SPILLING THE TEA ABOUT MYSELF | Lydia Elise Millen

[@lydiamillen]

I just want to apologise for the poor sound on this video, I have been testing microphones to use in my videos and so far I haven’t found one that works. I had to send this video to be sound corrected because I didn’t want to have to refilm this because I don’t feel I’ve ever spoken this candidly about myself, my life and everything in between before and I think refilling would have lost that. So I have done my best and lots of people have worked hard to make good of this video, so I really hope you enjoy it as much as you can and Please know that I am doing my best to find a good microphone. xx

[@kejokiduniya130]

Lydia Elise Millen its ok princess

[@Tabmaj]

Sounds fine honestly

[@Caley11]

Sounds fine to me 😊

[@rachelfreiha]

Never apologise darling you are amazing. Been waiting for the video♥️♥️

[@beckywyatt4137]

Sounds perfect

[@bubblemummy1]

I totally get the baby question! It is rude and presumptuous, and also has such potential to be hurtful if someone is unable to have kids. We were married for 9 years before we decided to have kids, luckily I fell pregnant quickly once we decided to go ahead, but we had put up with that question for 9 bloody years! Also, once I had had my son they only start flipping asking when you're having another one! I have never asked anyone that question, and never would!

[@moontiggsland]

My best friend had 3 miscarriages. People need to mind their own business instead of ask when you're having a baby...

[@zaalash187]

I have been married for 3 years and constantly these old ladies brag on about why i am not getting pregnant its so very rude and just unkind since i have hormonal issues it just makes me deeply upset and angry at the same time

[@moontiggsland]

My best friend told me about an hour ago that is going thru her 4th miscarriage. There should be a campaign to educate people on not asking things baby related

[@booksandbags1790]

And if you say you don’t want to have kids, they try to convince you that you do. Ugh!

[@miss81SMB]

We did IVF to get our son, and I have been very open about that. So when I think about it not ONE person has asked us about baby number two. Even my mum has accepted and started saying that my son is her last grandchild 😂 Because I really don't want anymore children, I have one and thats by far enough for me.

[@zarkomaichee]

You should be praised for being so open and comfortable about not wanting children (possibly ever). Becoming a parent is not an easy choice and it is definitely not something any woman should feel forced to do or feel ashamed not wanting to. Women are much more than just potential mothers.

[@lisal205]

Amen. I hate the way there is so much backlash towards women for not wanting kids. I think it is slightly getting better and sometimes i wished i had that maternal side but people need to be more respectful

[@jelenaorec1817]

I am a mother but I agee with you 100%. It is a difficult choice and it is difficult raising children. You should be sure without a doubt that you want that life.

[@Stephyyii]

I haven’t watched the video yet but it’s interesting cause Ali said multiple times that he wants to have children.. hmm

[@arlinejernigan]

Totally agree!!!

[@Veroplane]

Lydia, I must say that this was the content and the girl that drew me in years ago. I personally felt disconnected from you since the moving of houses and all of your content seemed contrived or you were just peddling another product onto us. But this video was top notch. It was real and raw and it reminded me of the time when I hit that subscribe button. I know people change as we get older, but there was something about this video that made me go “Ahh, there she is”. I hope to see more content like this in the future.

[@heidihuiss1173]

I agree veroplane. I too felt that way about the videos since she moved.

[@misk1039]

Agree 100 %

[@misk1039]

@@heidihuiss1173 just subscribed

[@ivetaatanasova2934]

Veroplane totally agree with you!

[@emi111]

Totally agree, feel exactly the same!!

[@vanessalockett5280]

it is not uncommon when one is a child of divorced parents, not to want a child . Totally get it, regardless of your reasons or motivation , absolutely respect and admire your honesty. I don’t however , agree you do not have maternal instincts , you are an awesome fur mom. Your life must suit you, thanks for taking your subbies along for the ride.

[@lydiamillen]

hahaha fur mum! YES I AM! Oh I love this thanks Vanessa xx

[@lisal205]

I am exactly like lydia where children don't appeal to me either. Ever since 15 i was pretty sure i didnt want them and am now.nearly 29. I a. A fur mom though and my fur babies get spoilt.. so glad lydia isnt shying away from this though as some people think i am weird or selfish

[@lisal205]

Absolutely agree. I didn't mean that I think its shellfish as i believe we all have choices but somd people out there think it is and I have no idea why. If anything i am doing to world a favour by not brining another lifd.in unless i was 100%.

[@viivie267]

I don't get that you are selfish if you don't reproduce, since that is the selfish thing to do. The unborn child don't want to born. 😂

[@lillyl6901]

Lisa L i think not having biological children is the most selfless thing you can do because our earth would do so much better without so many people wandering it’s surface. Overpopulation is real, therefore it’s actually not selfish if you decide not to contribute to that problem!

