Stalkers - Motives and Personality

[@forrestfey]

Important to never interact with a stalker. Interaction will be an intermittent reward, and make it worse.

[@Supermariocrosser]

You are ostracizing people. Many "Stalkers" are lonely bullied by the majority don't have multiple friends like you do. Many ostracized people for being ugly, losers, creeps who want to befriend people in general but they don't know where to start first. Never heard building up a network first? So they start talking to one to one online with people. Many people falsely accuse intelligent lonely people as stalkers because they have a very rich social life with multiple contacts everyday, and are often too dumb to even remember everything what they said to other. While many "nerds" who are in fact intelligent usually get called stalker by multiple people they interact one to one. If everyone would say : never talk to a stalker it would make it only worse for stalkers trying to talk to others. It's like a self fulfilling prophecy in many cases. Sending them to a psychiatrist means they stalk the psychiatrist because everyone abandoned him leaving only the doctor to talk How about society being inclusive?

[@deborahscarlet4771]

F... Off!!!!! The "stalker" is suffering a lot as well, and you can't imagine if the person or "object of desire" ignores you, can be really depressing and sometimes we need closure or something, even when we know it's not gonna be the last time on writing that person, or looking through their info, sorry I got mad at first and said that, but gosh, it's painful........

[@NoMoreMrNiceGuy2003]

You just phrased it perfectly because I used to fall for the bait for that one too many times without realizing the obvious thing that you say: that's just giving them an INTERMITTENT REWARD to do more mistreatment

[@erinscruggs5838]

Also if you cut off Twitter, they come to Facebook. When you cut them off there, they sneak into your home. They follow you around to the store and laundry.

[@FdUPOSTK]

Right!

[@TheWilliamHoganExperience]

Years ago, I was attacked and badly beaten by a man who was stalking a woman I was dating. I had no idea she was being stalked. He broke into her house in the middle of the night because he saw my car in her driveway. This guy was enraged. I was sleeping, and awoke to find this creep looming over me. He threatened to kill me. Then he attacked. I never had a chance to defend myself. The police did nothing because I didn't know who the guy was, and the girl refused to identify him, because she was so scared of him. Obviously, I stopped dating her at that point. Stalking is no joke. It indicates severe emotional derangement. It can and does lead to violence and murder. Strong laws and enforcement are needed to limit the damage these people do. It's not just men either. I've been stalked by women I've dated. No bunnies boiled (yet) but it sure is creepy....

[@taraarrington2285]

Yes stalkers are psychotic or at the very least cluster B it's very scary when you have a bunch of them following you around who knows what they're thinking or what they really want

[@nmaope]

So sorry for what happened to you.

[@RonkeStation]

You are a coward and a cruel person for breaking up with her because of his actions.

[@conniepritchardreinhardt9978]

I have gangstalkers. The recruit people to help stalk me.

[@MajesticLawnGnome]

@@RonkeStationwhat did you just post you little insect the guy was attacked by the stalker could have died she never mentioned to him she HAD A STALKER at all putting him at risk! Then when he is beaten badly she refuses to identify the stalker for the police there is NO excuse for that type or behavior even if she has a stalker I am glad he left her!

[@izawaniek2568]

Stalking is a terrifying experience and it produces so many overpowering emotions. It is exactly the way you have described, you feel intimidated, powerless, you self-isolate as you can not feel safe anywhere you go. This is an extremely cruel and painful way the abusers feel entitled to ruin their victims lives. The worst case of all is when the stalkers feel as if being on a moral crucade to convert the infidel. It is often done with the help of many other people who are acting as the stalker’s agents and those May even include your family members and awuaintances. It is shaking the victims sense not only of physical but also psychological safety. This kind of contact is evil and damaging in so many different ways. I believe the best way out is to try and ignore the stalking in any way possible and seek help and support. It has been happening to me for a long time now and I think the only way out is by talking about it outloud. Thank you for the help and support I get from your channel Darren.

[@forensicfaithinprofiling]

I'm so sorry to hear about ur horrible experiences w stalking. I can understand w compassion and agree w you in regards to how scary it is but how important it is to seem unbothered. When you have a great team of resources, we let these people know about the stalking amd fears accompanied by such. We survivors who endure this, live taking videos and pictures, documentation w dates and times, changing phone numbers ect... But there are viable ways to get the criminal activity to stop a whole lot faster by implementing specific docs so the courts then bypass family court and escalate immediately to criminal Court. Ive learned the hardest ways in how to protect myself and get justice. But man oh man did it take a toll on my adrenal system. Ive been recovering ever since. May safety and protection cover you w all the help and support you need.

[@targetedtyranny4661]

Good post,I myself is going through this, lots of people and family have helped, its like another planet where everyone has changed who they are as people, somehow they have been converted into people that want to destroy you, or your career.

[@desensitizedanalyser5624]

And you don't think the STALKER is going through he'll. Why don't you take your own advice that you give to your stalkers and go to fucking therapy too!!!

[@macnchessplz]

Great post.Firm believer in talking about it out loud.

[@Emile-philia]

Good comment. However, it can be difficult to find support sometimes. A victim of stalking (and harassment alike) can be construed as unstable, delusional, schizophrenic and so on... very unfortunate considering stalking is not even that uncommon (albeit not outright common either). Turn to your most trusted friends, I would say. Even better perhaps, a psychotherapist. Stalking is absolutely reprehensible, stay strong in your own sense of reality.

[@lightwing3696]

I feel like my stalker was a blend of almost all of the types. He started stalking me when I was 18, unbeknownst to me. Then he insinuated himself into my friend group when I was 20. I dated him briefly. When I broke off with him he insisted we "stay friends". I was very, very sheltered and naive and had no idea whatsoever what a dangerous person he was. I didn't know how to handle his obsessive behavior so I tried to "manage" it by "staying friends". He befriended my older brother and they would do things like going fishing together, and when I asked my older brother and his wife to please cut off all contact with him they both refused (in my opinion, they are both narcissists). I had a horse training business, and it was at a large public stable which meant I could not keep him from coming onto the premises. He went around and spread lies about me to everyone who would listen. He poisoned my horse. He drove nails into the hooves of my other horses. Later he stabbed one of my fillies, trying to slice her jugular vein and missed it by a sixteenth of an inch. The veterinarian who stitched the wound had to put in 4 layers of stitches and told me the vertebra in her neck had been nicked. He was a Vietnam veteran and put on the receipt for the surgery that it was a combat knife wound, and he knew one when he saw it. My stalker would show me his gun collection and knife collection, and retrospectively I knew which knife he had used. I called the police, and a detective came out and talked to me. At the time I had no idea who would or could do such a horrific thing. He pinpointed this "friend" and told me that he had done it. The problem was that the stalker had moved into the apartment next to mine. I moved. At my new house, I often had a feeling someone had been in my house when I was gone. I had been gone one Saturday all day and came home to my front door wide open and my dogs loose in the street. When I walked into my house, he was sitting at my computer reading my emails. I called the police and they arrested him; he was out within two days. He repeated this twice more, but I felt he had been in my house without being caught several other times. He poisoned my dogs twice by throwing the poison over the wall into the yard. I barely saved them by rushing them to the vet and having activated charcoal on hand. I could go on - there is almost no aspect of my life he did not try to infiltrate and damage. He succeeded to one degree or another in almost all of them. He left unwanted gifts hundreds of times over the years, at my door, at my mother's house, on my car, at my place of business. He intruded into my office building when I worked for a real estate company. He followed me on dates. Finally I met my future husband, and he followed me on those first dates and slashed my tires when I returned home. Then the second weekend, he called me non-stop all weekend. I didn't answer, so he left a voice mail saying he had taken poison and that I needed to come over and "save" him. In my mind, his suicidal behavior was really homicidal. I called the police and they had paramedics take him to the hospital. The police told me he had to have his stomach pumped at the hospital and then he was kept there on a mental illness hold for 72 hours. I finally got a restraining order, but a veteran police officer told me it was just a piece of paper and might make the stalking worse. He told me that they could not protect me 24 hours/seven days a week and that his assessment was that I would be murdered if I didn't leave. I left everything behind and flew to Canada where I rented a small house. By the time I flew to Canada, I was such a wreck that I couldn't eat and could only sleep for four hours at a time. That lasted for two years after I arrived in Canada. I dated my future husband and eventually married him. Every time I went back to California, the stalker stalked me at my mother's house. My brother never did cut off contact with him. Eventually, at the 18 year mark of stalking, my brother told me "something sad" had happened. My stalker had died of pancreatic cancer. There's a song I like, called "Goodbye Earl" by The Chicks. In that song there's a line that applies to the stalker "He was a missing person that nobody missed at all". That's the real truth about him. I'm glad he is no longer alive to hurt any other person or animal. Stalking is a crime that happens every. single. day. It is not a one-time crime. It is a crime that never stops. As for advice - read the book "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. If you are being stalked, the book will help you get over any denial you have and help you to assess how dangerous your stalker is and it might help you to save your own life. Sorry this is so long.

[@lightwing3696]

@Susan Argall - thank you so much, I really appreciate your comment.

[@connys.a2412]

Light Wing , I wonder why your brother was keeping this contact to his death .Wasn' t he ( made ) aware how much damage the stalker did to you and your animals ???

