Sound More Decisive When You Speak. Do THIS!

How to sound more decisive when you speak is critical for emerging leaders. People look to you for decision making. They want to know you believe in what you're saying. You need to convince them of this and learn how to sound more decisive when you speak. But, it's easier said than done. I find for most people the issue isn't making the decision. It's on how they communicate that decision to other people. And a lot of work generally needs to be done around sounding more decisive.
In this video, I guide you through a powerful communication switch to help you sound more decisive when you speak. You'll learn the phrases that make you sound indecisive. You'll learn why they don't help you sound decisive when you need to be. And, we'll discuss alternative things you can say to sound more decisive when you speak. These tips will help you at work and at home. Basically, they will boost your level of assertiveness so you can be more decisive with others.
Timestamps:
00:00 How to sound more decisive when you speak
01:33 Why asking questions are so bad.
04:06 Case study #1
05:28 What's wrong with this phrase?
07:35 How can you change this and sound more decisive?
08:36 Case study #2
09:57 What's wrong with this phrase?
11:13 How can you change this and sound more decisive?
12:35 Recap of phrases used plus additional ones
13:10 How you can learn to become more assertive
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[@DD-dv4pu]

You are a sensational mentor for speaking in public, your videos work as training sessions. A real tool for speaking in public with confidence

[@kararonin]

Wow! Thank you very much

[@0SCJustJohn]

The "What I'll do" phrase comes across bossy because you're telling others what to do when you don't have the authority. Instead, try "I can buy the ingredients" which softens it a little without being indecisive and without directly telling other people what to do (even if that leaves them with only one option).

[@jelisof]

Thank you, I bumped into this channel. I always get intimidated with well esucated people that I always seek approval from them. I’m binge-watching all your videos and hopefully it can help me with my leadership position and in my business. I get intimidated because my grammar is not that really good, that I still have to process what should I say first , and that keeps me from not speaking up as well. This channel will be a life changing for me. You will be youtube coach. Im a new subscriber.

[@kararonin]

I'm so happy you're finding these videos helpful. Having to process what we say so we can communicate clearly is a skill that anybody can learn. I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you, you can absolutely advance your skill in this area. There are a number of videos on my channel about communication and how to articulate well. Check those out. And thank you so much for subscribing! I'm delighted when each new person joins us! 🥳

[@randalldowling1068]

I have a team and have found myself using some of these question phrases with my staff. I will definitely keep your pro tips in mind to "level up." Thank you!

[@kararonin]

That's fantastic Randall! I'm glad these tips were helpful!

[@pleasestop1760]

Heard a leadership coach once say,respect before popularity,like this video,it rang true with me.Excellent content.

[@kararonin]

Respect is so important in leadership. Thank you for leaving your comment!

[@pleasestop1760]

The universe is happy that you exsist.Thankyou for sharing.

[@kararonin]

Wow! Thank you!

[@mandeepmandy7]

Well said Kara. You have given perfect example to differentiate between question and statement. Knowing this helps me more decisive.

[@kararonin]

I'm so glad to hear that Mandeep!

[@alp3311]

Thanks a lot Kara, great suggestions!

[@ginae.7422]

Thank you very much ❤

[@gamatogo]

Thanks Kara!

[@Dip0704]

Thank you

[@shreyamahareddy]

Thank You so Much. Much Love for all that you do!

[@ahv5457]

Thanks Kara. Giving examples is very helpful.

[@elizabethwang2.0]

Hi Kara, thank you for sharing practical advice and tips. I found the examples helpful in real-life situations. Compliments to your poise, elegance, and clarity!

[@daahircabdiguleed4270]

Tanks alote karironine

[@bhimpokhrel8386]

Absolutely great video Kara.

[@kararonin]

Thank you Bhim!

[@mandeepmandy7]

Perfect and simple examples Kara. Easy to differentiate now between question and a statement. Really helped me. Thank you.

[@kararonin]

You're welcome! I'm glad you liked this video!

[@lenaz5226]

Thank you , I find the examples very helpful

[@kararonin]

That's fantastic to hear Lena! Thank you for watching!

[@pleasestop1760]

Excellent information, Thankyou for sharing

[@kararonin]

Thank you very much!

[@rajukanojiya524]

Great video💞

[@kararonin]

Thank you Raju!

[@patriciabasden2703]

Would you find the statement, I am going to buy the ingredients, too assertive? I’m ecstatic that I’ve bumped into your page because I’m about to promote my book, and I notice, I come across not as confident at times. Overall, watching your videos is helping me to prepare how to be more confident in delivering my message concerning the topics a current owner or potential owner in an association should know before buying those styles of homes.

[@kararonin]

This statement is great! It's not too assertive at all. It can feel strange to speak assertively when you're not used to it. You can worry you come across as too assertive or aggressive even. But it's just because you're learning a new style that you're not used to. This statement is perfect! Good luck with your book promotion. It sounds like an exciting time for you!

[@mymotobns]

I have gone through numerous videos of Kara, each one of them has obvious essentials to enhance Leadership skills in one way or the other... Sharpening the axe,😂 best way to be ahead...

