Sometimes When You Get Divorced You Forget The Good |

[@BlissfullBlessed]

Gary you are a true example of a good man. You were honest and giving your wife her props. Going through a divorce is hard. You are loving and missing your children. Pray that your relationships with your children can be repaired. Time waits for no one! Bless you and your family!

[@kennethmarshall7453]

The holidays will cause one to reflect on family. I applaud you Gary for speaking kind words and showing gratitude towards your ex-wife. A man that finds a wife finds a good thing, but a lot of times we can't see the forest for the trees. The stories you just shared certifies that she is the one for you Gary.

[@whitneyspencer1485]

Sounds like a man that realizes he actually had a good thing despite everything

[@brandiclyburn8014]

That's exactly it. And he'll heal once he embraces the choice he made and lawyers hatred fears etc of any kind it's what he wanted at the time No one can make us do what we don't want. It's what was in his heart at the time. Experience has been the best teacher to him now . But 1 thing he didn't do was count the cost. We can't control how someone responds or chooses to NEVER respond/interact again 💔 Heart breaking but true

[@TheELEASY]

You are one real G...not just because your name is Gary. I appreciate you being yourself and keeping it real with us. Thank you bro. RIP to your brother.

[@carleyfrazee9363]

I am going through it with my oldest kid right now. I just pray every night that things will be better one day .

[@WeThePeepHole333]

Hold On & Hang On Tight Mom! Things shall be greater later!

[@0709happy]

Me too 😢

[@LWNC]

He misses his family. ❤

[@Neffect371]

This is real I totally understand him

[@rev.caffiejeanetterisher8668]

And in particular Kenya!!!❤ and to know that she would hold you down if and when needed is a testament of her and not the other women and woman who you were dating. SMH!!!!!!🤦‍♀️

[@southerncalifornia970]

I don't think Kenya is a bad person! Hopefully yall can work things out and be cool again one day!

[@quecreations3244]

Hopefully, but the kids are now grown.

[@veniestagourdine3881]

I loved them together. I pray for them to at least be friends .

[@jwdathefax377]

@@quecreations3244Their comment didn’t have anything to do with the kids tho….🤦‍♂️😂

[@quecreations3244]

@@jwdathefax377 I was half sleep when I posted it 😁

[@blackqueen164]

Why would you she be a bad person?

[@MikeMorris-u3z]

Mr. Owens I would like to say as a younger man going through what you’ve been through I admire the hell out of you because like me after 32 years I was kicked to the curb hang in there you’re doing it right you’ve been a man about it I know it’s hard but from what I’ve observed from you over the years you seem to be a man with a good heart love your kids even your ex-wife we still see that so God is gonna take care of you it may take some time for everybody to come through God bless you Dog

[@tysams626]

I felt him in this clip!! I hope you and your ex work things out and get back to the love y’all share.

[@Baylorgrad]

This is such a Dope Message! I hope the kids take a closer look at what they do have- a FATHER that wants to be there, and reach out to mend the torn pieces of yalls relationship. But dont stop tryna fix it if they dont reach out… theyre waiting for u! 🙏🏾👊🏾

[@jasonvahl9770]

Thank you, Gary. My ex and I split two weeks before lockdown in '20 and this hit hard.

[@ramonawilson9361]

Same and still tough...but working through it by taking care of myself.

[@walterharris6311]

Gary that’s so cool that you told that story about real life ❤❤❤

[@DarniseMartin]

Love this. Let's normalize positive stories about ex relationships. Every breakup doesn't have to be horrible. And hey, I'm from Cincinnati too!

[@Cyril_P.]

I used to be that kid 30 yrs ago, and as that kid, I wouldn't have had positive feelings for a LONG time towards my uncle for not wanting me. But as a 43 yr old father, I understand why you made your decision Gary.

[@c-light7624]

It takes a lot of introspection and awareness to get to this point. The healing has begun and your family will join you on the journey if they want the same outcome you do. Many of us can learn from this, and sharing your perspective can allow the rest of us to reflect and think of others just as kindly. Especially during our season of gratitude. So thank you and I hope that you and yours experience peace, understanding, and forgiveness.