[@lightwing3696]

@@connys.a2412 - I will tell you, but it's very ugly. My oldest brother, I'm really convinced, is a narcissist who married a narcissist. There are many reasons I think that. When my brother's wife, I'll call her "M" had her first child, a girl, I was visiting when the baby was about 10 months old and was "cruising" around the room - getting ready to walk. She was holding onto the bookshelf on the perimeter of the room and scooting around holding on to things as she went. She stopped at the bookshelf and because she was teething, she stopped to teeth on a book. Her mother went over to her, grabbed the book and violently slapped her on the mouth. A ten-month-old (not that at any age that is acceptable). Also, at another time later when the baby was about three, the baby was sitting on a couch while her mother sat in front of her on the floor watching T.V. The baby wanted to brush her mommy's hair, so she let her. The baby accidentally caught some of her hair and pulled but only while trying to brush her hair. M turned around, grabbed the brush in a fury, yanked it out of her hands and yelled at her to "stop that!". Another time, her youngest, a boy, was sitting on my lap while we watched a movie. He kept on exclaiming at things in the movie loudly. We were in my brother and his wife's living room, not a theater. M told him furiously to stop. (He was almost four). He couldn't help himself and exclaimed loudly at something that happened again. I watched M go over to the kitchen sink and put dish soap on her finger. Then to my utter shock, she came over to her son and put the soap in his eye. Which resulted in him screaming and crying. I only realized this just after she did it. I had two options, one, to call child services. At the time the child services department in our county was making headline news for their abject failures and for the rampant numbers of completely unacceptable foster families they had placed children with. The other option was to have a talk with my older brother. I had never observed him being abusive toward his children but clearly he was allowing his wife to be sickeningly abusive. Neither had physical abuse ever been a feature of the family my brother and I were raised in. So, I had a talk with him, which of course backfired - one of the reasons I know now that he is a narcissist. From that day forward he has been on the warpath against me and has never forgotten it, nor has his wife. That is the reason I believe he actually enjoyed his "good friendship" with my stalker.

[@life-rethought]

My gut is telling me this is possible. Thank you for your words. OMG no one should ever endure what you did. There is a reason I took a gun with me when I ran. And he took note that I did. I pray you have some joy in your life with your husband.

[@Indusxstan]

Your comment really helped me. A very deceptive woman with schizotypal disorder is stalking me.

[@jeffreywickens3379]

My neighbor has been stalking me and my wife for about 2 years. Watched us through the bushes, came to our work and followed us around. Drove behind us on the road. Walked by our property several times a day and night, stopped and stared in, shined a flashlight onto us, our property and our windows. We got a restraining order against him, and things are somewhat better. Now, he waits for us when we come home, because he lives next door, and he lights a smoky fire as soon as we come home, then immediately puts it out. Then, as we're walking through our yard, he follows us on his side of the property, banging things around and making noise. Then, he gets on his motorcycle and repeatedly drives by. His life revolves around us.

[@dbgoestotheinternet7609]

That sounds awful. If you could sell up,and move away I would if I were you. That sort of mental aggression can give you a nervous breakdown if it goes on five years or more. It’s not illegal for him to set his fire and put it out or walk on his side of the hedge but it is red flag behaviour. Nutty fkkkers like him can act extremely unreasonably and violently when you don’t expect it. He’s gearing up to violence imo. 🙏 he’s not going to change but if you can put distance between you, he’s unlikely to follow you to another neighbourhood.

[@alimccreery755]

Your neighbor sounds like a sicko, I had a roommate like that and a boyfriend. Icky poo 💩

[@JamilaJibril-e8h]

Nothing like being followed by sick people the delusions and sickness of men

[@RachelleFerrier-qv6ie]

Thanks for sharing; this is the type of weird people I meet! I had a neighbour this batty at my last house - I thought I was the only one. She blocked me in my drive way. Shone lights on me as I arrived home. Screamed she knew that I was a prostitute ( Im not). Put up signs against the fence line that I am not to use lasers. Poisoned native plants/grasses in my garden. Threw buckets of leaves and sticks over the fence daily. Really bloody nutty - I was really glad to leave as though the house was really a great house; the experience of her was just awful and always just in the background.

[@Vilissa0]

Let me guess, just as you're about to leave, he just happens to be going out or, taking the trash out in a deliberate attempt to encounter you. I'm absolutely sick of them. They develop a strange fixation and they start to become addicted to the cat-and-mouse game. You were fortunate enough to be granted the restraining order, sadly, I'm not that fortunate because he isn't acting alone so it's very difficult to prove.

[@beautyshines2124]

stalkers doesn't respect privacy,they're delusional, controlling and has narcissistic behavior.

[@nellaflemming6862]

Insane.

[@nellaflemming6862]

👏👏🙏

[@taraarrington2285]

Yeah it boggles my mind how anyone thinks they have the right to do this to another person 🤔

[@nellaflemming6862]

Amen. 💯

[@Yukine_2607]

Not every stalker has narcissistic behaviour.

[@oopsiejustaburner]

Covert malignants are notorious for becoming obsessive and vengeful stalkers when you escape their sphere of influence because they're mortified at the thought of you exposing their behaviors. It becomes difficult to combat when they and their flying monkeys run around smearing you to anyone who'll entertain the idea that you're the perpetrator while covertly antagonizing you to get a reaction. Then you end up with not one deranged stalker, but multiple stalkers. Some of which have been duped into thinking they're somehow protecting or defending a victim/victims who's actually the predator behind the scenes. I've dealt with a covert malignant stalker and their flying monkeys for years now. My husband and I play an online game and we almost *constantly* have monkeys spawn in on us in servers. Luckily for me the narc may be intelligent enough to attempt covering their tracks because they know what they're doing is wrong, but also foolish enough to keep stalking/harassing by proxy because they can't control themselves. Document everything. FBI will tell you, it doesn't even matter if it's burner accounts so long as they can cross reference IP addresses to show a consistent pattern and tie it back to the owner/owners of the accounts. Unlawful communications doesn't even have to be direct communication either. Meaning no words have to even be exchanged for it to be considered stalking/harassment. Let the stalker(s) dig their own grave, they eventually will.

[@nellaflemming6862]

They certainly don't like you fighting back, they turn into the victim but after nearly FIVE YEARS of it by the same males and females, I am not taking it lying down anymore. They are shameless and low and they don't stop. Just got two of my female ones online right now. Not afraid of committing a criminal offense either. They think they are untouchable. Definitely mental illness.

[@desensitizedanalyser5624]

At this point. You can't stop us stalkers. The only way you'll stop us is if you kill us.

[@Raymie-v9j]

Ebay corporate toy companies are the worst. The police found evidence online of organised harrasment. But it's all about gathering hard evidence.

[@dm5129]

They are dangerous fakes, intensively jealous and they seek to destroy, it is their only reason for living

[@Harteo3917]

If i were you i wouldn't interact with any people you play with in your online game i made that mistake even joined a type of clan which use different names in different games and they approached me to join however that's actually just dodgy behavior when anyone approaches you especially if they're looking for anything you can give them for their clan. The fact is social media or anything with a social aspect to it has completely been taken over by very mentally unwell people and it's just got to far too dangerous levels to be on social media sites or to interact with anyone on online games because they see it as you're too trusting and open so somehow they can gain your trust and take advantage of that. Just keep it very casual play with other players but if you really observe other players nobody actually interacts with anyone either not inside games or outside just no because it's not safe. I don't know if it's the same game you play but if it is only interact with your husband for reals because there's actually a very bad cult formed by 2 or 3 men who really hate females, i spent 1 year and a half running around trying to avoid them but they had people on look out everywhere so that they knew where i went including outside the locations. Then they use a keybind to switch and login to characters so they can log in and out of them quickly which the guy leading them told them about because he does it himself with the dozens of accounts he has too. They also have people in all of the clans because they know we can't join any of them because most want us to appear online otherwise they don't accept us which is a real they created it's not part of any official rule, which means everyone can see the location in our game and these guys have joined dozens of their accounts to who know how many clans. The main guy who leads them also has his own stream now he'll keep appearing next to you every few months when he feels he starts losing your attention and then plans a next major attack after not doing anything for a few weeks. What you said though how they repeatedly keep stalking and showing up that's how i got them i just kept recording showing they're doing it multiple times and indeed stalking me by spawning in and you can see it on the map too if they do from above you. I went to a location where nobody goes to prove i'm not the one doing anything because there's nobody around to bother because they made me out i was the stalker and just a really evil person "medieval witch" is what they call me. Then i used real player to quickly shorten down the videos, they think that's not still evidence but it is and now they mostly leave me alone except one or two little things they do which is manageable. However they seem to have a "problem" with people going to the main location of the game because they don't act up at all if i don't go there at all with any of my characters, however i won't do that because they're crazy and think even creating 1 new character is me somehow doing it because of them to somehow "get back at them" or threaten them when i just simply made a new character. I'm allowed to just another way they're trying to tell me what to do no when they're being completely delusional, i don't go there as much anymore but i still go there whenever i'm nearby and i have to when i've made a new character. I also took a break for 3 months at another location and used it as my main base and the main guy leading their cult only lasted 1 month before he showed up right next to me because he was worried he was "losing me". Even when he'd already discarded me when i was playing with him and a few others for a few months not knowing this is what they're like and he's the one that initiated it🙃They love bombed me for several months but i can see now how little they really cared and how much they were actually mocking everything i did and said like there was a problem with it looking at me all "concerned" there is no gaining meaningful interaction online from people honestly. Then they pretended to form an "intervention" because they were probably going to pretend they weren't the stalkers and act like the hero in order to try and trauma bond with me eeek!. Of course the clan i joined he frequently interacts with the leader who also has his own stream and let me tell you he didn't care what he was doing to me he even called me "drama" when i tried to bring it out in the open on the discord with another person there making fun of me for it, and of course he was in the server they were trying to start an "intervention" where he wanted to watch the whole thing take place yuck!. What his character bio said on one of his characters though about hunting little girls was disturbing to say the least because he decided to hallucinate that my character was an anime or manga character which a lot of male gamers have a kink for, so if your character has brightly coloured hair just change it to a darker colour because it's not worth attracting these creeps. You can't interact anywhere else either because there's so many of them part of this cult that at least 1 of them will be playing and they'll just make fun of you and mock you mercilessly it's horrific and you can see that's probably why everyone else keep to themselves too, it's like they never sleep either they're online 24/7. Now that you've heard the full extent of what goes on with these formed groups of very disturbed individuals i would highly advise you to document enough evidence and report it to the game, what i did is i uploaded it somewhere and i put the location, dates, and times as the titles of each video. You will only see that most of them are males too only sometimes do i ever see any female players but i think they soon back away seeing what's happening or just watch from a distance.

