"What Is Wrong With My Stalker?" Signs Of Psychotic Stalking | Psychotherapy Crash Course

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Can you relate to this video? If so, do you think the individual was psychotic? Thanks for watching!

[@truth4utoda]

Yes! I can. Happened to me in High school

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

High school is often a common place for stalking. I'm sorry to hear this.

[@sarabesche]

Unfortunately yes. Last year a Schizophrenic man I grew up with, showed up at my door, smiling, thinking I invited him....long story short the police got involved, arrests made, had to hire a PI. It was a nightmare. Turns out he has spent the majority of his adult life stalking women who he thinks are in love with him. It is very sad bc growing up, he was such a nice guy. When he would follow me, talking to him was was like what it would be like talking to someone with Alzheimer’s. He believed we were soulmates and was living in his own alternate reality. He admitted to seeing “messages” from me on billboards. All of these things were clearly very real to him and there was no hope of talking sense into him.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

@@susan6906 you can certainly send an email to [e-mail]. I will do my best to respond. I get tons of email a day!

[@l.denisemackey2619]

Talking to the District Attorney about it right now. Evidently this guy tried to frame me with Law Enforcement as well. The guy and his family have been wanting to sell me for sex since I was a child. I'm 41. It's been 20 years. This man is a sick person

[@nv_chino]

They know what’s wrong with them. They just want someone else to have something wrong with them to suffer along with those idiots. They refuse to seek treatment. All stalkers suffer from a personality disorder, mostly narcissistic to antisocial.

[@JamilaJibril-e8h]

Mostly about living well and being stable and some hate your progress and achievement

[@jeroenblom118]

Not every stalker has a personality disorder thsts just misinformation

[@kimberlydavis5034]

You can be stalked by a man or a woman. It's scary, stressful, and mentally and emotionally draining. Being stalked is horrible and not funny at all. Change your schedule and let close trusted friends know you are being stalked by someone. Being stalked can be very dangerous.

[@deborahgloria3867]

They act so innocent but they see deceptive and calculating.

[@Corina-dq2my]

​@@deborahgloria3867That's true. Some stalkers are very sneaky about it.

[@SageSuede]

My stalkers have been attacking my car and spreading lies in the community so I'm glad that I found this guidance.

[@Aimee03110]

How did they attack your car?

[@POV00005]

❤ I know some who had the carpet in their car slashed with a box cutter.

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

Then they’ll call me delusional when they are planning and assaulting it’s weird

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

I think they’re working together as a hate group

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

@@SageSuede same experience

[@stregalilith]

They will even send you messages that they want to contact you to apologize for stalking you! Don't rise to the bait! DO NOT ENGAGE!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

It's good not to engage for sure.

[@annoula1893]

exactly!

[@recoveringsoul755]

I feel like I may have to do something. One stalker has not stopped in over a decade and I'm pulling out my hair. I never reply and they will NOT stop

[@danguolephillips9307]

@@recoveringsoul755 please read this book - The Gift of Fear (Survival signals that protect us from violence) by Gavin De Berker

[@pardist]

Exactly. I don't get why people expect you to accept an apology and it feels coerced. That's because they are stalkers too then.

[@queennchronicales7815]

Thank so much for this information. Stalking is a form a domestic abuse and needs to be addressed more often in today’s world with social media. I feel like people feel in bolden in there behavior.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Absolutely! You're welcome. And thank you for pointing this out.

[@recoveringsoul755]

Is it domestic abuse if you never dated the person? Like a former coworker?

[@sototallyover2359]

In my opinion, all stalkers have a personality disorder. Most are co-morbid with both BPD and NPD with a dose of OCD. The OCD makes them obsessive about you. You see OCD is not only about cleaning behind the fridge, they are obsessed with you. Stalking is basically a "malign hoover" with a "malice obsession", you keep "sticking" in their mind-just like cleaning behind the fridge.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Well, I can see why you would think that. I wish things were that simple. I have videos on different kinds of stalkers which can illuminate who is who and WHY they do what they do.

[@sototallyover2359]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Yes, it's how I found and subscribed to your channel and thank you for tackling these hard subjects. I wonder, are the reasons different from male stalkers to female stalkers or is it basically the same personality disorder?

[@ashleykathryn9038]

I would agree, my mom would stalk me and she shows a lot of borderline and ocd traits. It's really sad how their mind locks on to things and has to do something irrational to regain that control. Like scratching an itch they can't control themselves.

[@elizabethseiden6667]

My stalker is a fat, creepy, computer nerd and socially awkward!

[@ecas4315]

Oh same!

[@rachelforrester2135]

One of mine is..i have 2 stalkers right now, not including my borderline stalkerish upstairs neighbor.

[@k.weirdo7747]

You're lucky. Mine does creepy stuff that makes me question "why?" With the side face😒 not the shock face😳. I want the computer geek.

[@susiesa8295]

lol spot on!

[@clairejohnson6522]

@@rachelforrester2135 I've got a borderline stalkerish downstairs neighbour.Throw in chain smoking,weird,nasty,unstable ,jealous,alcoholic who's also watching me and keeping tabs on what I'm doing into the mix and leaving things i could trip over.Weirdos the lot of them.

[@willardtheband]

My stalker/gangstalkers are definitely psychotic and take that as a compliment.

[@tracyhill4405]

So glad I ran into your channel. I am an older woman, single, and celibate that works in healthcare. I work at night. I noticed that when I go to work. Many young men who are my neighbors follow me to a certain point. They appear in the grocery store when I go. Some follow me up to a certain point when I go to work. One was at a light waving at me to go when I got off work. My work is thirty minutes from my home. One male neighbor even rent different cars to follow me. They are mostly young males. They even pull up when I come out or make it their business to be outside. One older male sits outside for hours until I come out. He finally got up enough nerves to approach me. I told him I had a living spouse and not looking. I only say hello or good morning in passing. At first, I had to examine myself. Then I realized and cofirmed that I do have quite a few stalkers. All these young men are single. I have no interest . But, I do thank God for protecting me. I have no idea what they want and I will not be meeting their needs or demands. Thanks for your insight. Jesus Christ is Lord.