[@meme-jc5ks]

The baby question is the most invasive, rude question. I can’t have children, want them desperately, and have been told countless times that I my ‘eggs will dry up’ if I don’t have them soon, that I ‘don’t know what love is’ because I haven’t got children, and that I am somehow half a person without them. I never ask the question of others and agree with everything you said. Loved it.

[@elena737UwU]

Feel ya' ❤

[@TheBlushersJournal]

O my god i'm sorry! People suck.

[@bubblemummy1]

God people are so thoughtless and hurtful. Shit heads xx

[@meme-jc5ks]

Thanks so much everyone x

[@lipgloss19881]

May god bless you with what you want ❤️

[@elena737UwU]

Thank you for putting the kids thing that way... yes, I consider it to be a private matter and people doesn't realise how invasive the question is ❤

[@Nubianette]

Your family situation made sense to me. It’s so obvious you’re proud of your Italian heritage. It contributes to your beauty. Plus, you’re such a hard worker, and you’re always trying to be the best person you can be. You’re always a joy to watch! I also love your sarcasm! 😆👏🏾

[@creativeartwellbeing]

Lydia I saw you today at Heathrow airport!!!! It made my day 🌸but I was too shy to come up and talk to you ! I was standing there crying because I was seeing my daughter off as she is moving to America to work there for a year and my heart was breaking saying goodbye and then I turned around and saw you standing there and ended up crying my eyes out to my daughter and whispering in her ear I love you and please be careful and have a wonderful time and OMG Lydia is over there!!! lol We both ended up laughing 😂 and crying ......... i ended up waving good bye to her and then wanting to come over to you but I was still crying my eyes out...... love my baby girl and love you Lydia 💕🌸💕😍👜❤️

[@lydiamillen]

You absolutely should have come for a cuddle, everyone I work with are so lovely, we could have had a group cuddle! x

[@mademoisellesachaaa]

I'm Dyslexic and ADHD! I used to write completely mirror image as a little girl, and my mom homeschooled me during the early years to teach me to write because she was worried about my success. I also do the weird letter swapping thing and skipping letters or symbols, which made math a really difficult thing. I ended up taking the highest levels of math you could take in high school, finished my bachelors with the highest honours that can be received, and am about to graduate with a masters of science next week :) If anyone out there struggles with Dyslexia, ADHD, or similar, you're going to be okay.

[@petergenchev1073]

Omg, I'm Dyslexic too, however, my weakness is with reading and especially numbers. I always read them backwards, but in my mind I know what's the right number. However, I was excellent in math at school, lol.

[@cristinaruizbernal3231]

mademoisellesss i really felt a couple of weird feeling while reading your comment as i saw myself back in the day. I was diagnosed with ADHD and dyslexia two exams before i finish my law school. I always knew i was different but didnt know why. One day while preparing my lasts exams a friend compared me to her little brother who had ADHD. My life changed as i found the answer to all the questions. I wasnt different anymore instead i see my self as special. I work as a lawyer and since that day i found out what happiness and acceptance means.

[@bensiagel]

I've never been professionally diagnosed, but I know for sure I'm dyslexic and have ADHD. It's definitely been difficult and I notice that I catch on to things a little slower, but I've always pushed through it and now I'm somehow working as a Geological Engineer. Probably a little dangerous for the company I work for (they don't know) and the public, considering all the responsibility I'm accountable for 😂😂😂 I just thought I'd spill a little tea about myself too as a fellow dyslexic! Edit: I've never told anyone about my disability, aside from my sister. The only reason she knows is because she was my math tutor; I always made mistakes when it came to reading numbers

[@05juicystar]

Please do a get ready with me video with you and Carrie! I think it would be hilarious 😆

[@lidiyaz.7354]

05juicystar yes please!

[@nataliedagoy2503]

05juicystar b

[@sarahrews8386]

Yes please!!!

[@ec93ec01]

Literally every single time I have a burst of motivation to be productive, you post a video! and I love your videos so much that I, obviously, have to stop whatever I'm doing and watch it right there! and I just want to say how much I appreciate your answer to the question on when you and Ali are having kids. As soon as I got married, people started asking those questions. And unbeknownst to them, I was having marital problems for the last three of the four years of being married. Because we struggled for so many years, we really needed to figure out whether or not we were going to last before bringing kids into it. My husband and I just filed for divorce. And I know people seem to think that asking when you were going to have kids is an innocent question, but they really don't understand how much it can hurt someone. We both really wanted to have kids, but we also knew that our marriage probably wasn't going to last despite three years of fighting to make it work. You never know the reason for why someone isn't having kids. especially with the amount of people out there that are struggling with infertility... I feel like we're at a point where we should just know better than to ask. So thank you so much for addressing that question as eloquently as you did. It's absolutely something that needs to be said again and again until we stop!

