Spotlight: Narcissistic Insecurity Is A MYTH (See The Proof!)

[@ardent9422]

I believe that this information is right, and I suspect that narcissists will use expressing insecurity as a way to get you to feel sorry for them and then betray you. It's a way for them to trick you into letting your guard down when they talk about insecurity, I remember the female narcissist I knew mentioning she had insecurities, but once I would try to comfort her or go easy on her she would then start blaming and accusing me.

[@alleykatgonzales7816]

This explains it all. I hadn't been able to explain my own feelings, I hadn't been able to put a label on it. I just knew i wasn't wrong. I saw thru the bs, the gas lighting. I didn't appreciate it at all. I'm just glad the situation evolved as it did. I left before the situation could turn really bad. I wanted to hurt him. That wouldn't have been good for either of us. I still care for all the good that was in him. But I won't go back. There's no tools made to fix those broken parts.

[@vaidap1911]

Crushed hopes for the possibility of effective treatment and strengthens further my belief of the need to create awareness + education of/to unsuspecting targets, providing tools for protection and treatment to those whose life’s are often destroyed… Eventually they should also be held accountable and be subject to rules and boundaries at a societal level

[@KimSaeed]

That's why I'm so motivated to debunk a lot of the outdated information that mainstream psychology continues to put out, as it gives people the wrong idea about narcissists and narcissism, often keeping people stuck in these relationships.

[@dclarke1896]

Excellent and informative video! This information is very validating for me. I was discussing the narcissistic behavior patterns my ex exhibited with a friend and he said, "I don't believe narcissists in general have poor self-esteem" a person with low self-esteem isn't going to approach other people so easily. People with low self-esteem tend to withdraw and isolate. I think he made an excellent point. Although a lot of information on narcissists states that they are driven by a fragile ego and low self-esteem in my experience the narcissist didn't show me that they had low self-esteem they were always bragging about what they have and how awesome they are.

[@Crazybaby2409]

I used to think that my narc mother felt guilt, because after her violent rages and physical assaults on me she would sometimes buy me a gift. I always knew it was because she felt ‘bad’ about what she’d done, and I would gush with gratitude to please her, even though I felt sick in my stomach because I knew that, a) the abuse would still continue, and b) she WANTED that praise from me - that my role was to make HER feel better. So I guess it wasn’t guilt as such, but wanting to ‘reel me back in’ to receive (albeit fake) appreciation from me to boost her ego.

[@KimSaeed]

Isn't it mind-blowing? How they want us to make THEM feel better after we've reacted to their manipulation and maltreatment? Yes, it's all about the ego boost and the unspoken agreement that we've 'forgiven' them so we will be available when they need an emotional punching bag :(

[@djwhite-vk7ed]

Thank you Kim. I have known this since I realized my ex was a narcissist. He was all of this. When hearing it was based in insecurity, I nor my grown children could see any insecurity.

[@msah1on197]

Grandiose is the means used to hide their insecurities or the effort used to "prove" they aren't insecure. The more grandiose, the deeper their insecurities. They compartmentalize feelings individually, by definition, not by experience. If you're happy and you know it, clap your hands. They clap because you told them to in that situation, not because they're happy.

[@KimSaeed]

Neuroscience and brain scans are showing us that narcissists don’t feel insecure. That’s why I made the video. Their grandiosity is largely due to feeling superior, not insecure.

[@raytedreal9199]

This is contradictory logic. If they didnt experience insecurity they wouldn't have ego threats. Just because I reword something does not change what it is 😂

[@raytedreal9199]

I agree that grandiosity is not insecurity but when a person gets angry about their grandiosity then that is insecurity

[@KimSaeed]

No, it means that there is a separation, not a blanket statement. There is a stack difference between insecurity and being pissed off because someone doesn't see your delusional superiority 😂😂😂

[@KimSaeed]

It's not insecurity. It's being offended that someone didn't see their "high status". There's a difference, as brain scans show.

[@kathleen6088]

Kim, I totally appreciate the work you are doing here. Such a life-changing perspective!

