Why Your Team Doesn’t RESPECT You as a Leader (& What to Do About It!)

[@jenicemckenzie7164]

How about the Team members who do not respect you because they feel entitled and do not want to follow the rules? What about the emotional immature employees who sees criticism and guidelines as disrespect? What about those who are disrespectful because they are stuck in the old way of doing things? What about employees who are self centred? What about employees who are jealous of the leader? What about ungrateful employees? What of disrespectful bosses of the leader who turn the Team against you?

[@pinklobelia2389]

👆🏾All this right here! That’s what happens when the last supervisor let the team do what ever.

[@denadear]

Is this how you are treated by everyone you lead? If so, I see a common denominator.

[@jenicemckenzie7164]

@@denadear Please explain.

[@denadear]

I have watched the person who was named as our site lead not being treated with respect. And these examples that you described are the very reasons I see. While I think it's important to have respect in the workplace, I am not surprised to see that just because someone is in a leadership position, it does not mean they are automatically treated as such. Respect needs to be cultivated. You need to prove to people that you can be trusted and supporting.

[@kararonin]

So very true.

[@v.h.7180]

I treat the Team with respect. My colleague shouts at them and treats them poorly. They prefer her over me and I can't get over it.

[@louist7691]

This is it! People sometimes prefer sort of toxic leader, I find that hard to wrap my head around..

[@natesamadhi33]

Is your colleague someone who still delivers top results at work? I've found that alot people will still respect someone who's disrespectful if that someone is highly skilled, delivers results, and is perceived as "superior." Your co-workers may be seeking that person's validation/approval, because if they can achieve that approval, that will make them feel like they "made it" into the "cool kids" club. Its why Hollywood gets away with abusing/hazing their interns.

[@v.h.7180]

@@natesamadhi33 We both perform well. My colleague is seen as interesting and funny, due to talking in obscene language and slouching and talking over others in meetings. People do look for her approval, definitely. When she is around, people stop talking to me.

[@natesamadhi33]

@@v.h.7180 I see, I know exactly the kind of person you're talking about; that was the image I had in my head. This sounds like a personality-thing then; people probably just perceive your colleague as more "cool" and they want that approval from a "cool"-seeming person (I'm not saying you're not "cool", I'm just describing how they possibly perceive your colleague) The thing is though, people wrongly try to emulate that raunchy behavior thinking that'll make them "cool"---but I've seen some serious introverts who commanded the attention of the whole room while the extroverts were trying to impress **them** I learned it's not about who's the loudest or the funniest---its about who's perceived as the "strongest" and the most valuable to be around. There are many ways to embody that; its just that average people tend to perceive many "Don't Give a Shit"-type people as stronger because those DGaS-people [seemingly] don't need approval...seemingly. But you could still easily be funny & strong while being more reserved, but idk your exact situation, so I can't diagnose you.

[@louist7691]

@@natesamadhi33 Probably a charisma scenario in play then.

[@TheMarcosWilker]

These are valuable lessons if se want to be a better leader as we get the chance but in reality we don't lead, we are bossed by someone incompetent and dumb for the position. They don't keep their word, they don't respect the staff, they don't tackle problems, they create, instead, don't take decisions. It seems they give a shit for how we feel or think. They are not strong but they make us feel weak and demoralized. Their lack of moral and energy contaminates us.

[@eszterboczan9828]

I love how you always find very nuanced and very important topics, Kara! This is spot on as well, ˋunfortunately´ 3 out of 5 have resonated with me 😄, but it’s better to be aware if these. Thanks for the helpful tips on how to avoid these mistakes, too.

[@kararonin]

Thank you so much Eszter! Awareness is the first step. Then you know what areas to work on.

[@EpicDreamer_]

Thank you dear Kara! What I can say from my experience, is the fact managers are not people of knowledge. They usually use other people expertise and results to promote themselves, which is quite selfish and not a good leadership skill in my opinion. What about selective honesty from leaders, depending on the importance and position? For instance, respecting priorities and integrity of older colleagues managers and not new younger people who also work hard to be visible and noticed? Thank you for clear explanation on topics that matter!