[@brandiclyburn8014]

Amen 🙏

[@SEA_BLK]

You and your kids will be on good terms again soon. To some degree, they'll need to experience life, let em, but be there when they're ready. even if you gotta bail em out of a jam, don't make em come hat-in-hand, just be ready to lead with grace and your heart.

[@supernaturalinc]

I needed this Bro. So many men go through this. It's been 10 years for me now. Dads deserve just as much of a relationship with their children as a mom does. Anyone who manipulates a child to pick a side is a different kind of evil. The lies and venom that are STILL being spewed are just asinine. But, KARMA and time, always wins

[@oniseikeji6023]

Karma doesnt always win ... in the real world

[@rondas7772]

But God, not karma. God will touch her heart

[@VANITYISFARE]

She didn’t manipulate her grown kids to not their dad . They saw how he moved on and was with other women and decided not to have a relationship with him anymore . His children are in college

[@hilltop565]

​@@VANITYISFAREYou know damn well women corrupt their children to go against their father. That's a fact. Stop making excuses for that devil women and hold them ACCOUNTABLE!!

[@JustMeB729]

I don't believe your kids are against you because of your ex-wife. I just believe that they are hurt and feel betrayed. They will get over it. They just have to grow up a little, and continue to see that you love them regardless.

[@keishaphillips3659]

Great tribute to Kenya. Hope your family can heal

[@sharonkaysnowton]

Gary- I am glad to know you and Kendra had good times. When it was good, it was good. When it was bad, it was bad. Hopefully, you will always remain friends due to your children. Be blessed.

[@so_hollywood8957]

Kenya….

[@sailorgirl4life197]

This is a show of growth, hopefully both of you can have a cordial relationship from this point forward.

[@Doreme50]

Because, that's How You Do..A Class Act..Thank You Gary..You Are LIved..❤😊

[@darrylpaine906]

Well spoken Gary. Go get your wife back bro. We can all see you miss her

[@Mimi-cg2cw]

They're not Ashanti and Nelly..she said terrible things about him. Break up and move on....

[@lynchsc420]

@@FG-xc5qj Things is there are things women can do that men just can’t see past. Better to have these fond memories and stay apart than to grow bitter together.

[@ly3998]

He cheated on her what do you expect her to say good things

[@suprememedjai4433]

​@@ly3998 he said he didn't cheat. He filed for divorce because he said the marriage wasn't working for him anymore.

[@Koko3op_CeeCee]

He’s also engaged to someone else and has had twins…

[@jennifergrant5268]

I am so proud of you Gary. You are a big person. The better man. It will all work out. Just keep pushing positivity and ❤. Jennifer Barbados 🇧🇧

[@feleciaclemons5074]

This is very grown up of you!❤

[@adamcgill1211]

I remember when I started following you on youtube. I wondered what happened. I'm glad my initial view of you is still good. I always enjoyed the post of you and Kenya. I haven't viewed any negative posts. I was sad to learn of the divorce, you guys looked "ever after." That's life. Don't know how much hurt, but reconciliations are good. There is still love and respect.

[@brandiclyburn8014]

Yes I would have never imagined. I was shocked and sad for them

[@ronnieam33]

The best part about NOT bad-mouthing your EX during a divorce is eventually emotions will level off and the guilt of what you might have said during the heat of them moment won't weigh on your mind.

[@brandiclyburn8014]

And won't add to the other person not wanting to deal with you again For me I refused to commit adultery kept my ring on until the dotted line was signed. Continued to make his over night lunch for work. Never changed the locks. Honored the rest of my vows the best way I knew how while hurting but I know still to this day I will reap a great reward

[@ChanceJolivette]

prayers for u. hope things work out, and it's very mature of u to bring up good times or at least good qualities of a person, too often people throw those out the window

[@terridominguez8209]

We are imperfect people Thanks for sharing......tears😢😢😢

[@69Fabulosity]

Listening to him talk it's interesting bc I remember a woman saying u never want a man to only ❤ ur acts of service versus loving the memories of how u were together the ❤ between yall...

