Speak up! 3 ways to stop Doctors from blowing off your concerns

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These 3 tips will give you the confidence to speak up to doctors when you are blown off. You need to advocate for your health to get the best healing possible!
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0:00 - Intro
0:20 - Betrayal of trust
1:05 - No. 1: how to respectfully call out a surgeon
4:13 - No. 2: pen & paper
6:09 - Slow the resentment train down
8:05 - No. 3: call out the anxiety-frustration loop
Navigating the healthcare system can sometimes feel like walking through a maze. Ever felt like your concerns were brushed aside during a doctor's visit? If so, you're not alone. This video offers insight and practical strategies to ensure that you are heard, understood, and valued during your medical consultations.
First and foremost, it's important to understand that when doctors seem dismissive, it’s rarely due to a lack of concern or empathy. While there might be a handful of arrogant or narcissistic professionals out there, the vast majority of physicians are in this field because they genuinely want to help. Unfortunately, the current healthcare system, largely influenced by insurance company guidelines, places immense time constraints on these professionals, making it challenging for them to dedicate extended periods to individual patients.
That said, it's crucial for patients to not lose hope. Instead, we should focus on maximizing our interactions with our doctors. This video will delve into three essential strategies to help you get the most out of your doctor's appointments:
Being Truthful with Your Doctor: Honesty is the foundation of any relationship. By providing clear, concise information about your symptoms and concerns, you allow your doctor to make better-informed decisions, ensuring you receive the care you need.
Carrying a Notepad and Pen: This simple tool can make a world of difference. By taking diligent notes during your appointment, you not only retain crucial information but also demonstrate to your doctor that you are deeply invested in your health. It subtly communicates that you value their expertise and are an active participant in your care.
Managing Anxiety & Frustration: Feelings of anxiety are natural, especially when discussing health concerns. However, it's essential to recognize when these feelings shift into frustration, as this can strain the patient-physician relationship. By acknowledging and managing these emotions, you create a more collaborative and productive environment.
In a world where time often feels limited, especially in medical settings, every moment you spend with your doctor is precious. Empower yourself with these strategies to ensure that your concerns are addressed and your needs met. Remember, you and your doctor are partners in your healthcare journey. By fostering open, respectful, and effective communication, you can work together to achieve the best outcomes.
Watch on to learn more about these strategies, real-life examples, and tips to improve your communication skills with healthcare professionals. If you find this video beneficial, please like, share, and subscribe for more health-related content.
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[@95mudshovel]

"maybe you're a woman." thanks for acknowledging that we are more frequently blown off than men. it's tough out here.

[@ashleysmith9516]

I had my spine permanently destroyed by male doctors who were more concerned about my weight - and I'm not even overweight. Had to get my own xrays with a coupon from groupon just to force them to even look despite how visible my bones were sticking out of place and constantly dislocating/subluxing.

[@jeancariker911]

Women seek medical care more often than men, so maybe that’s part of it.

[@shaunp792]

I’m an African American female and I get gaslighted by some doctors. I even tell them my family medical history and some are still dismissive about my health. I say continue to advocate for yourself and if you can bring a spouse/friend who isn’t afraid to speak up especially when you’re too sick and getting to the appointment took all of your energy.

[@CreatureGirlInc]

Survive. Adapt. Overcome. I just give them a glare, then smirk and ask if they are "man-strating". (Moodier than usual/hormonal shifts. Which everyone goes through). Confused Pikachu face. People universally don't like it. But it does help people see how chalking up an actual issue to "hormonal"? Just sucks.

[@CreatureGirlInc]

@greengrace21 yeah....tried nicer ways and they were less successful. But if they see what I'm getting at it certainly opens up some discussion. Which is more nice.

[@blackorchid2180]

Went to my doctor with a continuously high pulse rate ... I was told it was most likely anxiety or stress ... this continued for a few months until he decided to put me on a Holter Monitor ... showed a few minor “incidents” ... still most likely “stress related” ... cardiologist felt the same thing but sent me for other tests ... long story short ... nearly 12 months later it was discovered that my “anxiety and stress” was a blockage in my heart which needed open heart surgery ... the drugs I now have to take are causing some debilitating side effects and keeping me housebound ... but again ... “anxiety, stress and mood” are the cause ... it is so easy for a lot of doctors to dismiss a woman’s health issues as depression and think anti-depressants will solve the problem ... I wish all those who read this health and happiness.

[@Hollyucinogen]

That happened to me, too. For 28 years, my doctors just kept saying, "It's anxiety", "You need therapy", and "You need anti-depressants". Then they increased my dosage to 2 times a day, then to 3 times a day and I still had those symptoms, so they put me in therapy (that didn't help), and then they switched me to atypical anti-psychotics (that didn't help either). I actually had to figure out what was wrong with me myself because they just kept saying that it was psychological. It wasn't. I have Hashimoto's Thyroiditis. Based on what I've seen, the medical community does this to women a lot (claims that all of their medical issues are psychological). I started bringing my Dad with me to all of my medical appointments afterwards. I'm in my 30s, I shouldn't have to do that. 😒 Edit: oh, and did I also mention that they occasionally stop giving me medication because they "just want to see what happens", until my Dad threatens to sue them?

[@blackorchid2180]

@@Hollyucinogen I am so sorry you suffered for so long before you were correctly diagnosed ... I hope all is well with you now.

[@AfroSnackey]

The only people more discriminated than woman in the healthcare industry are minorities lmao!

[@simon-515]

Going through this right now. I have burning pain in my lower back and both shoulders. Then it turns into musculature pain in those areas to the point I have to log roll out of bed and accompanied by violent migraines and shortness of breath. It feels like my entire body is inflamed. He wants to put me on antidepressants. I cannot take any that they gave previously tried. They affect my heart. So frustrated. Being bed ridden for days at a time is becoming ridiculous.😊

[@mdelorme3698]

So sorry to hear , the 2 commentators here, for the suffering, being snubbed by your docs and misadiagnosed..

[@gabrielsaad2785]

Dr K, I think Medical schools should include your videos in their curriculum.

[@heidimisfeldt5685]

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[@user-sr4sk7vd9o]

My understanding is big pharma decides/highly influences what is taught in medical school. Pls correct me if what I heard is wrong, but makes sense.

[@MandM-Fish60]

Doctors ignoring women is not limited to gyn issues. It can be anything and everything. I’ve talked with many female fibromyalgia patients who have complained about the medical community across the board blowing off their concerns.

[@mdelorme3698]

I am a female with fibro, and i attest to the truth behind your comment, i have experienced what you are stating..

[@POELLEN]

I'm also a female with fibromyalgia and possibly other autoimmune disorders and I've basically been written off by every doctor. I've been in contact with all they want to do is put me on antidepressants bunch of serious stuff with massive side effects. They keep telling me I have too many symptoms. I have to laugh every time I hear that I had one rheumatologist tell me when I was beginning to think that I had something wrong going on that it was because I was old and that I have hormones. Yes I understand that as you get older your body changes excetera but not with the symptoms I'm having. It's like they have absolutely sympathy in regards to quality of life. Its so absolutely frustrating😢😢.

[@trudymaenza9672]

Amen, yes!

[@robiny.4395]

It’s such a horrible diagnosis. My son has had Fibro for years and he’s 27 now.

[@robiny.4395]

@@POELLEN Most doctors are clueless about Fibro and how to treat it. I researched doctors in California, there’s a top doc in the SF Bay Area and one in Salt Lake City. Also, Mayo Hospitals seem to be finding success. I think an MD who’s a naturopathic doc might be better. There are so many underlying issues with Fibro. Diet, as well as parasites. One surgeon has some amazing studies, and the thought of parasites, even with MS blew me away. Her name is, Dr. Lee Merritt.

[@CoastieCastaways]

I have complained about being out of breath for 2 years and couldn’t even lay down to sleep. I have also commented about my high blood pressure. I have horrible family history on both sides of family. My dad and brother both died at age 50. I finally took control and saw a cardiologist on my own and had a 80% blockage in LAD and another 50%, 30%, 30%. I got a stent on Tuesday because I finally stood up for myself because I knew something was wrong.

[@lisasharf1442]

Thank God you did! That LAD is known as the “widow maker”. When I was working in cardiology (many years ago), what we knew as a “left main” that couldn’t accept a stent was an automatic ticket from the cath lab to the OR.

[@robiny.4395]

Wow, I’m so sorry you had to go through the added stress of having to become your own advocate. I’m glad you found a doc who listened.

[@inoshishi8]

We know our bodies more than anyone else, and that does not require the sciences the Drs learn to know such common sense. I'm glad you stood up and finally found a Dr not so futile! I hope you stay as well as you can.

[@ssmouse77]

My wishes to you for health and happiness. And yes, you are a "BraveNutt". I wiil be with you in spirit.

[@melanierandolph6953]

You are such a kind man. Wish there were more doctors like you.

[@BanditLeader]

Lots of patients feel like "an object that needs to be fixed" and not "a person that needs help", which is leads to higher stress, anxiety, and distrust

[@ssmouse77]

Good message from you. I think that between fixed vs helped would be a thin blurred line. I'll be thinking on this and I do believe you are making an excellent point. My goal is to see it exactly to lighten up the frustration I am living. Thanks.

[@mmsdecorator928]

I just transferred to a different doctor this week because my doctor kept blowing me off. I tried to keep speaking up respectfully and even took a family member with me to my last appointment, but he minimized my symptoms. I meet with my new doctor in two weeks, and I’m hoping this one will listen to my symptoms without acting irritated when I share symptoms or concerns. Some doctors are not going to change, no matter how much evidence you share or how much you try to talk about the care plan. This doctor is planning to retire soon, and acts like he’s already stopped caring. He shouldn’t be working with cancer patients.

