you're borderline ugly.

[@sdburr08]

There was actually a study on this. The people that were shown most swiped right on on dating apps were not the women that were the most objectively attractive. It was the ones that swung 50/50 on reviews of beautiful or ugly. They were very polarizing. So beauty is not about perfection or being objectively attractive, it’s about unique essence and draw. We are all ✨art✨ 🤌

[@stephanielange]

I love this!!

[@charleswhitefullbusteruchi1972]

unfortunately, the most "average" and "non-polarising” features coupled with objectively attractive features are what decides the facial attractiveness of a person and not so much our "essence".

[@cicischannel123-m1i]

Wow I was today years old when I learned this. Never knew this, that's super interesting.

[@daftbluejay]

it’s “unconventionally attractive” i think

[@mo0onmin]

I read about this in a statistics book!! Came here to mention this :D

[@OVRQT]

Ive been told i was ugly and ive been told i was the most beautiful woman someone has ever seen. Its all in the eye of the beholder.

[@malicahamilton]

Same ! I agree

[@R_S747]

Exactly. There's someone for everyone.

[@sluttymctits4496]

This hits close to home, almost like a near-universal experience. It makes me wonder how many other women experience this same mindf*ck. "Some think I'm pretty, some think I'm a hag. What am I?" Perfect with all our flaws and worthy of love and respect, that's what.

[@R_S747]

@@hazelnutespresso it's the way people think being pretty means EVERYONE thinks you're hot asf and everyone treats you super well like... No. Sure a lot of people are gonna like how you look but you'll still get people being mean.

[@tlanxe682]

To some extent.There’s some people that clearly look like a supermodel and some people who look like they snuck on to earth.

[@Esthie229]

I think photo’s always mess with my confidence. I’m pretty happy with my looks when I look in the mirror but I feel so ugly when someone has taken a picture of me.

[@ReneeDotje]

I think the way people move the mouth or how they talk can make them very beautiful. That’s more important than looking pretty on a picture

[@Saphia_]

@@ReneeDotje This. It's hard to remember when it comes to myself but it is, in fact, how people laugh or talk or smile, their voice, etc. that makes me feel attracted to them.

[@-_-9]

sunsets don't look good on camera, they look better irl. you're a sunset. we all are to a certain extent. pictures aren't a true depiction of reality.

[@Esthie229]

@@-_-9 that’s so sweet!🥰

[@Meangirl22]

SAME

[@abookoholic6252]

Or maybe social media has just completely distorted our perception of beauty

[@bug5460]

Yeah, exactly

[@brigittecastrucci6541]

That’s it exactly.

[@bapbirb]

Yep. The 'standard peak beauty' nowdays seems to be some sort of AI looking mannequins. Imagine if everyone looked like that.. Its quite freaky. Now that I think about it, I think that standard is coming from those 'otherwordly beauty' types. You know like those model-like or doll-like looks.. yes maybe that is the standard beauty for many, but personally speaking, I don't find that to be the standard beauty. Sometimes it's a little too uncanny valley for me so I am drawn toward beauties that are more natural and warm.

[@GabeCoolwater]

Definitely.

[@altar_girl]

Yes, it definitely has. I try to stay off of it because I start to hyper focus on my appearance which is very unlike me, and I also don’t want to be like that. Just scrolling through IG, it bombards you with beauty gurus, and I look at them thinking, “how tf do they look so incredible on camera”? I don’t understand. I only have a few good angles. For the most part, I photograph terribly. On the other hand, I have people compliment me nearly everyday in public, so I just need to focus on real life and not worry about fantasy, aka social media. People curate and project the best versions of themselves 🤷🏻‍♀️ also, beauty is not everything. Everyone ages, and those people who’ve only ever had beauty as their “strength” will have nothing then.

[@raquellopes4547]

This feels like a dystopia. People that are prettier than everyone I will ever see in person are being called borderline ugly because they still look like people, and not a weird doll.

[@badwitch5]

Yeah exactly! If that is borderline ugly what is the rest of us supposed to feel like? 😂

[@sarahstevens1005]

I don’t really think that’s the message here. I think what she means is that our uniqueness, which may be ugly to others, is enough and it makes you beautiful.

[@saturationstation1446]

THATS what makes you think we live in a dystopia? not the fact that 99% of our species gets murdered with labor induced starvation to produce 4x the amount of food needed to adequately feed every person on earth? it wasnt seeing europeans being the least productive workforce on earth get to enjoy the highest quality of life while americans being the most productive workforce get an exponentially dropping quality of life and have the lowest quality of life of all industrialized countries?

[@alina-nada]

boderline ugly *for today's beautiful standards*

[@AMurderOfLobs]

I see lots of people that are more attractive than some of these wacky-faced models every single day.

[@ashandthecats]

"being pretty is great, but being unique is unforgettable." you're SO right with this one. there's a kind of beauty that is REMARKABLE and that can only be achieved by uniqueness, search for ethereal essence and you'll see. being pretty can be forgetfull but being unique can be unforgettable.

[@commonsens3]

If you ugly and unique, people call you annoying. If you pretty and unique, people call you unicorn. Lets just be realistic, your appearance helps you land job, getting chance to try many different things. Lets just admit it.

[@jezstyles2233]

THIS❤❤❤

[@sonofkars]

trust me, most people are basic. not unique

[@lauralouwhooo]

I think it's also really important to embrace the way that you look because everyone is going to age! So if you are chasing perfection you are ultimately going to fail, because time comes for us all. It's so much better to spend your time learning to love what you do have and also learning to find value in other aspects of yourself, because beauty is fleeting for all of us. I was considered very ugly when I was younger , and then went through a phase where I was considered very beautiful and at the end of it all realized that there were some advantages to nobody thinking I was pretty. I naturally focused on everything else about myself. Because I had to and I didn't have pretty to fall back on. Suddenly being thought of as pretty became this thing to keep and maintain and worry about. Which is silly? I know. But I had never had it before and I was worried about it going away. Turns out it eventually goes away for everybody and you are left with whoever you has made yourself into in the meantime. We live in a world that is extremely focused on our outer beauty. And I think we would all be better served. Trying to focus on ourselves in a more holistic way

[@peter9703]

​@@commonsens3mimimimi im Not Beautifull so Life IS unfair mimimimi

[@Professor_Brie]

Honestly the weirdest thing for me watching this video was seeing a bunch of pictures of people who I thought were super pretty and being told that they would be considered ugly by any significant portion of people.

[@Saphia_]

Lol same. Though, it made me feel happier about myself too. Like, I find these women pretty but I think I'm borderline ugly too. I have pretty features but I don't think they ended up in a pretty face. So, by the same logic, there are people who find me pretty too despite me not thinking so.

[@Professor_Brie]

@@Saphia_ That’s definitely a good takeaway to have

[@vell2994]

You live under a rock? The world is cruel

[@glittergoat91]

​@@vell2994it can be but it's not always cruel. Find yourself some good people. They do exist.

[@jostockton.]

right?? Gisele is such an exotic beauty and Elle imo is outright a classic beauty!

[@Mattznick]

Sydney Sweeney is by no means ugly social media is a plague

[@bereniceaguirre2586]

Fr like... they see a picture where they don´t look "that good" cuz of the lighting or angle and lose their minds

[@enwe6487]

Yeah what? I thought she was trendy because she was pretty, but I‘m also not on Instagram and into whatever is trendy right now, probably getting too old for all this lol

[@bodyofhope]

Yeah, she's girl next door conventionally beautiful.

[@jules1997]

I think it's interesting because I look similar to her, and I was told I looked like a muppet, but it was meant as a compliment haha

[@ashleyftcash]

I think Sweeney is absolutely beautiful. Never ever though she was ugly. I find big eyes confronting, not ugly. So I am like.... How do I look like. Never though about this.... Maybe I just feel comfortable not being materialized as beautiful because as a girl that gives me access to being myself without some guy thinking I am flirting when i do not treat man different from my female friends.... It's my comfortzone. Now that I am older, I attract man and it freaks me out. That attention is so unfomrtable. How do people do that and still feel save or not materialized. Side note for some context, my sister was always the beautiful one who got unwanted attention and I was always the boyisch cute one (because i am tiny and am extravert, I get away with alot).