[@beasaroseco5840]

I see stalking as spiritual warfare. Praying for safety and peace of mind for myself and intervention against the harrasser. In the natural I stay aware of my surroundings. Its an awful experience, but my faith has increased significantly especially when the harrassers stopped.

[@John-rt7ou]

@@beasaroseco5840 I knew two people in the army in Western Europe. Not only were they stalkers, but they also had connections with terrorists. They told me about the two events that would happen and they did happen and I was caught up in the first one. 18 people slaughtered and about 65 or 70 injured. The second event killed 86 people and injured 200. I survived the first one and returned it to that duty station on August the 7th very late at night and was there on the 8th in 1980. The terrorists lived on this duty station. On the night of August 7th and the morning of August 8th 1985 an underground organization visited that same duty station and left a car with a bomb in it. It was lethal and very powerful. Sometimes these stalkers as they are called or terrorists or organized criminals as they might be get some of their own business thrown right back in their faces.

[@yulialexandra444]

Yes, the stalkers have monitoring spirits.

[@Leannot35]

In the spiritual sense yes these people are definitely being moved from hell, by evil, that's why they got to use those evil bodies to spy on people to destroy our lives I've been putting up with this kind of crap for about 8 or more years,

[@hopeh1095]

@@yulialexandra444Yes they do have monitoring spirits, the devil wants to know everything it’s sad how insane ppl go not knowing that the evil spirit using them. A normal person worries about their daily life not ppl.

[@Tammygma]

I can relate to every word you speak and more

[@vacationeyes6430]

Your competitor might stalk you too. Someone who desperately wants to "outshine" you. Mine has been stalking me for over a decade now.

[@Powerlifter5555]

Yeah same bullshit

[@taishankm]

So sad to hear! Sorry! It can be hard to overcome, I know.

[@Tammygma]

Mine as well!

[@corporaterobotslave400]

I know one of these creeps. He stalked a friend of mine, used me to get to her. Then he denied it, even when he was caught in the act. These ppl are psychopaths, narcissists, and generally unpleasant to spend any time with. Hell, this guy even found me by stalking ppl on the internet. Carefully SCREEN everyone in your life with multiple tests; if they refuse to take tests then cancel them from your life.

[@HeavenlyLights]

Tests? What kind of tests? Can you give an example please?

[@camellia8625]

It isn’t fair but the only way I could manage to get rid of an ex boyfriend stalker in the early 90s - who refused to accept the relationship was over and had been stalking me for roughly a year and was threatening suicide, making my friends and family feel sorry for him etc - was to change address, job and change universities unexpectedly all at once and only stay in contact with a couple of trusted friends. Had to do something similar again 20 years later - ex husband harassed me for 10 going on 11 years post separation- to escape had to give up custody of my kids to him before suddenly and unexpectedly changing my name and address . By not having residence of my kids any more he had no legal right to know my name or whereabouts and couldn’t harass me anymore. I ended up living near the kids school and kids and met them for contact in public places in the community. Had to keep my location and name and all secret. My children have honoured that fortunately. I do not have any faith in the legal system - as some stalker ex partners (usually fathers) can use the legal system to force contact and to make your life as difficult as possible. I believe it is very important not to reward the person by picking up the phone or giving them any sort of attention or response if you can help it. Even read messages or simply picking up the phone to tell them to go away can be rewarding for these individuals because you are giving them your attention and if you are giving them any sort of attention in their warped minds they think they may be in with a chance. Change your number and email address and keep it private. Block the person every which way. If possible remove yourself off social media. It is also extremely important to be careful of mutual friends. You may sadly have to forgo some mutual friends to protect yourself from reputational smearing and/or the stalker using the connection for information gathering purposes.

[@justChrisjones]

In the old days we married the aggressive stalker. I think they are attracted to a quiet and reserved person, who is normally very polite and demure. Also naive and with deep empathy. It is really sad. I am so sorry for this happening.

[@camellia8625]

Awww thanks. It pays to be alert to the signs to avoid getting involved with such individuals in the first place.

[@camellia8625]

Five types of stalker 1. rejected stalker - ex partner or estranged family member 2. Incompetent stalker, sense of entitlement to time etc of the desired person. 3. Intimacy stalker - deluded idea someone who doesn’t want to be with them is the love of their life 4. Predator stalker - power and control, use mutual friends to find out about the target 5. Resentful stalker - vendetta, settling a grievance. Can become violent.

[@deathofathousandcuts4255]

#3 She has crossed Boundaries that I have never experienced anything else like this has intrigued all my devices, knew someone was engaging in my personal social media, such as used my facebook account for hiding from other's spouses, and Dating account this has deserved me with affects of Damn is she watching me now or recording me, will prosecute for there actions so maybe she will learn that her behivors have done? Thx Darren much help I will apply this to my toolbox!!! 💯🙏❤️

[@donmulder8061]

I attract stalkers for some reason ...... I am an introvert who tries to do the right thing and practices "live and let live." Surprisingly this enrages stalkers. Now I assume people are stalkers until proven otherwise. Very isolating. The new neighbors next door are stalking me because they are trying to take possession of our land through adverse possession. After ignoring her while trimming trees she says over to me, "we keep a close eye on, we're very interested in everything you are doing...." Amazing how these people target those who do no harm to them whatsoever. My stalkers seem to cut across multiple types and are hard to classify......

[@eyeamphree3337]

I know 1 person suffering from all 5 🙃 poor baby self inflicting their own misery

[@Leannot35]

Yes these types are absolutely evil, nothing but being moved by evil, it's such evil control

[@pollypineapple28]

I am going thru a stalking / harassment case right now with my own mother. It’s draining me emotionally and mentally!

[@conniepritchardreinhardt9978]

Stay strong.

[@Maxst33le]

Same but stuck rn, finding a way out is hard

[@gigi9301]

My own mother also did this She called me at work relentlessly (I'm a nurse so it was quite disruptive) , went through my trash bin outside, planted vegetables in my backyard, packed all her belongings and tried to have them delivered to my house I refused the shipment, when she was watching my son she went through my closet and tried on my clothes (my son told me). She even peed in my backyard my husband saw her doing it. just no boundaries I have never known anybody else with a mother like this it's like she wouldn't let me be

[@RachelleFerrier-qv6ie]

@@gigi9301 Sounds like my mother

[@GuitarMatt]

Siblings who decided to turn against me in my 40s a few years ago are people I went no contact with. YET they keep cyberstalking me too

[@janetmiller2980]

I hadn’t even realized I was dealing with a stalker until someone I know who worked probation & was familiar with the different types os stalkers heard what was going on & told me “You’ve got a resentful stalker on your hands. Make sure you keep quiet as this individual seeks to know you’re upset, but next time a false accusation comes up, tell whoever brings it to you you’re being stalked & it needs to stop.” I don’t wish to reveal too much other than this individual had an axe to grind, and had poor relationships with others in the organization. Ultimately they experienced karma by way of employment termination. All I can say is it takes time to get over feeling everything from unsafe to resentful about what’s taking place. It may take years for these feelings to subside, and they may never go away altogether, but they won’t be nearly as intense as when the stalker was attempting to bring you down.

[@charlottehawthorne2664]

It is so incredibly violating, you feel helpless, victimized over and over. My mother in law is my stalker, being an older female too, most people minimize her behavior. Sweep it under the rug and play it off as not harmful or dangerous. Yet if you had the same behaviour being perpetrated by a young male everyone would call it dangerous. Breaking into my car and leaving unwanted gifts after ending the relationship. Turning up at my work and sitting there for an hour staring at me grinning with the most demonic smile I've ever seen, just intimidating me. Turning up to playgroups for my children, attempting to snatch one of my babies out of my arms that she wasn't allowed to be around or have any contact with. Coming to my house threatening my life infront of my children. Using her other children her abusive son (BIL) to abuse and threaten me in my own house again infront of the children. Turning up at my work spreading lies and slandering me to my employees. Telling our small town community I'm crazy so when I did finally start telling people about the stalking and abuse there were plenty who wrote me off and played it down. She abused me while I was pregnant tried to force me to have an abortion claiming she had the right to dictate what happens to MY body. Made me develop severe pre-eclampsia form the stress and put my twins in NICU for 15 weeks. I'm in a wheelchair from the complications both my sons have significant developmental delays and medical issues form the pre-eclampsia. And almost 5 years later she continues to terrorize me. I barely leave the house anymore, a few months ago she aggressively followed me in the car almost causing me to run off the road fleeing from her. But she's a 67 year old granny so people think it's perfectly okay. The trauma I live with is all consuming.

[@Melfukoff]

File a protective order against her and move to another state if possible

[@RachelleFerrier-qv6ie]

I am so sorry to hear this. Her age will be her undoing I think. Be strong. Remember you are normal and she has severe issues. Sometimes this stuff drives us to only believing that karma will smack these people sideways at some point and it must be awful being such awful people. I have no wise words really because I am still dealing with stalking myself. At this point I just think if you are stalked it is some sort of attestment to your being a nice person because it seems only nice people are stalked. I had a woman recently tell me that her ex husband was regularly coming to places she was slashing her tyres and more revolting things and I looked at her and she was just a really nice kind friendly warm strong beautiful woman. I talked to her about my own stalking and how it had driven me to a belief in God and a whiplash of smiling just so that my stalkers know that they will never have me nor will they ever smash my happiness no matter how much they try. All persons who are stalked are nice people - I am sure of it. Sending you strength.