[@patriciamika523]

I just went through a year's worth of surgery and infections. I'm so fortunate to have an outstanding team of doctors. I'm sorry about your situation.

[@Dianelee999]

I hope your new doctor has some empathy at the very least! You are not alone. Best wishes 💜

[@KiwikimNZ]

No your right, the day you start to forget that there is a human being sitting there in front of you, then it is a disservice to your patients to continue practicing. If your not inclined to have empathy or compassion for others then don’t enter the health profession! I’m a nurse and this problem is becoming more and more common and I am so sorry your concerns were not taken seriously ! All the very best on your quest fir wellness journey x

[@virginiamoss7045]

A big part of that older doctor's disconnect is due to the corporate takeover of health care in the US. Doctors are as much a victim of it as are the patients. Private equity has reduced health care to a factory floor turning out widgets. It's all about the money and all the profit that can be squeezed out of the populace. We must fix this! No more whining and complaining! Actual action is required now! If I knew what that action should be, I'd work to make it happen, but it's so massive that I have no idea. Still, we have to try.

[@malkiyahu]

I saved my wife at least once for sure from those motherfcukers. They wanted to operate on her until I arrived and requested a second opinion. The assashole got mad because i fucked up his plan to milk our insurance., no surgery was necessary and my wife recovered and is no longer in forever medication. I will get more worthy and pray to God for more power in the priesthood to cure people like his son did but by the truckload so those bastard doctors sue for peace and beg for a sick patient. I have faith to do it now, but not permission to do so until after all hell breaks loose!

[@dbullemer]

29 years ago, when I was pregnant with my daughter, I consistently brought up concerns about my daughter's movements. I even brought my mother to one of my appointments for support. My OB completely blew me off every time. I think he tried to chuck it up to it being my first pregnancy. About 2 weeks before her due date she stopped moving altogether. His nurse even said by looking at my fetal kick counts, she didn't think anything was wrong. But she sent me to the hospital anyway just to be sure. Long story short, they took her by emergency C-section the next day because she was in distress. She had had a stroke! Today she's a beautiful 29 year old lady who is an extremely high functioning epileptic. Please stand up for yourself! I now know that if I had done so, my daughter might not have the physical problems she has today.

[@mcrchickenluvr]

As a woman who’s fought to get my hysterectomy, I appreciate you saying something about us being ignored. I’ve had fibroids for several years. I’ve had painful, heavy periods since I was about 13. I wanted to get a hysterectomy a long time ago but not doctor would do it. They said I was too young and that I’d regret it later. Like I’d regret being in pain and vomiting for 2 days straight every month. My last OB finally listened to me but my insurance wouldn’t. All they’d cover was a myomectomy. Even though she told them that the chances of them growing back was high. Now that they have grown back they finally decided to cover it. My last OB sent me to another doctor who specializes in robotic gynecological surgery because she felt I’d be better off. I’m grateful that I finally found doctors who would listen. But it shouldn’t have taken nearly 10 years to do so. Even my current OB is upset with my last doctors and insurance. He said that I should’ve had this done 10+ years ago.

[@juliejanesmith57]

I’m so sorry you have had to go through all this. I have read so many stories like this and it always makes me so grateful for my ObGyn I was randomly assigned at 25. Never downplayed my symptoms. I told her my mother had fibroids and endometriosis and that was enough to schedule me a minor exploratory surgery to confirm that I had it all as well. I told her I wanted a hysterectomy and that I didn’t want kids and definitely never wanted to be pregnant and my husband and I (newlywed at the time) agreed on this. She never once asked his opinion on this though (I just offered it to let her knew he supported me), which I would have found entirely inappropriate. She never tried to talk me out of it or tell me “what if you change your mind?”. I was ready for all those. She just listened kindly then said “well good, this will be very straight forward then and you will be feeling much better soon” and went over the surgery and recovery and risks and informed consent documents. A few months later after some iron infusions to help my anemia before surgery, I had that rotten organ out and haven’t regretted it for a second and that was 14 years ago. The idea that in 20-ANYTHING a woman should be having to fight to get a diseased, not-vital organ removed “just in case our fragile little female brains change their mind later and we want to * give * some man a baby” later… no. Just no. You know what I was going to say to the doctor if she has tried ti fight me? Her: “You might change your mind and regret it later.” Me: “Ok? Do you think I haven’t considered that? I have is it possible? Of course. Do I think it’s likely, not very. Also, even if I wanted a baby right now, I’d have to have have at least 1, probably 2 surgeries just to get my uterus to a point where it might hold a pregnancy, then it would be high risk because of my myriad other health problems. So I don’t consider “keeping my uterus” synonymous with “fertility” when that uterus is diseased. And if I do regret it one day, that’s ok. We are humans, we do the best we can with the information we have at the time. Sometimes things change down the road that make us regret a past decision. We are all adults, we have to learn how to live with a lot of unpleasant emotions, regret is just another 1 of them. But I’m not going to suffer NOW for something I MIGHT regret later. That regret is just a small hypothetical possibility, while this suffering is real, now, here and not going to go away without taking action and this is the course of action I prefer. Haven’t missed having a period ever, especially since being cursed with heavy periods since 11.

[@matthanrath497]

Write down what you think in point form with the pretence of your understanding of what you think the plan is as if it weee common knowledge of what you have researched! Then they can say “ you can’t believe you see everything on line” then ask “what real and what is fake?”

[@reppi8742]

I had a hysterectomy when I was 26, back when doctors had authority. I had one child. I wish I could have given birth to more but I NEVER regretted having the surgery done. I adopted. I've been on HRT ever since. A few years ago my insurance company decided I didn't need the hormones anymore. I went into a depression so deep I was suicidal. My doctor wrote the prescription for off label use. I'm 68 and still on them. No breast cancer - the risk is SO low. Fight for yourself and go to a doctor who understands and tells the truth about risks and benefits and who isn't afraid to actually do the job he/she studied for!

[@mcrchickenluvr]

@@reppi8742 I did fight for myself. I’m having the surgery next month.

[@judycarlsonlayton8458]

I was 54 and having 50 day cycles, my Dr told me to pray for menopause.

[@FartherReach]

Thanks for your advice. I recently had to set limits on an aggressive, narcissistic psychiatrist who seemed unable to listen. I told her that her anxiety was interfering with her ability to be helpful. I found this psychiatrist's dictatorial manner to be so potentially toxic that I reported her to the state medical board. Psychiatric patients can be especially vulnerable to mistreatment by sometimes well-meaning, sometimes oblivious health care workers with personal problems, especially under the constraints of managed care. Your recommendations are extremely helpful in this regard.

[@malkiyahu]

Have you considered self self education? You know yourself and your own more and better and any of those fuckkers would! In retrospection If there is a justification for your child’s anxiety, it is only a symptom of an underlying physical, mental or dietary disorder such as Autism and/or ADHD. But most or these insufferable and godless bastards who call themselves doctors or psychiatrists who sold their soul to their whoring mother big pharma as per Isaiah 47 and 57 mainly prescribe for depression and anxiety to reasonably helathy people with shit that does not work to fuck us up enough to keep us in bondage until they milk the insurance or until you go for a private practice and pay out of your own pocket for the services you truly need.

[@staceynguyen1876]

Been in medical for 25 years assisting physicians and surgeons. None of them sound or kind like this Dr. One in a billion!

[@ameliahenderson4955]

Also, don’t be afraid to become a patient of a newly trained doctor fresh out of residency. You may feel that they aren’t as experienced, but I found that with my new gynecologist, she is fresh, energetic and absolutely took her time with me and really listened. I had a bad experience with a more experienced doctor and was forced to find another. I am so happy. ❤

[@vickyalberts6716]

The new, young doctors are much easier to communicate with. They haven’t developed the god complex yet.

[@jeanniejones7377]

❤

[@anaabendroth3460]

Some of my best experiences have been with med students because I haven't had enough time to become jaded.

[@mdelorme3698]

Sorry people but most of the negative experiences that i have had have all been by young female doctors fresh out of residency, i am also a female , not much older than they are, and i wonder if that has had an impact on how i have been treated..Also whether or not i live in Canada and our health care is different, its still a broken system over in Canada..

[@kaypendergast5676]

​That is spot on true

[@pattiemoseley8752]

I have called out several Dr's and they completely resented it. One actually asked me to find another Dr

[@cmb3706]

They are too sensitive to constructive criticism. I was told by my doctor once when I was questioning her about why I had to wait so long she tells me to contact the office manager because she has other patients to see.. she didn't mind keeping me waiting but she had other patients to see

[@luzangel9844]

"As a female with spinal issues since a car accident as passenger at 16, 61 today, I speak up assertively with an advocate mindset and have had no problem firing a doctor that chooses to ignore my awareness of my body and mind. Emotional does not mean ignorant. It means pain and consequences of multiple health challenges affecting my abity to trust, therefor, relax. Respwctvis mutual, and being challenged by not being seen or heard by those who swore to help... disheartening! It's not easy starting all over with someone new hoping for better... but better is worth the effort if circumstances allow it! Gracias doctor. . for givin us women an 'I SEE YOU... I HEAR YOU heart!" Bless you! 🧡😇

[@cerezablack13]

1. Speak up assertively 2. Self Advocate mindset 3. Fire the doctor that ignores/ gaslight you ♥ yes yes yes to all of these!!