[@ChillwithLaurenZen]

I think 'unphotogenic' is a better term than borderline ugly. Im a photographer and ive met absolutely beautiful people irl that just don't photography well. Similarly, top models such as Kate Moss i would say photographs incredibly well, but i personally don't see them as attractive. We need to start reframing how we see and process beauty.

[@layne4054]

This is sooo true

[@_whorefordior_]

you are right, but I dont think its the same thing

[@Daiseehead]

Wow, thank you for the insight. I always get so disappointed when I see a photo of myself 😢

[@imsellingtoday]

very true. i knew a guy in college that took the most perfect photos but irl no one would look twice.

[@iamthatgirlyoudreamof5182]

THIS !!! I look at a lot of models' photos, and they just not that for me but when I am watching their videos I am impressed how they look so beautiful and unique natural like beauty

[@City-of-lights]

I was shocked to find that people think Sydney Sweeney's ugly. She has such a unique bubbly-baby face and I think she's absolutely adorable.

[@Alyciataft]

I was like wow if she's ugly no wonder why I've always had issues with my face

[@brucenatelee]

Fucking trolls. Has to be. Who the fuck looks at her and says "Nope?" Maybe they dont like the Euro look, blondes, etc., but UGLY?!!!

[@phoenixrose1192]

@@Ri57490 But the aforementioned “flaw” may well be attractive to others. Low and behold (!)

[@JG-tk7cn]

IMO Sydney's face is just average..not ugly, not stunning. It's why she rarely doesn't show off her breasts imo. Even when she covers them up, her face is just well..average.

[@moonluna464]

People always told me I was ugly cause I was teenager at 6'1 and 300lbs? Bunch of make-up, flattened my curly hair every day, and depressed as shit. I'm 145lbs now, use no make-up at all, keep my curly hair, i'm married, beat my depression, go to a therapist and I don't give a shit how I look!! 🤣 But now I'm considered beautiful? Pfft hell nah

[@suu1998]

the comment that says "I'm not sure why you're against plastic surgery when you would benefit from it" is insane. Like, imagine thinking that being pretty is the most important thing in the world

[@appleheadslatte]

No offense, but the world we live in is built on beauty or is needed by beauty. I mean, I'm not necessitating beauty because it's not the most important thing in the world, but to make it far in the industry e.g the beauty industry or acting, u have to be pretty, at least. Beautiful.

[@Oeeena]

right? ... some people

[@georgiamay5306]

What will these people think of themselves when they eventually age, and lose that 'prettiness'. That's what I always think.

[@melchiorlise2466]

I had an accident that destroyed the harmony of my face, trust me it is important

[@Alicia-vq8jg]

I’m gonna get lots of plastic surgery

[@m4tta]

as a borderline ugly person this video is a GODSEND. thank you! i always either look very bad or very good seemingly at random, and i could never really pinpoint exactly what it was, but you hit the nail on the head with this video.

[@DrStelG]

This comment hits home! the RANDOMNESS of my face! Somedays - it looks fine. Others - I have to force myself out of the house. I've been told, in the street, by strangers, that I am ugly. But, then, I've been told the opposite also. Didn't help that my dad and brother used to tell me I was ugly when I was a kid. But now, at 42, I'm trying my best to settle for being 'striking,' or 'funny looking.' I'd rather that than look like everyone else.

[@Layla-hb8mq]

I think a majority of humans are borderline ugly because by design we aren't created perfectly balanced. And our uniqueness is what people remember. I wouldn't remember those Kylie clones because they all look alike!

[@mirsan6705]

SAME HERE 😂❤

[@suzycanfly]

Same here. I can work on angles and look striking sometimes, but on regular days I look meh. Nothing pretty, yes borderline ugly. When I do get up and fix my face up add a winged liner add some blush on my cheeks that's when my whole face changes. The parts lf my face stand out. But I don't do that on a daily bases so when I do look at myself in the mirror. I think girl, you can fool the world some days but you kind of ugly but I still tell myself your still cute tho 😂😂😂. Lol

[@kam.kam.]

🫶🏾

[@hopeowensel7543]

You’re a breath of fresh air on social media in your generation. 💕💕💕 stay real

[@BethanyDutton-fw8uk]

1000% agree!!

[@miriammi8294]

Hasn't she gotten some job done?

[@whyelby877]

Steph you are NOT ugly. You're GORGEOUS and unique! The best of both worlds 🫶

[@keylanoslokj1806]

She is above average. All women above average sre gorgeous for the male gaze. Unless you only chase gigachads or something

[@seren4740]

​@@keylanoslokj1806not really

[@whyelby877]

@@keylanoslokj1806 absolutely

[@raindrops0905]

@@keylanoslokj1806who cares about the male gaze?

[@keylanoslokj1806]

@@raindrops0905 every living straight woman. And men care for the female. It's kinda how the species doesn't go extinct. By caring what the opposite side feels, in order to instigate attraction

[@laceytracy]

"You're not ugly, you're just poor." is another thing that made me wake up a bit more about what "beauty" is today. I feel ugly too but you have a valid point for sure. Seeing "copy, paste" faces is dull and knowing that even the beauty elite have to pay to feel beautiful to fit a standard no one naturally meets is weirdly comforting, ty. :)

[@Chloe__________xx]

This. 👏🏼 whenever someone calls me beautiful I’m like that’s not a compliment, I’ve just spent a ridiculous embarrassing amount of money on my face. It’s not even worth it tbh. We all are gonna get old and ugly and need to find something more valuable to focus on 💜

[@adriennethiery5432]

It wasn’t until I learned what a glow up was through Stephanie that I realized celebrities weren’t getting hotter they were just having more procedures

[@AMurderOfLobs]

I've seen plenty of poor people that meet the beauty standard. Sure, there are less of them, but It is a myth that nobody meets the beauty standard naturally.

[@stefdiazdiaz7067]

Really ugly people are beyond moneys help

[@MrCmon113]

There's no such standard. You're conventionally attractive and trying very hard to victimize yourself by effectively erasing tge struggles of actually ugly people.

[@abs0lutelyn0t]

if anyone who doesn't look like the Kardashians is "borderline ugly", then I am very proud to be ugly.

[@Anonymous-uw4sr]

right

[@kenny995]

I don't tend to notice or remember people with cookie cutter beauty standard looks. It's the people with different or unique looks that catch my eye and stay in my mind.

[@glittergoat91]

It's exactly why I studied photography in my 20s - I liked peoples' faces, the differences in them etc.

[@polly-cv8fn]

that’s so beautiful!! @@glittergoat91

[@LilacMorelli]

Sadly I’m neither, bland asf w brown hair, brown eyes, brown skin like give me blue eyes or something fr 😂

[@veggiemegroll9220]

That’s me but when people have different hair, like a fun color or style

[@Anonymous-uw4sr]

​@@glittergoat91😊

[@selenagonzalez3625]

Those comments were BOLD! I’d love to see those faces. You are STUNNING Stephanie! Naturally

[@Suedetussy]

True! I once watched a video of a man who dressed up as a very, very beautiful e-girl and pranked people on Omegle. He really looked sooooo beautiful. The hate he received from some girls hit me by surprise. They were mocking and bullying him - and this is where i saw it from a neutral distance (because it wasn‘t me, and it was directed at a man, they didn’t know, but i knew): these girls were all not pretty! It‘s so absurd that people that weren’t pretty take down others for their appearance. Envy. One of the deadly sins.

[@TranswealthyTrillionaire]

I have no doubt they have self confidence issues of their own. When I was a teen, I posted a picture of myself online, and everyone called me ugly, then I looked at other people's pictures and everyone was calling them beautiful, so I got jealous and called them ugly, I later realized I was only continuing the cycle.

