trying to know well then I'll be at peace and know I'm DOING the right thing and on the right PATH too.* If not I've been okay being single, independent,paying my own bills so I still can manage coz I've been doing so for long instead of adding unnecessary problems in my life and can be avoidable,I'm I right?😊
@jemk60983 жыл бұрын
Yet men continue marrying many wives that makes life hell to other woman kids
@husnakh51363 жыл бұрын
Dahhh poleni....
@malobanerathokolo83703 жыл бұрын
Mr Zulu you always tell the truth i always watch your show on KZbin . sister Joyce your are great, I wish you come all the best, frm SA
@annezmresh81164 жыл бұрын
Following and making notes since June I thank God for this channel av really learned a lot part 2 Joice waiting
@flominahmucheke60874 жыл бұрын
So true,,,, if only most parents understood this!!!! Most of us would have a smooth time growing up
@wamsufitness32174 жыл бұрын
Joyce you're the best host💯🥰🥰
@balancedviewpoint74184 жыл бұрын
Well, well, well...............deadly things are many Joyce and Benjamin. They can't be 5 alone. Situations, circumstances, customs and norms bring out several of them. So one has to indicate from which point he or she is pointing out the issues. What is good to this community is normal to the other. For instance marrying off a 12yrs old kid in Britain is wrong but a Kenyan community practicing it is inconsequential. Marrying a single mother in this country kenya is kawaida but in other countries or religious faith is taboo. For that reason then, we agree we are talking about our country kenya to be specific. 1. A father/mother sleeping with daughter/son-in-law and siring a kid with them 2. A brother sleeping with a sister and siring a child together 3. A wife living peacefully with her husband then after bringing up the best kids and successful in their personal careers the man is told none of all kids was sired by your sperm 4. A father siring a child with a side chick and later that same chick gets into a relationship with his son in the city and later they learn that the first child belongs to the father-in-law 5. A man getting into a side relationship, gets a child with that chick and later discover that that same woman is his biological daughter he sired with a girlfriend and gave her money to abort but she refused and successfully delivered but the sperm donor has never seen the kid. 6. A father molesting his own biological kid and threatens her to death if she ever mentions. 7. Mother in law coming to live with her daughter at the latter's matrimonial home then become a co-wife with the daughter, later she gets pregnant by the same man that is married to the daughter so both of them gets children from the same husband cum son-in-law. 8. A wife living with brother in-laws and sleeping with them interchangeably with husband then gets pregnant but doesn't know who between the brothers impregnated her. She ends up getting mixed children from both brothers. 9. A single mother getting engaged by a man that she never told she has a kid and that guy passionately talks ill of single moms and bustard kids. She then decides to eliminates that innocent child in order not to lose the good guy. 10. When a man gets employed by wealthy aged parents to take care of them and they do everything for him. In their will they indicate that when they die, the wealth should go to the man. They keep living healthy and he gets restless and decides to end their lives so that he takes possession of all the wealth in a hurry. 11. A lady is engaged to Mom's boy and the Mother to the only son is that narcissistic type. She had invested heavily but for some reason she hates this girlfriend to her son. They then scheme to eliminate her so that they marry and take possession of the vast estate she build.. Sins of passion and love are many in fact. Because, it is by the same sins that relationships or marriages break. Some of them are top secrets that are never told till parties go to the grave. Due to many challenges and changing times to so called modernity, many ills/sins are committed to validate or invalidate personal interests. It is selfish interests that drive circumstances to be what the ebd results become. So, it is hard to single out just 5 sins out of 40 million inhabitants of kenyan Republic or billions of population across the world
@annezmresh81164 жыл бұрын
Following closely this is nice
@balancedviewpoint74184 жыл бұрын
@@annezmresh8116 🙏
@amashbaibe83614 жыл бұрын
Why this long story all he need for now and is support not a book writer
@bellaolum97683 жыл бұрын
Well obviously they are many, but they can't all be addressed in this short programme.
@Kouloves-294 жыл бұрын
Love your show. Benjamin is AMAZING 😉
@shirokarume94644 жыл бұрын
Wow wat a show and important tips being said by this bold, composed, open, courageous and wisdomatic man. I really love wen I see him in the show bcz knowledge dat has never been told anywhere else will flow automatically. I also love the fact that wen the show ends he always request to say his social media handles so that people can reach him and ask for help. I thank God for bringing him in this amazing show snce av learnt alot especially through relationships. Kudos brother Zulu and God reward you for your help.