[@luzangel9844]

"When firing her... I made sure to respectfully but firmly address my missgivings with her superior. Not to get her in trouble and I said so... but to reassure the security of my records so she could not do something against me. Not saying she would but I had not fired a doctor before. I demanded that my records stay intact and at my disposal if needed until I find a more caring individual.. I remember this oncersation still today and it was impowering. Leting ho of the God complex doctor was healthy. I went to her thinking another women would get me. I guess being on government insurance lessens our value as human beings to dome regardless of gender. I am more atcease speaking what I need to always giving them respect but demanding the same in return!" 😇

[@simon-515]

@@luzangel9844 Unfortunately in Canada currently there are not enough doctors. There is no firing. Having a family doctor is a blessing. Mine just decided that ge gas to pull me off all my pain meds that I have been taking for over 15 years. I have fibro so I gave huge sensitivities to many meds. They finally got me on some that control tge pain and give me some quality of life. I gave not had a problem or increase in 15 years. But I complained about the new burning pain and he now wants to pull all my meds. I will seriously be in pain so great I will be in bed crying at least two days a week. I'm terrified.

[@bethwaller1789]

Every single major issue I have had, I have had to diagnose myself. If I leave it up to the physician, I end up paying through the nose for endless tests before they finally decide that I was right to begin with. I was a Corpsman in the Navy and an EMT and, still, they don't believe what I tell them.

[@MedicalSecrets]

Oh my goodness, that is so unfortunate. I hope that you have found healing through your self-awareness and education 🙏

[@malomama4750]

When i was sick years ago, i had a doctor who refused to take a family medical history n i tried saying how worried i was about having cancer myself. She replied back n said if i had cancer i would have already been dead from it. Thats something nobody wants to hear. The irony is i found another doctor who gave me a diagnosis on my second appointment--- and it was uterine cancer. Sad i went to the other dr for 18 months and got brushed off - but doctor #2 nailed it right away

[@Italian69Boi]

theybare so full of ego. even this doc on this channel talks with self agrandizment like saying HARVARD TRAINED oooooo. lol and the fake smiles goves me the creeps vut i still like his videos i think all doctors think they are better than everyone. i had to learn shit myself since we have all of human knowledge at our fingertips. And now i make the docs hate me when I correct things they get wrong about medical facts etc.

[@EvelynSchmechtigCochran]

While I really respect your very good, wise and heartfelt advise - which ideally should be followed. It still puts all the responsibility for the relationship on the patient. While I know doctors are very busy, over stressed etc. I still think they have a responsibility to be responsive and empathic as well. The system sucks, I know. But, I do think the provider has some responsibility to be kind and present. They’d be better diagnosticians if they did this.

[@Jen-ur4ut]

I hate to tell you this, but in the U.S. this is how they're trained. You must advocate for yourself. While they absolutely have a responsibility to be responsive, don't be surprised when they aren't.

[@EvelynSchmechtigCochran]

@@Jen-ur4ut oh really they are trained this way. Will definitely take this to heart!

[@Jen-ur4ut]

@@DieHureBabylon I specified the U.S. because I don't know what training is like in other parts of the world. It isn't solely because we have a for-profit system, although clearly that is a huge source of issues. They are trained to be all-knowing. They are not trained to have patients questioning them. Now that we all have access to much of the same data, the training needs to change. It was one thing 30 years ago when you had no practical way to confirm what your doctor was telling you. There's 100s of years of just blindly believing and trusting doctors because regular people had few if any other resources. Times have changed but the training has not. They should expect to be respectfully questioned and respond in kind. It's not that the profession only attracts arrogant people. It's clearly, at least in part, what they're being taught. Some of it makes sense because if you have someone's life in your hands, you better be 100% confident in what you're doing. Unfortunately, this spills over into rejecting being questioned. The doctor-patient relationship should be a team in treating whatever one has. It's too often a dictatorship. Personally, I won't work with those doctors. If they won't listen to me or take my questions seriously & respectfully, I'm on to another doctor.

[@Jen-ur4ut]

@@EvelynSchmechtigCochran Look into how many deaths & injuries are the result of medical error even at the best hospital in the U.S. That comes from arrogance and missing details that can be provided by the patient &/or their family or caregivers. Never stay in a hospital alone. Always have someone who can advocate on your behalf. Speaking from experience.

[@EvelynSchmechtigCochran]

@@Jen-ur4ut yeah. I do so much research and read many studies, etc. Sometimes Doctors aren’t even aware of much of what is out there. They get frustrated if you try to bring stuff up, regardless.

[@herahagstoz6934]

Respect and empathy are truly the first requirements for healing.

[@malkiyahu]

Not true!

[@shewolfee4247]

First you have to admit that there is a problem..

[@oceanjoker3544]

A female patient did all those things you suggested, and the Dr was very accusatory. GI liver specialist told the patient they didn't come to see him while the patient tried to explain why. He said you should have come. Your lucky I'm here where you live to come see me, etc. 😮 btw, pen and paper in hand and no cell fone use. 3. Calling it out. Frustration and anger. You are right about that. Dr was the one placing blame. 😮 True story. It seems unbelievable right? Well, it's true.

[@TheAnnetduffy]

If i say I'm worried, or unclear, that doesn't get them to stop and pay attention, it encourages them to write me off. As a woman I never use the word anxious with my doctor. What I find helps me most is being informed, fully informed, doing my research, not in the sense of scare myself witless, but so that I know what the playing field is. So the pen and paper thing is better for me. And the "not normal for me" works so much better in the context of having as good a relationship with my primary care doctor as I can. And the slowing down thing too, really helps me Thanks for all your doing.

[@Italian69Boi]

exactly I learned so much i sometimes know more than my doctors. I love the ATLAS app for anatomy we should all have manual for our biological machines. Docs are just there for the CASH BABY

[@spvillano]

@@Italian69Boi oh? Let's see. 57 year old male presents to the ED complaining of shortness of breath. BP 200/120, pulse 120, respiration 50. Hematology shows no cardiac markers, TSH 0.1, CXR ground glass signs, fluid accumulation in lower lobes. 28 year old female presented asystole, suddenly collapsed in the field with her military unit. Compressions initiated immediately, verifying compression efficacy revealed pulse weakening with every compression, but the third there was no pulse during compressions. Remained asystole to the ED. Blood showed extremely high levels of epinephrine present, none was used in resuscitation attempts. A hint, she was one of my patients, the very first patient I ever lost. A hint, pheochromocytoma was present. What's the treatment for the first, what killed the second? Oh, for the record, the first patient was myself.

[@spvillano]

I was a military medic for decades. We had a saying, if it isn't documented, it never happened. So, I'm known to take notes and I'm quite obvious about it. I also come with notes, as I've forgotten to mention something that was concerning to me before. Yeah, "not normal for me" is highly effective. Especially true when you know your own history well and understand what all has been going on with you in the past and recognize your symptoms. See below for one hospitalization I endured. The endocrinologist was considering administering iodine, but I responded well and quickly to the methimazole. I questioned the need for insulin, as I am now the oldest member of my father's side of the family to remain non-diabetic, the rest usually diabetic and overweight by age 40, on dialysis by age 50. My trick is keeping the weight off, lowering insulin resistance. Nurse reminded me that on admission, I was given a large dose of steroid, which I'd completely forgotten about and didn't take notes to keep track. For coming in with heart failure, by day 3, I was walking the wards, day 4 I was trying to sneak out for a smoke (got intercepted by one of my nurses who was coming in the door for her shift, which had the nurse administrator for the floor laughing at, day 5 I went home. Came home even more worried, as it was during the first peak of COVID and they had beds lining the hallways and elevator lobbies. Not worried for me, but for my wife, who had enough risk factors that COVID would certainly have killed her and more worried for the nurses and doctors. And for our kids, the youngest contracting COVID from work at her hospital, the eldest an RN in the ED managed to avoid infection, despite PPE shortages. The female I mentioned died, no power on this earth could've helped her, she was dead before she hit the ground. Aorta ruptured from severe, prolonged hypertension, secondary to an adrenal gland tumor that was flooding her bloodstream with adrenaline. She actually had just been diagnosed and was to see doctor the following week after field training. Was a damned shame, her doctor never should have cleared her for field training. Indeed, I've sent men home for far less in my unit (at the time, being a combat unit, we had no female soldiers assigned to us, that's changed now and it was a long overdue change, as that hampers promotion opportunities). The ugliest thing I ever saw, measles and polio sweeping through a remote village. Way too many tiny graves got filled. Even our infantry and SF elements were in tears, as they had small children themselves.

[@tammytoman1334]

I have two rare diseases. I have a suggestion for a video. How we can advocate for ourselves when the doctor refuses to consider other diagnosis.

[@lyndalovesraccoons]

Omgawd... yes. YES.

[@MsMorganThorne]

YES!!! Once you have a rare disease, or an autoimmune disease or anything like that, every complaint is written off as that. I'm pretty sure I could go to some doctors with a limb cut off and they would blame my CRPS for it!!

[@californiadreaming567]

As a retired Kaiser doctor once said if you give them a hard time like being an advocate they write a note in your file. You are toast forevermore

[@MedicalSecrets]

I'm so sorry to hear that perspective. Fortunately, it is not a perspective shared by all doctors

[@meggy8868]

Exactly

[@boycott2720]

@@MedicalSecrets Would a voice recording bother a doctor? I don't mean recording the doctor, but taking voice notes as I have Essential Tremor and can't write notes.

[@lindadove8298]

@@boycott2720, you can record the doctor talking if you ask for their permission first. That is what I do because I might forget something, so I have questions to ask and if I forget, then I can go back to the recording and listen to it.