[@sonofkars]

@@TranswealthyTrillionaire should've instead realised that others were beautiful. U ñlike you

[@esikazemese]

AGREED!!!

[@Shayiku10]

Right! I feel like they are completely missing the point of these videos. Her titles can be click-baitey but what she actually says is reasonable and sound

[@kelly.nicole]

You’ve changed my life Stephanie. Thank you.

[@stephanielange]

love you!

[@IrieRogue]

🥰 love seeing interactions like this! Yay ♡♡♡

[@blazeemm]

Same! We love you Steph!! And you are GORGEOUS! Inside and out!!

[@Tildama7]

a couple of years ago, i remember my dentist telling me something along the lines of 'your teeth don't have to look like everyone else's'. i know it's a pretty obvious statement, but it never really occurred to me that it's something that doesn't have to be fixed. I'm still debating whether or not i should get braces, since i might regret not getting them in the future, but I honestly quite like how unique my teeth make me- this video really solidified my thinking, so thanks for this!

[@Elenalamp]

YES YES YES! I’m an artist and this is why I will NOT paint instagram models. I love to paint texture, asymmetry, and unique features, and it’s heartbreaking to see all these people learning to believe their one-of-a-kind features are some sort of crime the rest of the world shouldn’t have to look at. Whoever needed to hear this, you are so beautiful and unique, truly like a piece of art that can never be replicated ❤

[@CelesteLunaRael]

Same same same❤😊I've collected like pics of unique people. Some are generally attractive but still so unconventional. And so personable.

[@Gojo..satoruu]

As a fellow artist... Couldn't agree more... Unique featured people are art and really fun to paint and sketch

[@forestnymph971]

You are so right. None of this Instagram copies will fit world's art masterpieces of Renaissance and Preraffaellite, for example. Their faces lack divinity, magic and art

[@Suedetussy]

True! While some people told me i was ugly, it happened to me that other people asked me, whether they could paint me.

[@reginacastanon3204]

also, "instagram models" are not models...

[@miranda3774]

This is so true!! No famous model/actress looks like an ig model. Having an unique face and unique features is your biggest strenght, makes you stand out, and ultimately makes the difference between random ig models that all look the same and actual stars!

[@Call-me-Al]

The sameface surgery being so common with IG models makes them boring looking. Too heavy elimination of anything that deviates from "the ideal face). Might as well just use a mass-produced plastic mask with elastic string.

[@nicoled1164]

Truth I used to hate my black hair and big nose but it makes me unique and would erase my heritage

[@kyrak.4143]

All the women mentioned in the video are white. Being a white woman automatically makes you pretty

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Very true, Bradley Cooper or Chris Pratt aren't the best looking dudes you'd ever see on the internet but they do have kind of everyman looks to them. Like they'd be the best looking guys at your office parties or on a construction site.

[@m3rl1n4]

I was going to add the same applies to men but the comment above mine already mentioned it. It's why actors in the MCU and many mainstream ones seems so boring as they all have the same generic pretty look to them. And it's the reason many supporting or character actors become so successful, as their unique features work so well when casting secondary/villain/everyday man characters. I wouldn't have mentioned Bradley Cooper or Chris Pratt as I personally find they fit the former category: basic good looking white boys. Give me Willem Dafoe or Walton Goggins any day over all the pretty boys in Hollywood, hands down (the exception being Timothy Olyphant 'cause he's awesome 😄).

[@idontreadorreply]

Dear Stephanie. This video seriously changed the way I view myself, I’m not exaggerating. I’ve considered myself ugly since my puberty started and I’ve cried about it so many times, considered plastic surgeries, treatments etc. I wanted to look pretty, just like how others look. But this video made me realize that I don’t need to look like that, I’m beautiful in my own way and I’m unique the way I am. I should celebrate the way I look, not try to change it to make others potentially see me as a prettier person. I love the way I look, I’m just scared that others will find me ugly. All of your videos have seriously helped me with my self-esteem and I’m so happy that I’ve found your channel. Thank you ❤

[@stardustfactory8311]

I’ve also had this revelation with her vids! For me it was a bit of doing exercise for my health and the breast implant video. I had felt like I needed bigger ones to compensate my small stature. But out of healthy exercise, I actually grew my chest muscles a bit which gave me a more plump/centered look. I realized I never wanted implants, just a plumper look to my natural size. But I couldn’t have learned that without first breaking the tie to that mentality (that bigger is better or that I need a procedure to fit in) with Steph’s vids! ☺️😛🖤

[@mistypedhi]

Just take care of your skin, your hair, your teeth, nails, eat healthy and most importantly your mental health. Glowing from good health.✨️ No need for surgeries.

[@helixmoore7636]

Absolutely.

[@youtubetravel937]

There you go!!!!

[@MrCmon113]

How you look literally only matters with regards to other people. If there were no other people, you wouldn't have a concept of looking beautiful or not. You likely wouldn't even have a sense of self. Being worried about how to become nore attractive is entirely rational.

[@νικολεταΛεμπέση]

I have never felt as pround by being " ugly" thx to you, every time i feel bad about myself girl i RUN to your videos. I'm so grateful you put the effort to make this vdeos cause i know its hard to talk non-stop for like 30 minsor more, so.. great job 👌🏻

[@francinejones2524]

Stephanie, listen, you are EXTREMELY BEAUTIFUL. Don’t call yourself borderline ugly or ugly ever again.

[@wolf.eye._-]

Thank you! I couldn't believe she said that.

[@kunpunko]

fr and the comments she was getting ?? ppl are blind

[@thedotarmy5405]

Real, she is objectively pretty

[@CADYALLISON]

Agree. ❤

[@perfumechocolate8853]

Yes, I don’t think she’s fishing for compliments, but I see her as a very attractive beautiful woman. If I looked at the mirror and saw her face I would think I’m beautiful. I don’t understand why she doesn’t see it herself.

[@RanndiMarie01]

I really liked this video! I never thought about it that way before “being borderline ugly”. You are totally right. Supermodels become famous because they have a uniqueness. This definitely solidified for me that I don’t need to change my face to be considered beautiful.

[@rba4377]

😪 gisele gaga and sydney all have plastic surgery

[@boredaf4721]

Yes! Many people get upset at supermodels but they don’t control the industry, they literally just exist and people get upset that they don’t look like them.

[@cosmiclove9425]

and you are beautiful!

[@Nicolita3339]

You're very beautiful

[@myopinionnotyours.6053]

I think you're beautiful ❤️

[@lexspazz]

i still feel like all these women are very very conventionally attractive...

[@Ultamami]

*conventionally

[@lexspazz]

@@Ultamami thanks

[@shoegaz]

i think its because theyre white

[@jamielaw4749]

That's why they're "borderline" ugly. They are still considered attractive but if they were slightly "uglier" they would be considered ugly, conventionally

[@girlpresident]

yes, they actually are, but the thing is that even if these women are attractive there still people who dont finde them attractive because they dont have that famous insta face full of fillers and ps, or women who were treated as beauty icons in the past, probably wouldnt have the same luck now that everyone changes their faces in order to look a certain way. And maybe you dont notice but I feel like theres a lot LIKE A LOT of pretty girls and women that doesn realize that just because todays beauty standards

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

6:00 Oh my gosh, Dove looked like a 1920s movie star! It’s sooo sad that she changed up her adorable face!

[@simis2265]

Idk why I was crying thorough out the video I felt so good after watching this and crying my heart out I always felt ugly , thank u so much for this I feel so relieved now

[@mirsan6705]

Same here!!!

[@cjcjcjdidoxo]

especially in these winter months, i usually feel more ugly during this time cuz im so pale, never needed this video more

[@ciuciks]

Aww. Sending you lots of hugs 🥺🫂

[@Suedetussy]

I feel you. ❤ This video explains so mich what has been going on in my life. So many people go through that. And we are the people, who don’t take out doubts about our looks onto others, unlike those who tell innocent people that they’re ugly.

