Stacey Duguid Details Late ADHD Diagnosis

[@GardenRose7282]

Ive only recently come to realise i have ADHD and Autism at 30 years old after my daughter was diagnosed with Autism at 2. My life makes so much more sense. A couple changes have completely changed my life. Parents NEED to be more in touch emotionally with their kids. My life may have been very different had I known earlier.

[@yellowswallowtail33]

I have the same story late diagnosed in my 40s with AuDHD and knew something was different about me when I was younger and thought I was broken. My first son was diagnosed with autism and my second son was diagnosed with ADHD.

[@paulthompson2991]

Best ADHD interview that I’ve heard (and I’ve heard a lot) - all that honesty from Stacey floats my ADHD boat - thanks :)

[@susanlodgerelaxations5269]

It’s fab

[@therainbowmachines]

Completely agree. Amazing and authentic.

[@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast]

I'm so happy you liked it :) Alex 💚

[@Raven.13]

Alex, I want you to understand the gravity of my gratitude for you bringing us these podcasts, to show us all these amazing ADHDers. I don't feel alone in the struggle anymore. Thank you Stacey, very insightful, you are a gem.

[@nozo61]

Lovely interview. Lots of identification with Stacey and huge warmth and respect for the achievements she has wrestled from the chaos. I applaud the courage of you and your guests in overcoming the almost physical discomfort and vulnerability during the interview to be able to express your authentic selves. ❤❤

[@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast]

This is lovely to read, thank you :) Alex 💚

[@stum8262]

56 and two years in to a late diagnosis. Another amazing, insightful, painful and funny episode. With each one I watch I learn two or three life lessons that change things for the good. What a truly amazing place this channel is. Thank you so very much.

[@sarahcolfer1104]

Thank you Stacey! So many parts of your story are relatable. Thank you for validating so many peri/menopausal ADHD and AuADHD women.

[@AmberLillySophie]

Thank you both so much ! 90 minutes of pure authenticity! So helpful to all of us! So relatable! Shame was my middle name for such a long time. And the way Alex phrases his questions and is not afraid to asked and dive deep, is brilliant! We as the viewer ( okay I should say I ) feel that it s a save space ! And you Alex create that! It all you! And you are having a real conversation and not just “ going through the list of things to talk about” ! Thank you !

[@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast]

I'm so so happy that you find the podcast helpful! Alex 💚

[@katie_1988]

Alex is absolutely amazing. I love how he made Stacey feel so comfortable to be able to just be herself. I think that speaks volumes about Alex as a person, amazing ❤❤ another great guest as well 😀😀

[@suzanneperry2267]

The best interview I've head on ADHD. Superb.

[@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast]

Thank you! Alex 💚

[@annemariebrown6212]

Crying all the way through this.This story,every part is so relateable from teen to merry perry.,addiction, inability to commit,failed relationships etc ... Sadly not as glamorous. Thankyou for covering this from a female 1:29:51 midlife perspective. Much ❤️ from an UN diagnosed UN privellaged 49 year old white woman .White- knuckling through it ,hoping i dont die before the NHS are able to refer me 😂 ❤

[@starrynight1329]

ADHD isn't my super power. As soon as I hit menopause it completely exacerbated my ADHD and incapacitated me to the point that I had to give up a really good job in nursing.

[@Privatenospying]

Same here ..not that I could ever be a nurse with my ADhd but menopause was brutal for me as well as PMS 😮

[@starrynight1329]

@@Privatenospying it was difficult but I loved it with a passion. 20 years of high anxiety but couldn't cope with a constantly evolving job and menopause...it was brutal. I downgraded to clinical support and I still get to do my favourite bits of the job. At home I'm a mess but a ward is very organised with strict routines so it's easier than being at home, if you know what I mean. 😁

[@Privatenospying]

@@starrynight1329 I completely know what you mean! ;-) I have not talked to a nurse who didn’t love their job for the most part. Great ability you have for honoring yourself and finding a way to navigate that dreadful period. I spent that time coping with a daughter who was going through puberty at the same time my menopause started and a husband on the autism spectrum with ADHA and NPD. And working in home sales. 😵‍💫 I so wished I had stuck out nursing school but the A&P was so tough for me and having a small child. Nurses are expected to be super woman and are smarter than most Docs probably on the spectrum?