[@marlanaferro1558]

I've seen my share of police bodycam videos and grannies get arrested. People aren't as ignorant anymore since anything goes today. If she doesn't have a legitimate degenerative neuro dysfunction like Alzheimer's or Dementia than she's well aware of her antics regardless of her age. People everywhere are waking up to reality, and it's a nasty one.

[@pearpo]

Thank you for a very informative video 6:08 “Motivations for stalking can include: 1. A delusional belief in a romantic destiny 2. A desire to reclaim a prior relationship 3. A sadistic urge to torment the victim 4. A psychotic over- identification with the victim, and the desire to replace them” Five Stalker Subtypes: 1. Rejected stalker; double-bind of brutal vengeance and want contact 2. Incompetent stalker; entitlement to contact or intimacy (groupie) 3. Intimacy seeker; seek relationship or benefit from the relationship (groupie) 4. Predator stalker; seek power & control, plan crimes against victim 5. Resentful stalker; seek to frighten and punish

[@pearpo]

I will add corporations or entities driven by control, power/ position, wealth will hire firms to attack their victims for say M & A Hostile Takeover or “Brain Rape” to steal Intellectual Property in a personal manner that includes extreme harassment using these same techniques. An additional gaslighting tactic with multiple perpetrators (common purpose) are involved and the victim under psychological duress of psychological and physical warfare. One indication the stalking is more organized than a single individual stalker is the complicity of police and DA to prosecute criminal behavior committed by the stalker as criminal charges when the legal code provides. For instance, I have compelling evidence of criminal violence bleeding out and being taken to the hospital but the police refused to take it seriously, they just sweep it aside and the police engaged in further criminal harassment activities including intimidation and harassment of a victim or witness to a crime. Unfortunately this is more commonplace in this era due to online sinister communications on dark web etc. And personal data is the new “gold” as many are pig butchered by invasive hostile foreign entities.

[@pearpo]

Domestic corporations involved in organized criminal activity may be as bad as foreign attackers.

[@kristenwittmeier1707]

This is the worst feeling ever. Knowing you’re not safe anywhere you go, including your own home because your being stalked. It’s incredibly scary. I’ve been stalked for years by one person in particular. He breaks into my car every so often just to let me know he can get to me anywhere, anytime and there’s not a damn thing I can do about it. I actually bought a very large St. Bernard dog and had the police K-9 unit train him to protect me against this guy. He’s broken into my home, watched me sleep in the middle of the night. He gets off on breaking into places that I’m at. He’s very dangerous but someday I’ll stop him.

[@icalotdonthide2646]

Why don't you adjust your sleep schedule so you get most of your rest during the day. You can do that in about 2 weeks. Get prepared to meet him at night... preferably with a gun in the bed and when he finally appears....final solution time. It takes patience, but if he's bold enough to break into the home you probably won't have to wait long. Just make sure he's not breathing and THEN call the police.

[@Indusxstan]

@@icalotdonthide2646 excellent advice!

[@macnchessplz]

You need to arm yourself with something other than that dog.Pepper stay at the least bc your stalker might be…. The dog would be no help against it,if so.

[@williamduke8331]

"Stalking is defined as repeated and persistent unwanted communications, approaches and intrusions into someone’s life, into their privacy, and there are many levels to it." The description to your video is exactly what my stalker is doing to me; intruding upon my privacy and interfering in my life.

[@leeboriack8054]

You can’t reason with a stalker. Notify the authorities and your social network. Document, get an attorney ASAP!

[@RiverBluff607]

The “authorities” will likely join the stalker in the terrorism

[@Tammygma]

The thing is they are that good and the aithorities can't find them anymore than I can prove it!

[@vootamu1]

eBay was involved in stalking a couple that wrote bad reviews about them so sometimes corporations are involved in stalking. In the cancel culture that we live in, those who want to cancel you will gather in groups and engage in revenge stalking. They seek to "frighten and punish the victim."

[@RinAsami1]

This exactly! I've seen it in friend groups (or I should say ex-friend groups) also. One or a couple of people with gather a bunch of other friends and strangers online to make lies about you and post them. It's disgusting and cancel culture combined with social media make it was too easy for toxic and mentally ill people to destroy someone they don't like for revenge.

[@semolinasemolina8327]

Mummy Facebook groups are like that, they strive to take people down.

[@taraarrington2285]

Yes that was a case of gang stalking and it is when corporate interests basically higher corrupt people and authority to carry out there whatever they want done

[@nickidaisydandelion4044]

Yes it's Terror.

[@NoMoreMrNiceGuy2003]

Ironically there's a group called "ANTIFA" but they're the ultimate FACISTS

[@TC-gx3qn]

Thank you for covering this important subject, Darren. Very interesting and informative video! 👍🏽

[@baileydavenport744]

I didn't really know much about stalkers when I was a child but when I got older I realized I had a pretty serious stalker for almost a decade when I was growing up. Whenever I got home from school for years as soon as I walked into the house the phone would ring and if I answered there would only be breathing and if i didn't answer they would leave a voicemail that was just heavy breathing. They would also come up to my bedroom window at night and watch me sleep and sometimes they would knock or bang on the glass to try to wake me up in the middle of the night. I could see there was someone out there in the dark but I couldn't make out their features. Sometimes I would even talk to them, like saying "hello? is someone there? please go away." and they would just stand there and breath loudly. gross. Very frightening! For years I just thought I was dreaming because whenever I told my parents "theres a man outside my window who watches me sleep at night" they would just tell me I was having nightmares. But then when it continued up into my teens I began to realize there was an actual person out there and I was like "wtf? is this a pedophile? a murderer? who the is this guy?" I never did find out who it was. Eventually I moved out the state. I don't know if i would say it "haunts" me to this day exactly- I wasn't really that scared for most of it because I didn't really understand the danger - but its definitely something I think about every now and then when I see strangers in the dark.

[@RachelleFerrier-qv6ie]

OMG what a sick thing to grow up with - humans really are a strange bunch with perverts like this in the public.

[@smiler1327]

I have only recently been through this with my ex partner and I've never experienced anything like it. He was initially breaking into my garden, moving things around to play gaslightibg games. When he realised I had sussed it was happening, he continued but started leaving messages to let me know he'd been there. I put up security cameras but it only made it more entertaining for him. He found blind spots and tried to smash them down. He had specify created hiding spaces out the back of my garden, and had been climbing through all the neighbours gardens to get into mine. I called the police but they underestimated what was going on and charged out the back without listening to me first. This just made it worse, as he did get caught. The next day, grass was posted through my door. Previously, he had been using social media to post messages to me. And he admitted at the start of this relationship (it was a hoover) he would sometimes drive into my road in the years we were apart, but "wasn't stalking me". We were apart for 6 years, meaning he could have been doing this all that time. I didn't think he had been back, but my cat has now disappeared..... The pice can't arrest him because I couldn't get his face on camera because it was dark. But he was coming every night for weeks on end between midnight and 3 am. It isn't some to be underestimated. I felt continuously on edge and I still don't know if it's really the end but at some point, I will have to move. He was very angry. I had dumped him. He felt humiliated. But he had been having an affair...... The worst thing is wondering when it might start up again. But for now, I can at least sleep, but for weeks I couldn't. I just still can't believe this has all happened.

[@smiler1327]

*did not get caught

[@emotown1]

It’s not easy catching someone like that, and you can drive yourself nuts trying. The gaslighting aspect is very hard to deal with - it’s usually enough to cause upset but not enough to warrant calling the police.

[@FrancesHart99]

Keep a diary of everything he does. Keep calling the police. You may need to plan, prepare, then suddenly move.

[@smiler1327]

@@FrancesHart99 I have done exactly that! Everything done in the relationship and in the aftermath of me discarding him is written down and reported. I read its helpful for everybody to write down their full experience, just in case they ever try a hoover as it helps you to remember the reality of it, rather than your euphoric recall of the love bombing stages. Quite blind blowing when you do read it all back to yourself. But thank you for the advice. Looking through all the experiences everybody else has had, it's obviously something that happens more often than people realise, and can become especially dangerous and life threatening or at least life changing for people. It's just a shame the law isn't adept at dealing with it, not really, not in reality. And when you explain all the gaslighting elements of it all, you sound like you're the crazy one! But I have markers on my address so if I call them again about this, they will hopefully be better prepared. I urge anybody who is having similar experiences to do the same.

[@smiler1327]

@@emotown1 it really isn't easy catching them in the act. But when it's repeatedly done every night, and it's escalating day by day, and you have a child in the house too, you can't take any risks. The gaslighting aspect is just the start of it, and I suspect he is responsible for at least 4 cats ending up dead or missing (2 of mine, 2 of a friend of his).... And that's how psychopathic killers start! But when somebody is a vessel of nothingness, you can't take risks. I was shocked by your tale too, as by everybody else's. Quite frightening how these situations escalate so quickly.

[@carlturner-bennett7016]

I'm going through stalking now. It started as soon as I tried to end the friendship. He has no desire to be in a relationship with me he just wants to control me. I don't think he's coped with rejection that easily. He manipulates every one around him. Including his partner and police and even my old acquaintances. He's trying to replace my life. It's like he wants to be me. He started drinking where I drank, then started to work at the same place as me. Even his banter reassembled mine. His mannerisms. He follows me when I go for a walk. It's caused me stress, anxiety, flashbacks, nightmares. Time off work. Confidence issues. Trust issues. People question my sexuality. He has a partner as well. I made a mistake by humiliating him and publicly calling him a stalker. Now makes my life hell by turning everyone against me. Slandering me to other people. The list goes on. I'm isolated right now. I'm struggling to deal with what's going on. I already suffered with my mental health then this on top of it doesn't help one bit.