[@debphelan-devon7928]

You are beyond Stunning

[@theoriginalspilleli]

Omg. WTF? People actually comment those words? I think they may be projecting… a lot. You are beautiful, Stephanie. Seriously. I’m glad you continue to put your lovely face on YT and entertain and/or educate us! Thank you, you stunning human! 🥰🤩🥳🌈✨💓

[@FragranceEuphoria]

Yes those people are definitely projecting. And notice the people who say the meanest stuff hide behind no profile picture. I get called ugly on IG all the time and the majority of the people who have said that to me have no pictures of themselves on their page.

[@JuneKafaltiya]

​@@leena75 same

[@rainingdewdrops]

@@FragranceEuphoria Right!? Because they themselves know that they'd be ripped to shreds if they did. Ultimate cowards.

[@Briggylinda]

yeah i was shocked when she said she was 35...

[@VioletWaves44]

It really bothered me reading those comments too. I didn't realise she got that type of backlash. I think people maybe read her videos on a surface level and get defensive because they think she's attacking the celebrities she's mentioning and she's got in her thumbnails. Bet they're never actually watched a video through. Because Steph is always coming from such a grounded and loving place.

[@paperwattle9493]

i've always felt borderline ugly. i don't fit really any of the beauty standards. while i try not to let this effect me, it really does. this video honestly made my week. i can't really express how validating and comforting this was to watch. thank you.

[@jessm1986]

Same here! Especially growing up I have an older sister and two younger sisters who people thought looked prettier than me. I was always compared to them and considered the ugly sister. Now I'm trying hard to embrace my imperfections. I always thought I would get a nose job if I could afford it. I have considered, I am unique, and I don't want to be a copy and paste type of woman.

[@fatherchapel]

I'm genuinely confused right now. The concept makes sense in discussion, but what confuses me is literally you and every person you showed a picture of was beautiful? Not like, "girl next door" but truly stunning. This world really does pick at the fine details, and the funny thing is, it's all fine details. This video made me realize how these standards infest even the individuals I perceive to be gorgeous or "untouchable".

[@irgendeinname5871]

agreed

[@betharramrojas8051]

True

[@MrCmon113]

There's no such standards. You're imagining a problem that doesn't exist.

[@examichelle]

I stopped comparing myself to everyone else after i got this idea somewhere: my face is a gift from my ancestors. When i look at the mirror, i'm not just looking at myself. I'm looking at thousands of people who have been long dead as individuals, but still very much alive as fragments in me. And not only in my facial features, but everywhere in my body: from the shape of my nails to the size of my feet, and in complex qualities such as my sense of balance or the sound of my voice. Maybe even in my personality traits, like my shyness in crowds. I am them and they are me. This thought fascinated me so much i stopped wanting to have plastic surgery at some point, i refuse to look like something i'm not. I might never know who my ancestors were, but the best way to remember and honor them is to love and accept myself as i am.

[@jessdk7223]

That's a beautiful way of looking at it ❤

[@hamirahabdul3587]

This is wonderful ❤

[@elps-j4h]

wait.... that's actually true 😮 thank you so much 🙏❤

[@Sneg404]

This is such a beautiful and empowering message and thought! Thank you for sharing!

[@hortensebensussan9743]

❤

[@jessicai7096]

This video might have saved my life. And I say that as a 25-year-old woman who loves myself but struggles to love the way I look. My insecurities hold me back from so much more than my looks do.

[@LauraCuxy]

how can you love yourself while thinking you are ugly? It´s so sad to hear that you think like that when beauty is only in the eye of the beholder...and I hope so much that you will grow out of your insecurities. You rock just the way you are!

[@JaneeSixx]

I am the same! Amout to turn 25 in 3 weeks, lost my identity of self visually, have no clue how to portrait myself to me or others, but I really love who I am and wish people could see it more - my insecurity doesn’t really allow it enough. Doesnt allow me to be happy within myself. I have my fingers crossed for us. Really happy to see I am not alone and I am oretty sure we wikl be alright ❤

[@vdorocket]

@@LauraCuxy bc appearance is not the most important thing in the world, so you can love something even if its "ugly", including yourself, bc its not the most important part of who u are by anyyyy means

[@kittikoko]

As someone who is genuinely, objectively ugly, it's crazy to see these beautiful women being described as 'borderline ugly', haha!

[@bug5460]

nobody is objectively ugly, beauty has been subjective since the beginning of time. all that changes is the current standard. its also all EXTREMELY cultural. i'm sure you're beautiful inside and out and i hope somebody along with yourself can see that, truly, and share it with you.

[@Klasik616]

​@@bug5460objective/subjective doesn't matter. People treat you based on the way you look.

[@nick-wy7fg]

because they aren't lol

[@akari8168]

I thought the Same 😭

[@sanararoeser8776]

@@Klasik616 dont say that

[@amyzzz9681]

I felt like I was ugly all through high school, and I think it was more that I was so depressed that I didn’t have confidence and joy that radiated to show my beauty. You’re beautiful!

[@helenrosemiller3980]

It's important to be reminded that nearly all the people who fit current beauty standards did so with non-genetic help. The aspect that blows my mind is that surgical modifications are apparently not enough. Even women who have had their bodies and/or faces overhauled still wear shapewear, have professional hair and makeup or personal trainers, and yet REMAIN dissatisfied enough with their image to face/body-tune their posts and paparazzi photos. Looking that way in and of itself is a fulltime job. The more Stephanie Lange content I watch the less it looks like a rewarding one. Thanks, and keep up the amazing work!

[@rba4377]

Even women in this vídeo have plastic surgery like sydney gisele and gaga

[@redheadludi45]

THANK YOU for being you and sending this message. I am so worried for younger generations, especially these "sephora girls" whose childhood is ruined by having to focus on beauty standards so young. I adore the positive and realistic message you send out on your KZbin. Keep up the important, amazing work!!

[@magicalmarion]

Young sephora generation is already 18! I fee like it really depends on your life outside of social media. When you hang out with the people only caring about looks and money you obviously go down a rabbit hole. But our generation is politically very active, especially regarding environmental issues and this gives us a lot if purpose and puts a lot of things in perspective to what really matters. I am very grateful for experiencing that

[@watchuwant1560]

Yeah Id say millenials were just as bad about this stuff. Cosmo, Teen vogue, etc. We ALL would try out makeup at Sephora, only difference back then is a lot of our parents banned us from wearing makeup until we were like 15, and we didnt have step by step how to guides on youtube for any look we wanted. Plastic surgery was already normalized, people would photoshop their myspace pictures, magazines edits etc. Its just more widespread now + social media is quite a bit worse @@magicalmarion

[@nothingworksworks3511]

Viva l' Jolie Laide!

[@stephaniem3881]

tearing up watching this because I’ve always hated my nose and I’ve been crying about it this weekend since someone told me it was ugly but you’re right it’s boring to be like everyone else and it’s nice to embrace individuality

[@emmapearce3711]

I had so many years hating on my nose growing up and as I aged I actually grew to love it and how unique I am and when I saw a photo of a great grandparent who looked just like me I felt so glad I did not change to 'fit in'. So glad we are learning to embrace our unique self ❤️

[@baddielifts]

i have a pretty ethnic nose and people of my heritage (I'm Turkish) usually get it done. All my female family members have theirs done especially cause it's so cheap in Turkey. I lived in Ghana and Sierra Leone for a couple years to study and do research and I got so many compliments for my nose. I was told my whole life it was ugly because it is long and pointy but the people there specifically told me they loved my nose cause it's so pointy.

[@samanthapowerx]

I was bullied relentlessly in middle/high school for my nose and it still haunts me to this day🥲

[@dnbjedi]

@@samanthapowerx i can assure you that guys love your nose. I've never known a guy to say anything about a girls nose. outside of high school and low brow net forms--- If its big, thats sexy. If its small, thats sexy. Just telling you how most men think. (im 40) It's probably other girls trying to bring you down.