[@alittlebitlaura]

Well done on the baby question. I’m 47 and people are still asking. LOL. I, like you, wasn’t sure if I wanted children and felt strange saying it out loud but sometime in my 30s I knew for sure it was not for me and luckily my husband felt the same so we opted for not. And there’s nothing wrong with that. You do you. And everyone else can mind their own damn business. ♥️

[@KarinaSwan]

I know a woman who didn't want to have kids until she turned 53 and she had one at that time, perhaps this is why people are still asking you haha. Seriously, so rude! I'm single and people ask me that question at least once a week... together with the marriage question.

[@emmaboobier2035]

So many similarities with your life which I can relate to. My past is also very disjointed and it confuses a lot of people. You are proof that you can push through challenges and still succeed! Thank you for being very human xx

[@clempaiement2499]

When you get assaulted you don't necessarily know because in any ways did you ask for or you "shouldn't allow it to happen" in your own words... still not your fault! Loved the video and the fact that you are not constantly traveling around the world makes you a lot more relatable to your followers xx

[@lydiamillen]

Yeh I think that was the hardest thing to accept was I was worried that I’d got the situation wrong xx

[@littlefox9436]

Just really want to thank you for saying that many people have serious fertility issues and struggle with the insensitivity of the questioning.

[@alisongcfvcgvcvcdwdssasgar6059]

Hi Lydia, You have inspired me so much this year. I was diagnosed with breast cancer in November last year and the last 10 months have been surgery, chemo and radiotherapy. I am in recovery now and am going back to work next week. Watching you has given me positivity, happiness and laughter (you are so funny 😂) I really enjoy watching your beauty routines and have invested in a By Terry mascara and Nars duo blush and love them. Please can you suggest an everyday lightweight foundation for work that doesn’t clog? Thank you for sharing your stories, you are so uplifting and just a classy, beautiful lady xox

[@KarinaSwan]

Hello, I randomly noticed your comment and I hope you don't mind if I give you an answer about foundation. I don't like heavy foundation and I have used Dior and Chanel ones. Just ask the sales person to give you the lightweight, non oily formula. it's smooth and barely felt on skin. It never clogged pores, although you still have to make sure you cleanse your skin well, because this may lead to clogged pores no matter what you use. Better yet, maybe go for bare minerals (I heard good things) or something of this sort. Their products are natural so it's lightweight and easy to remove.

[@alisongcfvcgvcvcdwdssasgar6059]

Karina Swan Hi Karina. Thank you so much for the advice it’s much appreciated. I like the sound of Bare Minerals, have heard of the brand but never used so will look into that. I currently use a B.B. cream which is ok but I would like something better and longer lasting. Big thanks 😘

[@KarinaSwan]

@@alisongcfvcgvcvcdwdssasgar6059 You are welcome! I hope you will find a good one 🌞

[@ScarlettLondon]

I loved this video Lydia, it's wonderful that you're so refreshingly honest and candid about things, even though you don't have to be. You can tell through your videos (although I've met you too, so can confirm) what a sweet, genuine person you are. Keep being you, because you're totally fabulous! xx

[@lydiamillen]

Thanks Scarlett, this means a lot to me it really does!

[@iloveu975]

Loved the family background story! You should deffo do a video with your grandma, would LOVEEEEEEE to hear her stories!

[@emmahickey7164]

I’m blown away by your honesty and openness, so incredibly admirable!

[@Ab74by]

I really enjoyed your take on the press trips. As a viewer they are the least relatable thing about watching content creators. Even people who are extremely wealthy don't have time to travel to and from luxury hotels all across the world. I do enjoy watching press trip vlogs but after a while it can be quite "in your face" and I think you've found the perfect balance !

[@taramilne5467]

This is such an honest and transparent video - you are a role model to so many

[@lydiamillen]

Thank you so much! I mean I’m just me but if that makes me a role model then that’s bloody cool x

[@b.walker5955]

Was it earl grey you just spilled? : ) There is no doubt you found your life soul mate in Ali. And your friend soul mate in Carrie. But to double dip and have her also be your work soul mate/and her wanting to be...that is really something special. ~It also reveals a lot about your character/loyalty. Did you realize you described her just as you would a successful marriage? How you complete one another? Well, I did! And It was beautiful to hear. : ) XO

[@mademoisellesachaaa]

Lydia, I feel like you're a serious person with far more dimension than you let on. If you ever feel like just having a chat with us, sharing advice and experience, I think we'd all really enjoy that type of content. You have a lot of wisdom and seem like a very reasonable person, I think your perspective would be appreciated by a lot of us.

[@suppliedwithlove]

The major benefit of dyslexia is that we’re often very creative - so actually its probably the reason you’re such a successful blogger 🙂 xx

[@SuysRomy]

Thank you so much for sharing this, you were so honest!Talking about your mum, dyslexia and the wealth of your grandparents are not easy topics and sometimes can be used against you (I can relate to that)!But you talked about it so gracefully and humble.Thank you for explaining the press-trips issue, honestly I was missing the press-trips but now I completely understand.A+++++ from me.xxx

[@vasssie]

The press trips look exhausting to be honest - they've turned from really showcasing the feel of the brand to just endless getaways to places that aren't even connected to the brand at all anymore.