[@abigailbp9294]

​@@MedicalSecretsit is shared by many. And not bc we can be difficult personality-wise...but bc we have seen so many different doctors for the same thing (often due to moving, or the doc leaving the clinic, or bc of insurance changes). So we try to start over and over and over and mosy docs look at us like it must be our fault we have not resolved an issue. It is never starting from a clean slate in the mind of the doctor for most patients. You, doc are a well paid physician in the Bay Area. Most ppl there have ungodly amounts of money and therefore docs care about their reputations and income. The rest of society does not live that way and cannot keep trying over and over again with a new at a lower income or avg income clinic and expect to get consisent care esp if they have challenging issues. I love your optomism and advice...but I fear and believe it only works well in well-funded upper class evironments. Just look at the disparity in health btwn economic classes and tell me I am wrong. The avg person needs advice on dealing with the avg doc. And none of them live where the avg income is nearly half a million.

[@joannsmith9]

Because you have so much humility and would respond appropriately, you assume other doctors will respond appropriately too. I suggest most won’t and as the previous reply said: “you are toast”. I’m going to advocate for my patient (I’m a caregiver for a woman who is in chronic severe pain 24/7) tomorrow at the pain clinic. I’ll try the WHO-where does she fall approach and we will see how far we get-I don’t expect to get far , unfortunately.

[@joannsmith9]

I tried the “where does she fall on the WHO ladder? He didn’t even know what the WHO is. He is a Doctor at a pain clinic. I didn’t get any where with that but there are extenuating circumstances. I filed a grievance with the clinic. I haven’t t heard back from them. Yet. It was one week ago.

[@Snoopy-qe7kt]

I’m going to save this video in my phone so I can rewatch it before every doctors appointment going forward. Unfortunately I’ve had the experience of being gaslit by doctors in the past. As soon as they see it noted in my chart that I’m taking Prozac for generalized anxiety it’s as though the thinking professional part of their brain slams shut. I can see it in there facial expressions and their body posture. In my professional capacity I was trained to pick up on visual cues like this so I know what I’m seeing. My new tactic going forward is to try and keep the focus on “the plan” and try to be as empirical as possible. Thank you so much.

[@garybennett5645]

Hi Doc the same thing happens with narcissistic nurses and care providers who betray their trust for money at the expense of the physician and emotional wellbeing of the patient.

[@erincecilliadyer3900]

My cardiologist asked why I was taking notes and he said that people take notes all the time but never look at them. I explained that I’m aSpeech Therapist with 42 years experience working with children with memory and I have memory issues. At 5he end of 5he session, he grabbed my notebook and asked me what .I leaned. So I told him. The next week, I gave him his own Stenography Pad. The note I wrote in it pointed out that this was for him to use with future patients who have memory problems just like me.

[@lindadove8298]

Hi Doc K, I don't know if you remember I told you I had to have emergency surgery in June, and when I was speaking to the anesthesiologist before we went back to the OR, I thought he understood my concerns! But what I did not expect was that because I was not following his commands and kept moving and asking questions, he kept telling me NO (breath into this mask), and because I was following his directions, he put me out without even saying anything. (it is time to sleep now or something) that was scary then emergency surgery! When I woke up in a room and saw the surgeon for the first time when I was aware I was told never again to want that anesthesiologist. Where is the kindness you see? I am scared! I did not know doctors have the right to drugs without telling you.That was the most scariest thing.

[@jenniferirvine7827]

I am sorry you had to go through that. The negligence I have seen in my own life with doctors has cause severe PTSD.

[@THINKINGEIREANN]

I’m going to be having surgery the end of august, and my surgeon is so nice and sat down next to me and explained everything he going to be doing with my operation and always asks if I’ve questions, I do trust him as he sits down and explains step by step what is going to happen

[@mcrchickenluvr]

@@THINKINGEIREANNsounds like my current OB. The few times I’ve been in his office I spent over 30 minutes with him each time. He’s not the type to sugar coat anything which I really appreciate. He also answered my questions and is fairly quick to respond when I send him a message in my patient portal.

[@cherylkat2342]

I’m glad you did this video … because I was in pain had to have my feeding tube removed and it hurt well they had trouble putting it in I ask for pain med he said no! I never had that problem before all the doctors I had seen had gave me pain meds after so I didn’t hurt . I had my tube for 4 years never been treated that away. But I was not the only one he was be hateful too he did 2 other patients he told a guy why did he come in bad chest pain.and the other one he chewed out was a guy who had a chainsaw cut. On his foot…then I got chew out for coming to the hosp when my feeding wasn’t working . I was told by my regular Doctor to go to ER and my stomach Doctor!!!!!!! Now I am afraid to go back to the hosp had dark blood on my pad inmytube I wouldn’t go .I have ptsd and anxiety from all the surgery’s I’ve had to have. I see my regular Doctor this month I’m going to tell him what happened

[@selfhealherbs13ms]

OMG! I Agree that is soo...scary, how would they feel in that predicament. 🤔

[@lyndalovesraccoons]

Have you ever considered teaching? We, the people, NEED MORE drs with YOUR mindset. ...

[@deadfirefighter]

I had to diagnose myself after 22.5 years of suffering because doctors lack the ability to diagnose and are too arrogant o listen to someone like me. I had to figure out the medical issues that were sending me to the EDs and were putting my life in danger. I then had to figure out what diagnostic tests I needed and where they could be performed and then had to find a new doctor who wasn’t so unjustified in their arrogance. I presented my case to the doctor they way I would have presented a patient when I was an EMT and since I did all the hard work he only needed to have his MA fill out the referrals and sign them. The Mayo Clinic couldn’t diagnose after an entire month of testing and appointments what the EMT they dismissed was able to identify in myself. Not all doctors want to help, some sabotaged my medical care because of their political beliefs that are starting to be shown to have been unethical.

[@deadfirefighter]

@@statistical-anomaly my diagnosis also turned out to be a type of dysautonomia ( we are still trying to narrow it down but looking very likely to be something like MSA). Even with the diagnosis it’s unlikely I’m going to be around for much longer because of the degenerative nature of my type of dysautonomia. Definitely a small world. Also figured out 6 months after my diagnosis of dysautonomia that I had been autistic my whole life and the learning disabilities they identified in me as a kid where just them diagnosing around the autism and have since learned the autism increased the chances of my developing dysautonomia.

[@d.g.7582]

​@@deadfirefighteras a mother and mother-in-law and grandmother of firefighters, it upset me to see the name you use on your posts. I know I can't change the name you choose that I can let you know how I feel about it.

[@deadfirefighter]

@@d.g.7582 it likely won’t be much longer before it’s completely true and not just mostly true. For the most part society and my brother and sister firefighters black tagged me a long time ago. If you don’t understand the reference, ask your family members.

[@Italian69Boi]

yeah i wasnt believed i had to ask for a gastic emptyibg test and found to have severe gastroparesis. at first the asshole told me i was "probably hearing things in my intenstines" Um i know where my fucking stomach is and my water i would drink never emptied and id do situps and it would slosh around i fired him obviously

[@Avery_4272]

What we currently have is often not a "healthcare" system. It often a Disease Management For Profit system. Patients and doctors are extremely frustrated, and it's imperative that a very significant change take place. Med schools need a major overhaul. And so does the current "healthcare" system as a whole. It's absolutely unacceptable that there are doctors who don't take their Hippocratic Oath very seriously. Being dismissive, arrogant, condescending, neglectful, etc., towards patients does harm and therefore violates the Hippocratic Oath.

[@tw23707]

could not have said it better.

[@carolgrier7774]

I live in Canada. If you are lucky, you have a Doctor. Our choice has been removed, there are not enough Doctor's, so if you have one, you arent going to anger the one you have.

[@natalievancouver8188]

Me too but I’ve had zero problems but it totally depends where you live in Canada

[@melissamoeller9608]

This is such an important topic. I just went through this with my pcp. I have never seen her so flustered and it made the appointment more than difficult. Thankfully I was able to wait until a quiet moment. Then I asked her if i understood correctly that she was frustrated with a specialists because they were asking my PCP to do things that she felt were the specialists responsibility. She said yes that was what upset her. Then we were able to have a much more calm discussion. I just wish I could have also expressed my desire to have a plan for addressing a couple of the issues that I came in to see her about. But we were out of time, and I was a bit shook up by the PCPs behavior.

[@cathyreece9914]

I write most important questions on a index card when I go to the doctor. I then say,” me first? Or you first? I keep it to 3 questions per visit. I write their answers down on the index card by the question. One dr said- “you only get 2 problems”. Made me come back in 2wks for other problem. Luckily he left the practice- so I’m going to go to a different health system for a new dr. What if the 3rd problem was,” I think I’m having a heart attack?” See you in 2 weeks is unacceptable. Hope I have better luck in next health system.

[@Italian69Boi]

​​@@cathyreece9914thats why you just become your own doctor. i had to learn anatomy etc the app called ATLAS is great and i learned a million other things i bet i could pass med school almost now. i now know more than my Doctors at times and they get really weird when that happens lol. 😂 its good to have a operation manual for our biological machines

[@lisasharf1442]

@@cathyreece9914I’m a retired nurse, with multiple health issues that caused my permanent disability. If a doctor told me, “you only get two problems,” I’d fire him/her on the spot, and possibly report them to the state medical board.

[@spvillano]

Uh, doc? You do realize that you can bill for the time you spend ordering those tests and evaluating those tests, don't you? And oh, we're not out of time, as I feel a few new ICD codes coming on...