[@MelModica]

I got bullied because of my nose but it made me be even more proud to be different. I have a big nose and proud to be different. I am extremely confident in who I am as a person and I would never bully someone that looks different so I also learned to accept myself. Not to brag but I have never had an issue getting a boyfriend and even dated some really handsome men so don’t let your nose get you down. Having a small nose or whatever is considered a perfect nose doesn’t mean life will automatically be easier or better. To be different and confident we will set a good example for young girls to also accept theirselves and remember if someone is bullying you it’s because they are insecure themselves.

[@Violet._.PhoeniX]

At this point not getting plastic surgery is an act of rebellion! You are so right with everything you have said!!

[@hilderenshof2476]

"You dont have to be pretty to be worthy" This helped me a lot on my own body acceptance journey. I have a big not so pretty nose. And when i started my self acceptance journey i thought "my nose is pretty in its own way, its gorgeous". And when i admitted my insecurity others would also say its a beautiful nose. But then i realised that when i said that, i wasnt actually believing it. I think its an ugly nose. So why am i lying to myself? Thats when i realised that self acceptance is not about making yourself believe you are beautiful, it is about seeing yourself for who you are and loving your body for what it is. Which made me say: my nose is ugly and that is exactly why its beautiful to me. And that helped me so so so so so much more in realising that lying to myself that im pretty is counter productive, and being honest and accepting yourself is the only way to actually love yourself. I am Hilde, a beautiful girl with Beautiful eyes, pretty hair, A nice friendly face, an ugly nose, some acne, dark under eyes, a gorgeous smile, a soft voice and a feminine but petite body that barely has boobs and a little bit of extra tummy fat. I am beautiful, i am not even near the beauty standard. I have some ugly features, but that doesnt make them negative features. I am proud to have them. I am proud to carry this body in all its honest glory. Love you all. I hope you all will feel the freedom of being able to be ugly unupologeticly, because an ugly feature is still a positive feature. I hope you will love your own truth ❤️❤️

[@laiagilmonardes5920]

Girl, your comment literally made my day

[@thenamesilkmoon1366]

Wait if someone believes completely in themselves in being beautiful, is that wrong? For someone to think and believe they're beautiful? That they find all their features pretty? If someone like that to themselves is wrong? Me just wanna understand

[@andrealinalfonso]

You remind me so much to Giselle, that natural beauty and uniqueness I love to look at. Love your content, that is what I love more about you! Commitment with your ideals and an assertive way to talk about this. Thank you for breaking the toxic mold

[@whitechocolate7067]

Girl 💅 you dropped this 👑

[@garfieldkater5469]

You know, you certainly sound like you're so beautiful from your inside that it'd be hard to find you ugly. You're probably great👍

[@SephKane]

Can we talk about hating our own voices? I have a good singing voice but when I talk or hear myself in a voice note I want to curl up in the corner and never speak again.

[@mine6472]

Record and listen to yrself every day. After a while you will fall in love with ur voice. try it.

[@Allenairamveraus]

You should do a course to get better articulation and voice, I am into that too.

[@Ackermanmoon13]

I've always felt that way too! xxD

[@SephKane]

@@Allenairamveraus Wait, are you saying that I can fix my speaking voice? That's music to my ears! Thank you for that suggestion

[@pattimurphyrocks]

I have that same reaction when I hear a recording of my speaking voice. It is nuts because I am fine with my singing voice.

[@alekkacosmos9807]

0:17 I’m 39 and I still struggle. My mom’s family has always been stunning, my mom was and is so beautiful, it’s hard not to compare when you didn’t inherit those looks. Now I’m a mom and my baby girl is very beautiful, I’m grateful for her, but it hurts when people (and believe me, it’s not a small number) approach me and compliment my baby and then proceed to tell me that she’s a spitting image of her father, or that she doesn’t look at me at all. Heck, even a month ago when we dropped my mom at the airport, a woman had the nerve to tell me to my face that my baby was as pretty as her grandma, and this woman had a baby girl too. Doesn’t help that my mom is a narcissist, and loved the attention. Anyway, it’s hard to not yearn to be pretty.

[@liliarosales1961]

I absolutely love this phrase. I have been describing myself as borderline ugly for years but with so many more words. 😂 at 35, I really appreciate it now. As a teen, I hated it. I am glad we were too poor to even think about plastic surgery

[@mightymeatymech]

5:12 i LOVE wideset eyes like this, i literally can't get enough of them! all my sims lowkey look like her with varying skintones lmao

[@intrusiveminecraft]

it’s a male trait

[@Aliasfakename123]

Lmao how? If anything it looks pretty feminine. Most guys I see have closer set eyes​@@intrusiveminecraft

[@alliwhite3941]

SAME! It looks so mesmerising and hot while close set eyes make people look kinda stupid or like their parents are related if ykyk

[@bitchwormpuddin1499]

@@alliwhite3941 dude you dont need to add that last part.

[@vampso]

​@@alliwhite3941 why offend the close set eyes😭

[@Daisylamb2]

This video is so important. I feel like every young woman, middle aged woman, or any woman who is insecure on their looks needs to watch this. You have changed the way I feel about myself in the first few minutes of this. You’re amazing! Thank you! You’re helping so many women.

[@aaeccs]

i can’t believe the way you talk about yourself sometimes. i think you are absolutely gorgeous!! i really hope you can truly believe it!! ❤️

[@pinkmoonjuice5158]

Everytime I see you I think *wow she's so pretty* so I'm a little shook that the word ugly would ever come up to describe you...even by yourself!

[@allisonkennedy2521]

SAME!

[@rahafmasri8487]

Exactly what I thought. She's strikingly beautiful.

[@miamiranda3848]

i watched this vid 2 days ago and im not exaggerating when i say i've been thinking abt it nonstop ever since. had to come back because this changed the chemistry in my brain and is making me see beauty in different way. thank u so much for this

[@luciemokrea]

I feel you, it's so powerful

[@shardshatter]

yet u have taylor swift pfp...

[@miamiranda3848]

@@shardshatter yes, and??? lol

[@SculptExpress-gv8jp]

Great! Actually, the feel for beauty and esthetics is not an inborn or natural trait to most people. It’s learned and taught. We follow trends. During Victorian times in England, there was a period when it was considered very beautiful to have blackened teeth. Imagine that?! Today it’s tattoos. However, studying art and literature opens our mind and senses in the ways that people who only follow trends can never understand. But, then, you apply that knowledge to your life and you realize that - yes - all along you thought your grandmother was beautiful because of certain features that were unique to her and also in the way she related to you. That’s where the beauty is, when you can actually feel it.

[@amnbvcxz8650]

Yes, if you see beauty through your inner perception of aesthetics, it is a completely different world than if you look at it through what you’re told by others

[@joannasliwa8147]

I prefer unique / " fascinating " beauty because all those " borderline ugly" girls ( in your vlog ) became kind of muses in fashion / cinema industry.Their beauty can be so interestingly versatile .

[@MermaidAiera]

I commented this individually just now, but I've heard this referred to as "polarizing beauty" which I think is a lot more appropriate.

[@joannasliwa8147]

@@MermaidAiera I do not like a word ( adjective ) " polarizing " to describe a physical beauty . I would rather use it to describe fragrances, styles ... maybe a point of view etc

[@charleswhitefullbusteruchi1972]

​@@joannasliwa8147but it is an apt description, the alternate terms you mentioned are vague at best

[@kyrak.4143]

Being a non white woman in a western society is a even bigger challenge. Most of the women she mentioned are white

[@joannasliwa8147]

@@charleswhitefullbusteruchi1972 Just try to say to your friend that his/ her physical appearance is polarizing. Polarizing is a trendy- appropriate adjective but not at all a friendly one.

[@redred7702]

This also applies in men. Some of the most attractive faces/memorable faces are either just “very average/borderline ugly” (Ryan Reynolds), or “very unique” (Mads Mikkelsen). As pretty as the same-face features are, you’ll just be another forgettable face that people can’t really name (just look at K-pop).