[@louisematthews3393]

I was like you when it came to babies and children, I didn’t know if I ever wanted them, then I got pregnant and now have a beautiful baby boy, the love I feel for him is like no other, however never feel pressure to have them if you’re not sure. It was the biggest shock. My advise to anyone is wait until you’re really really ready 💞 xx

[@travelfoodielove]

Louise Matthews thank you Louise. Sometimes I get scared bc of the age pressure. I’m in my 30s

[@hjbows88]

The baby question is rude and boring. It is primarily aimed at women and makes the assumption all women want kids. It reduces women to the role of mother. 😴😴😴

[@lipgloss19881]

hjbows88 reduces women to the role of mother? The most important role in a person’s life is being a parent. That is such an ignorant comment.

[@hjbows88]

lipgloss19881 speak for yourself. It’s not the most important role for everyone. You are the ignorant one 🙄

[@LinusLarrabee]

Most important role in a person's life? Says who? Speak for yourself!

[@lipgloss19881]

hjbows88 that’s not what I meant, everyone has a right to chose to be parents or not, but if they do, it is the most important role! It is literally the future!

[@hjbows88]

lipgloss19881 that isn’t what you said and your name calling was unnecessary and rude

[@atticus1583]

The most impressive thing I've heard in this video is that your grandmother worked in Debenhams' canteen. That's real life. Much more impressive than Cartier watches.

[@lydiamillen]

Amen! The childhood mems of baked beans on potato waffles are epic!

[@taylorduffy5059]

OMG!!!! Your family sounds so so interesting and your grandma sounds sooo interesting it would be amazing if you did a QnA or story time with her one time xx

[@biancanell6622]

YES PLEASE! Q&A with Grandma!

[@Emshelx]

Ah Lydia so excited for a chatty video. I already know it's gonna be wonderful. GORGEOUS HUMAN xxx

[@lydiamillen]

I hope you do enjoy it ❤️

[@vixmeldrew8964]

Mate this is top notch content! 😂 and the sound is abso fine!

[@lydiamillen]

You are the bomb Vix ❤️

[@safiyyahdesai5546]

I think you were very brave to be open about the last question. The finer details aren’t something the world needs to know if you don’t feel comfortable revealing them, the most important thing is you finding closure. There’s a tonne of videos out there regarding it, if you’re not up to it that’s totally ok and not something to worry about! Also adore this little sit down, you should absolutely do more ❤️

[@shannontamisha4057]

Love how honest you were in this video, such a silly thing to relate to but when you were talking about your relationship with your Mum and how much things have changed to you both going out shopping together in IKEA. This is something I have recently done too with my own Mum in which I never thought would happen for lots of reasons personal to her! It’s lovely to hear you are speaking/ spending time together. I know now how much me and my mums relationship effects the happiness in my life. Also I absolutely love your jumper!! Xxx

[@ellaa5528]

Sounds was fine on the video, made me sad that you think everyone dislikes you, you’re so lovely!

[@lydiamillen]

It's something I'm breaking down and learning to understand, lots of progress has been made even since this video ;) x

[@slwilliams75]

I loved this!! you spoke so eloquently and with great humour. Why are people disliking this?!?! It was great!!

[@CatherineAnnbeauty]

You always have the most perfect sweaters. Way to slay sweater weather ♥️

[@grettac24]

I love how honest and authentic you are and how it comes through in all your videos. Love you Lydia!

[@keeshrenee6314]

I absolutely loved this video. I nearly think it's one of my favorites. I often see KZbinrs do question videos, but this is the best I've seen ever. I like how detailed and specific the questions were. They weren't the same, ole' usual ones and I appreciated your honesty. Learning about your family background, your relationship with your mom, and even your thoughts on motherhood felt so real and authentic. It's a reminder that no matter where we are in life rather financially, educationally, or whatever, we're all human kind of navigating this journey the best we know how and I felt that in this episode. Thank you so much for this content. I'm a fan of whatever you do, really because I love your humor, you style and your passion for what you do, but I absolutely love you authenticity and your ability to be yourself.

[@Makeawishbecometrue]

I really appreciate you talking so openly about your relationship with your mum, my parents got divorced when I was young and I never felt there was anyone else I could look up to who had also gone through a similar thing. Forever love to your videos ❤️

[@user-cu2gp2py9v]

I'm so inspired to see you talking about "the children subject" as you have! I feel very much the same way, and many people treat me so rudely when I mention my reservations. Incubating and raising a whole human is a big deal! No one should feel forced to do it or isolated for deciding not to do it.

