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[@catalinasherwell5540]

Ever since I saw this clip on the news I realized she was absolutely scared of him and feels absolute powerlessness concerning his control over her. She is extremely anguished, more so because she is literally unable to speak out and tell the truth he is bent on hiding from everyone. I immediately felt very afraid for her.

[@csh43166]

That's not a comforting gesture; it's controlling and manhandling. No matter how many times I see this clip, it gives me chills.

[@saragates2255]

This analysis gave me chills. What a scary human being.

[@rcche3778]

His face is scary

[@peterh.1521]

Hardly a human being, just a hollow shell.

[@peterh.1521]

Hardly a human being.

[@YouGotThatRight111]

I don't need his analysis. I can see it myself

[@SydMountaineer]

Same here, what scares me more than his behavior is that it’s so obvious yet the people around them aren’t doing anything when it’s obvious she’s in distress and he’s controlling her.

[@shimmerbear60]

As a DV survivor this sets off all kinds of alarms. Most striking to me is the way his arm is around her with his hand towards her neck. When he rests his head on hers I am willing to bet his head is not gently resting on hers I am. He pressing just a bit too much and simultaneously his arm is a bit tighter and his hand is slightly closer to her neck. He’s not comforting her. He is trapping her, reminding her of his power, threatening her. Watching that put me on full alert!!

[@rhondaallan4680]

He gives me the creeps! You can feel the evil emanating from him. If she were my daughter, I would have already moved her away from that snake. And, if he came anywhere near her again, well, let's just say it wouldn't be ending well for him because this Momma don't play. My daughter was married to a snake who thought he was going to try and hit her in my presence 3 days after she had given birth to their son, while I was driving them home from the hospital. I pulled over and made him get out of my car, and we left him in the dust. He best be glad The Judge,Jury, and Trial didn't come out from under my seat!

[@karenharvey442]

Young males do this too, when they need to be Leader of the pack. It borders on an inferiority complex. U would lay odds that she is more intelligent than him but has lost herself in reassuring him.

[@leavesofgold3479]

It makes me happy to see men catch this behavior. They are professionals, but just to see it come out of a man is awesome. It's the reason I had to start studying behavior as well as my own and what I would attract. God bless you guys!!!

[@keelypack2735]

Thank you, Chase, for seeing others in her , and taking the opportunity to use this clip as an example to us for what to watch for to help another like her. Your heart is huge. XO

[@marciamathis2344]

God bless you, Chase, for bringing this important message to our attention so that others may hopefully help a friend or loved one!🥰🥰🥰

[@promisedjubileedaniels]

That's exactly how I read this clip too. It broke my heart.

[@lindawheeler3479]

Thank you Renee for getting me out. One lunch, one person telling me that I was in abuse

[@dianes.6814]

Being a bully to someone who isn''t as strong probably makes him feel powerful. The truth is, he is the biggest kind of coward there is.

[@karenharvey442]

Yes, he needs her more than she needs him but she fears his fists.

[@jaimeknott9884]

FACT. I have been this girl.

[@FunnyMemo]

Me too. It took me 13 years to get the courage to leave him.

[@PD-sw8px]

Prayers and hugs sent to both of you.

[@bonniedeaves422]

Yup. He is chaotic energy for sure. Thanks Chase, this is an important message that may help someone become unsilenced ❤

[@Perthgurl_6024]

Domestic violence is such a tough thing to go through, and it’s clear from the comments here that so many have faced unimaginable challenges. It’s inspiring to see how far some have come on their journey to healing and finding their strength again. THANKS FOR SHARING, EVERYONE- MAY PEACE BE UPON YOU 💝💞💕

[@helenbrown6527]

That's an uncomfortable watch. Poor girl.

[@karenharvey442]

Spot on. I mistook being a possession for love and had nowhere to escape. Lucky for me, some key people reached out and never gave up.

[@flowerpower4944]

Definitely 💯,Chase,,your right we can see it,

[@lisasmith7066]

Great stuff Chase, thank you.

[@charwells3243]

Sometimes you're not even aware of what you've seen but you're gut tells you something isnt right. I felt that once and later found out SA was happening, i wish i'd acted on my gut instinct.

[@barbdixon7785]

I wish someone had asked me… Thanks for this. Chase.

[@rebeccatracey9066]

"When you're in private "" I was never allowed to be alone with anyone. Even in the hospital. I'd be "staring down" the doctors and there was no hope. Its very scary and all you can think about is getting out.