[@hollyhaywood3644]

A lot of times, some partners forget what they have until they are gone. The partner is taken for granted. When a partner cheats, it seems exciting and new. But when you take a step back and see what you lost, you have regrets and what if. The loyal partner, starts to question did their spouse really love them. They want you hurt just like you hurt them. It's a sad ending for a love story and family. Time does heal things, but you NEVER forget and will never open up yourself totally to that person again. You can let go of the anger, but the trust is gone. You know your prince/ or princess is capable of disrespecting you with no problem. You don't just forget that. But you can release the anger you have for them and wish them well.

[@brandiclyburn8014]

Well said

[@CarolMeeks]

Excellent

[@bigal724]

Gary....yall was together to long not to have something good to say about Kenya! It's a great thing that you are in a good place to be able to share it.

[@momnificent2199]

Beautiful testament to your ex and her amazing capacity to love you and your family. You both are great people, and I wish you both the best!

[@TGBTGAlways]

Hopefully forgiveness reigns and healing can take place. If you were meant to be you will be. Love ya Gary! Keep the faith

[@rondas7772]

The main problem is, men typically realize this when it's too late. Men take their family for granted bcz women put up with so much for so long, that the man is really heart broken when she leaves. And everyone knows when a woman's fed up, there ain't nothing you can about it.

[@garyowencom]

That could be true. But I wanted the divorce. But ti often couples only see the bad in a divorce I’m trying to do the opposite remember the good also.

[@rondas7772]

@@garyowencom that's wonderful for staying positive in the difficulties of divorce, may you two have joy and peace, much love brother

[@msnutrients9399]

Hopefully, time and therapy will heal the open wounds for all parties. FORGIVENESS is a powerful decision that liberates the soul and heals broken 💔💔💔 Thanks for being transparent and respectful.🙏🏽

[@SMGPERFORMANCE16]

The problem with removing people from there places, things, location is we end up going back when we are done with the program. I relapse so may times until I “got it “ 5/5/22 water on the rocks for me. Sorry for your loss Gary, you’re a great brother and thank you for your service.

[@sharesecombs3931]

I pray things will get better for You and Your famiy, you both seem like really good people🙏💕

[@matthewmorris450]

I feel like we’d have been friends in another lifetime Gary. I’m decently successful and 41 and went thru a lot with my wife and kids. I had a friend who specially kept sending his daughter handwritten short notes everyday during and after the divorce because she wouldn’t speak to or see him. The notes went unanswered or responded to for years, but the daughter kept them. They have finally broke thru their communication barrier after years. One day you will get there. Keep doing the most human things you can to continually show love and care and concern. It may take years, but they will have a record of notes or texts or emails where they read them in secret or something and will come to a point of reconciliation. Stay up man!

[@anitachin596]

FYI as a family lawyer, when things end it will be ugly. Especially when money, property and children are being divided / resolved.

[@isabellebrn2224]

Sorry about your brother, may he rest in peace. I hope that you and your ex are civil to each other for the sake of your children!

[@thepotlifechannel3812]

You guys together are really stronger. I hope you guys realize this. May God bless you both.

[@hopemore5735]

It seems like this marriage had the classic 80/20 problems. May this be a lesson to those who want to end a covenant because the hot, passion is waning. Do you want to let go of all the peace and stability that is 80% of what life most needs?

[@NRQ-zv5bp]

Exactly

[@gilmoremccoy6930]

People can be good, kind, and loving until they are not. Stuff happens....😮

[@nisaroberts9059]

You are a true Man Gary Owen ❤it and U.😊

[@wearynottired]

I always encouraged and tried to facilitate a great relationship with the father, because that’s their father and they need each other. My mother did the opposite, out of pain of her own. We never could get those years back, but we matured and found it to be really petty. Hopefully, things will get better for your children and you. I always tell my friends, your response around your children can be detrimental to their healing process.

[@robinchapman5932]

Ride or Die.😔 "Beautiful." That's the kind of love that only GOD can put in place.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️✌️❤️💯😉

[@lindarobinson2104]

That's a great story. My parents divorced years ago, and it was the same way. They still helped each other for years after they split.

[@mikeb8824]

I wish more ppls would be this honest

[@bhydrated9829]

A...N...D... That's the WOMAN....YOU chose to Throw away?!!!!!