[@jrobinson8898]

Hi Kara! Do you know me??? Because it's like you're talking about me in your scenarios. 😄 But I'm so happy I have come across your channel. As a project lead, I didn't realize I was displaying some of these traits. Your videos are extremely helpful in helping me become a more effective leader. Thanks so much! I love your examples and fixes.

[@kararonin]

I'm so glad this video resonated with you J! I hope I can continue to help you in your journey to becoming a more effective leader!

[@AmmarIbrahim-ls8ko]

always the best girl 🌹

[@andreaalbero2885]

Hi, I lead a big department on a cruise ship, and sometimes I use rhetorical questions to get some tasks done. For instance, " can we please get this set up done according to our standards? I would like to have it properly done". How do see this kind of situation? Thank you!

[@robertkaram3591]

I found your video helpful and informative. I found the music too loud and very distracting. Please delete the music. Thanks.

[@margoomahony9565]

So many points are repeated multiple times, it’s difficult to stay engaged- just sharing my thoughts

[@ammardukhan4162]

What is about I prefer?

[@zakariyashakir4091]

Thank you for uploading those great videos,may I ask what accent you are speaking ?

[@kararonin]

Thank you so much for watching Zakariya! I'm Australian so I speak with an Australian accent.

[@zakariyashakir4091]

@@kararonin I thought you were speaking British! It’s quite close to British your accent😁

[@kararonin]

@@zakariyashakir4091 They are similar 😄

[@manikandank4607]

Do we need to inform the concerned ppl before? Dont need to see a surprise for them, when we make statement with out their approval?

[@thomasarmer7771]

Excellent video! The background music is annoying though.

[@pinkpastelstudio]

Summary: [00:26] 🛡 Indeciveness in work conversations makes you look like you lack confidence in yourself, which in turn makes people question your capability at work. [00:40] 🗣 When you don't sound decisive or confident in what you're saying, other people don't believe in you. [01:09] 💡 Decisiveness is critical in leadership. It projects confidence and charisma, essential traits of true leaders. [01:23] 🔑 Move from questions to statements to sound more decisive. Statements make you sound certain and confident about your direction. [03:11] 🛑 Avoid questions when you're sure about something. Put your statements out there assertively and confidently. [07:50] 🗣 Replace questions with statements to sound more decisive. Statements convey certainty and assertiveness. [08:04] ✅ Delegate tasks assertively, using "I'd like you to" instead of "Would you like to?". This shows confidence in your decisions. [09:11] ✅ Volunteer for tasks proactively, using "What I'll do is" instead of "Would you all like me to?". This demonstrates initiative and self-assurance. [11:17] 🔑 Replace "could we" with "let's" to sound more decisive. "Let's" implies taking charge and initiating action. [12:38] 💡 Use assertive phrases like "I'll tell you what I propose", "How about we?", or "I'd like to now" to convey decisiveness and confidence.

[@Sanlynnben]

I have always felt that when someone uses ‘perhaps’ - it sounds snooty. Why not just use ‘maybe’ which sounds more down to earth.

[@jyotirmaydeb3153]

I apologize Kara ma'am being honest this topic become little bit complex for me to understand.

[@kararonin]

I'm happy to help. The main point of this video is to encourage you to sound more decisive and less hesitant when you speak. Sometimes when we're hesitant, we don't want to be bold tell people what we truly want. We'll find indirect ways of communicating, eg, framing our desire as a question instead of an assertive statement. When we do this, we give the other person decision making power. In other words, we give them an option to say no. To avoid this, I recommend you use phrases like, "Let's...", "I'd like..." or "How about we...". The two case studies in this video will explain this process in more detail. But basically it's all about sounding more assertive, decisive and confident.

[@asifmuniruniverse7732]

Please don't divert my thoughts to other side

[@Doers1]

You make too much explanations outside of your main points and I always lost your main point all the time. I love listening to leadership skills and I have subscribed your channel many weeks and learn nothing from you. Sorry Myself. Wasting my time.

[@kararonin]

I appreciate your feedback.

[@eszterboczan9828]

Fabulous video Kara - I use those exact questions / sentences and then wonder why people walk all over me 🥹😟🙂

[@kararonin]

It's really common. But now you know which ones to avoid. ☝ Let me know how they work for you Eszter!

[@eszterboczan9828]

@@kararonin thanks 😊. I’ll put your suggestions into practice. Actually, I did today, remembering your video - instead of apologising to a co worker for not being able to make a meeting whose time she’d changed three times in one day (which is my normal way), I wrote back to her saying ‘let’s do it on Monday’. Your advice clearly works, I just need to keep practising 🌺

[@kararonin]

@@eszterboczan9828 That's fantastic! I'm so glad you're already putting this into action.

[@bhimpokhrel8386]

Hope to receive physical class and training from your home country regarding leadership, skills and communication. I will soon reach to Australia 🦘. I have been watching your channel since the pandemic start. Always meaningful videos. Appreciate for your effort.

[@kararonin]

I'm so glad you enjoy this channel Bhim! Thank you for watching regularly. It's great you're coming to Australia but I don't give in-person training at the moment. Only online. I hope the KZbin and /or Udemy courses will be enough 🤞