[@signe8321]

In my sociaty it is common to stalk and harass the "weak". It must be a mass-psychosis

[@MrJazzinjj57]

It’s not just the weak because I’m a strong willed person and I fire back I’ve confronted them and they know I’m not playing. When I walk towards their cars, they take off! My question is what if it’s the government stalking you?

[@JTK639]

You make a good point😊

[@JustANurse24]

I've been stalked and monitored by some very psychotic men and women all over this country because of a cellphone privacy invasion. I know that mentally people who do things like are mentally off and dangerous because their curiosity is unnatural. I'm hoping they begin to understand something is wrong with them and move on from bothering me! I'm disgusted that people like this would ever take up a sick interest in observing my life in this aggressive manner.

[@Jesus117-h5f]

Very disgusting act like it's ok in reality down and low asking about personal love life and other things that are private it's not ok it must be reported

[@taraarrington2285]

I can't help but think about how sick it is that I have a family member that actually probably paid people to start stalking me I mean that's like a whole disorder and itself.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's horrible. 😒

[@eyeamphree3337]

The irony of people who want to sabotage everything you WORKED FOR while probably stalking you because they feel you don't deserve it but think randoms should be rewarded with money just to stalk you 🙃 make it make sense since you have money to blow on dumb shit. Everyday I try not to blame God for making me unfortunate to run into weirdos like this

[@Corina-dq2my]

​@@eyeamphree3337I know what you mean. Been there myself. Much empathy ❤

[@aprilb.4443]

My ex husband has other people stalking me...then he was caught stalking by our oldest son. We know what he’s about

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry April B. That's awful. I'm hoping that you are able to document what you suspect and keep a list of things you notice.

[@catherinewacker141]

Same

[@mariahconklin4150]

Oh yeah my ex will try and do that bs to

[@redsuedekitten]

This is great. Thank you so much. I've had awful experiences with online stalking after leaving narcissists and this gives me a whole lot more context.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome. I'm just sorry you have had this experience. Never easy to deal with.

[@blessedOne1320]

I’ve been dealing with gang-stalkers for a year now. I went no contact with my “ex narcissist” after I found out a couple of weeks into the relationship he stole $1300 out of my account then my cellphone provider contacted me that my SIM card had been compromised. After that is when I went no contact. Since then I’ve been stalked at my gym, at the park when walking my dogs then at my house. I have had to put security cameras all around my house. Now these people park outside of my house outside the view of my cameras. I tried to put a restraining order on this person put the judge and police said there is no evidence of a crime. So, from your video I’m dealing with a psychotic stalker(s).

[@cleolikesguitar]

Me in middle school dealing with my friend being stalked/blackmailed by this dude who really wants to date her. We already reported him, I just hope he gets in trouble. This has been traumatizing for my friend, I'm praying she'll be okay in the end.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry. This is always difficult because it seems like they "get off" al of the time. Give it time and take good notes on dates, times, locations, behaviors, etc. She may need it. I'll say a prayer for her too.

[@newjerseefemale]

I have been being stalked for 3 years, and currently installing cameras, it took me so long to figure out who it was. I have to say its cery creepy, that i was reallt being watched, i started to run into this person on a regular basis, currently getting cops involved. Super creepy.

[@ms.compton6254]

I see characteristics in my stalkers. There's several females and males and it's extremely creepy. From my understanding it's called GANG STALKING. Can you do a video on Gang Stalking?

[@dinacharlayne1912]

We are gang stalkered. If they work together it's group stalking. There may be more stalkers that you don't know are there because you didn't notice them. But a group is ganging up on one person making it a gang. It's about the numbers. Gang stalkers will change them out in large gangs. A small group of gang stalkers sounds like some serious hit men to us because to run all of that all on your own you have to have experience with hit man tactics. LOL Shoot. Hit men. But it may be some hit men. What characteristics? Gang stalker traits. The government the mafia and terrorists all use similar tactics. The government's very big though much bigger than the mafia. Gang stalking was invented by Russian's and Hitler got into it or something and then the US got it from Hitler.Organized crime / mafia use the same tactics as the mafia. Almost exactly the same tactics.* Gang stalker characteristics- The MS - 13 / 18 gang members down the hall gang stalk us and follow us to the store oftentimes and then when we get back they're following us in. We ran right into him coming in the other night going down the hall. And he got a coke? He gets coke twice? So we saw him again n' he said something and then went by and said something mean. We took trash out after getting back home and he was at the coke machine again. It's a gang so there's other Spanish speaking gang members who follow us in and out and at the store. But last time we didn't see them after we typed a bit on them online on Blogger. He looks spanish the man that we been seeing out there. So we figured he's with them n' he stalks us in and out of the apartment everytime or has been recently when we went out. He may be living illegally here with one of them upstairs named Maria. They got a job at that store and we didn't even go yesterday because it seems like they work Tues. Thursday and ? forgot. Wrote it down though. A few days a week working at the dollar store.

[@mariahconklin4150]

Eh gang stalking? Creepy! I’ve never been that obsessed with anyone it’s too creepy

[@amandab73]

This seems to be a popular way for narcissists to spend their time these days. 😕

[@ppositive7498]

They get paid ?

[@nellaflemming6862]

Yes please.

[@macnchessplz]

Some will send others to show up in various places. I think it’s because it makes it (in their mind) harder to prove or pinpoint one stalker.However, when people connected to the obsessed stalker (mine are non psychotic and I suspect personally disordered) most stalking victims know what’s going on.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That is true. Depending on the kind of stalking that is happening, gang stalking can look a lot like this too.

[@trrhyn]

watching your content when I was trying to figure out if my creepy neighbors behavior was something to be alarmed about, really helped me. It pushed me to make contact with the police and they took it so seriously, far more then I expected. So thank you for the info x

[@Ellelilly8666]

Going through this with a neighbour too. Very unsettling to say the least

[@Andrea-HeIsKing]

Your lucky they took it seriously. I have a protection order that is being ignored.