[@KimSaeed]

Thank you so much! ⋆.˚🦋༘⋆

[@Dagm1111]

This is groundbreaking and so refreshing to hear. Thank you! Regardless of how they got this way, awareness, discernment, and boundaries will always be necessary around them. Narcs are very wounded from not being loved, and this seems to reflect an underdevelopment of brain regions. The big trump card here I feel is reincarnation. The concept of were our souls have traveled, and what info is residing within our DNA is likely part of the invisible picture.

[@zabraarms3865]

It's very true 💯

[@tearsofmina]

Thanks Kim, you are great!

[@KimSaeed]

Awww, thanks! 🫶🏼🤗.

[@BarbzSA]

So helpful. Funnily enough as I became a teen I thought my mother had brain damage. Turns out I was onto something!

[@bernesemuir8022]

❤Thank you

[@kimberlys.7097]

I appreciate all the research you have done. Wow!!

[@KimSaeed]

Thank you :)

[@iNsOmNiAcAnDrEw]

This is what annoys me about narcs, they can't take a mild criticism the way a normal person would.

[@oreorivers]

Wonderful information, thank you. Helped my guilt feelings a great deal. I don’t think there are many more challenging situations than healthily healing from & leaving a narcissist, every bit of knowledge helps!!! 🥰

[@S070-g8q]

This is what I have suspected all along.

[@iNsOmNiAcAnDrEw]

I think I agree with the confidence of narcs being genuine, which just goes to show that confidence is overrated nowadays.

[@WilliamJones-c9v]

Spot on lady

[@MikeKollin]

So then what is it? I don't understand. It's just making things more confusing. So if it's not insecurity, then what is it? Every narcissists I have dealt with is terrified of what people think of them. Isn't that insecurity? I Love your video's and the last video I saw about brain imaging was great....

[@KimSaeed]

It's important to distinguish between an ego threat and general insecurity. While insecurity is a persistent feeling of inadequacy or self-doubt that most people experience to some degree, an ego threat is a more immediate challenge to one's self-image. Narcissists, due to their altered brain function, are hypersensitive to these ego threats. When faced with an ego threat, narcissists often display exaggerated stress responses. This heightened reaction isn't just emotional - it's neurological. Their brains literally process these threats differently, leading to more intense reactions than what we might see in non-narcissistic individuals. Narcissists often have an inflated sense of self-worth and believe they are superior to others. This grandiosity is not just a facade to cover up insecurity; it is a deeply ingrained part of their self-concept. When their grandiose self-image is challenged, it triggers a strong defensive response. This response is not about feeling insecure in the way most people do. For neurotypical individuals, insecurity often involves self-doubt and a lack of confidence. In contrast, narcissists experience ego threats as direct attacks on their perceived superiority. Their reactions are driven by a need to reassert their dominance and maintain their grandiose self-image. It's not about covering up insecurity but rather about defending their grandiose self-concept. Hope that helps! Thanks for stopping by and watching :)

[@MikeKollin]

So are you saying when a narcissists seems insecure it's all an Act? I actually had a narcissist, at their work place, come running out in a full on panic and ask me if they knew over and over. I said, "if they knew what?" He then said, "That they had anxiety and were freaking out?" I was inside with them 2 minutes before that and he seemed fine. Which I thought was odd when he ran out telling me he was full of anxiety... So was that an act? Cuz I did think it was odd and weird how suddenly he went from normal to full on anxiety... I even thought it was an act but wasn't sure.... And are you also saying or are you also saying that Anxiety is different from Insecurity?

[@KimSaeed]

Well, it's kind of hard to answer specifically about this person, not knowing anything about them or what triggered this event. But yes, generally speaking, anxiety is different from insecurity, although they can both be experienced at the same time. Using myself as an example, I often feel anxious because I'm an HSP and my nervous system gets easily overwhelmed. but I have a healthy self-confidence, so rarely ever feel insecure. In other words, anxiety isn't always tied to self-perception.

[@alisonmorris4444]

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