[@spvillano]

@@cathyreece9914 indeed, my wife had a dental infection that went septic in 4 hours. She died that night. You don't want to know how it feels to perform CPR on your wife of over 41 years, feeling ribs fracture under your hands. Couldn't stop dreaming about it for two weeks, couldn't eat for 3, as she had helped me bring in $350 worth of groceries I'd just picked up.

[@Charlie-Oooooo]

Dr. Kaveh, every one of you videos or posts provides very useful information to help improve the outcome of a patient's interaction within the medical community! I don't know if you teach, but you should. We desperately need people, especially medical care providers (i.e. doctors) like yourself, to help empower patients to have a better overall experience, even if it's simply to show them proper etiquette in the general context of medical communication or which behavior and questions are acceptable, etc. Also, I humbly suggest that you consider getting involved with continuing education (short seminars) for doctors, etc. as I believe many states require a certain number of hours of this each year. I'm sure you'd be a smashing success! Because direct patients-doctor communication is so limited in both number and duration, there is so much room for increasing awareness of issues, solutions, etc. Even if you gathered all of the relevant information that you present here on your KZbin channel, that in itself would be a significant source of topics and content. I just see a big potential for you to make a very positive contribution to the effectiveness and success of all stakeholder interaction in the medical community. I'm sure you have your own great ideas as well! Sorry for the long post. Best regards.

[@followyourheart33.]

In Australia it's the luck of the draw with the healthcare system. The approach of writing something down would not be very helpful with some doctors, it actually can make the situation a lot worse.This approach would create more of a block to a certain degree with some in the field. Although there is definitely safety in numbers - as long as YOU KNOW THAT the person is supporting your vision for your health outcomes. Drs here already openly mock patients - does not matter if in private health or public health system - by saying "Who's the Dr here?" Or "Are you a Dr ?" Or the latest blow off is "Ohhhh you've been using Dr Google?" Or they undermine the patient saying "Do you actually have (XYZ) or only THINK you have ? " Sorry to sound bitter, but the healthcare system is broken here. However there are some exceptionally good people working in the field in Australia.

[@rorys5972]

It's, exactly, the same in the US. I'm sorry that any of us have to endure it.

[@bernie6817]

Yep I've been fighting to get seen by spinal surgeons.......18 mnths later........

[@amandah1875]

Hmm interesting. I'm in Melbourne Australia and haven't had that experience, but I mainly use healthcare for having babies. What state are you in?

[@kathleenh4656]

Dear Dr Kaveh, thank you for being here. I hope you don't mind, I'm sharing a few of your videos on my Facebook page, called "Where is Lyme Disease". I started it after several doctors here in Northern VA advised me, "Lyme isn't here in __________".

[@louisaa.4614]

my daughter got bit by a tick and then had a rash down her leg and became very unwell , when I told her to the ER most of the doctors didn't know about Lymes Disease and because I had a friend with it previously I knew all about it and had to explain to them about it and push for antibiotics , she is now much better but I shouldn't be the one giving advice to the Doctors , but am glad that I did 🤨

[@CreatureGirlInc]

Was a teen. Had unexplained esophageal spasms that temporarily made me unable to draw air if i had a coughing fit. One doctor said they were just panic attacks. We insisted they werent. I couldnt breath till id vomit. She handed me a paper bag. New doctor. Took one long look at me. "Oh shit. You are having a severe allergic reaction. We are putting you on this to bring down the swelling." Went for allergy tests....Im allergic to many, many things. Finally explained why i was hospitalized throughout childhood. Mom realizes i wasnt making up all those "stomach aches" after eating breakfast to get out of school. I was very allergic and it caused severe stomach cramps....i wish i did make them up because, that was/is a lot of pain if i eat the wrong thing. At least i know now. Oof.

[@deborahraymond3317]

Great advice good Doctor! You are one of a kind. Unfortunately. Thank you for all you do for us. 😊 NH here!

[@susanmann5286]

My son is 42 years old with Type I Diabetes. He works very hard to manage it, and is in good shape. He made a positive comment about this to his Endocrinologist. This physician responded with, "You are going to go into kidney failure eventually, anyway."

[@megk.4599]

What???! 😮 I thought it was supposed to be “Do no harm…” 😢! He needs a new doctor!

[@maryeckel9682]

What?

[@mdelorme3698]

The doctor that said tgat to your son is full of bs, i feel very angry that the doctor would say something so negative to your son, it is obvious to me that the doctor has a very toxic personality , made by his comment, here your son who has an incurable disease, and your son takes care of his health by manaiung his weight and i am assumimg eating right, and hge doctor makes that kind of negative comment after hearing the kind of positive steps your son is taking to take good care of himself, i do not belive hgat eventually he will end up with some kind of kidney failure eventully, not true, if your son continues to do what he is now doing...i am beginning to feel as though i hate doctors, i have had several toxic doctors, and as i am reading the comments posted here of the negative experiences people are having, its ,making me feel angry, disgusted and hoping / wishing harm back on these evil doctors, although i know it is wrong to feel that way, at times its only a thought not something i would actually do, however the damage that doctors put their patients through can become emotionally unbearable leaving people without hope, and that is truly a sad and tragic position for any human being to be put in,,,.. there needs to be accountablity, because there is not much accountability , that is why they continue to behave the way they do..

[@susanmann5286]

Thank you for your comments about my son.

[@cathyreece9914]

Doomsday drs are unacceptable to me.I’d find a new dr PRONTO!

[@TheFtm22]

I'm having to seek a new primary doc (mine left private practice for a chief medical officer position) and it's been very challenging. It's all about getting you screenings rather than addressing your current medical needs. I am a minimalist patient and thus prefer to focus on my current problems rather than seeing new things for which I have zero symptoms or history. I'll keep these tips in mind as I meet another prospective primary. in a couple of weeks. Fortunately, I still have my previous doc's NP who knows and respects my preferences as a patient. Caring for the patient doesn't seem to be taught in the schoola anymore.

[@moocrazytn]

Maybe you could stick with the NP?

[@TheFtm22]

@moocrazytn apparently I have to be listed as a patient of a doctor in the practice in order to see the NP. She suggested this one as her pick. So we shall see.

[@cathyreece9914]

I have same problem!

[@gailcole9913]

I am an RN and I would only use an internist as my PCP-and someone 45 or older. They handle and address more issues and the more experienced the better.

[@homelessdiaries3950]

Aw, thank you for being a voice that connects us patients and our healthcare system, doctors/nurses. For me, personally, when I was 18, 19, and sorta when i was 20 (I'm 21 now)... I had so much resentment and hatred towards one my local ERs. I learned that having hate and resentment for HUMAN beings wasn't healthy for my already poor mental health. Ever since then, I've been trying to emapthize, connect, transcend bias, prejudice, discrimination towards them, and actually work with them. ... Lastly, I try and avoid dehumanizing them by looking at them simplisticly; like they're Gods and can just snap their fingers and heal me, read my mind, all knowing, etc. I treat them with respect and dignity and I voice my needs in a more mature, healthy way. I feel like this is an issue that should be talked about more and more openly. Doctors, nurses, etc... they have a lot going on. A lot of stress. I feel like more emoathy and awareness/understanding of what they experience should be more known. Less frustration, hate, and tragic misunderstandings would happen. Same thing on the patient side, especially for the most stereotyped characters (psych patients, addicts, women, ethnicities, etc.) Anyway, thanks for posting your videos. ❤

[@maryloumonheim8724]

I always try to not put a doctor on the defensive. When my children were little I described it as teacher talk. Never put a teacher on the defensive, it does not help you get what you want for your child. I always ask questions to doctors, it the response is not acceptical to me. Then I am in search of a second opinion.

[@JS-xs5hq]

You are so right. Yes, most doctors' mind shares are fractional, because they are mainly concerned about financial profits; while patient care and peace of mind are afterthoughts if there be any. It is truely a broken health care system. Which is why US health care ranks LAST amongst all of the highest income earning nations of the world, according to a JAMA September 2021 report.

[@eileenmurphy2019]

After a recent surgery I experienced pain that I was not expecting. I was lucky enough to get a quick response from my surgeon who explained it was normal and that each day would get better. Once I knew it was normal I was fine. The surgery was on a Wednesday and I needed extra strength tylenol for Thursday and Friday. After that I while I had discomfort but not enough for meds. Had I been better prepared I would have saved myself a lot of anxiety.

[@moichou7939]

Doctors can be dismissime or cold. Sometimes they don't even do it on purpose I think. I had nine surgeries in my whole life. Six of them took place when I was under 9 years old. For two if these, I was a toddler. My parents were not allowed to come with me (which is absolutely normal) but I was left alone in the OR, undressed, shivering from cold and anxiety (because it's really cold in the OR). None of the medical staff was talking with me, no emotional support, while I was breathing faster and faster. I was vulnerable and terrified. I would always cooperate though. I've always been respectful and polite with doctors. I remember at some points, my arms were restrained I think. At one point, the anesthesist poked a needle in my hand without even saying hello, and I felt a burning sensation in my hand, spreading through my arm. I thought something wrong was happening, so I tried to talk to him, but he pushed the mask on my face and held it, saying "shhhht". There was just a smell of plastic. And then I was out. I woke up in pain, wondering what just happened, and still nobody would provide any reassurance. Nobody took the time to explain anything or reassure me. I'm grateful for their job and the fact that they did the surgeries properly. But sometimes, I still experience nightmares of these moments. Also this OR smell and the smell of plastic triggers my anxiety. As a toddler, an ophtalmologist sank his nails in my cheek to hold my head still while pouring drops in my eyes. Years later, another ophtalmologist called people to hold my head still for an eye echo as I was shaking. When I felt restrained, I began to panic of course... Many things like that happened to me ... And considering I have a rare genetic disorder, I've seen A LOT of doctors. I can't believe they were all narcissists. Some of them might just not be used to work with children or anxious adults. Some of them might be in a rush and they don't provide as much support as we need. Some of them though, actually feel like they are superior to their patients, which can lead to medical gaslightning or dismissive habits. Sending support to anyone struggling with medical trauma ❤

[@JACK-wh6jl]

BRAVO !! EVERY VIDEO GETS "THAT-MUCH" BETTER ! . YOU ARE THE "REAL-THING"= A DOCTOR THAT PRACTICES THEIR OATH & THEN EXPONENTIALLY ELABORATES FROM YOUR HEART FOR THE PATIENTS BENEFIT !; WHO COULD ASK FOR MORE ?!!!!!!