[@Mizukichan2006]

I *loved* your little sign-off, that was one of the best and most genuine! Also, thank you for speaking so candidly and thoroughly about yourself, I hope it's taken a small load off your shoulders! xx

[@_quartzyoucan2369]

I didn’t want this video to end. In fact, I imagine all of us would happily listen to you talk for hours. Lovely to get to know another dimension of your mind & soul. So many aspects of this video will help a lot of people. Big loves from New Zealand 🇳🇿 ♥️😍😘

[@sophiamclean23]

You articulate yourself so incredibly well in this video. Honestly this is one of my favourites of yours in a long time (not to say that I haven't loved your videos recently!).

[@LilMonkey117]

I truly like how genuine you are! You put a lot of work into what you do here and it shows. Loved the video.

[@alicefang8838]

These topics are so heavy but you talked about these so well. From your relationship with your family, to the process of realizing sexual harassment I've never felt so relatable to you. This must've been difficult to tiptoe around. Amazing video!

[@shefindsaidso]

Brilliant video Lydia. You really shine in this format. You are so authentic and I love when you just speak from the heart, not scripted just human and it’s lovely.

[@motanel26]

Lydia, I am so happy about the content of this video. Before coming to the UK, (I just finished my Master here) I was following you and I still do it, and wondering about your success and now all my thoughts about you became true. For the people who think she received all her comfort and money, this woman worked so hard to be where she is. I know she makes good money from youtube and all the other ads but all this with a lot of work. She is ambitious and hard working. I admire you, Lydia. Keep going because you are on the right path.

[@essbee5882]

Sorry to hear you had that happen to you. Keep shining Lydia, you are an inspiration to so many xx

[@justineleconte]

A sincere and genuine video 😊

[@Dixiwonderlandyoutube]

This made me love you even more! I have been following you for so long now and I just love the person you are. It feels so nice to have someone to relate to. I´m 28 and I´m 98% sure that I don´t want kids. I´ve been with my man for 10 years and people have now finally stopped asking about kids. I have never been a big fan of kids and just to hear you say it out loud how you feel makes me came. Not everyone wants kids and that´s okay. I think that you are very brave for uploading this video. I´m happy to hear that you and your mom have a better relationship. My relationship to my mom almost looks the same. And I also wanna say that I´m so sorry for what happen to you. You are such a great role model Lydia. So brave. Sending you so much love ❤️

[@tallulahrich4660]

Lydia you are so open and honest with yourself! Thank you for being so real, its nice to know that even though you have no requirement to share these things, you feel you can with your viewing community!

[@TheIceInTheSunshine]

So many things I can relate to: mom relationship (haven't spoken to mine in over six years), thinking that everyone dislikes me, liking routine. Thanks for that video. It made me relate to you even more!

[@HM-pw8it]

TheIce InTheSunshine I know right! Me too!! I didn’t speak to my mom for two years. Then I got shamed into trying to “rebuild” a “relationship” (we never had one in the first place) it’s now been two years since we’ve been in contact again and all she has done is reject me and make no efforts of her own. Some “moms” just aren’t mothers and you’re not an evil ungrateful brat if you choose to cut out a toxic narcissist from your life.

[@chiaracelani9917]

I’m an avid KZbin lover, in fact it’s half of my job. I’ve followed many KZbinrs for years and just gotten bored, but I have to say I’ve been watching your videos for two years now and I’ve NEVER been bored, in fact I look forward to them every week. So thank you for making my commute something I look forward to yet again 💕

[@mademoisellesachaaa]

I'm not a maternal person, and I had a much younger sibling who kind of gave me a first-hand encounter with young children. I've been married for over four years, with my partner for just shy of a decade, and only now do I feel like I might want to have our kids. I don't want kids, I want OUR kids, and I think there's a huge difference. In the end, I think the most important thing is that you have a child when it is wanted, not when it is expected. Totally agree it's a rude question though, my parents struggled for 12 years to get pregnant and then had a pregnancy where they knew the baby was going to be stillborn but carried it to term anyway. Imagine being asked, when are you due, is it a boy or a girl, all these intrusive questions. To me, becoming a parent (deciding to have kids, being pregnant) is a medical decision, and I think couples should have complete privacy in those things. If someone wants to share, or wants to talk about it, or is happy, they'll speak up and invite you into the conversation :) If not, keep your mouth shut!

[@AshleysAvenue]

I must say this is probably the best video you have ever done. Thank you for finally being open and letting us here on youtube get a better sense of yourself. You have finally closed a lot of gaps!!

[@jenny199627]

I've recently unsubscribed from MANY channels because I'm on a journey to stop buying fast fashion, so I had to unfollow them. I also find that many youtubers are only making videos to make money, not enjoying it anymore and most of all making a fool of their subscribers by advertising and selling things they would never personally use (in this case I'm talking about a person in particular that portrays herself as someone who only uses natural and organic products and then made and sold really nasty products). At first I thought you were one of those, but eventually I realized that you only advirtise products that you normally use. I also like the fact that you don't buy a HUGE amount of clothes and look for quality, and most of all that you wear and wear the clothes that you buy, so they're not just a one-time wear. I really liked you before but after this video I like you even more, it felt so honest!