[@RachelleFerrier-qv6ie]

Man how bloody awful! Thank you for sharing. I am feeling better for all these personal stories. Because when I tell people the hell I have gone through with stalking they look dumbfounded like I am making it up but reading what all of you are saying I realise actually a lot of what I have been going through is run of the mill sicko stalking.

[@tonimaric4867]

Try and take extra care of yourself take a multivitamin to keep strength up and document everything he does even if you take out your phone and film him in front of others and if they ask why tell them he is stalking you. Most people will tell them off if they continue to hang around you uninvited. Stay safe 🙏

[@darlene-MamaD]

Thankfully, the only social media I use is KZbin. Years ago, I was stalked in person by individual that I didn't know too well...their antics progressed into; breaking into a vehicle I had, stealing my belongings, stealing mail by changing my mailing address to their P.O. Box, broke into my apartment and tried to commit suicide in front of me, etc. I felt forced to move farther away for my sanity. Deeply disturbing stuff to try to understand/cope with in ones life.

[@macnchessplz]

I too have experienced mail fraud in my situation.

[@viviennejohnston1046]

I have actually been stalked by another female. Cannot stand me but asks others repeatedly where I am and what I am up to. 😮

[@Harteo3917]

From what i've experienced they say they hate you but really there's something about you they admire and they want to be you and that's why they always want to know where you are and what you're up to so they can see you then copy everything you do and wear. They just can't actually form relationships or a proper repertoire with anyone because they aren't right in their mind, it's clear they want connection because why else do they attempt to try? but it's not in any good ways they do it. Most stories i've heard it sounds like their stalkers admired them in some way maybe they're even gay or bisexual but can never admit it themselves but they just too messed up.

[@bridgetmontgomery4844]

I was stalked at my job by another female then after i stop working at this place she continued to stalked me.

[@grand.geometrician]

I really liked how you advised victims to seek help. A stroke of genius!

[@JamilaJibril-e8h]

The problem with these people is that no one has caused them physical harm everything delusions they fake up things to normalize offending strangers..... Ex ...its War ..am in pain you need to pay for it....I failed it's your fault ..the rubbish goes on

[@spindrifter7519]

I left my wife & divorced because she was driving ,me crazy & I found out she was screwing some low life. 2 years after I left I noticed that she was doing regular drive byes past my house. Initially I was disturbed about it but then then I decided to ignore it. Another 18 months on and she is still doing it but less frequently. It no longer bothers me. I have a new life and she aint going to get any chance to intrude into it.

[@andreablossom3929]

My father left his gf overnight. She came home to find all of his things gone without a word said to her. He even bragged to me about how he left in a flash and found it amusing. However, she never cried or chased after him. She just let things be. As far as I knew didn't call asking questions/needing closure and when seeing him in public would even maintain polite conversation and composure. The funny thing is that after my dad moved out and ghosted her, he would drive by her house with me in the car. He'd have this expression on his face as if he was just casually driving, but I was always perturbed by it because he got off the main road to drive through her neighborhood when there were multiple ways, we could have gotten to destination without doing that. These people are insane, unhinged and obsessed.

[@spindrifter7519]

@@andreablossom3929 Yeah it sure is weird

[@semolinasemolina8327]

I think I was accidentally a rejected /incompetent stalker. I didn't even realise that I was seen that way, I was just going about my life, following the breadcrumb trail, and when I found out that that's what he was calling me - I was offended and angry, when i found put thrpugh others that was what they were saying about me, imagining the common resentful/dangerous/ predatory subtypes. However years later - I ended up in a shelter for domestic abuse and had therapy and training on how to spot and prevent domestic abuse - where as I'd firmly categorized my former ex as narcissus and exploitative- actually my behaviour reflectively was stalkerish. Terrible.

[@nailfile99]

I have a guy who is low key stalking me. I have had to block him on all social media because he keeps finding new ways to talk to me. He comes to events he knows all be at and then introduces himself to my friends almost to show he is not afraid of the fact I have confronted him about following me. I don’t really know what to do about him/ can’t really be bothered getting involved anymore!

[@lightwing3696]

Document it as much as possible. Do not give him any oxygen as far as it's possible. That means do not initiate contact to tell him to stop, don't initiate contact in any way. If he leaves gifts don't acknowledge them in any way, don't return them, give him no response whatsoever. So don't initiate any contact and don't respond in anyway whatsoever. Don't confront him at all, ever. I recommend the book, "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. In it he explains the rationale for you and what you need to do, as well as the danger level. If you can, report it to the police so they have a record too, although I know a lot of the time they just don't care and won't/can't do anything anyway.

[@lindavalentin5582]

Thank you very much for the information I have been stalked for years but I’m no longer afraid

[@FrancesHart99]

If you’re able to, install security cameras around your property like Ring, and Blackvue front and rear car cameras with apps that are easy to use. Don’t be predictable and take care when entering and leaving your property. All your windows should have key locks and external doors triple point locks and dead bolts. You can also have an alarm and can arm sections of the house when sleeping. It’s not over the top to have locks on internal doors too. I know some women get security grills on their windows. You can also get your window glass treated with a film that won’t break.

[@TheRealLarissa]

I have been stalked for over 10 years. No one ever helps, not even the police.

[@sleepcalm4582]

I know how it’s feels but don’t you give up. Live for your self take security measures and I pray that God keep you safe!

[@TheRealLarissa]

@@sleepcalm4582 thank you. You too.

[@TheRealLarissa]

But I don't believe God works that way.

[@TheRealLarissa]

And I also believe broadcasting your prayers is an ego trip.

[@WastedContender]

same for me. much solidarity!

[@AUSTRALIANAMADE]

Just wow, thank you. A predator, non intimate stalker survivor, 7yrs on a bathroom filmed and distributed forever. However, this is the first articulate info, in 4 yrs to hear, bless you.

[@bondeappetite703]

Still happening to me 3 years after I left. Police don’t take seriously at all. Everywhere I go he pops up online. Fake accounts etc. it’s never ending.

[@triplejmom7826]

I wish someone had believed me all those years ago when my ex was stalking me. Fortunately, when I moved a series of terrible events occurred that resulted in injury & my car being put in the shop so I was out of work for about three weeks & had no car. The phone calls increased but he was otherwise gone & years later the calls stopped to. Thank God!

[@janetmiller2980]

I’m going to agree with others that reading Gavin de Becker’s The Gift of Fear is very sound advice. That was a very insightful read.

[@BubbaHotepMothership]

@2:00 is on point. Stalkers, like NPD types, use their victimhood/ hate *to self regulate.* Bad poetry notwithstanding, if they can’t point the crooked finger, that finger tends to curl back around. Gaslighting is their passive aggressive default mode.

[@brittanyholman2720]

I feel really safe hearing some of these things. The way he talks sounds healthy. Thank you for your work

[@cutie1986]

Thank you so much for this video.. I felt so bad these days because of my ex’s stalking.. and i can’t understand why he is doing this.. I understand more about him.. Stalker is a creepy exsistance ever and they don’t do anything in their life

[@emeraldfish9698]

My stalker is involved in a very powerful cult and uses private investigators and law enforcement to stalk me so it’s really hard to even build a case against him because multiple people are used to stalk me instead of just one person. Several members in the cult are business owners and they abducted me from a restaurant I worked at that they happened to own. After my abduction I had a psychotic break and have been afraid to go work anywhere because that’s where the threat is the most extreme. I’ve had people approach me in parking lots, come to my work (any work, I’ve had to quit several jobs in an effort to escape but they’ll just follow me to the next), it’s hurt me in every way possible and I can’t get away from this creep. The worst part is law enforcement is involved in these crimes. Who do you turn to when the police are the criminals and how can anyone in that field not only witness a crime happening but participate? Officers shouldn’t commit crimes as favors for their rich prick friends. They even let him drive drunk. He got pulled over for DUI and he had the officer call his boss, they get on the phone and joke about how he kicked his butt in golf and the officer was told to let him go. As in go ahead and drive sh*t faced because being friends with the chief of police is more valuable than keeping people safe. He brags he can get away with murder because they have judges as members in the cult that would see to it he walks. I didn’t believe him when he first told me but after being hunted for 12+ years by these creeps I can absolutely verify that yes, there is a cult within the Jewish community and yes they can get away with murder. When they abducted me (I didn’t know when I got hired the owner was involved with these people. It wasn’t until they got me in the car it was revealed the only reason I was hired was for the purpose of taking me) they did this symbol 👌 over their third eye/forehead. So that means something. He showed me his watch and told me if I see anyone wearing that type of watch he’s a “very special person,” I’m not a watch person so it just looked like a regular black watch to me but something to pay attention to when dealing with these people. There was also a painting of two men in a red car, one was winking and the other had his tongue out and to the left. I see celebrities doing these gestures so I think these guys are Illuminati. They’re referred to as “the ones who make decisions.” Which means I know the first and last names of at least two members of the occult. They’re not as impressive as you’d think. More like how you see in movies where the entitled spoiled brat inherits the thrown and he’s bratty and boastful but because he’s king others just how to him…like in Gladiator when the emperors son takes over. It’s all bloodline so it’s not best man for the job it’s who your parents are. He has the biggest mouth. He needs to feel special and wants people impressed by him so it’s amazing it’s a secret society. I guess all the survivors end up so traumatized no one believes us and that’s how they stay secret. Terrorizing people to the point they end up in mental institutions or dead.