[@veronicao4643]

Really? That’s scares me so much.

[@Dancestar1981]

It’s never been a super power

[@ShaunaMarieG]

Thank you for being a big part of my journey in self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self- love, Alex ❤️ I'm still awaiting an ADHD and/or autism diagnosis. Thank you for being so vulnerable and authentic, Stacey ❤️

[@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast]

Thanks so much for this comment :) Alex 💚

[@ShaunaMarieG]

@@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast Thank you so much, Alex 🩵🙏🏻

[@lornahay2328]

I cried tears of grief and joy because Stacey just explained my life. I am 50 and same struggles, same experiences…..I totally relate to everything said in this interview. Honestly, Alex, you host the best interviews and Stacey’s interview has really touched my heart. All this came so late to so many of us. I too had my diagnosis at the Nightingale hospital 5 years ago, aged 45. Thank you for finding the tribe and sharing to help others. You are truly a great ADHD advocate. Thank you Alex ❤

[@lornahay2328]

PS with unmasking my ADHD these last few years, my autism is very obvious now.

[@michelle-perthwa4974]

I just want to add my voice to the thanks of previous commenters - thank you Stacey for being your wonderful open self. I am in my 60’s and only recently realised I am ADHD. One psychiatrist was so awful to see I couldn’t go back, now have to go through that process all over again - this time I need to find a supportive GP first. Thank you for these interviews they help greatly.

[@Queenread82]

Oh wow - the chaos! The perimenopause sexy sexy! The whathaveidonewithmylifeandwherewouldibeifihadittogether? I’m very lucky I found someone that sticks like glue even when I didn’t want him to and also that my former religion discouraged divorce. And that we were (are) both anxious enough that we were afraid of splitting even when I was in the deepest deepest darkest hole of depression and just wanted out of everything. Because when the going gets rough some of us want to runrunrun but if we are brave and stick around for just a bit longer things can work out. Also, hubby is a pain in my brain and also a gem and my cheerleader so I guess he is worth the fuss. Diagnosis - even self diagnosis is saving. Life saving for some of us in many ways.

[@TwylasCouch]

AuDHD here - this was v helpful for learning about my ADHD side. I've primarily been focusing on ASD but I guess a lot is ADHD traits too. She is awesome

[@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast]

I'm really pleased you find it useful :) Alex 💚

[@Dancestar1981]

I have both too

[@jaymiedealtry1376]

You have just described almost all my experiences, including the end of my marriage! I can't blame all of it on adhd but he would! I am less than a year diagnosed and the struggle is unreal! 😢 you think that the diagnosis is going to unlock the amazing superpowers but the diagnosis is only the beginning of what has so far been a very difficult journey. But thank you for making me feel a little less mad and a little more validated x

[@twiggyvlogs6441]

Omg yes, I went out to get milk and woke up two days later in a field etc because I just never said no and had no sense of self preservation. Sometimes I'm like, why aren't I that wild little creature anymore but then, there's this, kind of like, softness, to not always being on that exhausting trajectory.

[@leilap2495]

This intro isn’t anxiety-producing. Thanks 😊

[@justinarobson4669]

Thank god for you, Stacey. I've been trying to understand myself for so long and this interview just finally put all the bits together for me. I can't thank you enough. All power to you.

[@HarrietteTube]

That was a beautiful interview, well done both of you. ❤

[@alanafraser8136]

Beautiful interview, raw and authentic. Stacey has lived so many lifetimes and I loved hearing her stories and reflection throughout🙏🏽 she expresses herself so well, a natural writer and speaker. Alex I loved all of the questions you asked too! Thank you! New sub here🩵

[@kerryshaw1930]

Great episode- So relatable! Real & authentic. 👏🏼

[@RunningNotStopping]

When she talked about her ADHD item it hit home for me. It's not an addiction, it's just what brings you back down... most of this podcast I resonated with tbh ❤❤❤

[@catfairview]

Stacey- thank you for your open hearted descriptive depiction of EXACTLY how it is for me

[@osirisianplays8089]

thank you for sharing, stacey 🙂❤

[@sarahcolfer1104]

The diary/calendar/journal/notes 😂😂😂 so me!