[@NRQ-zv5bp]

Yep.. People are giving him Kudos because he's saying something nice about her. This man did not have a one-night stand he didn't even have a weekend fling he had a full-on mistress by getting his back after all that love and support she gave. We all know the only reason he has a comedy stick is because he talks about his relationship with her his relationship with the black people etcetera. Even the movie she were in was mostly about black people. I'm married to a white man and I still see the foolishness with this man. And they're acting like he's so wonderful because he can give one good memory about her. If he gave a good memory about her for a year it shows what a fool he is

[@bhydrated9829]

@@NRQ-zv5bp thank YOU so much for responding to my comment. Really appreciated your insightful response. I'm so flabbergasted that he thinks there is anything better than a woman who held you down for 20 years and raised your offspring on such a high level in this disgusting system we live in . He mentioned his son doesn't feel the need nor pressure to even be all posted up on social media with even such a famous father?! And his daughter is in her zone getting an actual education and not out in these streets?!!!.... He will NEVER find another GEM like that again no matter what flaws he may have felt she had. Why?! Because they don't make them like that anymore hardworking ethical heart loving people are a thing of the past.You know my father told me when I was in the second grade "Don't marry young, they steal your youth, then throw you away... He then gave me the Master plan (his perspective of course) .....boy was he right!

[@letsgetitcannon1243]

Gary is the MAN

[@noconsentgiven]

Hopefully, yall can get back together...in a better way renewed❤.

[@erickiyoshiphillips2323]

As a drug addict i moved from oregon to florida i still found stuff over here. But got clean a year ago. Biggest fear is OD and having my family living with it

[@RessurrectionGraves]

This is such a vulnerable and mature video. ♥️

[@erikad2261]

Older kids pay more attention than we give them credit for. Actions mean more than words. No one with a heart in how he describes his ex wife having, in my opinion, would inflict pain on their child by involving them and causing to pick a side. That child most likely assessed the situation and came to their own conclusion. I would be pissed if my dad went and trashed talked my mom to the public at any point in time. Cause I don’t play about mine, regardless of who you are to me (cousin, aunt, her momma or my dad). Just my two cents.

[@fence22]

but it's ok for the mom to do that to the dad 😮

[@erikad2261]

@@fence22 Two wrongs don’t make it right. But you not talking about my mama and me stay mute or neutral.

[@user-ROBSTIME87121]

Gary, divorce is a hard thing to deal with but then it's a hundred times harder for the kids. I was the youngest of three siblings when my parents went through a divorce. At seven years old, I had a lot of hate towards my dad because I knew he was a player. Mom had a heart of gold and would get mad at if I said something bad about my dad. I refused to see him for several years but mom stood firm telling me that the problems were her and dad and had nothing to do with us kids, She would constantly say that dad loved me and my siblings and I needed to forgive him. Just as I was going to start coming around, we had a father/son week at the elementary school. The hate came out again because he wasn't around for this. Dad now lived five hours away so he just couldn't drop what work he was doing for me but that didn't stop the hate. My cousin was on leave from that Navy so he offered to go with me. It was okay but still wasn't the same. I was in my late teens when I finally started connecting with my dad. We patched things up while both knowing that we could never get back all the missed years. Dad was a P.O.W. and never got any compensation for this throughout his life so I was able to intervene in getting back pay and compensation. That meant he didn't have to work anymore in his later years. We were all on good terms when dad passed away and one of his doctors approached me at his military service to tell me that my dad would constantly talk about how successful I was and was sorry that he wasn't there for me while growing up. I hope it doesn't take that long for your kids to come around for you but I can tell you never give up on them. You might send them all the money they may need but in the end, it is you and your love what they really want. Your heart may be hurting now but I can honestly tell you that it may not be tomorrow or next month or even next year but they will lighten up and come around and embrace you. You just need to keep the love flowing for them during this time. I'm seventy years old now and just so you know, I still see my Navy cousin every week! He was there for me when I needed an adult man in my life. Good luck and God bless you.