[@MartaWomack]

While I appreciate your advice, sometimes there's just no excuse for the way a Doctor or his staff, who are a reflection of the Doctor himself, treat & interact with patients who deserve at least a modicum of respect when they come seeking medical care. I am writing my ex Doctor a letter, personally, to let him know of my experience with his front desk gatekeepers & all I went through just to finally see him after a year of waiting. I can only hope his gatekeepers will actually give it to him. I don't expect a response, but maybe a patient impact statement might make him consider making sure that he & his gatekeepers are kinder to the next patient, in the VERY least.

[@lewishenderson7004]

the surgeon that removed the tumor in my spinal cord, was so wonderful i begged her to fix my neck, she did. I was blessed to find her in the thousands of surgeons out there. She retired soon after my surgeries.

[@sherrinunya4079]

I finally got a doctor to listen to me. I told the doctors office that I was interviewing for a new partnership with my doctor. They said it was unusual, but my point got across! Also, you must tell them that you're not going to blindly follow them and that you want to be your own best advocate. In the hospital, I found out that you can ask for a patient advocate, and that person, who is on staff, will be one, just for you! Mine helped me navigate the paperwork needed to get exra helo ginalially from the govt. She also helped me with how to go about geting the next medical steps done. For example, who to see and what things to ask. I wish this was more well known to be available.

[@PinkHawk191]

I got blown off by a cardiac anesthesia nurse before my last surgery two years ago. She left me in tears. My surgical nurse go my surgeon over to see me. He stayed with me along with one of my congenital heart nurses while the nerve block was being done. I ended up having a panic attack. I was very grateful that my nurse and surgeon got my cardiac anesthesiologist in to the pre op area to sedate me. My nurse had me hold her hand and she rubbed my back as I was falling asleep.I will need another surgery at some point which I am dreading due to what I went through the last time.

[@savanahasargent4856]

😢

[@ComfortablyNumb24]

I had Hydatidform Mole along with a viable baby. I was extremely sick and in very much pain. My doctor blew me off and told me that I was being dramatic, that thousands and thousands of women and had babies, I’m not the only one. He went as far as to have a meeting with my husband and told him not to indulge me, but to insist I do my wifely duties. At 35 weeks I was septic and went into labor, almost died, and my son died the following day. Now I have Willis-Ekbon disease and my NP refuses to acknowledge the struggle I go through. It seems like when I have my appointments she is already mad when she walks into the room. If I speak up, she shooshes me. Luckily, I have an appointment with a neurologist in December. Thanks for validating some struggles that we may have, and for the advice on how to deal with these difficulties.

[@lyndachele]

I'd have gotten a malpractice attorney! Loss of child, nearly died ....pain and suffering alone worth millions.

[@natalievancouver8188]

Wow so sorry❤the wifely duties would’ve set me off so much omg I hope you changed doctors, reported him and saw a lawyer

[@dianeratti5644]

I'm with you that pissed me off wisely duties OMG ! How dare him talking to the husband without her get anew dr. Asap & a lawyer ​@@natalievancouver8188

[@moviemakerwannabe]

There are doctors that shouldn't be doctors, because they don't listen or they do blow you off. I was sent to my Gyn because of pain in that region. After he examined me he said "there is no MEDICAL reason for your pain". after few months passed with chronic symptoms I went to the ER. Again same kind of deal, the doctor said to my husband "if she was a cow what would you think was wrong with her?" My husband was a farmer. Then the Dr told me to go home I was just a nervous person. I went home and nearly died with a ruptured appendix. The Dr never even did a blood test while I was in the ER. Honestly I've run into more doctors that treated me like that, dismissive or not really listening, than the other kind.

[@stephenr115]

Another reason why I keep saying through the vehicle of a book (audio too as your voice perfect) on “Doctor-Patient Communication” is so important to write. 2 formats 1 for medical students 1 for patients and even doctors in practice. Thanks for all you do. As an anesthesiologist, can you be an advocate for a patient or does the surgeon “pull rank.” Personally I think the anesthesiologist is THE most important person at the surgical table. My father was a surgeon and he always told me how important they were to a successful surgery. I know you are busy but this book already exists in your mind and experiences.

[@samanthahayes217]

In 2014 I started getting Full Body Spasms. Now 10 years later, they are worse than ever. I am mostly homebound. The Neurologist I saw said to see a Psychiatric doctor. My GP walks out of the exam room when one starts. The meds I was taking for anxiety years before these began is the medication I take for a Full Body Attack. If I don't take the medication--say if I am in the ER--then about every 30-45 minutes I get another attack. Unfortunately I live in a small town in the South. I also have Hashimoto's Disease---auto immune thyroid disease which has cause heart issues. The only two people who listen to me in my Chiropractor and my Licensed Massage Therapist. Some how, some way I have to make my GP listen to me. Oh yes I have extreme fatigue sleeping about 12 hours a night. NONE of the doctors listen.

[@mhenderson9311]

This really speaks to me. Fortunately I was NOT blown off prior to surgery. With my anxiety panic attack at the time, I realize now it could have easily gone the other way.

[@bernardofitzpatrick5403]

You are the best Dr. 🎉 awesome advice! Bringing humanity back into medicine.

[@michellevandersar8690]

Doctors are always more present at there computer screen then by the patiënt. That is what i see every single time. I will use the tips, thank you

[@marlainehysell5989]

I have had a lot of surgeries and I am calm in pre-op. A lot of pain meds don't work for me so I expressed concern abt post-op pain control. The doc actually said, I think you will be okay, most pain meds don't really do much anyway. Good thing I am the calm type. 😄

[@SilverSeaOT7]

Says the Dr who isn’t the one having the surgery. Sorry you had to go through that.

[@brledoux7989]

I was literally asked to “shut up” while I was (politely) asking my surgeon questions that I’ve elaborated during my recovery, regarding a 6hrs surgery. I felt dismissed and obviously unheard by the person I had chosen to put my life on his hands. I had a much better experience with the anaesthetist, who was very attentive and thorough with my concerns and her questions. PS: It was a procedure that I’ve fully paid (and it wasn’t cheap!), since it was not covered by my insurance. Suffice to say, I do respect everyone’s time and availability, and it’s become a habit to elaborate questions before any consultation. I don’t think it’s a common practice among patients, but it certainly optimises everyone’s time/schedules. Congratulations for your channel, I’m very grateful for you taking the time by helping people (like me!) by elucidating many doubts and shedding light to a plethora of issues regarding (and many times not limited to) real life experiences in your practice! I share your videos with many people who could benefit from your insights (even friends and family who are doctors - one of my cousins is also anaesthetist!)

[@Michbeachlover]

Love this 100%. A little explanation of procedures and what to expect relieves allot of anxiety. Dr.'s routinely perform procedures and understand them in and out, but the patient does not.

[@sheribardoel5702]

My Doctor blew me off after 5 years of intense pain. I ended up with caude equina

[@rdrydnghdwolfe1396]

I’m so sorry.

[@janegreen9340]

That’s so bad. My nephew in UK has this due to 1. The Consultant not listening to the junior doctor’s concern at the scan result and refusing to come in on her day off 2. A botched spinal operation at another hospital after he lost control of his bowels. A massive negligence claim took years and has left him in constant pain with huge weight gain (gabapentin) and a very bitter man. I don’t blame him. I hope you get good pain management ❤

[@darriontunstall3708]

I have all good doctors thankfully! If I was a anesthesiologist I would be a great anesthesiologist like you, I really enjoy donating to the anesthesiologist Foundation, since it was hard for me to go to college because of my cerebral palsy, I really wanted to be a anesthesiologist physician

[@greendragon4058]

Very good this is why I'm a subscriber of yours. I go to my doctor's appointments I have questions the written down so I know exactly what I need to ask what I need to prepare for I tried to work with them to make their job easier I try to make sure that okay this medication works for me because I have been given a pain med I was allergic to the hospital years ago and was terrified then nurses their blew me off except for one who stayed with me the entire night until they got a doctor in there found out that I was allergic to the pain medication and she stayed with me and made me less afraid she was the only one so because of that have notebook I have pictures of every procedure on my phone and I asked 100 questions I'm one of those that I need to know everything therefore I can be prepared so the doctors can do their job easier try to stay calm make their job easier for them because I know what's going on

[@snowcub7139]

Much better format! Wow, a professional who listens. I hope your monitoring the chat worked for you. It certainly made it to the point and much shorter. Thank you, Doctor.

[@elizabethmcluskie9370]

This is great dr You should write a book

[@elizabethlewis3509]

I really wish you could be cloned as a medical professional. You are just amazing. Maybe you should think about giving a Ted Talk.

[@natalievancouver8188]

Great idea I love Ted Talks!🎉

[@kathleen2020]

I make a flow chart and learn everything I can about what I have when I go see a doctor! That way I don’t forget anything. I find doctors take me a little more serious.