[@tonimaric4867]

I got myself a very cute little shih tzu maltese dog who lets me know when anyone is creeping around. He also snuggles up to me and is a great comfort to me when I worry a little too much. Feeding and taking care of him gets me out of my head and focused on him and he is a funny sweetie. ❤

[@V_V8838]

I've been stalked for 7 years. Primarily online but they do their absolute best to get under my skin. Going as far as using or grooming or hiring others. I'm still not sure if it's my family or a pen pal or just a collective of very unwell people. Watching this video does very little to help me narrow in on the "type" of stalker.

[@MD-vb1hq]

My mother is a rejected stalker. After I cut contact with everyone I knew and moved across the country, she hunted me down. I was able to get a restraining order, but she still sends people to my house. I got security cameras and a gun.

[@Portia620]

Why are you staying away from your mom? Wow.

[@raccuia1]

@@Portia620 meaning?

[@Indusxstan]

Why are you running away from your mother? What has she done to deserve such hate?

[@adimeter]

I see there are pole on this thread who do not think you should stay away from your mom. They just don't understand. Ignore them strenuously. Protect yourself.

[@adimeter]

{CORRECTION] "See there are people on"

[@life-rethought]

I find it very disturbing how many times I have been stalked through my life. AND ITS CORE.... THE SHATTERED CHILD/AND ADULT FROM A SADISTIC NARCISSISTIC FATHER. for I walked down the street looking at my feet in shame. I can remember questioning myself and life as a 5 year old walking alone home from school. "I can't be that bad???" for as the first born I was the scapegoat for the family... "if you didn't do that, say that... your father wouldn't have done that". I was stalked by 2 men in a van calling me to get their van as that 5-6 year old. later I was stalked the same way as a broken high schooler, again walking home alone... then 2 men in a van... I pretended the home I was in front of was my own and decisively went in the back door and waited for them to leave. I was stalked all the way from a grocery store to the front door of my first apartment at 23 years old. now I am married at 68 and I found I married a raging narcissist . I ran after less than a year married. I am very concerned for my safety. he loves his guns and is completely delusional. I have stumbled my way back into public art jobs... (yes he gave me a gift in terrorizing me out onto my own 2 feet again.) and I have had to make a courageous choice to pursue my public art projects that are lining up in front of me. I can't live in hiding, it will be no life. I have chosen to set my fear aside. do what I love and brings joy to others. and if he does do something physical to me. I'M PISSED ENOUGH TO LIVE MY LIFE WITH GUSTO UNTIL THEN. MAKING THE BEST OF MY LIFE GOING FORWARD.

[@timmywitty1432]

Wishing you the best!

[@Damnchaosemerald_e.e]

my stalking was delutional and formed out of obsession. im still obsessed but i realize its an obsession that needs to be put down like a dying dog. the problem is it lives inside me, its SEEMS impossible not to feel incomplete. emphasis on seems because i know its not. but im greatful i stalked a very understanding person who i agree gave me way to many chances. i think its due to an deep understanding of mental illness but despite mental illness i am aware it doesnt make you any less a predator or threat despite the amount of personal growth spiritual or physical you do. you just have to accept youve ended up down the right path, intention or not youve been led astray and you didnt take enough of all the clues. i dont know when there's room for improvement, i think i need to die to see the karma be resolved because the pain is anguish. but that's only if you can recognize it in yourself. its hard cus i dont believe in an afterlife necessarily but yet ive extremely spiritual since looking at my own monster. however if god will let you live you should take it and suffer and stay in your lane and understand youve just narrowed the width of your lane and possibly numbered your days with all the manifested stress and anxiety for allowing the monster to creep in and express itself through your actions. once that happens you need to identify as the monster and now dealing with it is not a simple path but its either that or psychopathy. i genuinely believe that. i say this cus, other criminal stalkers searching for some reason to resist their chaos may come to this video which is beyond brave. just know it doesnt end here. im actually here to lern about my counterpart, im specifically searching for the mindset of the female stalkers, i want to know now how a female stalkes cus i lived the life of how a male does it, at least what drove me wasnt malicious in intent but its terrifying how it evolves seemingly against the person you stand for. I wasnt a broken human until i had a break up, i have abandonment issues and ive never been taught how to cope, now i just live knowing theres a monster inside me that if i truly care i will kill myself if it feels like coming out. i hope thats not the case for me tho. to me feels like the peak of my BPD dissorder

[@SoCalRegisteredNurse]

I had a stalker and thought he was gone. I wiped all my social media, moved, and changed my phone number. This was over 10 years ago. Now, in March of 2024, I felt safe enough to create a LinkedIn account. Guess who tried to reconnect TWICE? Him. Gene Towner is his name. He tried following me here, too, and I had to block him. He makes multiple accounts. I’m so tired of this. I own three guns now because I couldn’t get restraining orders against him because he lives in a different state. I tried twice and presented all the phone calls, emails, voicemails and letters he sent to my HOME. Nope, no restraining order even though he threatened me in many of his messages. He would go from threatening to nice and then back to threatening me in his VMs because I never responded.

[@empressb444]

See if you can contact the court where he lives and send them all that documentation for a protection order and no contact order against him through court there

[@SoCalRegisteredNurse]

I’ve since canceled LinkedIn. I have contacted the courts where he lives. He played the victim saying he was on disability and couldn’t possible fly to my state and wah, wah, wah and they believed him. But, he can spend a whole day riding a Harley (his disability is back pain supposedly). My friend said he wished he had a stalker and that stalkers were “pretty people problems.” Kinda pissed me off to hear that. I told him “It’s not a pretty people problem; it’s a running into a psycho problem.” He hasn’t texted back. I think my friend is too immature to realize how much f**kery a stalker can cause in a person’s life.

[@SoCalRegisteredNurse]

@FlyingMonkies325 Yeah I haven’t spoken to my friend who wishes he had a stalker. He just doesn’t get it and it’s exhausting to have to explain all the fear a stalker can instill in you.

[@Portia620]

Can we talk about abuse by proxy????

[@jamiestumps6146]

Thank you for this information Sir!

[@tylercooley4007]

I deal with it everyday and it’s the worst possible way to live why can’t people just leave me the hell alone and move on

[@sallyanne6480]

these stalkers are mentally and morbidly obsessed with everything i do in my life and somehow they can think for me apparantly. they keep saying that what i was taught i think is the truth and i never said that!! i belive in it from what i seen. i never once said what i believed was the truth. i hate when people try to assume what i think.

[@simonejassmann7743]

Thanks!

[@DarrenFMagee]

You're welcome and thank you so much

[@kerrib1000]

My stalker is a 65-year old plutonic male coworker who over the last 18 months started stalking and following me from a distance. He started inquiring about my whereabouts from other coworkers. He’s always staring at me and watching my every move. We were totally plutonic as he talked about how he would never cheat on his wife. Then when I realized that he had a thing for me, I began avoiding him and I don’t engage him at all. I guess this angers him and he’s constantly subtly hanging around me and causing me great anxiety. I don’t know what to do. He is fully aware that I have no interest in him. It’s been almost 2 years. I don’t want to report him. He’s got over 30 years on the job. I’m so tired.

[@mariapilarme]

Get a labor lawyer to write a letter to Human Resources, not you. HR don’t advocate for you, your lawyer does.

[@Harteo3917]

Does he have any family? if he does try and find them and talk to them about his mental health issues and that he needs help asap before he hurts someone, if nothing happens then you have no choice but to report him but you'll need to record what is happening. Start off by letting him know you're now recording him, that his attention and the way he interacts with you is highly unwelcome and he's making you feel very uncomfortable you want him to stop. Be deadly serious and straightforward with him that any more of this harassment and stalking because of his mental health issues, you will report him and not feel sorry about it one bit (even if secretly you will a little bit). Nonono you can't feel sorry for taking down someone that is too mentally unwell to be around people and a possible danger to your safety because you just don't know how he's going to escalate, empathy isn't going to get you anywhere with people like this because they show none with the way they treat you. If he doesn't stop keep recording and every time with you telling him to leave you alone and the way he's interacting with you is unwelcome making you feel very uncomfortable, then show your manager. Record him acting this way towards you a handful of times because it'll be enough to show his behavior is consistently repetitive and there's a pattern.

[@jelenatanic8741]

Samo mi je stigla poruka od nekog nepoznatog ko se hvalio, a posle ništa od toga. I često razmišljam što baš meni. Dobro što je pokrenut ovaj kanal.

[@Rachel-g3h5q]

Very intrusive and unsettling even if there is no malicious intention

[@Poppy-yx8js]

I think it’s so interesting that platform’s who have actually engaged in cyberstalking and harassment don’t ever address the kind of harassment that they engage in when they are trying to cancel someone on social media considering it’s often really illegal and vicious. And is done in conjunction with others who harass said person by breaking into their home and hacking their devices. Stalking is a federal offense and is a crime in all 50 states of the US.

[@Leannot35]

It's a living hell, it's been happening on all my personal information, cell phones, jobs, trying to move away, and on, this has been going on around 8 years now!! I've been through multiple cell phones phone plans, mail taken or held, cars tampered, repeated phone calls from numerous number, threats, subtle death threats, years on and off of this, sleepless nights, or just sleep while getting enough energy from repeated hell and discouragement to move on! Put of where I feel trapped! No personal privacy no one wants to come to visit! It's control over my life lies spread to ruin my life ECT...the worst thing is WHY!!

[@january2754]

Thank you this was very informative. I always wondered to myself how these kinds of people don't think they are creepy You answered my questions.

[@lisahawkins2744]

Yes, I've been and still am being stalked by Resentful Stalker and he has gotten others to join in on this. He feels entitled due to his own behavior and yes, is the "victim". This has been going on for a long while.