[@smhart3278]

Gary you've said many times that you weren't happy in your marriage - and you wanted out of it. Even during therapy you wanted out. Your Ex didn't want to divorce - you did. You wanted to sow your roots by divorcing rather than cheating and that's the energy you brought into the marriage. You thought you could do your Ex dirty and your kids wouldn't be effected by your actions towards her. You are now reaping what you sowed, and you realize the grass isn't greener on the other side. When you do bad things you're supposed to feel bad about it Gary, so good on you that you "gave" her more $$ in the divorce settlement than you really had to. Good on you that you're remembering you had a die hard, all in good woman that you threw away along with your vow of marriage. Now do more than say "I would do things differently"...Now go to your children and your Ex and sincerely apologize to them for you not being the die hard all in person in the marriage. Apologize and own up to what you did and what you didn't do. Do that and be assured that 'this too shall pass'

[@toniaholmes280]

Gary remember in ng those times when her & him had each others back. He does still love a respect her. Everybody nakes mistakes, even when you've been married along time. Hope they can heal, and forgive each other.

[@ishmaelwilson6702]

Several things i can DEFINITELY relate to. It'll either improve you thru healing & learned lessons, or, it'll do the exact opposite. 👍🏿👍🏿💪🏿💪🏿💪🏿✌🏿✌🏿✌🏿 Gary O just got a new fan

[@MrsLympha]

Divorce is hard on everyone. But hardest on the kids. I wish your family ALL THE BEST. Kids get in their but feelings and want to live there until they go through something similar and then want understanding. It's a process that sometimes takes longer than some people have.

[@MSW1999]

I commend you for your honesty and vulnerability. Great video.

[@EF-zo5dm]

As a black woman i salute you

[@kiasams8715]

Smh

[@ReeeeeeUp]

I agree she would still show up for you if you really needed it.

[@JoeBeau718]

Believe it or not, society wants and expects a divorce to be nasty. Only people who win are the lawyers and the kids are the ones at a loss.

[@paulacyrusmcmeo3115]

Gary this is beautiful

[@fzaldrich8420]

I am happy to see you at this point in your healing and I hope that your ex is as well. Divorce is just a separation or change of status of your love. But in the end, can you still recognize and honor the love that you did share, can you remember your responsibilities as parents and can you rise to be the best humans that you can be in this situation. Peace and blessings be upon you both. Thank you for sharing your sentiments at this stage of your healing. Honoring the love and the person that you once loved by remembering the good parts is real and necessary so that you can also trust yourself to choose the next person who will be your partner. You need to realize that you did not make a bad choice with your Ex! You all simply grew apart.

[@jeannestrickland7027]

I've watched most of your comedy videos, and enjoy them all. However, this is definitely one of your best presentations.

[@sheilamcgee7101]

Stand up guy ❤️

[@gcchair7634]

I want Gary to reach out to his children and ex wife and tell them this…write them leave messages until you get through to them. After this don’t do this in public again… Handle your business Gary ! Much love to you and yor family.

[@keynolivia]

I hope one day his kids realize that he’s human.

[@robertmdevance1486]

You are a good guy Gray I pray things work out. maybe you guys will be back together again. I'm separated from my wife but it is my fault. It's been 15 years.

[@bluebellbeatnik4945]

I'm glad he's not longer taking the easy route of disrespecting his ex-wife. good.

[@gonzaloveloso2891]

If she mean everything to you? WIN her back as the last thing you ever do.

[@debrabradshaw4786]

I pray you and your family have a good resultful reconciliation 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@lyn8356]

Hey Gary just wanted u to know she also spoke highly of you as well despite the divorce.

[@rondas7772]

How do u know

[@lyn8356]

@@rondas7772 I saw an interview with her an another young lady. It was a very candid interview/ conversation she had

[@rondas7772]

@@lyn8356 ok gotcha

[@WILDANDPEACEFUL23]

Sounds like Gary has his regrets. I think he regrets meeting another woman and having babies with her that’s why his children don’t talk to him I’m sure. He has replaced them in their eyes. and I think if Gary had to do it all over again, he would not have divorced his wife they would’ve worked it out. I wish them all the best. He’s good people and Kenya is good people.