@caramel92443 жыл бұрын
I just love Benjamin & Joyce dual! 😍 Two inspiring & highly wise individuals 👌🏾 Maximum respect to u both
@tizifadaka92834 жыл бұрын
Please please kindly consider adding English subtitles
@kingpharaoh69814 жыл бұрын
My mom abandoned me because she was getting married and the husband did not want me, am successful now and they want to meet, I hate her to death because I went through hell.
@keziahndondela17643 жыл бұрын
Please forgive them
@jaineebito26613 жыл бұрын
Sweety, am sorry U r feeling that way. I am asking U to step out of the bitterness U r feeling and set your self free, its not yo mum u r hurting, its you. Forgive her and pledge to be better than her to your children n others..God Bless you.
@zunaiandre23413 жыл бұрын
No dear, hating her is hurting you.Ask you what are you benefiting by hating her.
@lavenderflowers10753 жыл бұрын
Please forgive them so that you may finally have peace. It will also free you from hate that may spill to other innocent lives. However, you don't have to meet them unless they have changed
@nyembsafric13 жыл бұрын
Forgive but they don't need to be in your life if you don't want them
@kikiannette-3 жыл бұрын
Benjamin you're doing a very good job..keep up
@mw78823 жыл бұрын
Five Deadly Sins in A Relationship 1. A partner that is abusive to children in the relationship. Children must come first. 2. Not being financially independent at all by being totally dependent on a spouse makes you vulnerable. 3. Not taking parenthood seriously. 4. Sexual perversion. Do not be reduced to being a thing due to low self-esteem to please a partner in a sexual relationship with a partner. Maintain a connection with your children and communicate with them to be aware of any sexual abuse of children in your home. 5. Disrespect.
@TinaKai254 жыл бұрын
There's nothing wrong with stay at home mums. It is a luxury for children to have a full-time parent who nurtures their development.
@emmanuelmwangi25143 жыл бұрын
learning alot frm this topic.Great show guys.I REALLY MISS JOYCE.come back to the show.😔
@timewithruth4 жыл бұрын
You are teasing us with only showing us half 😂, love the wisdom! @Joyce I need a shop in your wardrobe, beautiful outfits
@Gichuki-Muchiri4 жыл бұрын
You should have Mr T here.
@paulinekanyanjua61274 жыл бұрын
Part 2 Joyce
@SwitchTVKenya4 жыл бұрын
Stay tuned for part 2 which will be up 😊😊😊
@joanmacharia4 жыл бұрын
Yes please
@candyphillipchipopa78794 жыл бұрын
Always here to learn 😍🥰👏🇿🇲🇿🇲🇿🇲
@Marykitchenke4 жыл бұрын
I don’t agree 💯 I almost lost my last born daughter because of neglect by Housegirl we are not helping stay at home Mums by judging them. And that statement of what if the husband dies is neither here nor there we have seen cases where two parents died the same day, if you are a stay at home mum be encouraged I have taken care of my children till they were of age and now am facing my life I don’t regret any bit of staying home to take care of my children.
@lucynjogu90394 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I chose to stay with my child and do crochet from home. I will do that formal work only when at peace with idea of leaving her under someone elses care or she grows up
@SylviaLewa4 жыл бұрын
I agree. He should not attack stay at home moms. It makes him seem ignorant
@Marykitchenke4 жыл бұрын
lucy njogu hugs mami you are doing great mama motherhood is a great and rewarding job may you enjoy the fruits of your sacrifice ❤️
@marienafula84174 жыл бұрын
@@lucynjogu9039 I may have gotten him wrong, but I think he meant even if you stay at home, have some source of income however little, like you say you crotchet, which is amazing, because some stay at home mums (not all) are rendered vulnerable because of depending on one person and if that income is cut short the mum still suffers. I think this point really makes sense to a single mother who knows how scary it is not to have a source of income when you have dependants
@findinglela4 жыл бұрын
Same non working mums are highly likely to be divorced. Life then turns for the worse. Have an income however small. You never know when you'll need your OWN money
@gracep90603 жыл бұрын
👏🏽❤ children are vulnerable, lets pay attention to them.
@gloriatoo223 жыл бұрын
Looking beautiful joyce,hi to Benjamin
@rispergeke41814 жыл бұрын
Wooow that was a profound discussion. ..Thank you.
@janewangui94194 жыл бұрын
Waoh so encouraging kudos guy
@keziahndondela17643 жыл бұрын
I have a step mother and she used to abuse me physically and mentally. That's why I wouldn't want to be a step mother to anybody in future.