[@patricias8779]

I'm so sorry. How did you finally get out?

[@my-mysknitsaloon]

I agree 100% with you ! Wish you all a Joyful & Merry Christmas 🎄☃️🎅🏻🎁🎄

[@lechenaultia5863]

Bless you for highlighting this.

[@mandy5940]

Could you do more videos on this to make more women and men aware of how they are being treated please

[@Verenike4ever]

I was this girl. It took a best friend/neighbor asking me to picture my own situation being enacted into a neighbor couple to see it objectively. It completely flipped the script for me!!

[@bethcaswell9670]

Thank You so much! So easy to think its all Your Own Fault!!!

[@valaries.5944]

Thank you for this, Chase. Great information.

[@JayCee-hw4zc]

Shame the Moab police didn't see this in Gabby Petito

[@catalinasherwell5540]

Absolutely! The officers on the scene treat him well as if he’s a buddy of theirs and even make misogynistic comments about the women in their lives. If they had treated her more considerately and noticed something was really wrong, Gabby might still be alive today. I hope they felt some guilt when it turned out he had killed her.

[@southbug27]

Their behavior was unbelievable. They should’ve been fired.

[@ElahehDaisy]

Brian Laundry was a psychopath and hid behind a calm demeanor. It wasn't as easy to read him. Not to defend the police for not seeing it, but they are probably not trained that intensively to read through everyone.

[@CLawrence-c7q]

The way the Moab police treated Gabby Pettito was deplorable. 😢

[@katemate2696]

​@@catalinasherwell5540Yes, Neanderthal ignoramuses. They should have been charged. It was disgusting how they knew they were being recorded yet still chose to make misogynistic "jokes".

[@melaniebirch1808]

I felt like i was in fear of my husband with my brand new daughter and before. He attacked me and tried 2 smother me with pillows and hand restraints..he ran at me and flipped me and the couch over and landed on my nearly fully due pregnant belly. I should have left 23 years sooner. This is not NORMAL. life is so short. I finally left and met a wonderful man at 37 years old. I wanted 4 children. I only had one. The window of having children and expanding your family must happen while u are YOUNG. Be STRONG and give yoursef a chance.❤

[@SydMountaineer]

He looks around at one point, 2 different directions, as if he’s hyper-vigilant that someone will “know”. (even IF he’s looking at someone who said something, it’s still significant).

[@dirtisbetterthandiamonds]

It looks like she's pinching herself to try to make real tears, and he's thoroughly pissed that she can't.

[@lovelytouch9366]

20 years here ! Freedom Reigns !

[@kellygilbert-rios6319]

Thank you for sharing

[@mandil905]

So true.I thought the same thing when I saw these 2.I'm like there's abuse going on.He is not kind to her and clearly.There's drugs going on but everyone said I was crazy to have said that to defend her but if you've ever lived in that god awful silence with those looks you know what it is and i've lived with it my entire life 😢

[@mztwixed]

Thank you Sir, for sharpening our perspectives with your keen observation skills. Hope we save lives. ❤

[@Losingbraincells777]

Wishing you and you family a very Merry and Blessed Christmas !!!!♥️🎅✝️🎄

[@catalinasherwell5540]

His body language is outrageously dangerous. He is holding her so tightly around the neck and around her arms as if to remind her of the physical violence he can subject her to if she dares say anything that would expose him. It is so obvious that she is terrified. She knows what happened to her baby boy and is in an overwhelming state of grief and anxiety, but she cannot utter a word because he is evidently threatening her. At a certain moment she pulls away from him as he holds her also in an attempt to show a united front before the media. When she does manage to speak a few words, he turns around to look at her to check she is saying what he told her to say to the press. One cannot even imagine the horrific distress she is going through.

[@karenharvey442]

I wasn't aware a baby was involved; was the boy her's and not his; or was this some sort of out of control way of punishing her for something?

[@AnneOfNYS]

Wow! Thanks for the analysis!

[@whitehorse5762]

Thank so much to use your expertise to help others.

[@nancypiros9133]

This was so incredibly creepy from the very first time I watched this. He has a very unnatural arm lock around this poor woman! Yes, by whatever means get her help!!!