[@TLUV_FABULOUS_OVER_50_LIFE]

You still love and miss her. 😢❤️🔥

[@travislee1658]

I think Gary is the chillest most rational guy. He just seems like he chooses to analyze a situation prior to rushing to judgment. He doesn't come across as a brother that allows himself to be governed by his emotions. He's one of the few comedians who have an respect for the gay community I believe in that he said something on club Shay Shay about Gay guys just are gay or something Like that there was no judgment. He just seems cool

[@tonyarmstrong509]

You're a real one, Gary Real Truth USMC

[@luannadaniel5705]

Very nice tribute to your wife hope it all works out with your kids

[@stonerguitarist4690]

Nooo that's messed up bro we never leave anyone behind I was left behind

[@blackmenstandup1]

My wife and I fostered 19 and adopted 4 kids. Mr Owen, did u know if your mother or the kids mother wanted to see the lil girl, u could choose a neutral public spot. It doesn't have to be at your home. Its so all adults behave like adults. But I get what u saying tho. My opinion is your home would be wayyyyyyyy better than foster care. There is no politician that talks about fixing that ultra broken system. When teens age out they sometimes put them in another system (jail) to "fix" the system. America does not care about foster or adoptive kids. I know. Aight getting of my soapbox

[@boardsoso]

I don’t know anything about this situation, but at least from what I was able to gather, that woman loved you something deep. Pray you both can be in a better place.

[@alzychoze6591]

I have more respect for you as a human (always been a fan of your comedy) telling us this good story of your ex. May you both be happy. Sorry about the strife with the children. Hopefully y’all heal. It took 3 years for you to remember why you got married- and recognizing how unstable you were.

[@GaryDBrewer_SquareBiz]

Guardian ad-litum is a word you really don’t want to learn. It’s a word every foster parent totally understands.

[@Royal109618]

He's trying to get the alimony payments lowered

[@patriciajones4465]

I can see that as a man, you have matured and gained a man's wisdom. I will not try to encroach on your privacy, but I will strongly encourage you not to allow anyone to discourage you from having your heart open to Kenya. As a couple, you have gone through many situations, but that is life. You and she can work just as hard to achieve a recovery relationship. It requires humility and honesty on both parties. It is so worth the effort because you both want the best for your children(even though they are older) they desire to be united after all the emotions are checked. Applying honest communication can have positive results, please don't let others get in your pursuit to win your "family" back emotionally. They are worth the effort!

[@janetvanderbilt525]

Thank you for being real

[@mattrobinson2676]

Thank you. I needed to hear that GO

[@Allinmyworld]

You know i don't know you guys personally but both you and Kenya i was thought you guys were that celebrity couple that had each other backs. Like from your wedding and tv shows and just everything you could tell you guys really had a tight bond which is rare in Hollywood. I hope one day you'll both see you aren't bad people just maybe wrong for each other and that's ok. I still hope your kids will come around.

[@matthewstorey7049]

Tough situation man. I really think it’s on mom to encourage the kids to speak with their Dad. I know as a kid it’s hard to make sense of the divorce and you need someone to blame. Ultimately they will realize that it takes two to have a healthy marriage and no sole person was to blame. Sucks that Dad had to be ostracized in the process

[@MegaLockedown]

Gary, you bout to be on your Nelly and Ashanti vibe..spinnablock

[@danielbosco7408]

I'll pray both of you find your bliss Don't forget what made you both fall in love

[@valeriethomas4168]

Good stuff!! So true

[@AlegnaAjai]

If her side is accurate the way he treated her during the divorce didn’t match the marriage. I don’t know if he had another women in his ear or what but it was sad to watch the negativity because they seemed so positive that I would have thought if anything it would be an amicable split

[@afoga1884]

That’s what marriage is…at times it’s good and other times not so good. Everyone makes mistakes. Hopefully you can both be at peace and not have a drag out divorce or you can reconcile. You seem to still love her.

[@nobodyexceptme7794]

Real talk!

[@kimberlyanderson1013]

You da Man going this route!

[@tanisha7789]

I hate that y’all are at odds I really hope y’all can at least be freinds this is so sad

[@NativeofLasVegas]

That’s classy Gary 👍🏽 and thanks for sharing ❤

[@carmenmoorer7358]

Once you realize Kenya is not your Ex but your wife still, things between you two will begin to change and healing will take place . God doesn't make mistakes