@jaineebito26613 жыл бұрын
Hey Kezie, am glad U came out alive and strong. Do u see that God has a purpose for your lives....I challenge U all to make sure that U never treat anyone that way simply because U went thru hell.....A blesed n happy life ahead.
@rmueni51674 жыл бұрын
I wonder if Benjamin has a you tube channel?,,, I really enjoy his lessons
@bellaolum97683 жыл бұрын
Follow him on IG and Fb
@numbernon67793 жыл бұрын
Yaa some step parents are wicked, I witnessed that
@princessann37603 жыл бұрын
U r such a genius guy,,,,,,y r men not like u though
@njerirahab58064 жыл бұрын
Oh my,what depravity!!! Ways of old never lose taste.
@joskyshams47584 жыл бұрын
May the Lord help His people
@londiwengema51003 жыл бұрын
Hi Benjamin, I started dating a the age of 27 and have been with the same person for 3 years. Im turning 30 and he is not financially ready to marry me. We've been living together and I decided to move out since it was against my principles to stay together. I've incurred heavy debt in the relationship due to money loaned and invested in trading and keeping up with the bills since my partner hasn't been employed for a year. I only moved out when he got the job but then he threw so many tantrums because of me leaving. I don't know what to do
@befree95799 ай бұрын
hows things now?
@londiwengema51009 ай бұрын
@@befree9579 I left him long time ago- I'm happily single and stress free
@carolinekianira49164 жыл бұрын
I need your advice please
@vicky79132 жыл бұрын
Joyce
@bellaolum97684 жыл бұрын
Wow!
@vicky79132 жыл бұрын
Joy
@bancypius69193 жыл бұрын
Still learning a lot from you👌👌👌
@dorcasongayo25344 жыл бұрын
iam actually a stay at home mom and iam proud that . are you in way saying depending on your husband is a sin ?
@klmno90654 жыл бұрын
What if he dies? God forbid! Dear, the proverbs 31 woman is a working woman.
@klmno90654 жыл бұрын
He said you can even work from home to at least earn something small.
@cikuciku23554 жыл бұрын
Please don’t be proud of it especially in this modern day world.If you still young and energetic work,the current world requires both partners to work and help one another,you cannot compare the current and expensive world to kitambos.
@annewanjuki77804 жыл бұрын
No it’s not ..your putting yourself in a very risky situation .
@vivienwanjohi17464 жыл бұрын
He says you empower yourself and have some source of income for yourself
@blandinamnyinga83183 жыл бұрын
which man or even person w'll be special or above my children?no one for sure.
@carolinekianira49164 жыл бұрын
Hi,Benjamin i have been in a relationship for 13 years with two children and the man is still not ready for marriage.
@leamontoweh7154 жыл бұрын
Use common sense. After 13 years and 2 children what is the incentive for getting married. Realistically you're trapped and you're now a servant not the master in the relationship because you can't and wouldn't leave now.
@ivylauraorwa96934 жыл бұрын
Surely sis 13years..... Na bado unangoja ndoa... Never if that man really loved you and wanted to be with you.... Ungekua ushaolewa kitambo ..dont give up.... That man trapped you.... Upgrade your self... Love your self... Be there for your kids not only physically but emotionally
@joannjeri5914 жыл бұрын
Are u serious.......there is something wrong with you...what are u waiting for?? So he can have kids with u but he can't marry u ...wow....
@ivylauraorwa96934 жыл бұрын
@@joannjeri591 I agree with you 100%
@diplomatdiplomat28004 жыл бұрын
@Ndirangu I don't agree with your position about marriage. If he does what married people do (e.g. having children), he should go ahead to marry the lady to give legitimacy to their situation. But you're correct about no guarantee of happiness. True happiness is only guaranteed in Jesus Christ. Are you aware that Jesus Christ loves you very much and deeply cares about you and you need Him? Give Jesus a chance to love you unconditionally as your Lord and personal Saviour.
@nancynzila12883 жыл бұрын
Kitu tu naweza ambia mtu ako na mtoto no asioleke juu ata kaa una job huyo mtoto atateseka ukiona.. shida kubwa uanza ukisha zaa wake Mambo nimepitia wacha tu
@personperson75924 жыл бұрын
💯
@demskyjane62754 жыл бұрын
As for relationship I don't know part am cause I think everyone have ever met always cheats on me and now afraid of falling in love buh I want to settle down please advise me what do I do