[@lisal205]

Same did you see Stacey dooley bbc 1 tonight. My only wish is that vloggers and bloggers would raise more awareness xx

[@Rinuize]

I'm itching to know who this is!

[@lisal205]

Rinuize check out bbc one -documentary only aired last night. Not sure if you seen the truth in what you wear on netflix. As much as i am guilty at watching what people buy i dont get sucked into thr consumption anymore. One thing about lydia even though she does shop the majorty of stuff she buys she knows she will have for years and she sells on her bits on depop also and she wears what she has and wears it multiple times

[@mann7298]

are you talking about niomi? she seemed to get a lot of backlash on her products. if so, she doesnt really portray herself as someone who only uses natural and organic products since shes been working with dior for example for a long time. :)

[@michelleperdue9415]

I love your videos and I love that you’ve stayed authentic. Don’t ever let anyone change you. You weren’t meant to be perfect, you were meant to be real. My soulmate friend and I have gotten on each other’s nerves over the years but it makes for funny stories that we love to tell people. Carrie seems like a sweet, lovely person and so much fun. I bet she always has your back as well. Thank you for sharing your life with us, even the not so wonderful parts. It reminds us we aren’t alone even if we are miles away and have never met. I like you just the way are...you’re a keeper Lydia!

[@elzasofie3959]

I applaud you for staying true to yourself and creating content that speaks to your brand and vision. In a world where everyone feels the pressure to fit in or be liked, I think you're doing a tremendous job remaining true to your own vision and not feeling the pressure to succumb to the millions of opinions out there. Most of us don't take lavish trips every month, so I relate to your life and find it more useful and enjoyable than someone that keeps posting about their trips and lifestyle that is not very relatable or achievable for most.

[@elenamoscone]

Lids i follow you since video number one and now everything makes sense! Thanks for beeing so honest and candid!!

[@peggood8979]

Thanks for being vulnerable and real! Fell in love with the genuine person you are all over again🥰

[@Mstiramisu22]

I love reading the positive comments Lydia, you answered everything with such grace. Yes you are on a public platform, you are also entitled to a private life and I guess people feel invested in your life but I think there needs to be some sort of compass when you ask an intrusive question or make a personal dig about someone’s grammar, family life, spending habits. I completely agree with you, it’s your blog, your life and it’s just fun to see snippets of it through your videos and IG xxx

[@danielleherbert6309]

I can fully relate to struggling with grammar. I’ve always enjoyed the fact that you aren’t a perfectly polished blogger. As a dyslexic myself it made me feel that despite the fact my writing isn’t perfect I can still blog and create content that I should be proud of. Thank you for always keeping it real!

[@xrvsm7457]

Absolutely loved this video. You truly showed us a side of you that we haven’t really seen in a while. I’m so glad that you got some of those things off of your chest I’ve seen too many comments about several of those topics! Keep up the good work, Lydia I’ve been following you for a few years now and I have never been able to get bored of a video xx 💓

[@kbear6863]

Quickest 25 minutes ever! Really enjoyed this.

[@ghc26]

Loved this, thank you. Appreciate the grace and elegance you displayed by respecting the people in your life, while also wanting to be open and honest with your subscribers. Very classy. ✨

[@lucylanegrita9358]

Hate that baby question, you are absolutely right, it is so rude. Some women think that all women must have children otherwise "they don't know what love is" or "they are incomplete" etc etc but the truth is many women feel the way you feel. Many moms end up miserable with their choice, and I feel there wouldn't be any abandoned children in the world if having a child was so defining. So I feel it is perfectly ok not feeling so maternal. Let your intuition and own life and feelings decide.

[@nickymclean5332]

Lydia, I thought I wouldn’t enjoy this with you only answering questions and no other content but i found it so interesting and it was things that I was curious and fascinated about. You are such a lovely person and no one could ever have reason to say a bad word. Enjoyed the questions you selected and admire you so much. Xxx

[@lindasullivan979]

How wonderfully refreshing! Make no apology! You are who you are. Be proud, own it and go forward with all the love and honesty!! 💙

[@McGandalf15]

Lydia, I haven't even finish this video yet but I just wanted to say that I could listen to you talking for hours. Literally. You're just so wise and humble and sweet. I'm glad we get to know you a little better :)

[@luxuryandlifeuk]

So with you on the baby question! I’m 29 and neither myself or my partner are sure if we want children. But why should I feel embarrassed about admitting that? People look at me as though somethings wrong with me! I have nieces and nephews and I love them, I just don’t know if having my own is on the cards for me. I can’t put a finger on why but I shouldn’t feel ashamed about it. Love your honesty in this video!