[@kararonin]

Thank you for watching Ana! Yes, some managers do promote themselves but not their team. I agree, it's not right as the manager is successful because of the team. Giving credit where credit is deserved is really important in leadership. To your other point about respecting older employees or younger, both absolutely need to be respected the same.

[@azzyyy734]

You are a leadership gem!

[@kararonin]

Wow! Thank you so much!

[@veddwivedi6210]

Very lovely presentation and teaching ❤

[@LeNguyen-im8dm]

I used to be a manufacturing team lead for 3 years and everyone respected me for strong technical skills and good problem solving. Team members relied on me all the time and they couldn’t do well without me. I left the company because I was underpaid for my work contribution. Good problem-solving is very important.

[@denadear]

I think effective leadership teaches people how to not rely on the leader for everything, rather teach them confidence to rely on themselves.

[@LeNguyen-im8dm]

@@denadear You’re right, but it is not easy to do at some places. Some companies pay extremely low wages, which make people have little motivation to learn and do the work. Even though they have good skills, they still want to do minimum. The company I used to work for; it was very high turn over. Many people were in and out so frequently in every area. It is a bad company culture.

[@gettingphinenow]

This is excellent I’ve been guilty of several of these o er the course of my career,

[@evankaiser5767]

Big problem is people do not like direct language as they find it confronting. Taking an interest in their work is like being a micromanager in their peoples eyes and not being an enthusiastic lwader about their work. Having the tough conversations is like requesting them to find another to get the answer from another leader........"going DR shopping "

[@jenicemckenzie7164]

Spot on!

[@terrismith1990]

I make decisions , but I also ask my team to make decision a with me

[@kararonin]

It's important to involve your team when necessary. It helps them feel empowered.

[@evm6177]

Kara believe me I try not just at work even at home respect matters, will definitely take note of these key pointers moving forward. 🤓👍 Thanks you've been so much help lately specially with this topic.. Would love to hear more, Also hope to let you know how things transpire.

[@kararonin]

Respect is so important at work and at home, like you said. Thank you so much for supporting my channel! I really appreciate it!

[@tusharsharma7025]

beautiful! Great video. Much obliged.

[@angryfish9976]

I struggle with #4. I feel strong in every other aspect but horrible at this. I’m a young manager. The youngest in my fortune 50 company. It’s hard for me to crack down on grown men that have been in the business as long as I have been alive…

[@kararonin]

This can be difficult. Remember that you were put in that position for a reason. You have something on top of those other employees in your company. And you have a right to "crack down" on them if you need to. It will take practice. And it will feel strange at first. But, letting them keep doing the wrong thing will impact you more.

[@chinneynz7861]

I feel you.

[@IshimwePelerin]

Well said!

[@sauloshm]

Thank you 👍🏽

[@ibrahimassiri2773]

Thank you I have benefited a lot

[@kararonin]

I'm glad to hear that!

[@jopsonthabah8293]

Very inspiring 💪💪

[@kararonin]

Thanks Jopson!

[@furnogirma3232]

Thank You❤

[@kararonin]

You're welcome!

[@CoronaVirus-uy1cw]

Good job

[@lilabukvic4216]

How I can get personal gajdance from you? Im brutaly bullied on my work just because I have difficult to express my self in balanced right way. Last 24 year I suffer a lot.

[@kararonin]

I don't provide personal coaching sessions at the moment. But keep in touch via KZbin and I'll announce if that changes.

[@bhimpokhrel8386]

Nice video.

[@cyrilgeorge5644]

When a leader loses the Management's trust it can start a downward spiral of deteriorating leadership

[@kararonin]

Thank you Bhim!

[@kararonin]

It can. Trust is so important in every business relationship.

[@منصورعريبي-ح1س]

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[@prosensarkarfinancialadvis2346]

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[@shahshreeta]

Extroverts always gossiping and wanting a lot of attention to discuss their personal life.

[@kararonin]

True.

[@lilabukvic4216]

Thank you❤