[@krystlebatt2211]

Such an engaging and interesting interview but also heart wrenching. A movie could be made about Stacey's life and it would be a blockbuster. Thank you, thank you so much for doingbthis interview Stacey. So many uncanny similarities for me. From being shy and introverted child and lost in a thick fantasy world. Even to the obsession with high fashion the excitement, the frivolity, passion, colour..exquisiteness. The ability to morph yourself into a character through costume and design. Masking. The way neurotypical people can mimic or change their accent or the way they speak to fit in or as a natural mirroring that happens. The parallels to my life. To the crazy spending. On expensive clothes. The inability to see the way to ve more careful with spending. And to plan better. Plan for the future. The emotional spirals. The contradictions which are even conmfusing to yourself that makes you question who am I.. And that infamous ceiling of your ability or earning potential. Based on being able to be less erratic in your brain. And to plan and organise.

[@thebeachhousebasel]

So glad you post. Love your informative shorts and enjoy your podcasts. ❤ greetings from Switzerland🎉

[@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast]

Thank you! Alex 💚

[@timk7073]

Stacey is so charming and entertaining. I relate to so much of what she is saying here.

[@clareowen1560]

Listening to Staceys book (which I loved) I saw a lot of my behaviour in her , so talked to my gp about referral and am now waiting for assessment with ADHD 360.

[@joeroberts2156]

40 and still awaiting official UK diagnosis (lived in Spain 9+ years).

[@joeroberts2156]

A vibrator lol, v ADHD

[@HD-light3333]

Hello from Denmark thank you so much for this video/channel.

[@stevenedwardmaylott6078]

Im pretty sure Im ADHD , as a child in the early 80s, I was told I had behaviour problems and put in what was then a special school. I was there for most of my education years, and it wasn't until I was 26 that I was diagnosed as dislexic. It is quite hard to get diagnosed as an adult for ADHD .I asked to be referred and was put on the waiting list two years ago.

[@joshuaheise7293]

Thankyou I am a male version of you and I have had a hard 3 years in my marriage I have 2 kids and I stay for them but I see the damaged I'm causing Meds have helped but yes I'm still adhd and struggling when the negative takes over I find sex to be the only thing that grounds me Your honesty has helped me understand my downs better, and your energy to figure life out is so nice to see And thanks for the show it has helped myself and my wife understand our different types of ahd

[@HarrietteTube]

“I shared a bed with a granny…It was an accident, but… it was awful. Anyway.’ 😂🤣😂 I f’ing giggled silly at this. The delivery is so sweet and hilarious.

[@joeroberts2156]

Maladaptive daydreaming is very related to ASD, ADHD and childhood trauma.

[@Lynee5290]

Great interview, so much relatable to the so many stages of my ADHD life, from the marriage breakup to my `hot’ peri menopausal 40’s and beyond. Thankyou 🙏🏻

[@scarlettifluff]

I have found these interviews extremely healing to watch, I really identify as a woman particularly, but now I can't watch anymore until you figure some of us 60 year olds in your interviews. It feels as if we are being left out.

[@hannahk.summerville5908]

It really is so freaking hard to navigate having both. My autistic side is constantly overwhelmed and my adhd side is constantly bored (understimulated). In my younger years I lived a lot more in my adhd side and had a lot of fun but also burned out like CRAZY. I'm 34 now and life just came crashing down on me and I'm trying to build a much healthier grounded life these days. But it's really freaking hard cause nothing is working when I'm bored all the time. Yet my body is screaming at me to chill the fuck out. Did I mention it's hard?

[@Dancestar1981]

Totally get it late diagnosed at tender age 42 last year with both

[@therainbowmachines]

Absolutely EXCELLENT podcast, best EVER 💯 TY! 🙌

[@ADHD_Chatter_Podcast]

Thank you! Alex 💚

[@GenX_Meltdown]

I was diagnosed in the 2nd grade and took Ritalin for few years. Now in my 50's , the ADHD seems to have gotten worse and I'm on a new path to deal with the new head space. Mindfulness helps a lot...but sometimes i just get so spiraled and down on myself.