[@meredithgr]

i work in a corporate setting so i see a lot of people on zoom calls every day. recently i had this moment where i was looking at a big group of people on a call and marveling at how different everyone looked - and how beautiful it was that no two people look exactly alike. it feels sort of magical when you think about it. as someone who has struggled with self esteem about my appearance for as long as i can remember, i wish i could apply that appreciation to my own face, rather than nitpick my traits and feel bad because they are different from other people who i find beautiful.

[@AshCupric]

Girl, I feel you. I see the beauty in everyone. I appreciate how each person has their own unique beauty. However, I can never do the same for myself. It’s something I try to work on but every time I look in the mirror or see a photo of myself all I can see are “flaws”.

[@racheldeschaine]

This is seriously on point!! I have always preferred what I call an “actor face” something unique, like a work of art made by nature

[@hobog12777]

Yep. Most actors are just below the attractiveness of your standard model and that's what makes them better-looking to me. Actors tend to have some "relatable ugliness" to them, while high fashion models are often "ugly" in this ethereal, kind of alien way. And then you have your run-of-the-mill IG model.

[@victoriatano]

i love this video so much!! i've always been "kinda ugly" on a bad day and sorta cute on a good day. now that i'm in my 30s i've learned to appreciate my uniqueness even if i do still feel insecure some days.

[@blufluffya_496]

This is so real, appreciate the comment, you're not alone in the boat, and it's a totally normal boat to be in ❤

[@6am201]

Wish I could’ve watched your videos when I was a teen struggling with body image… they contain such powerful messages that women need to hear. 💗It’s stuns me to hear that you consider yourself borderline ugly… I was blown away by your beauty when I first saw one of your videos many moons ago. 🌷 That really made me re-think my own perception of myself!

[@irenapvp5365]

Accepting yourself is really hard. I definitely always felt „borderline ugly“ as you put it 😂 and that’s why I have always been so sensitive about people’s opinions of my looks - I so wanted to hear people say something nice about my appearance and overthrow what I was thinking about myself. I think I’ve come to terms with being what I am and it’s ok. It’s so liberating! Hope it won’t change tomorrow 🫣😂 PS: I’m so shocked you are being called ugly! 🤦🏼‍♀️ people obviously never saw ugly 😜

[@esikazemese]

Do you know the song from Tove Lo: Moments? That's my jam :D (on this topic)

[@tapestrygirl980]

I agree with you

[@jasperpretzle]

Yep, they've apparently not once used a mirror

[@pinkjellybeans00]

seriously those comments were so unbelievably unhinged

[@examichelle]

I started doing it, after realizing that my face is a compilation of the faces of thousands of people who existed before me: my ancestors. Maybe my nose comes from a different part of the world than my lips. Maybe my complexion and, for example, the shape of my toes or the sound of my voice all come from different people at different times in history. Why would i want to look like someone else when my face is a wonderful gift from my ancestors? That is more precious and important to me than any temporary beauty standard.

[@neckdoc6872]

You are BEAUTIFUL. Period.

[@BenzBabe]

I, too, used to think im the most ugly girl that has ever walked on this earth, but overcame it and now im just me and happy most days. Stephanie is gorgeous tho❤

[@nataliamirochnitchenko8152]

you are too

[@myafield4039]

@@BenzBabeme too. I thought this at 11. I was bullied terribly and hated how I looked

[@suzicq]

When I was a preteen/teenager I always thought I was so ugly, but, then around the time I turned 16, the amount of male attention dramatically increased and I just found it weird because I was "ugly." My friends insisted to me that I was pretty, but I never believed them. Now, a few decades later, I have been surprised at seeing pictures of my teen-aged self and realizing that I was quite pretty. So if you're a teen or 20 something and don't believe in your own looks, maybe just be a bit easier on yourself, you are much lovelier than you believe.

[@DOOMnGLOOMf4iry]

Such a nice thing to touch on, i relate, yes be kinder and easier to yourself and others ❤

[@Nivieee]

I could have written this. 🙌🏻 I was a shy, socially akward kid, so I was not popular and I got bullied a lot. But looking back I was NEVER ugly. Just like you, I started getting a lot of attention as a teenager and I was so confused... At school, I was the shy ugly teen, but outside school, the pretty boys wanted to be with me?!?! I still struggle to this day to receive compliments, because I never feel like I deserve it. I think as kids, we associate being popular with being pretty. If you are slightly akward or neurodivergeant, you are picked on. But it has nothing to do with our beauty.

[@MrCmon113]

So you had literally zero reason to believe you were ugly and yet you're here preaching to others.

[@WhiteTulip-p7b]

You make me feel so much more confident in myself. And I’m just a teen! Thank you so much!

[@reganh2338]

This made me think about how everytime I see old photos of women. (Let’s say early 90s and older) I feel “normal” and generally attractive when I would compare myself to those women. I would think “ok in the 70s I was hot” but then I see myself against social media now…and it goes out the window.

[@mewkiwi]

early 90's is old now :,) bless your heart, Im so sadden to see how social media had make everyone think one look is "Ideal" And that "ideal" and coming from a 92' baby. .. is doing more harm then good. no self confident unless you look a way .. And that way concerns me. making younger woman look older then me.

[@BostonBarbie]

Unique features are gorgeous, and they give you “world” ethereal something extra &depth it gives authentic. I am so sick of seeing everybody’s face look the same.

[@kathryncoursey8066]

At first I had NO IDEA where you were going with this concept of being "borderline ugly," but the more you spoke, all the light bulbs started going off in my head. This connects so many dots, and I applauded you for being able to perceive such a deep insight

[@sartene2007]

I watched first another video of yours about fillers and at some point I got the idea and wasn't interested anymore. But I kept watching, just admiring how beautiful you are. And now seeing this, that you had face-image issues... It's so painful that people are struggling with how they see themselves. Beauty standards are shit.

[@KaitlyntheGardener]

Omg those comments you screenshot…. People are just…. Something else. I’m glad you have enough self awareness and self esteem to not buy into any of it. (Paraphrasing) “No hate but wouldn’t you like to fix your face?” WHO SAYS THAT. Also, clearly that person (or bot, let’s be real) has never watched Botched. Watch a few episodes and you’ll never contemplate “fixing your face” unless your nose is actually falling off or your eyeball migrated to your cheek unexpectedly. Nothing but ❤. Keep doing you. Great content as always.

[@official_miracoli1186]

I was so fucking shocked "i mean this with love no hate but get some surgery" like wtf are you saying ??? To a STRANGER

[@Bianca-nb7by]

Yes right?! The irony of sending ugly comments to tell someone they should want to make themselves more beautiful! 😂

[@Livvybenten]

i never thought a video named "you're borderline ugly" would make me feel this good.

[@reddy272]

Thank you so much for this video. I'll never forget when I was 15, and asked an older brother of a friend of mine if I was pretty. He thought about it for a minute, and said "You're not pretty, and you're not ugly. You're right in the middle". Instead of getting angry or offended, I was comforted by the fact he was honest, and I knew he was right. When I look in the mirror, I'm very happy with my unique features, because I like how I look with or without makeup. I can easily fit into the beauty standard with lots of makeup, doing my hair and wearing flattering clothing. I've had coworkers not recognize me when I'm all dressed up. But I like my nose, my wide apart eyes, and full cheeks. Thank you again, for putting into words what I've known for so long.

[@nicolekalstein2321]

I just found this channel and it's a godsend. I'm 36 years old and never stopped feeling bad about my face, but I feel like with your videos I can start to notice the unique things about myself and appreciate them.

[@Night_Butterfly_x3]

You hit the nail on the head, Steph! I challenge every woman to fall in love with their natural selves. Carbon copies are boring, be a stand out! ❤

[@MermaidAiera]

I've heard this called "polarizing beauty" and I feel like it's a perfect description for this phenomenon.