[@ladyoftheamazon]

I’m moving due to being stalked by this ex con they let out back in March due to the covid outbreak. He pulls in front of my apt and will sit in his car for hours sometimes 7-8 hours blasting music, sometimes smoking a cigarette standing infront of my gate staring into my living room window and talking to himself loudly about shooting and killing people. The music he blasts always has the most violent lyrics like “i got my murder on my mind” or “you’re nobody til somebody kills you” and will make sure my building is literally shaking. It’s terrifying. He’s a huge big dude too and I know for a fact he’s feared by everyone in our neighborhood. The crazies part is, he doesn’t even live in this neighborhood! Like wtf. I asked my landlord to ask him to atleast move to the next building with the noise but they claimed it’s a public street so nothing I could do. Then I called the police and nothing happened. The last straw I got the courage to jus confront him from my door and ask him why he’s doing this and literally started to cry I was so frustrated and he looked at me and smirked! So disgusting! He then goes “I’m loud? Oh don’t cry baby” Like ew I’m not ur fucking baby! So I thought he would leave and things went smooth for like a few days and then it got more often and more blatant. I’m moving in like 2-3 weeks into a whole different city with gated security as this place has 0 security and 0 cameras. I’m so glad to leave but it’s to the point I think I might need to warn my movers to make sure they’re not being followed by him in case he’s around the day I move. This has taken a huge toll on my mental health for the worst. I already have PTSD and it’s in a severe state right now due to my hyper vigilance. These people are 99% narcissistic sociopaths or psychopaths.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry to hear about this. This is terrible. I don't blame you for moving and at this point, I think that's the wise thing to do. I would leave no trace behind and leave. I hope you get through this! Take care

[@ladyoftheamazon]

@@TherapistTamaraHill i moved and I’m safe and so much happier now thank God and thank you for the well wishes😅😇

[@misslouloudavis4652]

All my 6 stalkers in 6 different locations had their friends and family also stalk and assault me. All were my lessors who felt the need to control Some poisoned the dog, some attacked in company, one tried to blow up my car. I have fled from all 6 places and the police do nothing actually they villify the victim. The psychological torture and terror they know they are causing is rediculous. They also know I am handicapped. I am currently on the run. Scared to ever rent again. When you are not safe in isolation and not safe when you leave that isolation what is left?

[@lizzomso8816]

I have been stalked for 3 years ,yes I got no privacy but still the stalker is so obsessed and want to control how I think and I feel.I think his life is falling a part and I’m project that build his self esteem.they are sad

[@maesgame9666]

It probably is. They're usually hopeless and helpless and thus projections give a sense of power. Honestly I've learned a lot about these psychopaths. The one thing they won't do is quit. If only they applied that same passion to things like their broken marriages and useless baby daddies. Idk man.

[@kristenfuller9168]

@@maesgame9666 I'm not the only one I'm glad. It's been happening to me lately. I think mine is a stalker he's obsessed with me because he literally in the mall just sits there on the bench stares at me. When I went a bit further away from him in another store he gets up goes passed the store I'm in looks in for few seconds sits on that bench in front of the store I'm in and he just watchs me. It just happened to me today recently. Do you think that's a stalker? Does it sound like I have a stalker in my life? He started doing it after I turned him down when he was going to take me to a motel a guy in his fifties wanted to go on a date with me. He literally said don't turn me down last week.

[@TonisScene]

@@maesgame9666 the truest truth. 🤣

[@POV00005]

🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@catherinewacker141]

WoW! Right now at the right time. I am being smothered in red flags by the malignant narcissitic ex. I am literally living a Lifetime Channel show. Frightening! Edit: I forgot to put borderline psychopath.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I am sorry to hear that Catherine. Very tiring and stressful to say the least. Hang in there and try to document everything that happens. Create a paper trail.

[@catherinewacker141]

@Sue Ristovska quite frightening. I was literally berated and harrassed right outside the court house on August 28th. Witnessed by severally sheriff deputies, as well as the bailiff who had to escort me to my car. Not one offered any resources. Basically sent me on way with a "best of luck!"

[@allycatt6243]

I am so sorry that you're going through that. I also made a cynical joke about being in a Lifetime Channel show and was asked who I wanted to play me. I also made inquiries to authorities and got a similar response.

[@arcweid7646]

I had stalkers, as in group of them from my former workplace, and the things you are saying really describes them and the things they do. Thay always read all my private messages and react to it and let me hear it and make fun of it, sometimes repeat that certain word, and a sample is when we had our house getting fixed, they are also saying their house is getting fixed. What's worse is, they were all from HR Department and IT manager and they spread all my private messages, already doing invasion of privacy, to other departments. They think they know the real you just because they read your private messages. And I really felt sorry when I learned what they did specially to the people I talked to because some of the conversations were private problems and was not intended for any other and it wasn't cool at all to do that. I changed my password multiple times, changed phones, formatted my phone and they still did it and never stopped and was even laughing at what they are doing and they really can't grasp respect and like what they are doing is not illegal. I moved to another country and changed all my social media, phone, diid not add them to my new account, but then I learned they are still accessing my account from who I thought was a friend of mine, which was "God oriented", very active in church or religious stuff when he reacted to one of my private messages and post from Facebook. My friends and I talked about it about their mentality and after watching your video, actually confirms what we said. We even thought if it was done to them, what would they think. They really give toxic environment. Toxic immature people.

[@East_L.A_Ivy]

It’s sucks you have to go through that. I have had similar issues too. Just stay strong and ignore them they are attention whores & love when you feed into their b.s

[@POV00005]

❤❤❤

[@marie22213]

The non-psychotic ones are addcited to intimidation. They live smelling fear. When you dont show the fear anymore thats when they get really mad & crazy. Alot of them should be locked up for long time but they're not sadly.

[@bondeappetite703]

I’ve been staked so many times I’m frightened to do anything online or otherwise. All different situations and they don’t stop it’s true.