[@IMOO1896]

I agree

[@earthling8585]

It's so sickeningly clear. This poor woman. 💔

[@1963krb]

As does the subtle but telling squeeze of her neck area by him when doing that scary gaze

[@sparklypoet1454]

His hand is not resting in her shoulder in a comforting and reassuring way. It’s a grip. His fingers and pressing into her shoulder hard.

[@charwells3243]

As soon as he touches her, her hand goes up to her forehead.

[@dawnsongz4u449]

Trapped .. I now the feeling.. I didn’t realize just how toxic my marriage was until my daughter was diagnosed with leukemia and I was at the hospital all the time.. it occurred to me that I forgot what it was like to be around healthy people.. escaping is another matter. It’s a tight rope.. it really depends on just how controlling the partner is.. I’ve been trying to escape for years

[@travelinglight4656]

I asked my neighbor if she was okay and felt safe. She immediately started saying her husband is kind, etc and she got really angry. They stopped walking by my place..

[@lorimiller4301]

Yes, but now she knows that you know. One night, she might come to your door. You may never hear from her, and they might move, but she knows you are an out. Just knowing you're there might be everything to her.

[@altheamcnabb2829]

We need more clips like this. Ty

[@janlouisefoley1726]

His hand on the scruff of her neck as a reminder to stick to the ‘story’- like how one might handle a pet to insure right behavior.

[@lauracicero-miller3238]

Oh mister you hit this one key!!!!!!!!!

[@onlymebaby.9249]

You are my favorite TBPist! 😘

[@juleslund1515]

Thank you, scary analysis.

[@marymcguire5214]

Very sad. ❤

[@saraha5847]

The full video TBP did on this has always stuck out to me more than most others they’ve done. They were obviously lying about their child, she looked scared for her life and he looked like he beats her on the regular. Brutal to watch 😢

[@MarthaWoodworth-f9s]

It’s scary but I’m not sure about “interfering.” I have been shunned by several women who came to me telling me of their abuse and intimidation by their male partners. When I tried to help they dropped me and even made me feel like the enemy. I had no choice but to walk away. I get that they were emotional prisoners of abusive men, but there was nothing I could do to separate them from their abusers. In fact, I went away feeling abused, and in a couple of cases, in danger myself.

[@lorimiller4301]

Extremely valid point. They could always gang-up on you. Watch your pets. Don't put them them at risk. A nasty neighbour might not be able to hurt you, but they can take it out on your best friend if they have a chance.

[@sailwme]

Absolutely!

[@lorisutherland7728]

You are so Right.

[@jgsmile1331]

They should of interviewed them separately and then she could of asked for help.

[@lorimiller4301]

She could have, but would she ? She's probably in a trauma-bond with him.

[@margiehodge8856]

Thank you Chase for your Information & advice!

[@maryzylema9699]

Those are two of the most guilty people I have ever seen ! Right away he told on himself and she didn't even want to try to pretend she cared . Sickening !🤭🤥😡

[@melodiejohnston9528]

Thank you for doing this. I was over 40 before I knew that being hit was not a sign of affection or a term of endearment. This is not a 'poor me' diatribe, so don't go there. It is an affirmation that sometimes you don't know you are in the jungle until someone shows you the pavement. She is terrified of him, but worse, she doesn't know why. IMO

[@rebeccafranklin9915]

Great advice Chase!✌🏼

[@Leah-i1e]

That man is scary.😮

[@doreendaykin6693]

God bless you Chase🙏💙

[@RosemarieJ]

I totally agree !😢

[@jgsmile1331]

Years ago a lady came for a mamogram. The husband wanted to come in the back and that was not needed nor possible bc other women were their having mamograms. The lady passed a note and said her husband was controlling etc. What should they have done? Call the police and have a street clothed officer come and talk to her without the husband's knowledge? It was a wonder.

[@karenharvey442]

Didn't they have access to her address or the referral source? Ideally, such critical observation needs to be acted on. Someone could have tried to separate her, or pass a note back to ask if she needed immediate help and / or feedback to her local health professional?

[@jgsmile1331]

This is the story I heard second hand so I don't know how it ended. This comment section is not allowing me to answer you so I hope you get this.

[@deborahs9660]

My brother does that

[@karenharvey442]

To who?

[@shirleymason3853]

Chase, do all abusers have the same facial expressions and words they say that an an unsuspecting ear wouldn’t hear or see mannerisms that To me looked suspicious but by then… she m(my oldest daughter)was so smitten I have to wonder if God could’ve changed her mind, she found out quickly though & for that I’m thankful.