[@Beeleeteecee]

I love this phrase so much more!! ❤

[@TDruzhok]

I am autistic and the modern beauty standards have never described people I would actually consider beautiful. Pretty? Yes. But beautiful, gorgeous, stunning? No. For me, beauty has always been about uniqueness and personality of one's body. It's about the different shapes that one's face is constructed of, where the shadows are cast there, how their blood makes certain areas red and others green. It's about freckles, scars and fine lines.

[@MayraRodriguez-qu6xe]

Little details that we notice that others might overlook. 💯

[@madeleineprice3556]

Meh no

[@crycryxbaby]

Yees literally same 🥺❤️

[@TheTamago]

What about being autistic has something to do with that ?

[@lalareal180]

That may be fine for you! Essence, personality, inner beauty, all that poetic nonsense, but there still are objectively BEAUTIFUL people MERELY on their looks,studied, symmetry, etc. Trying to say its merely subjective and no real beauty exists, is the same as you dorks saying GENDER isnt a biological reality and merely a social construct! Oy!

[@LilBearZen]

Shoutout to Tilda Swinton. She can play a ballet teacher, old man, old witch, and demon witch…. in the same movie.

[@I.am.Mrs.Mathers]

Stephanie, you’re absolutely beautiful!! These people are jealous and projecting

[@sam_space7689]

I completely agree!

[@sara4tears]

your nose looks fine you actually have a nice nose.

[@mistypedhi]

They are just mad at her because they think she is "attacking" celebrities that they worship.

[@nadiamelanty4018]

Stephanie, you are stunning .

[@pizzadogma]

Social media has melted gen z's brains to the point they can’t tell an AI generated face from a real one

[@beachwitch89]

That and also they are just absolutely cruel on the internet. We're figuring out the consequences of being raised on a ipad

[@user-weeidon]

@@beachwitch89 Not all gen z's where raised by ipads, im gen z and i was born before they existed. But i get where you guys are coming from.

[@specializedchemicals6669]

this generation talk again

[@ace1148]

why does this have to be a gen z vs others thing? If you’re online, you’ve dealt with the beauty standard. (Also statistically gen z is the best at telling ai from reality, so..)

[@Jenninka]

Source?

[@TanittaAlexandra]

You just made me feel good about my borderline ugly face!! My nose is big and a bit crooked, I have smile lines, small lips, invisible eyebrows, etc… So many years of my life I’ve felt ugly to a point it made me depressed and closing myself inside my room so people cannot see my hideous face… thank God I’m finally over it. I still have bad days so videos like these remind me that those features make me unique and stand out in a world that slowly clones itself. Thank you Stephanie and in my opinion, you are gorgeous 🩵

[@PeaceIsYeshua]

11:51 Oh my gosh, Kylie was SO cute and adorable!!! It’s so sad that she totally changed her face!

[@thesarahcaitlinshow]

I think Devon Aoki fits this! She is beautiful and unique

[@Rose-ws2ik]

Yes she is unique and stunning!

[@rimuruslime23]

Also Zendaya. When ever she isn't red carpet ready she looks like the girl next door. But on the carpet she looks like a goddesses

[@gr.is.gr1284]

Bella Ramsey too

[@maryadam7760]

@@rimuruslime23 Zendaya is not borderline ugly at all she is just pretty

[@sitcomchristian6886]

I modeled for 10 years. It's not about being pretty, it's about having a look. I did pretty well, and I have narrow eyes and a wide mouth (very unproportional facial features). It was so weird to me when my husband told me he thought my face was a 10/10, because I thought it was one of my weaker areas.

[@skulkrr]

can someone become a successful model by looking 'average'?

[@lh8df]

@@skulkrr Yes, even borderline ugly. First of all you need the body, you must look like a hanger so the clothes hang on you ( which is why so many models are thin and tall ). High fashion houses also need an interesting face, which means you can have ugly facial features which stand out in some form.

[@francescajx]

Thank you so much. As a teenage girl I was feeling insecure all the time, especially because of social media, but this channel has really helped me find confidence and now I feel a lot better about myself!

[@AbcAbc-br9ku]

I spend my teens and twenties feeling full of insecurities of all sorts. I wish i wouldn't have as i wasted beautiful decades with many opportunities i didn't take because of them. Live your life girl!

[@francescajx]

@@AbcAbc-br9ku Good advice! Thank you

[@Sophia_2110]

Girl, you are so necessary! I've always had these thoughts that being unique and totally different from other people is a huge privilege that life can give you, I always think so with myself. At school I always see my friends saying what surgeries to do to modify their appearances and get closer to the pattern of digital influences and I have no desire to modify myself to look like others, for example I don't think my nose is beautiful but sometimes I feel good about feeling ugly and sometimes unique and not having to undergo injections to be just someone accepted by society and it's okay, this can also mean that I can have the truest friendships not only by my appearance, although many have the Appearance as a first impression

[@nataliamirochnitchenko8152]

Stephanie, i realise this is my fourth comment but i need to tell you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. i was not in a good mood today...there has been a dark shadow hanging over me lately...and yes my thing goes back to childhood, similarly to you...anyway...thank you...i cried , and i havnt felt this pretty in a long time. and you look amazing. a bombshell. gorgeous hair and everything. those people are insane. i love you. thank you for what you did today. i feel uplifted and healed, i am serious.

[@stephanielange]

Oh girl that makes me so happy!! Sending you so much love and wish I could give you a great big hug!! X

[@calvoekleiden8664]

The people that I’ve been the MOST attracted to were people I initially thought were kinda ugly sooo I have faith for everyone 💅

[@heyfella5217]

Wait why are you right LOL

[@calvoekleiden8664]

@@heyfella5217 lollll I’m glad I’m not the only one 💀

[@glittergoat91]

This is true. About everyone I've dated. Then I saw their personality. I fell for that more than their looks, or it's what made them look prettier. Their personality.

[@BOFAMET]

THIS IS SOOO ME. I actually feel almost nothing when I look at super “conventionally attractive” people anymore. I always end up being inexplicably drawn to people with a lil bit of “ugly” mixed in lol. Unconventional beauty is powerful.

[@justyouraveragebaka9493]

I cut my lip open when I was 18 months old and have a pretty prominent scar to this day that has stretched wider and wider until adulthood. This makes it impossible to apply lipstick evenly, and at first when I was in my late teens I considered trying to get it reduced or something. I’ve honestly been struggling to this day with wondering what I should do about it, and all my friends and family told me to keep it. But this video makes me feel unique because of my scar. It’s not really considered beautiful, but it’s definitely striking. It’s a good conversation opener. It’s a part of me, and I don’t want to lose it :) Thanks for the eye opener!

[@jilliansamael881]

I think thats pretty cool and unique

[@urresyacreates]

scares are hella cool! i bet u look badass in the best way possible ps i too have one on my lip (though it's small and almost invisible) hahah

[@mellie5899]

You might enjoy reading "Precious Bane" by Mary Webb. It's an old novel about a woman born with a hare-lip in Shropshire, England in the 1800's. You don't have a hare-lip, of course, but you might relate to her feelings none-the-less. It's been my all-time favorite book since I read it when I was 22 and I'm 62 now. Best love story ever!

[@vanilla5245]

Joaquin Phoenix attractive famous actor. One of the most attractive features he has is a scar. Google photos of him when he was younger. Oh my god, he looks so good with his scar

[@vanilla5245]

People literally tattoo themselves to make it look like they have scars to look cooler

[@spokii.i]

steph. your are STUNNINGLY GORGEOUS my love

[@fionaa2004]

hi!! im a 19 year old girl, and watching your videos really did change my life in a way; i look at the way i looked a year and a half ago and i don’t even recognize myself, i was changing everything i possibly could to fit into the beauty standard mold, since i have began embracing my natural beauty and unique features, i have felt the most beautiful i ever have- and others see it too! you glow with confidence and individuality, it is beautiful- thank you for spreading this message! so many girls need to hear this and wake up, i’m glad i never went through with any of the cosmetic procedures that i had listed in my mind of what (i thought) i needed.