[@louistafoya1288]

This is so insightful

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm glad this was helpful to you.

[@teaintheelephantroom]

I just learned the woman stalking me is a psychotic stalker. I am going to have to move cause she won’t stop and that is OK because I am over where I live. I need to be closer to the market where I used to work before. Once I found out they are a psychotic stalker, everything made sense.

[@eyeamphree3337]

They will stalk you wherever you go so don't follow the hype. Changing locations does not change THE PROBLEM

[@mathbee]

Thank you for posting this. I'm trying to navigate this right now as a victim, and I'm looking for resources that can actually help.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! And I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I would ensure your safety through keeping a paper trail, having cameras, etc.

[@queennchronicales7815]

Your videos are so informative and easy to follow. I am posting them on my pages for my followers and myself. I have had to educate myself about this type of behavior for the first time in my life I am dealing with someone who is stalking me and has been escalating in their stalking tactics . I think the worst thing we can do is not to take this situation seriously and not do what is required to protect yourself. You are so right it’s starts with knowing the traits of someone who can become a stalker. I tried to be diplomatic about the person who I was getting some behavior red flags from and give them the benefit of doubt but this was a mistake you have to remove yourself as soon as you notice or feel in your gut something is wrong .

[@rinnyj9547]

I understand but I just want this to stop. I want this to stop so badly.

[@OoGehleeGehlee3]

Theyre so delusional thinking they can OWN someones free will and body

[@davidevans5562]

Been stalked for 3 years and still ongoing. Neighbour will not leave me alone. Continual verbal abuse and following me every where. Trying to make me kill myself because ive spoken to Police, local Council and everyone your supposed to. This family are completely sick. Absolute know reason for what they've done/doing.

[@susiesa8295]

same here ! the stalkers family know what she is doing and cover her crazy ass. this creep even comments on same videos i comment on and she says she is the victim lolol!

[@anima6035]

Just pity them and even laugh at them if you need to. Make it your priority to turn your feelings about this situation around, you can do it, I did it and it's so freeing!!!!! ❤️ Ps if you're in danger then that's another matter x

[@skaladsdurr7139]

i feel you, this people also labeled you as "the bad guy" i even got labeled as "psychopath" its irony because they are narcisstic psychopath lol

[@sophiexoxo1811]

Thank you so much for your videos. Stalking has more of an impact that others could imagine.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You are welcome!! And bery much agree, especially with cyber access.

[@jacquelinemanzano9328]

You are probably aware that stalkers and narcissists do watch these types of videos, and they learn new skills from them. people in the comment section should be careful what they chose to divulge about their situation.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Very aware! Thank you. They also read books, articles, and do website searches. The scary part is that they study everything and learn how to blend in. But at least there are pieces of information available for those of us who MUST protect ourselves from them.

[@jacquelinemanzano9328]

@@TherapistTamaraHill I am trying to help my friend avoid a nightmare stalker who lives in another State. this woman is a malignant narcissist and relentless. She is a resentful stalker and will do whatever it takes to get revenge. He has been dealing with this madness since 2016. He sent her a Notice and Demand to Cease and Desist contact, via certified mail. There is power in the notice, in that if she attempts to contact him in any way or comes near him or his property, she is in violation of the cease and desist notice. This sets the evidence in motion to sue her for damages should that become a necessity. One cannot violate State Law without also violating Federal Law because one mirrors the other. Paperwork with consequences.

[@stregalilith]

It is unwelcome attention a reasonable WOMAN would find frightening or even annoying. This is a deeply gendered issue. Most stalkers are men who stalk women but even men who are stalked are mostly stalked by men. Ex-partner stalkers are the most dangerous. This is a very serious threat to the safety of millions of women every year. It is not laughing matter and should never be dismissed by police, therapists, lawyers, judges or other authorities.

[@RitaDoran-p4v]

Hi Tamara I like this topic stalkers are terrifying and dangerous I have experienced it throughout my life and it's exhausting and hard to prove it can get expensive due to need for documentation, moving and renting new leases furniture ect they like the cat n mouse game but they are very sick people IMO thank you for the information and have a great week

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, I very much agree. It's exhasting and when I get a new case on stalking, I know it's going to be a rough ride for a few months with the client. The reality that someone is trying to control your life is traumatizing to say the least. And you're welcome. Thank you. Have a good week too!

[@starringsea1439]

I hate it cause my stalkers are aware and compulsive at the same time

[@artschoolgirl23]

I've read so much on the psychology & typology of stalkers, but mine doesn't fit into established categories. I've exhausted my resources - academic journals, books, videos from the experts, local & national domestic violence & crime victim 1-800 numbers, to know avail. My stalker was a family friend / known to me (for 6 months) and my husband (for 4.5 yrs.) before we went no contact (because I realized he was insanely manipulative, controlling, was gaslighting & triangulating my family members). The stalking began a week later and could best be described as 'covert' - - no harassing texts or calls, no cyber-stalking, no overt communication. He went straight to proximity stalking, coming onto our property unseen & moving / rearranging things. Also left a (very specific & evocative) object in a place for me to find. But I've never physically seen him here & he's made no approach, no contact. The only stalker typology that remotely fits is "predatory", but predatory stalkers don't generally have a pre-existing relationship with their victims. I'm stumped. The domestic violence & crime victim hotlines have no knowledge of 'atypical' stalkers and tell me they don't hear anything (in my story) that raises red flags for violent propensity. But, I'm not sure how accurate their assessment can be if they're not familiar with atypical manifestations. Are all atypical stalkers presumed to be psychotic? Is it possible for a predatory stalker to stalk people they know?

[@k.weirdo7747]

A guy did a video on domestic (80%) and anonymous stalkers (20%).

[@sherrycrawford6724]

After 20 years he’s back ! Bumping in to me at the Grocery Store , he Lives 30 miles away ! He had the Same MO years ago alway watching , he’s Married , and it’s never what I think, he said.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry. 😔 This is disturbing.