[@susans7091]

ask them if they are ok in private!

[@CAS_Photography]

Ok now that this has been noted that this POS is abusive to her what is the law doing about it.

[@mojcakolenko1324]

Can confirm that...

[@pammywhammy3521]

😢

[@OnlyPathToTheTruth]

How about, if I was ever in her shoes? This clip is heartbreaking on so many levels! Sad, so very sad! I knew it was not normal, but when I asked my mother for help, she said that I made my bed and I had to stay in it and make the very best of it. This is the same mother that I went to her when her live-in boyfriend was m*lesting me, and she said to deal with it, that it is a fact of life, and everyone goes through it.

[@patricias8779]

That's terrible---I'm so sorry. Your mother was part of the abuse

[@OnlyPathToTheTruth]

@@patricias8779 Yes, and it may sound terrible, but she died on Christmas Day last year and I felt as if I had been set free!

[@JennWatson]

I was screaming in my head (RUN!!!) as he held her head with his fisted hand 😮

[@cynthiatolman326]

I know that look too well, 20+ years out and this was scary to watch, try and help if you see it

[@natalierullmanward9137]

During witness statement, if the female says she was brushing her teeth . . . she's being abused. 100% I*ve witnessed this twice.

[@cookechristinaphotos]

Honestly anytime a man puts their hand around a woman's neck or close to a woman's neck whether it be from the back or not - it raises all sorts of red flags in my book!

[@CKArts.studio6]

As an OB nurse, you cannot imagine how many women have babies with men who act like this in the hospital. They try to speak for their wives and I have to ask them to leave the room (there are low-key ways to do that).

[@wulfseig1864]

Alone and stuck.

[@Hiterally_Litler]

Hang on...pause...I have to google "Wacky Water Weasel"😅

[@ZoeBay-vn1hc]

The fist on her head got my attention.

[@Only-me-baby-fe2ji]

I like Chase

[@MahdeeAliza]

Thanks for the forecast! I need some advice: I have a SafePal wallet with USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). Could you explain how to move them to Binance?

[@pamelav4628]

I didn't see disdain

[@sherylb421]

İ have been there, and you are reading this correctly. İt is being in Hell.

[@maureenc1284]

One of the reporters should have asked if she needed help.

[@nancyeverhart145]

Look at the grip he has on her left shoulder. He let go of it and she looked up. When he put his hand on her again, down went her head. Very sad.

[@karenharvey442]

Her behaviour is very passive. It is reminding me how an ethologist approaches a wild animal (such as an ape) to gain their trust.

[@Paranormalcamera52]

He has her by the neck, by the way. Thank you Chase, you do us a huge favor.

[@Paranormalcamera52]

Oh, and his gaze was also checking that she better behave, be good. Thank you for these important points you are making. I have been there, there is hope. Poor woman. Imagine her hell?

[@kristine6277]

A lot of people are too scared to speak about it!

[@sarahmurphy-nf4yl]

She looks deatraught.. traumatized...at her wits end poor lady 😢

[@SouthernMelle]

He is squeezing her shoulder too. Looks like in a threatening manner to me. Poor girl.

[@susanelaine1644]

And he was guilty of killing their baby.

[@TerryLegette-kb1sh]

He is abuseing her definitely

[@GoldDustX818]

Maybe reading to much into this however I do believe she is hand signaling 🖕 or at least trying to as not to have him notice when he watches later. Just a gut feeling. Yes I agree he is 100% abused her. I don't know this case however she's screaming for help and if she is alive today she is lucky. Sad case. Hope he received the DP.

[@elizabethgulley7044]

They look at you like you are some disgusting thing, under a microscope. They watch every move you make, so they can find fault with you all the time. Very predatory look.

[@ellydavis2066]

I had to go look up who he was after seeing this chilling display. What an awful person.

[@lorimiller4301]

He looks smug to me. I don't think he would do this to every woman. He thinks he's better than her. He cheats on her any chance he has. He's frightened of powerful women. He has to keep her weakened.

[@grngooseputter]

Would you, any of you, please look at Amanda Lewis, please. I believe she is innocent.

[@duvessa2003]

She definitely seems controlled.

[@laurierobertson7510]

His nostrils are flaring - disgust & distain

[@ClownBlood-pt4sg]

Stop picking men based on their physical appearance, violent tendencies and their height.