[@XoBabyJoX]

This is so important. We need to talk more about facial confidence. I exercise regularly so I’m reasonably happy with my body, but I worry about my face constantly. Every time I look at social media and see a pretty heart-shaped face, I feel insecure about my huge chin. Thank you for these videos Stephanie ♥️

[@lexapeaches]

I just glanced at your profile pic and you are SO beautiful! Your features balance each other super well ❤

[@Call-me-Al]

Doing face muscle exercises in the mirror, and doing unconventional creative makeup helped me like my face way more. Being able to make a lot of delightfully funny faces and cool art that wouldn't have been as possible with a different face type helps to make you appreciate what you have.

[@camrencamrenim3850]

People are so mean it’s terrible it’s like you have to be fake fake fake

[@killingmesoftly549]

girl you are literally stunning 💛

[@XoBabyJoX]

@@lexapeaches that is so kind of you to say, thank you ♥️ makes me realise we’re far more critical looking at ourselves, compared to what other people see

[@pastelprintshop]

I think you have some good points here. I think authenticity will be more and more looked up to again, especially after the last 20 years where "everybody wants to look the same, be the same, and have the same stuff" etc. Uniqueness will be looked at as more valuable - same as Artificial Intelligence art was fun the first months, but unique handmade art will always be more valuable BECAUSE it is handmade. Also taking back nature in interior designs such as stone and more woods are trendy again, and also I miss phones with these button-keyboard (I'm only 30 but still).

[@serinadelmar6012]

Those comments! So sorry Stephanie, that you had to read that nonsense. I’m glad you know it is nonsense. It’s just crazy, when I first saw you the first thing I thought was how pretty you are, and know many will agree. Plus you’re like a big sister to so many. Thank you for keeping it real. Keep shining! ❤

[@mayar2766]

these videos are so healing 🫶🏽

[@Rana-c3z3h]

I think it’s filled with borderline hate and negativity lol

[@Alexandra-uk4vr]

Sh*tting on other women's appearance (directly, harshly & publicly) to make herself feel better, all whilst pushing the narrative that THIS is somehow supportive or empowering... "Oh no I'm not a pos, guys, I'm totally nice and SOO relatable!". The fact that this isn't one of those young, naive influencers but a 35yo woman promoting this behavior is disappointing, to say the least.

[@jazrerunt6868]

This is so true. I feel like even 20 years ago there were so many different versions of pretty that were all unique; not perfect beauty but interesting and appealing to the human eye. Now there are a lot of stunning celebrities and instagram models but they are not at all unique or interesting to look at

[@rainyraelyn9649]

That poor girl is GORGEOUS are people crazy!! Miss Sween is perfect ❤

[@JessicaSulkowski-h9e]

I cannot fathom anyone calling you unattractive let alone ugly.. this is ridiculous, you're stunning!!!!!!!!! Seriously.

[@goodemily]

My husband and I were just talking about this. We’re both in our mid 40s. We said that all of the actors that are our age that didn’t have surgery, are aging the best. How ironic. It is scary how the surgery girls all look the same. And how young they are when starting. I think a lot of them will have regrets later on. You can’t reverse any it.

[@user-js2cg7xs6c]

Exactlyyy. this is also why not a lot of actors are suitable for period dramas anymore, bc almost everyone in hollywood ends up getting some sort of plastic surgeries and their faces wouldnt even have existed in another century which is just saddening. We should be grateful to look like our anscestors

[@allihirsch]

So true. I have a theory that plastic surgery is temporary, and needs to be maintained in order to continue look good as you age.

[@VisenyaAtoms]

There are now 10 year olds on tiktok talking about their skincare and retinoid creams etc. 😂 this is only going to get worse

[@watchuwant1560]

Idk why parents let their kids post online much less use retinol wtf? That stuff will screw them up later what! And pedos are EVERYWHERE. smh@@VisenyaAtoms

[@thatonegirlhaley]

stephanie i've followed you for quite a long time now and i have never perceived you as ugly, but actually quite the opposite, not just saying that either. its sort of comforting to know you saw yourself that way growing up, because i am the same way and it's affected my relationship with myself as well as men.

[@BatmanFan2.0]

Thank you, Stephanie! I needed this fresh perspective. I inherited the large Asian cheekbones from my mom's side of the family, and the European nose from my dad's. My eyes are also a weird shape because they're half Asian, half European. I've always thought I looked ugly, even when many people have called me beautiful or "model material." I want to be able to embrace my heritage and not be ashamed of my features.

[@nat2206]

I'm also half asian and half European. I always felt like an alien no matter where I went because I looked different from other people. It's hard to embrace who you are when you don't feel like you belong. But like you, I'm starting to come around and cherish that I am mixed and made of multiple cultures.

[@dollyhoneypie]

wasian gang 🤟 what makes you different makes you cool 🫶

[@dubistdumm-qh1ho]

Same but my dad is Asian and my mom is European

[@Sarah-hu4wt]

Ma’am you are single handedly pulling me out of my self-pity pit

[@TheGamer2001]

I agree with what Stephanie said. I am also borderline ugly. But when I style myself accordingly, I am apparently quite interesting (not beautiful, interesting). And being interesting can sometimes work miracles traditional beauty can't. Taking care of your hygiene and wearing what makes you like yourself in the mirror (no matter how cringe or uncomfortable it is) is the key, in my personal opinion.

[@pizzapiepizza]

damn i really needed this, feeling so horrible about myself lately and no matter how much i try to tell myself looks dont matter, its hard to truly believe. this has definitely given me another way of looking at it

[@katherynlynne]

What made me not want plastic surgery anymore is this: I’m in my 20s and I haven’t had kids yet. If I do have kids, they won’t look like me at all if I alter my face

[@Arginne]

Lol your kids won’t necessarily look like you regardless. See genetics. What a weird take. My son just looks like himself.

[@katherynlynne]

@@Arginne they may not look just like me but they could have my nose. They could have my eye shape. They could have my jawline/chin. Who cares if it’s a “weird take” to you. I would be devastated if my kids saw pictures of me with any of their features and found out I got plastic surgery to change them. If my mom did that, as a young girl I would’ve felt like my mom thought those features were “ugly”.

[@Babybunnyxox]

@@Arginneyou’re so delulu

[@MissMikato]

@@katherynlynne Growing up I always wanted to get a nose job because people would constantly pick on me for it (would call me a pig because it’s slightly upturned). My nose shape is such a strong feature genetically that pretty much all the members on that side of my family have it. Now one of my sons has it and people constantly comment how much he looks like me. I’m glad that I’ve never had any plastic surgery done, if I had I wouldn’t have been able to experience that.

[@katherynlynne]

@@MissMikato yesss this is what I meant!! That’s so sweet :’)

[@esmeewalker7786]

Thank you for this video! you hit the nail on the head! You are absolutely correct, it is 100% the unique features on our face that make us beautiful and interesting to look at. And it breaks my heart that social media and influencers have normalised removing these features and making everyone a carbon copy of beauty standards. I also struggle with my face confidence and facial dysmorphia. Sometimes I see myself and feel pretty, but most of the time I think I'm ugly. We need to change our mindset as a society as to what beauty is.

[@AimeeCVaj]

100% agreed. I'd like to add that probably (at least) of of the influencers used filters and/or photoshop their pics. That's misleading and it makes some of us feel inadequate when in fact, we are fine the way we are.

[@rationalskeptic1]

I LOVE what you just said!! “Being pretty is one thing, it’s great, but being unique? THAT IS UNFORGETTABLE!!” Oh my god that is my new self boosting phrase!!! Thank you Stephanie! You are such a doll, I hope you never stop making videos and spreading your well thought out, positive views! You are a much needed deep thinker .. one of a kind in a sea of yukky surface level, shallow people.. THANK YOU 🙏🏽