[@MissyRichmond]

I’m so sorry. It’s literal HADES. Mine is back and lives 4 apts from me. I now have a taser. I’m blind/partially sighted, so I don’t feel comfortable with a gun. I’m so sick of this.

[@mariahconklin4150]

So creepy! Idk why people are so obsessed with others it’s weird

[@j9b8upGKUjOiwSDNnLJOer]

That spots on! My stalker has all those 4 disorders: personality disorder, narcissistic behavior, mental illness and criminal behavior. He's so delusional and sickly obssesive about having me all to himself despite being already married and having 2 kids, definitely he cannot accept rejection, and keeps stalking me to every detail of my life, as if he owned me: my whatsapp, my email, my messages, my conversation with people, my computer, videos i watched, even comments i left on youtube, everything he can stalk!! Excellent at twisting words and playing victim in front of his followers. He already fell into my trap, and now i'm confirmed he's utterly sick. I purposely provoked him through comments on youtube to monitor his behavior later, and now he already showed a reaction on his social media, what an amazing a**h***, an LOA fanatics who uses the concept to justify his flexing behaviour as "maintaining his high vibration" for him to show off how rich, successful and happy he is to the whole world without feeling guilty! Reading my one of my comments i purposely left yesterday night, he's now trying to ask for justifications from his followers on threads asking if a "humble man" like him is not allowed to own luxury things?!!! A coincidence?? HELL NO!! I managed to irritate him and he now feels threathened and seeks justification to feel good that he's not doing anything wrong with showing off his private life and stalking other person's privacy at the same time!!!! If i could, i would do more things to make him dissapear from this world as i have already broken my limit for having been stalked for more than 10 years and experiencing my unpublisdhed ideas being stolen for his cursed books and courses!!!!! Enough is enough, i cant tolerate his crime any longer!!!!!!!!!! What a shameless disgusting pig he is!!!!!!!!

[@c.eb.1216]

I suggest going no Internet for an extended amount of time. Take a vacation.

[@jacquelinemanzano9328]

It is , with or without consent. Mailboxes are considered federal property and tampering with them in any way is a federal crime. It is also illegal to place items in your mailbox with the intent of someone other than the mail carrier to retrieve it.

[@bumblefox1624]

Omg this makes soo much sense, my ex has Add and had it as a child as well, he doesn't treat it now. He has completely crossed the line with stalking many a times. I always thought maybe this had something to do with him being so invested in my life 10 years after our divorce..the ADD and the adrenaline junking, ie. having to jump out of air planes to feel something. If there is a study, I would love to be considered, I have many a stories about psychopathic stalking

[@clairejohnson6522]

Only yesterday i watched documentaries by Stacey Dooley on KZbin about Stalking and ADHD.I hope things have improved for you.

[@vivianaqyarko6777]

thank you so much first time seeing you i live next door to a married couple her husband is creeppy as hell he follows me so i avoid him stares at me as if hes looking in to my soul just crazy why would a married man be stalking me his wife resents me i dont even speak to this couple any more ive been told not to speak to him is so annoying hes crazy

[@ksshe3694]

STALKING IS VERY REAL. STALKERS ARE VERY REAL. BEING STALKED IS REAL. A LOT OF TH E TIMES DON'T KNOW BEING STALKED AT FIRST, BUT IT WILL EVENTUALLY MANIFEST, OH THIS IS A STALKER. Ignoring STALKERS is the best for non aggressive obsessed who will stalk from a distance. Never approach. Its the ones that don't know when to stop an approach in a personal space, STALKERS CAN BE A NUISANCES, ITS THE DANGEROUS UNSTABILITY THATS A DANGEROUS STALKERS

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you for sharing this. Very true.

[@rachelforrester2135]

Yes ignore them! Dont interact with them at all i think that's what they want. Just silently call the police.

[@susiesa8295]

you are right! they are also very manipulating losers who throw tamtrums if they don't get what they want including smearing their victims and accuse them of what they are doing to throw blame off their miserable asses!

[@Craigdna]

Excellent presentation. Thank you for sharing. Sometimes, I wish that we would tie things like ADHD, Autism, and Schizophrenia more towards metal toxicities and their affects on behaviors. Several metallic particulates, when in excess, have been linked to these conditions. I think that if we connected these links more frequently, then our focus would become directed more towards our atmosphere and environment. You have provided a very in depth view of stalking and I appreciated your experience and knowledge on the subject as it is very distressing to experience a stalker. I think Psychology you be taught to middle school students on an introductory level, to prepare them for high school and college. Thanks again Tamara.

[@TheRealLarissa]

No one cares about stalking. I've had a stalker for over a decade.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry. I hate to admit it but the world simply doesn't fully understand stalking. This causes a huge misconception and disinterest in the topic.

[@TheRealLarissa]

@@TherapistTamaraHill yeah. That is accurate. Thank you for talking about it anyway. I'm being sincere.

[@Corina-dq2my]

There needs to be more legislation regarding stalking, absolutely. Also with regards to cyber stalking, and issues with neighbors.

[@JTK639]

@@TheRealLarissa wow how have you coped?

[@andrepintosuperstar]

They say they are not interested, but if the man is rich, young, handsome and drives a Lamborghini Bugatti or Ferrari, they will jump at him first.

[@be4jesus]

I’ve been stalked and spied on for years. All my internet searches are monitored too. No way to prove it. Sad. I have to wait for God to take vengeance b/c I can’t do anything. Romans 12:19

[@elizabethseiden6667]

The scary part is that my landlord moves in and out super fast without being detected! I have two loud door sensor alarms on the front and back doors. Also, I have two door jams! He’s still getting in! I think he’s got a secret entrance! I think he has hidden cameras and taps to hear all of my conversations. He hacked into my phone and steals phone numbers lock combinations and passwords!

[@ladennayoung2939]

I pray that things have gotten better for you in Jesus name, and that you are able to move somewhere without him knowing.