[@colsho6795]

Your pists are really informative and interesting, but I have to wonder what kind of feed back do you get from others in your feild or in medicine in general?

[@tamwolf20]

All great points. Thank you. I would like to know how you would respond on step two in this senario. Often, we want to write things out. Especially with a new provider. We ask about the plan and are informed, "we will give you a printout before you leave, and you can just call the office if you have questions"..... then as you leave, you are given your next appointment information, what your vitals were, and then some very generic printouts on X.Y and Z. This seems to be the response more and more whenever we have questions concerning care. Some background. I am a retired CT/X-ray tech with over 25 years of experience working in the civilian sector. I retired because of an old military injury. I worked all over the U.S. mostly at level 1 trauma centers. I can't count the number of times I have had patients that, because of poor communication, had no idea what to expect for their procedures. I spent a lot of time explaining what they might expect and what the exam was ordered for. Many times, the patient would say something along the lines of, "but why did the doctor order that? I don't have any issue with my left big toe it is my right knee". And we spend the next hour trying to verify that the order is correct. Many times, patients are not told what happening or how long they will need to be in radiology. The care I get at the VA is vastly different. I think this may be due to many different things. The biggest reason however, is medical staff (DRs, RNs, technologists, and all the others needed to make a medical system run), are not tied to health insurance. This system is not for profit... if the doctor feels I would benefit from a therapy or procedure... they will bring it up and discuss it. My care as a woman in the VA has been exemplary. My wife, on the other hand, receives care in the public sector. She has had struggle after struggle to get quality care. She has several auto-immune diseases. One of which is Sjogren's disease, and it impacts her daily life greatly. We have been left with few options because of Medicare and limited income. Arrogance is something we all come into contact with from time to time regardless of the profession. It is never becoming.

[@evag5041]

I am a woman and receive my healthcare from the VA. I had one bad experience which still haunts me. I found out it’s called medical gaslighting. I feel I should report this so I can have closure and hopefully, this person won’t do that to another patient. My PCP really cares and we communicate easily. I actually feel relief when I have an appointment with her. I know she will help me and feeling seen and heard by your doctor is everything. Also, the VA’s Whole Health program is amazing.

[@tamwolf20]

@evag5041 Hello. Yes, medical gaslighting happens. These people will even gaslight their own employees as I have witnessed it from my own colleges against other colleges. During business hours, personally speak to patient advocates. Outside of business hours, email them. Which is always a good idea, so there is a paper trail. In the immediate moment, ask for the nursing supervisor or charge nurse. Even if it is with someone who is in another department or modality. Explain that you want a resolution spelled out in writing and that you will be following up. I am so sorry that that happened to you. I had an issue where my service dog questioned as being real and refused care unless I put him outside in the heat. I need him for mobiliy. I went immediately to the nursing supervisor and radiologist, and the individual was educated. As a person with a service dog, I know exactly what situations he can and can not be in and arrange care accordingly. He is vital to my independence. Another thing I recently learned from my mental health professional is that if the situation is overwhelming, state I need to find the nearest bathroom and excuse yourself. This will give you some breathing room and time to collect your thoughts and regain composure if needed. And do that as many times as needed. Or simply state I need 15 minutes of privacy before continuing this discussion. It can be easy to get thrown off balance, especially in medical situations. This tip works best if practiced with a friend or family member or even just stating it at yourself in the mirror. The point is we are all trained to NOT question authority both in the military and civilian world. We are not taught how self advocate. There is nothing wrong with having someone with you or stating you need a break or even asking for someone else to help you. If they say no. Walk away. It takes two people to engage in most things, and that is hard to do if you excuse yourself from the situation. Remember that everyone has bad days. Empathy and compassion can be difficult at times. But it does not give that person the right to take out their bad day on you. And like it was stated in the original post, point it out if you see the frustration. I'm sorry, you seem to be really frustrated. Is there something causing it? Are you anxious? At the very least, it points out their behavior.

[@evag5041]

@@tamwolf20 thank you. I wrote every detail down with the intention of seeing the patient advocate. Email is excellent advice, too. I will keep in mind to excuse myself should it be necessary to do so. We can’t always predict how things will go but having tools to help is always a good thing. I commend you on the way you handled the issue with your service dog. I can’t imagine someone who doesn’t know better to tell you to leave your dog out in the heat. I would never think that a person with a service dog would ask to be separated from them and I know nothing about service dogs. You needing the dog should be a no brainer. I’ve had more positive experiences within the VA healthcare system than anything. Being better prepared to advocate for our health and well being makes for better experiences overall. Thanks for your reply. Be safe and well.

[@auburnjewels2]

The patient is boss and the Dr. is your employee. If you have a bad employee, fire them. (Depending on the situation you might also consult an attorney.) Who does not know this?

[@maryeckel9682]

It's not always easy to find a new doctor, especially a specialist, and especially if you're not in an urban or near suburban area.

[@mdelorme3698]

They maybe alot of people who are not aware of, the boss and the employee, and with your comment, you are coming off as being arrogant and toxic yourself

[@meggy8868]

Nice try. I don't think it works. Not too many in the sub specialty

[@TokyoBlue587]

The doctors won’t care if you “fire” them, they usually have a ton of patients already. And if you’re in the U.S, you’d better have great health insurance to be able to afford to see multiple doctors until you find one you like. And if you need to see specialists, be prepared to wait months for another appointment.

[@aellaaskew4263]

The bullet train analogy- as someone who gets this a lot. Is beyond Abilist it doesn't take into account harm done and missing accountability, especially when its the same doctor(s) smiling back at you. This is more traumatizing and forces the patient to conform to "your" behavior norms while we are in distress. Its unreasonably and unrealistic in many mental illness and neurodivergent cases. Its all about us controlling ourselves? But when will the doctors be asked to contor themselves? To not blowoff patients? To act like compationate human beings, because that would have been terrifying to me. Its all about us behaving while dealing with stress and trauma- hmmm something seems backwards here

[@StaticImage]

I got a really bad concussion a while ago and in the days and weeks following, I could tell something was very wrong. I tried to bring it up with my doctor over and over and I was blown off each time. Absolutely zero care or interest. I have not been the same since that concussion and I can't help but wonder how different things would be if my doctor had just listened and spoken with me. I hold so much resentment over that, and it carries on to all doctors, because honestly, how can I really trust anyone at this point? It was clear I was in *really* bad shape and nobody cared, despite my pleas for help.

[@mdelorme3698]

Sounds like you have a vey serious ussue and i am hust making a sugfestion, be more assertive and be a little bit verbally aggressive if you have too, necause if you leave this and it gets worst,,ie brain damage , memory problems, you may regret not have done more,, so please get too it and fight fir your right to get the care you need and deserve!!! And don' t give up until you are satisfied with the care you feel that you needed..and received...

[@StaticImage]

@@mdelorme3698 Well, you are very correct. But here is the problem with that. I DID eventually speak up. After my doctor neglected part of my treatment this past year, I told him (very firmly, because I had tried to be more polite in the past, but was blown off each time) that he really needed to step up to the plate and finally start taking my health more seriously. He made an incredibly *STUPID* "joke" about my depression and I called him on it. Long story short, he didn't appreciate being held accountable and dropped me as a patient. Now I can't find a new doctor. So now I'm just hanging in limbo.

[@hegarty49]

19 months ago and only 3weeks after L2/3 4/5 spine surgery, I underwent bi lateral Inguinal hernia repair which resulted in nerve damage to my Right side I’ve been in constant pain and am now referred to Chronic Pain Management because the various medications haven’t worked. The specialist referred me for an MRI to see if nerves were affected BUT requested a report on my LEFT side when all the pain is on my Right side. I received the results minutes before my consultation and felt defeated. The Specialist dismissed my concerns and seeing that I had made notes to help me remember what to ask, he told me that I was over thinking and allowing the pain to rule my life. I was told that surgery to repair an anterior and posterior prolapse would not be possible due to the nerve damage. I need to get a Radiologist to report on the imaging of my right side but I’m finding it difficult. I feel completely alone and abandoned but your advice on how to deal with difficult Doctors has given me hope. Thank you Dr and keep safe and well.

[@IQTech61]

I know this means well but it feels like patients are now responsible for taking care of doctors. It sounds like some of these doctors need to do some work on themselves.

[@matthewhildebrandt1901]

I had a great doctor from birth to age 21. After that, not so good. How I'd love to find a doctor like you. Thank you for all the valuable info you give us in these videos!

[@annchristine47]

The problem,generally,is that many people in the medical profession lack empathy which is interesting because narcissism is a predominant feature in medicine which,ironically,sometimes is a sort of necessity in dealing with other peoples problems on a daily basis,

[@NYPD99STARR]

I've always shown my doctors with the highest respect. I've also worked with doctors through health insurance to make sure their patients were not made to wait for care because an uneducated person on the phone line says so!