[@angelab4759]

Hormones. I got diagnosed 49 because losing estrogen and severe symptoms more noticeable

[@Tamaxlia]

I felt like she was describing my life, but when she said she went to the same high school as me I goggled. Hiding in the Art dept though, Mrs Reid in Drama was the place to be. Mrs Bond in Maths too. :)

[@fionaquinn719]

So proud of you Stacey

[@leenyfreestone9847]

The notes on envelopes is what I do 🤣.

[@micheller5985]

Me too, all the time😄

[@Dancestar1981]

Me too

[@chuzzbot]

Don't stab the people who say that; they are most likely undiagnosed. They may have only been exposed to exaggeration and hyperbole. Not joking, I said that one time, about a month before I realised why. Now I also realise it was an important steppingstone to uncovering my own heavily masked AuDHD. Please don't roll your eyes.

[@Candy123-xh2yb]

Amazing podcast thank you x

[@Kjdeis2012]

I'm concerned about the listener question at the end. Having just listened prior to one of the podcasts on RSD and the "STOP" method mentioned by that guest...perhaps that listener for sure needs the assessment first, before going to couples therapy. Why is the fear that being diagnosed ADHD would be used as ammunition? Is that a correct perception of why the spouse suggests the assessment? A good individual & couples therapist who understands the ADHD situation is very important I would think. These podcasts are quite interesting & helpful.

[@catherinegilmore2709]

Researching symptoms of ADHD in girls and women after finally getting a YES that my second daughter is both ADD/inattentive ADHD, that I most likely have ADHD. I have almost every symptom. Wondering how many aren't also called "too much, yet not enough", but also "manipulative" or "manic"? Deep hidden truths are coming out in my own marriage of what my husband thinks of me. It's shocking and heart breaking. Just curious if these were labels others had before positive diagnosis?

[@dmistry8304]

Relating hard to the self-editing. I wish I had had a fraction of her crazy life. I spent it all in the shell, hiding because I was both too little and too much.

[@nellythevegan854]

My grandchildren's school call it autistic spectrum condition much nicer than disorder..✌🏽🙏🏽

[@OliveHay]

My screenshots 13,659! So close!

[@janeowens3683]

Brilliant! Thank you

[@sariña_seoane]

Just starting the video, but can't help but wonder after that first section, if she and her mental health team have considered a dissociative disorder(?) Like, just here wondering because I relate to her specific wording, and says it's most likely ongoing. My therapist just happened to be a trauma specialist, and treatment wasn't as effective as it could be, until she approached it with the theory of structural dissociation in mind, and started working with parts. Again, just wondering on the lack of discussion on our spaces, despite existing a notable co-ocurrence with trauma and dissociation.

[@aprilhumen1229]

I wonder how many of these people with ADHD and/or autism have undiagnosed hyper-mobility- Ehlers-Danlos. There's a high amount of people with ED who also have autism and/or ADHD.

[@miriamferko154]

I wonder if they're talking themselves into it in hyper focus, because there's no conceivable link. What sold it for me was the higher incidence of Parkinson's in ADHD diagnosed folks - the link is dopamine

[@aprilhumen1229]

@ I'm not understanding. Talking themselves into what?

[@belindaphuti2424]

Very interesting guest

[@sewaller1384]

So grateful for this …. Thank you both! Like so fucking much. xoxoxo

[@eliaslopez5001]

Who do I ask to get tested for ADHD. I have a therapist , but she didn't evaluate me . I thought therapist could do that. Should I go ask my primary doctor to see a specialist? Or do I need to go to a psychiatrist?

[@Dancestar1981]

Get a referral to a psychiatrist

[@Historian212]

If you’re in the US you can also get neuropsych testing from a qualified psychologist who specializes in making these differential diagnoses. Since ADHD, ASD/AUD, NVLD, anxiety disorder, and other disorders can have similar symptoms, it’s important to be evaluated by someone who can make an informed judgment. Personally, I prefer psychologists to psychiatrists (who are medical doctors), because some of them are not quite as focused on medications. But that’s just me. Good luck. I think it’s worth pursuing a proper diagnosis.

[@floatymcboaty9851]

This lady is cool 😃

[@maja-kehn9130]

I hate it when people say ADHD is a "Superpower" or Hyperfocus is a "Superpower". No it is not!