[@foxiefair123]

I feel like I’m being stalked by one of my neighbors. I go to 12 Step Meetings down the street from my house, and when she walks past there “coincidentally” at times when there are meetings, she actually approaches me outside the clubhouse and starts trying to have a conversation and questioning me about what I’m doing there and my sobriety. Now she has started going there and hanging out outside. She’s not an alcoholic, and they have told her about open meetings and that she can attend those. It’s weird. I’m obviously not required to talk to her and I go to closed meetings, but it’s still uncomfortable, because she’s always outside of the apartment building and it feels like you just can’t do anything without her seeing it, making comments, and forcing interaction. I’m cordial with her, but it’s like I just get no space.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

It's never easy to cope with fears of being stalked where you live and even where you work. These are two places you are almost all of the time. I'm sorry you are going through this. I would consider getting a small Ring camera for around your home. It may catch some things for you.

[@anima6035]

Disgusting! What a 🐄

[@hugmc]

I fell out with a woman in a 12 step program for family and friends off drinker and she has at least three hundred off her family staking me and none of them are even part off the program what a sad ending for a program I enjoyed for 17 years I don’t like her she’s a lady in her late seventeens crazy bat like her entire extended family I live this horrible situation every day in Ireland 🇮🇪my daughter goes too a different meeting and I am trying now too get her out off it ❤

[@elizabethseiden6667]

Hi Tamara! Amazing video! My psycho landlord is my stalker! He steals my food, clothes, money and furniture! He steals everything in my apartment! Passwords, receipts, bank statements, and he reads my journals and Folds the corners of each page he reads! He’s married to a Russian mail order bride! He breaks into my apartment every day and night!! I have never caught him but I hear him sometimes! He went into my pajama pants pockets when I was asleep!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! I'm sorry to hear this. This is the last person you would think would stalk anyone! I would put up a small camera in rooms you think he might go into. Depending on where you live, he's breaking the law.

[@stephaniemillsaps3626]

THANK YOU TAMARA 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You are so welcome!

[@casualobserver4536]

Took my local PD 7 MONTHS to actually serve my stalker..wth?!!

[@ftforo888]

Honestly. You’re the only psychiatrist I’d recommend, Anyone else would make us look crazy.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🤗

[@LoonaMoonlight-bv2ri]

Breezy BeEazy The Wise Warrior is still here ✔️💯

[@judem429]

My stalker is an 84 year old man. He tells people that I beg him to let me go to bed with him. I laughed but they believe him! Gag. 🤮🤮🤮

[@newgenerationofti4185]

My neightbors are stalking me is been about 3v yrs now am about to move from florida to hawaii

[@amomentsnotice]

Wow this topic is super dynamic the way I have experienced stalking, at the same time "forgiveness" makes much more sense, so will sharing your experiences get to happen idk

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, thank you for sharing!

[@macadamia200]

In many occations, I turned off my cell phone location (ubication) or a "data" of my phone for confussing at my stalker. It's a "copycat". It's a horrible situation because occur in a long years. The situation It's confussed.

[@greendragon4058]

I can't believe this is the first video ever watched of you and subscribed

[@kitsmith693]

My stalker (ex boyfriend; sat outside my house every other day for 5 years, he would curb crawl my visitors, neighbors, made unannounced visits to all my friends with gifts ....& family. My mother (another narcissist) became his best friend.... .....making it awkward when I had to report him to the police. I was embarrassed explaining his relationship with my mother. My mother stalks several family members, she stalks my brothers ex girlfriends. What sort of mother befriends a man who abused her daughter, stalked & harassed her for 5 years ! Birds of a feather, I had a tracker on my car last year, it’s insane & hard to believe

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Oh my! This is tough because stalking is crossing the line of curiosity and interest. Something is clearly wrong in this situation. I'm sorry to hear this.

[@ladennayoung2939]

Have a good day. Thanks for sharing your insight on this subject matter.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! And thanks, you too!

[@leilani8262]

My stalker is geeky, skinny, with beady eyes, a big nose, over bite, curly hair, and just creepy. He breaks into my apartment, harasses me while I sleep. He follows me everywhere. Especially when I take road trips and go to rest stops or Buc-ees.

[@TheTeganOsmondChannel]

Thank you for these awesome videos. I have dealt with this a few times.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome Tegan! Thanks for watching. Having this kind of stalker is very tiring. They need help.

[@nicolecarson9067]

There is a police officer from my home town that has been stalking me what does a women do when the man us a psychopath but he has a badge as a police officer and is creating issues in your life to validate why the surveillance is necessary

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's terrible. I'm so sorry. We should feel the feeling of honor and respect when we think of law enforcement. Not fear.

[@domingabarboza9897]

So informative and helpful 😊 TYSM ‼️

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Welcome 😊 And thank you!

[@sliceofloving]

My stalkers normalized stalking.

[@MS-ns4ki]

I think as did mine 😂 I just feel like everyone is in on this 🤪

[@jodiepoletti]

My boyfriends ex is stalking me and keeps causing problems for me. It literally drove him and I to split from each other. She just won't leave me alone. Follows me everywhere from the new town I live in to my parents. She even has called several of my friends and started lying about me too them. I don't know what to do to get rid of her

[@Heidi-zr5wb]

I'm playing this on a speaker for my stalker while she's stalking me right now🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥😡

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🙈🙊

[@anima6035]

Omg literally same 😂❤️

[@lisapulleng3701]

Me too 😄

[@katherinevernier4945]

Cyber stalkers are the worse. Sadly mine is my brother-in-law who is a computer contractor for the government and has a security clearance. I gave him access to my phone because my sister and mother asked him to help me. He has hacked all of them before me. He set up my family’s T-Mobile account and computers. My sister relays on him. She found intimate videos he stole off my phone. She told him to leave me alone or I would go to the cops and he said if she would help me, he’d make sure she would never get a penny from him and would make sure she would never see her kids again. My family lied to the detective and the detective said it would be impossible to get a restraining order on him because my county is so small and they do not have the capacity and the sources to help. The thing is my family won’t help me because my sister relies on him to live. When I sat with the detective and they laughed at me while I was crying asking for help.