[@lesatyson2811]

Thank you so much for that video❤❤❤

[@dang2648]

Thank you very informative 🙏

[@p.rcoursey44]

This guy is amazing n the things he teaches are easy n work great❤

[@ReensaraiArtbyReenaS]

thank you for this talk❤🎉

[@gnarthdarkanen7464]

Absolutely true about taking notes... FURTHERMORE... I'd recommend HIGHLY against doing so with any electronic device... AND with pretty solid reason... I also suggest you DO NOT get the notebook... Hear... er... READ me out here. We call them "trucker cans" around here... BUT what you want is a clipboard-box, "form holder" is one of the technical terms... It's a clipboard on a modest, low profile storage box. Most are hinged at the end with the "clip" that holds your papers/forms in place while you write... AND that's one of the big BIG advantages, that clipboard option! Inside, there are compartments (like any common organizer) where you can separate the paper(s), even keep a folder in the bottom for "important stuff" as applicable, and your writing/drawing instruments, eraser, and even a few general purpose bits and bobs... as you might or might not want... and this can be organized or adjusted from one trip to the next... Number 1... This gives you a dedicated container for all your "Doctor Related" documents and such... notes, prescriptions list, forms, cards, bills, or anything else that might be paper and pertinent to your visit(s) to the doctor in general, or this doctor in particular. They have latches, and some even have locks installed from the factory, so you can be as secure about these things as you see fit... No more need to worry about losing a form or brochure or any such thing as you might need at the Doctor's office. It's all RIGHT THERE, and without any hunting, scouring over the house, bitching at husband, wife, relatives, kids, about where this or that went or who's seen it last... Most of us come home from a "day trip" to the doc's office with a bag full of prescriptions, a few pages of notes, and pharmacists pile of warnings, interaction notations, directions, and what-not... AND a schedule for our next appointment or follow up... ALL of this pertinent medical information then ends up stuffed down in the bag from the prescriptions (if we're lucky) and stuck in a corner while we organize our drugs and treatments and all associated equipment around the bathroom or house as necessary to get along with our newfound "normal" during the treatment and healing process... AND just as promptly we forget about at least half of it. What if you had one container, completely dedicated to ALL your notes, the notes from the doc', added notes and warnings pertinent from the pharmacist, and you could keep everything in one place so it can be grabbed on the way out the door for your next appointment, OR (worse come to worse) on the way to E.R.??? Number 2... That clipboard... We've all been there... Getting an appointment is only part of the show. Next we have to fill out the entry forms so the doc's get warning about all our allergies and sensitivities, the drugs we can remember we're taking, and our insurance information so they know how to get paid... that's important. AND of course, some offices have their own clipboards... BUT many don't... AND in a waiting room with NOTHING BUT CHAIRS, how the HELL am I supposed to get that cheap-ass dollar-store ballpoint pen to write on anything rather than punch holes through the page and scratch the sh*t out of my legs??? Number 3... AND finally, who remembers their own pens, pencils, and other marking devices??? We've been there, too. You get the pen from the receptionist along with the stack of forms and questionnaires to fill out and answer... and of course, it's skipping... blotchy... or doesn't write at all... AND you already feel like sh*t or you wouldn't BE in a doctor's office trudging through a million forms and all the questions while you fight going cross-eyed with the migraine that's coming on with everything else, while you vainly try to concentrate on whether or not you're at risk of getting pregnant, only to remember you're a MAN for f***'s own sakes... SO this delightful little gadget has a slot inside, exactly for a place to store not one, but several writing instruments, whether you prefer ink or graphite and most of them have a nice little square aside for that spare eraser because the stupid little dinky things they put on mechanical pencils is STILL best described as "a sad joke"... It doesn't hurt anything to LOOK like you mean business. Some might think of it as intimidating, seeing someone with a sizeable device in hand, out of which pops papers and forms, ID cards for work with the insurance, even a well organized list of every regular drug or supplement, down to the kind of shaving cream you prefer and what brand you've been stuck with for the last two weeks because your asshole brother in law got drunk and decided to shave his back on a dare... whatever... It seems like 10 Bucks for a clipboard advantage is overkill, BUT when you can pop it open and whip out a short-stack of pages for note taking, AND an itemized list of questions to help guide you through the pertinent conversation with THIS particular doc' or specialist, it's simply a clear and OPEN signal that you have INTENT... that this isn't just another visit to a doc' because you're exhausted and suffering and looking for a quick patch in a bottle of pills... YOU mean business and are probably pretty intensely focused on YOUR BEST to heal as far as you can, or at least to reach some kind of treatment schedule that works as well as can be hoped for what time you have left... Yeah, I've been accused of insidious forms of intimidation with my "trucker can" by other visitors to Doc's offices and the E.R... BUT I'm here to ASSURE you that through my mother's last couple years of End of Life care (as it turned out) I found that thing INVALUABLE. It performed extremely well at keeping everything TOGETHER as much as organized (and I AM the Prince of Chaos, if not the King)... AND while I'd long struggled with remembering the questions I'd think of between visits while I was sitting there and facing the doc' that could answer any of them, JUST having a place to KEEP the list once I'd made one out was HUGE... especially while I'm comforting my mother, trying to help break the complicated technical BS jargon down, updating her understanding of health and terms from "low blood sugar" to "pre-diabetic" instead of her argument "I have exactly the opposite of that problem"... AND trying to keep straight which pain relievers would or wouldn't interfere with what other drugs, so her morning regimen had to be different from her evenings... Reminders to pick up coagulants because of the blood thinners that came with a stack of warnings "because the pharmacist almost never saw those drugs together in his 30 years)... among the litany of details, lists, and paperwork... It was just TOO G** D*** MUCH for one person to cram into one rattly brain, especially as dysfunctional and frequently scattered as mine! Of course, for those slouchy types and narcissistic or sketchy folks who only want to get you through the visit and out the door for their precious profits... It IS a little intimidating to see someone well put together and PREPARED for the sh*t-show... Knowing they're not dealing with "just another bumpkin" can be a little unnerving... to whit... I say "GOOD". I may not be the most educated or well trained in the world. That doesn't mean I'm "too country fried to know sh*t"... and the charlatans can get over their ego, and either straighten up a little bit, or give it up and go home. No, NOT all doctors are out to get you... BUT they're just like anybody else. If you slack off and let them, they'll take the free reign to their advantage. We can only really keep honest people honest. Many of them DO mean well. They get scatter-brained and beat down just like you and me... AND it's easy for details to slip minds on anyone! Having notes from the past visits and patterns of progress, regress, and extraneous wastes of time (as do happen at the best of times) just helps keep straight so we don't waste too much time re-hashing stuff that doesn't work because the doc' forgot and we're too unsure of our own memories to call them out or correct anything. You might be SURPRISED just how often things get repeated needlessly because nobody in the room happened to remember from last time. ;o)

[@nancypatch6228]

I had spine surgery with a surgeon with no bedside manner. He told me none of the risks l ended up with foot drop so now l will have this the rest of my life.

[@chuckmayerchak3071]

I had an issue with a urology surgeon. I had a partial Penectomy along with a perinial urotstamy. Then 4 weeks later 9 lyph nodes removed all negative. When I went in to have the drains removed I conveyed a foul smell in the fluid in the left leg drain. He made no comment. 5 days later I'm suffering from an infection. He then arranged a phone appointment two weeks later. I had a list of questions to ask about including swelling lyphadwma in the left leg. During the call every time I was speaking, I could tell he was muting his phone must have been having a conversation with someone?? End results were no results concerning my concerns. Also my perinial urothedyomy no longer works, I'm paying urin through my stump. Luckily it's working OK. I doubt that I'll ever return to that Pittsburgh PA facility!

[@Lemon_Zest9120]

Absolutely amazing thank you!

[@irenenavarrette1918]

Thanks so much Dr. Kaveh. I have learned so much! And I plan on talking with my doctors!

[@oceanjoker3544]

Ty sir for even bringing this up to discuss it. Awesome!

[@marieg3865]

Good tips. Thanks for your time Dr

[@mars4697]

Great advice! I sure appreciate it!

[@krissylou4113]

Thank you!

[@nightowl6260]

Very helpful! Thank you!!

[@KS-sf2vo]

Love your videos. Thank you. I learn a lot from you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you

[@hhk740]

Thank you

[@reneeroth4045]

Thank You, so much for all this great information.

[@Dan_Alien]

I finally got my doctor to listen to me. It was so hard because I have CRPS and I hate asking for anything. It took me saying you need to hear me I'm miserable please help me. He finally did he's an excellent Doc. Just not the most tactful. Im going for an injection and I feel that I'm finally being heard. He tried to blow me off but I wouldn't let him. I was firm and had my husband there so he could say how long I've been having a hard time. It worked because he finally saw I was not living but existing. Yes, you must be mentally prepared that is important when you want your Dr to hear you. Good advice.

[@lnkc1310]

Terrible that doctors don't believe US . We must bring someone along to confirm our words

[@colleenclements5715]

I really enjoy your videos . . . Great insight & good advice . . . Thank you💯👍

[@gentlespiritjw4904]

Fantastic video. Excellent suggestions! Thank you. 🙏

[@EgoKnight]

I have to say... (of course, you must have read this a thounsand times...) you sound so calm and relaxed that I can't help but feel relaxed and encouraged at the same time. HOWEVER... honestly... most of the times, doctors blow you off because they have little time for your appointment, or perhaps you're presenting a condition that's quite common for them; so if I took out my notebook or made questioons because I didn't understand... I am almost certain they would "kick me out" (it's a figurative speech, of course). Usuaally it's like "OK... we'll run some tests... come back when you have these done..." (And... "what do I have? What do you suspect? etc...) - I always ask... and most phisicians... don't like it at all...

[@EgoKnight]

On the other hand... I LOVE it when a doctor takes the time to explain things to me... it makes me feel soooo much more confident and relaxed... (and, honestly... I trust them more)

[@eprofengr6670]

Great points and focus on important concerns. Thanks for sharing.

[@DitDot55]

I love your videos - what do you make of an entire SYSTEM that shows consistent disregard of you because of your given diagnosis of an "invisible" disability - inherent, programmed stigma around psychological diagnosis....inaccurate, of course....