[@Temblett1]

Lyds, you absolutely SMASHED this spill the tea, I feel (weird to say, when you’re a complete stranger!) so proud of you! Your self-confidence seems growing to just be growing and growing and I absolutely love it. I’m so glad to see that you are no longer feeling you need to do any apologising for what you say, how you blog, how you feel - which you never EVER needed to, but I think pressure from arseholes made you feel you ought to. I love that. Because after all, this whole tea, is absolutely NONE OF OUR BUSINESS, so thank you for sharing so much of your feelings and very personal experiences. Fantastic news about you and Carrie - it’s almost doing what a great marriage should do, bring you all the more closer! Keep smiling chicken! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Libier]

Lydia. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. You are such a delight. If I could travel with anyone I’d want to travel with you!! I think we’d have so much fun! You are amazing for using your influence to be YOU and encouraging people to just be who they are. ♥️♥️♥️♥️ May you know how loved you are. I am praying for the harassment you endured that it would not become something about you but rather that you’d only see it as an illness in him. You responded in the way you knew how and now you get to use that voice and stand up for you and others in whatever way you want / or not. You are enough and pure no matter what. I love you! ❤️

[@piasurey]

Love you the way you are. I think you are a very genuine and beautiful person. Love your videos and your personality. Please continue this channel like this because shows who you are. Don’t anybody gets in you, some people are negative because they don’t know anything else and needs to envy and make negative comments so they’ll be happy. Please continue doing this because we love you and support you.

[@jessicarettally6534]

Sweet words Pia

[@tahoeskigirl74]

LOVED this video, Lydia! I've been watching your channel for the past few years and this was by far one of my favorites. You were so honest and open and conversational. I completely understand why you never talked about such personal things before, but the more meaningful, deeper conversation suits you so well! I also want to thank you for talking about your experience with sexual harassment. I think your story is, sadly, a very common one, so thank you for making it ok to process and take time to understand the emotions associated with realizing something of that nature happened to you and coming to terms with that.

[@slumberparty2713]

Well done Lydia for tackling some very sensitive topics with class and in such an eloquent manner

[@designeraddiction4160]

You’re such a beautiful genuine soul, you didn’t have to make this video but you did for the love of your subscribers.

[@pinkserenityx4043]

Love how you touch and speak about things so clearly yet carefully! Your so good with your words! Your doing so well Lydia x x

[@lydiamillen]

haha what you don't hear is the long pauses in between, I learnt it from my dad he used to take FOREVER to talk to me about difficult subject, I used to think FOR GODS SAKE DAD!!!! HURRY UP! now I know why and I have stolen his trekkers haha xx

[@fidelmagerrard7439]

Lydia I was one of these people. Not maternal at all. I now have two ☺️. It’s your choice. I’m still not one to go gooey over kids 🤣. I do love my boys though. I have two friends who never had kids and are still happy with their decision x

[@thayaccioly4427]

Me too, I was never a kid person myself, have 2 kids now, one grown and other little girl, I am not a very silly mother or started to like other people kids but love my kids to death and have my own way with them.

[@fidelmagerrard7439]

Thay Hanrath this is exactly like me 😘. Grown up 20 year old and nine year old xxx love them to bits but I’m more inclined to go gooey over a cat and dog then kids 🤣

[@bubblemummy1]

This is me totally too! I thought I was not maternal and probably wouldn't make a good mum as I actually disliked kids, but oh my God, I would kill for my kids. They have grown up to be the most beautiful, perfect humans. I still don't like other people's kids though!

[@fidelmagerrard7439]

beanybobs it’s not that I don’t like other peoples, I do but not in a melt my heart kinda way 🤣. I enjoy kids but a great saying I once heard a comedian say “Kids are like farts you can just about stick your own” 😂😂😂

[@bubblemummy1]

Oh yes I know what you mean! xxx

[@JamaicanMiiCrazy]

Gosh! You’re always so refreshing and surprising. I think your grammar is great personally, I love your content! You are an inspiration as a women and wife & it’s nice to see you always keep true to yourself.

[@elynndevos7850]

You were already my fave but this video made me even love you more! Keep up with the hard work, it really shows in your content Xx

[@donnaconrad6212]

Not only are you beautiful...on the outside, you are even more beautiful ~ when sharing yourself! You are so real, Lydia! A very loving, caring, giving young woman! I enjoyed hearing about your heritage, and I had always guessed your looks were more European than English (both my parents;Italian/grandparents both sides from Italy) probably is why I love your vlogs - I can relate to your background which is very similar to mine. A great video! Thank you for sharing, and being so sweet to answer so many questions from your viewers and to be at ease. Yet, to truly express with pride and love of family which came through most definitely! Your family should be very proud of you! :)

[@andrykoumis8290]

Just opening up to thousands of strangers and talking about ur private life is pretty dam amazing!!!

[@torontocrg4766]

I have followed you for some time now and always look forward to your videos. I love your down to earth honest approach, your sense of humour and your varied content. It’s a nice break to sit down and watch your videos and catch up with what you’re up to and I appreciate the time, thought and effort you put into them. It amazes me how critical people are - no one is forcing them to watch! Even though you are on KZbin everyone is entitled to their privacy and no one needs to justify what they do or the choices they make in life. I can relate to the children issue. I never wanted my own and was career oriented. I found my wonderful husband late in life and he has two lovely daughters that I have a great relationship with. People need to decide what’s right for them but it can be difficult when everyone around seems to be having children. You do you and enjoy your life. You’re doing a great job!