[@taraarrington2285]

They're definitely psychotic.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

It's so terrifying to be the victim in a scenario like that.

[@kimberlydavis5034]

I had a stalker and I don't know who was stalking me. I was being stalked by someone I don't know. I use to have Facebook and someone hacked my Facebook more than once. Finally Facebook called me and let me know that someone was trying to hack my Facebook 15 to 30 times a day. I didn't know that until Facebook told me. I told Facebook to close all 3 of my Facebook's and I don't use Facebook anymore.

[@teresahelman1252]

I moved to a rural town over two yrs ago, my brother's friend lives on same road three blocks away, no problem from him the whole time I've lived here, my brother died of massive heart attack 3 days after Xmas, we had a get together at local lake in his honor of course this guy attended , didn't talk to him very much but since then this creep drives past my apt at least a dozen times a day , and has honked several times if he sees me outside, I live alone and he knows I'm single and live alone , gotten to the point I can't even sit outside for a lousy 15 mins without him circling the block , he doesn't stop to talk just trolls me nonstop , how in the world can I go to coos when he lives in the same area. I don't think he wants to talk but is getting a power trip from harassing me. I already have health issues with my heart , can't really afford to move. Any suggestions this is definitely creepy and very intimidating. I'm afraid if I go to the cops they won't help and will think I'm the one with the problem. I have no privacy outside and can be seen from three streets in front of my apt. This didn't start until after he watched me at family gathering, also lost my mom in Feb I have enough on my plate shouldn't have this to deal with now. What possible options do I have , he has technically done nothing that I can report. It's stressing me out alot.

[@taishaortega6652]

So I’m stalked by my ex’s ex.. she uses her having a brain lesion As her excuse . She mimics me , asks my personal friends or family about me where I get my clothes , makeup ect . It got to the point when she was dating my ex she threw our son into it with her daughters I did everything I could . And I still do I got a restraining order it only covered me .... the judge knew her and sided with her never saw any evidence of death threats, to me and my son, property damage in the thousands of dollars range , she faked having cancer , she faked pregnancy she faked dying she was put in the pavilion for two weeks because she tried to kill herself in front of her kids . I’m truly not and have never healed from this . No matter what I do block call the police it still goes on she’s now 31 I’m 28 I don’t know what else to do

[@bellakrinkle9381]

This is 6/2023...my, your channel has grown! You are very good. 🤩 Congrats!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much! 😃

[@nappyfries]

He has NPD & I have BPD. He SA’d me & now stalks me bc he hates me for turning him in & telling people about him. While I can see how some of my behaviors could be seen as stalking, I just want to feel safe by knowing what he’s doing from social media bc he’s threatened me & always finds out when I tell people about him. He has gun & drug charges & very emotionally unstable. I’ve tried to reason with him so he’s not mad so I feel more safe but it’s pointless.

[@elass7325]

What do you do when law enforcement is involved in the stalking, in part because they are related to or friends with the person(s) that started the stalking. Also, it seems prevalent now that many law enforcement officers are in their own law enforcement gangs and conduct criminal activity under the color of law knowing that it will be very easy for them to get away with it. There's a concept known as gang stalking, and unfortunately there are several law enforcement personnel that participate in this sort of thing. It is easy to prove law enforcement involvement when you pull police records such as body cam videos or dash cam videos and dispatch recordings.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's so terrifying. I'm so sorry. You bring up a point that a lot of people struggle to answer and solve. This is a whole different topic that one would have to pursue with strategy and wisdom. It's a complicated maze and one that is more common than we think.

[@Andronicus2007]

Its interesting, as an adult with ADD I would agree about the potential towards sociopathy. I myself was worried about such traits and spoke with a professional about my own concerns (about myself) when I was about 20 (I'm 50 now). The professional though I had a conscience, and this would prevent any bad behavior. They were right I think. But my parents both probably had ADHD (my Father was termed hyperactive by doctors as a child, there was no ADHD diagnosis in the 1940s/1950s). My Mother's own description of her own behaviour as a child sounds very oppositional and defiant (she seemed proud of this). Unfortunately both parents were very cruel to us children and showed plenty of sociopathic traits and seemed to have not much of a conscience.

[@gabrielkofoed4112]

Good Video and very informative, Are there any statistics on stalking and specific mental disorders? Having experienced severe depression and later a drug and alcohol induced psychosis where I was put in a hospital in my late teens and now have bipolar in my early 20s. I find it hard watching videos like this because it really does stigmatise mental health. Are most people in general with psychotic mental health disorders stalkers ?

[@maesgame9666]

What does one do to escape an associate and family member that are both stalking and harassing? It's been occurring for 13 years?! Atp I want out. It's serious. Yes they hallucinate. The one dude swears he met me before he actually did. He repeats the same phrase knowing that he'd been stalking me the entire time. What's more is the stalker cousin who pretends to be me for money. I find that highly embarrassing as I've never needed others to take care of myself. Hopefully she gets clean and takes care of herself. The psychosis is real. They love to steal from me. She even stole a pair of my period panties. That was the tipping point for me. 🤐

[@macadamia200]

Good information...That's true. No me canso de ver el video, aunque my tablet esté stalkeada.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you and be well. gracias y que te vaya bien.

[@LillianAdamson]

Stalkers. . Fugsakes hey .. it's awful.

[@PricillaOrnelas]

My name is Pricilla Ornelas I been followed 24/7 for one year and three months my ex manager Eric Rosin, Michelle Salmeron, MIchelle Trevino, Vanessa Murphy are sick in the head they won"t let me alone.

[@KLDotyTV]

There is an online stalker who is saying I am the online stalker to them. What do I do then? They recently reached out to business contacts and tried to destroy my reputation by saying inaccurate things. This person “speaks to me” via their social media bios, sending notes my way without naming me. They are always threatening or insulting or both. I’m not sure what to do.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm so sorry to hear about this. This is tormenting to say the least. I would start taking "inventory" of their behaviors and keep a paper-trail. Stalkers who are mentally ill or not that bright will often trip themselves up. They can't keep track of all of their behaviors. Someone with a personality disorder like narcissistic personality or antisocial personality may be a bit more sneaky which means you will be required to be smarter and stay ahead of them.It's a tough battle. I'm sorry you're going through this.