[@RenTheWren]

So long as it's about their own ADHD, it's okay. You gotta cope with the unfairness of it all somehow, and looking at the bright side of one's own hurdles is a valid strategy. Non-ADHD people telling ADHD people to be grateful for their disorder is bullshit, though.

[@yellowswallowtail33]

Wrong there are superpowers in ADHD. There are negative and positive so I’m not sure why you hate why people say that they have an exceptional ability to be creative to hyper focus on something unless you don’t know what that is or you haven’t tapped into that so I come right back at you with I don’t like and find it unnecessary People with or without ADHD always wants to focus on the negative so let people say it’s a superpower because it absolutely is. Everybody around me who is Neurotypical can see that I have the ability to be extremely creative. Extremely focused on a task and get it done way before anyone else can. Those are super powers so be positive stop being so angry and focusing on the negatives even using the word hate.

[@HostileWorkplaceEXPOSED]

That has never been me in my life. It is not a superpower to me so stop telling me that I have a superpower. You do not live in my brain or my body. Congratulations if you have a superpower but stop telling me that I do

[@Rokosbasil]

Ya. Well people cope with their problems differently. I guess your way is better.

[@maja-kehn9130]

@@yellowswallowtail33 I´m glad you have postivie aspects to your ADHD. Maybe I´m just frustrated that I can see only negatives to my ADHD. I don´t me to hate on anyone.

[@Niallistical]

When I watch this shit I know all of you are fucking mild. If you can focus hard for nearly a week then plz tell me how you control the crash. Holy shit I'm feeling lethal, on the verge of frenzy

[@briana9918]

Most women with ADHD feel like we're too much and many people tell us we are. Gina Pera, the writer who usually focus on being the partner on a man with ADHD, published a blog post she said was based on research. She says everyone is a bit ADHD. I wonder if anyone has taken the time to look into this. I was so mad at Gina! But you know, I haven't had the time yet to go further into this.

[@Dancestar1981]

No not everyone is a bit adhd

[@alaia-awakened]

This woman is a hoot😄 I want to be best friends with her

[@alenaadamkova7617]

Degeneration of human brain. "When you talk to primary school teachers, they confirm that children are being stupid. Research shows that degeneration of brain ability is directly proportional to the number of hours spent in the digital world, ” says neurologist Martin Jan Stránský.

[@annelbeab8124]

Mallorca - I think she meant that Spanish island, right ?

[@cor3944]

Difficult to see the difference between ADHD and Borderline/ Narcissism.

[@faysmith7248]

Trying having bpd then!

[@RenTheWren]

It is! Which is why so many ADHD people, especially women, get misdiagnosed with BPD, and get ineffective treatment. But that's why we have specialists who know what to look for.

[@fuccingdye]

There’s overlap in symptoms. Look for a professional.

[@Dancestar1981]

Completely different

[@AutumnHarwood]

Oh God, I can already tell I'm gonna be even more of fucking nightmare when I hit perimenopause age, lol.

[@LadywatchingByrd]

😢 it's horrid. I'm 40 and I feel like I'm falling apart.

[@Dancestar1981]

@@LadywatchingByrdI’m 43 and it hits hard if you take meds the dose needs to be readjusted due to hormonal changes

[@ortegareina293]

Mallorca*

[@valeriaortiz5078]

❤🙏🏼

[@bringitbex]

Sounds like me

[@celicasand2465]

This guy knows she is extremely vulnerable and impulsive this woman is and he exploits it. Zilch concern for her.

[@RetroSegaDev]

Stacey, retire your domains it'll save you a fortune (£60...lol). Plus parking domains without a limited company of the same name doesn't protect them from being taken. ADHD Lived experience right here...

[@LadywatchingByrd]

ADHD ruined all of my relationships. I once slept with a gang member too 😮

[@mission1-2-1]

Presumably from the UK. Why does she think blacks have less access to Doctors for an ADHD assessment? If undiagnosed adhd influences a pathway toward a life of crime, that would be true for all races.

[@Nk-qj1ix]

Because statistically they have less access. If doctors think that white people are making this up and are drug seekers do you believe black people have less of a struggle or more? Think about it.