[@mojojoji5493]

I hate stalkers their gaze is relentless and sometimes it’s a daily occurrence that can last hours

[@Corrosion37]

Can you determine what catagory the ''stalker'' falls under by the methods used to stalk?

[@ThomasNims-h9u]

The level of the stalker and the reasons for his stalking gives me a calmness that helps me to cope.

[@alimccreery755]

I’m a victim of gang stalking by the narc in my life. I know now what’s been going on.

[@myjourneytotruth]

Please contact authority, if that hasn't worked well for you, pack up & go far far away & don't tell even your most trusted beloved people. Sometimes your closest connections could be allies to help them stalk you & perhaps they might not even know the depth of the situation. Like the doc said social media is a tool they use so stay away from it. As for your phone, tablet, laptop, smart watch etc turn off GPS & LOCATION service on it. Your wellbeing & life is very important so becareful.

[@alimccreery755]

@@myjourneytotruth thank you for your support. I have everything arranged.

[@GeorgWilde]

What did you achieve by writing it here? lol

[@alimccreery755]

@@GeorgWildewhy do you want to know?

[@babylilbunny]

My boyfriend’s ex girlfriend has been staking me for over 4 years. Her harassment patterns are consistent with those of someone suffering with narcissist personality disorder with baiting, hovering, flying monkeys, etc. The harassment started with her accusing me of stealing her “boyfriend” (even after they broke up) to now where she is messaging my family on social media on different platforms, she moved in to another city with my abusive ex boyfriend to gain information (my socials have been successfully hacked, my ex had my passwords), to getting random strangers I don’t know to threaten me for her. I’ve had to get the police involved. She seems to fall under the vindictive/rejected stalker mentality.

[@targetedtyranny4661]

Why are their lots of people today that believe its normal, or justified to stalk and harass someone? These groups really feel like its the thing to do,what is going on to change reality for these people? Is the group so good at normalizing the behavior?

[@Harteo3917]

Two words social media. It encourages stalking a thousand fold because that's all people add you for is to nosy and they even use it to check up on people they haven't even met yet they can't just go out and let things take place naturally and that ends up making them go with all kinds of crazy assumptions and perceptions of the person in their head even when people don't tell everyone everything on them even the people who still believe it's safe to be so open on them. I didn't and yet somehow whatever i did say was somehow the only truth there was to know about me but they made their own assumptions about it and then hammered me with it. Since people are so isolated these days too because far too many people treat social media like their life it isolates other people too because people don't talk to you and so we all end up stuck inside with nothing to do as well, and that makes already bad mental health issues even worse, however social media has a profound negative effect on people for the obvious reasons like constant posts trying to gain an angry reaction or to compare yourself to people or other people doing it to you. I mean most of it is because of how the world is and how it's really unrealistic about how us humans work and behave but social media just takes all that and makes it all so much worse, i don't even watch the news anymore because it's gone the game route that makes people feel so anxious. People feel so anxious without social media to be able to check on things and on people now but with some people already prone to delusionary mental illnesses it just gives them a tool to take advantage of, however it still makes other people pretty paranoid and stalkerish.

[@mayangoddess9949]

This is correct. Even corporate figures are now STALKING (EX- employees) and EX-sellers. Some of them are concerned about whether or not WE have enough MONEY to retire ABROAD...or whether or not WE will remain MARRIED forevermore. Yes, their behavior is beyond CREEPY and it is beyond SCARY!!!

[@paxtonlux6698]

I have a question. I have been stalked recently by friends and family of a girl who gave me her number out of the blue without me asking. She sent one text and i later replied with one text. I got no response so moved on and didn't text or call. Her friends and family have started stalking me for the last three weeks everytime they see me in a very small town. My question; could this be for drama or something, as i found out from one of her friends that she had a boyfriend she is with, or a cover story for why she gave the number?

[@kristinmeyer489]

If you begin to realize that all aspects of your life have been infiltrated by these people, and bad things start happening to you thru others, you've been targeted. It's a sadistic pastime for a lot of underground freaks. They will enjoy humiliating, belittling, sabotaging, vandalizing, and smearing you, to recruit more haters to "help" them pile on you. This is only IF you've been targeted. My advice is to get away as soon as possible so they can more easily let you go and find an easier human toy to mess with. Once they've convinced themselves that you "deserve" their illegal maltreatment, they'll actually hold it against you for trying to regain your privacy or escape.

[@paxtonlux6698]

@@kristinmeyer489 Thankyou. Apreciate this. I agree as i have seen someone stalked before their cluster b pathologies are looking for a way to blame you as to escape and need for empathy. I have never stalked anyone and the idea seems like a waste of my life.

[@larasudomlak7128]

Thanks

[@DarrenFMagee]

Thank you very much for your kind support it’s greatly appreciated 👍

[@chickenbiscuit4525]

Stalkers as they may might usually migrate between different interests or intents, shifting targets. They are mood compromised. Generally narcissistic. Can't confuse them with those who are genuinely concerned about matters that generally concern conscientious people. We call that 'looking out for eachother'. Good video and content. When you detect being stalked the letterbox fills with a tapestry of clues. We might feel keen to go about out own investigation for curiosity. Strangely it seems some like to deliberated themselves with behavior that is bound to attract attention, from others. Mater of factly, we all comprise some sensation seeking behaviors. Some are hypervigilant about how others might perceive them. 😉

[@marbellareyna7290]

"Different interest or intents" this is true. I think generally speaking it's about power and control. "Wants to date" stalking to get attention. "Mad at being rejected" stalking to hurt them. I can definitely see that. It's just their preferred method of achieving whatever goal they have.

[@LeAnne-uw3wp]

Only psychopaths stalk people. They need serious help. Thank you you've just described my stalker 💯

[@Chicosbaby]

I have been stocked and my house has been broken into for the past 16 years. I have moved 5 times and moved to another state. and this person still continues to break into my home.This one knows how to break and enter people's homes, jams the signal to the camera, picks the locks and breaks into your home. The way that I have secured my home is by putting bar locks on my doors, I have a buddy bar supporting my back door. I am going to install a night lock on my front door that is supported by the floor. In the windows, I have two wooden dowls in each window so you can't open them. I have two trail cameras, mounted on the wall of my garage,recording to an 128 g sd card, glued into the camera. When I remove the cameras, I put in a metal bar on both sides of the tack of my garage so you can't open my garage door. That is my security system.

[@RachelleFerrier-qv6ie]

You rock! Thanks for sharing. Sometimes I feel like I am going crazy with considering such security levels that I sleep with extreme amount of barricading but you make me realise I am not the only one thanks.

[@Sam-y8c3p]

My stalker was/is tracking my phone so when I started to turn off my phone she installed a tracking device in my vehicle. It’s just an insanity and it’s going on for many many years. She needs to know EVERYTHING, when I wake up or go to bed, what I eat, what I buy, when I go to poop ( literally) , she has people watching me 24/7 seriously. And if they see I go to the public bathroom they FOLLOW me into the bathroom. It’s plain CRAZY

[@natashab3113]

My stalker of over 2 years was told by police to stay away from my area, he has stayed away, but will he ACTUALLY stay away?

[@realnaveen]

Thanks for explaining the good and bad intentions in detail! There is no reciprocity in bad intentions towards others. That explains everything.

[@cherylann1632]

I have been stalked by a woman for the last 50 YEARS - yes - 50 years! She stalks me and finds the people who are close to me or my business associates, and then uses her social power to legitimize the lies she spreads about me. She is a lesbian so its creepy. She hates men and has been involved in anti-rape, and more recently in child abuse. Her public face is one of caring and promoting women's rights and human rights, but in fact she is an abusive narcissist.

[@Indusxstan]

Why didn't you make a diary and expose the psycho? Why suffer in vain?

[@ninjagirlnomeansno9403]

Absolutely stupendous, Thank you Darren for your help and getting the Information out there, Peace, love to you and everyone, Thank you universe 😀😍♾️🧿🥰👽👽🌌🛸✨️✨️😁😃💞

[@edwi3719]

A woman I was nice to when her husband had cancer is now semi stalking me. Tons of phone calls texts showing up asking why I didn’t answer calls. I so regret my kindness

[@ashleyterry2715]

My stalker is mixed with three different types of stalkers

[@ianmcintosh9184]

Was stalked for years by a woman who I rejected on multiple occasions. Appeared everywhere....surely I went, work locally and in other towns, outside my flat, in the stairwell of my building, supermarkets etc etc sometimes more than once a day....I eventually started taking notes of times, dates and cars she was driving and went to the police. They told me she was just going about her daily business and was perfectly acceptable behavior unless she tried to communicate with me. The following and "random" appearances immediately stopped. I was assured by a friend who is a retired police officer that if it had been me stalking her it would be an entirely different view taken by the authorities. Stalking is a very discriminatory crime.

[@stealthwarrior5768]

I've been stalked by a bloke, and the cops were just as useless. Stalking is an equal opportunity crime.

[@JyotiShivShakti]

I am being stalked by my middle brother-in-law and ex-neighbor. What's worse is that they get help to continue stalking. My brother-in-law's help from relatives who helped him has stopped. And they also see how jealous and envious he is. It's a different story with my ex-neighbor. She talks her way out of it. And keeps going. People around her provide her with information. I do have help now.

[@JaneDoe-cq6yy]

I have found your channel by accident… I am being Stalked , about Darren the stalker is a stranger and because its a woman multiple handwritten letters unwanted presents physical violence… the PSNI won't arrest this person or do anything because of their age. This Is a very real horrible experience. I want to talk about highlighting the policing system in Northern Ireland I have been stalked for a year I can't take much more.