[@deborahgloria3867]

The stalker in my apt I found out from the manager that that he has womens lingerie in his apt told me that his mother use to put lipstick on him when he was two years old. I told him to stay away from me. I told him to quit leaving food and thrift store crap outside my apt. He finally left me alone.

[@polyglotta1]

My stalker has learning disabilities and autism, and very much lives in his own (very lonely) world 😕 He talks to himself very loudly so at least I can always hear him approach and dive for cover!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you for pointing this out. This is a good point and the characteristics are quite common in some among this population. It really depends on the individual and what their disabilities are.

[@polyglotta1]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Would really help me to know more, and how best to handle the situation (he lives two minutes walk away from me 😕)

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I would check out my two previous videos on this topic! I offer tips and tools in both videos.

[@makeshiftmasquerade]

I saw this and I wanna say that this individual with autism and learning disabilities may simply be confused about boundaries. I have autism and I have come off as rather clingy because all those subtle hints to “come here” “give me attention” or “go away” just don’t register. I won’t know to leave you alone unless you flat out tell me, and often I find people are afraid to say those things for fear of being rude or insensitive. I always think the best thing to do in these situations is to be blunt and straightforward, because thats what people with autism can understand. The multiple learning disabilities may have an influence on this too. It’s possible if you haven’t bluntly told them or communicated with them however they can manage (writing, visuals, etc) that you’re uncomfortable with their behavior before, they have no idea they’re doing anything wrong.

[@polyglotta1]

@@makeshiftmasquerade I've told him, and so have the police and many others. He does as he pleases, although he knows it bothers people. I am on the spectrum too so I understand that life isn't easy for him, but surely he has a conscience 😕

[@2muchwit]

Such a great topic

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you

[@ridealongwithnicolle1581]

AA meetings are good for stalkers. It is more acceptable to be an alcaholic than to be a stalker. Most Stalkers dont want to stalk they often just dont have anywhere to go andquite often they pay for counselling only to find the counsellor doesnt hold them accountable for anything they do and the counsellor is more interested in collecting the cheque at the end of the session than to help them. Stalkers often feel as though they are possessed. One minute they are fine and then they meet someone amd after a while that somebody is all they can think about. And the stalking is usually just a cry for help. They feel like if only you will talk to them again then maybe their thoughts will quieten down a little. It is just like being an alcaholic. They promise this is the last time they will call you and then 6 months later they are calling you again.. but from a different number this time. Stalkers come on YT to see if there is a cure for their problem only to find a bunch of therapists talking smack about them. They don't have anywhere to go and there is nowhere to get help and so AA meetings is the only help they can get. Don't get me wrong some stalkers are just pure evil but most are not. If stalkers look at their own behaviour as if it is alcahol then that will help them. Because stalkers are addicts too. For example. Severe depression/constantly crying- Jack daniels Looking at your social media- Vodka Calling you repeatedly- red wine Showing up in places where they know you will be- beer. There is alot of people talking about stalkers but there isnt alot of people telling stalkers how to solve their own suffering. And so AA meetings for alcaholics should extend to stalkers. You can go anywhere in the world and find an AA meeting but When was the last the last time you saw a group meeting for love obsession/stalkers?

[@Glowup4Us]

You should be the spokesperson for stalking awareness.

[@lamujermaslinda]

Can you do a video on female stalkers? like nothing to do with romantic relationships but the type of stalker I'm referring are female who seemed to be obsessed with another female

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I have been asked this in the past. Yes, I will add it to the list.

[@lamujermaslinda]

Thank you @@TherapistTamaraHill

[@eyeamphree3337]

Be careful. She's probably doing mirror witchcraft on you to steal your energy. She probably won't stop until she consumes you entirely to fill that empty void in her head

[@sacheanarudy8833]

I was just talking about this earlier with someone, so I was wondering if you saw a connection. Is there evidence that algorithms have increased stalking behavior because people get stuck in rabbit holes of the same content? I was watching this and suddenly wondered how to approach this day and age where people can literally stalk people anytime they want because of social media. I've noticed things started changing in society when it became normal to talk about people behind peoples back. 😆 It makes it more difficult to pin down clear evidence of stalking.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Good question! I have heard and the research says that algorithms can have a major influence on stalking behaviors but it depends on the person. Most stalkers do get into a "rabbit hole" and can't come out. That's why there are many cases where stalkers are delusional and could use psychiatric intervention. Their thinking is skewed. And the issue of stalking on social media is major. It's BIG for younger people in today's society. I do believe social media is the enemy to stalking victims. There needs to be more laws around this. Cyber bullying is now a crime in most states. Cyber stalking should be as well and the criteria to meet a "cyber stalking" charge should be clear.

[@East_L.A_Ivy]

Omg so my stalker is psychotic 🤔 it figures Wait I can have stalker locked away in a mental hospital 🤗 ?

[@stephaniemillsaps3626]

CONGRATULATIONS, 🎉LOVE 🙏 🙏🙏

[@pardist]

I still don't get how any of it is my or another victim's fault. As everyday you are treated as if you are at fault for another's actions because you get gaslighted by others as if nothing happened. And that leaves me speechless. But nevermind... I only hang out with animals for a reason. I mean there are obvious boundaries.

[@boeingseven6939]

My psychotic stalker is also a domestic terrorist

[@lynn00007]

I'm so worried and uncomfortable:(

[@WNF]

My stalker has gotten to the point where they react specifically to whatever I do online. They just made a big show off freezing all broadcasting devices in my home in it's sad attention-getting way. It wants me to know that it is sexually following me even though my neighbour just put in the hospital. I woke up on my floor, black-eyed and bruised with the door open as the cops got there. These people are insane and egotistical. Do not confront these low garden gnomes. They will only make your life worse.