[@MCPower87]

Lydia... so intrigued to hear about your family history. I also grew up with parents who came from "different sides of the tracks" in pretty extreme ways, and I never realized how much I appreciated having both perspectives until I got older and found how often lessons from each have made me more well-rounded, empathetic, and ambitious. I think it is a special gift to know that the grass is greener where you water it, which was taught to me by both my mum and my dad. Thanks for sharing your story. :) -Claire

[@mahamasrori7162]

I just wanted to say thank you for sharing more about yourself, I loved learning more about you. You are my absolute favorite influencer and I’m so grateful I found your page a year and a half ago. Thank you for being very brave and sharing some personal information about yourself!

[@behape_4evr]

Honesty is one of your greatest qualities! Stay the way you are and just stay happy!

[@KwameChastened]

Wow I enjoyed listening to your story time about your parents history and family. Didn’t know that you’ve had a few rough patches with your mom, I am a fairly new viewer, but I’m glad that you guys are doing better! At times I feel like you and you’re husband are also very different in the little snippets you do show us but, it seems that you both still compliment each other so well. You’re very lucky to find a good friend and coworker in Carrie. Love what you do as an entrepreneur and creator, and the quality of content that you put out!

[@7777ddddssss]

I never baby sat, had no interest in babies..nothing against them, but never had them! Now menopause is over. Still no regrets! Big Italian family also. My parents were sad, but didn't have the urge at all! Do what you want for sure!!!! xo Diane

[@shawnryan8802]

Diane VDT thank you for your comment! My situation is very similar.I never wanted kids and now at 51 I have no regrets.I feel it’s important for people of child bearing age to hear that having children isn’t a must and in my opinion is a gift to the overpopulated planet!

[@oliviad.5520]

Truly loved this video! Thank you for your honesty, I really feel like I understand you a lot better now in many respects. Would definitely be worth doing these kind of videos again in the future xx

[@melanieharms4933]

Thank you for sharing. I love how you owned your experiences and your recent discovery of the dyslexia diagnosis. Not once do you place blame. I love it! You are an amazing role model to women around the world. ❤️

[@caraannicaro7184]

Love how natural and relaxed you are! Not to mention how much you love your fur babies!,,

[@deirdreabc]

Hi Lydia,that's a powerful thing to speak about your indecent touch online. I have no doubt but it will help people. A lot of people think that it's their fault, and they "should have stopped it", you just speaking about that feeling a little will help others come to terms I think. We'll done and thank you. Also, I don't think you should feel obliged to make any videos. You don't owe us anything.

[@carolina_bermudez]

Aw, Lydia, I feel you! I had a difficult relationship with my mother. Things are going better since I moved and changed country. I think that sometimes, living together, and not having a right communication, on a long way just damaged yourself. They never realised how much damage they can do to us, just with words. So putting distance between you and them is often the only way to heal. My daughter did some tests to verified if she was dyslexic. Initially they thought it was just a little, but she was bullied and isolate by the rest of kids for that. I just need to tell you that I started to show her your vlogs. I have a very (mental) stressful job and I don’t watch Tv, so your vlogs always helped me to relax. So firstly you made her smile, she was always asking me for your vlogs, and those moments together seeing your channel helped her a lot. Because she realised that she was learning english, reading better (specially searching the things you wear🤣🤣)and that gave her the security that in that she hadn’t, just for a lack of esteem. So thank you for that little (big) issue, you beautiful human. Kisses from Rome

[@amysmith5585]

Lydia, thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. You are a lovely person. Hugs from Texas!

[@mintyle]

I would recommend numbering these videos if you plan to make Spilling the Tea a mini series so it's easier for viewers to know where to start and view them. Also helps keep track of how many spills there have been. Also I've seen other KZbinrs put the questions/topics in the description box (like you have) but also the time stamps for question. Otherwise, this is a cool video concept and I'm a massive fan :). Keep doing you Lydia.

[@Momo-hj3gs]

I get asked constantly if I’m going to have children. From every family member and friend, there’s not one of them who hasn’t asked me multiple times. I don’t really get bothered by it though, I just brush it off. I can see why it would bother some people though.

[@karinafdw]

I’m like so non maternal. Literally I can’t stand kids. But I have one and I’m pregnant with the second (no more for me, lemme tell ya 🤣) but I loooove mine. It’s such a special relationship and experience. Loved the video, as always ❤️

[@lighthouse1566]

I really enjoyed this video and getting to know you better. You’re very brave opening up and sharing . It does clear up a lot of preconceived notions and also makes you much more charming and approachable. As a side note The people I’ve gotten to know with dyslexia are always very creative and very intelligent! Thank you for being you !