[@Gibbon420]

Presently a victim of a resentful stalker. Its been months, and they wont let it go. Ive removed every avenue of contact can think of, but they keep finding new ways to reach out, trying to do things to upset me. I just want them to leave me alone.

[@eyeamphree3337]

They want you they can't let go. Nothing but a love obsession would go this far. Don't let em catch you off guard in a crime of passion that you're clueless about because they're surviving off pure delusion & one sided attachment 🤢

[@Harteo3917]

Document every single piece of it and make sure they don't know you're doing this and make sure you have copies too and then once you've got enough showing all the things they're doing and all the things they repeatedly keep doing record it at least over the next year and then present it to the right people i've read it's best to start with a lawyer and then proceed from there.

[@leeboriack8054]

A former partner stalked me for over 4 years. Followed me on dates, tapped my phone, interrupted mail, he was relentless! I isolated, horrified to speak up out of shame and fear of not being believed.

[@janetteadams4023]

The stalkers I've encountered are when I was a caregiver for my mother and father. They were a married couple who were tenents that lived next door and we were owners. They figured out I would be inheriting the property so they stalked and harassed me trying to make me angry for normal noise they made in the middle of the night banging on my walls to kill insects. Nails in my tires, keyed up my car, watered her plants until there was water damage everywhere. Then when I confronted her about her bahavior she called the cops on me to claim harassment and that she was going to sue me! I showed the officer the videos of all her causes she felt there was no consequences for and it all backfired on her! I didnt tip my hand until she tried to spin it the 1st chance she got that I was the problem to try to take my property! Susan was so enraged that she got even worse to where she paid more attention to me then her own husband. Turning on her lights when I got home to let me know shes watching my every move. I had to sell the house with my sick and dying parents to a new house in a better neighborhood with better neighbors.

[@anyname777]

I tried to go to go the FBI because of the size, depth and extent. They wanted me to bring the evidence. There isn't a single person that will help me without a significant amount of money to be paid. The stalking prevents me from earning a living wage.

[@Scene68]

I, personally, have dealt with stalking for quite some time now, and not coming from a stranger but from a relative. Mainly via the internet than in person. Darren Magee's examination on the types of mental disorders which stalkers deal with; for my relative, I believe is suffering from a personality disorder (due to childhood trauma and parental abandonment). Does not excuse the actions to which I have suffered, all of which have been criminal. But the only thing I supposed one can do is just pray for their soul and some direction because they will never change unless the stalker themselves comes to the conclusion their brain is very unhealthy and they need to seek treatment ASAP to get better.

[@lasseharbitz9506]

Great video! Thanks for sharing 😊

[@Tammygma]

Stalkers are cowards and they hide fir a reason!

[@Cal-lu6ox]

You got it 100%. Pathetic people do pathetic things (for attention)

[@EMWLchannel]

I'm at a loss of what to do, myself. I've had coworkers and strangers find out personal details about me that I've never told them. It's kind of creepy. An Uber driver once picked me up with a British accent after I watched a video saying I'd meet my soulmate with a British accent just the previous night. There's been so many weird moments like this that others have witnessed as well with me, such as talking to my boyfriend about "if we saw a certain underaged drinker (who had harassed us before) at the casino, we would report her as underaged." Then I was reported a couple hours after for being underaged in the casino when I was well above the age. So many instances like this and I don't know who to talk to about it so I talk to my loved ones instead because how are authorities going to help with something like this exactly? It's strange.

[@Harteo3917]

It sounds like your phone is probably tapped and they're constantly listening to what you're saying and then doing that thing that you said soon after to mess with you or before you do it like it's some kind of competition, and they will constantly treat whatever relationship they think they have with you as some kind of constant competition, everything you do they'll make it a competition thus why they're always trying to one up you all the time. I don't want to say this but what if it's your boyfriend that's telling people things about you? because he was there with you in the casino and for that happen right after, i think you need to question him but after you've reset your phone and changed the passwords on social media on a computer. If not if you use facebook get a new account and disable apps because they can hide an app on it that'll keep hacking into it which i've experienced in the past, or just consider not being on facebook anymore. Change the password once every 2 months and keep your temporary internet files and cookies cleaned daily too because they'll just let hackers into peoples accounts mostly to just sit there to sell people's data and they'll take anything and i've tested it and they use temporary data to do it and they'll get in within 48 hours when left uncleaned. Then see if it continues you need to rule everything out before questioning your boyfriend, and make sure they haven't gotten onto your computer either and disable autoplay on your computer because it's actually an unsecure feature known about for years so if you disable that none of your devices definitely won't become infected again.

[@BikerB215]

IM GOING THROUGH SOME SERIOUS STALKERS AND I NEED SOME HELP/ADVICE WHAT TO DO ABOUT MY PROBLEM

[@yolandagrabowski6043]

How about controlling?

[@taraarrington2285]

So do you think this means that most private investigators have like borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder? Because they obviously enjoy that kind of career or they wouldn't stalk people for a living.

[@LBDaGreat1-si3jt]

I HAVE A MOTORCYCLIST WHO STALKS ME EVERYTIME I WALK OUTSIDE MY HOME. IDK OF HE IS A HOMOSEXUAL, MENTAL OR A COP. The police say " because the person doesn't say anything to me or haven't hurt me theres nothing they can do." Thats not right. Seeing a stalker everyday is alarming and annoying and not knowing what the stalker is thinking could bring fear to someone. Women/ men who are stalked on social media they wont get hurt or sometimes not communicated it doesn't mean a police officer should not do anything. My stalker is getting away with committing a crime.

[@LBDaGreat1-si3jt]

HACKERS AND STALKERS ARE PSYCHOPATHS. THEY HAVE A DEMON IN THERE HEAD THAT IS TELLING THEM TO GO AFTER A CHILD OF GOD. The lord is far from the wicked.

[@nativesoul9942]

What happens to the stalkers mental once they have their victim? Do then find something else on the victim to fixate on?

[@JPerez-vr6pr]

Wish we had a link to report stalking in the US

[@angelcox6136]

I witnessed a crime in the year 2000 and I was punished for it. The people who were supposed to help resolve this crime wrote a negative report about me saying that I was a problem. So the person stalking me took money to do it and now every bit of my life is compromised. He has money and power it works for the government. I just realized day before yesterday that that's why I've been feeling so heart sick. I've been being stalked for almost 4 years now. Don't feel like I can go to the police. I have proof and I even have his phone number. It just makes me truly heart sick and I feel unsafe 😢

[@Notme811_you]

So my stalker was seeking a romantic relationship with me. It all started in 9th grade for me. But his fascination for me probably started in kindergarten. I was just minding my business going from class to class. He was in two of my classes but he didn’t seem to notice me. I noticed him because I thought he seemed familiar and kind of cute but I put out of mind. Then one day he saw me without my glasses. He said to his friend. “It’s her!” Then he proceeded to tell me that we had met in kindergarten. I agreed that I thought so too. After that he made some crude attempts to get my attention. Mostly he would show up in the same places as me. Places he wasn’t supposed to be at like near the girls gym. I thought if I ignored him he would give up and stop bothering me but unbeknownst to me, he was following me way more than I had realized. Those time that he “showed up” trying to say hello were nothing he was following me all the time everyday from class to class. He knew my route to classes that we didn’t even share. He followed me to the bus area. One time he sat next to me on the bus. I thought it was odd because why did he sit next to me of all people. I was certain there were other spots open. He said hi to me. I don’t remember if I said hi back but then he just stared at me the whole 15min to my stop. I felt so uncomfortable. I thought about asking why he was staring at me. Then we came to my stop and I grit my teeth because I had to tell him to move. He moved on his own and I was relieved. I thought he was going to sit back down but instead he walked behind me all the way to the driveway of my house and then turned around and left. The only reason I knew is because my brother saw him and asked me who he was. I think he developed an obsession with dating the cute girl from kindergarten. I wasn’t necessarily me in the present moment. It was the girl he met back then. He was obsessed with my face. My physical attributes but he cared nothing about my feelings. He was only obsessed with my looks. If he found a doppelgänger that looked just like me he would probably be obsessed with her too.

[@timmywitty1432]

It’s called a narcissistic snap shot, introjection. Sam vaknin lectures on the topic.

[@Rachael2.0]

Thank You 😢

[@janetmiller2980]

I would also like to suggest as a way to avoid such situations in the workplace that if a name tag or plate is needed, that it be the worker’s first name only. It’s rather difficult to trace everything from social media to phone number and address without a last name. I suspect that’s how my stalker got my name to file reports with absolutely false accusations as I don’t generally introduce myself by my full name, and a simple “Hi! My (first) name is…” should suffice in the office.

[@Clairret]

Definitely! I wasn’t stalked but when I was a teenager a grown man got my name and number off a volunteer sign in sheet because it was blue tacked to the wall. 🤢 we ended up “dating” 🤢

[@Harteo3917]

Totally! there's thousands of other people with our first names and it's a good way to test people too because if they try to push for your last name you know they are weird.

[@KissandraX0]

@@Harteo3917 My employer posted our first and last names & birthdays in the company portal, which all employees can access through our phones. The person who is watching me is a coworker. She tried to press me for my middle name.

[@DigitalGarden-go5kw]

Thank you for the information!🙏🏻

[@BubbaHotepMothership]

My naïveté & laziness fully cooperated with 60yr old passive aggressive stalking/ doxxing. So innocuous and pervasive I refused to deal with it.

[@Zalika-dj8ue]

Lol victim blaming 101

[@BubbaHotepMothership]

Wifey in “House of Gucci” might also ID as victim. Movie based on real events.

[@suzanne6441]

I read somewhere that stalking is often rooted in envy.